This is doctor Wendy Walsh and you're listening to KFI AM six forty, the
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iHeartRadio App. Okay, let's talk about our love lives. Okay. I
like to be touched, but only by people that I like. Okay,
So here's the thing. Some people like to be touched a lot. Some
people don't like to be touched very much. This is in general. Some
people like public displays of affection, others do not. Some people like to
be touched in certain ways in certain places. Other people have different places and
different ways. In other words, we're all different when it comes to affection.
However, a new term has cropped up on the TikTok. TikTok,
the social arbiter of our time has come up with yet another phrase, and
this is called the bristle reaction. The bristle re action, I guess somebody
did a video about it and I got one hundred and six million views.
So now one hundred and six million people are thrown around this term. The
bristle reaction to describe flinching or tensing up when your partner unexpectedly hugs or kisses
you. Okay, now I need to be clear. This is not a
psychological term. This is not a psychological diagnosis. If I dug back into
some of the textbooks I read back in the day, we might use psychobabble
like tactile defensiveness, tactile sensitivity, or tactile hyper sensitivity, these kinds of
things. Maybe, just maybe, But the bristle reaction is not a thing.
Okay, it's not a thing. However, there is this idea that
every once in a while you bristle, you feel extrasensitive, you don't like
a touch. Now, I want to be really clear year that it is
always okay to not want to be touched, and you don't always need to
provide a reason to your partner. My favorite saying was written to me in
an email by one of my heroes, Glorious Steynham back of the day.
She was talking about something else. She was talking about sexual harassment, but
she said, everybody's rights stops at our skin. Think about that in the
abortion debate. Everybody's rights stop at my skin. Okay, and so that
also is touched. You don't actually have to give a reason. Now,
let's talk about the people who are more likely to have this so called bristle
reaction, people who are neurodivergent. Right, there are some people who have
all kinds of tactile sensitivity. One time I was chaperoning a field trip in
like the fourth grade, and there was one boy undiagnosed but clearly on the
spectrum. And my job as the parent was to count them when they got
on the bus so that the teacher knew how many she had on that bus.
So as they went along, I tapped each gently on the shoulder,
one, two, three, as I'm counting. As they're going up the
stairs, I watched that kid get closer and closer in the line. I
watched the terror on his face, and I watched him do this crazy deep
dive around my hand so that he would not be touched. And I felt
so bad afterwards. It broke my heart. I should have had the wherewithal
to think, don't even tap a kid on the shoulder. You just don't
know, right. As soft as it was a soft tap, it was
a lovely tap. Okay, So people sometimes who are on the spectrum have
all kinds of physical sensitivities. My own daughter, when she was little,
would scream, it's unconsfortable. It's unconsfortable. So she was two or three
and she would say, and I don't like this fabric. It's terrible.
Also, people who have experienced trauma as children, whether it was physical abuse
or sexual abuse, may have a quite a large startle effect when they don't
expect to get a touch in a certain way. So we have to be
understanding of this. However, if you've been in a relationship with your partner
for some time and all of a sudden you notice yourself getting the so called
bristle effect when they touch you, let's talk about what could be going on
there. I've actually was in a relationship once that was like this. He
was not affectionate at all with me except if you wanted sex. So therefore
I couldn't get a free kiss or a hug unless I was going to quote
unquote go all the way right. And so what happened is I would start
to bristle when he would come with a hug because it felt like pressure,
and I didn't like that pressure. Even though, hey, gentlemen, I
want to say, if you're a single guy listening to this right now,
please know this. If you're on a first or second or third date with
a woman and she chooses to give you some affection hugs and kisses, she
doesn't want to go any further. I mean, she might want to,
but there's a very good chance that this is not an invitation for more.
Women love to just make out and that's it it ends for them at that
point. In fact, there's some research to show that women actually unconsciously get
a lot of information about your genetic fitness through the taste of your salivah.
