WEBVTT 1 00:00:14.119 --> 00:00:23.359 I'm sorry. What's up? Positive bitches? How are we doing today? 2 00:00:23.600 --> 00:00:28.440 If you're hearing this episode, you are meant to be here, So keep 3 00:00:28.719 --> 00:00:34.640 listening on that Bitch is Positive podcast. Sometimes we will laugh. Other times, 4 00:00:34.880 --> 00:00:39.960 baby Girl, we're gonna cry, but we will always walk away from 5 00:00:40.000 --> 00:00:47.280 this podcast feeling like our most positive bitch self. That is Babe in true 6 00:00:47.479 --> 00:00:53.799 connection with herself. That's right. On this podcast, we unbecome who we 7 00:00:53.840 --> 00:01:02.039 are not so we can fully embody and step into exact exactly who we incarnated 8 00:01:02.159 --> 00:01:08.719 to be. Today's podcast, we are talking about how to master the art 9 00:01:10.239 --> 00:01:15.599 of being unbothered. And let me just tell you, when you master the 10 00:01:15.840 --> 00:01:26.879 art of being unbothered, your enemies for enemies, haters become very, very 11 00:01:26.000 --> 00:01:32.920 very bothered. It's a funny little game I like to play called I win 12 00:01:33.000 --> 00:01:38.879 every single time because I placed myself on my own pedestal I have. I'm 13 00:01:38.920 --> 00:01:45.280 not kidding you, mastered the art of being unbothered and I cannot gate keep 14 00:01:45.840 --> 00:01:52.719 any longer, which is why we are talking about this art today, because 15 00:01:52.760 --> 00:01:56.079 let me just tell you, baby girl, it is an art. It 16 00:01:56.239 --> 00:02:00.879 is an art to master. But once you master this art, no one 17 00:02:00.239 --> 00:02:06.439 will have control over you. No one will be able to try to manipulate 18 00:02:06.640 --> 00:02:15.879 you because you have already mastered the art of being unbothered. I'm going to 19 00:02:15.919 --> 00:02:23.240 take you through five steps of different techniques you can anchor in actionable steps you 20 00:02:23.240 --> 00:02:27.639 can take today, tomorrow, and every day for the rest of your life. 21 00:02:27.879 --> 00:02:31.520 I'm going to give you five steps that will have you on your pedestal 22 00:02:32.120 --> 00:02:38.599 mastering the art of being unbothered. You're going to be the Monet, the 23 00:02:38.759 --> 00:02:44.400 Beethoven of being unbothered. Hello, Hello, Hello, and yeah, you 24 00:02:44.479 --> 00:02:47.919 will be up. You'll be thanking me for this one. But of course, 25 00:02:49.439 --> 00:02:53.479 before we get into it, a couple of announcements. You know, 26 00:02:53.560 --> 00:03:01.159 I cannot go on any further without talking about magic Mine jazz hands. 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If you're going through a breakup, joining the twenty 58 00:05:58.839 --> 00:06:01.639 one day break Up Globe Challenge to call your Power Back, to put yourself 59 00:06:01.639 --> 00:06:05.879 back on the pedestal, and of course glow up. If you want more 60 00:06:05.920 --> 00:06:10.800 information on the subtle energies when it comes to dating, you can get the 61 00:06:10.879 --> 00:06:14.879 Calling your Power Back Workbook, and if you want to anchor in your divine 62 00:06:14.879 --> 00:06:18.519 feminine energy, you can get a sixty page workbook. All these links will 63 00:06:18.560 --> 00:06:26.800 be in my bio from the Healing Divine Feminine work Book. Without further ado, 64 00:06:27.279 --> 00:06:32.519 let's get into today's episode because I have some tea to spill on how 65 00:06:32.600 --> 00:06:40.639 to live unbothered. Let's get into it. I'm gonna give you five steps 66 00:06:40.680 --> 00:06:44.720 now. I even tested out these steps this weekend because I was with a 67 00:06:45.000 --> 00:06:49.439 very special person who in the past has really gotten on my nerves and I 68 00:06:49.600 --> 00:06:55.000 just don't have any more nerves to give out, so instead I applied these 69 00:06:55.079 --> 00:07:00.920 five steps. How can we live unbothered? I under stand there are coworkers, 70 00:07:00.959 --> 00:07:04.759 there's family members. There are people that, whether we like it or 71 00:07:04.800 --> 00:07:10.319 not, we're gonna have to be around them. And if we cannot change 72 00:07:10.399 --> 00:07:15.879 them, well we have to change ourselves. Because let's think about it, 73 00:07:15.959 --> 00:07:19.439 what do we really have control over? Do we have control over the chads 74 00:07:19.480 --> 00:07:24.360 and the brads of the world, or do we have control over ourself. 75 00:07:24.839 --> 00:07:28.360 I don't know about you, but I much rather try to control myself than 76 00:07:28.360 --> 00:07:33.279 the chads and the brads of the world. We can lead a horse to 77 00:07:33.360 --> 00:07:39.240 water, but we can't make it drink. However, we can inspire people 78 00:07:39.279 --> 00:07:43.040 to bother us less. And that's what we're going to talk about. Today 79 00:07:43.360 --> 00:07:48.120 how to change ourselves and inspire simultaneously people to get the fuck out of our 80 00:07:48.360 --> 00:07:54.800 way. It is truly and our truly a magic. So the first step 81 00:07:54.920 --> 00:07:59.879 we need to understand to become unbothered, to live unbothered. Oh by the 82 00:08:00.120 --> 00:08:05.439 way, if you're more interested in watching this podcast rather than listening, I've 83 00:08:05.480 --> 00:08:09.600 been putting out all the videos full content on YouTube, so who can check 84 00:08:09.600 --> 00:08:11.800 it out there? All the links are in the bio. Okay. The 85 00:08:11.839 --> 00:08:16.879 first step of living unbothered is to simply understand a law we have talked about 86 00:08:16.920 --> 00:08:22.879 before, but the law of rhythm. We've talked about the law of rhythm 87 00:08:22.920 --> 00:08:26.399 before. But in case you've never heard this podcast, or you need a 88 00:08:26.399 --> 00:08:30.160 refresher, or you're just thinking, CC, what are you talking about? 89 00:08:30.560 --> 00:08:35.080 The law rhythm basically states that everything has its cycles. Things are cyclical. 