Who what's up, beautiful people? What is your baby mama? Favorite baby
mama? Stummyp And this is another episode of Chocolate Chip and Zib the modern
day female Perspective. Damn Son back at it again, and we are back
at it again at a different location, but kind of the same one from
last time. We're back at the se Content House. If you were in
the Philadelphia excuse me. If you were in the Atlanta area and you're looking
for a place to record your podcast, host an event, or do anything
extra, you want to check out the Something Extraordinary Content House right here in
Atlanta, Georgia. Okay, Now I want to talk about something that was
near and dear to my heart. I feel like when you're moving through these
streets and you're living certain lifestyles, it's always good to have informants, okay,
And ladies and gentlemen, you'll always talking about, you know, well,
your conversations down to earth, like how do you know so much?
Like who are we telling all our secrets? I got informants. Okay,
So today on a pide, I got my number one informant, the mid
God himself, all the way from Philadelphia. It's my man, stupid stand
Hey, Stan, what's up everybody. Stormy, you're a wonderful person.
Thank you, thank you. UM. And this other gentleman I'm about to
introduce UM. He's actually an informant in training. UM, but we like
to make sure we give him enough grace to develop into the wonderful person that
we know he's going to be. Me and this gentleman have known each other
since seventh grade, when he thought he could dance like Usher. I want
you guys to make some noise for my man main Wash. Take him out.
See your lips. Thank you, thank you, Paul, thank you
very much for the introduction. Yeah, I did dance better those he never
danced, though. I give you better than Stormy. Stormy used to have
a fitted cat, big jeans, and she thought she's part to be two
K. Do you remember that talent show I've been trying to tell y'all one
talent show. I literally did the whole B two K song. I did
the whole B TWOK song and a little fizz rap and choreography, shutting ship
down. Y'all been thinking I'd be joking. You were the whole I am
B two K in the other two and crazy and that was her too,
ye what what are oh Marion fizz Jay bug rats by a right, okay,
giving a lot of ras B vibes. But other people, he always
wouldn't be a solo act something so so, so, so so happy to
have you here, guys, I just want to start there. Thank you,
thank you. Um so I wanted to recap the live show if that
was cool with show. Um this episode is going to drop a week after
the live show, but to us, it was last night. So how
was it? How good was I? What was your favorite part? Was
it when Jermaine made me tostino Titti's well, let's let me let me okay,
al kay, let's let's huh recap that small go ahead event that happened
yesterday. You were in dire need of, um, you know, some
type of cloth, you know, just to help you out with your respiratory
issue that you had going on. What I'm saying respiratory or prespiratory I was
still on from yesterday a little bit. So yeah, so the sweating issue
that we had, everybody was moving very slow. I decided to be a
gentleman because about my seat, put my ass on my chest and hand you
a napkin. That napkin just so happened that at a piece of ship.
Were you eating chips? Was it your natural? Okay, but that wasn't
my ship. This issue. Let me tell you from my stident. I'm
just gonna tell you that I tried to see the date and help you out
while everybody else was pushy footing around you, dragging feet. So if we're
being honest, I should probably get a pat on the back of anybody,
you know what I mean. I seen it from behind the DJ booth.
He's like searching around and he picked it. Dampkin up. This brother.
As soon as he picked up I started cracking up because I knew he just
had a handful of chips napkin. It was like, this is gonna end
bad. So all I know is he hind you the napkin. He was
cool. He did a gentleman he has with the coral. Next thing,
you know, you're patting yourself And that's because she was supposed that that that
put it back down. Boom, that's how I supposed to work. You're
giving it a flat, giving him all of this, Like, man,
it has to be a performance. Get the point when I said it's really
a chocolate chipping. No, it was quickly your feet with that. I
like that. Of all the things that happened, y'all only wanted to talk
about the chip. No. No, there was the one guy that we
talked about. Oh yeah, I probably gonna edit that out. I'm probably
gonna I'm probably gonna edited. But all honestly, it was it was a
great dialogue between um, you and uh somebody between you two. Um,
you know what y'all intellect and how well you guys speak on these topics,
speak on these topics that we talk about on a Delhi basis, or that
we discussed on the Delhi basis. It real transparent, opened up a lot,
and it was interesting to me, interesting to see everybody engaged in the
in the room too. Oh y'all mess y'all meshed really well, don't just
go ahead, don't be just go ahead. Care I felt like you just
did the mom drawn because I want you to look nice. Yeah, that's
what my mom stick into this. Just go y'all interaction with each other's se
was was pure, genuine. It seemed like y'all been doing it. It
was a great vibe. The crowd loved every part of it. Um.