We actually kiss to check you out. You brush your teeth before you go
on that date. So please know that if a woman is kissing you and
hugging you and cuddling you, it doesn't This is not evidence that she wants
more. Okay, So if you're in a relationship, if it's turned into
pressure, then you've got to have a conversation about it. You've got to
talk about I would like some affection that doesn't lead into something. Also,
if you're just somebody who just bristles, maybe you've had trauma or whatever,
scheduled time for affection scheduled time for skin to skin time and also be more
clear about who's initiating sex when or what. Have a system so that you
don't have this kind of so called burstle effect. By the way, when
we are speaking about touch and affection and kissing and hugging, you know,
there's research on what goes on around the world in people's relationships. A new
research published in the peer review journal Scientific Report, so you know it's a
good one, looked at almost eight thousand people in thirty seven different countries.
They had to be in a relationship in order to participate, and they filled
out a questionnaire where they were asked two things. One how much you'll love
your partner, okay, on a scale of one to ten. How in
love are you? It's a ten for me, Julio. I hope you're
listening. It's a ten. I love you. But they were also shown
pictures. I love the shown pictures of people embracing stroking, stroking not on
genitals, just stroking, kissing, and hugging. Okay, I love that
they showed pictures. And here's why people are confused about any sexual survey or
any affection survey, because if they haven't experienced it, or they call it
by a different name. They might like some people say sex is kissing.
It's a form of sex. It is, I guess, and so they
say, did you have sex with that person? Yes? I did we
kiss? Right? And so when you actually show pictures like did you do
this with your partner in the last week. So they were actually able to
figure out right through a percentage if it's one of the four behaviors twenty five
two of the four fifty percent, three seventy five percent, all four behaviors
embracing stroking, kissing, and hugging, that's one hundred percent. So then
they were able to calculate the average value for all the participants in one country,
and the scientists could come up with which countries are the most affectionate and
which are the least affectionate. I was surprised by this data, and I
will tell you about it when we come back. You are listening to the
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forty. We're live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. Okay, we're talking about
this study, a good research study, more than eight that almost eight thousand
people in thirty seven countries. They asked them to look at pictures of people
embracing, stroking, kissing, and hugging, and they asked them how often
they did those things with their partner in the last week. And they also
asked them how much they loved their partner. And then they were able to
do a country by country analysis basically, who's the most lovey dovey, who
kisses the most, who hugs the most? Well, the number one country,
No, I'm going to save the one to the last. How about
United States comes in number four? Folks, that's pretty good. Actually,
we hugging even in non sexual ways, in business, hug before meetings,
whatever, huggers. COVID was hard on a lot of Americans because they couldn't
hug right now, we have to ask consent. Remember we had a guest
in the studio a couple of weeks ago and she goes, can I take
a picture for Instagram? And I go, yes, are you comfortable?
If I put my hand on your shoulder, like you gotta ask, the
conversations have completely changed changed. You gotta right, okay. Number three coming
in number three was Kuba. Of course those they're dancing, Latin people who
love each other. Of course they're hugging and kissing. Number two shocked the
heck out of me. The country in the world who comes in second for
the most amount of kissing and hugging Germany. Germany, I always thought that
be like cold kind of no. Okay, and their neighbor right next door
comes in number one. Austria. Oh, Arnold Schwarzenegger. Isn't he from
Austria? He hugged Maria Shriver and then he hugged that housekeeper too much.
Oh, it's the whole thing. Okay, it happens, Okay. The
least affectionate countries number one China, Oh, Chinese people, you need to
hug more. The Netherlands and Ukraine. Oh, I just want to go
over and give them all a hug now they're in a war. Researchers also
found there was a clear association between how much people said they loved their person
and how much they touched their PERSONA da da da I always hug Julio every
day, at least five times a day. And also we hold hands whenever
we walk. We don't even think about it. We realize we've just switched
our coffee to the other hand and we're holding hands. It's just something we
do unconsciously because we like the touch. That's what I will say. All
right, if you're in a new relationship, or if you're in the dating
world, you may have a list of deal breakers. I want to say
very clearly that deal breakers are important and you do need a list because that
list shows that you have boundaries. Right. However, I have noticed with
people who ask me to help them make their dating profile or whatever, that
they have too many deal breakers, and deal breakers are so unfair to the
individuals out there. They're really unfair expectations. They're asking too much of people,
right. Are we asking for them to put us on a pedestal or
bow down to us? Are we asking them to be this perfect person?
