I'm sorry. What's up? Positive bitches? How are we doing today?
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are not so we can fully embody and step into exact exactly who we incarnated
to be. Today's podcast, we are talking about how to master the art
of being unbothered. And let me just tell you, when you master the
art of being unbothered, your enemies for enemies, haters become very, very
very bothered. It's a funny little game I like to play called I win
every single time because I placed myself on my own pedestal I have. I'm
not kidding you, mastered the art of being unbothered and I cannot gate keep
any longer, which is why we are talking about this art today, because
let me just tell you, baby girl, it is an art. It
is an art to master. But once you master this art, no one
will have control over you. No one will be able to try to manipulate
you because you have already mastered the art of being unbothered. I'm going to
take you through five steps of different techniques you can anchor in actionable steps you
can take today, tomorrow, and every day for the rest of your life.
I'm going to give you five steps that will have you on your pedestal
mastering the art of being unbothered. You're going to be the Monet, the
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let's get into today's episode because I have some tea to spill on how
to live unbothered. Let's get into it. I'm gonna give you five steps
now. I even tested out these steps this weekend because I was with a
very special person who in the past has really gotten on my nerves and I
just don't have any more nerves to give out, so instead I applied these
five steps. How can we live unbothered? I under stand there are coworkers,
there's family members. There are people that, whether we like it or
not, we're gonna have to be around them. And if we cannot change
them, well we have to change ourselves. Because let's think about it,
what do we really have control over? Do we have control over the chads
and the brads of the world, or do we have control over ourself.
I don't know about you, but I much rather try to control myself than
the chads and the brads of the world. We can lead a horse to
water, but we can't make it drink. However, we can inspire people
to bother us less. And that's what we're going to talk about. Today
how to change ourselves and inspire simultaneously people to get the fuck out of our
way. It is truly and our truly a magic. So the first step
we need to understand to become unbothered, to live unbothered. Oh by the
way, if you're more interested in watching this podcast rather than listening, I've
been putting out all the videos full content on YouTube, so who can check
it out there? All the links are in the bio. Okay. The
first step of living unbothered is to simply understand a law we have talked about
before, but the law of rhythm. We've talked about the law of rhythm
before. But in case you've never heard this podcast, or you need a
refresher, or you're just thinking, CC, what are you talking about?
The law rhythm basically states that everything has its cycles. Things are cyclical.
We have seasons, just like nature does. Let me ask you what would
allow you to feel less bothered trying to pause summer and fast forward winter,
slow down fall and skip spring. Or would it be less bothersome to just
live within each season and allow them to fold. For you, a lot
of us, feeling bothered is simply as trying to pause and change cycles that
are naturally trying to unfold in our life. A big reason we're so fucking
bothered has nothing to do with what other people are doing, but it has
everything to do with what we're trying to control. Your new life, your
new identity, the new energy, it's gonna cost you the old one.
It's gonna cost you your controlling behavior. Now you're listening to a capricorn right
now. So if you think I don't know how annoying it can be to
reel in the controlling nature, I understand. I understand, But I've been
on both sides. And let me just tell you right now, right here,
trying to control the seasons the cycles of your life is going to cause
you to be bothered a lot of the time. It's going to cause you
to be a lot more bothered than you would be if you allowed what needs
to come in in and allow what needs to leave to leave. If it's
fragile, let it fucking break, and if it wants to be in your
life, let it come in. When we instead of trying to control the
seasons the cycles that people, we just allow them to be we're a lot
less bothered. We're a lot less bothered. Now, there's a fine line
between doing nothing and trying to control every single thing in your life. I'm
not saying sit back hope that the good things fall from the sky. I'm
not saying that show up for yourself, put yourself on the pedestal, do
the necessary work you need to do. There is a jao, a middle
way that comes in between of doing absolutely nothing and controlling absolutely everything. You
know what I'm talking about. Let's go there, Let's go there. I'm
not saying sit on a little tush and watch the housewives every single day and
do absolutely nothing. No, but I'm also saying, do not try to
control every single thing. Find the middle way where you're showing up for yourself.
You're doing things that are healthy for you. You're having fun, you're
living life. You're allowing what wants to come in, and you're allowing what
wants to leave leave. You're doing the work. There's a middle way.