It was great, just the whole interaction, the whole event, the whole
taping. Everything was a dope, dope time. Thank you man. If
you don't you you, you don't gotta take my word for it, take
theirs. Okay, the next time chocolate sheapensip it's coming to your city,
make sure you get your tickets and don't wait too long because you just moved
your hand in front of the camera. Happen. Happening. I'm trying.
I'm trying to point to you under the hold on. Um. So I
appreciate you guys, right, and I feel like there is a lost art
of friendship and not just between men, not just between women, but really
between sexes. So I wanted to talk today about female friends and the importance
of men having female friends. Got to have them, Yes, I totally
agree. I support that. Thanks for coming to our ted talk because what
that's it, fellas, is this camera on me. You need to have
female friends. They keep you grounded. I always hit stormy up, y'all,
is this is this bullshit? Shu do I need to do? This?
Is this conversations like that we need to have with females as gonna be
totally honest with you. Stormy is a very very honest person. She's she
can be an a hole, but she's very honest. And that's why our
friendship will always stay the way it is because I know she's not gonna fee
me, no be it. She's not a yes woman. It's not a
big dog. That ain't it ain't big dogs. We were literally contact.
We will contact each other for information for like either creative ideas or just life
ideas, and we are both responses if it ain't it a dog. I
think that I appreciate having been that I can call, like, you know,
my actual friends, because it really comes to handing when you're dating,
like sometimes you be in your mind thinking you tripping, like sometimes I got
hit stand up like yo, nigga, is it me? Like it's or
it isn't him because I feel like it's him. And sometimes Stammy like you
be fucking with bitches, and I'm like, okay, I asked you all
that. I'm saying, like it's good to have that. We're not gonna
We're not gonna like that now. I don't call him that or I guarantee
he's light skinned. It's one of the other and they don't always be light
skinned. I'm pretty sure the majority of the time, nine times out of
nine they've been they have not, they have not. But he does say
like you you just you have a certain type like Divins Stevens. You haven't
heard any tall, dark and handsome talk from you ever. So my last
boyfriend was tall, dark and handsome. And where is he now? What's
going on? Brother? God jail? Hi didn't both of us straight like
that? I felt like we both called it straight the fuck but just a
piggyback off what Sam's talking about. It is it is good to have um
opposite sex friends obviously to talk to about any and everything, because he can't
call me all the time because I'm gonna I'm going to give him the wrong
answer one one out of ten times, maybe because just off of the genuine
like I'm a man, he's a man coming from a male perspective, and
these are the things that we probably have in common and speak about. But
you know, he could call you, get a different perspective and then move
forward, maybe accordingly the right way. I think women are more likely to
tell you when you're doing wrong, like for men. I think if you
have a female friend, she's more likely to tell you like that's kind of
fucked up. But if you have like a male friend of like you know,
bit just be trimping like we do that. We still keep women give
them the truth. But I'm and die to tell man when he's wrong.