90 00:08:35.200 --> 00:08:39.360 We have seasons, just like nature does. Let me ask you what would 91 00:08:39.360 --> 00:08:46.480 allow you to feel less bothered trying to pause summer and fast forward winter, 92 00:08:48.559 --> 00:08:58.720 slow down fall and skip spring. Or would it be less bothersome to just 93 00:08:58.879 --> 00:09:03.480 live within each season and allow them to fold. For you, a lot 94 00:09:03.519 --> 00:09:07.480 of us, feeling bothered is simply as trying to pause and change cycles that 95 00:09:07.559 --> 00:09:13.960 are naturally trying to unfold in our life. A big reason we're so fucking 96 00:09:15.080 --> 00:09:18.360 bothered has nothing to do with what other people are doing, but it has 97 00:09:18.399 --> 00:09:24.279 everything to do with what we're trying to control. Your new life, your 98 00:09:24.360 --> 00:09:28.159 new identity, the new energy, it's gonna cost you the old one. 99 00:09:28.519 --> 00:09:33.639 It's gonna cost you your controlling behavior. Now you're listening to a capricorn right 100 00:09:33.679 --> 00:09:37.960 now. So if you think I don't know how annoying it can be to 101 00:09:37.399 --> 00:09:43.320 reel in the controlling nature, I understand. I understand, But I've been 102 00:09:43.360 --> 00:09:46.440 on both sides. And let me just tell you right now, right here, 103 00:09:48.360 --> 00:09:52.399 trying to control the seasons the cycles of your life is going to cause 104 00:09:52.480 --> 00:09:56.919 you to be bothered a lot of the time. It's going to cause you 105 00:09:56.960 --> 00:10:01.519 to be a lot more bothered than you would be if you allowed what needs 106 00:10:01.519 --> 00:10:07.360 to come in in and allow what needs to leave to leave. If it's 107 00:10:07.440 --> 00:10:11.200 fragile, let it fucking break, and if it wants to be in your 108 00:10:11.240 --> 00:10:16.759 life, let it come in. When we instead of trying to control the 109 00:10:16.879 --> 00:10:22.399 seasons the cycles that people, we just allow them to be we're a lot 110 00:10:22.720 --> 00:10:26.720 less bothered. We're a lot less bothered. Now, there's a fine line 111 00:10:26.759 --> 00:10:31.799 between doing nothing and trying to control every single thing in your life. I'm 112 00:10:31.840 --> 00:10:35.759 not saying sit back hope that the good things fall from the sky. I'm 113 00:10:35.759 --> 00:10:39.840 not saying that show up for yourself, put yourself on the pedestal, do 114 00:10:39.879 --> 00:10:45.759 the necessary work you need to do. There is a jao, a middle 115 00:10:45.960 --> 00:10:52.120 way that comes in between of doing absolutely nothing and controlling absolutely everything. You 116 00:10:52.200 --> 00:10:56.679 know what I'm talking about. Let's go there, Let's go there. I'm 117 00:10:56.679 --> 00:11:01.480 not saying sit on a little tush and watch the housewives every single day and 118 00:11:01.519 --> 00:11:05.440 do absolutely nothing. No, but I'm also saying, do not try to 119 00:11:05.440 --> 00:11:11.039 control every single thing. Find the middle way where you're showing up for yourself. 120 00:11:11.120 --> 00:11:13.519 You're doing things that are healthy for you. You're having fun, you're 121 00:11:13.600 --> 00:11:18.399 living life. You're allowing what wants to come in, and you're allowing what 122 00:11:18.480 --> 00:11:22.240 wants to leave leave. You're doing the work. There's a middle way. 123 00:11:22.279 --> 00:11:28.639 Let's go there, Let's go there. And I also think it's important to 124 00:11:28.639 --> 00:11:33.200 say, you know, sometimes I miss relationships that were unhealthy for me. 125 00:11:33.279 --> 00:11:35.879 But I miss the people. I miss the fun I used to have with 126 00:11:35.919 --> 00:11:43.519 them. They're not necessarily the best people for me. So it's okay that 127 00:11:43.639 --> 00:11:46.320 I miss them, but it's not necessarily okay for me to let them back 128 00:11:46.320 --> 00:11:50.799 in my life because I think a lot of us will think back to older 129 00:11:50.879 --> 00:11:56.440 cycles and will think I miss them so much that must mean that they should 130 00:11:56.440 --> 00:12:00.879 cycle back into my life. That doesn't always mean that you can miss someone. 131 00:12:00.960 --> 00:12:05.559 Hell, you can love someone and know they shouldn't be in your life. 132 00:12:05.440 --> 00:12:09.360 That's just a little reminder for us who want to control cycles and think 133 00:12:09.399 --> 00:12:13.559 that missing someone is a good enough excuse for them to come back into our 134 00:12:13.600 --> 00:12:18.200 life. Okay, here me want to say that, Okay, missing someone 135 00:12:18.320 --> 00:12:20.360 is not a good enough reason for them to come back into your life. 136 00:12:22.159 --> 00:12:26.720 It's okay to miss older seasons, it's okay to miss older cycles. It's 137 00:12:26.759 --> 00:12:31.039 okay to look at them, but that's not a good enough reason to bring 138 00:12:31.080 --> 00:12:37.240 that person, or that cycle or that behavior back into our life once again. 139 00:12:37.159 --> 00:12:41.559 So, yes, our new life is going to cost us our old 140 00:12:41.639 --> 00:12:46.200 one. Our new energy is going to cost us our older behaviors. The 141 00:12:46.279 --> 00:12:54.080 first step of living unbothered is letting up some of that control. Is letting 142 00:12:54.080 --> 00:13:00.440 the seasons unfold for you, rather than you trying to unfold every single season. 