Let's go there, Let's go there. And I also think it's important to
say, you know, sometimes I miss relationships that were unhealthy for me.
But I miss the people. I miss the fun I used to have with
them. They're not necessarily the best people for me. So it's okay that
I miss them, but it's not necessarily okay for me to let them back
in my life because I think a lot of us will think back to older
cycles and will think I miss them so much that must mean that they should
cycle back into my life. That doesn't always mean that you can miss someone.
Hell, you can love someone and know they shouldn't be in your life.
That's just a little reminder for us who want to control cycles and think
that missing someone is a good enough excuse for them to come back into our
life. Okay, here me want to say that, Okay, missing someone
is not a good enough reason for them to come back into your life.
It's okay to miss older seasons, it's okay to miss older cycles. It's
okay to look at them, but that's not a good enough reason to bring
that person, or that cycle or that behavior back into our life once again.
So, yes, our new life is going to cost us our old
one. Our new energy is going to cost us our older behaviors. The
first step of living unbothered is letting up some of that control. Is letting
the seasons unfold for you, rather than you trying to unfold every single season.
I just feel that also totally takes out the element of surprise. How
boring is it to control fucking everything? How stressful, how bothersome. There's
no better feeling than going to the airport with your boyfriend and having him do
absolutely everything. I've never felt a better feeling in my life. It's like
I get to just exist and show up and my BF does it all.
I love traveling with my partner because literally I don't have to do anything but
show up. Imagine that, but showing up like that every single day for
your own life. Imagine that. I love being a princess passenger where I
don't have to drive, I get to just chill. I get to pick
the podcast, I get to pick the song. Imagine that. But you
get to do that every single day of your life. Baby girl, you
can just show up without controlling everything. And I'm like smashing this table because
I want you to hear me all the way in the back. You're allowed
to be the passenger princess for your own life, where you get to pick
the songs and pick the podcast, and you get to have a little snack
and do what you wanna do without having to control everything. And it feels
oh so much better. Can I get an amen? Amen? Period?
You can show up without trying to control everything, And I know it takes
practice. It takes practice not controlling everything, but you can do it.
It's possible. It doesn't even have to be easy. All it needs to
be is possible and doable, and yes it is. Okay. So the
first step of living unbothered is to stop bothering yourself with trying to fucking control
everything. Because let me just tell you right now, right here, I
tried so hard to keep start people in my life. I fought for our
relationship. I put them on a pedestal, I begged them to love me,
and what happened? They left. Anyway, There's nothing you can do
to make someone stay in your life, okay, especially when they're meant to
leave. There's nothing you can do. There's no highest of high pedestals you
can put someone else on to make them stay. Loosen up on the reins,
because all you're doing is causing your self discomfort. If they're gonna leave,
they're gonna leave, and there's nothing you can do about it. That
is just truth right there. If they're meant to cycle out, they're gonna
cycle out. Let them go, because you can really really make yourself tired,
really really bother yourself trying to get them to stay in. But they're
gonna go anyway. Why because someone better is coming in, or maybe they
need to do some work on themselves and they'll come back later. That happened
to me. Me and my partner had to go separate ways. I begged,
I cried, I pleaded with him to stay. It didn't matter,
because fighting against water doesn't do anything. If it's meant to cycle out,
it's going to cycle out. And ultimately, when I just let the water
flow, he came back into my life and then we started dating again.
It doesn't mean you're never going to be with this person or they will never
come back. It means for this current season you need to refocus, and
trying to connect all the dots is such a fucking headache. Forget about that.
Just try to focus on what's in front of you right now, right
here. There's no amount of crying, begging, pleading you can do to
fight against this season that's on its way out. Hear me when I say
there's no amount of fighting, pleading, begging you can do to a season,
to a person that's cycling its way out of your life. Let it
go because something better is trying to come in and you're getting in your own
fucking way, So stop it. I love you positive bit, just so
much. Okay. Step two, how do we become unbothered? We just
get really fucking hot. Now, let's talk about what this actually means.
I do literally mean we get really fucking hot. When I hated my body
and hated myself and hated my whole entire mental way of thinking about things,
my mentality, my psychological way of being, when I felt ugly on the
inside and the outside, I was bothered by everything, I would be really
triggered, really easily. So how do we become unbothered? Step two?
