WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:03.160 Hi everyone, and welcome back to their podcast episode. My name is Alicia 2 00:00:03.200 --> 00:00:06.480 Gogin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand 3 00:00:06.480 --> 00:00:09.679 your mind and become more self awares so that you can glow up into the 4 00:00:09.679 --> 00:00:14.000 best version of yourself. Hello, Happy Monday. If you are listening to 5 00:00:14.039 --> 00:00:17.760 this on a Monday, I am so excited to be here. Okay, 6 00:00:18.239 --> 00:00:24.239 you know why because I'm about to give you the best confidence tips that you 7 00:00:24.320 --> 00:00:26.839 are going to bring into this summer. Okay, because what we are not 8 00:00:26.960 --> 00:00:31.280 doing is wasting our potential this summer. We need to have a hot, 9 00:00:31.640 --> 00:00:34.759 a confident and a healed girl summer. Okay, this is not just hot 10 00:00:34.799 --> 00:00:37.479 girl summer. Listen. You know what I always think about when I think 11 00:00:37.520 --> 00:00:41.600 about hot girl summer, I think about city girl summer, which is different. 12 00:00:41.679 --> 00:00:45.880 Okay, hawt girl summer just means like, you're the it girl, 13 00:00:45.960 --> 00:00:49.399 but you're not doing some crazy things. But I'm not going to judge if 14 00:00:49.439 --> 00:00:53.359 you do some crazy things. But over here we are not gonna do crazy 15 00:00:53.399 --> 00:00:57.439 things. We're going to do great things that help our confidence. So I 16 00:00:57.600 --> 00:01:02.479 kind of wanted to make this episode essentially just like rules for Hot Girl summer, 17 00:01:02.759 --> 00:01:04.760 things that you can think of, mindset shifts that you can make, 18 00:01:04.840 --> 00:01:08.439 and maybe just an episode you can come back to if you really need a 19 00:01:08.439 --> 00:01:14.079 little bit of a confidence boost. These are things that I currently live by, 20 00:01:14.239 --> 00:01:19.280 will continue to live by, and I've also just picked these up over 21 00:01:19.319 --> 00:01:23.959 the years that have really helped me not only learn to love myself, not 22 00:01:23.040 --> 00:01:26.920 care so much about other people, not get so wrapped up in what other 23 00:01:26.959 --> 00:01:30.760 people think about me, but also just go for my dreams and what I 24 00:01:30.799 --> 00:01:34.640 want for you guys and even myself, because you guys know I'm on this 25 00:01:34.719 --> 00:01:38.840 journey is I want you to be able to look back this summer and be 26 00:01:40.040 --> 00:01:44.799 like I lived up to my full potential. I really did, x Y 27 00:01:44.799 --> 00:01:49.319 and Z. I am proud of myself, and we kind of talked about 28 00:01:49.319 --> 00:01:53.959 this a few episodes ago, but I feel like it's time to really go 29 00:01:53.120 --> 00:01:59.280 a little bit deeper in the mindset shifts and work. So I'm going to 30 00:01:59.359 --> 00:02:01.719 list out a few things that I think are really important to live by. 31 00:02:01.879 --> 00:02:05.640 Like I said, this summer, I have a lot of quotes and a 32 00:02:05.640 --> 00:02:07.319 lot of things, so who knows, we'll probably go on a million tangents. 33 00:02:07.360 --> 00:02:10.000 We already know that I actually want to bring it back to something. 34 00:02:10.719 --> 00:02:15.280 The other day, I was on TikTok and I saw a video. There 35 00:02:15.400 --> 00:02:20.039 was like a radio show host and she was interviewing Bryson Tiller, which, 36 00:02:20.080 --> 00:02:23.039 by the way, I went to go see him in concert a few weeks 37 00:02:23.080 --> 00:02:27.960 ago. It was it was elite. I love concerts, especially like R 38 00:02:28.000 --> 00:02:32.000 and B rappers or R and B singers, And she was asking him something 39 00:02:32.039 --> 00:02:36.439 about were you proud of yourself in your twenties? Because I don't know how 40 00:02:36.439 --> 00:02:38.919 old he is now. He's not in his twenties, but she was like, 41 00:02:38.319 --> 00:02:42.879 are you proud of what you've accomplished? And I believe will not. 42 00:02:43.000 --> 00:02:46.759 I believe his album Trapsol, which is probably what you know him from, 43 00:02:47.159 --> 00:02:52.080 came out in his twenties. And he answered that question and he was like, 44 00:02:52.159 --> 00:02:55.560 honestly, I'm really disappointed in myself. And she was kind of like 45 00:02:55.800 --> 00:03:00.639 why, like what's going on. He's like, I feel like I wasted 46 00:03:00.680 --> 00:03:07.719 about a solid sixty years of my twenties, really not backing myself. He 47 00:03:07.840 --> 00:03:12.240 was saying how he just really let people get in his head about his album. 48 00:03:12.240 --> 00:03:15.240 When he came out with that album, he got bad reviews there are 49 00:03:15.280 --> 00:03:20.400 people saying that they were disappointed in the album, they're just you know, 50 00:03:20.560 --> 00:03:23.800 there was backlash, as there is with everything, right, like everyone always 51 00:03:23.800 --> 00:03:31.919 has opinions on things, and he let that really not allow him to fully 52 00:03:32.039 --> 00:03:37.719 uplift that album and allow him to feel proud of himself. And it took 53 00:03:37.759 --> 00:03:40.479 him a very, very long time before he could really look at that album 54 00:03:40.560 --> 00:03:45.520 and say that's actually great. And it's crazy because so many of us look 55 00:03:45.560 --> 00:03:47.520 at that album and were like, it is fire, Like there's literally not 56 00:03:47.599 --> 00:03:53.080 one song that's not a banger. But he's just saying, like, I'm 57 00:03:53.080 --> 00:03:57.159 disappointed because it took me so long, And he was saying, I just 58 00:03:57.280 --> 00:04:00.879 wish that I knew my worth and my value before that album came out, 59 00:04:00.879 --> 00:04:04.840 but unfortunately I didn't. Obviously that's a learning journey for him. But I 60 00:04:04.840 --> 00:04:09.599 can even think about sometimes in my life where you know, I put out 61 00:04:09.639 --> 00:04:13.800 something or I tried to do something from a place of not really having that 62 00:04:13.879 --> 00:04:17.959 confidence within me, and it's no wonder I let other people's opinions really break 63 00:04:18.000 --> 00:04:23.279 me down until I obviously had to work through that and I came out on 64 00:04:23.319 --> 00:04:27.000 the other side because obviously that's what we do that's what I do. We 65 00:04:27.040 --> 00:04:30.720 always do that, but we can save ourselves a lot of I don't know, 66 00:04:30.879 --> 00:04:33.079 just bullshit And just like all of these limited beliefs that are not even 67 00:04:33.079 --> 00:04:38.600 true about ourselves, if we really build that confidence within ourselves before going to 68 00:04:38.639 --> 00:04:41.920 do something. And I think that's what I'm always working on. It's a 69 00:04:42.000 --> 00:04:45.399 learning curve, a learning journey, but I think that's something I'm gonna be 70 00:04:45.439 --> 00:04:48.199 focusing on this summer, and I hope you guys can too. Just like 71 00:04:48.279 --> 00:04:51.079 thinking about, you know, a new project that you want to start, 72 00:04:51.279 --> 00:04:54.879 or a new relationship that you want to get in, even if you're in 73 00:04:54.920 --> 00:04:59.000 one right now or you're doing something right now, how great would that relationship 74 00:04:59.079 --> 00:05:04.240 or how great that outcome be if you had a little bit more confidence within 75 00:05:04.279 --> 00:05:08.079 yourself, if you back yourself more. And I feel like sometimes we're just 76 00:05:08.160 --> 00:05:12.639 waiting for the end result to make us feel something, but that is not 77 00:05:12.839 --> 00:05:15.240 how it's going to be. We can wait for the reviews, but what 78 00:05:15.279 --> 00:05:19.759 if the reviews aren't good, What if the thing that we hoped to work 79 00:05:19.759 --> 00:05:24.240 out didn't work out, We're gonna be one hundred percent more crushed than we 80 00:05:24.240 --> 00:05:28.399 would if we had some sort of confidence within ourselves. And I feel like 81 00:05:28.439 --> 00:05:31.519 we live in a world where there are so many opinions, there's so many 82 00:05:31.600 --> 00:05:38.519 things changing and you know, moving and shaping our lives, that we have 83 00:05:38.560 --> 00:05:42.360 to have some sort of resilience as we move through this world, especially if 84 00:05:42.399 --> 00:05:46.040 we want the things that we want in our lives. And there's gonna be 85 00:05:46.120 --> 00:05:47.600 a lot of tests, There's gonna be a lot of things that are thrown 86 00:05:47.759 --> 00:05:54.160 at us and we cannot back down. And how we not back down is 87 00:05:54.279 --> 00:05:59.199 obviously knowing our worth. And I think the first thing really is the rule 88 00:05:59.600 --> 00:06:05.680 for someone. Number one is remembering who you are. And I feel like 89 00:06:06.519 --> 00:06:12.040 there are so many things that make us not remember who we are, right 90 00:06:12.199 --> 00:06:14.639 We forget who we are when we go through a breakup, We forget who 91 00:06:14.639 --> 00:06:17.920 we are when things don't pan out a certain way. We forget the truth 92 00:06:18.000 --> 00:06:23.680 of who we are when we go out in the world and somebody or something 93 00:06:23.800 --> 00:06:30.040 triggers this old wound. Right. But I think that having a practice every 94 00:06:30.160 --> 00:06:34.120 single day of reminding yourself of who you are, what you came here to 95 00:06:34.160 --> 00:06:36.879 do, even if you don't fully know that yet, but just pouring into 96 00:06:36.879 --> 00:06:42.959 yourself every single day is so crucial. This is even crucial on the days 97 00:06:42.959 --> 00:06:45.920 that you are feeling on top of the world. I think I said this 98 00:06:46.000 --> 00:06:49.240 in my previous vlog that I just posted on my YouTube channel, my main 99 00:06:49.319 --> 00:06:53.279 channel. I was saying, we do a lot of journal work, we 100 00:06:53.319 --> 00:06:56.759 do a lot of self development work. We do a lot of things when 101 00:06:56.759 --> 00:07:01.079 we're feeling good, when we're motivated, which is great, But obviously even 102 00:07:01.079 --> 00:07:05.439 on the times that we're not, we should be doing that journal that, 103 00:07:05.600 --> 00:07:09.759 you know, therapy, whatever it is that's really going to help us thrive 104 00:07:09.800 --> 00:07:14.439 and remember who we are. So I just think that this summer, if 105 00:07:14.480 --> 00:07:18.439 you can cultivate a practice of remembering, it is so helpful, And there's 106 00:07:18.519 --> 00:07:25.040 many things that can help you remember. Maybe it's you moving around certain people 107 00:07:25.079 --> 00:07:28.120 that are really just a reflection of who you're trying to become or who you 108 00:07:28.120 --> 00:07:31.160 want to keep remembering yourself to be. Maybe it's a journal practice, like 109 00:07:31.199 --> 00:07:35.160 I said, Maybe it is listening to a certain podcasts but not listening to 110 00:07:35.199 --> 00:07:40.439 others, or consuming this type of content but just putting that content over there. 