143 00:13:00.799 --> 00:13:05.039 I just feel that also totally takes out the element of surprise. How 144 00:13:05.159 --> 00:13:11.519 boring is it to control fucking everything? How stressful, how bothersome. There's 145 00:13:11.600 --> 00:13:15.559 no better feeling than going to the airport with your boyfriend and having him do 146 00:13:15.639 --> 00:13:18.360 absolutely everything. I've never felt a better feeling in my life. It's like 147 00:13:18.759 --> 00:13:24.279 I get to just exist and show up and my BF does it all. 148 00:13:24.879 --> 00:13:28.759 I love traveling with my partner because literally I don't have to do anything but 149 00:13:28.919 --> 00:13:33.600 show up. Imagine that, but showing up like that every single day for 150 00:13:33.679 --> 00:13:41.360 your own life. Imagine that. I love being a princess passenger where I 151 00:13:41.399 --> 00:13:43.679 don't have to drive, I get to just chill. I get to pick 152 00:13:43.720 --> 00:13:48.639 the podcast, I get to pick the song. Imagine that. But you 153 00:13:48.679 --> 00:13:52.320 get to do that every single day of your life. Baby girl, you 154 00:13:52.399 --> 00:13:56.279 can just show up without controlling everything. And I'm like smashing this table because 155 00:13:56.279 --> 00:14:01.039 I want you to hear me all the way in the back. You're allowed 156 00:14:01.080 --> 00:14:05.200 to be the passenger princess for your own life, where you get to pick 157 00:14:05.240 --> 00:14:11.399 the songs and pick the podcast, and you get to have a little snack 158 00:14:11.519 --> 00:14:16.480 and do what you wanna do without having to control everything. And it feels 159 00:14:16.080 --> 00:14:24.600 oh so much better. Can I get an amen? Amen? Period? 160 00:14:26.600 --> 00:14:31.480 You can show up without trying to control everything, And I know it takes 161 00:14:31.559 --> 00:14:35.320 practice. It takes practice not controlling everything, but you can do it. 162 00:14:35.320 --> 00:14:39.240 It's possible. It doesn't even have to be easy. All it needs to 163 00:14:39.320 --> 00:14:46.120 be is possible and doable, and yes it is. Okay. So the 164 00:14:46.159 --> 00:14:52.360 first step of living unbothered is to stop bothering yourself with trying to fucking control 165 00:14:52.559 --> 00:14:56.840 everything. Because let me just tell you right now, right here, I 166 00:14:56.080 --> 00:15:01.279 tried so hard to keep start people in my life. I fought for our 167 00:15:01.399 --> 00:15:07.320 relationship. I put them on a pedestal, I begged them to love me, 168 00:15:07.399 --> 00:15:11.720 and what happened? They left. Anyway, There's nothing you can do 169 00:15:11.840 --> 00:15:16.200 to make someone stay in your life, okay, especially when they're meant to 170 00:15:16.320 --> 00:15:20.080 leave. There's nothing you can do. There's no highest of high pedestals you 171 00:15:20.080 --> 00:15:26.159 can put someone else on to make them stay. Loosen up on the reins, 172 00:15:26.279 --> 00:15:31.240 because all you're doing is causing your self discomfort. If they're gonna leave, 173 00:15:31.320 --> 00:15:33.480 they're gonna leave, and there's nothing you can do about it. That 174 00:15:33.679 --> 00:15:39.120 is just truth right there. If they're meant to cycle out, they're gonna 175 00:15:39.159 --> 00:15:45.679 cycle out. Let them go, because you can really really make yourself tired, 176 00:15:45.840 --> 00:15:48.840 really really bother yourself trying to get them to stay in. But they're 177 00:15:48.879 --> 00:15:52.879 gonna go anyway. Why because someone better is coming in, or maybe they 178 00:15:52.919 --> 00:15:56.720 need to do some work on themselves and they'll come back later. That happened 179 00:15:56.759 --> 00:16:00.399 to me. Me and my partner had to go separate ways. I begged, 180 00:16:00.440 --> 00:16:04.559 I cried, I pleaded with him to stay. It didn't matter, 181 00:16:06.399 --> 00:16:11.440 because fighting against water doesn't do anything. If it's meant to cycle out, 182 00:16:11.480 --> 00:16:15.799 it's going to cycle out. And ultimately, when I just let the water 183 00:16:15.960 --> 00:16:18.399 flow, he came back into my life and then we started dating again. 184 00:16:19.120 --> 00:16:22.240 It doesn't mean you're never going to be with this person or they will never 185 00:16:22.240 --> 00:16:26.960 come back. It means for this current season you need to refocus, and 186 00:16:27.080 --> 00:16:30.679 trying to connect all the dots is such a fucking headache. Forget about that. 187 00:16:30.840 --> 00:16:34.080 Just try to focus on what's in front of you right now, right 188 00:16:34.120 --> 00:16:40.039 here. There's no amount of crying, begging, pleading you can do to 189 00:16:40.080 --> 00:16:44.639 fight against this season that's on its way out. Hear me when I say 190 00:16:45.000 --> 00:16:48.360 there's no amount of fighting, pleading, begging you can do to a season, 191 00:16:48.440 --> 00:16:53.159 to a person that's cycling its way out of your life. Let it 192 00:16:53.200 --> 00:16:57.320 go because something better is trying to come in and you're getting in your own 193 00:16:57.360 --> 00:17:03.839 fucking way, So stop it. I love you positive bit, just so 194 00:17:03.960 --> 00:17:07.599 much. Okay. Step two, how do we become unbothered? We just 195 00:17:07.640 --> 00:17:11.680 get really fucking hot. Now, let's talk about what this actually means. 196 00:17:11.920 --> 00:17:17.599 I do literally mean we get really fucking hot. When I hated my body 197 00:17:17.640 --> 00:17:22.000 and hated myself and hated my whole entire mental way of thinking about things, 198 00:17:22.039 --> 00:17:26.519 my mentality, my psychological way of being, when I felt ugly on the 199 00:17:26.559 --> 00:17:32.279 inside and the outside, I was bothered by everything, I would be really 200 00:17:32.400 --> 00:17:37.079 triggered, really easily. So how do we become unbothered? Step two? 201 00:17:37.359 --> 00:17:45.039 We get hot mentally, energetically, psychologically, and yeah, physically. I 202 00:17:45.119 --> 00:17:51.400 care a lot less what people have to say to me now because I actually 203 00:17:51.440 --> 00:17:56.039 like the way I look, I actually like the way I think, I 204 00:17:56.119 --> 00:18:00.799 actually like the way I behave. I actually like the con tent I put 205 00:18:00.799 --> 00:18:04.759 out. Think about it like this, if you were making a video on 206 00:18:04.799 --> 00:18:08.480 TikTok and you were not proud of it, and you were embarrassed of it, 207 00:18:08.519 --> 00:18:12.839 and someone put a mean comment on it, You're gonna feel that a 208 00:18:12.920 --> 00:18:18.440 lot deeper than if you made a video you loved so much. That's just 209 00:18:18.519 --> 00:18:22.640 how the cookie crumbles. When you show up and you're proud of the work 210 00:18:22.720 --> 00:18:26.039 you've been putting into your mind, into your body, into your craft, 211 00:18:26.519 --> 00:18:30.480 you care less what other people have to say. When do we value other 212 00:18:30.519 --> 00:18:37.680 people's opinion the most when we're the most miserable and need outside sources of validation. 