That's not that's not to put that out here. Oh you asked me,
brother, you're wrong. You know what. I'm glad you asked because now
that you bring it up, like yeah, yeah, no, no,
I think that sometimes it's hard for men to get out of their perspective like
you were saying and look at it and be like a devil's advocate. I
think women are much more talented, and being a devil's advocate them in a
majority, I would say, yeah, there's something that can that can definitely
step outside of the box and definitely see I want to say, putting myself
in your shoes. But like me myself, I grew up a lot of
women, so I kind of get the perspective and see where you guys coming
from. Not a woman, so I won't know one hundred percent, but
just through conversation and even like I said, having a friend like you for
twenty years, I can call you and ask you something and it's like,
Dan, that lines up with the same thing I had in my mind or
was thinking about. So coming from a place of growth in hindsight, what's
the worst advice you gave somebody or the worst advice you received? And it's
like, I shouldn't asked you. I knew I shouldn't ask you. You
know what I knew he was gonna say that. I don't even know why
I asked you, Like something you can think of off the top of your
head. I have a one home is crazy. He's always at the end
of these like conversations because it's just be happening to be talking. He doesn't
really give me no advice. He just says the normal. Damn, that's
crazy. That's it. They don't give me no, no going forward,
now, left, no right. It's just that's crazy. I don't know
how you're doing do that. I don't want to be don't want to tell
you this. But he don't give a fuck about your conversation. He didn't
hit you with ford. That's crazy. And you keep telling him the story
and it's crazy, crazy crazy right time, wrong person, Like I gotta
be thinking about something like that, that's crazy. I gotta do that.
He'd be like, yeah, damn, that's crazy, all right. Worst
advice I don't think he wants to be your friends. Then that's fine.
I'm friends with everyone. Oh my gosh, I don't. I don't.
I think the worst advice, I god is the advice that people don't take
for themselves. So a lot of the times, you know, and I'm
I'm a I'm a big advocate of it. Sometimes it's like I can really
give you answers, but then I can't. You can dish it, but
you can't take it. Not that I can't take it. Pause. Um,
that's what she said. It's just one of those grew up man.
It's just one of those things where it's one of those things where, Um,
like I said, Patty, you can give advice. You can give
like a good word or two the right direction to go into, But like
I said, I can't take my own advice. I might not be able
to follow the steps I need to to get to that next step or that
next space. If you're not able to take your own advice, does that
qualify you to give advice or does it depend on the topic. I think
it does depend on the topic because sometimes you can't speak on things that you
haven't been through. But if you that's just like a sports analyst they had
They're not professional athletes, but at the same time, they speak on professional
topics every single day because they have a perspective. People respect their their perspective
and respect the years in time they put into whatever they've been studying her.
Or let me talking about I got one girlfriend. I got one girlfriend,
and I, hey, will contact her to tell her story, but I
already know I'm never gonna say none of her advice because she can be like,
yeah, hit that nigga, like WHOA says no like or she like
yeah, cut that nigga off. Like her goal to was always you're done.
Like I know for a fact I'm going to get her up to be
a sound board, but not to get advice. You got to one friends
guard gonna say yeah, hey, yeah that yeah yeah, because it'll keep
you humble at some point, like damn, I should go for that,
I go get hurt. Yeah, I'm not gonna lie. That's for me.
Really. Yes, he probably won't say it. I never say that,
but he definitely would be like man, I told him we would be
working together, and I'm like, yo, if I were get into a
space, tell me stop bitching. Oh no, listen, he can't now
now he has fun with it. Yeah, no, because what I call
him I hit him up. I let you do I know, let you
get your rent off. I let you get yours off once in a while,
a lot of pausing. Gotta be careful, he gotta be careful when
you have these conversations. To be careful or to be careful, I'm gonna
chop up all the ship and it's just gonna be all the flagrant and zesty
stuff. No pause, nose. And then at the end I'm at passe,
Yo, you are ridiculous. No, he will go into a rant.
I let him get his rant off. And then I'm like, yo,
how bitch's gonna get the money? You go get the bad, get
the back. Are you right? And we keep it moving. Um.
