Sure, what's up, beautiful people. It is your baby Mama, favorite
baby Mama, Stormy Pea And this is another episode of Chocolate Chip and Zip
the modern day female perspective. Damn Son back at it again. Uh,
I'm not gonna lie. Y'all know we'd be going live when we were recording.
Before we started, somebody's gonna say, I seen you up Wheeler Grove.
But she was with a nigga, so I kept it pushing. First
of all, y'all, I was with stand and y'all already know standing it's
not a nigga. Don't be out here saying shit and people thinking I'm out
here with somebody because I'm not. In case, you know, a tall
nigga with a turtleneck and a gold chain wanted to know and a pretty smile
like, hey, what's that? I'm still outs right, Yeah, man,
I just want to talk to y'all about a few things. First,
y'all already know I was gonna say today is the last day, but by
the time it's drops baby, y'all missed it. I was gonna talk about
the flash Sail, but yeah, y'all missed it. So I'll just start
with Philly We still have a few tickets available for February seventeenth at World Cafe
Live, Chocolate, Ship and Sip. Make sure you guys click the link
of my bio or go to stormyp dot com and gets your tickets right now.
And I'm not gonna lie y'all. This is gonna be some fly at
shit like a production baby, it's given very much production on. Okay.
So when you come, make sure you are dressed nice, all right.
If you know you have a wife and family at home, do not come
with your side, bitch, because you might be on TV. All right,
So listen, join a conversation because one thing about me, baby,
I'm gona get started, all right. And I know a lot of y'all
be having a lot of input when we had these conversations. Man, if
I was through, I would have you looked at you and go overge okay,
we'll show up, show up? Then what's up? What's up?
All right? Once again, click the link of my bio, gets your
tickets right now, February seventeenth, Philadelphia, World Cafe Live. Let's get
it right. So all that aside a few things I wanted to talk about
this week, and you know, lately, we've been having themes with all
of our conversations, and I like this idea because not only he doesn't keep
us on track, but it really drives home certain points. So for today,
this week's theme is the reality of the situation. Okay, because be
fucking for real. Okay, be fucking for real okay, And we're not
talking about this physically, yes, yes, So I wanted to start with
you know, I had put one of the clips last week me telling you
guys about my Valentine's Day story from last year in case some of you missed
it. You know, I had a guy he asked me in November to
be his Valentine, and we got to the restaurant on Valentine's Day and long
story short, he told the waitress we was gonna share a meal. I
know, I know, it's crazy. If you want the full story,
you got to go back and listen to last week's episode. So once again,
be fucking for real. And the reason I say this is because,
yes, this, this unfortunate chain of events did actually happen to me in
real life, like that is what happened. But the reason I say be
fucking for real is because there were a lot of men, men men in
the comments saying things like these, the type of niggas y'all chose, These,
the type of guys that y'all go for, This is the type of
energy you welcome. These the type of guys that y'all have kids with.
Bro, Be fucking for real, Be fucking for real. I tell you
that this man asked me for a date five months, four or five months
ahead of time. I tell you that I gave him three different price options,
but he chose one that was outside of the list and higher than the
list. And you tell me I need to be fucking for real. You
tell me these are the type of guys that I chose. What about any
of that said this nigga gonna be a clown? Seriously seriously, because I'm
all for accountability. But at one point, at what point could I have
sat back and said, this nigga fin way my time, This nigga fanna
make me share a meal? This nigga fan that make me share andre at
that? Like, at what point with be fucking for real, bro,
be fucking for real. Like I've noticed that, And I'm not saying,
Ah, there really is a small portion. I'm not gonna say a small
portion. There really is a portion of men on the internet who want nothing
but to see women who they can never get a chance with suffer. And
I say suffer. And the reason I say that is because the men who
we leave in these comments. It's never the fine niggas. It's never the
down to earth niggas. It's never the niggas money, it's never the attractive
no, no, no, no no. There is just a selective,
bitter group of men, the bitter barneys. We're gonna call them, Okay,
the bitter barneys be so happy anytime an attractive woman it's suffering or having
a hard time or enduring hardships. Like something's wrong with y'all. Y'all need
to go talk to the lady for real, y'all need to fucking go talk
to the lady. Bro please please, I have to interject just a little
bit. Go ahead, I'm listening. I'm not defending the behavior, but
just I think I have a little insight on why maybe niggas act like that.
Besides the climb and the social media and niggas just hating on everybody,
I kind of feel like, well, I'm around a lot of girls all
the time because of my profession. So like when girls come to my studio
and they talk about their man and then I finally meet the nigga. It's
like when guys get around each other, we can pretty much tell. It's
like a sixth sense. You everys see guys just stare at each other pretty
much reading each other. So you can pretty much tell, like, oh,
this nigga fuck boy without us even talking about it. Like when you're
hanging out with your bros and the nigga come around, he trashed. We
all start acting a certain way. When you're acting around a nigga, that's
good. We all just leave you alone. Like if you ever think about
it, we just okay, well we could tell, so I think.
So I think what's happening is is like just a little bit is when y'all
tell these stories and then we see these niggas, we're like, well,
clearly, but I don't think niggas is really thinking like no, y'all might
not be seeing what we've seen, but we see it all the time.
Because I got mad girls that'd be like, oh sh like this big of
blah bah. I'm like, yo, he tried to leave them alone and
then y'all just don't fuck y'all just keep I'll just keep popping in the car,
like I don't think. I don't all right, I don't dispute that
I'm saying that. I do acknowledge that. You know, just like women
can tell that bitch is using you for your money, men can probably tell,
well, he's just trying to act this way so he can fuck.
I don't dispute it. I don't think that they all think. I don't
think that we but I don't think those are the better barneys that I'm talking
about. I'm talking about this particular situation and the other situations where men are
just happy to see like, Okay, well I can't get her, so
now she's gonna be miserable, and they're happy about that, like they're living
in that foolish way, says Stormy. Don't have a fuckboard radar is what
he's saying. No, No, that's not what he was saying at all.