213 00:18:37.119 --> 00:18:44.319 But when you're validating yourself, you don't need to hear everyone else's opinion. 214 00:18:44.720 --> 00:18:49.640 And that's coming from someone who used to have highly codependent tendencies to someone 215 00:18:49.640 --> 00:18:57.359 who's now very confident in themselves. So how do we become unbothered? Start 216 00:18:57.400 --> 00:19:02.640 taking care of yourself more rather than taking care of all these other people who 217 00:19:02.720 --> 00:19:08.400 probably don't even deserve it. Do the self care, invest in this skincare, 218 00:19:08.599 --> 00:19:12.799 the cream, whatever it may be. You have one body, You 219 00:19:12.960 --> 00:19:18.599 have one body, Okay, invest in this body. Take a walk, 220 00:19:18.000 --> 00:19:22.319 do yoga, get a hula hoop, do a stretch, go for a 221 00:19:22.480 --> 00:19:27.640 run, pick up a weight. The hotter you become emotionally, mentally, 222 00:19:27.960 --> 00:19:33.400 physically, spiritually, the less you care about what other people have to say 223 00:19:33.720 --> 00:19:37.799 because you feel good in your own skin. But when you're walking around and 224 00:19:37.880 --> 00:19:42.519 you feel like an ugly little duckling inside and outside, doesn't really matter. 225 00:19:42.880 --> 00:19:49.359 You're gonna care what other people have to say. Becoming hot also means finding 226 00:19:49.400 --> 00:19:53.920 something that you love, because you become really hot when you're plugged in and 227 00:19:53.960 --> 00:19:59.400 tuned in and turned onto something that you're really passionate about. It doesn't matter 228 00:19:59.440 --> 00:20:03.480 what someone actually looks like. When you see someone really passionate about what they're 229 00:20:03.519 --> 00:20:07.839 doing, they're just hotter. That's just the way it is, because you 230 00:20:07.880 --> 00:20:14.119 see them turned on, you see their energy plugged in. If you want 231 00:20:14.119 --> 00:20:18.079 to become hot, find something that you love to do and start doing it, 232 00:20:18.519 --> 00:20:23.160 and honestly put a mirror up or record yourself doing the thing you love, 233 00:20:23.200 --> 00:20:27.279 and you're gonna be like, WHOA, I look really good. I 234 00:20:27.519 --> 00:20:33.440 look really tuned in, turned on, plugged in, And that's attracted to 235 00:20:33.480 --> 00:20:37.680 people because when you're doing something you love, you put yourself on the pedestal 236 00:20:37.720 --> 00:20:41.039 and it's you and you, and that makes you magnetic. You're not seeking 237 00:20:41.079 --> 00:20:47.240 anything outside of yourself because you are solely focused in on the present moment. 238 00:20:48.039 --> 00:20:52.039 So becoming hot doesn't just mean physically, and it doesn't just mean doing something 239 00:20:52.079 --> 00:20:57.519 you love. It's doing all of the things. When I lost all those 240 00:20:57.559 --> 00:21:02.400 friendships years ago, I lost like seven or six friends at once, whatever 241 00:21:02.440 --> 00:21:06.119 it may be. And I don't even like to say I lost. Really 242 00:21:06.240 --> 00:21:10.440 I let go of friendships that were cycling out, and I allowed in a 243 00:21:10.440 --> 00:21:15.960 bunch of blessings. When I went through that cycle of transition, I focused 244 00:21:15.039 --> 00:21:19.319 so much more of my attention on working out, on making TikTok videos, 245 00:21:19.319 --> 00:21:25.960 something I love to do, on really getting interested in health. And yeah, 246 00:21:26.000 --> 00:21:29.640 of course I became hot or mentally, physically, emotionally, all of 247 00:21:29.680 --> 00:21:34.599 that jazz because I had more time to focus on me rather than just sitting 248 00:21:34.799 --> 00:21:40.680 on the couch with those friends and eating chips and eating gluten which would upset 249 00:21:40.759 --> 00:21:45.920 my tummy and give me eggzema on my elbows. I was taking care of 250 00:21:45.160 --> 00:21:51.039 myself. I'm telling you, when you level up mentally, spiritually and physically, 251 00:21:51.480 --> 00:21:55.680 you care less what other people have to say about you. Now, 252 00:21:55.920 --> 00:22:02.480 don't just level up physically, and don't just up mentally. Pair them together, 253 00:22:02.960 --> 00:22:07.319 because really, if you want to really become hot, becoming hot is 254 00:22:07.319 --> 00:22:11.079 a triple threat to me because it's not just physical, it's emotional and spiritual. 255 00:22:11.480 --> 00:22:18.720 When you do that, oh girl, you are on. You're in 256 00:22:18.759 --> 00:22:22.880 a whole new league. Okay, period, when you level up spiritually, 257 00:22:23.279 --> 00:22:30.839 emotionally, slash psychologically, will say ends physically, that's hot, that is 258 00:22:30.880 --> 00:22:36.599 hot. Doing the work full three sixty, that's hot. Not only will 259 00:22:36.640 --> 00:22:41.519 you have something to focus on and become present with, but you'll also be 260 00:22:41.640 --> 00:22:45.400 doing something that betters you. And I don't know about you, but I 261 00:22:45.440 --> 00:22:49.839 feel better now than I did when I hated myself and my body. I 262 00:22:49.920 --> 00:22:55.119 feel better now that I learned about codependency and healed that than I did when 263 00:22:55.160 --> 00:22:59.160 I was just straight up suffering. I feel better now that I meditated. 264 00:22:59.319 --> 00:23:03.160 Hot girls, meditate, Okay, I feel better now that I'm meditating than 265 00:23:03.200 --> 00:23:06.480 I did when I was just screaming at God every day. I mean, 266 00:23:06.559 --> 00:23:10.720 hello, and sometimes I still scream at God. But seriously, it makes 267 00:23:10.880 --> 00:23:15.480 a difference. I'm less bothered because I don't get my validation out there. 