Hi everyone, and welcome back to another podcast episode. My name is Alicia
Gogin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand
your mind and become more self aware so that you can glow up. It's
the best version of yourself. Hello, how are we doing. I'm pretty
sure this episode was coming out on Monday, so I'm just gonna say it,
Happy Monday. We made it to another week. Honestly, guys,
I'm feeling really good despite being in my luteal phase. If you guys know,
then you know I get down bad on my luteal phase. But I
did say I have been mentioning that I really want to make an active effort
to support myself aka my mood honestly, because I feel like my mood really
swings right before I'm about to get my period during this time. Because I
feel like, you know, seeing my habits, some of them, even
though they're okay, I know that some of my habits really do affect my
mood and of course just affect your health and everything like that. So I
wanted to really kind of like promise myself to do better, to do more,
to really support myself to see if it would make a difference during this
time. But also I have just been so sick of being on this mood
roller coaster. I don't even want to say emotional roller coaster, even though
I guess that technically is the same. But I feel like the first half
of the year I have really struggled a lot with my mood and depression and
feeling anxiety and things like that. And I've done a good job at supporting
myself through everything. And I am always advocating to you give yourself the time
you need to feel your feelings and ride out the ebbs and flows of life,
and you know, really drop perfectionism and rebuild this relationship that you have
towards yourself, unconditional love, all that kind of stuff. But for sure,
I still see some habits that are for U're playing a role in my
mood and playing a role in the things that happen in my life, even
outside of my mood. Which brings me to this topic of the episode,
which is you are really only one decision one. I know it feels hard,
but one simple decision away from making the right decision. Now, the
title of this video or this quote, I should say, I got it
from think media podcast. I forget the guy's name. There's like a few
people who work on that team. If you guys are interested in starting a
podcast or YouTube things like that the business side of things, I would definitely
suggest checking them out. But I was listening to one of their podcasts and
he was just talking about the journey of being a content creator and a YouTuber
and stuff, and what differentiates people who win and people who lose, essentially,
and it's really the decisions that you're making on a day to day basis
and the beliefs that you have about yourself and life and things like that.
And I'm always talking about that, and he was talking about his journey and
he said, I don't even know really what the story was, but he
was just talking about how so you are only one decision away from making the
right decision. And in that moment when I was on my walk listening to
that podcast, it hit me so deep, because I feel like people's words
hit you deep depending on where you're at and what message you really need to
hear if you're willing to listen. And that was the specific like week of
me genuinely looking at the small and big decisions in my life that really dictate
the rest of my day or my life. And I was like, it
really is as simple like when you think about it, it is as simple
sometimes as one decision will completely change your day. So I want to talk
about some of the things that I have been recently doing in my life that
have helped me really have a strength to be able to choose the new version
of me, the new story, the new habit, the thing that's going
to honor myself and my body in my life, and quite frankly, the
decision that will either make or break my day. So the first thing is
always a mindset before actually doing any sort of actions when it comes to change.
I personally think in one's life, that's what I do, because your
mind is really it's the epicenter of everything. It doesn't mean that action is
not important. It doesn't mean that moving is not important, or somatics aren't
important, anything like that. But I think a really good mindset can get
you a long way, can get you through the hardest times, It can
get you into the hardest times, it can get you into deep tart colds.
So I think it's always important to address this. So I'm going to
bring it kind of personally to a few things and like habits that I have
been doing. But you can, of course just think about the things that
you know that just keep getting in your way, not even things that are
getting in the way. You are getting your own way by sabotaging or doing
the same thing or deciding to make that same decision over and over again.
So let me just say I am somebody who is majority of the time on
a routine. I like to ebb and flow into different routines depending on or
I'm at my cycle. Some times I'm really motivated and I'm really inspired,
I'm working a lot, and then sometimes I'm like pulling back. So my
day to day like work life and just life doesn't really look the same day
to day. And also I'm an entrepreneur, so obviously I have like a
podcast, YouTube, I do content, so my lifestyle is definitely different than
just like every single day the same. But regardless of the day, I'm
usually moving my body. I'm usually eating the food that I need to.
I'm usually not consuming anything like under the influence of anything. I'm usually consuming
good content and trying not to have like victim mentality. Conversations with friends and
things like that. I have done a really good job of really getting myself
out of all of that kind of stuff that really kept me stuck, like
the old story, even binge, eating, unhealthy relationship with food, just
not taking care of myself, all that kind of stuff. It's an evolution.
If you're in any of those cycles right now, don't feel like you
are not doing enough. I've been there again. I'm gonna explain to you
right now like I still kind of have to work through cycles things like that.
By the way, I have talked about a lot my teas here.
Actually I'm drinking tea today and maybe i'll talk about my health of stuff.
But I wrote a lot about that in The Ultimate Globe Guy, which is
a book that I wrote and released at the beginning of January. So if
you're interested, then it'll be linked down below, or you can go find
out your bookstores. But I talk a lot about my journey, So you
are not alone if you're feeling like that. But there's little things even if
you want to look at me like pitture perfect and I know you guys the
ogs don't, but maybe I don't know. When you watch somebody who's talking
about self improvement. I feel like naturally, you're like, oh okay,
like they know and they are like doing the things, and I am.