111 00:07:40.519 --> 00:07:43.879 Like whatever it is that you have to do to remember who you are, 112 00:07:43.959 --> 00:07:47.519 you need to do it because if not the world will tell you who 113 00:07:47.800 --> 00:07:53.439 you are. And I promise you I have gotten so caught up on that 114 00:07:53.480 --> 00:07:58.560 in so many seasons of my life. And usually I get caught up on 115 00:07:58.600 --> 00:08:03.439 that during the time times where I've fallen back on my practices even when I'm 116 00:08:03.480 --> 00:08:07.199 feeling good, because sometimes you just follow off your practices when you're feeling good 117 00:08:07.199 --> 00:08:09.759 as well, because you're like, oh, I don't need it, I 118 00:08:09.759 --> 00:08:13.199 don't need my general practice. And listen, we don't have to be these 119 00:08:13.240 --> 00:08:16.079 perfectionists and like every single day we have to, you know, always be 120 00:08:16.120 --> 00:08:20.360 working on ourselves. But I really do think, especially if you don't have 121 00:08:20.399 --> 00:08:26.800 that inner, if you don't have inner conversations that are very positive and you're 122 00:08:26.839 --> 00:08:30.800 in your mind running on autopilot, it's very very good to have this saturation 123 00:08:30.920 --> 00:08:33.639 process. So just thinking, if you're in a season of your life right 124 00:08:33.679 --> 00:08:37.240 now where you've kind of forgot who the if you are, this is a 125 00:08:37.279 --> 00:08:43.519 good time for you to have a journal practice morning night, getting in that 126 00:08:43.639 --> 00:08:48.039 zone again. Okay, the next thing that I need you guys. And 127 00:08:48.080 --> 00:08:50.480 when I say you guys, just know I'm putting myself in that category. 128 00:08:50.519 --> 00:08:54.000 Oh ways, okay, but I'm talking to you guys today, I need 129 00:08:54.039 --> 00:08:58.200 you guys to start falling madly in love with yourselves. Okay, this is 130 00:08:58.320 --> 00:09:03.120 not going to be the summer where we wish we had that body, or 131 00:09:03.159 --> 00:09:05.200 we wish that we were that girl over there. Oh I didn't hit my 132 00:09:05.279 --> 00:09:11.519 goals, or maybe maybe it's going to be next summer or no, whatever, 133 00:09:11.799 --> 00:09:15.759 insecurity you have, whatever thing you know you need to work on, 134 00:09:16.080 --> 00:09:18.639 this is going to be the summer that you're going to do it, because 135 00:09:18.759 --> 00:09:24.720 you are not going to waste another moment waiting and wasting your potential on the 136 00:09:24.759 --> 00:09:28.320 person that you could be right now. Okay, And I want to read 137 00:09:28.360 --> 00:09:31.440 this quote or not. Actually there's a few quotes that I want to read, 138 00:09:31.759 --> 00:09:33.360 but it's not actually a quote. It should be really a quote, 139 00:09:33.399 --> 00:09:37.879 but it's a comment that was left on one of my YouTube shorts, and 140 00:09:39.240 --> 00:09:41.639 the YouTube short it like blew up. Okay, And a lot of people 141 00:09:41.679 --> 00:09:46.399 don't understand that I was answering a question that somebody had asked. Somebody said, 142 00:09:46.440 --> 00:09:50.600 what's your advice on what to do when you feel ugly around pretty girls? 143 00:09:50.600 --> 00:09:54.519 And I like gave some advice and some people were loving the advice, 144 00:09:54.559 --> 00:09:56.720 some people were hating it. Whatever, but there's some people who really shared 145 00:09:56.759 --> 00:10:01.799 their experiences and one of them I literally screenshotted this and put it on my 146 00:10:01.840 --> 00:10:03.919 stories because it was amazing. So I want to read out to you guys 147 00:10:05.159 --> 00:10:07.639 because I think this will really help. It even helped me, and then 148 00:10:07.720 --> 00:10:11.960 we will go from there. So she said, I have a friend that 149 00:10:11.080 --> 00:10:15.600 is so physically perfect A low key used to make me insecure to go out 150 00:10:15.600 --> 00:10:18.480 with her. I loved her, and I mad at her and was so 151 00:10:18.600 --> 00:10:22.639 happy for her, but I definitely always felt I was the least attractive one. 152 00:10:22.720 --> 00:10:26.200 She has the prettiest, longest curly hair, She has a few inches 153 00:10:26.279 --> 00:10:30.240 taller than me, she has perfect skin, perfect teeth, perfect smile and 154 00:10:30.360 --> 00:10:33.559 eyes, and hour glass figure that looked amazing and everything. Med would literally 155 00:10:33.559 --> 00:10:37.840 stop her in her tracks everywhere we went and just try to talk to her, 156 00:10:37.200 --> 00:10:41.759 and I would just awkwardly stand around. Lol. One day, a 157 00:10:41.799 --> 00:10:43.440 couple of years ago, I admitted how I felt. I told her I 158 00:10:43.440 --> 00:10:48.039 didn't think I was ugly, but she was just so beautiful that I felt 159 00:10:48.120 --> 00:10:52.000 mentally small next to her. And her response was no effing way, because 160 00:10:52.120 --> 00:10:56.960 I'm not gonna lie. I get jealous of you. You're so petite and 161 00:10:56.039 --> 00:10:58.840 angelic looking. I wish I could pull off all the clothes you wear. 162 00:11:00.200 --> 00:11:03.879 Your hair is so shiny and pretty, you have the prettiest shade of green 163 00:11:03.000 --> 00:11:07.200 blue eyes, your perfect lips. All the guys or all my guy friends 164 00:11:07.240 --> 00:11:11.000 think that you're beautiful, adorable, but also sexy, and then just rambled 165 00:11:11.039 --> 00:11:15.480 off a list of her flaws and telling me why she thinks I'm way prettier 166 00:11:15.519 --> 00:11:18.879 than she is. My point is that this was a turning point for me. 167 00:11:20.200 --> 00:11:22.759 Everyone that I've ever been jealous of has probably felt the way that I 168 00:11:22.759 --> 00:11:26.440 felt at one point in their life. Everybody has their insecurities, big or 169 00:11:26.480 --> 00:11:31.120 small, but hardly anybody notices them, and it's usually just them dealing with 170 00:11:31.159 --> 00:11:35.759 their own shit. I would have never looked at my friend as anything less 171 00:11:35.759 --> 00:11:39.240 than perfect, but she didn't feel that way. I never used to look 172 00:11:39.240 --> 00:11:43.480 at myself as perfect, but that's how she even saw me. Envy is 173 00:11:43.480 --> 00:11:46.360 a devil. It sounds cliche, but I swear everyone is so beautiful in 174 00:11:46.399 --> 00:11:50.039 their own way. If we all look the same, the world would be 175 00:11:50.240 --> 00:11:52.960 so boring, which is so true if you think about it, like if 176 00:11:54.000 --> 00:11:56.399 you're trying to be somebody that you're not, and you think that everyone want 177 00:11:56.399 --> 00:11:58.559 to beat them too, Like we would all look the same and we would 178 00:11:58.559 --> 00:12:01.360 be so bored, and we wouldn't want to look like that person. She 179 00:12:01.440 --> 00:12:05.240 goes on to say, differences is what makes us unique. Learning to recognize 180 00:12:05.240 --> 00:12:09.960 that someone else may be pretty, but so are you, and learning to 181 00:12:09.000 --> 00:12:13.879 love every inch of yourself is a key to a lifelong state of confidence. 182 00:12:13.919 --> 00:12:18.320 Which that's really just it. Like, my question almost comes to you guys 183 00:12:18.559 --> 00:12:24.360 if you're struggling with this right now, is like when do you think it's 184 00:12:24.440 --> 00:12:28.879 gonna be that you decide to accept yourself? Like, when is that going 185 00:12:28.960 --> 00:12:31.639 to happen? Yes, you can change, and you can glow up, 186 00:12:31.679 --> 00:12:33.840 and you can have a physical glow up, you can have a mental like 187 00:12:33.919 --> 00:12:39.519 you can change. But aren't you tired of every single year, every summer, 188 00:12:39.639 --> 00:12:43.720 every season just being like I'm not good enough, I'm not good enough, 189 00:12:43.759 --> 00:12:46.840 I'm not good enough, and I know, I know the struggle even 190 00:12:48.440 --> 00:12:54.639 Actually it's funny because the other day one of my followers screenshotted a little Pinterest 191 00:12:54.720 --> 00:12:58.840 thing where somebody had said, like all the girlies who talk about glowing up 192 00:12:58.840 --> 00:13:03.080 on YouTube, you should go follow them, and some of the girls in 193 00:13:03.120 --> 00:13:05.279 the comments were like, oh my god, I love these YouTubers. I 194 00:13:05.320 --> 00:13:07.039 was one of them, and one of the girls was like, I like 195 00:13:07.159 --> 00:13:11.320 these guides, but I just wish that the people on these lists would be 196 00:13:11.399 --> 00:13:16.600 girls who are not pretty and rich or whatever, or like have it easy. 197 00:13:16.759 --> 00:13:20.960 And obviously she doesn't know my story. Yes, okay, a lot 198 00:13:20.000 --> 00:13:24.120 of people might think that I'm pretty, but there were so many times in 199 00:13:24.120 --> 00:13:26.559 my life where I literally hated myself. I hated every inch of myself. 