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Sure, what's up, beautiful people. It is your baby Mama, favorite

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baby Mama, Stormy Pea And this
is another episode of Chocolate Chip and Zip

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the modern day female perspective. Damn
Son back at it again. Uh,

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I'm not gonna lie. Y'all know
we'd be going live when we were recording.

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Before we started, somebody's gonna say, I seen you up Wheeler Grove.

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But she was with a nigga,
so I kept it pushing. First

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of all, y'all, I was
with stand and y'all already know standing it's

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not a nigga. Don't be out
here saying shit and people thinking I'm out

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here with somebody because I'm not.
In case, you know, a tall

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nigga with a turtleneck and a gold
chain wanted to know and a pretty smile

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like, hey, what's that?
I'm still outs right, Yeah, man,

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I just want to talk to y'all
about a few things. First,

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y'all already know I was gonna say
today is the last day, but by

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the time it's drops baby, y'all
missed it. I was gonna talk about

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the flash Sail, but yeah,
y'all missed it. So I'll just start

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with Philly We still have a few
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And I'm not gonna lie y'all.
This is gonna be some fly at

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shit like a production baby, it's
given very much production on. Okay.

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So when you come, make sure
you are dressed nice, all right.

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If you know you have a wife
and family at home, do not come

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with your side, bitch, because
you might be on TV. All right,

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So listen, join a conversation because
one thing about me, baby,

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I'm gona get started, all right. And I know a lot of y'all

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be having a lot of input when
we had these conversations. Man, if

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I was through, I would have
you looked at you and go overge okay,

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we'll show up, show up?
Then what's up? What's up?

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All right? Once again, click
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Philadelphia, World Cafe Live. Let's get

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it right. So all that aside
a few things I wanted to talk about

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this week, and you know,
lately, we've been having themes with all

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of our conversations, and I like
this idea because not only he doesn't keep

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us on track, but it really
drives home certain points. So for today,

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this week's theme is the reality of
the situation. Okay, because be

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fucking for real. Okay, be
fucking for real okay, And we're not

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talking about this physically, yes,
yes, So I wanted to start with

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you know, I had put one
of the clips last week me telling you

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guys about my Valentine's Day story from
last year in case some of you missed

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it. You know, I had
a guy he asked me in November to

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be his Valentine, and we got
to the restaurant on Valentine's Day and long

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story short, he told the waitress
we was gonna share a meal. I

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know, I know, it's crazy. If you want the full story,

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you got to go back and listen
to last week's episode. So once again,

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be fucking for real. And the
reason I say this is because,

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yes, this, this unfortunate chain
of events did actually happen to me in

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real life, like that is what
happened. But the reason I say be

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fucking for real is because there were
a lot of men, men men in

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the comments saying things like these,
the type of niggas y'all chose, These,

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the type of guys that y'all go
for, This is the type of

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energy you welcome. These the type
of guys that y'all have kids with.

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Bro, Be fucking for real,
Be fucking for real. I tell you

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that this man asked me for a
date five months, four or five months

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ahead of time. I tell you
that I gave him three different price options,

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but he chose one that was outside
of the list and higher than the

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list. And you tell me I
need to be fucking for real. You

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tell me these are the type of
guys that I chose. What about any

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of that said this nigga gonna be
a clown? Seriously seriously, because I'm

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all for accountability. But at one
point, at what point could I have

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sat back and said, this nigga
fin way my time, This nigga fanna

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make me share a meal? This
nigga fan that make me share andre at

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that? Like, at what point
with be fucking for real, bro,

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be fucking for real. Like I've
noticed that, And I'm not saying,

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Ah, there really is a small
portion. I'm not gonna say a small

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portion. There really is a portion
of men on the internet who want nothing

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but to see women who they can
never get a chance with suffer. And

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I say suffer. And the reason
I say that is because the men who

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we leave in these comments. It's
never the fine niggas. It's never the

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down to earth niggas. It's never
the niggas money, it's never the attractive

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no, no, no, no
no. There is just a selective,

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bitter group of men, the bitter
barneys. We're gonna call them, Okay,

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the bitter barneys be so happy anytime
an attractive woman it's suffering or having

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a hard time or enduring hardships.
Like something's wrong with y'all. Y'all need

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to go talk to the lady for
real, y'all need to fucking go talk

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to the lady. Bro please please, I have to interject just a little

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bit. Go ahead, I'm listening. I'm not defending the behavior, but

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just I think I have a little
insight on why maybe niggas act like that.

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Besides the climb and the social media
and niggas just hating on everybody,

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I kind of feel like, well, I'm around a lot of girls all

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the time because of my profession.
So like when girls come to my studio

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and they talk about their man and
then I finally meet the nigga. It's

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like when guys get around each other, we can pretty much tell. It's

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like a sixth sense. You everys
see guys just stare at each other pretty

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much reading each other. So you
can pretty much tell, like, oh,

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this nigga fuck boy without us even
talking about it. Like when you're

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hanging out with your bros and the
nigga come around, he trashed. We

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all start acting a certain way.
When you're acting around a nigga, that's

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good. We all just leave you
alone. Like if you ever think about

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it, we just okay, well
we could tell, so I think.

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So I think what's happening is is
like just a little bit is when y'all

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tell these stories and then we see
these niggas, we're like, well,

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clearly, but I don't think niggas
is really thinking like no, y'all might

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not be seeing what we've seen,
but we see it all the time.

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Because I got mad girls that'd be
like, oh sh like this big of

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blah bah. I'm like, yo, he tried to leave them alone and

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then y'all just don't fuck y'all just
keep I'll just keep popping in the car,

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like I don't think. I don't
all right, I don't dispute that

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I'm saying that. I do acknowledge
that. You know, just like women

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can tell that bitch is using you
for your money, men can probably tell,

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well, he's just trying to act
this way so he can fuck.

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I don't dispute it. I don't
think that they all think. I don't

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think that we but I don't think
those are the better barneys that I'm talking

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about. I'm talking about this particular
situation and the other situations where men are

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just happy to see like, Okay, well I can't get her, so

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now she's gonna be miserable, and
they're happy about that, like they're living

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in that foolish way, says Stormy. Don't have a fuckboard radar is what

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he's saying. No, No,
that's not what he was saying at all.

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I think, hold on, wait, I'm trying to screwl up.

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Hayvy Ec says. When the waiter
showed up, he was like, surprise,

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surprise, man. Fuck y'all all
right, long story short, I

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don't want to negate from the fact
that there is a group of bitter bernies

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on the Internet who just like to
see attractive women that they would never get

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a chance with, fail and be
miserable and suffer. That's it, because

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how y'all got to see from point
one is ridiculous. Notice how we skip

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two, three, four a B
We went straight to see? How the

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fuck y'all got there? I don't
know, but yeah, that's just it,

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And y'all need to go talk to
the lady. Yes, yes,

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all that aside once again, today
we're going to talk about the reality of

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the situation. Be fucking for real. I want to talk about a few

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things that, especially when we're on
our gourds internet, we like to pretend

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doesn't exist. Right, But my
whole standpoint has always been, like yo,

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people, ladies in particular, we
love to run from the A word,

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okay, And it's not anal okay. For the record, I think

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I don't think any of us would
think about some people might have, some

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people might have, all right,
for whatever reason, we love to run

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from the A word. And it's
not anal okay, it's accountability, all

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right. And with that being said, some of y'all fighting accountability is really

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what you're holding y'all back. All
right, So I know that in today's

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society, we always have this guard
up, like, oh, everybody's out

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to get this. Everybody's just trying
to take advantage of us, trying to

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get what they can get. X, Y and Z leave me, burn

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the fuck out. And I want
to say, it's okay to put your

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guard down for the right person,
right and heavy on for the right person.

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Okay, it's okay to put your
guard down for the right person.

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What I'm saying is, be fucking
for real. Don't go in the sewer

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and then be surprised when Pennywise try
to eat you the fuck up? Okay,

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can we be fucking for real?
Can we be fucking for real?

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Okay, don't go in the sewer
and then be surprised when Pennywise try to

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eat you. Okay, baby baby, I said, for the right person

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hitting, especially when your niggas play
with the balloon. Right, you saw

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that red balloon flowing niggas hit the
ship. You should have been like,

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come on, come on, somebody
hit the balloon. You saw that red

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balloon and you said, no,
this is fine, This is great,

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This is great, this is great. Like and when I say that,

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I mean, like you, sometimes
we give our attention to the wrong person.

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Like, No, all that time
and energy that we should be giving

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out, it should go to the
person who's asking you if you ate,

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if you need to be ached?
Okay, how are you doing physically,

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spiritually, mentally? How your grandmama
doing? I know you said she was

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having some problems with her sugar.
She good? Like, these are the

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people that we need to be pouring
into. It's okay to let our guard

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down for these people. If someone
is showing up and showing out paint on

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what you out, give them that. But when we continue to give our

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time, attention, our love,
our bodies to these fuck boys and fuck

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girls. Now we're on the internet
saying the day pool got pissing it?