I think, hold on, wait, I'm trying to screwl up.
Hayvy Ec says. When the waiter showed up, he was like, surprise,
surprise, man. Fuck y'all all right, long story short, I
don't want to negate from the fact that there is a group of bitter bernies
on the Internet who just like to see attractive women that they would never get
a chance with, fail and be miserable and suffer. That's it, because
how y'all got to see from point one is ridiculous. Notice how we skip
two, three, four a B We went straight to see? How the
fuck y'all got there? I don't know, but yeah, that's just it,
And y'all need to go talk to the lady. Yes, yes,
all that aside once again, today we're going to talk about the reality of
the situation. Be fucking for real. I want to talk about a few
things that, especially when we're on our gourds internet, we like to pretend
doesn't exist. Right, But my whole standpoint has always been, like yo,
people, ladies in particular, we love to run from the A word,
okay, And it's not anal okay. For the record, I think
I don't think any of us would think about some people might have, some
people might have, all right, for whatever reason, we love to run
from the A word. And it's not anal okay, it's accountability, all
right. And with that being said, some of y'all fighting accountability is really
what you're holding y'all back. All right, So I know that in today's
society, we always have this guard up, like, oh, everybody's out
to get this. Everybody's just trying to take advantage of us, trying to
get what they can get. X, Y and Z leave me, burn
the fuck out. And I want to say, it's okay to put your
guard down for the right person, right and heavy on for the right person.
Okay, it's okay to put your guard down for the right person.
What I'm saying is, be fucking for real. Don't go in the sewer
and then be surprised when Pennywise try to eat you the fuck up? Okay,
can we be fucking for real? Can we be fucking for real?
Okay, don't go in the sewer and then be surprised when Pennywise try to
eat you. Okay, baby baby, I said, for the right person
hitting, especially when your niggas play with the balloon. Right, you saw
that red balloon flowing niggas hit the ship. You should have been like,
come on, come on, somebody hit the balloon. You saw that red
balloon and you said, no, this is fine, This is great,
This is great, this is great. Like and when I say that,
I mean, like you, sometimes we give our attention to the wrong person.
Like, No, all that time and energy that we should be giving
out, it should go to the person who's asking you if you ate,
if you need to be ached? Okay, how are you doing physically,
spiritually, mentally? How your grandmama doing? I know you said she was
having some problems with her sugar. She good? Like, these are the
people that we need to be pouring into. It's okay to let our guard
down for these people. If someone is showing up and showing out paint on
what you out, give them that. But when we continue to give our
time, attention, our love, our bodies to these fuck boys and fuck
girls. Now we're on the internet saying the day pool got pissing it?
No, no, no, Like, can we be fucking for real for
a second? Can we can? We two things can exist. It can
be fuck boys and fucking and hot girls, but you can also have a
lack of accountability at the same time, Like we all like we've all been
wronged, but like we all had an opportunity to learn from our mistakes and
pick up something. So we can do better the next time, and if
you chose not to do that, they're cool. But then, like she
said, like anybody's gonna get your bitch bruh, bruh, bruh. How
many times you gonna play by that sewer before you realize it's stank. It's
stank, it's stank, and that's not where you are supposed to be.
But sometimes we don't be willing to accept or acknowledge that the last four people
played in our face the same way. It's only one common denominated here.
It's you. It's you. So it's like, yo, let's stand up
and be like, humm, I'm not gonna engage in that type of activity
anymore. I'm not gonna give that type of person my time anymore because it's
not working. It's not working. Like at the end of the day,
once you start understanding that, your gut's gonna start kicking in, like your
guy's gonna be like yes, no, yes, foolish ways, but it's
peace. I agree. Foolish way says Penny Wise, is gonna get your
bitch ass chat I missed because she was lacking shut up, liberated, and
Jason says, these are the kind of mature conversations. I need more people
to have come on somebody, yes, yes, listen. I mean,
uh, I'm not sure what for goud kreflow was talking to somebody about.
But I can't go back on a chat to like read the beginning. So
I'm gonna I'm gonna keep going chat beef. No, they're just going back
and forth, but I can't jump in on a conversation straight Savage nine one
says, how is dating your neighbor going? Sounds like the bitter barn news
are bad guys. So also last week we were talking about how why is
it okay for men to have a problem with their girl's whole friend, but
they expect their girlfriends to ignore cheating ask which is their best friend? Right?
So I said, you know, ches, your maal can put you
in situations that can get you caught up. And now my neighbor telling me
that he's seeing you somewhere that you shouldn't have been. And so once again
the guys in the chat were like, well, it sounds like your neighbor's
showing the fluckoo. So him saying how is dating your neighbor going? Was
with a lot of these are the comments that you don't read out loud.
Yeah, that's why I was like, yo, I don't remember no nigga
saying that, because I had something to say, I would have pulled them
close, close close. The first KP says, he was asking you why
you went on a date in the first place. I asked, why did
you say yes to the guy who asked you out? Oh you're talking about
Valentine's saying like that. Oh yeah, no, I said that because because
why not? It was it was a I'm confused. I don't understand the
question. Guys, sometimes I feel like on the Internet, and this goes
for guys and girls. Mm hmm. We want to prove a point so
bad that we will literally google search in our brains enough information to make ourselves
seem right. Yeah, to the point where you just come up with ridiculous
situations in your head. For instance, everybody is their best selves during an
interview. I would know I hire and fire people and recommensess. Everybody is
their best self during an interview. And when you're talking to a girl,
you're not gonna sit there and act like you're a dickhead. This is true.