200 00:13:26.600 --> 00:13:31.200 I did not think that I was pretty at all. I struggled with health 201 00:13:31.240 --> 00:13:35.840 issues, I really struggled with loving myself. I lived for the version of 202 00:13:35.879 --> 00:13:39.320 me that I was not, and I would not live my life until I 203 00:13:39.320 --> 00:13:41.480 became her, which was never a thing. And also I didn't grow up 204 00:13:41.559 --> 00:13:46.879 rich. But what I learned on my journey was when I started to realize 205 00:13:46.879 --> 00:13:50.159 that, like, it was just so time consuming and it took so much 206 00:13:50.320 --> 00:13:54.720 energy to hate myself, and honestly, I'd rather just learn to accept the 207 00:13:54.720 --> 00:13:58.759 things that I either can't change about myself or let me just learn on the 208 00:13:58.840 --> 00:14:05.480 journey of changing. That not only freed me, but that was the key 209 00:14:05.720 --> 00:14:09.879 to even glowing up and changing. Because when I accepted myself on a journey, 210 00:14:09.919 --> 00:14:13.600 I was able to stay consistent with healthy habits. I was able to 211 00:14:15.519 --> 00:14:18.679 get out in the world and build confidence by going out and you know, 212 00:14:18.879 --> 00:14:24.799 just having conversations with people, and you know, dating around and making friends 213 00:14:24.799 --> 00:14:28.519 and all those things build confidence. You showing up for yourself and even going 214 00:14:28.519 --> 00:14:31.480 to the gym and taking care of yourself, self care, all those things, 215 00:14:31.519 --> 00:14:33.000 of course they're going to allow you to glow up. But when you're 216 00:14:33.039 --> 00:14:37.559 such a perfectionist and you're so hard on yourself, what do you do. 217 00:14:37.159 --> 00:14:39.840 You go into a cycle, you do something for like three days, and 218 00:14:39.879 --> 00:14:43.399 then you fall off and you go over and over. So obviously you're not 219 00:14:43.399 --> 00:14:46.200 going to really have that glow up. So the way I became the version 220 00:14:46.240 --> 00:14:50.039 of me that I really wanted was first accepting who I was and knowing it 221 00:14:50.080 --> 00:14:54.840 into being that I could be that girl, and just loving myself through the 222 00:14:54.879 --> 00:14:56.440 process. And oh my god, did my life ever get so much better? 223 00:14:56.519 --> 00:15:01.240 And on top of that, everything change so quickly. I was like 224 00:15:01.720 --> 00:15:07.360 working up a stream to try to get to my dream body, my I 225 00:15:07.360 --> 00:15:09.600 don't know, a dream face, my dream hair, my dream life, 226 00:15:11.080 --> 00:15:16.679 so much, and I was working so hard because the working so hard came 227 00:15:16.720 --> 00:15:20.759 from hating myself in the process. And when I started to learn to love 228 00:15:20.799 --> 00:15:24.679 myself on that process, it took no time at all for me to get 229 00:15:24.679 --> 00:15:26.399 on healthy habits and whatever. But I was in those cycles for a long 230 00:15:26.440 --> 00:15:28.720 time, and I talk about it in my book, The Ultimate Globe Guide 231 00:15:28.879 --> 00:15:31.519 if you guys are new and if you want my book, it'll be linked 232 00:15:31.519 --> 00:15:39.279 down below. So I just really want you to focus this summer on learning 233 00:15:39.320 --> 00:15:41.720 to accept and this. You're not going to be perfect, And by the 234 00:15:41.759 --> 00:15:46.799 way, learning to accept the things about you does not mean you can't change. 235 00:15:46.840 --> 00:15:48.799 But I'm telling you, loving yourself through a process of glowing up will 236 00:15:48.840 --> 00:15:52.120 be so much easier than you self hating through the whole entire thing. I 237 00:15:52.159 --> 00:15:56.200 want you to focus on learning to fall madly in love with yourself. Okay, 238 00:15:56.639 --> 00:16:00.639 the things that you have been nagging yourself about the way that your body 239 00:16:00.679 --> 00:16:03.720 looks, the way that your hair is not yet, the way that your 240 00:16:03.799 --> 00:16:07.840 bank account is not yet, the way that you haven't hate your goals, 241 00:16:07.960 --> 00:16:11.000 whatever it is. I want you to fall madly in love with all of 242 00:16:11.039 --> 00:16:15.039 the things that you have been so used to hating. I want you to 243 00:16:15.120 --> 00:16:18.080 try it. If anything, just let this be an experiment. Try it 244 00:16:18.159 --> 00:16:22.080 out for the summer, and then you can go back to hating yourself. 245 00:16:22.080 --> 00:16:23.320 You will not do it, you trust me. I promise you you will 246 00:16:23.320 --> 00:16:29.679 not. And in that process you will find you will absolutely flourish. And 247 00:16:29.720 --> 00:16:33.159 I think a few tips when it comes to falling madly in love with yourself 248 00:16:33.320 --> 00:16:40.960 is to recognize when you do checking behaviors in the form of checking to see 249 00:16:40.960 --> 00:16:45.440 if people like you, or waiting for people to validate you. Like I 250 00:16:45.720 --> 00:16:52.000 see a lot of people in comment sections. In real life. You know, 251 00:16:52.039 --> 00:16:55.879 there's some friends. I have a lot of confident friends. And it's 252 00:16:55.879 --> 00:16:59.240 no shade. I've said this even in last week's episode. I believe it's 253 00:16:59.240 --> 00:17:03.559 no shade to the one who need that validation. I think that everyone needs 254 00:17:03.600 --> 00:17:06.440 validation, you know, at some point in their lives. But at the 255 00:17:06.519 --> 00:17:10.240 end of the day, if you really struggle with loving yourself, this is 256 00:17:10.279 --> 00:17:15.079 going to be so important that you stop asking people if you're good enough. 257 00:17:15.200 --> 00:17:18.440 If you keep asking people if you are good enough, you will be asking 258 00:17:18.720 --> 00:17:22.960 until the day you die. Because this is a thing. Even if people 259 00:17:23.319 --> 00:17:26.039 continue to validate you and say oh my god, you're amazing, Oh my 260 00:17:26.039 --> 00:17:29.039 god, you're beautiful, Oh my god, this photo is great, or 261 00:17:29.079 --> 00:17:30.039 that thing is great, or you should do this. D da da da 262 00:17:30.119 --> 00:17:34.240 da. You will never learn how to do it yourself. So when these 263 00:17:34.319 --> 00:17:37.559 people are avoid what's going to happen, You're gonna look in the mirror and 264 00:17:37.599 --> 00:17:40.799 be like, oh my god, I'm nothing until I have these people tell 265 00:17:40.839 --> 00:17:42.240 me that I'm something. You don't want to do that, you do not 266 00:17:42.319 --> 00:17:48.880 want to be on this emotional rollercoaster in life, and I definitely was on 267 00:17:48.920 --> 00:17:52.160 that in my life, you know, just relying on external validation, either 268 00:17:52.519 --> 00:17:56.599 you know, like social media or men or whatever. So you know, 269 00:17:57.279 --> 00:18:00.519 it comes a point where you just have to decide you are good enough, 270 00:18:00.759 --> 00:18:04.160 Decide that photo looks good, Decide you don't need to edit it, Decide 271 00:18:04.160 --> 00:18:08.200 that you're gonna go for your dreams even if nobody validates you. Decide that 272 00:18:08.240 --> 00:18:12.559 you're gonna, you know, be successful, even if nobody's supporting you, 273 00:18:12.680 --> 00:18:15.799 or nobody's texting you and being like, oh my god, that's great, 274 00:18:15.960 --> 00:18:18.680 or nobody's liking your shit. Who cares? You have to be the one 275 00:18:18.720 --> 00:18:22.599 to decide that you are good enough, I promise you. It is the 276 00:18:22.279 --> 00:18:26.839 single best thing that you could do in your entire life is to decide that 277 00:18:26.839 --> 00:18:29.680 you are good enough. And what happens when you decide that you are good 278 00:18:29.839 --> 00:18:33.119 enough, you will see you or reflected in your life. Doesn't happen the 279 00:18:33.160 --> 00:18:36.240 other way around. And even if it happens the other way around, because 280 00:18:36.279 --> 00:18:37.000 you know, maybe there are people who say, oh, you're great, 281 00:18:37.000 --> 00:18:41.519 this that you're not gonna believe it, You're probably something that doesn't believe it. 282 00:18:41.799 --> 00:18:45.640 I know many people who I have validated through many years of my life 283 00:18:45.880 --> 00:18:52.160 who still to this day can't validate themselves and they don't actually fully believe it 284 00:18:52.240 --> 00:18:55.720 deep down to their core. And when I recognize that I was doing that, 285 00:18:56.279 --> 00:19:00.839 when I realized, even when people validate me, I still I feel 286 00:19:00.880 --> 00:19:03.960 good for a second, and then it goes away, I realize no more. 287 00:19:03.359 --> 00:19:06.920 I don't want that. I want to be the source of my own 288 00:19:07.160 --> 00:19:11.319 happiness, and everything else is a cherry on top. You like my photo, 289 00:19:11.559 --> 00:19:15.680 great, but guess what, I already like it, so I'm good. 290 00:19:15.720 --> 00:19:18.279 I didn't need you to like that photo. I didn't need you to 291 00:19:18.279 --> 00:19:21.839 tell me that I'm great because I have decided that I am great. Let 292 00:19:21.920 --> 00:19:25.839 me read a quote from Pinterest when it comes to your intuition, and I 293 00:19:25.880 --> 00:19:30.400 think that this really correlates with deciding that you're good enough and then we'll move 294 00:19:30.440 --> 00:19:33.880 on to the next one. So it says, if you have a feeling 295 00:19:33.920 --> 00:19:37.279 that's telling you to do something, but you're seeking a sign outside of you 296 00:19:37.359 --> 00:19:42.960 to confirm this intuitive feeling, the intuitive feeling is the sign. You're not 297 00:19:44.000 --> 00:19:48.799 looking for a sign, you're looking for courage to follow your intuition. That's 298 00:19:48.920 --> 00:19:51.480 really like when I read that, I was like, no, honestly, 299 00:19:51.799 --> 00:19:56.359 like, that's true. When you're looking for a sign, you already have 300 00:19:56.480 --> 00:20:00.599 that intuitive hit and now you're gonna go out and you're gonna look and see 301 00:20:00.640 --> 00:20:06.160 if somebody is going to know decide that your intuition or that feeling is correct. 302 00:20:06.519 --> 00:20:07.720 And the way that you do that, the way that you trust yourself, 303 00:20:08.359 --> 00:20:15.279 is first by understanding that wherever your intuition is leading wherever you go in 304 00:20:15.319 --> 00:20:18.200 your life, you're gonna be fine. I think the reason why sometimes we're 305 00:20:18.200 --> 00:20:22.640 so afraid to follow that intuition is because, well, what if that results 306 00:20:22.680 --> 00:20:29.480 in disappointment or something not really working out? The issue that you're having is 307 00:20:29.960 --> 00:20:33.000 you have not learned how to be with yourself and that emotion, that feeling. 