WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.080 --> 00:00:03.080 Hi everyone, and welcome back to another podcast episode. My name is Alicia 2 00:00:03.120 --> 00:00:06.400 Gogin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand 3 00:00:06.440 --> 00:00:09.640 your mind and become more self aware so that you can glow up. It's 4 00:00:09.640 --> 00:00:14.439 the best version of yourself. Hello, how are we doing. I'm pretty 5 00:00:14.480 --> 00:00:16.879 sure this episode was coming out on Monday, so I'm just gonna say it, 6 00:00:16.879 --> 00:00:21.440 Happy Monday. We made it to another week. Honestly, guys, 7 00:00:21.559 --> 00:00:26.160 I'm feeling really good despite being in my luteal phase. If you guys know, 8 00:00:26.280 --> 00:00:29.559 then you know I get down bad on my luteal phase. But I 9 00:00:29.640 --> 00:00:34.479 did say I have been mentioning that I really want to make an active effort 10 00:00:34.560 --> 00:00:40.399 to support myself aka my mood honestly, because I feel like my mood really 11 00:00:40.479 --> 00:00:45.799 swings right before I'm about to get my period during this time. Because I 12 00:00:45.840 --> 00:00:49.479 feel like, you know, seeing my habits, some of them, even 13 00:00:49.479 --> 00:00:54.759 though they're okay, I know that some of my habits really do affect my 14 00:00:54.920 --> 00:01:00.119 mood and of course just affect your health and everything like that. So I 15 00:01:00.159 --> 00:01:03.759 wanted to really kind of like promise myself to do better, to do more, 16 00:01:03.840 --> 00:01:07.959 to really support myself to see if it would make a difference during this 17 00:01:07.079 --> 00:01:15.359 time. But also I have just been so sick of being on this mood 18 00:01:15.480 --> 00:01:18.719 roller coaster. I don't even want to say emotional roller coaster, even though 19 00:01:18.760 --> 00:01:23.799 I guess that technically is the same. But I feel like the first half 20 00:01:23.840 --> 00:01:27.560 of the year I have really struggled a lot with my mood and depression and 21 00:01:29.560 --> 00:01:34.879 feeling anxiety and things like that. And I've done a good job at supporting 22 00:01:34.879 --> 00:01:42.640 myself through everything. And I am always advocating to you give yourself the time 23 00:01:42.680 --> 00:01:47.680 you need to feel your feelings and ride out the ebbs and flows of life, 24 00:01:47.959 --> 00:01:53.239 and you know, really drop perfectionism and rebuild this relationship that you have 25 00:01:53.319 --> 00:01:56.439 towards yourself, unconditional love, all that kind of stuff. But for sure, 26 00:01:56.480 --> 00:02:00.239 I still see some habits that are for U're playing a role in my 27 00:02:00.319 --> 00:02:04.040 mood and playing a role in the things that happen in my life, even 28 00:02:04.159 --> 00:02:07.280 outside of my mood. Which brings me to this topic of the episode, 29 00:02:07.319 --> 00:02:15.639 which is you are really only one decision one. I know it feels hard, 30 00:02:15.759 --> 00:02:19.639 but one simple decision away from making the right decision. Now, the 31 00:02:19.680 --> 00:02:23.159 title of this video or this quote, I should say, I got it 32 00:02:23.280 --> 00:02:28.400 from think media podcast. I forget the guy's name. There's like a few 33 00:02:28.400 --> 00:02:30.319 people who work on that team. If you guys are interested in starting a 34 00:02:30.319 --> 00:02:34.919 podcast or YouTube things like that the business side of things, I would definitely 35 00:02:34.960 --> 00:02:38.240 suggest checking them out. But I was listening to one of their podcasts and 36 00:02:38.280 --> 00:02:40.240 he was just talking about the journey of being a content creator and a YouTuber 37 00:02:40.319 --> 00:02:45.879 and stuff, and what differentiates people who win and people who lose, essentially, 38 00:02:45.919 --> 00:02:47.960 and it's really the decisions that you're making on a day to day basis 39 00:02:47.960 --> 00:02:52.680 and the beliefs that you have about yourself and life and things like that. 40 00:02:52.759 --> 00:02:54.800 And I'm always talking about that, and he was talking about his journey and 41 00:02:54.840 --> 00:02:58.840 he said, I don't even know really what the story was, but he 42 00:02:58.919 --> 00:03:01.439 was just talking about how so you are only one decision away from making the 43 00:03:01.479 --> 00:03:06.400 right decision. And in that moment when I was on my walk listening to 44 00:03:06.439 --> 00:03:09.439 that podcast, it hit me so deep, because I feel like people's words 45 00:03:09.520 --> 00:03:14.719 hit you deep depending on where you're at and what message you really need to 46 00:03:14.719 --> 00:03:19.759 hear if you're willing to listen. And that was the specific like week of 47 00:03:19.840 --> 00:03:24.280 me genuinely looking at the small and big decisions in my life that really dictate 48 00:03:24.319 --> 00:03:29.120 the rest of my day or my life. And I was like, it 49 00:03:29.199 --> 00:03:32.639 really is as simple like when you think about it, it is as simple 50 00:03:32.680 --> 00:03:38.879 sometimes as one decision will completely change your day. So I want to talk 51 00:03:38.879 --> 00:03:43.280 about some of the things that I have been recently doing in my life that 52 00:03:43.360 --> 00:03:47.719 have helped me really have a strength to be able to choose the new version 53 00:03:47.759 --> 00:03:51.960 of me, the new story, the new habit, the thing that's going 54 00:03:52.000 --> 00:03:54.840 to honor myself and my body in my life, and quite frankly, the 55 00:03:54.879 --> 00:04:00.439 decision that will either make or break my day. So the first thing is 56 00:04:00.560 --> 00:04:05.439 always a mindset before actually doing any sort of actions when it comes to change. 57 00:04:05.479 --> 00:04:10.319 I personally think in one's life, that's what I do, because your 58 00:04:10.360 --> 00:04:15.600 mind is really it's the epicenter of everything. It doesn't mean that action is 59 00:04:15.600 --> 00:04:20.079 not important. It doesn't mean that moving is not important, or somatics aren't 60 00:04:20.120 --> 00:04:24.639 important, anything like that. But I think a really good mindset can get 61 00:04:24.639 --> 00:04:27.279 you a long way, can get you through the hardest times, It can 62 00:04:27.319 --> 00:04:30.680 get you into the hardest times, it can get you into deep tart colds. 63 00:04:30.680 --> 00:04:32.399 So I think it's always important to address this. So I'm going to 64 00:04:32.480 --> 00:04:36.639 bring it kind of personally to a few things and like habits that I have 65 00:04:36.720 --> 00:04:39.920 been doing. But you can, of course just think about the things that 66 00:04:40.000 --> 00:04:43.319 you know that just keep getting in your way, not even things that are 67 00:04:43.319 --> 00:04:46.079 getting in the way. You are getting your own way by sabotaging or doing 68 00:04:46.160 --> 00:04:48.600 the same thing or deciding to make that same decision over and over again. 69 00:04:48.680 --> 00:04:54.480 So let me just say I am somebody who is majority of the time on 70 00:04:54.560 --> 00:04:58.560 a routine. I like to ebb and flow into different routines depending on or 71 00:04:58.639 --> 00:05:01.240 I'm at my cycle. Some times I'm really motivated and I'm really inspired, 72 00:05:01.319 --> 00:05:03.720 I'm working a lot, and then sometimes I'm like pulling back. So my 73 00:05:04.240 --> 00:05:10.079 day to day like work life and just life doesn't really look the same day 74 00:05:10.120 --> 00:05:14.040 to day. And also I'm an entrepreneur, so obviously I have like a 75 00:05:14.040 --> 00:05:16.600 podcast, YouTube, I do content, so my lifestyle is definitely different than 76 00:05:16.720 --> 00:05:20.279 just like every single day the same. But regardless of the day, I'm 77 00:05:20.439 --> 00:05:24.639 usually moving my body. I'm usually eating the food that I need to. 78 00:05:24.800 --> 00:05:30.319 I'm usually not consuming anything like under the influence of anything. I'm usually consuming 79 00:05:30.360 --> 00:05:35.160 good content and trying not to have like victim mentality. Conversations with friends and 80 00:05:35.199 --> 00:05:39.399 things like that. I have done a really good job of really getting myself 81 00:05:39.439 --> 00:05:42.639 out of all of that kind of stuff that really kept me stuck, like 82 00:05:42.680 --> 00:05:46.519 the old story, even binge, eating, unhealthy relationship with food, just 83 00:05:46.519 --> 00:05:48.279 not taking care of myself, all that kind of stuff. It's an evolution. 84 00:05:48.680 --> 00:05:51.600 If you're in any of those cycles right now, don't feel like you 85 00:05:51.600 --> 00:05:56.160 are not doing enough. I've been there again. I'm gonna explain to you 86 00:05:56.240 --> 00:05:59.079 right now like I still kind of have to work through cycles things like that. 87 00:05:59.639 --> 00:06:01.040 By the way, I have talked about a lot my teas here. 88 00:06:01.079 --> 00:06:05.399 Actually I'm drinking tea today and maybe i'll talk about my health of stuff. 