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No, no, no, Like, can we be fucking for real for

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a second? Can we can?
We two things can exist. It can

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be fuck boys and fucking and hot
girls, but you can also have a

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lack of accountability at the same time, Like we all like we've all been

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wronged, but like we all had
an opportunity to learn from our mistakes and

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pick up something. So we can
do better the next time, and if

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you chose not to do that,
they're cool. But then, like she

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said, like anybody's gonna get your
bitch bruh, bruh, bruh. How

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many times you gonna play by that
sewer before you realize it's stank. It's

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stank, it's stank, and that's
not where you are supposed to be.

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But sometimes we don't be willing to
accept or acknowledge that the last four people

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played in our face the same way. It's only one common denominated here.

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It's you. It's you. So
it's like, yo, let's stand up

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and be like, humm, I'm
not gonna engage in that type of activity

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anymore. I'm not gonna give that
type of person my time anymore because it's

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not working. It's not working.
Like at the end of the day,

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once you start understanding that, your
gut's gonna start kicking in, like your

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guy's gonna be like yes, no, yes, foolish ways, but it's

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peace. I agree. Foolish way
says Penny Wise, is gonna get your

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bitch ass chat I missed because she
was lacking shut up, liberated, and

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Jason says, these are the kind
of mature conversations. I need more people

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to have come on somebody, yes, yes, listen. I mean,

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uh, I'm not sure what for
goud kreflow was talking to somebody about.

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But I can't go back on a
chat to like read the beginning. So

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I'm gonna I'm gonna keep going chat
beef. No, they're just going back

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and forth, but I can't jump
in on a conversation straight Savage nine one

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says, how is dating your neighbor
going? Sounds like the bitter barn news

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are bad guys. So also last
week we were talking about how why is

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it okay for men to have a
problem with their girl's whole friend, but

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they expect their girlfriends to ignore cheating
ask which is their best friend? Right?

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So I said, you know,
ches, your maal can put you

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in situations that can get you caught
up. And now my neighbor telling me

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that he's seeing you somewhere that you
shouldn't have been. And so once again

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the guys in the chat were like, well, it sounds like your neighbor's

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showing the fluckoo. So him saying
how is dating your neighbor going? Was

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with a lot of these are the
comments that you don't read out loud.

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Yeah, that's why I was like, yo, I don't remember no nigga

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saying that, because I had something
to say, I would have pulled them

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close, close close. The first
KP says, he was asking you why

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you went on a date in the
first place. I asked, why did

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you say yes to the guy who
asked you out? Oh you're talking about

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Valentine's saying like that. Oh yeah, no, I said that because because

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why not? It was it was
a I'm confused. I don't understand the

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question. Guys, sometimes I feel
like on the Internet, and this goes

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for guys and girls. Mm hmm. We want to prove a point so

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bad that we will literally google search
in our brains enough information to make ourselves

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seem right. Yeah, to the
point where you just come up with ridiculous

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situations in your head. For instance, everybody is their best selves during an

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interview. I would know I hire
and fire people and recommensess. Everybody is

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their best self during an interview.
And when you're talking to a girl,

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you're not gonna sit there and act
like you're a dickhead. This is true.

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Just like girls, they're not gonna
act like they're in it for your

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pockets. This is all true,
and we all been through that. But

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at the same time, there are
bad people out in the world and sometimes

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they gas just get duped. Now
at the same time, at the same

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time, there are flags that people
have to look for. If by if

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somebody's not paying you attention, if
they act like they over you, then

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they over you. You gotta read
the facts. But at the same time,

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we make mistakes. All this can
be true at the same time,

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it all can happen, But you
gotta hold yourself accoun at the end of

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the day, and if you don't, you're just gonna keep doing the same

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shit for real. Agreed, Asking
those dumb asked questions, did you make

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yourself so stupid? B bad?
You got some other girl thinking all niggas

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think like this. See how you
repeating the cycle? Stop it respectfully.

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Happy Jesus Day, though bye bye
s be bad good? What's up baby?

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So yeah? Uh outfits. As
you meet the representative in the first

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ninety days probationary period of dating Royal
Monopoly, ian C says, one of

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these days you're gonna let me love
you correctly. I am hollering so once

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again, the theme for today is
the reality of a situation. Be fucking

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for real. Okay, then we
just talked about how you know, some

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of us are scared of that a
word, accountability, But it's okay to

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let your guard down for the right
person. You know, if they're showing

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up and showing out, they deserve
that. It's the least we can do.

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We can't treat everyone like they have
committed the crimes that have been done

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to us, because everyone didn't.
It was that particular person. We also

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have to acknowledge what part did we
did we overlook red flags because the shit

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smelled so good. Okay, So
the next thing I want to talk about

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is, especially with Valentine's Day coming
up right, the holidays are always so

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stressful to me because as much as
I love to sit and enjoy the content

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that you guys are coming out with, it also comes with that overflowing influx

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of negativity from people who are comparing
their lives to social media, like damn,

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oh my god, she got this
bag for Valentine's Day, she went

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on this trip for Valentine's Day,
or you know his girl dressed like that

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when they went out, or x
Y and Z like, please stop it,

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please stop it. You are making
my timeline crash. I hate it.

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I hate it. I hate it, hate it, hate it.

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Mulai, I don't want to see
that shit, right, So instead of

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just saying I don't want to see
that shit, I wanted to offer a

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little bit of help, right because
I know with that comes the pressure of

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I have to go above and beyond
for Valentine's Day. I have to make

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sure I spend my entire check,
I have to make sure I wax from

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the front to the back. Like
it's so much that comes with it,

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right, So I just want to
say, let's start dating each other,

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not ig Okay, let's start dating
each other, not social media, like

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especially when holidays come up, because
it's like, bro don't go broke spending

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your money on Valentine's Day for somebody
who isn't gonna be here by a fourth

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for July. Don't make sense.
It don't make sense. It don't make

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sense. Okay, don't go broke
spending your money on somebody for Valentine's Day

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who isn't even gonna be here by
the fourth for July. It don't make

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sense. And don't go broke spending
money on your lady. Come on,

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rely, all you had to do
was just do something nice and easy and

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suit would it? Like if you
just like you, we do things even

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when we're in love with the girl, we still gotta pay attention, Like

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sometimes we just be on all the
pilot with things. We gotta pay attention,

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like don't don't go broke when you
could have just literally rented a canoe

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and did some ship and found a
spot with some dragonflies because he likes some

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shits, and you could have you
would have been done. It would have

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been a rap and broke some sandwiches
and it would have been a rat.

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Foolish ways says not even the fourth
of July spring break? Come on like

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cause she there you doe? And
you know what else? Like yo,

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once again, be fucking for real, Like did y'all just start dating?

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Why are you expecting him to buy
you a bag, take you on a

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trip, do all these outlandish things? If y'all just started dating, that's

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not a smart move to me,
okay, and I know it's it ain't

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tricking. If you got it,
well, you know what, just because

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you got it on mean you have
to use it, not even that.

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Sometimes it's not tricking, it's simple, okay, because if this person doesn't

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have the cash influx to maintain this
lifestyle, he's obviously doing this to impress

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you. That's not impressive to me. I'm not impressed. Excuse me,

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excuse me, riddle me. Unimpressed
because I don't give a fuck. Okay,

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Like I feel like when you jump
out the window and do a whole

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bunch of outlandish things right off the
back. Sometimes it makes me feel like

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you do this with every girl.
Now I'm not special. Now you're just

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a simple like hold on, hold
on, hold on. And the only

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reason I say this, I'm not
talking about the people who have the funds

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to do that. I mean the
people you obviously know don't got the funds

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to move that way. They just
be up out the window throwing money at

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you. Like, hmmm, pro
tip, how you start it is how

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you should finish exactly, exactly.
Stuff like that doesn't make me feel good,

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you know what I mean? Okay, let's go to the live hold

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on? Uh neutral the badgie I
don't know it says people may not know

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how to effectively date in this hookup
culture. That's I agree with that one

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thousand percent. I definitely think that's
that's true. Outfit says Outfite says,

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go broke balling on V Day and
don't make it so the show on the

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seventeenth. I'm crying, Yo,
I'm crying. Y'all get on my nerves

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so bad. The first KP says
social media got minds in a frenzy.

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Absolutely, like, y'all don't even
like that person. You just want something

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to post, like can we be
for real a little bit? Just a

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little bit, just a little bit, and it's like, put your phone

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down, you know. A wise
prophet named doctor Umar said consciousness over Cucci

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okay, And I feel like we
need to tap into that a little bit

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more because if y'all had some of
that, y'all will understand that the way

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y'all moving is a little problematic,
just a smidge, just a smidge.

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It's like, now, now,
okay, I'm expecting you to maintain this

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lifestyle in our relationship throughout our dating
course, right, and it's like now

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it flips too well, she's expecting
X, Y and Z. She's a

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gold digger. I'm a gold digger, but you led with money and now

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I'm expecting the money. Hold on, wait a minute, so, like,

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can we please just tap into you
know, being fucking for real?

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Valentine's Day isn't always about what gifts
you're going to get. It's also about

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the thought you put into the gifts, because to a certain group of women

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like myself, you're throwing money in
prizes and gifts that me doesn't impress me

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the fuck else? Did you hear
me talk about that Pokemon card I wanted?