So we were talking a little bit about, you know, having friends of
the opposite sex and the benefits that they bring to your life when they are
able to give you advice and offer different perspectives and things that you may not
have thought of. Right, how is it when you get in a relationship
like do you automatically feel like you have to cut your female friends off or
like, do you look at it as you know, they was here before
you, they're gonna be here after you. So it is what it is
like, it's kind of a more so Yo, that's my if. That's
like my dog, Like if I get into relationship. First of all,
they probably you know who you are, the joint that you being in the
podcast with. Yeah, oh yeah she cool. They love you. I
don't know every girl to ever run into oh yeah she's so come like she's
really not. But you here to hate you, here to hate coming off
that you you got some nerve Germain, would you like to ask? Yeah.
So as far as being in a relationship, well, I haven't been
in relationships, Um, by choice, by choice. I'm just saying if,
if, and when I do get in a relationship, UM, I
don't think that it's necessary to like cut everybody off, but there does have
to be boundaries established, and there has to just be a sense of communication
about who's who, how long has this person been around. If it's a
new friend, we discuss it. But if it's somebody, like I said,
you know me and you've been friends for twenty years. I just can't
cut storm me out of my life. That's it's not how but she thought
it's crazy. I feel like, if y'all are really platonic friends shouldn't matter.
No, your female friend is want to respect you being in a relationship.
And she's like, okay, Like if if we are, y'all getting
relationship today or tomorrow, I know that, Like, yo, I can't
hit y'all up after a certain time at night, right, I think I
gonna do what I want to do. No, No, I mean like,
if y'all live in a relationship, I'm not going to hit you up
like a twelve o'clock at night. And then like nine times i'd send I'm
not gonna want end but singing you this fucking emoji right here. So it's
like I know that I also am not going to be able to talk to
you about certain things. I know. It's like certain things we're not going
to be able to do together, like just out of respect for you and
your relationship. And if if I'm really your friend, you don't have to
check me on that because I should know, like he can't do that he's
in a relationship. No, that's facts she wasn't lancing. Everybody's hiding that
with everybody. Don't think um, so, do you think it's hard for
women to set up boundaries when they have male friends and when they're male friends
getting relationship. I think it's hard for everybody. I don't think it's just
women. I don't think it's gender. I don't think it's gener bias.
I think it's more so some people just don't know how to separate. Yeah,
you know what, that is my dog and then still my dog.
I want my lady or vice versa. I guess that's my homeboy. But
because you know other other option sexual you're mate sometimes do tend to get jealous
over like the little stuff that you know that's not even really there. It's
just you. Why nigga, why are you laughing at nigga jokes so much?
Because he funny? Nigga? Like, you'n't laughing none of my ship.
Maybe you're not funny nigga. What I do remember the story telling me
this one time she said, Remember it was like the second time I was
on the show, and whoever the guy that you are guess talking to it
that point in time, it was like, why are you laughing at Stanley
jokes. Stupid versus when you talk to me a thing to worry about.
Maybe you need to go watch some comic views and get your view. Don't
getting one of these new jokes, because you'll get you get canceled. That
not comic view back, go back to comic view. Yep. But but
you know what's crazy, that's a turn off for me, Like especially for
it to be so simple, like you're upset that I laugh at Stanley jokes.
That's corny, that's and that's what I was about to allude to as
far as like insecurity, like when it comes to when it come to like
my man went to college, come on, come on, come on,
asks all right, listen, when you started thinking about the insecurities that people
have, that's what they need to like check before they start to ask those
type of questions. Because why am I worried about you laughing at jokes from
him? Because you're gonna laugh at jokes from the comedian. You're gonna laugh
at jokes from the person that was telling the corny as joke. You're just
gonna laugh because that might just be you, but or a joke just might
be funny. But my man, you can't take that appoint yourself to making
a personal thing like laughing at Stanley jokes. You got something going on.