But some of the things that will affect me are let's say, if I'm
going out with my friends and I don't hold boundaries and I don't verbally communicate
that I need to get home at a certain time or that I'm not drinking,
what I end up usually doing because it's such a fun time going out
with my friends and there's so much abundance and there's so many things to do
and everything like that, I will have a few drinks and I will stay
out late and then not just completely affects not only my mood, because alcohol
affects my mood, but also the next day. It's not that I don't
do anything the next day, but it's just like I'm not at my optimal
feeling. And I love to give myself time to go out and have fun
with my friends and not be super on my shit all the time. But
I do feel a lot better when I'm on my shit all the time.
Also, I don't know if I've ever really mentioned this, but from time
to time, I would say, like a few times out of the month,
I do consume broccoli. If you guys don't know what that is,
then maybe you're just too young. But anyways, sometimes I will consume that,
and that's usually when I'm bored. That's usually if like I have like
a solo night in and like my work is done and like I just want
to listen to music and just vibe out. Like personally, for me,
I'm not gonna like go into too much of a tangent because I don't even
want to promote that it is legal in Canada. I'm also twenty eight,
like consume things responsibly, but my body works with that plant. I know
some people don't. I've had phases in my life where I have gone in
and out of that, but I personally really vibe with that. It vibes
with me, I feel. I think in general, you just have to
be careful with consuming things. Whether I think, I mean, I look
at alcohol way different than I look at broccoli, but even like alcohol,
whatever kind of substance, you just have to be careful obviously because you're no
longer enough maybe a clear mind. You have to, like I don't know,
I personally like have like planned consumption things like that. You can't just
be consuming things all the time like that, or you can lose yourself.
And then also you have to be careful of like why am I taking this
thing or why am I doing this thing? And so I've always been aware,
like throughout my life, even when I look at alcohol. I've never
been like a big drinker when it comes to alcohol, because I genuinely have
always had the worst hangovers, like the worst, and it doesn't make me
feel good for very long. So I've never really been that like type of
drinker. But you know, like socially and stuff, I always try and
do my best to not indulge in these things, especially when I'm going through
things, because I think that sometimes it can just be an escape, and
I don't like to escape my emotions my issues in life, especially being somebody
who's hyper independent, I really don't have that much time to do that.
If I start losing myself, then I really lose myself, Like I will
lose my life, like I will lose my financial status, I will lose
my job, I will lose all of these things. And I've also grown
up around addicts in my life, so I have seen where that goes.
I've never really fallen on that side. But I think that no matter what,
everyone has their form of addiction. In some ways, I don't think
that I have any sort of active addictions in my life, but I think
previously, when I was in my early twenties, I would say it was
definitely food, Like I had a really bad relationship with food, and I
talk about it kind of in my book, not too much. It's not
like this like big deep dive, but I talk about why why I was
led to those things. So anyways, I say all that to say it's
really important that I make sure that I'm not like falling too much into like
sm gang or whatever. But sometimes when my mood is a little it's not
like unstable. It's just like I'm not like motivated for life or this that.
And I don't have a lot of work, Like I've done my work,
I have my podcast recorded, i have my everything done, and I'm
bored, especially because I'm like an introvert, and sometimes I just like don't
want to be like bothered to go out and stuff. I will think,
well, I could smoke, like it'd be fun because I have a good
time when I do that. But I know if I do that too much,
not only am I gonna get my head about it because I'm like,
okay, I gotta be care like I don't want to be like, you
know, going down this road. But also like I do like how I
feel when I'm clear minded as much as I have a great time, Sometimes
when I smoke, it's a different consciousness. Okay, I personally think if
you do it too much, then you're actually not taking the benefits of what
that plan could do for you. And sometimes when I do that, you
know, it's crazy. Because when I heal, my relationship with food,
body image, gotten a really healthy routine, lifestyle, everything I like,
my life got better. It's interesting to see how the relationship that I have
towards smoking is a lot different. I find that I do get really creative
and I actually like take the benefits of that plant versus like vegging out and
eating a bunch of shitty food and things like that. But sometimes I'll like
get a little craving and order something here and there. But regardless whatever,
there's definitely just side effects from smoking that I don't personally enjoy. Sometimes even
if I'm in the best state of mind, and one of them being it
does affect my sleep. I am somebody who literally cannot knock out. I
can't knock out when it comes to smoking, I like applaud people who can.
Maybe that's probably a good thing because maybe I would rely on it more.
I can't knock out. It also kind of affects my appetite. Sometimes
I don't want to eat as well, so like I don't like that.
The next day. I'm usually okay, depending on where I'm at with my
mood, but sometimes like if I'm in my luteal phase and I'm like,
for some reason I like wanted to smoke, sometimes it's going to mess up
my mood and I don't want that. And sometimes you just never know where
your mind's gonna go. Like I even think about this when it comes to
drinking alcohol, Like I am a very fun like I don't even want to
say drunk because I don't get drunk, but like I have a good time.