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Huh the holographic? Did you?
Did you even look up to see

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how much that costs? Where you
can get a fro? Now? No?

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Now, you just showed up with
a fucking high ticket bag that I

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don't even care about. Baby,
I don't even care about bags. I

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like my shits from targeting. You
gotta know your audience and who you're playing

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to, because maybe I don't give
fuck. I give zero fucks. Okay,

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so it's like, oh, just
just don't don't jump out the window.

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Let's let's make getting to know your
partner and dating your actual partner and

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not trying to just do shit for
the gram cool again? Please please,

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thank you? Uh, thank you? Seveny thret nine enterprises Outfice is holographic

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Pokemon card costs more than the bag. I'm just saying, but which one

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would I value more? Which one
would I you more? Because it ain't

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the bag, it ain't the fucking
bag. Foolish way, he says.

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So why isn't it easy to date
Stormy Peat? Because you're gonna get sick

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of me talking about fucking Power Rangers
and doing cartwheels when I get drunk thinking

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I can do park RP. Okay, you always be like, oh my

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god, dating you seem so easy? Does it? Does it? Can

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you handle my joint cast doing park
r three am after we leave a cup?

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Can you? Because it ain't for
everybody. It ain't for everybody.

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It ain't, it ain't and it
ain't. Hold on, I was trying

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to score back up, y'all.
I lost my place. Okay, well

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fuck it, we have to just
go back down. We have to go

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back down. Yeah, So that's
just it. Let's just let's just get

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back into dating our partners for the
sake of dating we're supposed to do.

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Yeah, go figure. Okay,
So, speaking of spending money, I

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think a lot of y'all problems is
that you don't know your simp and this

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is he's not gender specific. Yeah, I know, I know, I

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know this is not gender specific.
There are some women who intentionally spend money

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on men just to get close to
him, and you might not even realize

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it. Every time you act,
she's like, oh no, don't worry

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about it. I guess you so
food. Oh oh I saw this and

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I was thinking about you, and
I got this for you. Like,

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oh, you know, don't even
worry about that. Here goes some money

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for a haircut. The only reason
I call this all simp behavior is because

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you know he don't like you like
that. You know he's not interested in

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you like that. You are intentionally
trying to maintain your space by connecting with

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him any way you can. And
for a lot of minutes money which I

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got in common money money, So
I guess we're gonna spend it the simp

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on the simp all right. And
I say all this to say some of

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us may not realize we're over spending. Simp or not, we're over spending.

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And it's like, yo, just
because you got a little bit of

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money don't mean you gotta spend dead. You don't have to spend dead just

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because you got some money. Don't
mean you have to spend it. And

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I feel like that's the lesson we
all can take into account of. And

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a lot of people be trying to
act like they don't notice. They don't

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notice. Just because you have a
little bit of money don't mean you gotta

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spend it. Stop asking me if
you can park your car in my driveway

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because you're on the REPO list.
No in yourself, no no, no,

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no no, no, you gotta
BBL but you're sleeping on your friend

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couch No yo, okay, crazy, No, save your money. Just

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because you have money, don't mean
you gotta buy that another car, don't

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mean you gotta get a fucking another
chain, Like, come on, every

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time you get Somebodey, you gotta
get another car, get another chain,

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get something else done to your body? Like when when is it gonna stop?

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Just because you got a little bit
of money, don't mean you gotta

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spend it, Like that little bit
of money be burning a hole in y'r

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pocket. Stop it, stop it. I'm sick of it. I'm sick

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of it. I'm sick of you
dragging me into your foolishness because you don't

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know how to money manage that's not
my problem. I want no parts.

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I want no parts. Hayvy e
C says playing hide and seek what the

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repo man is an extreme sport.
It absolutely is. And I don't want

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you to tag me in. That's
all I'm saying. I don't I don't

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want any parts of it. I
don't. Outfit says when that phone get

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cut off, stomach growling, and
next Netflix asks it for they fifteen dollars.

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You going too far. You're going
too far. You're going too far.

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Like honestly, sit down and look
at your ugly ass self and the

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mirror and say, am I living
about? Oh my god? Sit down,

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and I want you to sit down, look at your ugly ass self

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and a mirror and say, am
I living above my means? Okay?

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Every time I get something the next
month is something getting cut off? All

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right? And then you may want
still out here trying to date baby,

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Sit your ass down, since your
ass you got bigger fish to fry.

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You got other things you need to
worry about. Okay. It shouldn't be

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when your next slice of poon nani
or when your next hard stick is coming

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in. All right, we have
bigger things to worry about. All right,

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one of them being you ain't never
had a piggy bank, didch you?

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You ain't never seven? Stop crying, you can't get in, move

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move, one of them being like, yo, baby, you ain't never

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had a piggy bank, didch you? Okay? Now, don't get me

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wrong, I think I might be
talking from you know, I don't.

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I don't think it would be a
place of privilege, right, but maybe

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a place of experience, right,
Yeah, I was. I was that

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person who like, okay, So
I don't know how this worked for y'all,

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but like growing up in Philly,
when you got on a bus,

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you got tokens, and when you
went to school, to give you school

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tokens, right, So growing up
on all of it, my grandma she

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was on like fixed income, so
we didn't have like no extra funds to

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me and my little brother. So
I would walk to school or walk home

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sometimes just so I can save the
school token and sell it, right.

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And then you know, when everybody
got like their cell phones, my grandma

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did not give me no fucking cell
phone. I literally would like pack a

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lunch and just take all my lunch
money and use that to by minutes on

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my phone. So it's like,
I know, for certain conversations, I

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speak from a different mindset because I've
always been like, yo, if I

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want it, I'm gonna get it. Not now that I have it,

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I just have to spend it,
spend it spending. But it's like,

405
00:27:33.839 --> 00:27:36.920
bro, that same reason is why
your girl ain't know on the repo last

406
00:27:37.799 --> 00:27:41.200
it's kind of weird that we,
like somebody doesn't understand that you You just

407
00:27:41.200 --> 00:27:45.680
can't be balling out every single way. Yes, like I have to go

408
00:27:45.720 --> 00:27:48.759
to work, yes, like I
have a job. That's why I'm not

409
00:27:48.759 --> 00:27:51.440
talking to you all day. And
also, no, we cannot go to

410
00:27:51.559 --> 00:27:55.160
Flemings again. I know you liked
it, but I mean I have to

411
00:27:55.160 --> 00:27:56.160
save up my money, you know
what I mean? Like Gus, we

412
00:27:56.240 --> 00:28:00.279
have tomorrow and the next day and
the next day. Like no, niggas

413
00:28:00.319 --> 00:28:03.680
don't niggas. I think retirement.
He take seventy five. So like,

414
00:28:03.720 --> 00:28:07.720
if you want to make it there, like if niggas want to make it

415
00:28:07.759 --> 00:28:11.240
there, we can't be doing it. Some of us can't be doing that.

416
00:28:11.599 --> 00:28:15.720
GM Sparaka says some things are a
luxury but not an assessity, and

417
00:28:15.839 --> 00:28:19.799
that right there, right there,
that is a very important lesson to learn,

418
00:28:19.839 --> 00:28:23.519
extend to sell. That's gonna be
over wrapped. But you know what's

419
00:28:23.559 --> 00:28:26.960
crazy. I think that people be
so wrapped up and trying to keep up

420
00:28:27.000 --> 00:28:32.559
with the jones is you don't realize
that you gotta be brokeuss you already want

421
00:28:32.599 --> 00:28:34.559
because you got the girls. You
already got her attention. My gee,

422
00:28:34.799 --> 00:28:37.920
you already have her attention. Why
are you gonna go fuck it up?

423
00:28:37.880 --> 00:28:42.279
Half Man five amazing says, you
have layaway option for the tickets? No,

424
00:28:42.279 --> 00:28:45.559
no, but I do take food
stamps. No, I'm just shoking,

425
00:28:45.640 --> 00:28:48.279
yo. You know what's crazy?
If I could, I would fucking

426
00:28:48.319 --> 00:28:51.680
take food stamps. Food is so
expensive it is. Do you know how

427
00:28:51.720 --> 00:28:53.640
expensive food is? Do you know
that my son will be twelve on a

428
00:28:53.680 --> 00:28:57.559
twelve? Baby? He's eating me
out a house at home? Send help,

429
00:28:57.960 --> 00:29:02.440
okay, send help, will work
for food stamps? What's up?

430
00:29:03.240 --> 00:29:08.480
I went? I got me child? My dog food was like sixty though.

431
00:29:11.599 --> 00:29:15.559
Huh. Miss Tania Jane says,
people who really have money be the

432
00:29:15.559 --> 00:29:18.319
most frugal. That's why they have
money. Yeah, exactly that part.

433
00:29:18.400 --> 00:29:23.400
This girl gets it, She gets
it, gets it like come on,

434
00:29:25.240 --> 00:29:27.440
and Boogie says food too expensive.
I don't even be hungry no more.