89 00:06:05.399 --> 00:06:10.040 But I wrote a lot about that in The Ultimate Globe Guy, which is 90 00:06:10.079 --> 00:06:13.399 a book that I wrote and released at the beginning of January. So if 91 00:06:13.399 --> 00:06:15.600 you're interested, then it'll be linked down below, or you can go find 92 00:06:15.639 --> 00:06:18.600 out your bookstores. But I talk a lot about my journey, So you 93 00:06:18.639 --> 00:06:21.920 are not alone if you're feeling like that. But there's little things even if 94 00:06:21.920 --> 00:06:26.000 you want to look at me like pitture perfect and I know you guys the 95 00:06:26.240 --> 00:06:29.519 ogs don't, but maybe I don't know. When you watch somebody who's talking 96 00:06:29.560 --> 00:06:31.160 about self improvement. I feel like naturally, you're like, oh okay, 97 00:06:31.199 --> 00:06:34.600 like they know and they are like doing the things, and I am. 98 00:06:34.879 --> 00:06:40.800 But some of the things that will affect me are let's say, if I'm 99 00:06:40.800 --> 00:06:45.279 going out with my friends and I don't hold boundaries and I don't verbally communicate 100 00:06:45.399 --> 00:06:48.120 that I need to get home at a certain time or that I'm not drinking, 101 00:06:48.199 --> 00:06:51.120 what I end up usually doing because it's such a fun time going out 102 00:06:51.120 --> 00:06:54.920 with my friends and there's so much abundance and there's so many things to do 103 00:06:55.000 --> 00:06:58.879 and everything like that, I will have a few drinks and I will stay 104 00:06:58.879 --> 00:07:01.680 out late and then not just completely affects not only my mood, because alcohol 105 00:07:01.680 --> 00:07:05.480 affects my mood, but also the next day. It's not that I don't 106 00:07:05.519 --> 00:07:09.279 do anything the next day, but it's just like I'm not at my optimal 107 00:07:09.680 --> 00:07:14.600 feeling. And I love to give myself time to go out and have fun 108 00:07:14.639 --> 00:07:17.800 with my friends and not be super on my shit all the time. But 109 00:07:18.360 --> 00:07:20.759 I do feel a lot better when I'm on my shit all the time. 110 00:07:20.920 --> 00:07:25.399 Also, I don't know if I've ever really mentioned this, but from time 111 00:07:25.439 --> 00:07:28.040 to time, I would say, like a few times out of the month, 112 00:07:28.480 --> 00:07:31.680 I do consume broccoli. If you guys don't know what that is, 113 00:07:31.759 --> 00:07:36.720 then maybe you're just too young. But anyways, sometimes I will consume that, 114 00:07:38.240 --> 00:07:42.920 and that's usually when I'm bored. That's usually if like I have like 115 00:07:42.959 --> 00:07:46.040 a solo night in and like my work is done and like I just want 116 00:07:46.040 --> 00:07:49.759 to listen to music and just vibe out. Like personally, for me, 117 00:07:49.959 --> 00:07:53.120 I'm not gonna like go into too much of a tangent because I don't even 118 00:07:53.120 --> 00:07:56.199 want to promote that it is legal in Canada. I'm also twenty eight, 119 00:07:57.120 --> 00:08:01.680 like consume things responsibly, but my body works with that plant. I know 120 00:08:01.759 --> 00:08:07.120 some people don't. I've had phases in my life where I have gone in 121 00:08:07.160 --> 00:08:09.639 and out of that, but I personally really vibe with that. It vibes 122 00:08:09.680 --> 00:08:13.000 with me, I feel. I think in general, you just have to 123 00:08:13.040 --> 00:08:16.199 be careful with consuming things. Whether I think, I mean, I look 124 00:08:16.199 --> 00:08:20.720 at alcohol way different than I look at broccoli, but even like alcohol, 125 00:08:20.920 --> 00:08:24.199 whatever kind of substance, you just have to be careful obviously because you're no 126 00:08:24.279 --> 00:08:28.759 longer enough maybe a clear mind. You have to, like I don't know, 127 00:08:28.839 --> 00:08:31.360 I personally like have like planned consumption things like that. You can't just 128 00:08:31.399 --> 00:08:35.840 be consuming things all the time like that, or you can lose yourself. 129 00:08:35.879 --> 00:08:39.159 And then also you have to be careful of like why am I taking this 130 00:08:39.240 --> 00:08:41.159 thing or why am I doing this thing? And so I've always been aware, 131 00:08:41.320 --> 00:08:45.120 like throughout my life, even when I look at alcohol. I've never 132 00:08:45.159 --> 00:08:48.279 been like a big drinker when it comes to alcohol, because I genuinely have 133 00:08:48.320 --> 00:08:50.799 always had the worst hangovers, like the worst, and it doesn't make me 134 00:08:50.840 --> 00:08:54.600 feel good for very long. So I've never really been that like type of 135 00:08:54.679 --> 00:08:58.600 drinker. But you know, like socially and stuff, I always try and 136 00:08:58.639 --> 00:09:01.159 do my best to not indulge in these things, especially when I'm going through 137 00:09:01.200 --> 00:09:05.320 things, because I think that sometimes it can just be an escape, and 138 00:09:05.360 --> 00:09:09.360 I don't like to escape my emotions my issues in life, especially being somebody 139 00:09:09.399 --> 00:09:13.919 who's hyper independent, I really don't have that much time to do that. 140 00:09:13.000 --> 00:09:16.120 If I start losing myself, then I really lose myself, Like I will 141 00:09:16.120 --> 00:09:20.919 lose my life, like I will lose my financial status, I will lose 142 00:09:20.960 --> 00:09:24.919 my job, I will lose all of these things. And I've also grown 143 00:09:24.000 --> 00:09:28.120 up around addicts in my life, so I have seen where that goes. 144 00:09:28.159 --> 00:09:31.799 I've never really fallen on that side. But I think that no matter what, 145 00:09:31.919 --> 00:09:35.200 everyone has their form of addiction. In some ways, I don't think 146 00:09:35.240 --> 00:09:37.919 that I have any sort of active addictions in my life, but I think 147 00:09:37.960 --> 00:09:41.159 previously, when I was in my early twenties, I would say it was 148 00:09:41.159 --> 00:09:45.879 definitely food, Like I had a really bad relationship with food, and I 149 00:09:45.919 --> 00:09:48.120 talk about it kind of in my book, not too much. It's not 150 00:09:48.240 --> 00:09:50.840 like this like big deep dive, but I talk about why why I was 151 00:09:50.919 --> 00:09:56.519 led to those things. So anyways, I say all that to say it's 152 00:09:56.559 --> 00:09:58.720 really important that I make sure that I'm not like falling too much into like 153 00:09:58.759 --> 00:10:05.919 sm gang or whatever. But sometimes when my mood is a little it's not 154 00:10:05.960 --> 00:10:09.240 like unstable. It's just like I'm not like motivated for life or this that. 155 00:10:09.639 --> 00:10:13.639 And I don't have a lot of work, Like I've done my work, 156 00:10:13.679 --> 00:10:18.080 I have my podcast recorded, i have my everything done, and I'm 157 00:10:18.120 --> 00:10:20.600 bored, especially because I'm like an introvert, and sometimes I just like don't 158 00:10:20.639 --> 00:10:24.519 want to be like bothered to go out and stuff. I will think, 159 00:10:24.759 --> 00:10:28.919 well, I could smoke, like it'd be fun because I have a good 160 00:10:28.960 --> 00:10:33.039 time when I do that. But I know if I do that too much, 161 00:10:33.799 --> 00:10:37.159 not only am I gonna get my head about it because I'm like, 162 00:10:37.159 --> 00:10:37.720 okay, I gotta be care like I don't want to be like, you 163 00:10:37.759 --> 00:10:41.080 know, going down this road. But also like I do like how I 164 00:10:41.120 --> 00:10:46.279 feel when I'm clear minded as much as I have a great time, Sometimes 165 00:10:46.279 --> 00:10:50.879 when I smoke, it's a different consciousness. Okay, I personally think if 166 00:10:50.879 --> 00:10:54.120 you do it too much, then you're actually not taking the benefits of what 167 00:10:54.159 --> 00:10:56.440 that plan could do for you. And sometimes when I do that, you 168 00:10:56.519 --> 00:11:00.639 know, it's crazy. Because when I heal, my relationship with food, 169 00:11:01.480 --> 00:11:05.720 body image, gotten a really healthy routine, lifestyle, everything I like, 170 00:11:05.759 --> 00:11:09.559 my life got better. It's interesting to see how the relationship that I have 171 00:11:09.639 --> 00:11:13.240 towards smoking is a lot different. I find that I do get really creative 172 00:11:13.279 --> 00:11:18.960 and I actually like take the benefits of that plant versus like vegging out and 173 00:11:18.080 --> 00:11:22.240 eating a bunch of shitty food and things like that. But sometimes I'll like 174 00:11:22.360 --> 00:11:24.759 get a little craving and order something here and there. But regardless whatever, 175 00:11:24.919 --> 00:11:33.759 there's definitely just side effects from smoking that I don't personally enjoy. Sometimes even 176 00:11:33.799 --> 00:11:37.080 if I'm in the best state of mind, and one of them being it 177 00:11:37.120 --> 00:11:39.440 does affect my sleep. I am somebody who literally cannot knock out. I 178 00:11:39.480 --> 00:11:43.320 can't knock out when it comes to smoking, I like applaud people who can. 179 00:11:45.559 --> 00:11:48.440 Maybe that's probably a good thing because maybe I would rely on it more. 180 00:11:48.519 --> 00:11:52.600 I can't knock out. It also kind of affects my appetite. Sometimes 181 00:11:52.600 --> 00:11:54.679 I don't want to eat as well, so like I don't like that. 182 00:11:56.320 --> 00:11:58.519 The next day. I'm usually okay, depending on where I'm at with my 183 00:11:58.559 --> 00:12:01.240 mood, but sometimes like if I'm in my luteal phase and I'm like, 184 00:12:01.679 --> 00:12:05.039 for some reason I like wanted to smoke, sometimes it's going to mess up 185 00:12:05.080 --> 00:12:09.799 my mood and I don't want that. And sometimes you just never know where 186 00:12:09.799 --> 00:12:11.080 your mind's gonna go. Like I even think about this when it comes to 187 00:12:11.159 --> 00:12:16.120 drinking alcohol, Like I am a very fun like I don't even want to 188 00:12:16.120 --> 00:12:18.600 say drunk because I don't get drunk, but like I have a good time. 189 00:12:18.720 --> 00:12:22.039 I'm never like