I want to say this, you have a one hundred percent chance in your
life of never meeting a perfect person. They don't exist. In fact,
I think when we go out on a first date. I did this with
Julio actually, instead of saying I told him, Instead of saying how perfect
we are and trying to sell each other to each other, why don't we
talk about the one reason why we are undateable? And we told each other
secrets like think we're a bit embarrassed about on the very first coffee date,
and therefore we started to develop intimacy from the beginning. But I often say
that people should go on first dates and kind of be like, all right,
let me try to figure out what this person's craziness is and see if
I get live with it, Because that's really what a healthy relationship is,
knowing somebody doesn't match your perfect desires, your idea of a perfect person,
and still knowing you can love them. Right. So, things that I
used to put on my deal breaker list were a history of domestic violence,
Like that's a good thing to have on your list, right. One time
I was out at a bar and I met Mike Tyson and he asked for
my phone number years ago. I was young and hot, and I was
like, m no, that's like well documented fighting. He gets paid to
fight. He bit somebody's ear off, there was a rape thing he served
tut no, no, no, no, No, it's not like people
can't change, and I think Mike Tyson probably has changed. I just want
to say that when we are under great stress, and at no other time
in our lives will be under greater stress than when we're in a fight,
in a relation, in an intimate relationship, the tools that become available to
people are often the weapons of their childhood. If they were Oh that's the
other thing. If they suffered severe childhood abuse and they haven't done the healing
work, they're still in a victim place or a blaming the world place.
That's a deal breaker for me. And then on the light side, I
don't like people who don't tip well. When I'm on a first date.
My little eye goes over when they're citing the checket. I try to see
if they tipped well or not, because it's a big indicator. Listen,
I happen to be a landlady. I know the laws very well. And
also even if the laws weren't there, I would never discriminate against things like
gender or sexual orientation or racer at religion or ethnicity like do right. But
the one thing I can discriminate against is credit rating, because your credit rating
doesn't say, if you're rich or poor necessarily, but what it does is
it shows that you have mental health, that you have the psychological ability to
take on risk, and you have the ability to be a good person,
plan execute know that your rent is due, do it right well. I
also think that when they tip well in a first date, they're trying to
show that they care about the people no working people out there. Plus,
I was a waitress for a lot of years, and I always feel that
those twenty percent tippers make up for all the five percent or the ten percent
or the no tippers. Right while we're on the topic of tipping, because
I digress, but I do have to say this. I was happy that
Starbucks finally added a thing where you can now if you're paying by credit card
or the app, you can add a tip, which is fine. Lowest
amount of tip is one dollar, by the way, so you can't add
fifty cents. But now I notice every single fast food takeout where you're not
actually getting service, they're asking you to pay for service. That thing comes
up all the time when you put your credit card in the little machine,
how much would you like to tap? And some of them start at eighteen
percent. Wait a place where there's no service. Why do I sound like
John and Ken complaining right now? But it's like, there's a place there,
I'm not getting any service. I'm standing at the counter. You're giving
me my food in a paper cup, and I'm carrying it to my table.
So what am I paying for? And does it start at eighteen?
Then they have twenty twenty five percent? Okay, well you generous people that
hit the twenty five percent button. I love you. I would like to
date you, except to have a Julio you'd have to fight him, all
right, So deal breakers? Do you have a particular deal breaker? Caleb.
I don't trust people that don't have any friends or family. That's another
one, the lone wolves. Yeah, yeah, they need to have social
support. So guys, if you want to impress women, just go out
and get some friends. Do group dates. I like long term friends personally,
Like you can't have all friends that you just met a week ago.