Just like girls, they're not gonna act like they're in it for your
pockets. This is all true, and we all been through that. But
at the same time, there are bad people out in the world and sometimes
they gas just get duped. Now at the same time, at the same
time, there are flags that people have to look for. If by if
somebody's not paying you attention, if they act like they over you, then
they over you. You gotta read the facts. But at the same time,
we make mistakes. All this can be true at the same time,
it all can happen, But you gotta hold yourself accoun at the end of
the day, and if you don't, you're just gonna keep doing the same
shit for real. Agreed, Asking those dumb asked questions, did you make
yourself so stupid? B bad? You got some other girl thinking all niggas
think like this. See how you repeating the cycle? Stop it respectfully.
Happy Jesus Day, though bye bye s be bad good? What's up baby?
So yeah? Uh outfits. As you meet the representative in the first
ninety days probationary period of dating Royal Monopoly, ian C says, one of
these days you're gonna let me love you correctly. I am hollering so once
again, the theme for today is the reality of a situation. Be fucking
for real. Okay, then we just talked about how you know, some
of us are scared of that a word, accountability, But it's okay to
let your guard down for the right person. You know, if they're showing
up and showing out, they deserve that. It's the least we can do.
We can't treat everyone like they have committed the crimes that have been done
to us, because everyone didn't. It was that particular person. We also
have to acknowledge what part did we did we overlook red flags because the shit
smelled so good. Okay, So the next thing I want to talk about
is, especially with Valentine's Day coming up right, the holidays are always so
stressful to me because as much as I love to sit and enjoy the content
that you guys are coming out with, it also comes with that overflowing influx
of negativity from people who are comparing their lives to social media, like damn,
oh my god, she got this bag for Valentine's Day, she went
on this trip for Valentine's Day, or you know his girl dressed like that
when they went out, or x Y and Z like, please stop it,
please stop it. You are making my timeline crash. I hate it.
I hate it. I hate it, hate it, hate it.
Mulai, I don't want to see that shit, right, So instead of
just saying I don't want to see that shit, I wanted to offer a
little bit of help, right because I know with that comes the pressure of
I have to go above and beyond for Valentine's Day. I have to make
sure I spend my entire check, I have to make sure I wax from
the front to the back. Like it's so much that comes with it,
right, So I just want to say, let's start dating each other,
not ig Okay, let's start dating each other, not social media, like
especially when holidays come up, because it's like, bro don't go broke spending
your money on Valentine's Day for somebody who isn't gonna be here by a fourth
for July. Don't make sense. It don't make sense. It don't make
sense. Okay, don't go broke spending your money on somebody for Valentine's Day
who isn't even gonna be here by the fourth for July. It don't make
sense. And don't go broke spending money on your lady. Come on,
rely, all you had to do was just do something nice and easy and
suit would it? Like if you just like you, we do things even
when we're in love with the girl, we still gotta pay attention, Like
sometimes we just be on all the pilot with things. We gotta pay attention,
like don't don't go broke when you could have just literally rented a canoe
and did some ship and found a spot with some dragonflies because he likes some
shits, and you could have you would have been done. It would have
been a rap and broke some sandwiches and it would have been a rat.
Foolish ways says not even the fourth of July spring break? Come on like
cause she there you doe? And you know what else? Like yo,
once again, be fucking for real, Like did y'all just start dating?
Why are you expecting him to buy you a bag, take you on a
trip, do all these outlandish things? If y'all just started dating, that's
not a smart move to me, okay, and I know it's it ain't
tricking. If you got it, well, you know what, just because
you got it on mean you have to use it, not even that.
Sometimes it's not tricking, it's simple, okay, because if this person doesn't
have the cash influx to maintain this lifestyle, he's obviously doing this to impress
you. That's not impressive to me. I'm not impressed. Excuse me,
excuse me, riddle me. Unimpressed because I don't give a fuck. Okay,
Like I feel like when you jump out the window and do a whole
bunch of outlandish things right off the back. Sometimes it makes me feel like
you do this with every girl. Now I'm not special. Now you're just
a simple like hold on, hold on, hold on. And the only
reason I say this, I'm not talking about the people who have the funds
to do that. I mean the people you obviously know don't got the funds
to move that way. They just be up out the window throwing money at
you. Like, hmmm, pro tip, how you start it is how
you should finish exactly, exactly. Stuff like that doesn't make me feel good,
you know what I mean? Okay, let's go to the live hold
on? Uh neutral the badgie I don't know it says people may not know
how to effectively date in this hookup culture. That's I agree with that one
thousand percent. I definitely think that's that's true. Outfit says Outfite says,
go broke balling on V Day and don't make it so the show on the
seventeenth. I'm crying, Yo, I'm crying. Y'all get on my nerves
so bad. The first KP says social media got minds in a frenzy.
Absolutely, like, y'all don't even like that person. You just want something
to post, like can we be for real a little bit? Just a
little bit, just a little bit, and it's like, put your phone
down, you know. A wise prophet named doctor Umar said consciousness over Cucci
okay, And I feel like we need to tap into that a little bit
more because if y'all had some of that, y'all will understand that the way
y'all moving is a little problematic, just a smidge, just a smidge.
It's like, now, now, okay, I'm expecting you to maintain this
lifestyle in our relationship throughout our dating course, right, and it's like now
it flips too well, she's expecting X, Y and Z. She's a
gold digger. I'm a gold digger, but you led with money and now
I'm expecting the money. Hold on, wait a minute, so, like,
can we please just tap into you know, being fucking for real?
Valentine's Day isn't always about what gifts you're going to get. It's also about
the thought you put into the gifts, because to a certain group of women
like myself, you're throwing money in prizes and gifts that me doesn't impress me
the fuck else? Did you hear me talk about that Pokemon card I wanted?
Huh the holographic? Did you? Did you even look up to see
how much that costs? Where you can get a fro? Now? No?
Now, you just showed up with a fucking high ticket bag that I
don't even care about. Baby, I don't even care about bags. I
like my shits from targeting. You gotta know your audience and who you're playing
to, because maybe I don't give fuck. I give zero fucks. Okay,
so it's like, oh, just just don't don't jump out the window.