435
00:29:32.920 --> 00:29:36.640
Yeah, I felt that on a
spiritual level. But my black ad is

436
00:29:36.640 --> 00:29:41.680
always hungry, like right now,
which is hard for me. Hard for

437
00:29:41.759 --> 00:29:45.319
me, I do be hungry all
the time. Meach free mind says,

438
00:29:45.440 --> 00:29:48.359
yeah, it's rymen for the next
few weeks. Players, but that's okay

439
00:29:48.359 --> 00:29:52.839
though, Li's sen what you do. Listen, as long as you are

440
00:29:52.880 --> 00:29:57.240
focused on the ramen and I focused
on we have to stay focused, like,

441
00:29:57.599 --> 00:30:00.039
if you know it's rymen for the
ne few weeks, stay out that

442
00:30:00.079 --> 00:30:03.640
girl. Face, Lead that girl
alone, don't eat, don't don't If

443
00:30:03.680 --> 00:30:07.440
you know it's rymen for the next
few weeks and you know that girl is

444
00:30:07.480 --> 00:30:11.359
not one who wants to do a
coffee date or walk in the park or

445
00:30:11.400 --> 00:30:14.839
something like that, minjo business,
Lead that girl alone. Lead that girl

446
00:30:14.839 --> 00:30:18.119
alone. That's it, and that's
all. Mind your business and leave that

447
00:30:18.200 --> 00:30:21.519
girl alone. Okay. If you
know that you're the type who's going to

448
00:30:21.599 --> 00:30:26.119
ask a man for a bag of
meal and experience that you can't afford on

449
00:30:26.200 --> 00:30:29.960
your own, lead that man alone. Minjo business, minjo business, and

450
00:30:30.039 --> 00:30:32.519
leave him alone. That's it,
and that's all, period, period,

451
00:30:33.359 --> 00:30:41.359
and boogie says, better chop some
sausages in them noodlescuzo foolish ways said not

452
00:30:41.519 --> 00:30:57.319
raymen Rama died yea, that's the
name of the episode. Let me write

453
00:30:57.359 --> 00:31:07.079
that down. Hold on ones saying
die that is hilarious of bowl of rice.

454
00:31:07.759 --> 00:31:11.759
Y'all nerves on my nerves. So
I just want to go back into

455
00:31:11.799 --> 00:31:17.160
what we were talking about, and
you know, especially to like women,

456
00:31:17.200 --> 00:31:19.759
because I'm not gonna lie. I
love y'all, but a majority of us

457
00:31:22.119 --> 00:31:26.920
do this. It's like y'all be
asking men for things and women too,

458
00:31:26.240 --> 00:31:30.319
no shade. Y'all be asking people
for things that you can't provide on your

459
00:31:30.359 --> 00:31:34.200
own. And I really be like, yo, do you want to partner

460
00:31:34.599 --> 00:31:40.039
or a parent? Okay, because
sometimes it'd be given very much. I

461
00:31:40.039 --> 00:31:42.559
ain't need a sponsor. And it's
like, ah, I know a lot

462
00:31:42.599 --> 00:31:45.480
of men. I'm not gonna say
a lot of men men period. Men

463
00:31:45.519 --> 00:31:51.160
don't mind spending money on girls with
money or girls that they like. Right.

464
00:31:51.680 --> 00:31:56.759
So it's like when it comes straight
with that begging energy, ah,

465
00:31:56.000 --> 00:32:00.960
it transcends to like I'm grateful this, yeah, so like, but it

466
00:32:01.039 --> 00:32:06.359
hits a little different when like,
okay, so you keep asking me for

467
00:32:06.359 --> 00:32:08.839
stuff. You can't even afford to
give me anything that I want anyway,

468
00:32:09.119 --> 00:32:13.400
Like I can't even get this and
blah blah blah blah blah. And if

469
00:32:13.400 --> 00:32:15.880
I didn't have this money, you
won't even be fucking with me, you

470
00:32:15.920 --> 00:32:20.519
know what It's like. It goes
from like wow, like it's like that,

471
00:32:20.559 --> 00:32:22.599
but then it's like, okay,
well you're super ungrateful. That's why

472
00:32:22.599 --> 00:32:27.039
it's like you can't be broken.
You can't. And you know what,

473
00:32:27.599 --> 00:32:30.799
you knew hoses is different. I'm
here with y'all. You knew hose is

474
00:32:30.839 --> 00:32:36.200
different. They used to because tricking
and trickings and tricken was tricken. This

475
00:32:36.240 --> 00:32:38.880
is an age old sport. We
know this. But like now, y'all

476
00:32:38.880 --> 00:32:42.559
don't even be acting like y'all like
the niggas. No more, y'all just

477
00:32:42.599 --> 00:32:45.640
expect the money. Like back in
the day, you had to at least

478
00:32:45.640 --> 00:32:50.079
pretend like y'all be giving city girls
way too much credit. Bitch has been

479
00:32:50.079 --> 00:32:52.519
tricking, okay, but back in
the day it didn't seem like trick and

480
00:32:52.559 --> 00:32:57.720
guzz you know, miss Tanya at
least act like she like Uncle Earl because

481
00:32:57.759 --> 00:33:02.359
it was everybody's uncle. Let's done
at least act like she like Uncle Earl.

482
00:33:02.720 --> 00:33:07.559
Now, y'all's be straight up front. Bruh, bruh, y'all don't

483
00:33:07.559 --> 00:33:09.640
even pretend no more. Y'all just
be like, yeah, and I need

484
00:33:09.640 --> 00:33:13.160
this. How you doing today?
Good? My rent? Do tomorrow?

485
00:33:13.200 --> 00:33:20.000
Well? Bitch? Hello, hello, hello? Like what and this whole

486
00:33:20.160 --> 00:33:24.599
thing like you're saying this on the
twenty eighth two? Bruh, how was

487
00:33:24.599 --> 00:33:29.680
you gonna pay your rent if you
didn't me? How was you gonna pay

488
00:33:29.720 --> 00:33:31.440
your rent if you didn't me?
Uncle earl? Let me know? Because

489
00:33:31.480 --> 00:33:37.960
do that? Do that right?
And this whole like thing really really be

490
00:33:37.680 --> 00:33:43.920
get me fucked up because I feel
like what we want isn't realistic to the

491
00:33:43.960 --> 00:33:46.599
lifestyle that we live, You know
what I mean? Like what we expect

492
00:33:46.759 --> 00:33:52.119
isn't always realistic to the lifestyle that
we live. Like, Yo, you

493
00:33:52.440 --> 00:33:55.440
want a nigga who makes six figures
but you barely clear five? What the

494
00:33:55.559 --> 00:34:02.240
fuck? How is this possible?
How is this possible? Because my whole

495
00:34:02.240 --> 00:34:06.559
thing is since where you expected me
them at? Because the niggas who make

496
00:34:06.640 --> 00:34:09.599
six figures don't be in the hood
bars eating crab legs. And if we

497
00:34:09.639 --> 00:34:15.880
are, if they are, they
ain't looking for come on over there for

498
00:34:15.559 --> 00:34:20.519
you either got there either because one
of the home music is still fucking around

499
00:34:20.599 --> 00:34:22.639
the hood and for some strange reasons, he just said that we had to

500
00:34:22.639 --> 00:34:25.599
come here tonight. He only there
because his cousin said, pull up,

501
00:34:25.639 --> 00:34:29.719
it's his birthday. Hey, not
there on the regular. Make it makes

502
00:34:29.719 --> 00:34:31.079
sense. I'm here for the night, and I told him I was here

503
00:34:31.119 --> 00:34:35.320
and that's why I'm here. Yes, yes, yes, but but hold

504
00:34:35.360 --> 00:34:37.559
on, fellas, don't don't.
Don't get two carried aways. Y'all be

505
00:34:37.599 --> 00:34:39.400
in a ship too, all right, y'all want a woman with a low

506
00:34:39.440 --> 00:34:44.039
body count, but you would have
slept with the whole essence festival. Make

507
00:34:44.079 --> 00:34:47.280
it make sense. We're not being
realistic to the life that we live here.