I'm never like emotional, I don't get angry, i don't get chaotic,
Like I just have a really really good time. It just heightens like
the state that I'm in. But sometimes you're not always the same person,
like every single day always, So I mean, I'm sure It's happened in
my life where I've drank and maybe I got a little bit more emotional than
I like really wanted to or whatever. And I think sometimes I can happen
with smoking as well, and I just don't want to even put myself in
that stage. And then naturally, I just sometimes the way that I'm perceiving
like smoking and stuff is kind of like, like, this is not the
highest version of me. I don't want to be doing this. I feel
like there's so many other things that I can be doing in my life and
like going out and experiencing life and feeling good and I'm really working on my
mood that I don't want to mess it up essentially, But just because I
know what's good for me and I know I don't want to mess things up,
it doesn't mean that they're still a part of me that kind of craves
that. And so lately, especially when I come into my ludial phase,
I kind of have like less energy to go socialize and do things, and
I'm not motivated, So I'm more susceptible to want to grab that right and
to like want to do that because it's like, oh, it would be
a great day, it's like a loomy day. I can just chill this
that. But in my life, like I've been telling you guys, like
honestly, like I've been watching myself the past six months. But I would
really say that the past few months when it comes to my mood specifically,
I'm like, I don't want to do anything to mess up this. I
just don't want to, like I don't want to be going on these huge
emotional rollercoasters. I really want to support myself through my ludial phase. I
want to see what I can do. I have really not been drinking at
all when I go out and stuff like that. So like the past i
would say, like two and a half weeks, I've been really kind of
you know, making a point to not even smoking and to really support myself
the best way that I can. But of course I'm I'm now in this
phase of the decision and when the decision is to smoke, when the decision
is to indulge in that thing that you know is not really like gonna mess
up your life. You have a good relationship with it. You know that
you'll trust yourself and you won't really like you know, get into it.
But but the side effects sometimes of the thing that you're currently trying to focus
on, and he'll like heal more of that could be affected. This is
where it gets a little bit tricky. It's like, Okay, now I'm
in this, Like what do I just decide? What do I decide?
So when the decision is having to be made, like I would say the
past two weeks, when I've really been having to like think about this,
I want to talk about a few things that I've done in order to not
do this, and I haven't at all, which is great and I feel
amazing, and like, I never rely on this. I don't rely on
really anything, even when it comes to food, which is wild to say,
because I used to, like I said, I used to have a
really unhealthy relationship with food, and I could never even there would be a
day where I wouldn't be consumed by thinking about what I'm going to eat breakfast,
lunch, and dinner and be thinking about it and counting the calories and
oh is this gonna affect my body? Or is this healthy or is this
not? Or I need to start on Monday. I never thought that I
would ever be able to get out of that cycle and I did, and
if you're currently in that cycle, I would suggest getting my book. So
the first thing that I did a lot anytime I had the thought of,
like mmm, smoke, not smoke, or even if it's like go to
the gym, knock, go to the gym, or eat this food or
not eat this food, or like go out with my friends or not like
those kind of things, like anything, think about the thing that you're currently
having to decide. Make that decision. The first thing is I really slowed
down and allow myself to think this situation out. We don't give ourselves enough
time. We just decide, we act on the thing. Right, it's
an impulse, Oh I want to eat or I want to smoke, or
I want a drink or I want to go out, like that impulse.
So you need to give yourself a little bit of room to actually think.
And what I like to think about and honestly, what I like to hyper
focus And this is what I even wrote my notes, hyper focus on what
the wrong decision will lead you to. Okay, so I really like to
think about all the ways in which I'll feel like shit if I do this
thing, all of the side effects, all of the things that I'll have
to bring myself back up to if I do this thing, all of the
things like everything right. So you can think about how you'll feel if you
skip the gym, how you'll feel the next day, if you drink,
how you'll feel X, Y and Z, And honestly, I think this
is why it's so easy for me to not drink a lot. Even if
I do have a drink, it's really not a lot because I know one
hundred million, thousand percent the way that I'm going to feel the next day,
and it's not even worth it for even a second. So like I
just naturally will cut myself off and I'll start drinking water and things like that.
But now I'm getting to the point where it's like those little small things
right, Like I want to feel one hundred percent. I don't want to
feel just like seventy percent. I want to feel one hundred percent. This
is what I deserve in my life. This is where I'm going to be
able to get myself to a better state in my life. I want to
feel one hundred percent. So I'm gonna have to really think about those things
that are not going to feel good the next day. I can even think
about this. When it comes to texting an X, or texting somebody who
you've been chasing or somebody who's not good for you right, or putting yourself
in places where it doesn't serve you. I want you to think about and
this is what I had to do. Think about all of the side effects
and all the shitty ways you're gonna feel. Even when it comes to binging,
I would do this sometimes It was hard, right, because that emotional
drive to do things sometimes it just overwhelms you. And I talk about my
book, that emotional side that really feels like it needs to eat something and
regulate. That's what's really happening. Also in some senses is like whether it's
deep or not, you're doing this behavior because you feel like you need to
do it right, So first stopping yourself and being like, Okay, all
the side effects and how shitty am I going to feel if I text that
AX and he doesn't reply or it doesn't go the way that I want,
or how I'm gonna feel after I eat all that food or my bank account
after that or this that like really really think about the consequences of your actions,
but also thinking about what drove you to that thing. For me,
I would say like the past few weeks, and honestly, this is what
happens like when it comes to smoking. For me, it's really just a
boredom thing. Like I don't even think about these things when I'm not like
bored or busy things like that. But I think about when I was like
binge eating and not eating well or getting into unhealthy relationships and things like that.