emotional, I don't get angry, i don't get chaotic, 190 00:12:22.159 --> 00:12:24.720 Like I just have a really really good time. It just heightens like 191 00:12:24.799 --> 00:12:28.399 the state that I'm in. But sometimes you're not always the same person, 192 00:12:28.480 --> 00:12:33.159 like every single day always, So I mean, I'm sure It's happened in 193 00:12:33.159 --> 00:12:37.080 my life where I've drank and maybe I got a little bit more emotional than 194 00:12:37.120 --> 00:12:41.879 I like really wanted to or whatever. And I think sometimes I can happen 195 00:12:41.879 --> 00:12:45.279 with smoking as well, and I just don't want to even put myself in 196 00:12:45.360 --> 00:12:48.080 that stage. And then naturally, I just sometimes the way that I'm perceiving 197 00:12:48.960 --> 00:12:52.960 like smoking and stuff is kind of like, like, this is not the 198 00:12:52.039 --> 00:12:56.320 highest version of me. I don't want to be doing this. I feel 199 00:12:56.320 --> 00:12:58.720 like there's so many other things that I can be doing in my life and 200 00:12:58.759 --> 00:13:03.080 like going out and experiencing life and feeling good and I'm really working on my 201 00:13:03.120 --> 00:13:07.519 mood that I don't want to mess it up essentially, But just because I 202 00:13:07.600 --> 00:13:09.039 know what's good for me and I know I don't want to mess things up, 203 00:13:09.039 --> 00:13:11.440 it doesn't mean that they're still a part of me that kind of craves 204 00:13:11.440 --> 00:13:16.039 that. And so lately, especially when I come into my ludial phase, 205 00:13:16.080 --> 00:13:18.799 I kind of have like less energy to go socialize and do things, and 206 00:13:18.799 --> 00:13:24.279 I'm not motivated, So I'm more susceptible to want to grab that right and 207 00:13:24.320 --> 00:13:24.879 to like want to do that because it's like, oh, it would be 208 00:13:24.919 --> 00:13:28.159 a great day, it's like a loomy day. I can just chill this 209 00:13:28.279 --> 00:13:31.039 that. But in my life, like I've been telling you guys, like 210 00:13:31.360 --> 00:13:35.039 honestly, like I've been watching myself the past six months. But I would 211 00:13:35.039 --> 00:13:37.480 really say that the past few months when it comes to my mood specifically, 212 00:13:37.519 --> 00:13:39.159 I'm like, I don't want to do anything to mess up this. I 213 00:13:39.240 --> 00:13:43.120 just don't want to, like I don't want to be going on these huge 214 00:13:43.240 --> 00:13:46.000 emotional rollercoasters. I really want to support myself through my ludial phase. I 215 00:13:46.000 --> 00:13:48.799 want to see what I can do. I have really not been drinking at 216 00:13:48.799 --> 00:13:52.279 all when I go out and stuff like that. So like the past i 217 00:13:52.279 --> 00:13:54.879 would say, like two and a half weeks, I've been really kind of 218 00:13:54.600 --> 00:13:58.679 you know, making a point to not even smoking and to really support myself 219 00:13:58.720 --> 00:14:03.919 the best way that I can. But of course I'm I'm now in this 220 00:14:05.000 --> 00:14:09.279 phase of the decision and when the decision is to smoke, when the decision 221 00:14:09.440 --> 00:14:15.440 is to indulge in that thing that you know is not really like gonna mess 222 00:14:15.519 --> 00:14:18.360 up your life. You have a good relationship with it. You know that 223 00:14:18.440 --> 00:14:20.519 you'll trust yourself and you won't really like you know, get into it. 224 00:14:20.559 --> 00:14:26.000 But but the side effects sometimes of the thing that you're currently trying to focus 225 00:14:26.000 --> 00:14:31.039 on, and he'll like heal more of that could be affected. This is 226 00:14:31.039 --> 00:14:33.480 where it gets a little bit tricky. It's like, Okay, now I'm 227 00:14:33.519 --> 00:14:35.960 in this, Like what do I just decide? What do I decide? 228 00:14:35.039 --> 00:14:39.960 So when the decision is having to be made, like I would say the 229 00:14:39.000 --> 00:14:41.639 past two weeks, when I've really been having to like think about this, 230 00:14:43.080 --> 00:14:45.960 I want to talk about a few things that I've done in order to not 231 00:14:46.000 --> 00:14:48.320 do this, and I haven't at all, which is great and I feel 232 00:14:48.360 --> 00:14:52.399 amazing, and like, I never rely on this. I don't rely on 233 00:14:52.480 --> 00:14:54.159 really anything, even when it comes to food, which is wild to say, 234 00:14:54.200 --> 00:14:56.000 because I used to, like I said, I used to have a 235 00:14:56.000 --> 00:15:01.519 really unhealthy relationship with food, and I could never even there would be a 236 00:15:01.600 --> 00:15:05.759 day where I wouldn't be consumed by thinking about what I'm going to eat breakfast, 237 00:15:05.840 --> 00:15:09.600 lunch, and dinner and be thinking about it and counting the calories and 238 00:15:09.639 --> 00:15:11.759 oh is this gonna affect my body? Or is this healthy or is this 239 00:15:11.879 --> 00:15:15.120 not? Or I need to start on Monday. I never thought that I 240 00:15:15.159 --> 00:15:16.639 would ever be able to get out of that cycle and I did, and 241 00:15:16.679 --> 00:15:20.600 if you're currently in that cycle, I would suggest getting my book. So 242 00:15:20.960 --> 00:15:24.559 the first thing that I did a lot anytime I had the thought of, 243 00:15:24.639 --> 00:15:26.799 like mmm, smoke, not smoke, or even if it's like go to 244 00:15:26.840 --> 00:15:28.720 the gym, knock, go to the gym, or eat this food or 245 00:15:28.720 --> 00:15:31.120 not eat this food, or like go out with my friends or not like 246 00:15:31.159 --> 00:15:33.639 those kind of things, like anything, think about the thing that you're currently 247 00:15:33.679 --> 00:15:39.080 having to decide. Make that decision. The first thing is I really slowed 248 00:15:39.120 --> 00:15:45.039 down and allow myself to think this situation out. We don't give ourselves enough 249 00:15:45.039 --> 00:15:46.159 time. We just decide, we act on the thing. Right, it's 250 00:15:46.159 --> 00:15:48.799 an impulse, Oh I want to eat or I want to smoke, or 251 00:15:48.840 --> 00:15:50.919 I want a drink or I want to go out, like that impulse. 252 00:15:52.000 --> 00:15:54.519 So you need to give yourself a little bit of room to actually think. 253 00:15:56.120 --> 00:15:58.759 And what I like to think about and honestly, what I like to hyper 254 00:15:58.799 --> 00:16:03.399 focus And this is what I even wrote my notes, hyper focus on what 255 00:16:03.600 --> 00:16:07.360 the wrong decision will lead you to. Okay, so I really like to 256 00:16:07.399 --> 00:16:11.240 think about all the ways in which I'll feel like shit if I do this 257 00:16:11.320 --> 00:16:15.159 thing, all of the side effects, all of the things that I'll have 258 00:16:15.240 --> 00:16:19.240 to bring myself back up to if I do this thing, all of the 259 00:16:19.320 --> 00:16:23.559 things like everything right. So you can think about how you'll feel if you 260 00:16:23.799 --> 00:16:27.240 skip the gym, how you'll feel the next day, if you drink, 261 00:16:27.480 --> 00:16:30.720 how you'll feel X, Y and Z, And honestly, I think this 262 00:16:30.759 --> 00:16:33.120 is why it's so easy for me to not drink a lot. Even if 263 00:16:33.159 --> 00:16:37.000 I do have a drink, it's really not a lot because I know one 264 00:16:37.039 --> 00:16:38.440 hundred million, thousand percent the way that I'm going to feel the next day, 265 00:16:38.440 --> 00:16:41.759 and it's not even worth it for even a second. So like I 266 00:16:41.879 --> 00:16:44.799 just naturally will cut myself off and I'll start drinking water and things like that. 267 00:16:45.000 --> 00:16:47.440 But now I'm getting to the point where it's like those little small things 268 00:16:47.480 --> 00:16:48.840 right, Like I want to feel one hundred percent. I don't want to 269 00:16:48.879 --> 00:16:52.960 feel just like seventy percent. I want to feel one hundred percent. This 270 00:16:52.039 --> 00:16:55.679 is what I deserve in my life. This is where I'm going to be 271 00:16:55.679 --> 00:16:57.600 able to get myself to a better state in my life. I want to 272 00:16:57.600 --> 00:17:02.000 feel one hundred percent. So I'm gonna have to really think about those things 273 00:17:02.000 --> 00:17:04.359 that are not going to feel good the next day. I can even think 274 00:17:04.359 --> 00:17:07.839 about this. When it comes to texting an X, or texting somebody who 275 00:17:08.359 --> 00:17:12.240 you've been chasing or somebody who's not good for you right, or putting yourself 276 00:17:12.240 --> 00:17:15.880 in places where it doesn't serve you. I want you to think about and 277 00:17:15.920 --> 00:17:21.279 this is what I had to do. Think about all of the side effects 278 00:17:21.319 --> 00:17:22.880 and all the shitty ways you're gonna feel. Even when it comes to binging, 279 00:17:23.039 --> 00:17:26.039 I would do this sometimes It was hard, right, because that emotional 280 00:17:27.079 --> 00:17:30.160 drive to do things sometimes it just overwhelms you. And I talk about my 281 00:17:30.240 --> 00:17:33.680 book, that emotional side that really feels like it needs to eat something and 282 00:17:33.720 --> 00:17:38.359 regulate. That's what's really happening. Also in some senses is like whether it's 283 00:17:38.400 --> 00:17:42.000 deep or not, you're doing this behavior because you feel like you need to 284 00:17:42.000 --> 00:17:45.519 do it right, So first stopping yourself and being like, Okay, all 285 00:17:45.559 --> 00:17:48.039 the side effects and how shitty am I going to feel