Let's let's make getting to know your partner and dating your actual partner and
not trying to just do shit for the gram cool again? Please please,
thank you? Uh, thank you? Seveny thret nine enterprises Outfice is holographic
Pokemon card costs more than the bag. I'm just saying, but which one
would I value more? Which one would I you more? Because it ain't
the bag, it ain't the fucking bag. Foolish way, he says.
So why isn't it easy to date Stormy Peat? Because you're gonna get sick
of me talking about fucking Power Rangers and doing cartwheels when I get drunk thinking
I can do park RP. Okay, you always be like, oh my
god, dating you seem so easy? Does it? Does it? Can
you handle my joint cast doing park r three am after we leave a cup?
Can you? Because it ain't for everybody. It ain't for everybody.
It ain't, it ain't and it ain't. Hold on, I was trying
to score back up, y'all. I lost my place. Okay, well
fuck it, we have to just go back down. We have to go
back down. Yeah, So that's just it. Let's just let's just get
back into dating our partners for the sake of dating we're supposed to do.
Yeah, go figure. Okay, So, speaking of spending money, I
think a lot of y'all problems is that you don't know your simp and this
is he's not gender specific. Yeah, I know, I know, I
know this is not gender specific. There are some women who intentionally spend money
on men just to get close to him, and you might not even realize
it. Every time you act, she's like, oh no, don't worry
about it. I guess you so food. Oh oh I saw this and
I was thinking about you, and I got this for you. Like,
oh, you know, don't even worry about that. Here goes some money
for a haircut. The only reason I call this all simp behavior is because
you know he don't like you like that. You know he's not interested in
you like that. You are intentionally trying to maintain your space by connecting with
him any way you can. And for a lot of minutes money which I
got in common money money, So I guess we're gonna spend it the simp
on the simp all right. And I say all this to say some of
us may not realize we're over spending. Simp or not, we're over spending.
And it's like, yo, just because you got a little bit of
money don't mean you gotta spend dead. You don't have to spend dead just
because you got some money. Don't mean you have to spend it. And
I feel like that's the lesson we all can take into account of. And
a lot of people be trying to act like they don't notice. They don't
notice. Just because you have a little bit of money don't mean you gotta
spend it. Stop asking me if you can park your car in my driveway
because you're on the REPO list. No in yourself, no no, no,
no no, no, you gotta BBL but you're sleeping on your friend
couch No yo, okay, crazy, No, save your money. Just
because you have money, don't mean you gotta buy that another car, don't
mean you gotta get a fucking another chain, Like, come on, every
time you get Somebodey, you gotta get another car, get another chain,
get something else done to your body? Like when when is it gonna stop?
Just because you got a little bit of money, don't mean you gotta
spend it, Like that little bit of money be burning a hole in y'r
pocket. Stop it, stop it. I'm sick of it. I'm sick
of it. I'm sick of you dragging me into your foolishness because you don't
know how to money manage that's not my problem. I want no parts.
I want no parts. Hayvy e C says playing hide and seek what the
repo man is an extreme sport. It absolutely is. And I don't want
you to tag me in. That's all I'm saying. I don't I don't
want any parts of it. I don't. Outfit says when that phone get
cut off, stomach growling, and next Netflix asks it for they fifteen dollars.
You going too far. You're going too far. You're going too far.
Like honestly, sit down and look at your ugly ass self and the
mirror and say, am I living about? Oh my god? Sit down,
and I want you to sit down, look at your ugly ass self
and a mirror and say, am I living above my means? Okay?
Every time I get something the next month is something getting cut off? All
right? And then you may want still out here trying to date baby,
Sit your ass down, since your ass you got bigger fish to fry.
You got other things you need to worry about. Okay. It shouldn't be
when your next slice of poon nani or when your next hard stick is coming
in. All right, we have bigger things to worry about. All right,
one of them being you ain't never had a piggy bank, didch you?
You ain't never seven? Stop crying, you can't get in, move
move, one of them being like, yo, baby, you ain't never
had a piggy bank, didch you? Okay? Now, don't get me
wrong, I think I might be talking from you know, I don't.
I don't think it would be a place of privilege, right, but maybe
a place of experience, right, Yeah, I was. I was that
person who like, okay, So I don't know how this worked for y'all,
but like growing up in Philly, when you got on a bus,
you got tokens, and when you went to school, to give you school
tokens, right, So growing up on all of it, my grandma she
was on like fixed income, so we didn't have like no extra funds to
me and my little brother. So I would walk to school or walk home
sometimes just so I can save the school token and sell it, right.
And then you know, when everybody got like their cell phones, my grandma
did not give me no fucking cell phone. I literally would like pack a
lunch and just take all my lunch money and use that to by minutes on
my phone. So it's like, I know, for certain conversations, I
speak from a different mindset because I've always been like, yo, if I
want it, I'm gonna get it. Not now that I have it,
I just have to spend it, spend it spending. But it's like,
bro, that same reason is why your girl ain't know on the repo last
it's kind of weird that we, like somebody doesn't understand that you You just
can't be balling out every single way. Yes, like I have to go
to work, yes, like I have a job. That's why I'm not
talking to you all day. And also, no, we cannot go to
Flemings again. I know you liked it, but I mean I have to
save up my money, you know what I mean? Like Gus, we
have tomorrow and the next day and the next day. Like no, niggas
don't niggas. I think retirement. He take seventy five. So like,
if you want to make it there, like if niggas want to make it
there, we can't be doing it. Some of us can't be doing that.
GM Sparaka says some things are a luxury but not an assessity, and
that right there, right there, that is a very important lesson to learn,
extend to sell. That's gonna be over wrapped. But you know what's
crazy. I think that people be so wrapped up and trying to keep up
with the jones is you don't realize that you gotta be brokeuss you already want
because you got the girls. You already got her attention. My gee,
you already have her attention. Why are you gonna go fuck it up?