268 00:23:15.640 --> 00:23:19.680 I get it from myself. I get it from finding a strain that serves 269 00:23:19.720 --> 00:23:23.240 me, from working out, from knowing I can do hard things, from 270 00:23:23.279 --> 00:23:30.279 putting that attention onto myself, from giving myself that skincare, that spa night 271 00:23:30.720 --> 00:23:33.960 by allowing myself to receive a massage. That is how I pump myself up. 272 00:23:34.799 --> 00:23:40.559 So the first step of living unbothered is understanding the law of rhythm. 273 00:23:40.640 --> 00:23:45.440 The second is be hot. Okay. The third, now we're really getting 274 00:23:45.440 --> 00:23:49.440 into it. Okay. The next two are like my faves. The third 275 00:23:49.759 --> 00:23:57.480 is seeing people and situations from a higher perspective. Now let's get into a 276 00:23:57.519 --> 00:24:03.119 little story tom out. What was happening to me this past couple of weeks 277 00:24:03.319 --> 00:24:14.079 days, weekends. So I had someone and they're um, very close. 278 00:24:15.119 --> 00:24:18.359 Can I No, we're not very cool. Well okay, I guess we're 279 00:24:18.440 --> 00:24:22.759 kind of close. Uh they're a blood relative way okay, and um, 280 00:24:23.319 --> 00:24:30.839 they're interesting. They're an interesting person. I uh. I think back to 281 00:24:30.960 --> 00:24:33.319 my soul committing to a contract with their soul, and I was like, 282 00:24:33.440 --> 00:24:37.759 funny, that is a funny thing for you to do during this incarnation CC. 283 00:24:37.279 --> 00:24:44.000 Anyway, so this person at dinner started to come from my looks, 284 00:24:44.039 --> 00:24:49.240 I know me, who are you? They started to say something negative towards 285 00:24:49.599 --> 00:24:55.279 how I looked. And my mom was there, and my dad was there, 286 00:24:55.319 --> 00:25:00.160 and my partner was there, and they just kept trying to throw oh 287 00:25:00.240 --> 00:25:04.640 digs at me. And first of all, how did I become unbothered by 288 00:25:04.640 --> 00:25:11.079 this? I see them as a little child having a temper tantrum in their 289 00:25:11.200 --> 00:25:15.200 big adult body, and I honestly just feel bad for them. That's somewhere 290 00:25:15.240 --> 00:25:18.599 along the way they didn't get hugged enough, and I'm like, damn, 291 00:25:18.640 --> 00:25:23.759 you're really down that bad. And so seeing it from a higher perspective helps 292 00:25:23.799 --> 00:25:29.279 me become unbothered, because it's no longer oh, this person is just trying 293 00:25:29.279 --> 00:25:32.440 to fight me or be mean to me. In fact, I don't think 294 00:25:32.440 --> 00:25:37.000 it's about me at all. I know what's about them. Their projection is 295 00:25:37.039 --> 00:25:41.079 their fucking problem, and I'm going to sit back and eat my barssal sprouts 296 00:25:41.079 --> 00:25:44.359 like the queen that I am. So I'm looking at them and I just 297 00:25:44.400 --> 00:25:48.319 see them as their inner child, just screaming and crying for hugs and love. 298 00:25:48.799 --> 00:25:52.079 And then I also feel that this is not physical at all. This 299 00:25:52.160 --> 00:25:56.960 has nothing to do with my appearance. This is psychological motherfucking warfare. And 300 00:25:57.079 --> 00:26:00.400 let me just tell you something about myself. Okay, My mom, since 301 00:26:00.440 --> 00:26:03.359 a very young age, has told me, Cecy, you know something about 302 00:26:03.400 --> 00:26:10.079 you you were bred for literally for psychological warfare. Okay, bitch, you 303 00:26:10.160 --> 00:26:15.240 are ready to go at all times. And she's not lying. Before I 304 00:26:15.319 --> 00:26:18.200 was even born, I was fighting for my life. My mother's doctor tried 305 00:26:18.279 --> 00:26:23.559 to convince her to have a DNC to kill me. Thanks, not thanks. 306 00:26:23.559 --> 00:26:26.000 She's also now my doctor. It's kind of awkward, and I'm like, 307 00:26:26.079 --> 00:26:30.880 hey, remember that time when you like tried cleaning out my mom's insides 308 00:26:30.960 --> 00:26:36.599 to kill me. Well, but no, she thought my mom could have 309 00:26:36.640 --> 00:26:38.359 a negative outcome, and so she was trying to tell her that. But 310 00:26:40.920 --> 00:26:42.640 you know what, I don't know what her intentions are. But anyway, 311 00:26:44.240 --> 00:26:48.599 here, I am hi everyone, and I have literally felt like someone was 312 00:26:48.640 --> 00:26:51.680 trying to kill me before I was even born, and I was ready to 313 00:26:51.720 --> 00:26:55.359 do the fucking tango. I was like, mmmmm, devil, No, 314 00:26:55.759 --> 00:26:57.720 not today's satan. I'm coming to planet Earth and I'm going to spread this 315 00:26:57.880 --> 00:27:02.519 light and you will fucking bet your ass it's going to be a big light 316 00:27:02.720 --> 00:27:06.519 bang and I'm going to help people on this planet anyway. So my mom's 317 00:27:06.559 --> 00:27:10.440 like, CC, you're literally bred for this war, okay girl. And 318 00:27:10.640 --> 00:27:15.279 what I see a lot now is yes, I see people as their inner 319 00:27:15.359 --> 00:27:18.680 child crying and screaming for help. But also this is psychological warfare where I 320 00:27:18.720 --> 00:27:26.000 actually can sense that this person has an entity feeding on them. And it's 321 00:27:26.119 --> 00:27:30.440 not my blood relative who's attacking me. It's this negative entity that has a 322 00:27:30.559 --> 00:27:36.880 seed of jealousy. That it's psychological spiritual warfare that is trying to attack my 323 00:27:37.160 --> 00:27:42.599 light. Because what loves the lights, the fucking mosquitoes, the fucking nets, 324 00:27:44.079 --> 00:27:48.119 the nights, okay, and I will not have it. I will 325 00:27:48.160 --> 00:27:53.880 not have it. I will not stoop down to anyone's fucking level. Misery 326 00:27:55.119 --> 00:28:00.079 loves company, and that's not the company that I keep. Okay, I 327 00:28:00.119 --> 00:28:06.759 stay high on my pedestal. And not only do I see this as an 328 00:28:06.920 --> 00:28:11.039 entity of jealousy, a seed of jealousy trying to eat away on my lights. 