It was definitely from this place of like I felt really alone and sad
and like I needed that thing to soothe me. Which we're going to talk
about what's really going to help you actually, not like go into that thing
so it'll help you soothe you. But I really just try my best to
hyper focus on all the side effects in the downfall of what will happen if
I decide to make the wrong decision. And then I think about and again
I have to give myself time, give yourself time. I think about all
of the benefits and how I'm going to feel if I don't do this thing.
I've really been doing this, and I know it's almost like, yeah,
we kind of know this, but we don't really do this right.
And I think people will always talk about it when it comes to the gym,
Oh think about how good you're gonna feel the gym, but you don't,
like you don't really sit there and think about it. And I think
it is good when you are thinking about the thing that you're really stuck in.
When it comes to let's say, I'm gonna bring it back to smoking,
how will it feel, Alisha if you decide that, Okay, maybe
it's your day off, but you're gonna go to the island, or you're
gonna walk around, You're gonna go to acupuncture, you're gonna go chill with
a friend at a coffee shop, like you're gonna go out in nature,
You're gonna do some fun things, like you're gonna be really productive. Because
sometimes when I smoke, I'm very like not in my head, but like
music, I want to dance, I want to chill, I want a
vibe. Sometimes I'll go out and like go for walks and stuff like that.
But it depends on the vibe that I'm on. But anyways, but
like, how would you feel if if that was your day or if you
didn't do that, you could edit another video, Like there's always something to
do for me As an entrepreneur. There's always something to do, right,
And how would you feel when you have the proper amount of I was gonna
say energy, but this is actually the opposite melatonin. I guess to fall
asleep at a normal, beautiful time. And how would it be to like
clean your space tonight and listen to a good podcast, and you know,
light a candle or an incense and listen to some music. Right, go
on your belcon you can do all these things without smoking, and getting in
your bed, doing your journal practice, getting into bed at a decent time,
booking a workout class in the morning, and you're waking up in the
morning, you're not tired. You didn't mess up your sleep like all of
these things, and you did that from a normal natural energy system, right,
Like you're healthy. You didn't need any sort of substance to do any
sort of thing because you can do all that. You can be as creative
without that. I always try and tell myself that too, Like I really
focus on my beliefs when it does come to things, because I'm not perfect,
right, and I will do things from time to time, But I
always try to remind myself even when it comes to drinking, like I can
socialize without drinking I don't need it, Or I can be creative without smoking,
or I can do all these things without doing that. I think it's
really important that you tell yourself that. But I always try and focus on
how I'll feel if I And again, let's say, like go to the
gym. You're gonna feel so fit and so good, and you're gonna look
at yourself like that it girl, and you know, like thinking about your
self concept and your confidence, and you know, like the outfits you're gonna
feel good in and just how you're gonna look and feel and all that kind
of stuff, and how you're gonna even act and be from this place of
you waking up in the morning and having this morning routine, you're gonna feel,
Oh, it's gonna be so good. So think about all the benefits
and all the amazing things and how even when it comes to like binge eating
and stuff. And I know it's way deeper than what I'm even saying.
Okay, I get this, Like it's deep, but it's also like you
can do it thinking about your gut health, thinking about how you're gonna feel
in the morning when you don't go to sleep binging a bunch of food.
How you're gonna feel knowing you've saved money because you didn't waste all your money
doing this, like you know binge, because you will spend a lot of
money doing that kind of stuff. Like, really think about how you're going
to feel and how your body's gonna thank you for supporting it and allowing it
to rest and digest and heal and just be calm. You really have to
remind yourself of these things. And the last reminder that I always remind myself
of is when I am having to make those decisions, it's not gonna be
comfortable at first. So there's gonna be a period of when I am thinking
about the bad and I'm thinking about the good, and I'm gonna have to
decide even when I like think about the good, Like, it's still gonna
not feel the best to decide to pick the good, even though that's wild,
right, it's actually wild to think that, Like it's not gonna feel
the good to choose yourself. But in that moment, it's not gonna feel
the most comfortable. But you can get over that hump. And so I
always have to like remind myself, like out loud. I'll tell myself,
Okay, it's gonna feel really uncomfortable because you really want to do it right
now because you're really bored and you want to like it's gonna be fun just
that, but like think about the things that will actually feel better if you
don't do this, and like just you're gonna get over this hump and then
you're gonna feel so happy that you did it. I also think about this
when it comes to writing my book. When I was writing my book,
there was definitely times I wasn't motivated. But writing your book every single day
or like touching it every single day is way better than you just taking some
time off because then you have to get back into the flow and it's harder
to get into so you kind of have to get over that little like resistance
that you might have at the beginning. And the way that I get out
of resistance is taking action like baby steps. Like literally I did this one
time when I was trying to like do this decision making like a week and
a half ago or something, cause I was like really going back and forth
with it, and I was like, you know what, I'm just gonna
like grab it, but I'm gonna go do this one thing first, and
then I'm gonna come back to it, like I'm gonna do all the things
that I need to do before I do that. And that's actually one thing
that I like to do, regardless of if I'm actually deciding to do this
or not, or anything else in my life. When it comes to like
not the healthiest habits or whatever, it's not really bad habit. I don't
look at it as bad habit because then I think it just spiral into that.