I'm funny, it's fun I don't know. That's why I'm saying Stanley because
he ain't that funny. So it's like he's not. He's just he told
jokes like actual viewers. They love me. Okay, well said, we're
gonna go to a quick break. You know what another thing is if you
think that males and females can't be platonic friends. I'm assumed you didn't get
no coucie growing up. M that's a that's a good one. That's somebody
that might be a good one. What about a woman's perspective? The same
thing. I think that if you believe no, no, no, no,
no, no, you at growing up? No no, no,
you're right, you're right, you're right, right, you're right, you're
right. I think that if you're a woman and you believe that men and
women can't be platonic friends, you can't control your coucie. And that sounds
like a you problem. You can't first set out on everybody else, like
if you've never been able to have a conversation with a man without having the
urge to offer your vagina, Like that's crazy. But that's also a you
thing with the men. It's like, if if it's a man that thinks
that women and men can't be platonic friends, then you gotta turn this horny
down just a little bit, just a little bit. That's probably what it
is. Come, don't do that, down your horny down anyway. But
yeah, most guys would just have to, like you know what I mean,
adjusted thinking a little bit, you know what I'm saying, because they
walk into these situations with one mind or one sided thoughts or one side of
mind. I feel bad for you if you think that, like it's either
A you have too much coucie or B you gave away your couchie too much,
or see, you never had the opportunity to feel safe and if with
someone to be their friend without them trying to take advantage of you, like
you know what I mean, Because I feel like that's also a thing too.
How do y'all know, like women wise, if a nigga really got
coulchie back in the day, I do know y'all have that like seventh sense.
Yes, you can always tell if a man is a late bloomer based
on how he reacts to certain things and the way he moves. Right,
If a nigga got a lot of coucie growing up, he's not pressed for
coucie. Now you understand what I'm saying, Like, he's not going to
feel like, oh, by date two, or because I spent this much
money on you, or because I've done this amount of things for you.
But when i'm a fuck like eye, I am serious though. I feel
like if you've always had it and it's always been in abundance, you're you're
not so pressed for it. Yes, and we don't like it. We
don't like it. We don't like it. And it's like it's nothing wrong
with the late bloomers because I know a lot of you out there are.
I just want y'all to understand that sometimes you gotta turn your honey down.
Yeah, now we're all using it. How does that make you feel?
Boom? Everybody? All right? Anyway? So I wanted to shift gears
for a bit here. We always hear women on the internet coming from the
standpoint of, you know, the dating world is trash, and you know
it's nobody out here right now. Honestly, y'all, I'm gonna throw them
under the bus a little bit, a little bit. I'm going to let
throw them under the bus a little bit, right because staying in me are
both single right and purposely single right. So I'm gonna ask you all some
of the questions that I feel like ladies want to know. Is that spit
this? Why are y'all hosts? That wasn't the question? What or no?
So I listen because I actually had a conversation with a girl before that
says something like that, what makes it me in the hole because he's attractive
because women like him, or because a lot of women like him, because
because he continues to like date what we what we do is like date,
and y'all consider it like homing, traditional dating and stuff like that. I
was actually thinking, because y'all brief like that's it, because y'all all holes,
y'all all holes. I think that if you don't answer me that question,
so you think all meils a holes? No, I don't think you
know you have a son. My son is special, the princess. Okay,
that's I do think that because here get the host, why y'all like
this set started. So you say all that, and you see that young
brother, That young brother's coming up looking good. Man. I'm trying to
tell you light skin already that should you know how you feel about light skins?
You got the good here, young boy probably he probably already learned another
language. You know what you're saying, bilingual? Any light skin any goody
good here again, you see how they're trying to deflect it. Get a
different conversation. No, we don't go back to why they hold Okay,
and I'm gonna say that, I'm gonna say this all right, not hosts.
Right, but both of you are over a certain age. You don't
have kids? No, No, because I'm both of you are over a
certain age. You're attractive, you don't have kids. I'm old school though.
That's choice. So you mean to tell me neither one of you have
found a woman good enough to be with exactly. You're choosing to be a
house. It's not real. It really is a different like world that we're
living in right now, like like the dating scene, like y'all say all
the time, y'all just spew it out and say, oh, it's trash,
it's trash. We feel the same way a lot of the times.