I don't trust you. That's also an issue. Or too many friends,
too many best friends. I don't know. I want to dated this guy
and we had a bunch of dates and he was really great, and we
started sleeping together. You know, cocooning, but hadn't met any of his
friends. So then we started taking our relationship out into the real world and
he invited me to some bar where he knew some friends were going to be
in another social function, and I noticed his friends treated him bad and I
was like, oh, he's not well liked. Yeah, it was a
big red flag. So anyway, all I want to say about deal breakers
is this, have a small list, don't make it too long, Please,
don't make it too superficial. And ladies, I just have to add
this, if male height and hair is top of your list, you're being
superficial. That's like a guy saying she has to have big breasts, okay,
and we don't like it when they say that, So why would you
do that to them? There are so many amazing men who are height challenged,
who maybe losing their hair. Julio has no hair anymore. He showed
me a picture of him with hair when he was young, and I was
like, ooh, I don't think I would have liked you then, but
please open up your eyes. Respond to these guys on those dating apps.
Please. I need to make out a plea for them, because they're such
great guys and they will make great boyfriends and husbands. Okay, when we
come back, I am going to be going to social media to answer some
of your questions. If you would like to send me a question and just
send me a DM on Instagram or TikTok and the handle is at doctor Wendy
Walsh at Dr Wendy Walsh. My drive by Makeshift Relationship Advice is coming up
next. You're listening to the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show and k I I am
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iHeartRadio app. Well, this is the time of the show where I give
you some of my Auntie wisdom, my drive by makeshift relationship advice. Just
a reminder, I am not a therapist. I'm a psychology professor, but
I have been obsessed with the science of love for a few decades. I've
written three books on relationships, The Boyfriend Test, The Girlfriend Test, and
The Thirty Day Love d talks, and I wrote my dissertation on attachment theory.
And I've had a lot of experience with relationships in my life because I
had to learn the hard way. I had to overcome some of my early
childhood trauma. I had to overcome some of my attachment anxiety to finally find
a secure relationship. So I have learned experientially. All right, let us
go to social media. If you'd like to send in a question, just
follow me on social media. The handle is at doctor Wendy Walsh at Dr
Wendy Walsh. All right, dear doctor Wendy, How can I tell if
I'm being verbally abused? I don't think my boyfriend knows the power of his
words. He always calls me kayle am. I allowed to say this on
air. Maybe we should just say dumb. Dumb another word for donkey,
Another word for donkey that starts with the letter A dumb. The kids are
in the backseat going, what do you mean, mom? What do you
mean? Anyway, he calls me this a dumb whatever, and he says
it in a light, joking matter. It's just how he talks. But
I think it's name calling and it's starting to have an effect on me.
How interesting the question is? Am I being verbally abused? I want to
say that people who have a kind of an insecure attachment style or less self
esteem often ask questions like that, is this normal? Is this right?
Is this happening? Where's my boundary? What's okay? What's not? And
a lot of my job as an old auntie here is to say now,
that's not okay, right? And I would say that about this too.
And I want to remind everybody if you have any friends, family lovers who
make all those jokes, those sarcastic jokes or saying things, and then try
to erase it by saying, how's this joking? Just kidding? No,
no, no, there is a little bit of truth behind every single joke.
Plenty of cruel people use humor as a way to hurt others. So
verbal fully abused sure sounds like a big diagnosis. I don't want to say
that. Why don't I just say that your boyfriend's behavior should be unacceptable to
you and you should be able to say to him, I don't like it
when you make those jokes, and I don't like it when you call this,
call me this. I'm gonna tell you a story. So when I
was twenty, I had a big white Catholic wedding for my mother. I
was living with my college boyfriend, and she stopped talking to me, and
it was manipulative. It was wrong anyway, poor guy. I stuck it
out for three years as his wife. During that time, he had a
little nickname for me, which was pinhead, and whenever I would do something
human a mistake, he got, oh, you're such a pinhead. Is
such a pinhead, and that stuck. He said it over and over and
over. I ended up leaving that relationship so resentful and actually wanting to prove
to the world that I was smart, because somehow he liked to take advantage
of normal young people's mistakes and ridicule me because of it. To this day,
I'm going to track him down. I'm gonna find I'm gonna tell him
I didn't like three years of being called a pinhead. So there you go.