308 00:20:33.519 --> 00:20:37.359 You don't know how to be comfortable with disappointment if it happens. You 309 00:20:37.359 --> 00:20:41.160 don't know how to be comfortable with that fear or that scarcity, or what 310 00:20:41.200 --> 00:20:45.359 am I going to do? So get good at Yes, sometimes being disappointed 311 00:20:45.599 --> 00:20:48.400 and understanding that is a part of life. It doesn't need to be you 312 00:20:48.440 --> 00:20:52.920 don't need to firm it into your life. But yes, there's disappointing things 313 00:20:52.079 --> 00:20:56.400 in life. Are you going to be okay? Yes you are. Maybe 314 00:20:56.440 --> 00:20:57.759 there's a part of you, that young part of you that don't feel like 315 00:20:57.799 --> 00:21:02.279 you're going to be okay. Why because you probably didn't learn how to be 316 00:21:02.440 --> 00:21:04.839 with that emotion. Maybe there wasn't somebody that was there with you or taught 317 00:21:04.880 --> 00:21:08.839 you how to be with that disappointment, or it happens so frequently that you're 318 00:21:08.839 --> 00:21:15.079 just protecting yourself. But the best thing that I did for myself was learn 319 00:21:15.119 --> 00:21:18.400 how to not be afraid of these lower negative emotions and understand that's just a 320 00:21:18.440 --> 00:21:23.759 normal part of the human experience and hold yourself in that emotion when it does 321 00:21:23.799 --> 00:21:27.319 come, it's going to come. Inevitably is going to come. The question 322 00:21:27.440 --> 00:21:32.319 is really not like how do I avoid the emotion? The question is more 323 00:21:32.400 --> 00:21:37.200 how do I support myself and hold myself as I'm feeling this deep emotion which 324 00:21:37.200 --> 00:21:41.000 you never learned how to do. So don't try to move through life with 325 00:21:41.160 --> 00:21:45.920 walls up trying to never experience that thing. Trust me, your lesson will 326 00:21:45.000 --> 00:21:48.559 end up being you having to go through that or experience that emotion. That's 327 00:21:48.559 --> 00:21:51.880 what you'll end up finding in your life. So you might as well just 328 00:21:52.359 --> 00:21:55.880 not be so afraid. I know it's easier said than done, but when 329 00:21:55.920 --> 00:22:00.960 I find that I am doing behaviors to avoid that feeling, I actually dive 330 00:22:02.039 --> 00:22:04.920 deeper in that feeling. And what I do when it comes to diving deeper 331 00:22:04.960 --> 00:22:10.440 in that feeling is I'm actually just standing with my inner child that's afraid to 332 00:22:10.519 --> 00:22:12.599 feel that emotion, because that's really what it is. It's your young child 333 00:22:12.640 --> 00:22:18.440 part that maybe didn't have somebody hold her hand through that feeling of you know, 334 00:22:18.839 --> 00:22:22.079 loss or grief or sadness or scared, I don't know what to do, 335 00:22:22.279 --> 00:22:27.119 da da, And you're becoming that adult self with your inner child in 336 00:22:27.119 --> 00:22:30.839 that moment and being like We've got this. You know this. If this 337 00:22:30.920 --> 00:22:34.960 goes astray, this doesn't go the way we really want it is, oh 338 00:22:36.279 --> 00:22:38.680 okay, I am going to be there for you. I am here with 339 00:22:38.759 --> 00:22:42.119 you. That is the best thing that you could do for yourself. Bringing 340 00:22:42.160 --> 00:22:47.680 it back to trusting your intuition, I do find when you stop fearing those 341 00:22:48.359 --> 00:22:52.279 lower emotions, negative emotions, if you will, or that experience of what 342 00:22:52.440 --> 00:22:56.440 maybe won't pan out. I tend to find, at least with me, 343 00:22:56.640 --> 00:23:00.680 I have way more confidence in trusting that intuition because I'm like, I'm gonna 344 00:23:00.680 --> 00:23:06.839 be good either way. My intuition is not going to lead me astray because 345 00:23:07.200 --> 00:23:11.640 I'm gonna be fine. And I think that that's how you really build a 346 00:23:11.640 --> 00:23:15.440 lot of confidence in your life, is not looking outside of you with a 347 00:23:15.480 --> 00:23:18.319 sign of like, oh you should do this or that. No, you're 348 00:23:18.319 --> 00:23:22.240 going to be led right back to yourself, so you might as well learn 349 00:23:22.319 --> 00:23:25.519 that lesson now. The next thing that we are going to be doing this 350 00:23:25.559 --> 00:23:33.440 summer is not waiting for life to just happen and instead decide what gets to 351 00:23:33.440 --> 00:23:38.720 happen in your life and declare it and say no to everything and anything that 352 00:23:38.839 --> 00:23:42.359 is not in alignment to what it is that you're wanting in your life. 353 00:23:42.680 --> 00:23:45.319 This is not going to be the summer that we're being passive, okay, 354 00:23:45.680 --> 00:23:51.440 And are there seasons of our lives where we are kind of passive because we 355 00:23:51.480 --> 00:23:53.880 don't really know, you know, where to go, We don't really maybe 356 00:23:53.920 --> 00:23:57.240 trust ourselves in yes, yes, it's yes, it's yes. But this 357 00:23:57.359 --> 00:24:00.519 is not going to be it. Okay, this is not going to be 358 00:24:00.680 --> 00:24:04.640 this summer. If you want your dream life, if you want the life 359 00:24:04.680 --> 00:24:08.240 on your painterest board, or you see someone else over there who has this 360 00:24:08.359 --> 00:24:12.200 life, or you're listening to a podcast and you're being motive, I need 361 00:24:12.240 --> 00:24:17.240 you to declare it. I need you to know it into being, I 362 00:24:17.359 --> 00:24:22.680 need you to go exactly right to it. And that's it. There's got 363 00:24:22.720 --> 00:24:25.799 to be a point where you realize, like, the only way you're going 364 00:24:25.839 --> 00:24:27.160 to get this dream life or the things that you want in your life is 365 00:24:27.200 --> 00:24:33.839 going to be up to you and your actions, really aligned actions. So 366 00:24:33.759 --> 00:24:37.319 this is the summer, at least for me. I'll kind of give you 367 00:24:37.519 --> 00:24:41.359 some examples. I've been talking about this a lot in my podcast actually and 368 00:24:41.440 --> 00:24:45.200 even on my vlog channel. This is another thing that I'm doing this summer 369 00:24:45.319 --> 00:24:47.920 is like, I don't want to look back and be like, oh, 370 00:24:48.079 --> 00:24:49.640 I should have done more. I could have done more, I could have 371 00:24:49.920 --> 00:24:53.839 you know, worked more in a way. So what I have been doing 372 00:24:55.079 --> 00:24:59.720 is getting very clear on what I want my life to look like in the 373 00:24:59.720 --> 00:25:03.119 next five to ten years. Listen, there's always room to move around. 374 00:25:03.279 --> 00:25:07.359 I'm a very flexible, cyclical being. But for the most part, I 375 00:25:07.480 --> 00:25:12.720 know what I want. Okay, we know what we freaking want in our 376 00:25:12.759 --> 00:25:18.920 lives, in our dream life essentially. So I'm getting very clear on what 377 00:25:18.960 --> 00:25:21.519 it is that i want my life to look like. I'm getting clear on 378 00:25:21.559 --> 00:25:25.559 my goals. I'm getting clear on my business. I'm getting so incredibly clear 379 00:25:25.759 --> 00:25:30.720 with my vision, and I am hyper focusing on that. I'm not obsessing 380 00:25:30.759 --> 00:25:33.839 because I'm going to talk about attachment and letting things be what they need to 381 00:25:33.839 --> 00:25:37.039 be. But I'm getting very clear and real with myself about what I want 382 00:25:37.079 --> 00:25:41.400 in my life. And I am going tunnel vision in that direction, and 383 00:25:41.480 --> 00:25:45.640 I am going D and D mode, and I am committing to this life 384 00:25:45.880 --> 00:25:49.480 and I'm declaring it and I am knowing it into being until it becomes when 385 00:25:49.519 --> 00:25:52.720 it comes to manifestation. And if you don't really believe in manifestation or this 386 00:25:52.799 --> 00:25:56.039 that whatever, you're manifesting everything all the time. When you hit goals, 387 00:25:56.079 --> 00:26:00.359 you're manifesting. Okay, So we don't need to like make this like this 388 00:26:00.480 --> 00:26:02.920 big thing if we don't want you. But at the end of the day, 389 00:26:02.920 --> 00:26:07.160 when you are wanting something to be a reality for you, aka your 390 00:26:07.240 --> 00:26:12.200 dream life, whatever your goals are, your current reality right now is it's 391 00:26:12.240 --> 00:26:17.079 not normalized in your current reality, is what I should say. So if 392 00:26:17.240 --> 00:26:22.039 you want, let's say, to become a YouTuber or a podcaster of a 393 00:26:22.079 --> 00:26:26.680 certain caliber, you're gonna need to drive that home and have tunnel vision in 394 00:26:26.720 --> 00:26:32.640 that, you know, like mirror whatever that goal until it becomes normalized. 395 00:26:32.680 --> 00:26:36.759 But what we do is we go in our journals and we're like I want 396 00:26:36.759 --> 00:26:40.359 to be a YouTuber, and like I want a dream relationship, and like 397 00:26:40.480 --> 00:26:44.680 I want these things, and we like write it for like a few days, 398 00:26:44.759 --> 00:26:47.960 and then we go about our day, going right back to the old 399 00:26:48.039 --> 00:26:52.240 version of us. Do not let up until it becomes normalized. Now, 400 00:26:52.559 --> 00:26:57.559 I think people get kind of annoyed with this and feel tired when this happens 401 00:26:57.599 --> 00:27:00.759 sometimes, and I get it, like hitting your goals or manifesting. Sometimes 402 00:27:00.839 --> 00:27:04.880 it takes some work, is because it feels like it's never ending. It 403 00:27:04.880 --> 00:27:08.000 feels like a lot of work to change your mindset around something or continue to 404 00:27:08.039 --> 00:27:11.160 show up. But understand, you're not always going to need to show up 405 00:27:11.160 --> 00:27:15.960 in that capacity. You'll have to change and you'll have to adapt, and 406 00:27:15.000 --> 00:27:18.880 you'll have new seasons of life where you got to do new things. But 407 00:27:19.160 --> 00:27:23.440 you're just showing up and you're having tunnel vision on that goal until it becomes 408 00:27:23.480 --> 00:27:30.119 normalized in your life where when you wake up, that's the version of you 409 00:27:30.200 --> 00:27:33.079 automatically playing in your mind where you don't have to deter your mindset back to 410 00:27:33.160 --> 00:27:38.839 like positive thoughts because it's already automatic. Okay, Like that's really what happens 411 00:27:38.839 --> 00:27:41.640 when it comes to even how to love yourself, how to have confidence within 412 00:27:41.640 --> 00:27:45.920 yourself. Everyone's always asking me about that, always asking me, how do 413 00:27:45.920 --> 00:27:48.599 you have confidence? How do you trust yourself? How do you speak to 414 00:27:48.640 --> 00:27:53.079 yourself kindly? My affirmations aren't working. You have one hundred million thousand thoughts 415 00:27:53.119 --> 00:27:59.119 a day that you run autopilot on. And if you're just going to do 416 00:27:59.160 --> 00:28:02.799 a journal practice for ten minutes in the morning. I am lovable, I 417 00:28:02.839 --> 00:28:07.200 am amazing, I'm grateful for everything that I have. I'm changing my life, 418 00:28:07.720 --> 00:28:11.680 money is coming to me. Whatever the affirmations are, and you're expecting 419 00:28:11.720 --> 00:28:15.279 those to be your reality, your your automatic thoughts from ten minutes of work, 420 00:28:15.279 --> 00:28:18.960 But you're going right back to the old version of you the entire day. 421 00:28:18.039 --> 00:28:23.400 Do not really really come on, listen, we gotta do better. 