329 00:28:11.119 --> 00:28:14.000 I'm not going to happen. Not only do I see them as their 330 00:28:14.039 --> 00:28:18.200 inner child crying and screaming out for help. I straight up don't want to 331 00:28:18.200 --> 00:28:25.039 lower my energy to their disgustingly low vibration. No, thank you, sir, 332 00:28:26.119 --> 00:28:30.440 come never again, because it's not happening. And literally, they were 333 00:28:30.480 --> 00:28:33.920 trying to attack my appearance, and I just kept saying, I literally don't 334 00:28:33.920 --> 00:28:37.720 care, love myself. And then they tried some saying something again and I 335 00:28:37.759 --> 00:28:42.759 was like, yeah, no, I literally don't care. It's like this 336 00:28:42.960 --> 00:28:48.759 weird thing. I just I don't care. I just don't I literally don't 337 00:28:48.759 --> 00:28:52.240 care. First of all, consider the source. Anytime someone critiques me, 338 00:28:52.400 --> 00:28:57.839 I consider the source. If it's someone coming at me with helpful critique, 339 00:28:59.079 --> 00:29:03.160 I consider that. If it's my therapist, or it's one of my energy 340 00:29:03.240 --> 00:29:07.640 coaches, it's a shaman, even if it's my mom or dad sometimes and 341 00:29:07.920 --> 00:29:10.119 they're not trying to like fight me, but they're trying to help me, 342 00:29:10.240 --> 00:29:12.759 I consider the source. And if it's helpful critique, I'm going to take 343 00:29:12.799 --> 00:29:15.119 that in. I'm gonna sit with that and I will reflect on that. 344 00:29:15.400 --> 00:29:18.759 But when I know it's a low level entity just trying to eat at my 345 00:29:18.839 --> 00:29:25.400 light, I'm not playing that game because I own the fucking game and this 346 00:29:25.480 --> 00:29:29.319 is my life. This is my game, and welcome to the world of 347 00:29:29.440 --> 00:29:33.119 CC and I'm so so so so sorry. But I will level your energy 348 00:29:33.240 --> 00:29:37.799 up where the entity won't even be able to touch me. In my song 349 00:29:37.960 --> 00:29:42.440 Angel Energy, what did it say? I got that Angel energy can't touch 350 00:29:42.480 --> 00:29:47.200 me, can't touch me? And I'm not fucking playing. I'm not fucking 351 00:29:47.279 --> 00:29:51.839 kidding. You can't touch my energy. And my mom afterwards was like, 352 00:29:52.079 --> 00:29:56.240 CC, I literally don't know how you did that. I am like, 353 00:29:56.920 --> 00:29:59.960 I'm just I don't know how you kept your composure. I don't know how 354 00:30:00.079 --> 00:30:03.640 you kept your energy. I was like, the thing is I seriously don't 355 00:30:03.720 --> 00:30:06.279 I wasn't just saying I don't care. I would say, you guys know 356 00:30:06.400 --> 00:30:07.359 I cry all the time, blah blah blah. I would say, if 357 00:30:07.359 --> 00:30:11.440 I really cared, I don't care. I consider the source. It's someone 358 00:30:11.480 --> 00:30:14.559 who's in a low vibration, who's miserable with themselves. Why would I care 359 00:30:14.559 --> 00:30:18.160 what they have to say about me? They hate themselves more than I could 360 00:30:18.200 --> 00:30:21.039 ever hate them. In fact, I don't hate them. I don't care 361 00:30:21.079 --> 00:30:25.559 about them. I don't think anything of them, literally nothing, nothing. 362 00:30:26.279 --> 00:30:30.400 So the third step is seeing the situation from a higher perspective. The fourth 363 00:30:30.440 --> 00:30:37.480 step is responding from a higher perspective. And remember that line from Legally Blonde 364 00:30:37.559 --> 00:30:41.640 where she's like, what like it's hard? When she got into Harvard, 365 00:30:41.720 --> 00:30:45.000 She's like, what like it's hard? And literally how I responded was, 366 00:30:45.160 --> 00:30:48.480 what, like I'm supposed to care, like, am I supposed to care 367 00:30:48.519 --> 00:30:52.720 what you think? Or I'm not kidding you. When someone insults you to 368 00:30:52.720 --> 00:30:56.680 your face, just be like wait, wait, wait what like I'm supposed 369 00:30:56.720 --> 00:31:00.839 to care? Or that's literally how I was responding. So it's seeing it 370 00:31:00.880 --> 00:31:04.079 from a higher perspective, but then interrupting the older programming because I used to 371 00:31:04.200 --> 00:31:08.519 let this person really grind my gears and I used to have to come back 372 00:31:08.519 --> 00:31:11.559 into my room and like do my stage. Now I'm like, let's fucking 373 00:31:11.799 --> 00:31:15.960 go. You can't take me down, baby, you can't take me down, 374 00:31:17.079 --> 00:31:19.880 because I would never stoop to that lower vibration. I don't live there. 375 00:31:21.200 --> 00:31:25.279 I'll live on a cloud and it's cloud nine and you've probably never been 376 00:31:25.319 --> 00:31:27.720 there. But I'm not coming down to meet you. Okay, Okay, 377 00:31:27.759 --> 00:31:33.559 it's not my vibe. It's not my vibe. Okay. So yes, 378 00:31:33.680 --> 00:31:36.839 I see it from a higher perspective. I see it as an entity controlling 379 00:31:36.880 --> 00:31:38.599 that person, feeding on that person trying to feed on me, and I'm 380 00:31:38.640 --> 00:31:42.000 like, not's the same, baby, This is designer. Okay, No, 381 00:31:42.319 --> 00:31:47.240 my energy is designer. And then I respond from a higher perspective, 382 00:31:47.240 --> 00:31:49.240 I'm not gonna fight with this person like I used to I'm not gonna go 383 00:31:49.279 --> 00:31:52.039 at it with this person like I used to, why, because that would 384 00:31:52.240 --> 00:31:56.640 stoop me down to their low vibration. And I'm not about it. I'm 385 00:31:56.680 --> 00:32:00.119 about my own energy and that's where I'm gonna stay. That's where I'm on 386 00:32:00.160 --> 00:32:05.640 a bay. Okay. So I respond from a higher perspective because we can 387 00:32:05.680 --> 00:32:09.920 either repeat the same pattern or what say it with me, we can evolve, 388 00:32:10.640 --> 00:32:15.720 and I choose to evolve. And now I think it's kind of funny. 