If he's calling you a dumb donkey, it's not okay, and you
need to tell him. But I didn't have the words at the time.
I didn't have doctor Wendy to call into and say, how do I get
him to stop calling me a pinhead. Now I'd be like, dude,
don't call me that. All right, let's move on. Dear doctor Wendy.
Oh oh, I'm sorry. I think my relationship is failing. I'm
feeling lonely all the time. I can't tell if we're in a low or
it's over. We've been together for five years. He used to be my
best friend, but now we barely talk. I don't even know what happened
to cause this shift. What do I do? Well, I'm going to
tell you a story about Julio and I. We actually, as we speak,
are going through a little bit of a funk. Now, it has
nothing to do with our relationship. Actually, it has to do with the
fact that both of us have set its stressors in our life, and therefore,
because we're busy attending to our own personal stress ors, we're not able
to be the supportive partner to each other. And how I noticed this.
The lucky thing for Julio is that he's in a relationship with doctor Wendy Walsh.
What can I say? And so I noticed a last night we were
out for sushi and I was saying a few things, and no matter what
I said, he came back with something negative, and I thought, oh,
was that interesting, And he even said sort of things to raise my
fears. Well, you know, should be careful. I'm like, that's
interesting. Usually he's my champion and my cheerleader. This is very weird.
So instead of getting into it with him, I stepped back from the whole
situation and looked at it and thought about it. Oh my god, he's
going through his stuff and I'm not being so supportive and he's not being so
supportive. So I stopped everything and I said, wait a minute. I
noticed something. You're being a little bit stappy. You're being snappy, and
I'm being sensitive. I did it in that cute little voice too, and
he's like, no, not, I'm just making the point. You know
how they do, that's what they do. No, no, No,
you're being a little snappy and I've been a little sensitive. I just want
to tell you then, I love you and I support you, and I'm
here for you, and this thing that you're going through is going to pass.
And then he said and I love you and I support you, and
this thing you're going through is going to pass. And then everything was coomed
by a again. All right, My point is This should be a model
for you in your relationship. No, your relationship is not over. It's
in a valley. It's been five years. You guys forgot to reach out
to each other and exchange care emotionally when you need it. So what do
you do? Talk to him about it? Say hey, I noticed we're
getting a little distant and I miss you as my best friend. And if
they're not responding and don't want to participate and don't want to have emotional intimacy,
then you need to get a marriage and family therapist to work with it.
So, no, it's not over. But I'm sorry you're feeling lonely
in your relationship. It's not a good feeling. All right, Do you
have time for one more Caleb before we go to break? Now, that's
gonna break. I'm gonna bring I'm going oh okay, Oh somebody, I'll
just tell you what's coming up. Somebody had a bunch of backstabbers in her
life. Somebody else is dating a recovering alcoholic, and someone else says is
asking me if love is enough? Oh, let us talk about this when
we come back. You are listening to the Doctor Wendy Walls Show on kf
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slash doctor Wendy Walsh. Okay, let me get to your dms and give
you my drive by makeshift relationship advice. Dear doctor Wendy, I have had
a rough childhood. I'm sorry so many people have I've been stabbed in the
back by people I really trusted. Hopefully that's a metaphor. It has caused
me to have trust issues. I'm now in my late thirties and I find
myself alone. I have no friends or love, and I'm so guarded.
How do I heal? Okay, this is probably the best example of somebody
who needs to reach out to a licensed therapist because in therapy you can heal
and work through the issues of your you call it a rough childhood, whatever
trauma happen to you. But also you can practice relationship skills. Your therapist
will teach you emotional language for words, you will find way to grow.
I mean, I can't tell you I've been in and out of therapy for
eighteen years. It has been the best money I ever spent in my life.
I literally carry my therapist voice in my head when I'm in all kinds
of situations. I'm like, oh, would she say I should do here?
Right? And she helped me process my feeling so well that I process
them on my own. Now when bad stuff happens, I'm like, I
hear her voice going, you know this is just this time or it sounds
like you're feeling threatened, but I don't think there's that much of a threat
here. It probably has to do with your childhood, right. It helps
you separate things, So please please please reach out to a licensed therapist.