508
00:34:47.880 --> 00:34:53.320
Like how how like contrary to popular
belief, we don't like know what

509
00:34:53.400 --> 00:34:57.280
nigga that's been ran through either.
I know that they don't talk about that

510
00:34:57.320 --> 00:35:01.199
a lot, but we don't really
We ain't jumping out the window for those

511
00:35:01.239 --> 00:35:05.519
either. You know, like pro
tip girls be talking about how they be

512
00:35:05.639 --> 00:35:08.440
hitting us. I ain't know that. I was like a couple of years

513
00:35:08.480 --> 00:35:10.159
ago, years old, when I
found I was like, what do you

514
00:35:10.239 --> 00:35:12.880
mean, y'all told my friends I
hit. I was like, what do

515
00:35:12.880 --> 00:35:15.280
you mean you hit? Yes?
Like what you mean She's like yeah,

516
00:35:15.320 --> 00:35:17.840
I was like what, yes,
you hit? Like you know, that's

517
00:35:17.880 --> 00:35:22.880
not how this wind it did define
hit. But here's the thing, not

518
00:35:22.960 --> 00:35:27.639
even that, like, I don't
think men know that. Sometimes y'all be

519
00:35:27.639 --> 00:35:30.880
passing around too, like sometimes I
hit, and well not me, not

520
00:35:31.000 --> 00:35:36.280
me In particular, there are women
who will hit and then tell the best

521
00:35:36.320 --> 00:35:38.159
room bitch, you gotta try this, okay, And they know they don't

522
00:35:38.159 --> 00:35:40.679
want to take you seriously, so
they don't care, so they'll just spin

523
00:35:40.760 --> 00:35:44.440
you around and they're not gonna say
nothing. Whole time. You are heard

524
00:35:44.480 --> 00:35:46.440
moving like yeah, I hit the
crew, the crew hit you, Like,

525
00:35:46.480 --> 00:35:50.599
come on, that is some crazy
shit. Boy. You gotta write

526
00:35:50.599 --> 00:35:53.480
a skit about that. I do
have to do a skit about it about

527
00:35:53.519 --> 00:36:00.800
that community. Peen community pin is
a real thing. And it's like bro,

528
00:36:01.199 --> 00:36:06.480
I bro says whoever. Like long
story short, The message needs to

529
00:36:06.519 --> 00:36:13.840
be sometimes we really be living.
Sometimes we really be expecting lifestyles that don't

530
00:36:13.880 --> 00:36:17.079
match our lifestyle. And that's it. That's it, and that's all mid

531
00:36:17.079 --> 00:36:22.639
City said. Nah Facts Outfit says
women is big on suck my dick energy

532
00:36:22.639 --> 00:36:30.039
these days, and Buggie says,
these girls are just like us men.

533
00:36:30.159 --> 00:36:34.119
I'm scared, especially if you run
into women who are able to regulate their

534
00:36:34.159 --> 00:36:37.360
emotions properly, Baby, they may
be worse than the men. For real,

535
00:36:37.440 --> 00:36:42.519
for real, for real, for
real. Scottland Rock said, I

536
00:36:42.639 --> 00:36:47.480
likes my woman's that have whole qualities. Outfit says the whole essence fest took

537
00:36:47.519 --> 00:36:52.599
me out, well done, and
but he said, let's be real girls

538
00:36:52.599 --> 00:36:59.960
like niggas who get bitches. Though
it's a difference, right, So exactly,

539
00:37:00.280 --> 00:37:07.519
women like men who get bitches,
but women like men even more who

540
00:37:07.880 --> 00:37:10.840
can get bitches but are selective with
the bitches he actually takes. So it's

541
00:37:10.880 --> 00:37:15.000
like yes and no, Like we
like attractive men that every woman is gonna

542
00:37:15.119 --> 00:37:19.159
like turn her head and look at
like, oh my god, that's you

543
00:37:19.239 --> 00:37:22.280
bitchy. It is it is,
you know what I mean? We like

544
00:37:22.360 --> 00:37:25.599
that, But having a nigga that
everybody ain't touched, or who ain't under

545
00:37:25.639 --> 00:37:30.800
everybody comments, or who ain't just
out here slanging diet like a sausage press,

546
00:37:30.840 --> 00:37:37.679
we love that shit. We go
crazy seriously the same way it is

547
00:37:37.719 --> 00:37:40.880
for men, it is for women
too. And I don't think y'all realize

548
00:37:40.920 --> 00:37:45.400
that, like we do not like
these pass around niggas that y'all be out

549
00:37:45.440 --> 00:37:51.079
here trying to be. But I
think the same way y'all say, those

550
00:37:51.159 --> 00:37:54.039
not the girls were trying to wife
those not the niggas were trying to wife

551
00:37:54.039 --> 00:37:57.320
either. Like, I don't know
what you want me to say. We'll

552
00:37:57.400 --> 00:37:59.480
like, we'll play with you,
We'll have some fun with you. We'll

553
00:37:59.480 --> 00:38:01.519
waste our time. You will,
Brent say, if you want always your

554
00:38:01.639 --> 00:38:07.519
time, come on a waste your
time with me. Yes, we be

555
00:38:07.599 --> 00:38:10.559
on that tip too. We ain't
talking to our friends about you, like

556
00:38:10.920 --> 00:38:14.920
we ain't putting you in the group
chat. We ain't talking to our moms

557
00:38:14.920 --> 00:38:16.400
about you. You better be lucky. If I'm mentioning it to him a

558
00:38:16.440 --> 00:38:20.920
therapist, Okay, you're not him, you're not him. You have a

559
00:38:20.920 --> 00:38:23.119
purpose, you serve it, and
that's it. That's it, that's it.

560
00:38:23.280 --> 00:38:27.000
Not for everybody. But I'm saying, if you find a woman who

561
00:38:27.000 --> 00:38:30.440
can regulate her emotions properly, you
will be that for her. That's it.

562
00:38:30.840 --> 00:38:34.360
And Bugie said, no, you're
right. See I'm a little mileash

563
00:38:34.440 --> 00:38:37.239
nigga, I got like ten k
miles. I'm damned there new wheel no

564
00:38:37.519 --> 00:38:44.639
fact ah YEA love it for President, says them niggas do. They just

565
00:38:44.639 --> 00:38:47.599
don't talk about it, just like
the real hole. Yeah, move along.

566
00:38:47.840 --> 00:38:51.840
They don't make them like they used
to. Ti Grind says comments are

567
00:38:51.880 --> 00:38:57.280
not a factor. Hayvey e C. Says women love men with draft class

568
00:38:57.599 --> 00:39:01.639
more selective than getting into Harvard.
Stop talkings of me. Foolish Way says,

569
00:39:01.840 --> 00:39:06.360
so take one. Don't be greedy, llol free samples, but don't

570
00:39:06.360 --> 00:39:09.679
be a nigga with the bitches.
Carolina Cash says I can't even lie.

571
00:39:09.719 --> 00:39:14.320
I know a couple of female crews
who sent messages me and I ain't complaining.

572
00:39:14.800 --> 00:39:20.320
See say say, I'm listen.
You remember how you asked a couple

573
00:39:20.320 --> 00:39:25.599
of episodes how niggas would like to
be slotted out right there. I don't

574
00:39:25.639 --> 00:39:28.840
want to be with your friends,
but you know, if you want to

575
00:39:28.840 --> 00:39:30.599
send some ship up like that,
okay, I mean I ain't gonna say

576
00:39:30.679 --> 00:39:37.400
no, what okay, okay right
on that type of time. Mid City

577
00:39:37.559 --> 00:39:42.360
for Six says bro I've only had
two real relationships and I be on my

578
00:39:42.400 --> 00:39:45.400
solo ship for real. That's why
I put my work in on my car,

579
00:39:46.400 --> 00:39:54.280
y'all. Life Sometimes yeah, I
think that, you know, just

580
00:39:54.320 --> 00:39:59.119
to wrap all this up and put
it all in a pin, you know.

581
00:40:00.960 --> 00:40:05.679
Tommy him figure says, we be
whores indoors, please understand, and

582
00:40:05.760 --> 00:40:07.800
you know what those are the type
of men that women like. Okay,

583
00:40:07.880 --> 00:40:14.480
we like the whores indoors, But
no, man, I think that,

584
00:40:14.920 --> 00:40:20.519
like I said, sometimes we be
expecting lifestyles that aren't conducive to the lifestyle

585
00:40:20.559 --> 00:40:25.840
we actually live. And from these
women expecting niggas who make six figures but

586
00:40:27.400 --> 00:40:31.559
they barely clarify to the men who
want women with low body counts, but

587
00:40:31.599 --> 00:40:36.960
they've slept with everyone at the Essence
festival. Like, sometimes we have to

588
00:40:37.079 --> 00:40:39.400
be fucking for real. And I'm
not saying lower your standards. I would

589
00:40:39.480 --> 00:40:45.000
never. All I'm saying is be
fucking for real. Let's be realistic and

590
00:40:45.119 --> 00:40:50.880
pay attention to what's going to be
actually obtainable. What isn't going to cause

591
00:40:50.920 --> 00:40:53.639
a miracle from the heavens to get
right? So, and what do we

592
00:40:53.679 --> 00:40:58.679
need to work on ourselves? What
areas do we need to work on ourselves

593
00:40:58.679 --> 00:41:02.639
and to obtain these schools and obtain
these people, because it's not always out

594
00:41:02.679 --> 00:41:06.480
of reach. You just got to
work on yourself to get it. Now,

595
00:41:06.519 --> 00:41:07.920
I know something you'll be saying,
Hey, you know, but how

596
00:41:08.000 --> 00:41:12.519
is he supposed to clear his body
count every sets every seven years? Like

597
00:41:12.559 --> 00:41:16.719
a hope fex. Yeah all right, guys, So now we're going to

598
00:41:16.760 --> 00:41:21.679
do the edible portion of the show. So the edible portion is where we

599
00:41:21.840 --> 00:41:24.840
read questions, comments, concerns that
you guys send in, and on the

600
00:41:24.880 --> 00:41:28.960
day that we record, I usually
put a prompt up for you guys to