We get hot mentally, energetically, psychologically, and yeah, physically. I
care a lot less what people have to say to me now because I actually
like the way I look, I actually like the way I think, I
actually like the way I behave. I actually like the con tent I put
out. Think about it like this, if you were making a video on
TikTok and you were not proud of it, and you were embarrassed of it,
and someone put a mean comment on it, You're gonna feel that a
lot deeper than if you made a video you loved so much. That's just
how the cookie crumbles. When you show up and you're proud of the work
you've been putting into your mind, into your body, into your craft,
you care less what other people have to say. When do we value other
people's opinion the most when we're the most miserable and need outside sources of validation.
But when you're validating yourself, you don't need to hear everyone else's opinion.
And that's coming from someone who used to have highly codependent tendencies to someone
who's now very confident in themselves. So how do we become unbothered? Start
taking care of yourself more rather than taking care of all these other people who
probably don't even deserve it. Do the self care, invest in this skincare,
the cream, whatever it may be. You have one body, You
have one body, Okay, invest in this body. Take a walk,
do yoga, get a hula hoop, do a stretch, go for a
run, pick up a weight. The hotter you become emotionally, mentally,
physically, spiritually, the less you care about what other people have to say
because you feel good in your own skin. But when you're walking around and
you feel like an ugly little duckling inside and outside, doesn't really matter.
You're gonna care what other people have to say. Becoming hot also means finding
something that you love, because you become really hot when you're plugged in and
tuned in and turned onto something that you're really passionate about. It doesn't matter
what someone actually looks like. When you see someone really passionate about what they're
doing, they're just hotter. That's just the way it is, because you
see them turned on, you see their energy plugged in. If you want
to become hot, find something that you love to do and start doing it,
and honestly put a mirror up or record yourself doing the thing you love,
and you're gonna be like, WHOA, I look really good. I
look really tuned in, turned on, plugged in, And that's attracted to
people because when you're doing something you love, you put yourself on the pedestal
and it's you and you, and that makes you magnetic. You're not seeking
anything outside of yourself because you are solely focused in on the present moment.
So becoming hot doesn't just mean physically, and it doesn't just mean doing something
you love. It's doing all of the things. When I lost all those
friendships years ago, I lost like seven or six friends at once, whatever
it may be. And I don't even like to say I lost. Really
I let go of friendships that were cycling out, and I allowed in a
bunch of blessings. When I went through that cycle of transition, I focused
so much more of my attention on working out, on making TikTok videos,
something I love to do, on really getting interested in health. And yeah,
of course I became hot or mentally, physically, emotionally, all of
that jazz because I had more time to focus on me rather than just sitting
on the couch with those friends and eating chips and eating gluten which would upset
my tummy and give me eggzema on my elbows. I was taking care of
myself. I'm telling you, when you level up mentally, spiritually and physically,
you care less what other people have to say about you. Now,
don't just level up physically, and don't just up mentally. Pair them together,
because really, if you want to really become hot, becoming hot is
a triple threat to me because it's not just physical, it's emotional and spiritual.
When you do that, oh girl, you are on. You're in
a whole new league. Okay, period, when you level up spiritually,
emotionally, slash psychologically, will say ends physically, that's hot, that is
hot. Doing the work full three sixty, that's hot. Not only will
you have something to focus on and become present with, but you'll also be
doing something that betters you. And I don't know about you, but I
feel better now than I did when I hated myself and my body. I
feel better now that I learned about codependency and healed that than I did when
I was just straight up suffering. I feel better now that I meditated.
Hot girls, meditate, Okay, I feel better now that I'm meditating than
I did when I was just screaming at God every day. I mean,
hello, and sometimes I still scream at God. But seriously, it makes
a difference. I'm less bothered because I don't get my validation out there.
I get it from myself. I get it from finding a strain that serves
me, from working out, from knowing I can do hard things, from
putting that attention onto myself, from giving myself that skincare, that spa night
by allowing myself to receive a massage. That is how I pump myself up.
So the first step of living unbothered is understanding the law of rhythm.