if I text that 286 00:17:48.119 --> 00:17:51.400 AX and he doesn't reply or it doesn't go the way that I want, 287 00:17:51.519 --> 00:17:53.720 or how I'm gonna feel after I eat all that food or my bank account 288 00:17:53.759 --> 00:17:57.599 after that or this that like really really think about the consequences of your actions, 289 00:17:57.920 --> 00:18:02.359 but also thinking about what drove you to that thing. For me, 290 00:18:03.119 --> 00:18:04.319 I would say like the past few weeks, and honestly, this is what 291 00:18:04.359 --> 00:18:07.079 happens like when it comes to smoking. For me, it's really just a 292 00:18:07.079 --> 00:18:11.079 boredom thing. Like I don't even think about these things when I'm not like 293 00:18:11.160 --> 00:18:15.119 bored or busy things like that. But I think about when I was like 294 00:18:15.160 --> 00:18:19.519 binge eating and not eating well or getting into unhealthy relationships and things like that. 295 00:18:19.640 --> 00:18:22.680 It was definitely from this place of like I felt really alone and sad 296 00:18:22.720 --> 00:18:26.680 and like I needed that thing to soothe me. Which we're going to talk 297 00:18:26.720 --> 00:18:30.680 about what's really going to help you actually, not like go into that thing 298 00:18:30.759 --> 00:18:33.240 so it'll help you soothe you. But I really just try my best to 299 00:18:33.319 --> 00:18:40.599 hyper focus on all the side effects in the downfall of what will happen if 300 00:18:40.640 --> 00:18:45.200 I decide to make the wrong decision. And then I think about and again 301 00:18:45.240 --> 00:18:48.839 I have to give myself time, give yourself time. I think about all 302 00:18:49.079 --> 00:18:52.400 of the benefits and how I'm going to feel if I don't do this thing. 303 00:18:52.960 --> 00:18:56.799 I've really been doing this, and I know it's almost like, yeah, 304 00:18:56.799 --> 00:18:57.640 we kind of know this, but we don't really do this right. 305 00:18:59.039 --> 00:19:00.359 And I think people will always talk about it when it comes to the gym, 306 00:19:00.400 --> 00:19:03.519 Oh think about how good you're gonna feel the gym, but you don't, 307 00:19:03.559 --> 00:19:06.519 like you don't really sit there and think about it. And I think 308 00:19:06.880 --> 00:19:10.039 it is good when you are thinking about the thing that you're really stuck in. 309 00:19:10.079 --> 00:19:11.759 When it comes to let's say, I'm gonna bring it back to smoking, 310 00:19:11.920 --> 00:19:15.759 how will it feel, Alisha if you decide that, Okay, maybe 311 00:19:15.920 --> 00:19:19.200 it's your day off, but you're gonna go to the island, or you're 312 00:19:19.200 --> 00:19:23.079 gonna walk around, You're gonna go to acupuncture, you're gonna go chill with 313 00:19:23.119 --> 00:19:26.240 a friend at a coffee shop, like you're gonna go out in nature, 314 00:19:26.240 --> 00:19:27.640 You're gonna do some fun things, like you're gonna be really productive. Because 315 00:19:27.640 --> 00:19:32.039 sometimes when I smoke, I'm very like not in my head, but like 316 00:19:32.839 --> 00:19:34.000 music, I want to dance, I want to chill, I want a 317 00:19:34.079 --> 00:19:37.960 vibe. Sometimes I'll go out and like go for walks and stuff like that. 318 00:19:37.000 --> 00:19:41.079 But it depends on the vibe that I'm on. But anyways, but 319 00:19:41.160 --> 00:19:45.119 like, how would you feel if if that was your day or if you 320 00:19:45.160 --> 00:19:48.559 didn't do that, you could edit another video, Like there's always something to 321 00:19:48.559 --> 00:19:52.920 do for me As an entrepreneur. There's always something to do, right, 322 00:19:52.319 --> 00:19:57.839 And how would you feel when you have the proper amount of I was gonna 323 00:19:57.880 --> 00:20:03.640 say energy, but this is actually the opposite melatonin. I guess to fall 324 00:20:03.680 --> 00:20:07.200 asleep at a normal, beautiful time. And how would it be to like 325 00:20:07.240 --> 00:20:11.000 clean your space tonight and listen to a good podcast, and you know, 326 00:20:11.079 --> 00:20:14.799 light a candle or an incense and listen to some music. Right, go 327 00:20:14.839 --> 00:20:18.920 on your belcon you can do all these things without smoking, and getting in 328 00:20:18.960 --> 00:20:22.079 your bed, doing your journal practice, getting into bed at a decent time, 329 00:20:22.119 --> 00:20:23.839 booking a workout class in the morning, and you're waking up in the 330 00:20:23.920 --> 00:20:27.359 morning, you're not tired. You didn't mess up your sleep like all of 331 00:20:27.359 --> 00:20:32.559 these things, and you did that from a normal natural energy system, right, 332 00:20:32.640 --> 00:20:34.640 Like you're healthy. You didn't need any sort of substance to do any 333 00:20:34.640 --> 00:20:38.400 sort of thing because you can do all that. You can be as creative 334 00:20:38.440 --> 00:20:41.759 without that. I always try and tell myself that too, Like I really 335 00:20:41.799 --> 00:20:44.759 focus on my beliefs when it does come to things, because I'm not perfect, 336 00:20:44.839 --> 00:20:45.960 right, and I will do things from time to time, But I 337 00:20:45.960 --> 00:20:48.680 always try to remind myself even when it comes to drinking, like I can 338 00:20:48.680 --> 00:20:52.720 socialize without drinking I don't need it, Or I can be creative without smoking, 339 00:20:52.839 --> 00:20:55.920 or I can do all these things without doing that. I think it's 340 00:20:55.920 --> 00:20:59.720 really important that you tell yourself that. But I always try and focus on 341 00:21:00.359 --> 00:21:03.079 how I'll feel if I And again, let's say, like go to the 342 00:21:03.119 --> 00:21:06.119 gym. You're gonna feel so fit and so good, and you're gonna look 343 00:21:06.119 --> 00:21:07.880 at yourself like that it girl, and you know, like thinking about your 344 00:21:07.920 --> 00:21:11.839 self concept and your confidence, and you know, like the outfits you're gonna 345 00:21:11.839 --> 00:21:15.160 feel good in and just how you're gonna look and feel and all that kind 346 00:21:15.160 --> 00:21:18.279 of stuff, and how you're gonna even act and be from this place of 347 00:21:18.400 --> 00:21:22.519 you waking up in the morning and having this morning routine, you're gonna feel, 348 00:21:22.559 --> 00:21:26.799 Oh, it's gonna be so good. So think about all the benefits 349 00:21:26.799 --> 00:21:30.160 and all the amazing things and how even when it comes to like binge eating 350 00:21:30.200 --> 00:21:32.240 and stuff. And I know it's way deeper than what I'm even saying. 351 00:21:32.240 --> 00:21:33.680 Okay, I get this, Like it's deep, but it's also like you 352 00:21:33.720 --> 00:21:38.240 can do it thinking about your gut health, thinking about how you're gonna feel 353 00:21:38.240 --> 00:21:41.759 in the morning when you don't go to sleep binging a bunch of food. 354 00:21:41.119 --> 00:21:45.400 How you're gonna feel knowing you've saved money because you didn't waste all your money 355 00:21:45.519 --> 00:21:48.440 doing this, like you know binge, because you will spend a lot of 356 00:21:48.480 --> 00:21:52.240 money doing that kind of stuff. Like, really think about how you're going 357 00:21:52.279 --> 00:21:56.319 to feel and how your body's gonna thank you for supporting it and allowing it 358 00:21:56.400 --> 00:22:02.400 to rest and digest and heal and just be calm. You really have to 359 00:22:02.480 --> 00:22:04.920 remind yourself of these things. And the last reminder that I always remind myself 360 00:22:04.920 --> 00:22:07.960 of is when I am having to make those decisions, it's not gonna be 361 00:22:08.000 --> 00:22:12.839 comfortable at first. So there's gonna be a period of when I am thinking 362 00:22:12.839 --> 00:22:15.440 about the bad and I'm thinking about the good, and I'm gonna have to 363 00:22:15.480 --> 00:22:21.759 decide even when I like think about the good, Like, it's still gonna 364 00:22:21.960 --> 00:22:25.200 not feel the best to decide to pick the good, even though that's wild, 365 00:22:25.359 --> 00:22:26.519 right, it's actually wild to think that, Like it's not gonna feel 366 00:22:26.519 --> 00:22:30.119 the good to choose yourself. But in that moment, it's not gonna feel 367 00:22:30.160 --> 00:22:32.640 the most comfortable. But you can get over that hump. And so I 368 00:22:32.680 --> 00:22:34.519 always have to like remind myself, like out loud. I'll tell myself, 369 00:22:34.599 --> 00:22:37.920 Okay, it's gonna feel really uncomfortable because you really want to do it right 370 00:22:37.920 --> 00:22:38.960 now because you're really bored and you want to like it's gonna be fun just 371 00:22:40.039 --> 00:22:41.440 that, but like think about the things that will actually feel better if you 372 00:22:41.480 --> 00:22:45.240 don't do this, and like just you're gonna get over this hump and then 373 00:22:45.279 --> 00:22:48.359 you're gonna feel so happy that you did it. I also think about this 374 00:22:48.400 --> 00:22:49.440 when it comes to writing my book. When I was writing my book, 375 00:22:49.480 --> 00:22:52.680 there was definitely times I wasn't motivated. But writing your book every single day 376 00:22:52.720 --> 00:22:56.440 or like touching it every single day is way better than you just taking some 377 00:22:56.519 --> 00:22:59.000 time off because then you have to get back into the flow and it's harder 378 00:22:59.000 --> 00:23:02.920 to get into so you kind of have to get over that little like resistance 379 00:23:02.960 --> 00:23:06.000 that you might have at the beginning. And the way