601
00:41:29.039 --> 00:41:31.159
send in your questions. But if
you have a story or a question on

602
00:41:31.280 --> 00:41:35.519
concerned and it's a day that I'm
not recording, haven't put a prompt up,

603
00:41:35.639 --> 00:41:39.760
you can always email me at inquiries
at stormypea dot com. Now,

604
00:41:39.760 --> 00:41:43.880
I ain't gonna lie of y'all.
We were supposed to record on Thursday,

605
00:41:44.880 --> 00:41:47.360
and we didn't record on Thursday.
We're recording this on a Sunday. So

606
00:41:49.119 --> 00:41:53.280
I just screenshot at all y'all questions
and picked my favorites and yeah, this

607
00:41:53.519 --> 00:42:00.119
is this is where we are today. So yeah, that's it. And

608
00:42:00.280 --> 00:42:05.679
the first one it says, what
advice would you give young men and young

609
00:42:05.719 --> 00:42:08.199
women on their value. And I
want you guys to tap in on a

610
00:42:08.239 --> 00:42:14.039
live as well. So it says, uh, what advice would you give

611
00:42:14.119 --> 00:42:17.280
young men and women? What the
fuck? Oh? What advice would you

612
00:42:17.320 --> 00:42:22.239
give young men and young women on
their value? My only advice would be,

613
00:42:24.119 --> 00:42:31.079
yesterday's price is not today's price.
Okay. I feel like whenever you

614
00:42:31.199 --> 00:42:37.559
talk to anyone who is a certified
adult meaning I'm not putting an age on

615
00:42:37.559 --> 00:42:39.239
it, I mean, you're paying
your own bills, You're surviving on your

616
00:42:39.280 --> 00:42:44.719
own, like you have responsibilities whatever
they may be, a house, car,

617
00:42:45.000 --> 00:42:49.599
dog, kid, cat, whatever. Right. One of the things

618
00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:54.519
I hear most is I wish I
would have waited. I wish I knew

619
00:42:54.519 --> 00:42:59.199
my value. And this is from
men and women. So my only thing

620
00:42:59.320 --> 00:43:02.239
is yesterday price is not today's price. The sooner you realize your value,

621
00:43:02.280 --> 00:43:06.760
your worth, the more you are
able to get out of it for whoever,

622
00:43:07.239 --> 00:43:12.119
don't care who that is, man, woman, trans, non binary,

623
00:43:12.280 --> 00:43:19.719
whatever. Like knowing you're worth at
an early age and knowing boundaries what

624
00:43:20.519 --> 00:43:22.719
like hold up, big dog,
you know your worth and you got boundaries

625
00:43:22.920 --> 00:43:29.840
you're willing to stand on that like
what come on now? Come on now?

626
00:43:29.920 --> 00:43:32.719
And you didn't even reach your final
form yet. Come on, what

627
00:43:34.239 --> 00:43:37.079
because ladies, especially once that grown
up body kick in. Baby, you

628
00:43:37.159 --> 00:43:40.599
got your grown up body, you
got standers, you're willing to stand on

629
00:43:40.639 --> 00:43:45.239
your boundaries? What come on now? Come on now? Know your worth,

630
00:43:45.280 --> 00:43:49.039
big dog, Know your worth now. To be fair, knowing your

631
00:43:49.039 --> 00:43:53.199
worth is going to get very boring
and very lonely very fast. But if

632
00:43:53.239 --> 00:43:55.840
you hang on to that, baby, you can take over the world.

633
00:43:57.239 --> 00:44:00.239
The world is yours, my mind, the world of yours papye like,

634
00:44:00.320 --> 00:44:01.679
yeah, yeah, just stand on
it. That's it, and that's all.

635
00:44:01.719 --> 00:44:06.320
Stand on it. IG is telling
me I have two minutes left on

636
00:44:06.360 --> 00:44:08.760
my Live. How long have we
been on Live today? That's some new

637
00:44:08.760 --> 00:44:15.039
shit? Yeah, that's some new
shit. Oh well, if I cut

638
00:44:15.039 --> 00:44:19.960
off your I love y'all and I
see y'all. Fybru seventeenth whatever, We'll

639
00:44:19.960 --> 00:44:24.599
see you next week. But whatever. Yeah, I know how long have

640
00:44:24.639 --> 00:44:29.079
we been to Live now? I'm
not. I feel like we've been on

641
00:44:29.159 --> 00:44:37.840
Live longer than this. Yeah three? Yeah, okay, Well that aside,

642
00:44:37.159 --> 00:44:42.159
going back to knowing your value,
knowing your worth is very boring and

643
00:44:42.199 --> 00:44:45.079
it's very lonely. But if you
are willing to stand on it and enforce

644
00:44:45.119 --> 00:44:52.400
your boundaries. Uh, you literally
can take over the world. Carolina Cash

645
00:44:52.440 --> 00:44:55.760
says, until we thirty, ain't
no damn value for men. We get

646
00:44:55.800 --> 00:45:01.159
to treat our ship like Walmart rolleback
prices. I don't, I don't.

647
00:45:01.360 --> 00:45:05.519
I don't agree with that. I
don't agree with that because I feel like

648
00:45:05.679 --> 00:45:08.360
if a man knows his boundaries and
knows his worth, he's able to get

649
00:45:08.400 --> 00:45:10.800
to a bag quicker. For real, for real, Like, if you're

650
00:45:10.840 --> 00:45:15.360
willing to stay focused and just grind, keep your nose down and not worry

651
00:45:15.360 --> 00:45:17.880
about these bitches, you're able to
get to the money quicker, whatever it

652
00:45:17.920 --> 00:45:21.840
may be. You're able to obtain
your goals quicker. To me, it

653
00:45:21.920 --> 00:45:25.159
seems to me because all the niggas
who wasn't out chasing kushi and was like

654
00:45:25.239 --> 00:45:29.559
nerds and then they books and focus. All them niggas make bank. Now.

655
00:45:30.119 --> 00:45:32.159
All them niggas I know who was
like that get money now. The

656
00:45:32.159 --> 00:45:37.519
only downside of that is because they
didn't have as much experience with women.

657
00:45:37.840 --> 00:45:40.239
I do see them falling victim to
the holes and the gold diggers a little

658
00:45:40.280 --> 00:45:44.000
bit much, which is why it
pays to have a og like me because

659
00:45:44.000 --> 00:45:46.719
I'm a better like Nah, bitch, no you can't. That's not smart.

660
00:45:46.719 --> 00:45:49.960
What does she do for you?
How does she make you feel?

661
00:45:50.119 --> 00:45:57.280
So yeah, that's it. Oh
man, my life ended. But yeah,

662
00:45:57.320 --> 00:46:01.159
so yeah, my standpoint is always
going to be standing on it.

663
00:46:01.519 --> 00:46:05.519
Know your stand on it, and
enforce it, and don't let people try

664
00:46:05.519 --> 00:46:10.079
to trick you. That's it and
that's all. So the next question,

665
00:46:13.119 --> 00:46:15.119
this one really threw me for a
loop. And every once in a while,

666
00:46:15.119 --> 00:46:19.320
I'd like to give a little bit
of background. Okay, so this

667
00:46:19.599 --> 00:46:24.000
next cut, excuse me. This
next question comes from a man. Okay,

668
00:46:24.599 --> 00:46:28.519
keep this in mind, y'all know
I do the same thing every week,

669
00:46:28.719 --> 00:46:31.199
put up a question and it says, hey, ask me a question,

670
00:46:31.719 --> 00:46:36.760
chocolate chip and sip live tonight.
Just so people know that I'm going

671
00:46:36.800 --> 00:46:42.400
to be reading, potentially reading these
questions on said podcast. It might become

672
00:46:42.440 --> 00:46:46.400
a clip X, Y and Z. All right, So this question comes

673
00:46:46.400 --> 00:46:54.440
from a man and it says,
can you take me out? You're giving

674
00:46:54.519 --> 00:46:59.480
up some asks Like I don't know, I just feel like I feel like

675
00:47:00.039 --> 00:47:06.320
when you come at me that specifically, it may be like, you know,

676
00:47:06.400 --> 00:47:08.800
how you gonna pay me back?
Cash grass or ass what's up?

677
00:47:09.199 --> 00:47:15.840
Like I'm confused right now. All
that aside, I do want to say

678
00:47:15.480 --> 00:47:19.159
I'll be a funny, but like
I don't mind taking guys out. But

679
00:47:19.199 --> 00:47:22.280
it's like I don't know you and
you specifically just say like, yo,

680
00:47:22.400 --> 00:47:23.159
can you take me out? So
now I'm like, oh, can you

681
00:47:23.199 --> 00:47:24.920
eat me out? Like I don't. I don't know what we're doing where

682
00:47:24.960 --> 00:47:28.840
we're doing, right, but I
don't. I don't have a problem taking

683
00:47:28.880 --> 00:47:30.920
men out, y'all know whatever.
If I like you, I'm big trick,

684
00:47:31.320 --> 00:47:39.159
big trick victor. All right,
it's funny because my name is Victoria.

