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Love is definitely work. Being in a relationship, being in love,
it is definitely work, but it should not be hard work. When you
find that it is hard work, then maybe you need to reassess yourself and
your relationship. Too. Many of you are allowing yourselves to be in these
unhealthy relationships thinking that's the way love goes. It is not. It is
not. And the reason I say love is work, being in love is
work is because any relationship, any good, healthy, wholesome relationship, it
requires work. You must do the work in order for your relationship to grow.
If you don't, it's gonna die. It's going to die. There
are plants that require very little water, very little sun, and they will
still thrive. But they gotta get some. They have to have some.
So what I'm saying, I use that as a metaphor to say our relationships
are no different. You must cultivate your relationship so it can grow, so
it can flourish, so your relationship bond can grow stronger and stronger. That
takes work. Some of you don't understand that. Some of you you get
into relationships the wrong way with the wrong people and think you're gonna have a
great relationship. You have all of this negativity around you all the time,
and you think you're gonna have a good relationship. The person you're with is
as negative as you are. You think your relationship is going to work.
You think it's gonna be easy. No, that's when it's so very hard.
When you're in those relationships where you're unequally yoked. And don't get me
wrong now, sometimes those relationships can flip around and become relationships that are equally
yoke. Because us people can change. But some of you are waiting around
for people to change. It is never going to happen. That's why you
shouldn't look for them to change you. You need to change within yourself.
Some of you take so much unnecessary crap from the person who's supposed to love
you. The person that loves you or claims to love you is the one
who will hurt you the most. You know why, because you have taught
them how they can treat you. You gave them that ammunition to hurt you.
You did. Some of you are trying your daringness to love someone who
don't love you, trying to be with someone who don't want you. Some
of you literally basically forced the other person into the relationship. Well, everyone
else's married, we've been together five years. You know, we have children
together, our parents, you know they want us to get married. Look
at all our friends. Whatever the situation may be, or the excuse.
So you feel pressured and you get into it knowing that's not what you want
to be in or it's not who you want to be with, but you
do it because you think it's the thing to do, only to realize through
just constant drama, that you made the wrong decision. I will tell anyone
in this whole entire world, if you don't love and love with the person
you're with, if you don't love them and are in love with them,
you're gonna have a hard time. Take my word for it. You're going
to have a lot of unnecessary obstacles in your way. Because see what people
do is they take on all of the negativity that other person is bringing into
the relationship. Plus you're dealing with your own personal inner negativity. It's a
train wreck. That's why people think love and being in relationships is so hard,
because you're picking the people who are making it hard. For you because
you're making it hard for yourself. That's the problem. That's the problem.
You are picking relationships in the individuals for the wrong reasons. They look good,
So what they have money, they have a particular title or position or
status, You think that's it. That's nothing. When it comes to what
it takes to keep a relationship together, that's nothing. When it comes to
what it takes to really really experience true love, most people have never experienced
it. Most people haven't experienced it. Some people think they are in relationships
and it's real, it's true love, and they can't even see how they're
being dominated and controlled. They cannot see, as a woman, how she
is mistreating her husband, how she is leading the pack. But he can't
see it because to him, it's all good because he's getting what he wants,
so he can't see how dominating and controlling and degrading she is to him,
and vice versa. Because people want what they want, so they ignore
all the other things that comes and really slap him in the face later,
because, let me tell you, people will get tired. It may take
years and years and years and years, but one day he's gonna get tired.
One day she's gonna get tired and their eyes will open to reality and
they don't want to be with you anymore. People can't handle that. That's
why it's important to be able to see the truth in your faith, not
realizing down the road that you've lost your soul, that you have no sense
of self, that you feel horrible about yourself because of the person that you're
with. They treat you like crap, so you feel like you're not worthy.
They don't love you, so you feel like you're not worthy when you
didn't think you were worthy before that. But you just forgot. You forgot
about that because you've taken on all of his or her issues, you forgot
about your own. I've mentioned this several times. I've done a podcast about
trying to love the hell out of someone only to find yourself in it.
Most people are in hell in their relationships in their own homes because they chose
the hard route. They chose the hard road to love because people would rather
have some man or some woman than no man or no woman at all.
And honestly, that is what most people in the world are dealing with.
Most people are in one side of relationships. I will guarantee you any amount
of money. Most people in the world, and I know there are millions
and millions and millions of people in the world, billions, Most are in
one side of relationships without a doubt because people will settle in a heart beat.