The second is be hot. Okay. The third, now we're really getting
into it. Okay. The next two are like my faves. The third
is seeing people and situations from a higher perspective. Now let's get into a
little story tom out. What was happening to me this past couple of weeks
days, weekends. So I had someone and they're um, very close.
Can I No, we're not very cool. Well okay, I guess we're
kind of close. Uh they're a blood relative way okay, and um,
they're interesting. They're an interesting person. I uh. I think back to
my soul committing to a contract with their soul, and I was like,
funny, that is a funny thing for you to do during this incarnation CC.
Anyway, so this person at dinner started to come from my looks,
I know me, who are you? They started to say something negative towards
how I looked. And my mom was there, and my dad was there,
and my partner was there, and they just kept trying to throw oh
digs at me. And first of all, how did I become unbothered by
this? I see them as a little child having a temper tantrum in their
big adult body, and I honestly just feel bad for them. That's somewhere
along the way they didn't get hugged enough, and I'm like, damn,
you're really down that bad. And so seeing it from a higher perspective helps
me become unbothered, because it's no longer oh, this person is just trying
to fight me or be mean to me. In fact, I don't think
it's about me at all. I know what's about them. Their projection is
their fucking problem, and I'm going to sit back and eat my barssal sprouts
like the queen that I am. So I'm looking at them and I just
see them as their inner child, just screaming and crying for hugs and love.
And then I also feel that this is not physical at all. This
has nothing to do with my appearance. This is psychological motherfucking warfare. And
let me just tell you something about myself. Okay, My mom, since
a very young age, has told me, Cecy, you know something about
you you were bred for literally for psychological warfare. Okay, bitch, you
are ready to go at all times. And she's not lying. Before I
was even born, I was fighting for my life. My mother's doctor tried
to convince her to have a DNC to kill me. Thanks, not thanks.
She's also now my doctor. It's kind of awkward, and I'm like,
hey, remember that time when you like tried cleaning out my mom's insides
to kill me. Well, but no, she thought my mom could have
a negative outcome, and so she was trying to tell her that. But
you know what, I don't know what her intentions are. But anyway,
here, I am hi everyone, and I have literally felt like someone was
trying to kill me before I was even born, and I was ready to
do the fucking tango. I was like, mmmmm, devil, No,
not today's satan. I'm coming to planet Earth and I'm going to spread this
light and you will fucking bet your ass it's going to be a big light
bang and I'm going to help people on this planet anyway. So my mom's
like, CC, you're literally bred for this war, okay girl. And
what I see a lot now is yes, I see people as their inner
child crying and screaming for help. But also this is psychological warfare where I
actually can sense that this person has an entity feeding on them. And it's
not my blood relative who's attacking me. It's this negative entity that has a
seed of jealousy. That it's psychological spiritual warfare that is trying to attack my
light. Because what loves the lights, the fucking mosquitoes, the fucking nets,
the nights, okay, and I will not have it. I will
not have it. I will not stoop down to anyone's fucking level. Misery
loves company, and that's not the company that I keep. Okay, I
stay high on my pedestal. And not only do I see this as an
entity of jealousy, a seed of jealousy trying to eat away on my lights.
I'm not going to happen. Not only do I see them as their
inner child crying and screaming out for help. I straight up don't want to
lower my energy to their disgustingly low vibration. No, thank you, sir,
come never again, because it's not happening. And literally, they were
trying to attack my appearance, and I just kept saying, I literally don't
care, love myself. And then they tried some saying something again and I
was like, yeah, no, I literally don't care. It's like this
weird thing. I just I don't care. I just don't I literally don't
care. First of all, consider the source. Anytime someone critiques me,
I consider the source. If it's someone coming at me with helpful critique,
I consider that. If it's my therapist, or it's one of my energy
coaches, it's a shaman, even if it's my mom or dad sometimes and
they're not trying to like fight me, but they're trying to help me,
I consider the source. And if it's helpful critique, I'm going to take
that in. I'm gonna sit with that and I will reflect on that.