But I will make sure to be responsible and do the things that I
need to do on my to do list, Like we're not I'm sorry,
but like we need to be mature. And if we're gonna go party,
if we're gonna go smoke, if we're gonna go indulge in things, we
need to make sure that we're taking care of ourselves and we're taking care of
business, and we're doing the things that we need to do. So we
need to do that. And so even when I'm deciding to do these things,
I like to use action as a buffer. And then literally when I
did this one thing, like I was like I don't even know. It
was like finishing up some content because I figured I would might as well do
that because I was like ready that day, even though I didn't really need
to do it. I was like, let me do an extra step of
something to feel productive and then I'll decide. And then of course as soon
as I did that, I was like, I don't need this, Like
I'm done. So those are like the mindset shifts that I like to think
about in those moments when I'm about to decide. But how you're really going
to no longer be in these cycles? At least for me, this is
what's really helped. And this is what I've been doing every single day and
night, and this is something that I'm not going to go back on.
But this is huge, and this is basically your action piece, and this
is going to really dictate whether you're going to ever really have strength to do
these things and to get out of these cycles, which is to rewrite your
story. Okay, so let's talk about rewriting your story. You live out
a story about the way you look at yourself, the way you are as
a person, whether you're somebody who takes care of themselves or not, somebody
who smokes or doesn't smoke, drinks, doesn't drink is an introvert, extrovert,
all these things. You have a story about everything you identify as who
you don't identify as. It's all good, it's fine, But there's a
lot of stories that you have towards yourself, especially when you are in cycles
that are not favorable, and sometimes they just keep you stuck because you're not
really focusing on a better story. And you also have stories about how people
show up in your life. You have stories about men, you have stories
about women. You have stories about how hard relationships will be or how easy
they will be, or how much money you can make or how hard it
is to make money or how you can make money. You have a story
about everything. This story plays out in your life, and you act out
of this story, and you manifest out of this story. If you don't
believe manifestation, fine whatever, but let's bring it back to you deciding to
make the right decision or the wrong decision, the identity and the story that
you're currently living out when you are somebody who is not making the right decision
in their life. It's not favorable. It's not loving, it's not strong,
it's not confident, it's not the best version of you, and so
especially when you're trying to change the habit or change something in your life.
But let's just like focus on us, right, like self care and self
love. You want to look at yourself as somebody who no longer negotiates things,
who no longer sleeps on themselves, who no longer decides to make the
wrong decision, who no longer doesn't give herself the option to think about whether
this decision is going to be good or bad because that's what you're doing,
right, or somebody who gives yourself a chance to negotiate. And maybe if
you're not even playing out that story. And by the way, our stories
are very subconscious, so it doesn't mean that you like actively know that you're
even playing this out, but you could also just not be living out a
story right now. Of you know, you're somebody who loves to go to
the gym, or you're somebody who loves to do their self care routines,
or somebody who enjoys going to sleep early, or somebody who enjoys to have
boundaries with friends, or somebody who really only talks to men who want to
move things forward. Like, there's a lot of things that you aren't really
even focusing on And so every single morning what I do is I'm constantly rewriting
my story about who I am and how I show up for myself firstly,
always, okay, always, always, always you. And I've made this
mistake of like when I want to manifest like a new thing in my life
or change the story about things, which changing your story is basically changing your
beliefs as well. Whatever. But sometimes like I'll think about, like a
say, if I have a relationship issue, I'm like focusing on that first.
I think first and foremost always just focus on you, and then you
can like rewrite other stories and stuff. But let's talk about us in this
episode. You really want to have a morning practice of doing this. Now,
why it's important to rewrite your story in the morning is because you are
faced with the decision every single day in the morning to be the old version
of you or new version of you. Now, if you like the way
everything is going in your life, then you're to keep persisting in the habits
and the thoughts and the beliefs that you hold about yourself and life and whatever,
and you keep going on with your day. But a lot of you,
guys, aren't happy with certain things in your life. And so if
you aren't happy with the thing that's happening in your life, you need to
look at it in a new way. And the way you're going to do
that is in the morning, actually taking time to look at it in a
new way, because you aren't just gonna automatically look at it in a new
way. You can remind yourself here and there, but you have to like
actively change the story. And so this is what I do in the morning.