Half Man five amazing says, you have layaway option for the tickets? No,
no, but I do take food stamps. No, I'm just shoking,
yo. You know what's crazy? If I could, I would fucking
take food stamps. Food is so expensive it is. Do you know how
expensive food is? Do you know that my son will be twelve on a
twelve? Baby? He's eating me out a house at home? Send help,
okay, send help, will work for food stamps? What's up?
I went? I got me child? My dog food was like sixty though.
Huh. Miss Tania Jane says, people who really have money be the
most frugal. That's why they have money. Yeah, exactly that part.
This girl gets it, She gets it, gets it like come on,
and Boogie says food too expensive. I don't even be hungry no more.
Yeah, I felt that on a spiritual level. But my black ad is
always hungry, like right now, which is hard for me. Hard for
me, I do be hungry all the time. Meach free mind says,
yeah, it's rymen for the next few weeks. Players, but that's okay
though, Li's sen what you do. Listen, as long as you are
focused on the ramen and I focused on we have to stay focused, like,
if you know it's rymen for the ne few weeks, stay out that
girl. Face, Lead that girl alone, don't eat, don't don't If
you know it's rymen for the next few weeks and you know that girl is
not one who wants to do a coffee date or walk in the park or
something like that, minjo business, Lead that girl alone. Lead that girl
alone. That's it, and that's all. Mind your business and leave that
girl alone. Okay. If you know that you're the type who's going to
ask a man for a bag of meal and experience that you can't afford on
your own, lead that man alone. Minjo business, minjo business, and
leave him alone. That's it, and that's all, period, period,
and boogie says, better chop some sausages in them noodlescuzo foolish ways said not
raymen Rama died yea, that's the name of the episode. Let me write
that down. Hold on ones saying die that is hilarious of bowl of rice.
Y'all nerves on my nerves. So I just want to go back into
what we were talking about, and you know, especially to like women,
because I'm not gonna lie. I love y'all, but a majority of us
do this. It's like y'all be asking men for things and women too,
no shade. Y'all be asking people for things that you can't provide on your
own. And I really be like, yo, do you want to partner
or a parent? Okay, because sometimes it'd be given very much. I
ain't need a sponsor. And it's like, ah, I know a lot
of men. I'm not gonna say a lot of men men period. Men
don't mind spending money on girls with money or girls that they like. Right.
So it's like when it comes straight with that begging energy, ah,
it transcends to like I'm grateful this, yeah, so like, but it
hits a little different when like, okay, so you keep asking me for
stuff. You can't even afford to give me anything that I want anyway,
Like I can't even get this and blah blah blah blah blah. And if
I didn't have this money, you won't even be fucking with me, you
know what It's like. It goes from like wow, like it's like that,
but then it's like, okay, well you're super ungrateful. That's why
it's like you can't be broken. You can't. And you know what,
you knew hoses is different. I'm here with y'all. You knew hose is
different. They used to because tricking and trickings and tricken was tricken. This
is an age old sport. We know this. But like now, y'all
don't even be acting like y'all like the niggas. No more, y'all just
expect the money. Like back in the day, you had to at least
pretend like y'all be giving city girls way too much credit. Bitch has been
tricking, okay, but back in the day it didn't seem like trick and
guzz you know, miss Tanya at least act like she like Uncle Earl because
it was everybody's uncle. Let's done at least act like she like Uncle Earl.
Now, y'all's be straight up front. Bruh, bruh, y'all don't
even pretend no more. Y'all just be like, yeah, and I need
this. How you doing today? Good? My rent? Do tomorrow?
Well? Bitch? Hello, hello, hello? Like what and this whole
thing like you're saying this on the twenty eighth two? Bruh, how was
you gonna pay your rent if you didn't me? How was you gonna pay
your rent if you didn't me? Uncle earl? Let me know? Because
do that? Do that right? And this whole like thing really really be
get me fucked up because I feel like what we want isn't realistic to the
lifestyle that we live, You know what I mean? Like what we expect
isn't always realistic to the lifestyle that we live. Like, Yo, you
want a nigga who makes six figures but you barely clear five? What the
fuck? How is this possible? How is this possible? Because my whole
thing is since where you expected me them at? Because the niggas who make
six figures don't be in the hood bars eating crab legs. And if we
are, if they are, they ain't looking for come on over there for
you either got there either because one of the home music is still fucking around
the hood and for some strange reasons, he just said that we had to
come here tonight. He only there because his cousin said, pull up,
it's his birthday. Hey, not there on the regular. Make it makes
sense. I'm here for the night, and I told him I was here
and that's why I'm here. Yes, yes, yes, but but hold
on, fellas, don't don't. Don't get two carried aways. Y'all be
in a ship too, all right, y'all want a woman with a low
body count, but you would have slept with the whole essence festival. Make
it make sense. We're not being realistic to the life that we live here.
Like how how like contrary to popular belief, we don't like know what
nigga that's been ran through either. I know that they don't talk about that
a lot, but we don't really We ain't jumping out the window for those
either. You know, like pro tip girls be talking about how they be
hitting us. I ain't know that. I was like a couple of years
ago, years old, when I found I was like, what do you
mean, y'all told my friends I hit. I was like, what do
you mean you hit? Yes? Like what you mean She's like yeah,
I was like what, yes, you hit? Like you know, that's
not how this wind it did define hit. But here's the thing, not
even that, like, I don't think men know that. Sometimes y'all be
passing around too, like sometimes I hit, and well not me, not
me In particular, there are women who will hit and then tell the best
room bitch, you gotta try this, okay, And they know they don't
want to take you seriously, so they don't care, so they'll just spin
you around and they're not gonna say nothing. Whole time. You are heard
moving like yeah, I hit the crew, the crew hit you, Like,
come on, that is some crazy shit. Boy. You gotta write
a skit about that. I do have to do a skit about it about
that community. Peen community pin is a real thing. And it's like bro,
I bro says whoever. Like long story short, The message needs to
be sometimes we really be living. Sometimes we really be expecting lifestyles that don't
match our lifestyle. And that's it. That's it, and that's all mid
City said. Nah Facts Outfit says women is big on suck my dick energy
these days, and Buggie says, these girls are just like us men.