But when I know it's a low level entity just trying to eat at my
light, I'm not playing that game because I own the fucking game and this
is my life. This is my game, and welcome to the world of
CC and I'm so so so so sorry. But I will level your energy
up where the entity won't even be able to touch me. In my song
Angel Energy, what did it say? I got that Angel energy can't touch
me, can't touch me? And I'm not fucking playing. I'm not fucking
kidding. You can't touch my energy. And my mom afterwards was like,
CC, I literally don't know how you did that. I am like,
I'm just I don't know how you kept your composure. I don't know how
you kept your energy. I was like, the thing is I seriously don't
I wasn't just saying I don't care. I would say, you guys know
I cry all the time, blah blah blah. I would say, if
I really cared, I don't care. I consider the source. It's someone
who's in a low vibration, who's miserable with themselves. Why would I care
what they have to say about me? They hate themselves more than I could
ever hate them. In fact, I don't hate them. I don't care
about them. I don't think anything of them, literally nothing, nothing.
So the third step is seeing the situation from a higher perspective. The fourth
step is responding from a higher perspective. And remember that line from Legally Blonde
where she's like, what like it's hard? When she got into Harvard,
She's like, what like it's hard? And literally how I responded was,
what, like I'm supposed to care, like, am I supposed to care
what you think? Or I'm not kidding you. When someone insults you to
your face, just be like wait, wait, wait what like I'm supposed
to care? Or that's literally how I was responding. So it's seeing it
from a higher perspective, but then interrupting the older programming because I used to
let this person really grind my gears and I used to have to come back
into my room and like do my stage. Now I'm like, let's fucking
go. You can't take me down, baby, you can't take me down,
because I would never stoop to that lower vibration. I don't live there.
I'll live on a cloud and it's cloud nine and you've probably never been
there. But I'm not coming down to meet you. Okay, Okay,
it's not my vibe. It's not my vibe. Okay. So yes,
I see it from a higher perspective. I see it as an entity controlling
that person, feeding on that person trying to feed on me, and I'm
like, not's the same, baby, This is designer. Okay, No,
my energy is designer. And then I respond from a higher perspective,
I'm not gonna fight with this person like I used to I'm not gonna go
at it with this person like I used to, why, because that would
stoop me down to their low vibration. And I'm not about it. I'm
about my own energy and that's where I'm gonna stay. That's where I'm on
a bay. Okay. So I respond from a higher perspective because we can
either repeat the same pattern or what say it with me, we can evolve,
and I choose to evolve. And now I think it's kind of funny.
I'm like, wow, it's crazy. Oh. The other the other
thing this person did was I would First of all, I'm super kind,
obviously, so I made sure they got breakfast. I got them a bagel
in the morning. Okay, well my boyfriend got them a bagel, but
I asked for their order and extended the invitation. And then I was like,
okay, like, we're all going to see this movie. Everyone go
see The Sound of Freedom. I just saw it. It was amazing.
I wish I could say I'm shocked. I'm not. It's very sad,
but we need to understand what's actually going out in the world, going on
in the world, and I don't watch the news, but the Sound of
Freedom is definitely worth seeing. Go see it. It's playing in all theaters
right now in the US. Anyway, So this person, I'm asking them,
Hey, do you want to come to this movie? And they're like,
well, I'm not gonna have a car at that time. So I
was like, okay, so do you want to come? And they're like,
well, I'm not gonna have a car. And I was like okay,
so that this time, would you be back at the house, Like
are you gonna come with us or someone else? And they're like, are
you dumb? That's a dumb question, and again they just start trying to
bring my vibration down. I'm like, oh, that's so cute that you're
trying again, like I'm supposed to care. Oh m oh. I just
see it as a cry for attention now, which, by the way,
it is understand people will do whatever they have to do in order to get
connection, and sometimes people only know how to get connection through conflict. Keep
that in mind anyway. So instead of me responding, I simply stopped answering
their text messages. I was like, I'll just get them a ticket and
if they want to come, they can come, and if they don't they
don't have to come, and I literally don't give a flying vibrational fuck and
so and by the way, if it was up to me, I wouldn't
even have offered a ticket. But it was not up to me. It
was a bigger group thing and I really wants to see this movie. So
I was like, I can ignore them, okay, because I need to
see this movie anyway. So I am. I get the door and it
happens to be them, and they're like, oh, by the way,
like I was just kidding about saying like you were dumb, and like the
question ever that I was just a joke, and I was like again,
I was just like, oh, I am I supposed to care? Or
am I Is that supposed to bother me? Or mm? And I just
stare at them like is that it is that? Like? Am I supposed
to pay attention to that? Or And I literally said, I simply don't
care, and I walked away. And that's the most powerful thing that you
can do is simply not fucking care. If you wouldn't want to be this
person, don't listen to them, period. I want none of what this
person has. I don't want their life. I don't want their energy.