First thing, Actually, what I usually do is I play like an
Abraham Hicks video and or like somebody who talks about self concept, law of
attraction, manifestation, that kind of stuff, because that just gets me in
the vibe. Whatever you believe in, whatever works for you. Sometimes I
think that's helpful to get your mind on the right path if you struggle with
even like thinking good thoughts, like if you're in a really low place.
And I would even suggest maybe just like turning on like that podcast or something
as soon as you wake up in the morning, or affirmation as soon as
you wake up in the morning, and then like until you get to the
point where you're sitting down in journaling. Then you go into journal, but
that is going to be the first thing you do. And I want to
read out just like a few affirmations you can kind of like get a gist
of some of the things that you can maybe think about when it comes to
writing your new story. So some of them are I love taking care of
myself every single day. I enjoy my morning routines and my net routines.
I'm somebody who prioritizes rewriting and living out her new story. And like,
this is really good to think about it. It's like when it comes to
habits, what you want to be writing and thinking about and like looking at
yourself as as somebody who likes to get up in the morning in journal to
rewrite their story, like you have to start with that step before you even
get to likes to go to the gym, or like wants to go to
the gym. It's like you have committed to going on this journey. Or
you are somebody who likes the idea of changing their mindset about the way things
happen in your life. Or you are somebody who is willing and excited to
change your story about men or about money, about all of these things.
I think those are the first kind of steps. Another one is I am
that girl who chooses to care about her mind, her body, her soul
instead of wasting her time partying, smoking, talking to people who don't serve
her things like that. I love being clear minded and focused throughout the day
without you can fill in the blank binge, eating, smoking, drinking,
going on social media, anything like that. I love to cook healthy foods
for myself to support my digestion, my skin, my overall health. Going
to the gym is easy for me. I love romanticizing it and being that
girl who has an amazing body and loves herself. I no longer engage in
behaviors that harm my body or my soul. I am on a clear path
to the highest version of myself. I no longer identify with the old story
anymore. I no longer spend time engaging with men who do not live the
same lifestyle that I do. I date men who prioritize their health, their
relationships, their friendships, who want to provide for me. I am attracted
to men who are consistent and reliable in my life. I make money off
of my talents and my passions. Work gets to be fun and aligned.
I never stress about work because there's nothing to stress about. My friendships are
beautiful and supportive, and real people respect my boundaries, they understand my boundaries.
I have the most fun friendships. We can go on and on.
Okay, so this is what I'm focusing on in the mornings every day,
And God does it feel amazing. It feels so good to think about yourself
and think about people, places and things and what gets to happen in your
life in a positive way. And now this leads me into the next few
things I'm going to talk about, and it's basically under a category of strict
boundaries and routines. So I've already kind of talked about this. If you
want to be a new person, if you want a complete three sixty of
your life, if you want new relationship, you want people to show up
differently. If you want to feel better, if you want new habits,
you want to be that girl, you need to commit to an entire rebirth.
You have to like rebirth yourself. You have to literally like you're done
with being that old version of you. Okay, the way you're gonna be
done with being the old version of you is first commit to that new story
every single day, and I do this at night as well, and I'll
talk about some other things, but committing to rewriting your story because you are
no longer going back to that old story, and the way you go back
to that old story is not persisting in a new story every single day.
And you know, this is something that's really like hit me like a ton
of bricks, kind of like the past, like month is really realizing that
I'm done. I'm done not prioritizing rewriting my story every single morning. I'm
done not looking at certain things in my life, like certain habits like whether
that's wellness, move my body whatever, as negotiable. These things are no
longer negotiable in my life. They're just not why Because I know when I'm
not on this, when I'm not doing these things, I go into the
old story and I'm not even looking at it as a way of like,
oh, I feel like I'm in a jail cell, like oh, I
have to do all this work forever and ever and ever and no one else
does. Because I've had a really unhealthy relationship with discipline in my life.
So I know what it feels like to tell myself that I have to do
something like every single day, but it's I'm doing this because I deserve this,
I'm doing this because I feel better doing this. I'm doing this because
I'm so sick of feeling like shit. And if I want something new in
my life, if I want to feel better, if I want to stop
crying, and if I want to stop being the victim, I'm gonna have
to decide to show up differently in my life. And these habits, these
things are enjoyable for me personally. Rewriting my stories amazing, speaking to myself
kindly is amazing, Reminding myself of what I get to have in my relationships
is amazing. And you know what isn't amazing waking up every single day and
being like, h what's my mood? Like? Am I gonna have a
complete destruction of my day because my mood is shit? And the story that
I'm playing out is shit? Or is it gonna be an uphill battle and
I'm gonna try and do my best or third option which I'm doing now is
deciding how my day goes by first rewriting my story and then having my habits
follow that, it's so much nicer to wake up in the morning and decide
where your attention and your time and your energy gets to go, versus falling
victim to all of the anxiety and the depression and all of the shit that
happened from a lack of focus on your new story. And now, listen,
I understand that like luteal phase is a thing, and like depression and
anxiety, like some of these things, like I'm always talking about ebbing and
flowing and stuff for sure, But coming back to why I've been feeling so
good even in my luteal phase, is I am actively deciding every single morning
to focus on these things. And even though it doesn't mean every single day
I'm one hundred percent motivated, like today I wasn't really like that, energize
and this that, And there's always things that come up in my life that
are manifestations of the old version of me that I still have to deal with
and I will get triggered to buy, but I just remind myself it's just
the old version of me and like the old version of whatever it's been coming
up in my life. But I still feel so much better by directing my
mindset and where it goes every single day. Now I have done a lot
of journaling. I always do it. I talk about it all the time,
Like I go through periods of like strictly journaling every single more da da
da da, and then sometimes I will fall off. But usually if I
fall off, it's more because like I'm actually really good and I'm usually supporting
myself in other ways, Like I'm not really falling off per se. But
I think sometimes why I have gone through those times where I've we can quote
unquote say falling off is because sometimes I will be looking at rewriting my story,
let's say, or journaling or whatever I'm doing as like a means to
an end. So obviously you're gonna fall off things when there are means two
ends. But what I have been really realizing, like the message is so
clear to me, is this is the way of life. Now, this
is your life. Now. You want a new reality. You want to
be healthier Alicia, you want to have better relationships, you want to have
more money, you want to have success, you want to have alignment.