422 00:28:23.440 --> 00:28:27.079 We have to commit, and we have to commit to saturating our minds essentially. 423 00:28:27.359 --> 00:28:30.519 And I talk about saturating your mind a lot. This is what I 424 00:28:30.599 --> 00:28:33.720 have been doing for years, is what I always do. It's what I 425 00:28:33.799 --> 00:28:37.680 continue to do, especially when I want something in my life. But even 426 00:28:37.720 --> 00:28:42.240 if I'm like running on autopilot, there's things that I listen to. There's 427 00:28:42.359 --> 00:28:47.319 things and habits that I do. There's ways that I speak to myself that 428 00:28:47.440 --> 00:28:51.119 are this base level of where I want to feel and be in my life. 429 00:28:51.519 --> 00:28:56.279 So like, I'm not consuming content that's gonna make me second guess myself. 430 00:28:56.319 --> 00:29:00.279 I'm not having conversations with people where I'm second guessing myself. I'm not 431 00:29:00.279 --> 00:29:04.400 doing behaviors over and over and over and over again that are not aligned to 432 00:29:04.559 --> 00:29:07.359 the version of me that I want. I'm just I'm not really doing that. 433 00:29:07.440 --> 00:29:11.359 And if I want to manifest something that's even bigger than where I'm at 434 00:29:11.440 --> 00:29:14.559 right now, I know it's going to take a level of effort. It's 435 00:29:14.599 --> 00:29:18.279 going to take a level of me showing up every single day until that becomes 436 00:29:18.319 --> 00:29:22.720 an automatic thought of yes I'm this big YouTuber or yes I'm this whatever. 437 00:29:22.079 --> 00:29:27.079 When I grew on YouTube, I didn't stop until I became a YouTuber. 438 00:29:27.119 --> 00:29:30.599 I really became a YouTuber in my maa before that even happened, Like I 439 00:29:30.640 --> 00:29:34.799 already declared it. It was already done. It was about seeing that become 440 00:29:34.920 --> 00:29:41.200 normalized in my three D reality. So when you're trying to hit goals, 441 00:29:41.640 --> 00:29:45.960 think about saturation, think about really driving it home until it becomes normalized. 442 00:29:47.240 --> 00:29:52.480 Now picktbacking off of what I just said about declaring and focusing, there's duality 443 00:29:52.480 --> 00:29:57.160 and everything, okay, And the next thing is not to rush your process 444 00:29:57.319 --> 00:30:03.359 and your growth. This is like the biggest thing I think that we as 445 00:30:03.519 --> 00:30:11.400 humans probably have to learn is the balance between focusing and attaching and having tunnel 446 00:30:11.440 --> 00:30:17.960 vision towards our goals, but also knowing when we're hyper fixating, and we're 447 00:30:18.000 --> 00:30:21.839 so attached to that outcome to the point where we're also like pushing it energetically 448 00:30:21.920 --> 00:30:27.519 away, or we're not allowing ourselves or the universe enough time to have it 449 00:30:27.559 --> 00:30:33.720 all figured out. And I even made this TikTok the other day about how 450 00:30:34.240 --> 00:30:38.440 you know when people say, or even our parents probably have taught us this 451 00:30:38.480 --> 00:30:42.799 thing where it's like when you are baking. Let's say you're baking chicken in 452 00:30:42.839 --> 00:30:48.240 the oven. Okay, you don't want to keep opening the oven every three 453 00:30:48.279 --> 00:30:51.519 seconds to see if it's done. You say you want your baked chicken. 454 00:30:52.039 --> 00:30:55.920 You put it in the oven forever how long it needs. Sometimes it may 455 00:30:56.000 --> 00:30:59.640 need longer. Who knows. You're just putting it in there until it is 456 00:30:59.680 --> 00:31:03.359 cooked, okay, and you're not going to open the oven until it's done. 457 00:31:03.960 --> 00:31:07.079 But what we do when we declare something, we say, okay, 458 00:31:07.279 --> 00:31:11.079 I want to become a YouTuber, and then you know, we just like 459 00:31:11.160 --> 00:31:12.680 sit here and like, yeah, maybe we like make the YouTube video or 460 00:31:12.680 --> 00:31:15.000 this that, and then we're checking the views every three seconds, and we're 461 00:31:15.079 --> 00:31:18.039 checking and we're checking, and we're checking and we're checking, and then we're 462 00:31:18.119 --> 00:31:21.480 changing and we're you know, rebranding, and we're doing these things and we're 463 00:31:21.519 --> 00:31:23.519 not trusting. We're opening the oven every three seconds. We're opening the oven, 464 00:31:23.559 --> 00:31:26.960 opening the even and it's taking longer. It's taking longer for you to 465 00:31:26.960 --> 00:31:32.000 get what you want in your life because you do not trust. And I've 466 00:31:32.039 --> 00:31:33.759 said this before as well when it comes to manifesting. If you believe in 467 00:31:33.799 --> 00:31:37.599 this, you believe in the universe. That's that, like the universe is 468 00:31:37.880 --> 00:31:41.000 always moving mountains. As soon as you declare something, you say, this 469 00:31:41.039 --> 00:31:47.079 is exactly what I want in my life, universe says, amazing, done, 470 00:31:47.200 --> 00:31:49.559 I'm gonna go work on that. You go over here and do whatever 471 00:31:49.559 --> 00:31:52.559 you need to do. Stay in alignment with this this version of you. 472 00:31:52.640 --> 00:31:56.119 Don't worry. It's coming into your three D reality. It's not there yet 473 00:31:56.119 --> 00:32:00.160 though. Okay, so we put that out into the world and the universe. 474 00:32:00.680 --> 00:32:04.559 Let's say it needs to move a freaking mountain for us. It's going 475 00:32:04.640 --> 00:32:07.319 to move a mountain for us. It's gonna move the mountain from A to 476 00:32:07.440 --> 00:32:12.480 B. But we get so damn and patient that when the universe is moving 477 00:32:12.480 --> 00:32:14.799 the mountain from A to B, it's a little bit messy, right, 478 00:32:15.319 --> 00:32:19.200 Things aren't really that doesn't look like that's where I'm You know, the universe 479 00:32:19.240 --> 00:32:22.720 will bring you people that doesn't really seem like it's happening, or this thing 480 00:32:22.799 --> 00:32:24.799 is falling off, or like you're not getting the views over here are something's 481 00:32:24.839 --> 00:32:29.359 not really like making sense, and we get so triggered and we're like, 482 00:32:29.400 --> 00:32:30.240 oh my god, see it's not happening. Oh my god, to see 483 00:32:30.240 --> 00:32:34.279 it's not happening. And then you're not trusting and you go back on your 484 00:32:34.279 --> 00:32:37.319 word or that you need to change your desires, or you know, you 485 00:32:37.319 --> 00:32:42.240 you have a fit and you just you stress out and you trust yourself out, 486 00:32:42.279 --> 00:32:45.880 and you create all this chaos from simply not trusting that the universe is 487 00:32:45.920 --> 00:32:51.599 moving your mountain from A to B. Let it be. So when you 488 00:32:51.640 --> 00:32:54.759 see that little bit of a mess in the middle, don't mess with it. 489 00:32:55.559 --> 00:33:00.000 Trust that it is coming. And I always say this to myself. 490 00:33:00.039 --> 00:33:02.559 I really always say this to myself. And it's almost like sometimes I feel 491 00:33:02.599 --> 00:33:07.200 like it's a little bit psychotic sometimes, like some of them. Maybe it's 492 00:33:07.200 --> 00:33:09.200 because I've just been through so many hard times in my life and I just 493 00:33:09.400 --> 00:33:15.559 know what this process is. But when I see something that is very clearly 494 00:33:15.599 --> 00:33:20.759 the opposite of my manifestation. It's almost laughable to me. And when I 495 00:33:20.799 --> 00:33:23.960 mean laughable, it's like, this is so funny because I am getting exactly 496 00:33:24.000 --> 00:33:28.680 what I want in my life by the mere fact of this thing not working 497 00:33:28.720 --> 00:33:30.519 out. And you really need to think about it like this. If something 498 00:33:30.559 --> 00:33:34.960 is not working out in your favor right now, you're only one step closer 499 00:33:35.000 --> 00:33:37.240 for it to working out. You should only ever have that mindset. You 500 00:33:37.400 --> 00:33:40.119 just broke up with a guy, or a guy just broke up with you, 501 00:33:40.440 --> 00:33:45.839 amazing, You're one step closer to your dream relationship. This opportunity didn't 502 00:33:45.839 --> 00:33:49.519 work out for you. And this happens sometimes with me when it comes to 503 00:33:50.359 --> 00:33:53.599 not often, but sometimes maybe like a brand deal for some reason it didn't 504 00:33:53.920 --> 00:33:58.839 work out or something, or it fell through. This that not happening, 505 00:33:59.000 --> 00:34:01.519 okay, perfect, I'm about to get a brand that's ten times better than 506 00:34:01.519 --> 00:34:05.799 that. That's what I have to tell myself. Is it delusional, No, 507 00:34:05.880 --> 00:34:08.280 it's not. It's not delusional to think in your favor. It is 508 00:34:08.320 --> 00:34:13.840 not delusional to believe in yourself. It is not delusional to believe that good 509 00:34:13.840 --> 00:34:19.320 things are on its way. It's not you have just been so programmed by 510 00:34:20.039 --> 00:34:27.199 society, by negative people, by your own insecurities, that thinking positively is 511 00:34:27.519 --> 00:34:30.760 ooh, I don't know if I should do that. Absolutely not. This 512 00:34:30.880 --> 00:34:34.960 is not going to be the summer where we are believing in our limiting beliefs. 