that I get out 380 00:23:06.039 --> 00:23:10.680 of resistance is taking action like baby steps. Like literally I did this one 381 00:23:10.720 --> 00:23:14.240 time when I was trying to like do this decision making like a week and 382 00:23:14.240 --> 00:23:17.119 a half ago or something, cause I was like really going back and forth 383 00:23:17.160 --> 00:23:18.759 with it, and I was like, you know what, I'm just gonna 384 00:23:18.759 --> 00:23:22.559 like grab it, but I'm gonna go do this one thing first, and 385 00:23:22.599 --> 00:23:23.839 then I'm gonna come back to it, like I'm gonna do all the things 386 00:23:23.880 --> 00:23:26.799 that I need to do before I do that. And that's actually one thing 387 00:23:26.799 --> 00:23:30.119 that I like to do, regardless of if I'm actually deciding to do this 388 00:23:30.240 --> 00:23:33.279 or not, or anything else in my life. When it comes to like 389 00:23:33.319 --> 00:23:36.880 not the healthiest habits or whatever, it's not really bad habit. I don't 390 00:23:36.920 --> 00:23:38.519 look at it as bad habit because then I think it just spiral into that. 391 00:23:38.559 --> 00:23:42.519 But I will make sure to be responsible and do the things that I 392 00:23:42.519 --> 00:23:47.000 need to do on my to do list, Like we're not I'm sorry, 393 00:23:47.079 --> 00:23:49.279 but like we need to be mature. And if we're gonna go party, 394 00:23:49.359 --> 00:23:53.200 if we're gonna go smoke, if we're gonna go indulge in things, we 395 00:23:53.240 --> 00:23:56.759 need to make sure that we're taking care of ourselves and we're taking care of 396 00:23:56.759 --> 00:23:59.519 business, and we're doing the things that we need to do. So we 397 00:23:59.559 --> 00:24:02.880 need to do that. And so even when I'm deciding to do these things, 398 00:24:03.039 --> 00:24:06.519 I like to use action as a buffer. And then literally when I 399 00:24:06.519 --> 00:24:07.559 did this one thing, like I was like I don't even know. It 400 00:24:07.599 --> 00:24:11.440 was like finishing up some content because I figured I would might as well do 401 00:24:11.480 --> 00:24:14.119 that because I was like ready that day, even though I didn't really need 402 00:24:14.119 --> 00:24:15.240 to do it. I was like, let me do an extra step of 403 00:24:15.279 --> 00:24:19.079 something to feel productive and then I'll decide. And then of course as soon 404 00:24:19.079 --> 00:24:21.559 as I did that, I was like, I don't need this, Like 405 00:24:21.599 --> 00:24:23.799 I'm done. So those are like the mindset shifts that I like to think 406 00:24:23.799 --> 00:24:29.119 about in those moments when I'm about to decide. But how you're really going 407 00:24:29.200 --> 00:24:32.799 to no longer be in these cycles? At least for me, this is 408 00:24:32.839 --> 00:24:34.720 what's really helped. And this is what I've been doing every single day and 409 00:24:34.799 --> 00:24:37.640 night, and this is something that I'm not going to go back on. 410 00:24:37.759 --> 00:24:40.759 But this is huge, and this is basically your action piece, and this 411 00:24:40.799 --> 00:24:45.359 is going to really dictate whether you're going to ever really have strength to do 412 00:24:45.440 --> 00:24:48.880 these things and to get out of these cycles, which is to rewrite your 413 00:24:48.880 --> 00:24:53.079 story. Okay, so let's talk about rewriting your story. You live out 414 00:24:53.240 --> 00:24:57.559 a story about the way you look at yourself, the way you are as 415 00:24:57.720 --> 00:25:03.480 a person, whether you're somebody who takes care of themselves or not, somebody 416 00:25:03.480 --> 00:25:07.160 who smokes or doesn't smoke, drinks, doesn't drink is an introvert, extrovert, 417 00:25:07.200 --> 00:25:10.319 all these things. You have a story about everything you identify as who 418 00:25:10.319 --> 00:25:12.160 you don't identify as. It's all good, it's fine, But there's a 419 00:25:12.200 --> 00:25:15.599 lot of stories that you have towards yourself, especially when you are in cycles 420 00:25:15.599 --> 00:25:19.400 that are not favorable, and sometimes they just keep you stuck because you're not 421 00:25:19.440 --> 00:25:26.160 really focusing on a better story. And you also have stories about how people 422 00:25:26.200 --> 00:25:27.759 show up in your life. You have stories about men, you have stories 423 00:25:27.799 --> 00:25:32.240 about women. You have stories about how hard relationships will be or how easy 424 00:25:32.240 --> 00:25:33.960 they will be, or how much money you can make or how hard it 425 00:25:34.000 --> 00:25:37.720 is to make money or how you can make money. You have a story 426 00:25:37.839 --> 00:25:41.359 about everything. This story plays out in your life, and you act out 427 00:25:41.400 --> 00:25:44.480 of this story, and you manifest out of this story. If you don't 428 00:25:44.480 --> 00:25:48.960 believe manifestation, fine whatever, but let's bring it back to you deciding to 429 00:25:48.960 --> 00:25:55.000 make the right decision or the wrong decision, the identity and the story that 430 00:25:55.039 --> 00:25:59.200 you're currently living out when you are somebody who is not making the right decision 431 00:25:59.400 --> 00:26:03.599 in their life. It's not favorable. It's not loving, it's not strong, 432 00:26:03.640 --> 00:26:07.000 it's not confident, it's not the best version of you, and so 433 00:26:07.440 --> 00:26:11.559 especially when you're trying to change the habit or change something in your life. 434 00:26:11.559 --> 00:26:14.640 But let's just like focus on us, right, like self care and self 435 00:26:14.720 --> 00:26:18.640 love. You want to look at yourself as somebody who no longer negotiates things, 436 00:26:19.079 --> 00:26:23.079 who no longer sleeps on themselves, who no longer decides to make the 437 00:26:23.079 --> 00:26:29.920 wrong decision, who no longer doesn't give herself the option to think about whether 438 00:26:30.319 --> 00:26:32.480 this decision is going to be good or bad because that's what you're doing, 439 00:26:32.559 --> 00:26:36.519 right, or somebody who gives yourself a chance to negotiate. And maybe if 440 00:26:36.559 --> 00:26:37.960 you're not even playing out that story. And by the way, our stories 441 00:26:37.960 --> 00:26:41.559 are very subconscious, so it doesn't mean that you like actively know that you're 442 00:26:41.559 --> 00:26:44.880 even playing this out, but you could also just not be living out a 443 00:26:44.920 --> 00:26:48.559 story right now. Of you know, you're somebody who loves to go to 444 00:26:48.559 --> 00:26:52.039 the gym, or you're somebody who loves to do their self care routines, 445 00:26:52.200 --> 00:26:56.200 or somebody who enjoys going to sleep early, or somebody who enjoys to have 446 00:26:56.240 --> 00:27:02.839 boundaries with friends, or somebody who really only talks to men who want to 447 00:27:03.359 --> 00:27:07.000 move things forward. Like, there's a lot of things that you aren't really 448 00:27:07.079 --> 00:27:11.359 even focusing on And so every single morning what I do is I'm constantly rewriting 449 00:27:11.400 --> 00:27:15.960 my story about who I am and how I show up for myself firstly, 450 00:27:17.400 --> 00:27:19.799 always, okay, always, always, always you. And I've made this 451 00:27:19.880 --> 00:27:23.279 mistake of like when I want to manifest like a new thing in my life 452 00:27:23.359 --> 00:27:26.519 or change the story about things, which changing your story is basically changing your 453 00:27:26.519 --> 00:27:30.799 beliefs as well. Whatever. But sometimes like I'll think about, like a 454 00:27:30.839 --> 00:27:33.319 say, if I have a relationship issue, I'm like focusing on that first. 455 00:27:33.559 --> 00:27:37.880 I think first and foremost always just focus on you, and then you 456 00:27:37.880 --> 00:27:41.000 can like rewrite other stories and stuff. But let's talk about us in this 457 00:27:41.079 --> 00:27:45.079 episode. You really want to have a morning practice of doing this. Now, 458 00:27:45.119 --> 00:27:49.240 why it's important to rewrite your story in the morning is because you are 459 00:27:49.279 --> 00:27:55.599 faced with the decision every single day in the morning to be the old version 460 00:27:55.599 --> 00:27:57.240 of you or new version of you. Now, if you like the way 461 00:27:57.240 --> 00:28:00.839 everything is going in your life, then you're to keep persisting in the habits 462 00:28:00.920 --> 00:28:04.200 and the thoughts and the beliefs that you hold about yourself and life and whatever, 463 00:28:04.240 --> 00:28:07.319 and you keep going on with your day. But a lot of you, 464 00:28:07.359 --> 00:28:11.039 guys, aren't happy with certain things in your life. And so if 465 00:28:11.079 --> 00:28:14.160 you aren't happy with the thing that's happening in your life, you need to 466 00:28:14.799 --> 00:28:17.799 look at it in a new way. And the way you're going to do 467 00:28:17.839 --> 00:28:21.680 that is in the morning, actually taking time to look at it in a 468 00:28:21.720 --> 00:28:23.400 new way, because you aren't just gonna automatically look at it in a new 469 00:28:23.400 --> 00:28:26.960 way. You can remind yourself here and there, but you have to like 470 00:28:26.039 --> 00:28:30.680 actively change the story. And so this is what I do in the morning. 