You want to have these things, yes or no. What that requires is
you committing to the new story. It's not even committing necessarily to the habits
and all these things. You skip all that stuff, because that will come,
that will come in alignment from you committing to the new story, you
deciding that you are no longer being the old version of you. And I'm
done with that. I'm done with the ebbing and flowing of what gets to
happen in my life. And I don't mean I'm expecting life to be perfect,
because I know there's a lot of things that are in my current life
right now are from my past self, right the way people show up,
the stories that are being played out, and I have to work through those
triggers. But even when I'm working through those triggers, I feel really strong,
I feel really good. I feel like I'm not getting broken down all
the time because I know how this goes, and I'm here for the long
run. I'm here to feel good. I'm here too even when I feel
like shit on the days that like, okay, my mood is not the
best, I'm not going into the old story of being like Okay, well,
my life is a mess and I'm doomed, and oh my god,
I'm just gonna wait and sit around and wait for myself to get better.
No, I'm going to continue to show up for myself even when things aren't
feeling the best. It's okay to not have perfect days. But even on
those imperfect days, what are you doing? What narrative are you living out?
And that's the thing that I'm focusing on a lot right now. And
I'm feeling really good in my life, and i have had a few days
where I'm like meh, like meh. There's a few days where like certain
like old menifestations kind of popped up. But I'm like, I'm so beyond
like I know how this goes. I can either react the way that I
always do. I can either allow it to spiral me down. I can
allow it to affect me all day, or I can decide to choose a
new story. And the way that I decide to like make the right decision
and have a better like out in my life or that day or that habit
is to make sure that I'm being on a strict routine. I hate using
the word strict because it doesn't feel like strict. It actually feels very like
I'm motivated to do it. But is to really support myself through a morning
practice. Okay, so I'm like I did a whole tangent, but coming
back to morning practice. This is what I do every single morning. It's
no negotiable. Now other things that I do, and I talk about this
a lot. I have always been good at this, but again, I
think there's always room for improvement, especially when you are wanting to like rewrite
a story and stuff. But I think that, like, again take it
from somebody who's done a lot of self development self work changed your life in
a lot of ways, gotten out of cycles. I have tested not doing
the work on myself I have, and I needed to do that because I
need to see what works for me as a human in like how much work
I need to do and how much support I need to give myself and what
I need to focus on. And everyone's going to be different. So even
like, take what I'm saying with a grain of salt, because I'm sure
there's a lot of people who can, you know, be around certain people,
places and things and not get as triggered as I do based off of
your past versus mine. Right, But I have found there's just gonna be
certain things that I really have to limit, Like I have to limit certain
distractions to a certain extent for myself. So again it's gonna be dependent on
you. But I know when social media is too much. I know when
I'm being activated by the amount of content I'm consuming or people's lives that I'm
consuming, or I know when too much is too much when it comes to
socializing and being out with friends, and I need to do what I need
to do to limit those distractions so I can create room for me to choose
myself every single time. So for me, in the morning, like I
said, I wake up and I do my journaling every day. I've been
making sure to move my body in the morning, whether it's bo a class,
weight training, or walking. The music that I'm listening to is very
in alignment to what I want to be in the vibe for I'm not having
conversations and playing into old stories anymore with people, places and things, which
I usually don't anyways, even when it comes to like relationships stuff or I
don't know, maybe we're gonna have like a separate conversation about that, but
that's usually what I do. And then even I think, like the biggest
thing for me this summer would be friendships and like boundaries with that. So
like I've really communicated with my friends, what I'm available for what I'm not
and just letting people know like I am on my wholesome game I always am.