389 00:32:15.759 --> 00:32:17.359 I'm like, wow, it's crazy. Oh. The other the other 390 00:32:17.400 --> 00:32:22.359 thing this person did was I would First of all, I'm super kind, 391 00:32:22.519 --> 00:32:24.880 obviously, so I made sure they got breakfast. I got them a bagel 392 00:32:24.880 --> 00:32:28.519 in the morning. Okay, well my boyfriend got them a bagel, but 393 00:32:28.680 --> 00:32:32.519 I asked for their order and extended the invitation. And then I was like, 394 00:32:32.519 --> 00:32:36.319 okay, like, we're all going to see this movie. Everyone go 395 00:32:36.400 --> 00:32:38.640 see The Sound of Freedom. I just saw it. It was amazing. 396 00:32:38.720 --> 00:32:42.839 I wish I could say I'm shocked. I'm not. It's very sad, 397 00:32:43.160 --> 00:32:45.799 but we need to understand what's actually going out in the world, going on 398 00:32:45.880 --> 00:32:49.920 in the world, and I don't watch the news, but the Sound of 399 00:32:49.960 --> 00:32:52.599 Freedom is definitely worth seeing. Go see it. It's playing in all theaters 400 00:32:52.680 --> 00:32:58.759 right now in the US. Anyway, So this person, I'm asking them, 401 00:32:58.799 --> 00:33:01.440 Hey, do you want to come to this movie? And they're like, 402 00:33:01.440 --> 00:33:05.160 well, I'm not gonna have a car at that time. So I 403 00:33:05.240 --> 00:33:07.200 was like, okay, so do you want to come? And they're like, 404 00:33:07.200 --> 00:33:08.400 well, I'm not gonna have a car. And I was like okay, 405 00:33:08.400 --> 00:33:12.039 so that this time, would you be back at the house, Like 406 00:33:12.079 --> 00:33:15.000 are you gonna come with us or someone else? And they're like, are 407 00:33:15.039 --> 00:33:19.039 you dumb? That's a dumb question, and again they just start trying to 408 00:33:19.079 --> 00:33:21.880 bring my vibration down. I'm like, oh, that's so cute that you're 409 00:33:21.960 --> 00:33:31.519 trying again, like I'm supposed to care. Oh m oh. I just 410 00:33:31.559 --> 00:33:35.559 see it as a cry for attention now, which, by the way, 411 00:33:35.640 --> 00:33:39.240 it is understand people will do whatever they have to do in order to get 412 00:33:39.279 --> 00:33:45.079 connection, and sometimes people only know how to get connection through conflict. Keep 413 00:33:45.160 --> 00:33:50.640 that in mind anyway. So instead of me responding, I simply stopped answering 414 00:33:50.680 --> 00:33:52.359 their text messages. I was like, I'll just get them a ticket and 415 00:33:52.480 --> 00:33:57.200 if they want to come, they can come, and if they don't they 416 00:33:57.200 --> 00:34:02.240 don't have to come, and I literally don't give a flying vibrational fuck and 417 00:34:02.359 --> 00:34:06.319 so and by the way, if it was up to me, I wouldn't 418 00:34:06.359 --> 00:34:07.840 even have offered a ticket. But it was not up to me. It 419 00:34:07.920 --> 00:34:12.920 was a bigger group thing and I really wants to see this movie. So 420 00:34:12.960 --> 00:34:15.199 I was like, I can ignore them, okay, because I need to 421 00:34:15.239 --> 00:34:20.760 see this movie anyway. So I am. I get the door and it 422 00:34:20.800 --> 00:34:22.079 happens to be them, and they're like, oh, by the way, 423 00:34:22.199 --> 00:34:24.960 like I was just kidding about saying like you were dumb, and like the 424 00:34:25.079 --> 00:34:28.719 question ever that I was just a joke, and I was like again, 425 00:34:28.760 --> 00:34:31.880 I was just like, oh, I am I supposed to care? Or 426 00:34:34.400 --> 00:34:39.639 am I Is that supposed to bother me? Or mm? And I just 427 00:34:39.679 --> 00:34:47.320 stare at them like is that it is that? Like? Am I supposed 428 00:34:47.320 --> 00:34:52.320 to pay attention to that? Or And I literally said, I simply don't 429 00:34:52.320 --> 00:34:57.679 care, and I walked away. And that's the most powerful thing that you 430 00:34:57.760 --> 00:35:04.519 can do is simply not fucking care. If you wouldn't want to be this 431 00:35:04.599 --> 00:35:09.880 person, don't listen to them, period. I want none of what this 432 00:35:09.920 --> 00:35:13.719 person has. I don't want their life. I don't want their energy. 433 00:35:13.920 --> 00:35:16.079 I don't want their relationship, I don't want their job. I don't even 434 00:35:16.159 --> 00:35:20.519 want their body. I don't want anything. I want nothing that they have. 435 00:35:21.039 --> 00:35:24.800 So anything that they say is like it's like a rock. It means 436 00:35:25.239 --> 00:35:30.760 nothing to me. In fact, a rock means more to me because that 437 00:35:30.800 --> 00:35:36.719 has better energy. Okay, so how do we live unbothered? We understand 438 00:35:36.719 --> 00:35:39.679 the law of rhythm. We understand it's okay to miss but not accept someone 439 00:35:39.760 --> 00:35:45.400 back. We understand step two, be hot, understand three, see it 440 00:35:45.480 --> 00:35:52.719 from a higher perspective. Four, respond from a higher perspective, and five 441 00:35:52.360 --> 00:35:55.360 is what the Buddhist said. So a lot of people think that the Buddhist 442 00:35:55.400 --> 00:36:01.239 said that the root of all misery is desired. That was actually mistranslated. 443 00:36:01.599 --> 00:36:07.159 What the Buddha actually said was the root of all miseries. Trying to make 444 00:36:07.559 --> 00:36:15.639 what is something different is trying to change what's currently happening in front of you. 445 00:36:15.480 --> 00:36:20.320 A lot of what I have to do with certain family members is just 446 00:36:20.400 --> 00:36:25.320 simply surrender that I signed on to this path and they are part of this 447 00:36:25.400 --> 00:36:30.159 path, and they're in my life for some energetic reason. Now I will 448 00:36:30.199 --> 00:36:31.840 say, if there's any abuse, you need to have boundaries. You need 449 00:36:31.880 --> 00:36:37.119 to get yourself safe and you need to get out of that situation. Okay, 450 00:36:37.079 --> 00:36:43.360 Anyway, the reason I bring up the Buddha is because a lot of 451 00:36:43.360 --> 00:36:47.119 what I've had to do, instead of trying to change blood relatives, instead 452 00:36:47.119 --> 00:36:52.840 of trying to change the people around me, change circumstance, is except, 453 00:36:53.239 --> 00:36:57.599 which is like the law of rhythm. But then the second step is surrender. 