471 00:28:30.680 --> 00:28:33.720 First thing, Actually, what I usually do is I play like an 472 00:28:33.720 --> 00:28:37.880 Abraham Hicks video and or like somebody who talks about self concept, law of 473 00:28:37.920 --> 00:28:41.880 attraction, manifestation, that kind of stuff, because that just gets me in 474 00:28:41.920 --> 00:28:45.440 the vibe. Whatever you believe in, whatever works for you. Sometimes I 475 00:28:45.440 --> 00:28:51.000 think that's helpful to get your mind on the right path if you struggle with 476 00:28:51.039 --> 00:28:52.759 even like thinking good thoughts, like if you're in a really low place. 477 00:28:52.799 --> 00:28:56.880 And I would even suggest maybe just like turning on like that podcast or something 478 00:28:56.880 --> 00:28:59.160 as soon as you wake up in the morning, or affirmation as soon as 479 00:28:59.200 --> 00:29:02.079 you wake up in the morning, and then like until you get to the 480 00:29:02.079 --> 00:29:03.880 point where you're sitting down in journaling. Then you go into journal, but 481 00:29:03.960 --> 00:29:06.759 that is going to be the first thing you do. And I want to 482 00:29:06.799 --> 00:29:08.480 read out just like a few affirmations you can kind of like get a gist 483 00:29:08.480 --> 00:29:12.519 of some of the things that you can maybe think about when it comes to 484 00:29:12.559 --> 00:29:17.640 writing your new story. So some of them are I love taking care of 485 00:29:17.680 --> 00:29:21.839 myself every single day. I enjoy my morning routines and my net routines. 486 00:29:22.039 --> 00:29:26.480 I'm somebody who prioritizes rewriting and living out her new story. And like, 487 00:29:26.559 --> 00:29:27.759 this is really good to think about it. It's like when it comes to 488 00:29:27.839 --> 00:29:33.279 habits, what you want to be writing and thinking about and like looking at 489 00:29:33.319 --> 00:29:37.119 yourself as as somebody who likes to get up in the morning in journal to 490 00:29:37.200 --> 00:29:41.200 rewrite their story, like you have to start with that step before you even 491 00:29:41.240 --> 00:29:42.759 get to likes to go to the gym, or like wants to go to 492 00:29:42.799 --> 00:29:48.400 the gym. It's like you have committed to going on this journey. Or 493 00:29:48.519 --> 00:29:55.920 you are somebody who likes the idea of changing their mindset about the way things 494 00:29:55.960 --> 00:30:00.240 happen in your life. Or you are somebody who is willing and excited to 495 00:30:00.400 --> 00:30:04.680 change your story about men or about money, about all of these things. 496 00:30:04.720 --> 00:30:07.920 I think those are the first kind of steps. Another one is I am 497 00:30:07.920 --> 00:30:11.920 that girl who chooses to care about her mind, her body, her soul 498 00:30:12.039 --> 00:30:18.400 instead of wasting her time partying, smoking, talking to people who don't serve 499 00:30:18.440 --> 00:30:21.759 her things like that. I love being clear minded and focused throughout the day 500 00:30:21.839 --> 00:30:26.559 without you can fill in the blank binge, eating, smoking, drinking, 501 00:30:26.480 --> 00:30:30.640 going on social media, anything like that. I love to cook healthy foods 502 00:30:30.640 --> 00:30:34.279 for myself to support my digestion, my skin, my overall health. Going 503 00:30:34.279 --> 00:30:37.839 to the gym is easy for me. I love romanticizing it and being that 504 00:30:37.880 --> 00:30:41.759 girl who has an amazing body and loves herself. I no longer engage in 505 00:30:41.799 --> 00:30:45.160 behaviors that harm my body or my soul. I am on a clear path 506 00:30:45.200 --> 00:30:49.319 to the highest version of myself. I no longer identify with the old story 507 00:30:49.359 --> 00:30:53.319 anymore. I no longer spend time engaging with men who do not live the 508 00:30:53.359 --> 00:30:57.880 same lifestyle that I do. I date men who prioritize their health, their 509 00:30:57.880 --> 00:31:03.920 relationships, their friendships, who want to provide for me. I am attracted 510 00:31:03.920 --> 00:31:07.440 to men who are consistent and reliable in my life. I make money off 511 00:31:07.480 --> 00:31:11.319 of my talents and my passions. Work gets to be fun and aligned. 512 00:31:11.519 --> 00:31:15.319 I never stress about work because there's nothing to stress about. My friendships are 513 00:31:15.359 --> 00:31:21.079 beautiful and supportive, and real people respect my boundaries, they understand my boundaries. 514 00:31:21.440 --> 00:31:22.920 I have the most fun friendships. We can go on and on. 515 00:31:22.960 --> 00:31:26.880 Okay, so this is what I'm focusing on in the mornings every day, 516 00:31:26.960 --> 00:31:32.880 And God does it feel amazing. It feels so good to think about yourself 517 00:31:32.880 --> 00:31:34.759 and think about people, places and things and what gets to happen in your 518 00:31:34.799 --> 00:31:38.960 life in a positive way. And now this leads me into the next few 519 00:31:38.960 --> 00:31:45.119 things I'm going to talk about, and it's basically under a category of strict 520 00:31:45.160 --> 00:31:49.599 boundaries and routines. So I've already kind of talked about this. If you 521 00:31:49.640 --> 00:31:55.480 want to be a new person, if you want a complete three sixty of 522 00:31:55.480 --> 00:31:59.039 your life, if you want new relationship, you want people to show up 523 00:31:59.079 --> 00:32:01.319 differently. If you want to feel better, if you want new habits, 524 00:32:01.359 --> 00:32:06.599 you want to be that girl, you need to commit to an entire rebirth. 525 00:32:06.640 --> 00:32:09.680 You have to like rebirth yourself. You have to literally like you're done 526 00:32:09.720 --> 00:32:14.119 with being that old version of you. Okay, the way you're gonna be 527 00:32:14.359 --> 00:32:17.039 done with being the old version of you is first commit to that new story 528 00:32:17.079 --> 00:32:21.039 every single day, and I do this at night as well, and I'll 529 00:32:21.039 --> 00:32:23.720 talk about some other things, but committing to rewriting your story because you are 530 00:32:23.720 --> 00:32:27.440 no longer going back to that old story, and the way you go back 531 00:32:27.440 --> 00:32:30.960 to that old story is not persisting in a new story every single day. 532 00:32:31.440 --> 00:32:36.119 And you know, this is something that's really like hit me like a ton 533 00:32:36.160 --> 00:32:38.680 of bricks, kind of like the past, like month is really realizing that 534 00:32:39.839 --> 00:32:45.200 I'm done. I'm done not prioritizing rewriting my story every single morning. I'm 535 00:32:45.240 --> 00:32:50.160 done not looking at certain things in my life, like certain habits like whether 536 00:32:50.160 --> 00:32:53.759 that's wellness, move my body whatever, as negotiable. These things are no 537 00:32:53.839 --> 00:33:00.920 longer negotiable in my life. They're just not why Because I know when I'm 538 00:33:00.960 --> 00:33:04.480 not on this, when I'm not doing these things, I go into the 539 00:33:04.519 --> 00:33:07.039 old story and I'm not even looking at it as a way of like, 540 00:33:07.079 --> 00:33:09.480 oh, I feel like I'm in a jail cell, like oh, I 541 00:33:09.519 --> 00:33:13.079 have to do all this work forever and ever and ever and no one else 542 00:33:13.119 --> 00:33:16.319 does. Because I've had a really unhealthy relationship with discipline in my life. 543 00:33:16.440 --> 00:33:20.079 So I know what it feels like to tell myself that I have to do 544 00:33:20.160 --> 00:33:25.079 something like every single day, but it's I'm doing this because I deserve this, 545 00:33:25.160 --> 00:33:29.960 I'm doing this because I feel better doing this. I'm doing this because 546 00:33:30.519 --> 00:33:35.119 I'm so sick of feeling like shit. And if I want something new in 547 00:33:35.160 --> 00:33:37.720 my life, if I want to feel better, if I want to stop 548 00:33:37.759 --> 00:33:39.880 crying, and if I want to stop being the victim, I'm gonna have 549 00:33:39.960 --> 00:33:45.160 to decide to show up differently in my life. And these habits, these 550 00:33:45.200 --> 00:33:51.480 things are enjoyable for me personally. Rewriting my stories amazing, speaking to myself 551 00:33:51.559 --> 00:33:54.920 kindly is amazing, Reminding myself of what I get to have in my relationships 552 00:33:55.000 --> 00:33:59.359 is amazing. And you know what isn't amazing waking up every single day and 553 00:33:59.400 --> 00:34:01.559 being like, h what's my mood? Like? Am I gonna have a 554 00:34:01.599 --> 00:34:06.440 complete destruction of my day because my mood is shit? And the story that 555 00:34:06.440 --> 00:34:08.880 I'm playing out is shit? Or is it gonna be an uphill battle and 556 00:34:08.880 --> 00:34:14.400 I'm gonna try and do my best or third option which I'm doing now is 557 00:34:14.760 --> 00:34:19.440 deciding how my day goes by first rewriting my story and then having my habits 558 00:34:19.480 --> 00:34:23.320 follow that, it's so much nicer to wake up in the morning and decide 559 00:34:23.480 --> 00:34:28.440 where your attention and your time and your energy gets to go, versus falling 560 00:34:28.559 --> 00:34:31.559 victim to all of the anxiety and the depression and all of the shit that 561 00:34:31.679 --> 00:34:37.079 happened from a lack of focus on your new story. And now, listen, 562 00:34:37.159 --> 00:34:40.440 I understand that like luteal phase is a thing, and like depression and 563 00:34:40.440 --> 00:34:43.880 anxiety, like some of these things, like I'm always talking about ebbing and 564 00:34:43.920 --> 00:34:47.039 flowing and stuff for sure, But coming back to why I've been feeling so 565 00:34:47.079 --> 00:34:52.760 good even in my luteal phase, is I am actively deciding every single morning 566 00:34:52.840 --> 00:34:57.039 to focus on these things. And even though