You can start with your family physician for a referral. Call your insurance company
see what they cover. If you don't have much money to cover the costs
of private stuff, reach out to any university that has a graduate program at
a counseling center because they always have PhD. I mean, people finish their
PhD who are earning their hours toward licensure and their supervised so you get two
eyes of people on your case. So please reach out and give yourself this
gift. Dear doctor, Wendy writes this person, I'm dating a former alcoholic.
He's six months clean and I'm so proud of him, but I just
feel like I have replaced alcohol. He now seems addicted to me. Oh
he wants me around twenty four seven and wants me to text with him and
call him all day long. Oh oh, I want to distance myself,
but I don't want him to relapse. Okay, if you want to keep
relationship with this person. You need to go to Alanon seriously because you'll become
an enabler. You've already just saying that sentence like I want to distance myself,
but I don't want him to relapse, means that you are now taking
responsibility for his drinking behavior. Right, His drinking behavior and his recovery is
for him to deal with. Okay, it's not your job to heal him,
not your job to do anything. But also, you know, in
alcoholics anonymous, they tell them not to have a romantic relationship or at least
until after a year of sobriety, because it takes that long to really heal.
So there is a good chance that as you're reporting, he's becoming addicted
to you now, right, So I really really really encourage you to please
go to Alanon, talk to him about this. Set your own boundaries.
Your job should be to think about yourself and your needs and to set up
your boundaries. And yeah, not be thinking of it. You're not responsible
for his drinking or not not your job, all right, Dear doctor Wendy,
is love enough? Oh? What a big question. I've been with
my partner for thirteen years. We're growing further and further apart. What is
happening with everybody falling further apart? Is love enough to hold it together?
Oh, let's talk about what love is. So at the beginning of a
relationship, love is a cocktail of neural hormones that create lust, that make
you want to be with the person all the time, be drawn to them.
After love starts to evolve into an intellectual kind of commitment love, you
do a cost benefit analysis and you say, here they're good points, here
they're bad points. I can live with this. I can't live with this.
It's a I can make it. This is going to be fine.
I am making a decision. Love is a decision to make a commitment to
somebody. So it starts out with an illusion, a wonderful, delicious delusion,
those neural hormones of lust and attraction, and then it goes into intellectual
commitment, and then it goes into the daily work of love. It doesn't
go on autopilot. This idea that because you loved someone, once you've made
a commitment to them, that everything will be hunky dory and you don't have
to do any more work is crazy. Love is about work, but it's
joyful work. It's about showing gratitude to your lover. It's about giving affection
to your lover. It's about expressing to your lover what your needs are.
It's about talking about your future goals together that may change all the time as
you grow as individuals. This is the work of intimacy. This is the
work of love. Love isn't a feeling that's just going to carry you along.
Love is about seeing that person as an individual and understanding them and watching
them grow, and also showing your partner who you are and who you've become,
and continuing to invest in the relationship. Giving an investment of time,
giving an investment of care, giving an investment of affection, giving an investment
maybe financially. Giving an investment into your relationship is what helps love last.
It doesn't happen on its own. I'll tell you this. I've spent oh
gosh, three decades and i continue to read about the science of love,
and I'm always amazed because new generation of lovers are coming on board every year.
How people understand so little about this. They think of love as a
mystery, They think of love as a magical spell. Love can actually be
broken down into a very clear, hard science. And it doesn't mean People
say to me, well, since you know so much about love, does
that mean you don't feel it. No, I feel it too, but
I also watch it. I go, Oh, that's what this is.
This is just a feeling of lust and attraction. Oh, this is that
delusion where I think the person's perfect. Oh, this is where I feel
like all is lost because I realize they're not perfect. Oh, this is
me making a commitment to love, just like the textbooks say. This is
me Rick recognizing that we're in a little valley right now, so I've got
to invest more in the relationship at this time. You see, I feel
it and I do it, but I also watch it and I do it
for you two. It is my honor to weigh in on your love lives
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