454 00:36:58.400 --> 00:37:02.280 Surrender, baby girl, I talk to God about my problems. I 455 00:37:02.320 --> 00:37:07.639 don't have time to gossip. I just bring it up to the man, 456 00:37:07.760 --> 00:37:10.400 the myth, the legend, God. I don't have time to gossip. 457 00:37:10.519 --> 00:37:14.880 I don't fucking care. But I will talk to God. I'll bring my 458 00:37:14.920 --> 00:37:16.199 worries to God. I'll tell them what's going on with me, and I'll 459 00:37:16.239 --> 00:37:19.639 say, God, what's going on? What is this? What is this? 460 00:37:20.039 --> 00:37:23.360 What is a lesson? Give me the strength, Jesus take the wheel. 461 00:37:24.440 --> 00:37:28.840 Yeah, That's what I do now, because I'm not going to try 462 00:37:28.880 --> 00:37:34.800 to fight and change people or change scenarios. I am going I am going 463 00:37:34.920 --> 00:37:40.639 to surrender and allow what needs to happen to happen. Because in surrendering, 464 00:37:40.719 --> 00:37:45.239 I find it's much easier to focus on myself. In surrendering. It's much 465 00:37:45.440 --> 00:37:52.079 easier to take my power back in surrendering and understanding this is just how my 466 00:37:52.119 --> 00:37:54.400 blood relative is for now. Of course, they can always change. Anyone 467 00:37:54.440 --> 00:37:58.079 can change, but I'm not going to try to change them. That's not 468 00:37:58.119 --> 00:38:00.519 my job. I just surrender to the moment. May not keep things moving. 469 00:38:00.960 --> 00:38:04.960 Also, another part of surrendering is knowing it's not going to be like 470 00:38:05.039 --> 00:38:07.920 this forever. This also plays until the law of rhythm. I have to 471 00:38:07.960 --> 00:38:10.599 deal with this person right now, but I won't have to deal with them 472 00:38:10.599 --> 00:38:15.519 forever. There's just certain circumstances that causes me to deal with them right now, 473 00:38:15.800 --> 00:38:22.400 but these circumstances won't be forever. We have to remember that these temporary 474 00:38:22.440 --> 00:38:27.480 tough times are temporary tough times. They're temporary, They are not forever. 475 00:38:27.519 --> 00:38:30.159 You're not going to be miserable forever. It's not going to be this painful 476 00:38:30.199 --> 00:38:34.800 forever. Things are shifting, things are changing, and they're changing for you. 477 00:38:35.960 --> 00:38:40.880 So we're understanding that us trying to change what is trying to go against 478 00:38:40.920 --> 00:38:45.599 the grain, ignoring the cycles. A lot of the time, that is 479 00:38:45.639 --> 00:38:50.920 what causes us to be so bothered. If you want to be an asshole, 480 00:38:51.360 --> 00:38:54.519 baby, be an asshole. Okay, I really don't care, but 481 00:38:54.719 --> 00:38:59.880 you're not going to bring my vibration down. I accept that you're an ass 482 00:39:00.079 --> 00:39:04.280 If you're an asshole, that's fine with me. That's your business, not 483 00:39:04.400 --> 00:39:07.920 mine. I got my own things going on. I'm gonna focus there. 484 00:39:07.519 --> 00:39:12.960 I'm going to focus on holding my own vibration and a lot of the time 485 00:39:13.000 --> 00:39:15.920 because I don't try to control other people. A lot of the time, 486 00:39:15.000 --> 00:39:19.519 this relative i'm talking about used to be, like I said, much much 487 00:39:19.559 --> 00:39:23.320 worse to deal with now because I stay in my vibration. They come up 488 00:39:23.360 --> 00:39:25.199 and they're like, by the way, I didn't actually mean that, or 489 00:39:25.239 --> 00:39:29.639 by the way, you know, and you know, they actually start Both 490 00:39:29.679 --> 00:39:32.679 times they tried to insult me, including my appearance, they actually backtracked and 491 00:39:32.719 --> 00:39:36.639 we're like, well, I didn't actually mean that. You know why they 492 00:39:36.639 --> 00:39:38.679 did that. You know why they backtracked instead of doubling down is because I 493 00:39:38.800 --> 00:39:44.880 held my vibration. Very important for you to understand, when you hold your 494 00:39:44.960 --> 00:39:47.880 vibration, the other person is forced to actually level up a bit, but 495 00:39:49.000 --> 00:39:52.599 when you let them take you down, both of you go down. So 496 00:39:52.719 --> 00:39:58.920 when surrendering, also understand you surrender to your own vibration and you don't let 497 00:39:58.960 --> 00:40:02.360 anyone take you down. And in surrendering to my own vibration and acknowledging yeah, 498 00:40:02.400 --> 00:40:07.360 they're kind of just an asshole. What happens is instead of them bringing 499 00:40:07.360 --> 00:40:09.400 me down, I actually brought them up a little bit where they could say, 500 00:40:09.440 --> 00:40:13.119 actually, I'm just joking. Is it a full apology? No? 501 00:40:13.320 --> 00:40:20.159 But does that matter? No? Because am I like supposed to care. 502 00:40:21.760 --> 00:40:23.360 I love you positive bitch, just so much, and as always, the 503 00:40:23.599 --> 00:40:29.079 sparkle in me honors the sparkle in you. I hope this podcast has brought 504 00:40:29.079 --> 00:40:32.239 you some light, some love, and some hope, especially some tools. 505 00:40:32.519 --> 00:40:37.920 If you enjoyed this podcast, posted on social media and tag me at vibing 506 00:40:37.960 --> 00:40:42.199 with cc at that bitch as positive, don't forget to leave a positive review 507 00:40:42.320 --> 00:40:45.400 on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. It helps this podcast grow. And I love 508 00:40:45.480 --> 00:40:50.519 reading the beautiful words you have to say. I love you so much and 509 00:40:50.559 --> 00:41:01.760 I will see you in the next one. I can't Jesus make you. 510 00:41:01.840 --> 00:41:19.079 Can't such change I can't. I can't bad Jane can't change me. I 511 00:41:21.119 --> 00:41:22.239 can't susk free, you can't susk f