685
00:47:40.440 --> 00:47:45.599
No, but I have a question, right because I know this is

686
00:47:45.599 --> 00:47:50.039
always a very sensitive topic for men, But like, do y'all be feeling

687
00:47:50.039 --> 00:47:55.960
a type of way when you're out
and uh, you know, the bill

688
00:47:57.000 --> 00:48:00.079
comes or it's time to pay for
something and your ladies put the That's a

689
00:48:00.119 --> 00:48:05.719
genuine question for me, fellas,
do you okay, let me, let

690
00:48:05.719 --> 00:48:07.840
me, let me, let me, let me take this back. Fellas,

691
00:48:07.920 --> 00:48:10.119
is a girl you've been dating for
a while, right, You're out

692
00:48:10.320 --> 00:48:14.320
and it's time to pay for something
and she slides your card down, do

693
00:48:14.360 --> 00:48:19.199
you feel some type of way you
said a while now, So if it's

694
00:48:19.280 --> 00:48:22.800
not a while, you do feel
a type of way, not like it's

695
00:48:22.880 --> 00:48:27.039
deep, but it's just like,
I don't know when you're just used to

696
00:48:27.119 --> 00:48:30.519
doing something that you know just throws
you off a little bit, like because

697
00:48:30.519 --> 00:48:34.480
here's my problem, right because I
want to take that back. Do you

698
00:48:34.519 --> 00:48:37.239
feel a type of way period when
a girl just slides her card down?

699
00:48:37.679 --> 00:48:39.360
Like, fellas, do you feel
a type of way when a girl just

700
00:48:39.400 --> 00:48:45.320
slides her card down? Because like, for me, I've never been like,

701
00:48:45.599 --> 00:48:47.440
you know, you gotta pay for
me all the time, or you

702
00:48:47.440 --> 00:48:52.000
know, energy can't be reciprocated.
But like when I try to offer or

703
00:48:52.039 --> 00:48:55.039
when I'm like, yo, chill
like I got you like and I said

704
00:48:55.079 --> 00:48:58.400
it like that. But it's not
always masculine. Someone's like, yo,

705
00:48:58.679 --> 00:49:00.239
you look very nice today. I'm
so happy. We had a good time.

706
00:49:00.280 --> 00:49:04.679
I'm enjoying myself. Can I pay? Like, why does that take

707
00:49:04.719 --> 00:49:07.800
away from you being a gentleman?
Or why do y'all feel like that attacks

708
00:49:07.800 --> 00:49:10.239
your manhood? And this is a
safe space, This is a safe space.

709
00:49:10.400 --> 00:49:15.000
Just a question come from the ladies
who like to spend it. Why

710
00:49:15.000 --> 00:49:19.639
do y'all feel like that's attack on
y'all manhood. I'm gonna go to the

711
00:49:19.679 --> 00:49:25.400
Lite first. Yeah. Mob Gang
said, it depends if I take you

712
00:49:25.440 --> 00:49:30.159
out. If I asked to take
you out, Ty Grind said, and

713
00:49:30.199 --> 00:49:32.760
I've paid for plenty. I'm assuming
there's another one up there. I just

714
00:49:32.800 --> 00:49:37.280
thinking, idiot. Cheff night Wing
says no, if the relationship has been

715
00:49:37.360 --> 00:49:39.639
established for god, Kreflo says,
it depends on how we got here.

716
00:49:39.760 --> 00:49:43.800
Did you ask me? Were you
using me? Was it needed? Ty

717
00:49:43.880 --> 00:49:46.320
Grind said, no, I've had
women pay for plenty. Half Man five

718
00:49:46.360 --> 00:49:50.480
gentlemen says no, a true gentleman
just turned his head as she pays.

719
00:49:50.519 --> 00:49:58.599
He see exactly exactly. I was, wait, yea, then that's another

720
00:49:58.639 --> 00:50:01.480
thing. That's another thing. But
also you gotta understand, like there's reasons

721
00:50:01.480 --> 00:50:06.400
why some girls don't want you to
pay, Like I just feel like,

722
00:50:07.280 --> 00:50:13.239
oh, so like when you when
you when we first going out and we

723
00:50:13.360 --> 00:50:16.400
know like and we're we all we
understanding and we recognize with your adults,

724
00:50:16.920 --> 00:50:21.199
I understand why some of y'all want
to pay and you and you, so

725
00:50:21.199 --> 00:50:22.119
it kind of makes it feel like, okay, well we're not on a

726
00:50:22.639 --> 00:50:25.760
okay, so so we're not on
this because I don't want to be compared

727
00:50:25.800 --> 00:50:29.360
to that type of time, you
understand. So it's like if we on

728
00:50:29.440 --> 00:50:31.119
that type of time, that's where
we at. That's what woral minds,

729
00:50:31.199 --> 00:50:35.280
right, And we're not thinking about
masculinity because you can't tell me I'm not

730
00:50:35.280 --> 00:50:38.119
a man. Okay, Okay,
So what you're saying is so some girls

731
00:50:38.119 --> 00:50:43.039
will offer to pay because they don't
want you to think you'all on a date,

732
00:50:43.960 --> 00:50:46.199
right, that's your situation. Yeah, so you're just offering to pay

733
00:50:46.239 --> 00:50:50.239
like that that could be in our
mind. So it was like giving off

734
00:50:50.280 --> 00:50:52.480
like, well, I mean I
asked you out, so like, well,

735
00:50:52.519 --> 00:50:55.760
to be clear, like you know, just because I'm paying, don't

736
00:50:55.760 --> 00:51:00.519
mean you gotta give me no,
but that's not the point, like or

737
00:51:00.599 --> 00:51:01.800
you know, but you know,
just in the same second, I yo,

738
00:51:02.039 --> 00:51:05.000
just because I'm paying, don't mean
you gotta give it up. It

739
00:51:05.039 --> 00:51:07.800
don't mean I think we're in a
relationship. Sometimes I just but let's be

740
00:51:07.840 --> 00:51:13.960
real, everybody's roots are granted grounded
traditionally, So like even men on your

741
00:51:14.000 --> 00:51:16.719
life, we're all saying literally,
we're saying hole under. Different ships were

742
00:51:16.760 --> 00:51:21.559
grounded all on a traditional basis.
So us just paying like you said,

743
00:51:21.559 --> 00:51:23.960
a true gentleman is just gonna turn
his head like I guess. Ty Grind

744
00:51:24.000 --> 00:51:29.679
says, sometimes it's an anti coucie
given tactic, like you have to you

745
00:51:29.679 --> 00:51:32.079
have to weigh all your options,
like okay, so like we were serious.

746
00:51:32.400 --> 00:51:35.320
She sounded like she was excited to
go on a date with me,

747
00:51:35.920 --> 00:51:37.400
and then she's paying, like oh
no, I got it, blah blah,

748
00:51:37.440 --> 00:51:42.760
and then it's like not y'all doing
y'all doing so like cool? And

749
00:51:42.800 --> 00:51:45.719
then you know, sometimes do you
hit them relationships that hit you're not talking

750
00:51:45.760 --> 00:51:49.280
like y'all so like, yeah,
I got it, bro. So you

751
00:51:49.320 --> 00:51:52.960
think you're going into the friend zone. You could ask you on a date

752
00:51:53.199 --> 00:51:59.119
now, you say. Gm Shparaka
said, there's nothing wrong with that.

753
00:52:00.119 --> 00:52:02.960
It will depend on how close we
were. Action Jackson three two five says,

754
00:52:04.000 --> 00:52:07.159
my dad taught me the man is
always supposed to pay. U g

755
00:52:07.360 --> 00:52:12.239
Wegg says a true gentleman. Tygrind
said it doesn't have to be an attack

756
00:52:12.320 --> 00:52:17.199
on manhood. Sometimes they just have
low self esteem. Carolina Cash says,

757
00:52:17.239 --> 00:52:21.559
hell, no real gentleman going to
boost your head up and make you feel

758
00:52:21.599 --> 00:52:23.960
like he ain't never had nobody willing
to pay for two for twenty five.

759
00:52:27.440 --> 00:52:31.039
Ah g Wegg says, this girl
paid for my stuff randomly and Walmart.

760
00:52:31.079 --> 00:52:35.400
I just said thank you? What
she shooting? Her shot a baby?

761
00:52:35.400 --> 00:52:37.599
You ain't follow up like was it
or it could have been one of those

762
00:52:37.800 --> 00:52:40.159
paying forward type jowins. But if
ain't nobody pay for her, he was

763
00:52:40.159 --> 00:52:43.320
paying attention, like baby, you
missed? You shut? What's up?

764
00:52:45.280 --> 00:52:51.599
Aaron Nash says, Oh, she
about to get the diic dick. Yeah,

765
00:52:51.639 --> 00:52:52.840
I don't know. I've always wondered
that, Like it's always been so

766
00:52:52.920 --> 00:52:57.559
much pushback when like women in general
try to pay or treat a man,

767
00:52:57.760 --> 00:53:00.719
and I always just want to know
what's the problem. You're always going to

768
00:53:00.760 --> 00:53:04.000
get that bashfulness, like you're always
gonna get that because we just don't that's

769
00:53:04.039 --> 00:53:07.639
not something and not Also like I
like getting gifts, but I always act

770
00:53:07.719 --> 00:53:09.440
like a dickhead because I'm like,
oh, why did you do that?