I'm scared, especially if you run into women who are able to regulate their
emotions properly, Baby, they may be worse than the men. For real,
for real, for real, for real. Scottland Rock said, I
likes my woman's that have whole qualities. Outfit says the whole essence fest took
me out, well done, and but he said, let's be real girls
like niggas who get bitches. Though it's a difference, right, So exactly,
women like men who get bitches, but women like men even more who
can get bitches but are selective with the bitches he actually takes. So it's
like yes and no, Like we like attractive men that every woman is gonna
like turn her head and look at like, oh my god, that's you
bitchy. It is it is, you know what I mean? We like
that, But having a nigga that everybody ain't touched, or who ain't under
everybody comments, or who ain't just out here slanging diet like a sausage press,
we love that shit. We go crazy seriously the same way it is
for men, it is for women too. And I don't think y'all realize
that, like we do not like these pass around niggas that y'all be out
here trying to be. But I think the same way y'all say, those
not the girls were trying to wife those not the niggas were trying to wife
either. Like, I don't know what you want me to say. We'll
like, we'll play with you, We'll have some fun with you. We'll
waste our time. You will, Brent say, if you want always your
time, come on a waste your time with me. Yes, we be
on that tip too. We ain't talking to our friends about you, like
we ain't putting you in the group chat. We ain't talking to our moms
about you. You better be lucky. If I'm mentioning it to him a
therapist, Okay, you're not him, you're not him. You have a
purpose, you serve it, and that's it. That's it, that's it.
Not for everybody. But I'm saying, if you find a woman who
can regulate her emotions properly, you will be that for her. That's it.
And Bugie said, no, you're right. See I'm a little mileash
nigga, I got like ten k miles. I'm damned there new wheel no
fact ah YEA love it for President, says them niggas do. They just
don't talk about it, just like the real hole. Yeah, move along.
They don't make them like they used to. Ti Grind says comments are
not a factor. Hayvey e C. Says women love men with draft class
more selective than getting into Harvard. Stop talkings of me. Foolish Way says,
so take one. Don't be greedy, llol free samples, but don't
be a nigga with the bitches. Carolina Cash says I can't even lie.
I know a couple of female crews who sent messages me and I ain't complaining.
See say say, I'm listen. You remember how you asked a couple
of episodes how niggas would like to be slotted out right there. I don't
want to be with your friends, but you know, if you want to
send some ship up like that, okay, I mean I ain't gonna say
no, what okay, okay right on that type of time. Mid City
for Six says bro I've only had two real relationships and I be on my
solo ship for real. That's why I put my work in on my car,
y'all. Life Sometimes yeah, I think that, you know, just
to wrap all this up and put it all in a pin, you know.
Tommy him figure says, we be whores indoors, please understand, and
you know what those are the type of men that women like. Okay,
we like the whores indoors, But no, man, I think that,
like I said, sometimes we be expecting lifestyles that aren't conducive to the lifestyle
we actually live. And from these women expecting niggas who make six figures but
they barely clarify to the men who want women with low body counts, but
they've slept with everyone at the Essence festival. Like, sometimes we have to
be fucking for real. And I'm not saying lower your standards. I would
never. All I'm saying is be fucking for real. Let's be realistic and
pay attention to what's going to be actually obtainable. What isn't going to cause
a miracle from the heavens to get right? So, and what do we
need to work on ourselves? What areas do we need to work on ourselves
and to obtain these schools and obtain these people, because it's not always out
of reach. You just got to work on yourself to get it. Now,
I know something you'll be saying, Hey, you know, but how
is he supposed to clear his body count every sets every seven years? Like
a hope fex. Yeah all right, guys, So now we're going to
do the edible portion of the show. So the edible portion is where we
read questions, comments, concerns that you guys send in, and on the
day that we record, I usually put a prompt up for you guys to
send in your questions. But if you have a story or a question on
concerned and it's a day that I'm not recording, haven't put a prompt up,
you can always email me at inquiries at stormypea dot com. Now,
I ain't gonna lie of y'all. We were supposed to record on Thursday,
and we didn't record on Thursday. We're recording this on a Sunday. So
I just screenshot at all y'all questions and picked my favorites and yeah, this
is this is where we are today. So yeah, that's it. And
the first one it says, what advice would you give young men and young
women on their value. And I want you guys to tap in on a
live as well. So it says, uh, what advice would you give
young men and women? What the fuck? Oh? What advice would you
give young men and young women on their value? My only advice would be,
yesterday's price is not today's price. Okay. I feel like whenever you
talk to anyone who is a certified adult meaning I'm not putting an age on
it, I mean, you're paying your own bills, You're surviving on your
own, like you have responsibilities whatever they may be, a house, car,
dog, kid, cat, whatever. Right. One of the things
I hear most is I wish I would have waited. I wish I knew
my value. And this is from men and women. So my only thing
is yesterday price is not today's price. The sooner you realize your value,
your worth, the more you are able to get out of it for whoever,
don't care who that is, man, woman, trans, non binary,
whatever. Like knowing you're worth at an early age and knowing boundaries what
like hold up, big dog, you know your worth and you got boundaries
you're willing to stand on that like what come on now? Come on now?
And you didn't even reach your final form yet. Come on, what
because ladies, especially once that grown up body kick in. Baby, you
got your grown up body, you got standers, you're willing to stand on
your boundaries? What come on now? Come on now? Know your worth,
big dog, Know your worth now. To be fair, knowing your
worth is going to get very boring and very lonely very fast. But if
you hang on to that, baby, you can take over the world.
The world is yours, my mind, the world of yours papye like,
yeah, yeah, just stand on it. That's it, and that's all.