Most people don't even know self. They don't They allow and accept any
and everything in the name of love. They go along with things, they
create these monsters. That's why people treat you the way they do, because
you have allowed them to. You taught them exactly how they could treat you,
and that's how they treat you. You're miserable, you're unhappy, but
you're still going alone because inside of your brain you still holding on to the
thought that here or she will change. Sometimes they never do. Never do.
I know people who have been together so long the significant other passed away
and they went through all of those years unloved by their significant other. I
know, seriously. I know people who've been together in their thirty and forty
year time frames and their significant other past, and they are miserable because they've
never learned how to live because they gave everything they had to that other person
who sucked the life out of them, literally choked the life out of them,
and now that person is dead and gone, and they still don't know
how to live because they're so caught up in that mindset that they've always had
and they don't know how to live. They were unhappy and miserable with that
person, and that person is dead and gone, and they're still unhappy and
miserable. Now they're pining over the dead person that they never wanted to be
with anymore, or the or the dead person didn't want to be with them,
So they're pining over that person when it was all bad. Tell me
something is not wrong with that individual. You have not healed from whatever you
went through. You are holding on to all of that negativity and the negativity
that significant other bought into your life or brought into your life. I should
say brought, not brought into your life, but you bought into it.
Because people think it's the way they're supposed to love. They think it is
love, all of the negativity, all of the pain. People really think
it's love. That is not love. Like I said, love is hard
work when you are loving the wrong person, because love is work, but
it should not be hard work. You have individuals who get together, Oh
they'll climb high mountains, swim the most dangerous ocean to get you because it's
all a show, it's all fake. Then they get you, mind you
they're seeking something. They have an agenda, it's always an agenda, and
they get you and who they really are. All of it comes out.
They showed you a little bit here and there, but all of it comes
out, and you realize they never wanted you in the first place. They
wanted what you had. They want something that you have going on. They
don't want you per se, but they will be with you as long as
they're getting what they want from you. I mean, there's all kind of
schemes and just things that people subject themselves to unnecessarily in the name of what
they think is loved. People get together. I mean, you had all
of this going on prior to getting together. You get together, Boom,
it all stops. It's the same way with some people getting married. They
get married, Boom, all the courtship, all the smiles, the fun,
the laughter gone. Some women cook, cook, no longer cook,
some of them never cook, but you expect them to cook. Now.
I believe both individuals should help out and always. But the point I'm trying
to make is a lot of people were doing things to get the person,
got the person, and everything stopped. Some of you intimacy every second,
every chance you get get married, boom that stops. I mean, you
have to be willing to see the truth because if you don't, you're gonna
find yourself in a very unhappy place. Because real love takes work, but
it shouldn't be hard work. That's a fact. Anybody want to challenge me
on it, please do so, because we're gonna break it all the way
down. You wanna challenge me on it, please do so. Because tell
me anywhere what abuse, disrespect, taking for granted, degrading, lying,
cheating, stealing, doing all of this stuff to your significant other? Tell
me where's the love in that? When you love someone, to include yourself
most of all, you're not trying to do no hurt or harm. You
want peace. But when it's with someone who have the same mindset of that
you have, or worse, hard work because you're trying to make something work
that should have never been. And I mean, receive it or not,
it's on you receive it or not. But I know what I'm saying is
true. I know what I'm saying is true. You have to love yourself
first. You must. You must know yourself, love yourself, under stand
yourself first, because it's gonna open your eyes to what you need to see.
You'll understand, oh my gosh, he's fine. You will understand that.
You'll see that. But it won't mean anything when it comes to keeping
a relationship together, because you will understand it takes more than that, way
more I hear it's about the storm out there. You understand. It takes
way more than good looks. It takes more than what their title is.
It takes more than their possessions, what they have. It takes more than
their success. It takes way more than that for a relationship to flourish and
grow. You'll never grow if you don't work on it. So that's why
I say it takes work. You have to put in the time for quality
time. You have to put in the time for communication. That should be
daily. You should have time for your significant other every single day. You
must put in that time. You must put in time to enjoy one another,
doing things for one another, courting one another, romancing that should never
end, never ever, for most it ends. And that's why people have
all types of problems. They don't communicate, they don't trust one another.
It's just so many things. People set themselves up to fail in their relationships
from the start. That's all I'm gonna say. I'm leaving it right there.
I hope you ponder over what I'm saying. Thank you for listening.
Much love to each and every one of you. I hope you're all doing
well. You, your family, your friends, and all of your loved
ones. I hope everyone is doing well again. Much love to you.
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