it doesn't mean every single day 567 00:34:57.039 --> 00:35:00.519 I'm one hundred percent motivated, like today I wasn't really like that, energize 568 00:35:00.559 --> 00:35:02.239 and this that, And there's always things that come up in my life that 569 00:35:02.320 --> 00:35:06.840 are manifestations of the old version of me that I still have to deal with 570 00:35:06.880 --> 00:35:08.960 and I will get triggered to buy, but I just remind myself it's just 571 00:35:08.960 --> 00:35:12.679 the old version of me and like the old version of whatever it's been coming 572 00:35:12.760 --> 00:35:15.280 up in my life. But I still feel so much better by directing my 573 00:35:15.400 --> 00:35:20.280 mindset and where it goes every single day. Now I have done a lot 574 00:35:20.280 --> 00:35:22.320 of journaling. I always do it. I talk about it all the time, 575 00:35:22.360 --> 00:35:24.199 Like I go through periods of like strictly journaling every single more da da 576 00:35:24.320 --> 00:35:28.199 da da, and then sometimes I will fall off. But usually if I 577 00:35:28.199 --> 00:35:30.719 fall off, it's more because like I'm actually really good and I'm usually supporting 578 00:35:30.760 --> 00:35:34.880 myself in other ways, Like I'm not really falling off per se. But 579 00:35:34.920 --> 00:35:38.679 I think sometimes why I have gone through those times where I've we can quote 580 00:35:38.719 --> 00:35:44.920 unquote say falling off is because sometimes I will be looking at rewriting my story, 581 00:35:44.960 --> 00:35:47.400 let's say, or journaling or whatever I'm doing as like a means to 582 00:35:47.480 --> 00:35:52.239 an end. So obviously you're gonna fall off things when there are means two 583 00:35:52.360 --> 00:35:54.920 ends. But what I have been really realizing, like the message is so 584 00:35:54.960 --> 00:35:58.599 clear to me, is this is the way of life. Now, this 585 00:35:58.679 --> 00:36:01.519 is your life. Now. You want a new reality. You want to 586 00:36:01.519 --> 00:36:05.880 be healthier Alicia, you want to have better relationships, you want to have 587 00:36:05.920 --> 00:36:07.920 more money, you want to have success, you want to have alignment. 588 00:36:07.960 --> 00:36:10.199 You want to have these things, yes or no. What that requires is 589 00:36:10.320 --> 00:36:15.559 you committing to the new story. It's not even committing necessarily to the habits 590 00:36:15.599 --> 00:36:19.360 and all these things. You skip all that stuff, because that will come, 591 00:36:19.760 --> 00:36:22.800 that will come in alignment from you committing to the new story, you 592 00:36:23.000 --> 00:36:28.400 deciding that you are no longer being the old version of you. And I'm 593 00:36:28.440 --> 00:36:32.039 done with that. I'm done with the ebbing and flowing of what gets to 594 00:36:32.079 --> 00:36:37.360 happen in my life. And I don't mean I'm expecting life to be perfect, 595 00:36:37.440 --> 00:36:39.079 because I know there's a lot of things that are in my current life 596 00:36:39.119 --> 00:36:45.039 right now are from my past self, right the way people show up, 597 00:36:45.480 --> 00:36:46.760 the stories that are being played out, and I have to work through those 598 00:36:46.760 --> 00:36:50.760 triggers. But even when I'm working through those triggers, I feel really strong, 599 00:36:50.800 --> 00:36:54.320 I feel really good. I feel like I'm not getting broken down all 600 00:36:54.360 --> 00:36:59.280 the time because I know how this goes, and I'm here for the long 601 00:36:59.360 --> 00:37:02.679 run. I'm here to feel good. I'm here too even when I feel 602 00:37:02.719 --> 00:37:06.960 like shit on the days that like, okay, my mood is not the 603 00:37:07.000 --> 00:37:09.280 best, I'm not going into the old story of being like Okay, well, 604 00:37:09.280 --> 00:37:12.639 my life is a mess and I'm doomed, and oh my god, 605 00:37:12.679 --> 00:37:15.480 I'm just gonna wait and sit around and wait for myself to get better. 606 00:37:15.840 --> 00:37:19.159 No, I'm going to continue to show up for myself even when things aren't 607 00:37:19.280 --> 00:37:22.239 feeling the best. It's okay to not have perfect days. But even on 608 00:37:22.280 --> 00:37:28.320 those imperfect days, what are you doing? What narrative are you living out? 609 00:37:28.480 --> 00:37:30.719 And that's the thing that I'm focusing on a lot right now. And 610 00:37:30.719 --> 00:37:34.239 I'm feeling really good in my life, and i have had a few days 611 00:37:34.239 --> 00:37:37.599 where I'm like meh, like meh. There's a few days where like certain 612 00:37:37.679 --> 00:37:42.199 like old menifestations kind of popped up. But I'm like, I'm so beyond 613 00:37:42.239 --> 00:37:45.599 like I know how this goes. I can either react the way that I 614 00:37:45.679 --> 00:37:49.679 always do. I can either allow it to spiral me down. I can 615 00:37:49.719 --> 00:37:52.639 allow it to affect me all day, or I can decide to choose a 616 00:37:52.639 --> 00:37:58.119 new story. And the way that I decide to like make the right decision 617 00:37:58.320 --> 00:38:00.800 and have a better like out in my life or that day or that habit 618 00:38:01.400 --> 00:38:07.159 is to make sure that I'm being on a strict routine. I hate using 619 00:38:07.199 --> 00:38:09.199 the word strict because it doesn't feel like strict. It actually feels very like 620 00:38:09.239 --> 00:38:15.440 I'm motivated to do it. But is to really support myself through a morning 621 00:38:15.559 --> 00:38:17.599 practice. Okay, so I'm like I did a whole tangent, but coming 622 00:38:17.639 --> 00:38:22.119 back to morning practice. This is what I do every single morning. It's 623 00:38:22.119 --> 00:38:23.840 no negotiable. Now other things that I do, and I talk about this 624 00:38:23.920 --> 00:38:28.199 a lot. I have always been good at this, but again, I 625 00:38:28.239 --> 00:38:34.480 think there's always room for improvement, especially when you are wanting to like rewrite 626 00:38:34.480 --> 00:38:37.440 a story and stuff. But I think that, like, again take it 627 00:38:37.440 --> 00:38:40.199 from somebody who's done a lot of self development self work changed your life in 628 00:38:40.239 --> 00:38:45.880 a lot of ways, gotten out of cycles. I have tested not doing 629 00:38:45.920 --> 00:38:50.760 the work on myself I have, and I needed to do that because I 630 00:38:50.840 --> 00:38:53.280 need to see what works for me as a human in like how much work 631 00:38:53.280 --> 00:38:58.119 I need to do and how much support I need to give myself and what 632 00:38:58.280 --> 00:39:00.679 I need to focus on. And everyone's going to be different. So even 633 00:39:00.719 --> 00:39:02.280 like, take what I'm saying with a grain of salt, because I'm sure 634 00:39:02.280 --> 00:39:06.559 there's a lot of people who can, you know, be around certain people, 635 00:39:06.559 --> 00:39:09.239 places and things and not get as triggered as I do based off of 636 00:39:09.280 --> 00:39:13.920 your past versus mine. Right, But I have found there's just gonna be 637 00:39:14.039 --> 00:39:16.320 certain things that I really have to limit, Like I have to limit certain 638 00:39:16.360 --> 00:39:22.480 distractions to a certain extent for myself. So again it's gonna be dependent on 639 00:39:22.840 --> 00:39:28.039 you. But I know when social media is too much. I know when 640 00:39:28.079 --> 00:39:34.199 I'm being activated by the amount of content I'm consuming or people's lives that I'm 641 00:39:34.440 --> 00:39:38.599 consuming, or I know when too much is too much when it comes to 642 00:39:38.679 --> 00:39:44.000 socializing and being out with friends, and I need to do what I need 643 00:39:44.039 --> 00:39:47.239 to do to limit those distractions so I can create room for me to choose 644 00:39:47.280 --> 00:39:52.360 myself every single time. So for me, in the morning, like I 645 00:39:52.400 --> 00:39:57.440 said, I wake up and I do my journaling every day. I've been 646 00:39:57.440 --> 00:40:00.679 making sure to move my body in the morning, whether it's bo a class, 647 00:40:00.800 --> 00:40:04.920 weight training, or walking. The music that I'm listening to is very 648 00:40:04.960 --> 00:40:07.760 in alignment to what I want to be in the vibe for I'm not having 649 00:40:07.760 --> 00:40:13.360 conversations and playing into old stories anymore with people, places and things, which 650 00:40:13.400 --> 00:40:17.239 I usually don't anyways, even when it comes to like relationships stuff or I 651 00:40:17.280 --> 00:40:20.920 don't know, maybe we're gonna have like a separate conversation about that, but 652 00:40:21.159 --> 00:40:22.760 that's usually what I do. And then even I think, like the biggest 653 00:40:22.800 --> 00:40:29.239 thing for me this summer would be friendships and like boundaries with that. So 654 00:40:29.360 --> 00:40:32.400 like I've really communicated with my friends, what I'm available for what I'm not 655 00:40:32.719 --> 00:40:37.760 and just letting people know like I am on my wholesome game I always am. 656 00:40:37.880 --> 00:40:42.440 I am definitely the friend that's like very like wellnessly very like oh my 657 00:40:42.480 --> 00:40:44.039 god, I have to go home, I have to sleep this, that, 658 00:40:44.159 --> 00:40:47.480 but genuinely like not budging on that, and the most like easy loving 659 00:40:47.519 --> 00:40:52.559 way. I feel like sometimes boundaries sound like they're this huge thing and people 660 00:40:52.559 --> 00:40:54.599 get so like offended by them and stuff, but people really don't like even 661 00:40:54.599 --> 