Stand on it. IG is telling me I have two minutes left on
my Live. How long have we been on Live today? That's some new
shit? Yeah, that's some new shit. Oh well, if I cut
off your I love y'all and I see y'all. Fybru seventeenth whatever, We'll
see you next week. But whatever. Yeah, I know how long have
we been to Live now? I'm not. I feel like we've been on
Live longer than this. Yeah three? Yeah, okay, Well that aside,
going back to knowing your value, knowing your worth is very boring and
it's very lonely. But if you are willing to stand on it and enforce
your boundaries. Uh, you literally can take over the world. Carolina Cash
says, until we thirty, ain't no damn value for men. We get
to treat our ship like Walmart rolleback prices. I don't, I don't.
I don't agree with that. I don't agree with that because I feel like
if a man knows his boundaries and knows his worth, he's able to get
to a bag quicker. For real, for real, Like, if you're
willing to stay focused and just grind, keep your nose down and not worry
about these bitches, you're able to get to the money quicker, whatever it
may be. You're able to obtain your goals quicker. To me, it
seems to me because all the niggas who wasn't out chasing kushi and was like
nerds and then they books and focus. All them niggas make bank. Now.
All them niggas I know who was like that get money now. The
only downside of that is because they didn't have as much experience with women.
I do see them falling victim to the holes and the gold diggers a little
bit much, which is why it pays to have a og like me because
I'm a better like Nah, bitch, no you can't. That's not smart.
What does she do for you? How does she make you feel?
So yeah, that's it. Oh man, my life ended. But yeah,
so yeah, my standpoint is always going to be standing on it.
Know your stand on it, and enforce it, and don't let people try
to trick you. That's it and that's all. So the next question,
this one really threw me for a loop. And every once in a while,
I'd like to give a little bit of background. Okay, so this
next cut, excuse me. This next question comes from a man. Okay,
keep this in mind, y'all know I do the same thing every week,
put up a question and it says, hey, ask me a question,
chocolate chip and sip live tonight. Just so people know that I'm going
to be reading, potentially reading these questions on said podcast. It might become
a clip X, Y and Z. All right, So this question comes
from a man and it says, can you take me out? You're giving
up some asks Like I don't know, I just feel like I feel like
when you come at me that specifically, it may be like, you know,
how you gonna pay me back? Cash grass or ass what's up?
Like I'm confused right now. All that aside, I do want to say
I'll be a funny, but like I don't mind taking guys out. But
it's like I don't know you and you specifically just say like, yo,
can you take me out? So now I'm like, oh, can you
eat me out? Like I don't. I don't know what we're doing where
we're doing, right, but I don't. I don't have a problem taking
men out, y'all know whatever. If I like you, I'm big trick,
big trick victor. All right, it's funny because my name is Victoria.
No, but I have a question, right because I know this is
always a very sensitive topic for men, But like, do y'all be feeling
a type of way when you're out and uh, you know, the bill
comes or it's time to pay for something and your ladies put the That's a
genuine question for me, fellas, do you okay, let me, let
me, let me, let me, let me take this back. Fellas,
is a girl you've been dating for a while, right, You're out
and it's time to pay for something and she slides your card down, do
you feel some type of way you said a while now, So if it's
not a while, you do feel a type of way, not like it's
deep, but it's just like, I don't know when you're just used to
doing something that you know just throws you off a little bit, like because
here's my problem, right because I want to take that back. Do you
feel a type of way period when a girl just slides her card down?
Like, fellas, do you feel a type of way when a girl just
slides her card down? Because like, for me, I've never been like,
you know, you gotta pay for me all the time, or you
know, energy can't be reciprocated. But like when I try to offer or
when I'm like, yo, chill like I got you like and I said
it like that. But it's not always masculine. Someone's like, yo,
you look very nice today. I'm so happy. We had a good time.
I'm enjoying myself. Can I pay? Like, why does that take
away from you being a gentleman? Or why do y'all feel like that attacks
your manhood? And this is a safe space, This is a safe space.
Just a question come from the ladies who like to spend it. Why
do y'all feel like that's attack on y'all manhood. I'm gonna go to the
Lite first. Yeah. Mob Gang said, it depends if I take you
out. If I asked to take you out, Ty Grind said, and
I've paid for plenty. I'm assuming there's another one up there. I just
thinking, idiot. Cheff night Wing says no, if the relationship has been
established for god, Kreflo says, it depends on how we got here.
Did you ask me? Were you using me? Was it needed? Ty
Grind said, no, I've had women pay for plenty. Half Man five
gentlemen says no, a true gentleman just turned his head as she pays.
He see exactly exactly. I was, wait, yea, then that's another
thing. That's another thing. But also you gotta understand, like there's reasons
why some girls don't want you to pay, Like I just feel like,
oh, so like when you when you when we first going out and we
know like and we're we all we understanding and we recognize with your adults,
I understand why some of y'all want to pay and you and you, so
it kind of makes it feel like, okay, well we're not on a
okay, so so we're not on this because I don't want to be compared
to that type of time, you understand. So it's like if we on
that type of time, that's where we at. That's what woral minds,
right, And we're not thinking about masculinity because you can't tell me I'm not
a man. Okay, Okay, So what you're saying is so some girls
will offer to pay because they don't want you to think you'all on a date,
right, that's your situation. Yeah, so you're just offering to pay
like that that could be in our mind. So it was like giving off
like, well, I mean I asked you out, so like, well,
to be clear, like you know, just because I'm paying, don't
mean you gotta give me no, but that's not the point, like or
you know, but you know, just in the same second, I yo,
just because I'm paying, don't mean you gotta give it up. It
don't mean I think we're in a relationship. Sometimes I just but let's be
real, everybody's roots are granted grounded traditionally, So like even men on your
life, we're all saying literally, we're saying hole under. Different ships were
grounded all on a traditional basis. So us just paying like you said,
a true gentleman is just gonna turn his head like I guess. Ty Grind
says, sometimes it's an anti coucie given tactic, like you have to you
have to weigh all your options, like okay, so like we were serious.