513 00:34:34.960 --> 00:34:37.199 We're not going to do that. So bringing it back to not rushing, 514 00:34:37.280 --> 00:34:40.199 I want to read another quote from Pinterest. I posted this on my 515 00:34:40.280 --> 00:34:45.039 story last night, and it just you know, when you read some quotes 516 00:34:45.039 --> 00:34:47.639 and it just hits you in your nervous system and everything's just relaxed and you 517 00:34:47.679 --> 00:34:51.719 can just breathe. I hope this does this for you guys. So it 518 00:34:51.760 --> 00:34:55.159 says, reminder, what's yours will be yours. No need to rush, 519 00:34:55.360 --> 00:34:59.840 no need to feel anxious. All good things take time, and when it 520 00:35:00.039 --> 00:35:02.480 does come time, your heart will be so grateful. Give it time, 521 00:35:02.840 --> 00:35:08.960 rest your mind, and enjoy the present moment. This is something that is 522 00:35:09.079 --> 00:35:14.119 very potent in my current reality right now, which always tends to happen when 523 00:35:14.199 --> 00:35:17.079 you're really wanting to manifest something new in your life. You get really excited, 524 00:35:17.360 --> 00:35:21.639 you have these goals, you're inspired, you're ready to take action, 525 00:35:22.320 --> 00:35:27.000 and then sometimes not all the time, but there's this waiting period. It's 526 00:35:27.079 --> 00:35:31.360 like, where's the manifestation? It's not coming? Where is it? This 527 00:35:31.519 --> 00:35:38.039 is the point where you really want to rest in this trust within yourself because 528 00:35:38.079 --> 00:35:45.199 you're creating your own reality and the universe that it's coming. The chicken it's 529 00:35:45.239 --> 00:35:50.079 cooking. Don't worry about it. Go do something else. And what I 530 00:35:50.119 --> 00:35:53.119 mean, go do something else. Don't rev up your nervous system and stress 531 00:35:53.159 --> 00:35:58.840 yourself out in another thing and reran your life. I mean, go live. 532 00:35:59.480 --> 00:36:00.599 Be in the price. There's a moment, especially when it comes to 533 00:36:00.639 --> 00:36:05.840 summer. Breathe, like, where can you be right now on this present 534 00:36:05.920 --> 00:36:08.280 moment? Your feet should be on the ground right now. Breathe. We 535 00:36:08.320 --> 00:36:13.119 are so in our heads all of the time, especially the ones who are 536 00:36:13.119 --> 00:36:17.199 super into cell development, goals, manifesting this that. And there's a girl. 537 00:36:17.280 --> 00:36:22.519 Her name is Melanie Layer I think that's her last name, and she 538 00:36:22.840 --> 00:36:28.480 is the founder of Alpha FM, and she has like a cool Instagram. 539 00:36:28.480 --> 00:36:31.960 She has a lot of cool courses business related, self love, feminine energy, 540 00:36:32.000 --> 00:36:35.519 things like that. I would definitely go check her out. And in 541 00:36:35.559 --> 00:36:39.079 some of her courses she talks about having one foot in gratitude and one foot 542 00:36:39.159 --> 00:36:45.199 in desire, and I think that this is always something we should really be 543 00:36:45.280 --> 00:36:49.000 coming back to. Is this quote really write it down? Honestly, I 544 00:36:49.079 --> 00:36:53.360 have it written down. Just when you are becoming aware that you're in your 545 00:36:53.400 --> 00:36:57.920 head or you're checking, where's the manifestation, why is it coming, You're 546 00:36:57.920 --> 00:37:01.159 stressing, you're acting on a scarcity. All this one foot in desire, 547 00:37:01.599 --> 00:37:07.280 one foot in gratitude, or you can say the opposite way. Meaning gratitude 548 00:37:07.360 --> 00:37:09.800 is bringing yourself into the present moment of what you have right now. Okay, 549 00:37:10.119 --> 00:37:13.880 you're being grateful for everything you have because you know what you should. 550 00:37:14.199 --> 00:37:16.920 There's so many things in your life right now that you should be present with, 551 00:37:17.679 --> 00:37:21.519 and quite frankly, even when you get all your desires, if you 552 00:37:21.519 --> 00:37:23.320 don't know how to be grateful for the things that you have right now, 553 00:37:23.480 --> 00:37:28.360 it will feel like your desires are never here. I promise you that. 554 00:37:28.440 --> 00:37:31.639 And on top of that, the feeling that you are trying to feel from 555 00:37:32.079 --> 00:37:35.840 manifesting the things that you want in your life that you don't have yet, 556 00:37:36.119 --> 00:37:39.320 that feeling. You can actually access that feeling through gratitude. Right now. 557 00:37:39.920 --> 00:37:44.599 I know this to be true because when my life was a complete mess, 558 00:37:44.639 --> 00:37:47.840 I didn't have anything that I had now. My health wasn't the worst state 559 00:37:47.880 --> 00:37:53.480 it has ever been living in a trap house. My whole entire family life, 560 00:37:53.639 --> 00:37:59.559 financial life, health life was an absolute mess. The thing that got 561 00:37:59.599 --> 00:38:05.599 me through it was not first manifesting my future and all the goals that I 562 00:38:05.639 --> 00:38:09.480 want to hit. The first thing was gratitude, because that was the thing 563 00:38:09.480 --> 00:38:13.679 that was keeping me alive. You know why, because when you are grateful 564 00:38:13.679 --> 00:38:15.840 for the things that you have right now, you signal to your nervous system 565 00:38:15.880 --> 00:38:22.360 that I am okay, I am safe. There is no threat around me. 566 00:38:22.920 --> 00:38:24.719 I don't have to do anything. I don't have to be anything. 567 00:38:24.800 --> 00:38:28.920 I don't have to go anywhere, I don't have to find any answers. 568 00:38:28.920 --> 00:38:32.800 I don't have to fix any problems. I'm okay. I have everything that 569 00:38:32.880 --> 00:38:37.400 I need right now. And when you are in that state of rest and 570 00:38:37.440 --> 00:38:43.000 digest, that is when you can get in better alignment with the things that 571 00:38:43.039 --> 00:38:46.360 you truly desire in your life. Putting your step in desire, I should 572 00:38:46.400 --> 00:38:54.039 say, And so I transform my life by first grounding myself in gratitude and 573 00:38:54.119 --> 00:38:59.519 then thinking about, hmm, what is the life that I want Out of 574 00:38:59.559 --> 00:39:04.480 a place of not being in fight or flight, because the goals that you 575 00:39:04.639 --> 00:39:09.440 tend to have when you are consistently living in fight or flight, sometimes you 576 00:39:09.440 --> 00:39:13.039 can see it's out of survival, right, Like I think about the times 577 00:39:13.039 --> 00:39:15.360 when, yes, for sure, and I was never perfect, right, 578 00:39:15.360 --> 00:39:19.880 I had to learn this. But when I tried to manifest at a fighter 579 00:39:19.960 --> 00:39:22.079 flight, and this is not to say that you can't if you're going through 580 00:39:22.079 --> 00:39:27.320 hard times, obviously, but my goals were a lot different than the goals 581 00:39:27.360 --> 00:39:30.960 that I have now. The goals that I had were they weren't aligned. 582 00:39:31.000 --> 00:39:36.920 It was like big lumps of money doing things that were not aligned for me, 583 00:39:37.239 --> 00:39:42.239 or service level shit from relationships that weren't ever really going to make me 584 00:39:42.320 --> 00:39:44.519 feel good. But I just thought that that was going to make me feel 585 00:39:44.519 --> 00:39:47.920 good because I just needed that. And I maybe want to give this example, 586 00:39:47.960 --> 00:39:51.760 and I don't want to offend people, because it's not to say that 587 00:39:51.840 --> 00:39:54.000 you don't want to look for, let's say, a man who can provide 588 00:39:54.000 --> 00:40:00.880 in terms of financial stability. But I found when I was young, I 589 00:40:00.039 --> 00:40:04.960 definitely when I was in survival mode and I didn't have money and I didn't 590 00:40:05.000 --> 00:40:09.039 have resources, and I was really struggling for sure. The top thing that 591 00:40:09.159 --> 00:40:15.079 I was kind of I don't know, like amazed by. I cared about 592 00:40:15.239 --> 00:40:19.400 the most was how much money does he have? Or like will he be 593 00:40:19.480 --> 00:40:22.199 able to pay this thing? Or like take me on this expensive date in 594 00:40:22.239 --> 00:40:27.199 this that, and listen to each their own Okay, everyone has a standard. 595 00:40:27.480 --> 00:40:30.360 I still have my standards, absolutely, but I found the more I 596 00:40:30.519 --> 00:40:36.599 moved out of that fight or flight and I rested in that gratitude, so 597 00:40:36.679 --> 00:40:39.519 many things changed for my life. But also the quality of my relationships and 598 00:40:39.559 --> 00:40:43.000 the men that I was dating and the people that I was going to, 599 00:40:43.440 --> 00:40:49.000 you know, spend my time around completely shifted. I focused on characteristics, 600 00:40:49.199 --> 00:40:53.119 I focus on morals and values. I stopped chasing these men who they had 601 00:40:53.199 --> 00:40:58.440 money. Yeah they had money, but they didn't care about me. They 602 00:40:58.440 --> 00:41:04.320 didn't even care about themselves. But I was following things that I thought that 603 00:41:04.360 --> 00:41:09.280 were gonna make me safe based out of scarcity. So it's not to say 604 00:41:09.280 --> 00:41:13.679 that you can't look for safety outside of yourself, but I promise you the 605 00:41:13.679 --> 00:41:15.719 best thing you can do for yourself, especially as a woman, but for 606 00:41:15.760 --> 00:41:20.719 anyone, is to create that safety within yourself. How do you do that? 607 00:41:21.639 --> 00:41:27.280 Well, one one foot in gratitude. What can you bring your awareness 608 00:41:27.280 --> 00:41:30.480 to that you already have that you can signal to your nervous system that you 609 00:41:30.480 --> 00:41:35.480 are safe and listen. There might not be a lot, okay, but 610 00:41:36.639 --> 00:41:42.280 I can't have people really convince me too much. And everyone's situation is different, 611 00:41:42.719 --> 00:41:45.599 but I can't have people convince me too much that there's not something they 612 00:41:45.639 --> 00:41:50.400 could be grateful for if they're sitting here listening to this podcast. I have 613 00:41:50.519 --> 00:41:52.920 so many journals of all the things that I was grateful for when I was 614 00:41:52.960 --> 00:41:55.400 younger. I remember I made a YouTube video when I read out some of 615 00:41:55.400 --> 00:41:59.639 my journal entries. It's just insane, like, I'm so happy that I 616 00:41:59.719 --> 00:42:01.239 kept in the back of my mind when I'm thinking right now some of the 617 00:42:01.280 --> 00:42:07.159 things I was grateful for. I was grateful for my really shitty Mazda that 618 00:42:07.280 --> 00:42:10.280 barely worked, and I had such high interest on that thing. But I 619 00:42:10.440 --> 00:42:15.440 was so grateful for that Mazda, for being able to get me to point 620 00:42:15.519 --> 00:42:19.639 A to B to get to work so I can make extra money, so 621 00:42:19.719 --> 00:42:22.239 I can get my ass out of the situation that I had. I was 622 00:42:22.519 --> 00:42:28.760 so grateful. I remember, I was just so so so so grateful for 623 00:42:28.840 --> 00:42:32.760 the fact that I had access to the Internet where I could learn so many 624 00:42:32.760 --> 00:42:38.360 things about health and wellness and healing and mindset and everything for free every day. 625 00:42:38.400 --> 00:42:42.000 I was so grateful for that, and I think that sometimes we just 626 00:42:42.000 --> 00:42:46.159 forget that, right, Like we forget you have this wealth of knowledge online 627 00:42:46.679 --> 00:42:51.280 and you're sitting here like complaining about how life is so hard or you don't 628 00:42:51.280 --> 00:42:53.760 have this or you don't have that. Dude, you have so many things 629 00:42:53.800 --> 00:42:57.960 at your fingertips if you just look, if you were just a little bit 630 00:42:58.039 --> 00:43:01.119 more focused on what you do have. And I get it. There are 631 00:43:01.199 --> 00:43:07.119 so many real stressors in your life that take you away from the things that 632 00:43:07.159 --> 00:43:08.760 you have in your life. But this is a practice of bring yourself back. 633 00:43:08.760 --> 00:43:12.599 And honestly, this is a practice remembering who you are and what you 634 00:43:12.719 --> 00:43:17.159 have. That is sometimes the hardest practice, but it's going to be the 635 00:43:17.159 --> 00:43:22.280 practice that changes your life. And I even think about the times where I 636 00:43:22.320 --> 00:43:24.519 really wanted to learn how to love myself more. And yes there was things 637 00:43:24.559 --> 00:43:30.400 that I wanted to change, whether that was like physically mentally the way that 638 00:43:30.440 --> 00:43:36.639 I acted everything in my life. But I became so hyper lovable that's not 639 00:43:36.679 --> 00:43:39.599 the right word, but I just loved myself so much that I would just 640 00:43:39.639 --> 00:43:44.800 say, I'm so grateful for my spot and my smile, my beautiful smile. 