But we just not out there gonna say it's trash because we still gotta be
outside. You still gotta go ahead and fulfill whatever needs that you have as
a man. So yeah, even though it's trash, she was air pollution,
you still went to work, didn't you a quality? You still took
ass outside. I went to the story dodn't you. So it's like it's
still thinks that you're gonna put up with to a certain extent. Now,
you're not gonna subject yourself to like the bullshit on the Delhi or on the
weekly or monthly that for that matter, But you're gonna put up with some
of It's just how relationships are going. And that's why I'm single. I
mean, I'm gonna be real. I don't feel like I feel like,
yes, all that is true for women though, like I don't hear men
like complaining like oh I want to be in a relationship. We complain,
Y're gonna call us pussys and bitches and saying down, no, you're not.
Mostly you're not doing that. So you know, y'all don't think that
y'all are intentionally not settling down right now, you're gonna tell me within the
past year, neither one of you have found someone good enough to be with.
No, I would not say that I'm not I'm not gonna say.
I'm not gonna say I haven't found anyone good enough to be with. We
might not be at that point yet. There's been people that I've been talking
to and we go out, we might hang out and talk all the time
on the phone, bust it up. Were learning more about each other.
But if we're not in a space to like move forward, then how am
I going to move forward? Is the space to move forward? Comfortability learning?
I mean being comfortable learn enough about each other. Um Like as a
from there's certain I guess points and tears in your relationship that you gotta it.
I mean as you grow with benchmarks. Right, so you're saying you're
single because you're open to it, you just haven't reached certain bench very open
to me and and being with some especially at this age. It's like I
get to the point now where it's like I'm not outside as much. I'm
not running around doing a lot of like things I was doing when I was
younger ten years ago. This is not that so okay, gonna turn in
thirty four this year. It's like I gotta start listen. You know the
crazy part. Both of these motherfuckers older than me. So I am I
ad, I am not younger than your birthday. It just passed. How
old you thirty three? I am not older than you. When your birthday?
Tell him, I'm not older than When is your birthday? When your
birthday? I'm not older. Let's get this the way. When your birthday,
lady, when birthday? Tell y'all, Stormy is the same age as
me, I am not. Her birthday just passed in, and my birthday
is next month. So you see how they be tag teaming on working.
I said, I'm younger than this. This is crazy. This is your
comments sense, this is I literally just trying to support her, and she
said, Yo, that's crazy. See they trying to guess like me again,
y'all. They're trying to focus on the birthdays instead of I'm really telling
us why he's single. I literally just saying, when you just you just
asked me, y'all, go yaya, don't stay focused. I'm trying to
stay focused. He was trying to go on a birthday tangent. No,
all right, I'm sorry, let's bring it back. No man, whose
side are you on? Oh my god, that's a good that's a that's
a good man. It's a good one. That's a good one. Listen.
I'm single because this year has literally been a lot. I've got a
new position at my my job at the school. My DJ went off super
fast, so my time at is really limited, revery very limited. So
it's like I didn't want no one to get involved with me, and then
I don't have enough time. I'm big on quality time. He says that
a lot. So if I can't spend time with you, I feel like
you're not getting the best of me. And then when I am home the
days that I don't have to DJ or do something to an event, I
just want to be at home chilling. I don't want to go out.
I don't want to do that. Yeah I have the money to do it,
do I want to know? I just want to sit down and relax
and eat pizza by yourself. No, if she's fine with that. But
then it's like, though, then I feel like I deprive you because oh
I want to do this, or I want to go away, or I
want to do that. I want to go out. It's like, yo,
I want to, but it's like, yo, I really need to
recharge. So you're single because you're becoming a pop pope. It sounds like
you're single because he's uh, you can't find somebody to compromise with him,
just I mean compromise because it feels like, yo, you're you're taking back
when you say compromise, I mean, but we all have to at some
point. I think compromise has a negative connotation for men because it usually involves
something. Yeah, yeah, so we have to give something and gain anything.