I am definitely the friend that's like very like wellnessly very like oh my
god, I have to go home, I have to sleep this, that,
but genuinely like not budging on that, and the most like easy loving
way. I feel like sometimes boundaries sound like they're this huge thing and people
get so like offended by them and stuff, but people really don't like even
this weekend, I did like a whole wholesome weekend with one of my friends,
and I told her, I'm like, i am not going out,
not doing any late nights, I'm definitely not drinking, but if you want
to do something other day, then we can. And I'm pretty sure she
stayed in like the whole weekend as well, which I feel like it was
like the me effect, you know, which I feel like there was,
well, actually there was a lot of things. Actually there's so many things
going on, And it's funny because she ended up telling me there's like this
one plan to go see fifty cent at Cabana Pull Bar on Saturday, and
we already had plans and stuff, but like it just had popped up,
and for a second, I was like entertaining it, even though I was
like, okay, I just won't drink, but it'd be cool, like
it's a day thing. We could go. And I told myself, like
I spoke out loud, this is what I do. I'm like, you're
not doing it. You won't want to do it. You'll be like excited
about it for like three seconds, and then you're not gonna enjoy your It's
not even that you're gonna enjoy yourself. But what I just focused on is
how amazing I feel when I am like this wellness girally and going to sleep
at a good time, and surrounding myself with people who are doing the same
things as I am. And it's not about like othering myself and being like,
oh, these people are bad because they want to go drink or they
want to go party, or they want to do this or that. Like
I love that stuff too, but in my life I don't want that,
And so I just told myself, no, it's like it's not gonna be
worth it, Like it's just not so Anyways, those are the things that
I have been doing recently. I think a main takeaway is reminding yourself that
it's baby steps when it comes to like deciding, bringing it back to when
I grabbed the pen and then I decided to go do what that one thing,
and then that prolonged it like prolonged, prolonged, prolonged. Sometimes when
I will do though, because I'm a balanced human being, I will like
do like planned consumption, so like I plan things versus just doing things on
a whim, because I think those are two different energies as well. When
you're wanting to do something out of a place of like urgency, it's like,
what's going on there? There's something probably underneath that as to why you're
even driven to doing that thing, and like why like what don't you have
in place that allows you to get to a point where you're triggered. I
think actually that that kind of comes to back to like the rewriting your story
thing. It's like I find when I don't rewrite my story or I'm not
focusing on like positive beliefs and stuff, especially in the morning and when I
go to sleep and like throughout the day when I'm listening to like affirmations or
whatever, I find that, yes, like I'm more like easily triggered because
I don't have these things in place to support me. And I think a
lot of the times, like when you do have all of this, like
anxiety popping up or you're depressed about everything, it's like, well, what
do you have in your life that you that are supporting you in your mindset
of thinking positive thoughts? But a lot of the times it is because like
you're not supporting yourself. Where's your where's your routines? And I don't even
mean just like going to the gym and eating well, I mean your your
mindset routines. Where's your mental diet? No wheer you're getting triggered all the
time, and when you're getting triggered in your relationship all the time because you
don't sit down and write a new story, you're always going to the negative.
You're always going to the oh my god, they don't like me,
Oh my god, they're pulling away, oh my god, this, that,
and the thy'd like you're constantly spiraling it out. You're in the shower
thinking about the same thing over and over and over and over and over no
over again. Okay, Well, if you want to think differently, then
you need to have some structure in your life. So I think that's really
big, and I think it just comes back to reminding yourself you are really
one decision away from making the right decision. Because when I make that one
decision to not smoke or not drink or not sleep on myself, when I
no longer say yes to those things instantly, the rest of my entire day
is so easy. And on top of that, it feels so rewarding because
you made that one decision to say nah, not today. I'm not interested.
I'm not that type of person. I'm not that type of person.
I actually really like feeling clear minded throughout the day. I actually really like
having my morning routine in the morning, my coffee, my breakfast and morenza's
in my life and having energy and just also like thinking good thoughts about people.
Things like that. And my camera's gonna die. So I want to
quickly speed this up. I mean, it's basically already done. Last thing
I'll just quickly say, though, is just remember to take things one thing
at a time, don't focus on a million stories, a million habits,
a million things. The first thing that I did when it came to like
even getting myself out of a like really crappy mood. About two weeks ago,
was like waking up in the morning and just playing my Abraham Hicks videos
in the morning, before I was even doing like real like rewriting my story
stuff, like I did journaling here and there, but like I just like
wanted to focus on that first to just get out of bed, and then
I like focus on being consistent with like every single day no matter what,
right after my journaling, which actually I focus on that, and then I
like moving my body and that's coming from somebody who's like already doing it like
seventy percent of the time, but like I'm just like trying to be a
hundred without being obsessive. Okay, Like let's not be obsessive, please.
Last thing, I want to read this quote because I feel like it's just
going to end the episode and it's really good and I found on Pinterest the
other day. It says, July melt my self doubt in love and coat
my intentions in layers of truth. Soak my discernment in buckets of clarity,
so I can let go of what isn't mine. Clear the debris from older
parts of myself that I've outgrown, so I can see the path back to
me, pave new avenues for growth. So we're going to leave that there.
Focus on you. You first, focus on how good it's going to
feel to continue to show up and choose you every day and realize that everyone
and everything, the universe, everything is just waiting for you to get on
board, for you to commit to yourself one hundred percent. So let's do
it. I hope you guys enjoyed, and I'll see the next one. Bye.