I don't want their relationship, I don't want their job. I don't even
want their body. I don't want anything. I want nothing that they have.
So anything that they say is like it's like a rock. It means
nothing to me. In fact, a rock means more to me because that
has better energy. Okay, so how do we live unbothered? We understand
the law of rhythm. We understand it's okay to miss but not accept someone
back. We understand step two, be hot, understand three, see it
from a higher perspective. Four, respond from a higher perspective, and five
is what the Buddhist said. So a lot of people think that the Buddhist
said that the root of all misery is desired. That was actually mistranslated.
What the Buddha actually said was the root of all miseries. Trying to make
what is something different is trying to change what's currently happening in front of you.
A lot of what I have to do with certain family members is just
simply surrender that I signed on to this path and they are part of this
path, and they're in my life for some energetic reason. Now I will
say, if there's any abuse, you need to have boundaries. You need
to get yourself safe and you need to get out of that situation. Okay,
Anyway, the reason I bring up the Buddha is because a lot of
what I've had to do, instead of trying to change blood relatives, instead
of trying to change the people around me, change circumstance, is except,
which is like the law of rhythm. But then the second step is surrender.
Surrender, baby girl, I talk to God about my problems. I
don't have time to gossip. I just bring it up to the man,
the myth, the legend, God. I don't have time to gossip.
I don't fucking care. But I will talk to God. I'll bring my
worries to God. I'll tell them what's going on with me, and I'll
say, God, what's going on? What is this? What is this?
What is a lesson? Give me the strength, Jesus take the wheel.
Yeah, That's what I do now, because I'm not going to try
to fight and change people or change scenarios. I am going I am going
to surrender and allow what needs to happen to happen. Because in surrendering,
I find it's much easier to focus on myself. In surrendering. It's much
easier to take my power back in surrendering and understanding this is just how my
blood relative is for now. Of course, they can always change. Anyone
can change, but I'm not going to try to change them. That's not
my job. I just surrender to the moment. May not keep things moving.
Also, another part of surrendering is knowing it's not going to be like
this forever. This also plays until the law of rhythm. I have to
deal with this person right now, but I won't have to deal with them
forever. There's just certain circumstances that causes me to deal with them right now,
but these circumstances won't be forever. We have to remember that these temporary
tough times are temporary tough times. They're temporary, They are not forever.
You're not going to be miserable forever. It's not going to be this painful
forever. Things are shifting, things are changing, and they're changing for you.
So we're understanding that us trying to change what is trying to go against
the grain, ignoring the cycles. A lot of the time, that is
what causes us to be so bothered. If you want to be an asshole,
baby, be an asshole. Okay, I really don't care, but
you're not going to bring my vibration down. I accept that you're an ass
If you're an asshole, that's fine with me. That's your business, not
mine. I got my own things going on. I'm gonna focus there.
I'm going to focus on holding my own vibration and a lot of the time
because I don't try to control other people. A lot of the time,
this relative i'm talking about used to be, like I said, much much
worse to deal with now because I stay in my vibration. They come up
and they're like, by the way, I didn't actually mean that, or
by the way, you know, and you know, they actually start Both
times they tried to insult me, including my appearance, they actually backtracked and
we're like, well, I didn't actually mean that. You know why they
did that. You know why they backtracked instead of doubling down is because I
held my vibration. Very important for you to understand, when you hold your
vibration, the other person is forced to actually level up a bit, but
when you let them take you down, both of you go down. So
when surrendering, also understand you surrender to your own vibration and you don't let
anyone take you down. And in surrendering to my own vibration and acknowledging yeah,
they're kind of just an asshole. What happens is instead of them bringing
me down, I actually brought them up a little bit where they could say,
actually, I'm just joking. Is it a full apology? No?
But does that matter? No? Because am I like supposed to care.
I love you positive bitch, just so much, and as always, the
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