She sounded like she was excited to go on a date with me,
and then she's paying, like oh no, I got it, blah blah,
and then it's like not y'all doing y'all doing so like cool? And
then you know, sometimes do you hit them relationships that hit you're not talking
like y'all so like, yeah, I got it, bro. So you
think you're going into the friend zone. You could ask you on a date
now, you say. Gm Shparaka said, there's nothing wrong with that.
It will depend on how close we were. Action Jackson three two five says,
my dad taught me the man is always supposed to pay. U g
Wegg says a true gentleman. Tygrind said it doesn't have to be an attack
on manhood. Sometimes they just have low self esteem. Carolina Cash says,
hell, no real gentleman going to boost your head up and make you feel
like he ain't never had nobody willing to pay for two for twenty five.
Ah g Wegg says, this girl paid for my stuff randomly and Walmart.
I just said thank you? What she shooting? Her shot a baby?
You ain't follow up like was it or it could have been one of those
paying forward type jowins. But if ain't nobody pay for her, he was
paying attention, like baby, you missed? You shut? What's up?
Aaron Nash says, Oh, she about to get the diic dick. Yeah,
I don't know. I've always wondered that, Like it's always been so
much pushback when like women in general try to pay or treat a man,
and I always just want to know what's the problem. You're always going to
get that bashfulness, like you're always gonna get that because we just don't that's
not something and not Also like I like getting gifts, but I always act
like a dickhead because I'm like, oh, why did you do that?
You know? Like but it's like more so like that's not really I don't
think that's our lovely I don't think that's how we communicate like that, Like
we get you all gifts, we got flashy cars because of you. We
don't get all that, like if it was a thing, I want to
be wearing nice clothes when I go out. It's because I don't want to
embarrass my lady. That's why I'll be perfectly finding my sweatpants like I hold
in them from where I don't know where, and be chilling. But I
don't buy all this stuff for y'all. But so when you do things like
that, we don't. We don't love the same. So for goy Kreflo
said in all honesty, a real nigga going cash out if he wants you.
So I agree, right, A real a real man going cash out
if you want you. But guess what, so it's a real woman,
like if she likes you, she's going to spend on you. Like that's
That's the only thing that be confusing to me. And once again, we're
operating in a realm of people who haven't right, we're not talking about it.
Yeah we're talking. We're talking as adults when I'm talking about people who
are like stretched thin, Like I'm talking about in a realm of people who
have it right. They don't mind spending or sharing, especially if they value
your time, etc. Right, Like I always say, like to girls.
Don't be begging these niggas to take you nowhere. Don't be begging these
niggas to do nothing for you. If it's something that he's seeing you provide
for yourself and something that you like, yes he's going to do it.
Now. My whole thing is if he sees that every time you go out
with your girlfriends you have Fridays. No, he's not taking you to Stay
forty eight because that's not what you like, says because if it was,
you would go there on your own or with your friends. And it's not
right. But in the same token, expecting a woman to do like outlandish
things for you when you don't do them for you, you know what's crazy.
I can't even say that because women, when we give, we give
from a different place. So it's like I might be willing to get you
a whole bunch of Nike techs, you know, PS five because I know
you like it and I know I have it, Like we know that you
like these things. I think we're more thoughtful givers than men. Maybe can
we say that or no? Or it depends on the man which one.
Okay, listen, I ain't saying I was right all the time. Everything,
You're gonna be a hit. Sometimes I'm a miss damn it. Yeah,
outfit says, you ain't paying for my meal and then slide my boxes
to the side. Who ain't, who ain't? Who ain't. Let me
tell you something. If I'm wanted you better host. I'm in the womanly
mood. It's cool, y'all said. First of all, just because I
pay for your meal does not mean I'm expecting you to lift your hips up
and let me slide your boxes off. At the end of the day,
I'm not exactly. Sometimes I want to be a good person. Now that's
cool, but like you, you know, there's multiple reasons. Legacy j
Wu says, No, I feel empowered when they pay. I've been paying
all my life. When a woman pays, I feel like Rosa Park's not
getting out of that seat. Not during Black History Month, why y'all like
this? During Back History Month talking and we saw the ball. No,
we was talking about how when girls paid, the niggas stand behind him.
Yeah, boys know they feeling embarrassed because their girl paid, That's what he
said, behind them and hugging. That's why they act like that because it's
like it's it's it's different, but I mean, it is what it is.
It is what it is. I don't know why you'll be at tackling
your masculinity like you're a cluliar guy. You're taking the girl out. It
is what it is. Let's talk about this episode in its entirety. Today's
theme was the reality of the situation. We talked about how it's okay to
let your guard down for the right person. Don't go into a sewer and
then be surprised when Pennywise tries to eat your ass. Okay. We also
discussed we need to start dating each other, not social media. Okay.
For Valentine's Day and every holiday, enjoy your partner and get something that pertains
to them and what they would like, not what you think they think social
media would like. Okay. We also just talked about, you know,
stop letting that little bit of money burn a hole in your pocket. Just
because you got don't mean you gotta spend it. We need to learn to
live within our means. On the flip side of that, we need to
be realistic with our expectations. What are you looking for in a partner?
Is it something that you can provide for yourself or is it something that your
lifestyle would even have you in the same room as these people. You want
a man who makes six fickers, but you barely clear five. You want
a woman with a little body count, but you have smashed all of the
essence festival, let's be fucking for real. Okay. We also decided best
advice to give young men and women is to know your worth and then add
tex Okay, because yesterday's price is not two days price. Next, when
discussing women pain when taking men out, why is it so taboo? Why
do men feel like they're going to have to, you know, give up
some ass at the end of the night or it just makes them feel tomasculated.
I'm not gonna lie ya. I still won't have a good answer to
that, so please tap in, you know, call me, beat me
if you want to reach me. I still don't have a good answer for
that one. So yeah, that been' Let me know. Don't forget guys,
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