00:40:58.920 this weekend, I did like a whole wholesome weekend with one of my friends, 662 00:40:59.119 --> 00:41:00.880 and I told her, I'm like, i am not going out, 663 00:41:00.000 --> 00:41:02.800 not doing any late nights, I'm definitely not drinking, but if you want 664 00:41:02.840 --> 00:41:05.960 to do something other day, then we can. And I'm pretty sure she 665 00:41:06.000 --> 00:41:07.800 stayed in like the whole weekend as well, which I feel like it was 666 00:41:07.840 --> 00:41:10.760 like the me effect, you know, which I feel like there was, 667 00:41:10.920 --> 00:41:15.039 well, actually there was a lot of things. Actually there's so many things 668 00:41:15.039 --> 00:41:17.079 going on, And it's funny because she ended up telling me there's like this 669 00:41:17.119 --> 00:41:22.480 one plan to go see fifty cent at Cabana Pull Bar on Saturday, and 670 00:41:22.519 --> 00:41:25.039 we already had plans and stuff, but like it just had popped up, 671 00:41:25.320 --> 00:41:28.559 and for a second, I was like entertaining it, even though I was 672 00:41:28.559 --> 00:41:30.599 like, okay, I just won't drink, but it'd be cool, like 673 00:41:30.639 --> 00:41:31.639 it's a day thing. We could go. And I told myself, like 674 00:41:31.679 --> 00:41:35.480 I spoke out loud, this is what I do. I'm like, you're 675 00:41:35.519 --> 00:41:37.599 not doing it. You won't want to do it. You'll be like excited 676 00:41:37.639 --> 00:41:40.159 about it for like three seconds, and then you're not gonna enjoy your It's 677 00:41:40.159 --> 00:41:44.440 not even that you're gonna enjoy yourself. But what I just focused on is 678 00:41:44.480 --> 00:41:49.639 how amazing I feel when I am like this wellness girally and going to sleep 679 00:41:49.679 --> 00:41:52.960 at a good time, and surrounding myself with people who are doing the same 680 00:41:52.960 --> 00:41:55.239 things as I am. And it's not about like othering myself and being like, 681 00:41:55.320 --> 00:41:58.360 oh, these people are bad because they want to go drink or they 682 00:41:58.360 --> 00:42:00.800 want to go party, or they want to do this or that. Like 683 00:42:00.119 --> 00:42:05.639 I love that stuff too, but in my life I don't want that, 684 00:42:05.920 --> 00:42:07.239 And so I just told myself, no, it's like it's not gonna be 685 00:42:07.239 --> 00:42:10.480 worth it, Like it's just not so Anyways, those are the things that 686 00:42:10.519 --> 00:42:15.360 I have been doing recently. I think a main takeaway is reminding yourself that 687 00:42:15.519 --> 00:42:19.400 it's baby steps when it comes to like deciding, bringing it back to when 688 00:42:19.400 --> 00:42:22.519 I grabbed the pen and then I decided to go do what that one thing, 689 00:42:22.920 --> 00:42:27.119 and then that prolonged it like prolonged, prolonged, prolonged. Sometimes when 690 00:42:27.119 --> 00:42:30.480 I will do though, because I'm a balanced human being, I will like 691 00:42:30.519 --> 00:42:34.039 do like planned consumption, so like I plan things versus just doing things on 692 00:42:34.079 --> 00:42:37.920 a whim, because I think those are two different energies as well. When 693 00:42:37.920 --> 00:42:39.239 you're wanting to do something out of a place of like urgency, it's like, 694 00:42:39.280 --> 00:42:44.400 what's going on there? There's something probably underneath that as to why you're 695 00:42:44.440 --> 00:42:47.320 even driven to doing that thing, and like why like what don't you have 696 00:42:47.400 --> 00:42:51.280 in place that allows you to get to a point where you're triggered. I 697 00:42:51.280 --> 00:42:53.400 think actually that that kind of comes to back to like the rewriting your story 698 00:42:53.440 --> 00:42:57.480 thing. It's like I find when I don't rewrite my story or I'm not 699 00:42:57.519 --> 00:43:00.320 focusing on like positive beliefs and stuff, especially in the morning and when I 700 00:43:00.360 --> 00:43:02.119 go to sleep and like throughout the day when I'm listening to like affirmations or 701 00:43:02.119 --> 00:43:07.920 whatever, I find that, yes, like I'm more like easily triggered because 702 00:43:07.960 --> 00:43:10.400 I don't have these things in place to support me. And I think a 703 00:43:10.400 --> 00:43:13.119 lot of the times, like when you do have all of this, like 704 00:43:13.119 --> 00:43:15.039 anxiety popping up or you're depressed about everything, it's like, well, what 705 00:43:15.039 --> 00:43:19.320 do you have in your life that you that are supporting you in your mindset 706 00:43:19.320 --> 00:43:22.280 of thinking positive thoughts? But a lot of the times it is because like 707 00:43:22.360 --> 00:43:25.000 you're not supporting yourself. Where's your where's your routines? And I don't even 708 00:43:25.000 --> 00:43:28.880 mean just like going to the gym and eating well, I mean your your 709 00:43:28.880 --> 00:43:31.360 mindset routines. Where's your mental diet? No wheer you're getting triggered all the 710 00:43:31.400 --> 00:43:34.920 time, and when you're getting triggered in your relationship all the time because you 711 00:43:34.920 --> 00:43:37.159 don't sit down and write a new story, you're always going to the negative. 712 00:43:37.159 --> 00:43:38.679 You're always going to the oh my god, they don't like me, 713 00:43:38.719 --> 00:43:40.639 Oh my god, they're pulling away, oh my god, this, that, 714 00:43:40.719 --> 00:43:44.239 and the thy'd like you're constantly spiraling it out. You're in the shower 715 00:43:44.239 --> 00:43:45.239 thinking about the same thing over and over and over and over and over no 716 00:43:45.239 --> 00:43:47.599 over again. Okay, Well, if you want to think differently, then 717 00:43:47.599 --> 00:43:52.119 you need to have some structure in your life. So I think that's really 718 00:43:52.119 --> 00:43:54.119 big, and I think it just comes back to reminding yourself you are really 719 00:43:54.440 --> 00:43:59.920 one decision away from making the right decision. Because when I make that one 720 00:44:00.079 --> 00:44:04.639 decision to not smoke or not drink or not sleep on myself, when I 721 00:44:04.679 --> 00:44:08.440 no longer say yes to those things instantly, the rest of my entire day 722 00:44:08.760 --> 00:44:14.480 is so easy. And on top of that, it feels so rewarding because 723 00:44:14.519 --> 00:44:16.920 you made that one decision to say nah, not today. I'm not interested. 724 00:44:16.920 --> 00:44:20.239 I'm not that type of person. I'm not that type of person. 725 00:44:20.480 --> 00:44:24.280 I actually really like feeling clear minded throughout the day. I actually really like 726 00:44:24.920 --> 00:44:30.639 having my morning routine in the morning, my coffee, my breakfast and morenza's 727 00:44:30.639 --> 00:44:35.039 in my life and having energy and just also like thinking good thoughts about people. 728 00:44:35.320 --> 00:44:37.679 Things like that. And my camera's gonna die. So I want to 729 00:44:37.760 --> 00:44:39.719 quickly speed this up. I mean, it's basically already done. Last thing 730 00:44:39.760 --> 00:44:44.639 I'll just quickly say, though, is just remember to take things one thing 731 00:44:44.679 --> 00:44:47.480 at a time, don't focus on a million stories, a million habits, 732 00:44:47.480 --> 00:44:51.559 a million things. The first thing that I did when it came to like 733 00:44:51.599 --> 00:44:54.880 even getting myself out of a like really crappy mood. About two weeks ago, 734 00:44:55.039 --> 00:44:59.239 was like waking up in the morning and just playing my Abraham Hicks videos 735 00:44:59.239 --> 00:45:01.400 in the morning, before I was even doing like real like rewriting my story 736 00:45:01.400 --> 00:45:05.119 stuff, like I did journaling here and there, but like I just like 737 00:45:05.159 --> 00:45:07.039 wanted to focus on that first to just get out of bed, and then 738 00:45:07.079 --> 00:45:09.800 I like focus on being consistent with like every single day no matter what, 739 00:45:09.960 --> 00:45:13.519 right after my journaling, which actually I focus on that, and then I 740 00:45:13.639 --> 00:45:16.480 like moving my body and that's coming from somebody who's like already doing it like 741 00:45:16.480 --> 00:45:19.559 seventy percent of the time, but like I'm just like trying to be a 742 00:45:19.639 --> 00:45:23.039 hundred without being obsessive. Okay, Like let's not be obsessive, please. 743 00:45:23.679 --> 00:45:27.719 Last thing, I want to read this quote because I feel like it's just 744 00:45:27.760 --> 00:45:30.599 going to end the episode and it's really good and I found on Pinterest the 745 00:45:30.639 --> 00:45:35.079 other day. It says, July melt my self doubt in love and coat 746 00:45:35.159 --> 00:45:38.239 my intentions in layers of truth. Soak my discernment in buckets of clarity, 747 00:45:38.280 --> 00:45:43.159 so I can let go of what isn't mine. Clear the debris from older 748 00:45:43.199 --> 00:45:45.400 parts of myself that I've outgrown, so I can see the path back to 749 00:45:45.480 --> 00:45:49.519 me, pave new avenues for growth. So we're going to leave that there. 750 00:45:49.920 --> 00:45:53.079 Focus on you. You first, focus on how good it's going to 751 00:45:53.119 --> 00:46:00.320 feel to continue to show up and choose you every day and realize that everyone 752 00:46:00.519 --> 00:46:05.320 and everything, the universe, everything is just waiting for you to get on 753 00:46:05.360 --> 00:46:08.000 board, for you to commit to yourself one hundred percent. So let's do 754 00:46:08.079 --> 00:46:12.159 it. I hope you guys enjoyed, and I'll see the next one. Bye.