641 00:43:45.000 --> 00:43:46.760 Even though I had a lot of work that I needed to get done 642 00:43:46.760 --> 00:43:50.559 on my teeth, I didn't like my gap. There was things that I 643 00:43:50.599 --> 00:43:52.400 wanted to get done. I was so grateful for my job, even though 644 00:43:52.400 --> 00:43:55.519 it wasn't the job of my dreams. I wasn't making that much money, 645 00:43:55.559 --> 00:44:00.079 but I was so grateful for the fact that I even had access to be 646 00:44:00.159 --> 00:44:02.760 able to sometimes pick up shifts. I had alcerated colitis at that point, 647 00:44:02.800 --> 00:44:07.519 and I was still so grateful for my health. I was grateful for everything. 648 00:44:07.599 --> 00:44:13.119 So if you find yourself right now really in a place of annoyance with 649 00:44:13.159 --> 00:44:17.400 where your life is at, maybe you're just maybe you're just too like hyper 650 00:44:17.440 --> 00:44:22.440 focus on your desires, bring yourself back to gratitude. And that's kind of 651 00:44:22.440 --> 00:44:28.199 where I'm at right now in my life, is bringing my awareness to not 652 00:44:28.280 --> 00:44:32.360 everything that I forgot. But sometimes we forget, and sometimes we forget when 653 00:44:32.440 --> 00:44:37.599 things get really good in our lives. Right I think that sometimes the people 654 00:44:37.639 --> 00:44:44.760 who are the most grateful are the people who have nothing. Because I will 655 00:44:44.800 --> 00:44:47.880 be honest and say I was way more grateful in my life when I had 656 00:44:47.960 --> 00:44:52.119 nothing than I am today. And that's something that I want to keep going 657 00:44:52.159 --> 00:44:55.280 back to and reminding myself of. It's like, look at everything that you 658 00:44:55.400 --> 00:44:59.679 have. Your younger self worked so hard for the things that you have right 659 00:44:59.679 --> 00:45:01.400 now, you're not even gonna be rateful for that. It's funny how that 660 00:45:01.440 --> 00:45:06.480 works. Same thing when it comes to even money. It's like you think 661 00:45:06.559 --> 00:45:09.679 that you'd be so much more happier when you get more money, or you'd 662 00:45:09.679 --> 00:45:14.920 spend it differently, or this that when really sometimes you think about your old 663 00:45:14.960 --> 00:45:16.880 self. At least for me, I'm like, sometimes that was better with 664 00:45:16.920 --> 00:45:20.840 my money when I had no money, or I was more grateful for my 665 00:45:20.880 --> 00:45:24.199 money when I didn't have money. So maybe this is also a reminder to 666 00:45:24.320 --> 00:45:29.880 you if you have gotten a lot of things in your life and you're feeling 667 00:45:29.920 --> 00:45:35.920 a little bit you're feeling a little bit bored in your life or nothing's really 668 00:45:36.840 --> 00:45:40.079 making you feel anything. Because I feel like sometimes when you hit a certain 669 00:45:40.440 --> 00:45:45.559 level of success and you basically got everything that you want, yes, there's 670 00:45:45.599 --> 00:45:49.000 gonna be a level of you. For sure, there's gonna be some sort 671 00:45:49.000 --> 00:45:52.719 of desire. You're always gonna want something more. But if you're feeling this 672 00:45:52.880 --> 00:45:55.519 like emptiness, come back to gratitude. It will change your life. The 673 00:45:55.559 --> 00:46:00.599 next mindset shift that you need to have, if you don't already have this 674 00:46:00.760 --> 00:46:07.440 is a limitless mindset. I think if we really want to have the things 675 00:46:07.480 --> 00:46:10.960 that we want, whether that is confidence, just have an amazing summer manifest 676 00:46:12.559 --> 00:46:15.920 our dream lives, we need to believe it's possible, and we need to 677 00:46:15.960 --> 00:46:19.719 believe that we are gonna come on top, and we need to believe that 678 00:46:19.800 --> 00:46:22.000 we can get and do whatever it is that we want in this life. 679 00:46:22.039 --> 00:46:28.400 Okay, And I think that sometimes we just again we kind of forget who 680 00:46:28.440 --> 00:46:30.960 we are. We forget that we can have the things that we want in 681 00:46:30.000 --> 00:46:34.599 our lives. And maybe there's certain things in your life that has made you 682 00:46:34.639 --> 00:46:37.480 forget that. But this is not gonna be the summer. Listen, let 683 00:46:37.480 --> 00:46:39.199 me read some Pinterest quotes once again, because we've got a few. And 684 00:46:39.239 --> 00:46:44.840 I think that this is the truth of who you are, Okay, This 685 00:46:44.920 --> 00:46:45.840 is the truth of who you are. This is the truth of who I 686 00:46:45.840 --> 00:46:49.519 am, and this is things that I have to remind myself of. So 687 00:46:49.960 --> 00:46:52.800 this tweet, Well, this is a trust quote, but this tweet says, 688 00:46:53.239 --> 00:46:57.199 you will always come out on top. And let me just stop this 689 00:46:57.280 --> 00:47:00.840 right here, and like, realistically, obviously you're gonna come out on top. 690 00:47:00.280 --> 00:47:04.320 What are you going to do fail? I talk about this with my 691 00:47:04.360 --> 00:47:07.800 best friend Juey all the time. It's like, what is the other option? 692 00:47:07.480 --> 00:47:10.880 What is the other option? You're gonna fail? You're going to give 693 00:47:12.039 --> 00:47:14.360 up? No, you're not. No, you're not. You're not going 694 00:47:14.440 --> 00:47:16.159 to give up. I know you. You're not going to give up. 695 00:47:16.440 --> 00:47:21.440 Anyways, this quote continues to go on and says it's in your nature to 696 00:47:21.480 --> 00:47:24.079 always have everything you want easily. You know, those people that are considered 697 00:47:24.199 --> 00:47:29.559 just lucky by others, that's you. That's who you are at your core. 698 00:47:30.280 --> 00:47:34.480 And I really do think everyone who listens to this podcast, this is 699 00:47:34.519 --> 00:47:37.639 the truth of who you are. You always come out on top if you're 700 00:47:37.719 --> 00:47:40.760 showing up all the time, even if you feel like you're failing over and 701 00:47:40.800 --> 00:47:44.599 over and over and over and over again. The truth of who you are 702 00:47:44.639 --> 00:47:47.199 is that you continue to show up. Even in the worst times of my 703 00:47:47.320 --> 00:47:52.360 life where I felt like I was in continuous cycles of self tabotage. I 704 00:47:52.440 --> 00:47:54.800 knew to my core that I was still going to come out on top. 705 00:47:54.960 --> 00:48:00.960 I don't know when, And God, some of those those cycles were lengthy. 706 00:48:01.519 --> 00:48:05.199 And even when I had my nerve pain and I write that in my 707 00:48:05.199 --> 00:48:07.559 book, or I wrote that in my book, I didn't know when I 708 00:48:07.639 --> 00:48:10.039 was going to get out of that. I didn't know what the answer was, 709 00:48:10.079 --> 00:48:13.480 but I knew that I was gonna come out on top. What I'm 710 00:48:13.519 --> 00:48:17.800 gonna just not absolutely not, And then another one goes. Your spirit will 711 00:48:17.800 --> 00:48:22.880 not allow you to fail. You already know this. This is why you 712 00:48:22.920 --> 00:48:25.920 continuously strive to be a better you, and why you keep getting a strong 713 00:48:25.920 --> 00:48:30.000 feeling to realize your potential. You can't even stop yourself. You were born 714 00:48:30.039 --> 00:48:35.400 to win in every situation. It's so natural. And think about that. 715 00:48:35.519 --> 00:48:38.039 You really can't stop yourself, can you? Even if you fall off a 716 00:48:38.079 --> 00:48:42.159 little bit, Even if you stop doing your self development and you stop listening 717 00:48:42.199 --> 00:48:45.119 to podcasts, or you stop having those conversations, or you stop reading your 718 00:48:45.119 --> 00:48:49.280 books, or you fall off your routines, what do you do? You 719 00:48:49.400 --> 00:48:53.039 end up coming back to it? Right? You have this innate there's this 720 00:48:53.119 --> 00:48:58.360 feeling, this desire within you to always go and level up and do the 721 00:48:58.400 --> 00:49:02.239 things that you desperately want your life. Even when everything in your life is 722 00:49:02.280 --> 00:49:05.760 telling you know you can't do it, or you're telling yourself no, you 723 00:49:05.760 --> 00:49:07.599 can't do it, or nothing is working out, you will still because that's 724 00:49:08.000 --> 00:49:12.920 you to your core. Okay. Coming back to that quote, one foot 725 00:49:13.079 --> 00:49:16.360 in desire, one foot in gratitude. You're gonna go back and forth. 726 00:49:16.559 --> 00:49:21.719 Maybe you're gonna move with both of them kind of one step the other really 727 00:49:21.760 --> 00:49:25.079 really quickly. Whatever it is, you will always have that desire to be 728 00:49:25.280 --> 00:49:29.800 a better version of you, or to show up, or to have something 729 00:49:29.880 --> 00:49:32.320 in your life. Do not forget that. Okay. The last thing, 730 00:49:32.679 --> 00:49:37.559 and it has less to do with a mindset shift. Maybe it does, 731 00:49:37.960 --> 00:49:42.679 but it's more to do with like body image, okay, And that is 732 00:49:43.320 --> 00:49:49.400 I want you to prioritize having a healthy body over a hot body this summer. 