771
00:53:10.000 --> 00:53:13.280
You know? Like but it's like
more so like that's not really I don't

772
00:53:13.280 --> 00:53:15.480
think that's our lovely I don't think
that's how we communicate like that, Like

773
00:53:15.519 --> 00:53:19.800
we get you all gifts, we
got flashy cars because of you. We

774
00:53:19.840 --> 00:53:21.679
don't get all that, like if
it was a thing, I want to

775
00:53:21.719 --> 00:53:22.679
be wearing nice clothes when I go
out. It's because I don't want to

776
00:53:22.679 --> 00:53:29.199
embarrass my lady. That's why I'll
be perfectly finding my sweatpants like I hold

777
00:53:29.239 --> 00:53:30.360
in them from where I don't know
where, and be chilling. But I

778
00:53:30.400 --> 00:53:32.599
don't buy all this stuff for y'all. But so when you do things like

779
00:53:32.639 --> 00:53:36.719
that, we don't. We don't
love the same. So for goy Kreflo

780
00:53:36.800 --> 00:53:38.559
said in all honesty, a real
nigga going cash out if he wants you.

781
00:53:39.039 --> 00:53:44.639
So I agree, right, A
real a real man going cash out

782
00:53:44.639 --> 00:53:46.239
if you want you. But guess
what, so it's a real woman,

783
00:53:46.639 --> 00:53:51.800
like if she likes you, she's
going to spend on you. Like that's

784
00:53:52.159 --> 00:53:54.079
That's the only thing that be confusing
to me. And once again, we're

785
00:53:54.079 --> 00:53:58.920
operating in a realm of people who
haven't right, we're not talking about it.

786
00:53:59.360 --> 00:54:00.800
Yeah we're talking. We're talking as
adults when I'm talking about people who

787
00:54:00.840 --> 00:54:05.119
are like stretched thin, Like I'm
talking about in a realm of people who

788
00:54:05.159 --> 00:54:08.280
have it right. They don't mind
spending or sharing, especially if they value

789
00:54:08.280 --> 00:54:13.440
your time, etc. Right,
Like I always say, like to girls.

790
00:54:13.480 --> 00:54:15.639
Don't be begging these niggas to take
you nowhere. Don't be begging these

791
00:54:15.679 --> 00:54:20.639
niggas to do nothing for you.
If it's something that he's seeing you provide

792
00:54:20.639 --> 00:54:24.079
for yourself and something that you like, yes he's going to do it.

793
00:54:24.840 --> 00:54:28.400
Now. My whole thing is if
he sees that every time you go out

794
00:54:28.400 --> 00:54:30.000
with your girlfriends you have Fridays.
No, he's not taking you to Stay

795
00:54:30.000 --> 00:54:32.199
forty eight because that's not what you
like, says because if it was,

796
00:54:32.239 --> 00:54:35.639
you would go there on your own
or with your friends. And it's not

797
00:54:35.920 --> 00:54:39.960
right. But in the same token, expecting a woman to do like outlandish

798
00:54:39.960 --> 00:54:43.519
things for you when you don't do
them for you, you know what's crazy.

799
00:54:43.519 --> 00:54:46.519
I can't even say that because women, when we give, we give

800
00:54:46.559 --> 00:54:51.960
from a different place. So it's
like I might be willing to get you

801
00:54:52.960 --> 00:54:57.000
a whole bunch of Nike techs,
you know, PS five because I know

802
00:54:57.079 --> 00:54:59.880
you like it and I know I
have it, Like we know that you

803
00:55:00.119 --> 00:55:02.679
like these things. I think we're
more thoughtful givers than men. Maybe can

804
00:55:02.679 --> 00:55:06.639
we say that or no? Or
it depends on the man which one.

805
00:55:07.559 --> 00:55:09.159
Okay, listen, I ain't saying
I was right all the time. Everything,

806
00:55:09.159 --> 00:55:14.199
You're gonna be a hit. Sometimes
I'm a miss damn it. Yeah,

807
00:55:14.519 --> 00:55:16.519
outfit says, you ain't paying for
my meal and then slide my boxes

808
00:55:16.559 --> 00:55:23.000
to the side. Who ain't,
who ain't? Who ain't. Let me

809
00:55:23.079 --> 00:55:28.159
tell you something. If I'm wanted
you better host. I'm in the womanly

810
00:55:28.199 --> 00:55:31.840
mood. It's cool, y'all said. First of all, just because I

811
00:55:31.840 --> 00:55:35.719
pay for your meal does not mean
I'm expecting you to lift your hips up

812
00:55:35.719 --> 00:55:37.559
and let me slide your boxes off. At the end of the day,

813
00:55:37.599 --> 00:55:40.719
I'm not exactly. Sometimes I want
to be a good person. Now that's

814
00:55:40.760 --> 00:55:45.599
cool, but like you, you
know, there's multiple reasons. Legacy j

815
00:55:45.719 --> 00:55:47.920
Wu says, No, I feel
empowered when they pay. I've been paying

816
00:55:47.960 --> 00:55:52.119
all my life. When a woman
pays, I feel like Rosa Park's not

817
00:55:52.159 --> 00:55:54.360
getting out of that seat. Not
during Black History Month, why y'all like

818
00:55:54.400 --> 00:56:01.360
this? During Back History Month talking
and we saw the ball. No,

819
00:56:01.440 --> 00:56:04.920
we was talking about how when girls
paid, the niggas stand behind him.

820
00:56:05.000 --> 00:56:07.519
Yeah, boys know they feeling embarrassed
because their girl paid, That's what he

821
00:56:07.599 --> 00:56:12.599
said, behind them and hugging.
That's why they act like that because it's

822
00:56:12.599 --> 00:56:15.519
like it's it's it's different, but
I mean, it is what it is.

823
00:56:15.400 --> 00:56:19.000
It is what it is. I
don't know why you'll be at tackling

824
00:56:19.079 --> 00:56:22.920
your masculinity like you're a cluliar guy. You're taking the girl out. It

825
00:56:22.960 --> 00:56:27.320
is what it is. Let's talk
about this episode in its entirety. Today's

826
00:56:27.360 --> 00:56:30.599
theme was the reality of the situation. We talked about how it's okay to

827
00:56:30.679 --> 00:56:35.719
let your guard down for the right
person. Don't go into a sewer and

828
00:56:35.760 --> 00:56:38.719
then be surprised when Pennywise tries to
eat your ass. Okay. We also

829
00:56:38.760 --> 00:56:44.159
discussed we need to start dating each
other, not social media. Okay.

830
00:56:44.800 --> 00:56:47.920
For Valentine's Day and every holiday,
enjoy your partner and get something that pertains

831
00:56:47.920 --> 00:56:52.119
to them and what they would like, not what you think they think social

832
00:56:52.159 --> 00:56:55.719
media would like. Okay. We
also just talked about, you know,

833
00:56:57.000 --> 00:56:59.480
stop letting that little bit of money
burn a hole in your pocket. Just

834
00:56:59.480 --> 00:57:01.559
because you got don't mean you gotta
spend it. We need to learn to

835
00:57:01.639 --> 00:57:06.840
live within our means. On the
flip side of that, we need to

836
00:57:06.880 --> 00:57:09.920
be realistic with our expectations. What
are you looking for in a partner?

837
00:57:10.000 --> 00:57:13.880
Is it something that you can provide
for yourself or is it something that your

838
00:57:13.920 --> 00:57:16.199
lifestyle would even have you in the
same room as these people. You want

839
00:57:16.239 --> 00:57:20.840
a man who makes six fickers,
but you barely clear five. You want

840
00:57:20.880 --> 00:57:22.800
a woman with a little body count, but you have smashed all of the

841
00:57:22.960 --> 00:57:29.840
essence festival, let's be fucking for
real. Okay. We also decided best

842
00:57:29.880 --> 00:57:34.800
advice to give young men and women
is to know your worth and then add

843
00:57:34.840 --> 00:57:39.599
tex Okay, because yesterday's price is
not two days price. Next, when

844
00:57:39.679 --> 00:57:45.079
discussing women pain when taking men out, why is it so taboo? Why

845
00:57:45.079 --> 00:57:49.639
do men feel like they're going to
have to, you know, give up

846
00:57:49.639 --> 00:57:53.920
some ass at the end of the
night or it just makes them feel tomasculated.

847
00:57:54.280 --> 00:57:57.199
I'm not gonna lie ya. I
still won't have a good answer to

848
00:57:57.280 --> 00:58:00.760
that, so please tap in,
you know, call me, beat me

849
00:58:00.800 --> 00:58:05.440
if you want to reach me.
I still don't have a good answer for

850
00:58:05.480 --> 00:58:07.800
that one. So yeah, that
been' Let me know. Don't forget guys,

851
00:58:07.840 --> 00:58:14.599
Philly. If you enjoyed this conversation
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852
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853
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862
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863
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you, guys, and I see
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