733 00:49:49.440 --> 00:49:52.719 Okay. The reason why I'm saying that is because, for one, 734 00:49:52.760 --> 00:49:55.280 I feel like body image is such a big thing during the summertime. We 735 00:49:55.519 --> 00:50:00.280 always are so hyper focused on how we look. But I want don't you 736 00:50:00.400 --> 00:50:06.360 to hyper focus on how you feel and are you healthy? Okay, because 737 00:50:06.920 --> 00:50:10.159 the way you feel and whether you're healthy or not, your body is going 738 00:50:10.239 --> 00:50:14.920 to be the byproduct of that, like a great body. Okay. When 739 00:50:14.960 --> 00:50:20.760 I really started focusing on healing my nervous system and eating right and being consistent 740 00:50:21.000 --> 00:50:24.639 and really loving myself and showing up for myself, the fit body the quote 741 00:50:24.679 --> 00:50:30.760 unquote hot body. It came as a result always, and I feel like 742 00:50:30.760 --> 00:50:34.360 we're always trying to get that result. But the truth is when you try 743 00:50:34.400 --> 00:50:36.840 to get that result, it's not bad that you want the result. But 744 00:50:36.840 --> 00:50:39.800 at the end of the day, when you only try to do something specially 745 00:50:39.880 --> 00:50:44.679 fitness and health based off of that end result, what happens is you go 746 00:50:44.760 --> 00:50:49.639 back to the shitty behaviors when you either try to get that or when you're 747 00:50:49.719 --> 00:50:52.480 waiting for the result and it's not coming, you fall off. Okay. 748 00:50:52.519 --> 00:50:57.400 So there's this quote once again that I want to read to you guys, 749 00:50:57.840 --> 00:51:00.760 and I think that this is just a reminder for you when it comes to 750 00:51:00.079 --> 00:51:04.280 being on any sort of health and wellness journey throughout the summer. So it 751 00:51:04.360 --> 00:51:08.599 says, in theory, consistency is about being disciplined, determined, and unwavering. 752 00:51:09.239 --> 00:51:15.440 In practice, consistency is about being adaptable. Don't have much time scale 753 00:51:15.440 --> 00:51:19.760 it down, don't have much energy, do the easiest version, find different 754 00:51:19.760 --> 00:51:23.280 ways to show up depending on the circumstances. Let your habits change shape to 755 00:51:23.360 --> 00:51:29.119 meet the demands of the day. Adaptability is a new way of consistency. 756 00:51:29.320 --> 00:51:32.960 And you know what, maybe there's going to be some discipline girlies who might 757 00:51:34.000 --> 00:51:37.280 have some pushback with this. And I can see how a lot of people 758 00:51:37.400 --> 00:51:43.280 have the argument of you can't rely on motivation and if you just let yourself 759 00:51:43.440 --> 00:51:45.760 just feel however you want to feel every single day, then you're not going 760 00:51:45.800 --> 00:51:47.440 to get anything done this that. But I'm talking to the ones who have 761 00:51:47.679 --> 00:51:57.559 lived life in overdrive of consistent, failed, really hard discipline that has not 762 00:51:57.599 --> 00:52:00.480 really resulted to anything in your life. And that has been me. Okay, 763 00:52:00.559 --> 00:52:06.280 So I have learned the skill of adapting and it has changed the entire 764 00:52:06.360 --> 00:52:09.599 course of my life, especially when it comes to health and fitness. I 765 00:52:09.719 --> 00:52:15.760 used to be a very strict perfectionist. I had an eating disorder, I 766 00:52:15.079 --> 00:52:21.719 had many unhealthy behaviors when it came to fitness and health, okay, and 767 00:52:22.360 --> 00:52:27.039 being somebody who tried to do the same thing every single day on a week 768 00:52:27.119 --> 00:52:30.280 to week, month a month basis, did not work. Why many reasons? 769 00:52:30.880 --> 00:52:34.639 Okay, let me list a few. First of all, it was 770 00:52:34.760 --> 00:52:38.280 maybe the season of my life, you know, especially like going through your 771 00:52:38.320 --> 00:52:42.400 twenties. Oh my god, there's so many stressors of life. Right you're 772 00:52:42.440 --> 00:52:45.920 in well, not high school, but you're graduating high school, and then 773 00:52:45.960 --> 00:52:49.639 you go into college or you're in university. There's so many changes in your 774 00:52:49.679 --> 00:52:53.920 life. There's different friend groups that you have or different environments that you're moving 775 00:52:53.960 --> 00:52:58.199 in. For me, personally, I was working all the time, so 776 00:52:58.239 --> 00:53:01.000 I wasn't able to do these strict, hard routines the way that I really 777 00:53:01.039 --> 00:53:06.519 told myself that I should. I had an emotional connection to food that was 778 00:53:06.559 --> 00:53:08.239 really hard for me to stop eating the way that I was eating, and 779 00:53:08.239 --> 00:53:12.239 I needed to do a lot of deep healing which I didn't address. So 780 00:53:12.280 --> 00:53:15.800 it was really hard for me to do these strict diets and these strict things. 781 00:53:15.920 --> 00:53:17.559 There's so many things. There were so many stressors in my life. 782 00:53:17.599 --> 00:53:22.480 This is not an excuse. It's just to say what I needed in my 783 00:53:22.519 --> 00:53:25.280 life was not this discipline, strict structure. You have to show up every 784 00:53:25.320 --> 00:53:29.880 single day or you are bad or you are wrong. I had to understand 785 00:53:29.880 --> 00:53:32.280 that there's just going to be some more days out of the week than not 786 00:53:32.920 --> 00:53:37.000 that I maybe had to give myself a little bit more time to sleep and 787 00:53:37.039 --> 00:53:43.079 I had to address my schedule or even coming into the beautiful wisdom and knowledge 788 00:53:43.199 --> 00:53:47.480 of cycle sinking and understanding as a woman. If you're not on a hormonal 789 00:53:47.519 --> 00:53:52.400 birth control, you are going through four phases of your cycle every month, 790 00:53:52.920 --> 00:53:59.719 so your hormones are fluctuating, your energy levels are ebbing and flowing. This 791 00:53:59.760 --> 00:54:02.599 is on an excuse. This is not to be like, oh okay, 792 00:54:04.000 --> 00:54:06.199 so I'm not gonna just do anything. No, no, no no. 793 00:54:06.280 --> 00:54:08.599 But it's adapting. It's being like, well, maybe I need to put 794 00:54:08.639 --> 00:54:13.519 the gas on a little bit, or I need to take it off a 795 00:54:13.559 --> 00:54:16.280 little bit. Depending on where I'm at my cycle, maybe I'll capitalize on 796 00:54:16.320 --> 00:54:20.440 my energy or maybe I need to rest a little bit. And when I 797 00:54:20.519 --> 00:54:23.400 do those types of behaviors depending on the season of life, my energy, 798 00:54:23.440 --> 00:54:27.719 what's going on in my life, you know, if it's winter, if 799 00:54:27.760 --> 00:54:31.280 it's summer. This that the motivation everything. It's allowed me to get so 800 00:54:31.320 --> 00:54:36.960 good at my routines and in turn, I continue to be consistent on a 801 00:54:37.039 --> 00:54:39.199 day to day, week to week, month to month basis. And that's 802 00:54:39.199 --> 00:54:43.800 how I've gotten beautiful results in my life, even when it comes to my 803 00:54:43.880 --> 00:54:50.000 mindset, even when it comes to work anything. The skill of being able 804 00:54:50.119 --> 00:54:55.119 to adapt and knowing your own rhythms because everyone is different, every single person 805 00:54:55.239 --> 00:54:59.360 is different, You're gonna have a unique way that you need to do things. 806 00:54:59.679 --> 00:55:01.760 You need way of you know, going to the gym, eating a 807 00:55:01.800 --> 00:55:07.360 certain way, where your energy levels are when is everything? And I promise 808 00:55:07.440 --> 00:55:10.079 you it will change your life. And it takes a while to know yourself. 809 00:55:10.719 --> 00:55:14.480 This is going to be the summer where you are going to know yourself. 810 00:55:14.880 --> 00:55:19.239 You are going to understand your rhythm of your body, whether you're cycle 811 00:55:19.239 --> 00:55:22.800 saying or not, but getting clear on you know, when you're feeling the 812 00:55:22.800 --> 00:55:28.400 most energizeder when you're not, or how you're feeling, being real with yourself, 813 00:55:28.440 --> 00:55:30.880 emotionally, releasing in the times that maybe you need to, being with 814 00:55:30.920 --> 00:55:37.920 your inner child, knowing your worth, declaring what is yours in your life 815 00:55:37.960 --> 00:55:42.360 and going exactly for it. When you do these things, when you change 816 00:55:42.360 --> 00:55:46.320 your mindset like this in this episode, that's when magic will happen. We 817 00:55:46.440 --> 00:55:51.840 are not waiting for magic to happen. Okay, we are going to create 818 00:55:51.880 --> 00:55:57.559 it in a beautiful, aligned way that is unique, that is ours. 819 00:55:57.960 --> 00:56:01.599 Every single person can create magic. You just need to know that you can 820 00:56:01.639 --> 00:56:05.679 do that by reminding yourself first that you can do that. Do not wait 821 00:56:05.679 --> 00:56:08.079 for that magic to be made. I promise you you'll be waiting a long 822 00:56:08.119 --> 00:56:12.440 time. So with that said, I hope you guys enjoyed today's episode. 823 00:56:12.480 --> 00:56:15.440 Please let me know if you enjoyed it. I don't know what I have 824 00:56:15.599 --> 00:56:21.320 for next week's episode. I feel like I could do a recap episode, 825 00:56:21.360 --> 00:56:23.159 but let me know in the comments on YouTube if you're watching what you'd like 826 00:56:23.199 --> 00:56:27.079 to see next, if anything, if you want me to expand on anything. 827 00:56:27.719 --> 00:56:31.840 There's a few topics that are brewing within me, but I'm not fully 828 00:56:31.880 --> 00:56:36.199 there yet with being able to bring that to you guys. So I would 829 00:56:36.239 --> 00:56:42.480 like to hear some feedback so that I can have my intuition lead me exactly 830 00:56:42.519 --> 00:56:45.079 where I need and I need some I need some like soundboarding, So let 831 00:56:45.079 --> 00:56:50.599 me know in the comments. If you're listening to this on Spotify or Apple, 832 00:56:50.679 --> 00:56:52.239 well actually on Spotify, you can let me know what you liked, 833 00:56:52.400 --> 00:56:55.400 and of course you can answer that question, make sure that you're following, 834 00:56:55.440 --> 00:57:00.719 subscribing, whatever, and I hope you guys enjoy today's episode. Bye, hey,