But they hate it because they were like why you gotta take? Why
why are you doing less? So it's like I'm not trying to not to
do less, like I should be meeting in the middle. It should be
it's alway. It's never fifty fifty. It never's going to be like a
level scale. It's always gonna be one person feels this way, one person
feels that way. So it's never gonna be the same, equal equal feelings.
But it's like that understanding of someone that can get it, like,
all right, yo, you're working your your career, your business, everything
is moving. So it's like I don't want to hold you up. I
don't want to feel like I'm in your space, but I do want to
be there and support you. Someone can't do that. I'm all for it,
So I'm all I can understand. I'm single because I haven't reached certain
benchmarks, or I'm single because you know, I want to make sure I'm
giving someone the time that I really have. Right But when you're still going
through these single periods, do you think that sometimes the two of you take
advantage of women and their time and their feelings and their emotions because you already
know in your head that you're not in a space to move forward. Nope,
because I tell them from the rip, I don't have the time.
So if you still want to be cool and cordial, like, hey,
we can communicate, we can call each other when we're each other free,
or we can make time to schedule to be around each other. Then that's
what it is. I'm letting you know it right now. If things work
and that, then let's do it. But if it doesn't, I'm letting
you know right now. This is what it is. Me in particular,
I have a little more time than stand does, like I do basketball trainers
on the side but a lot of that is like based on like whatever schedule
I make myself. So for me, it's not really even like benchmark things.
It's really just about being in the space with somebody every single day.
And like you said, it's like relationships aren't fifty fifty, You're not.
It will be fifty fifty. But but you got to understand with fifty fifty
years, fifty fifty is literally like today it could be like I'm just not
I'm just not feeling it. So you got to give ninety and I'm giving
ten, and then then another day in me, I might be feeling it
a little bit more, so I'm gonna give eighty five while you given the
fifteen. So yes, fifty fifty and compromising in totality like everything, But
there are days where people just can't get past, like the small, small
moments. I think maybe heaven and that's why the benchmarks ain't getting hit,
because you know, you get a hiccup. People just nobody got to start
all over, Nobody fighting for stuff no more. Everybody feel like they don't
want to waste their time. Everybody seems selfish. That's what I'm thinking.
We're older, Who the fuck is we we're over. Y'all speak French now,
yes? Oh we wait not me? Um okay, So let me
ask you our question. Do you think that the two of you are dating
with intentions right now? If I can? Yes? How how what's his
dating with intentions look like for you? Um? Like I said, the
quality of time? Uh, just trying to be around each other, making
something positive out of whatever we're doing. So what's Yeah, we're trying to
build a connection. We're trying to build that genuine connection. Whereas damn,
I've really been thinking about you. You know, while I'm out here doing
this, I've been thinking about you. I'm anna checking or vice version.
So it's like, yeah, this is what it's going to be. So
all right, Oh you know what, I might not take a gig this
day because I really care about you. I want to do something that's ain't
that's ain't a lot, That's what I'm saying. But in that person also
got to understand like, damn, you don't really not go get you some
money from me? All right, Well, well I'm gonna do something too.
So it's like they don't have to do it because you want to like
reciprocation, but it's like genuine, like equally effort is the intentions, especially
when money is such a stronghold in our world today. So you're giving up
some people to go spend some time with somebody, we gotta really take that
into consideration. Okay, Now I want to take something else in spensideration based
on everything that was said today, I want to ask, are y'all using
condom stuff very much? So? Ninety two percent of the time? And
that's a rap. You know. One of the perks of having real friends
come on the pot is that you can ask questions that you already know the
answer to. Now you don't think that's taking advantage of women a little bit.
I don't reason why I don't say yes, it is because honestly,
the time that I have done it, it was more so her choice,
her body, her choice. She y'all on top and wanted to do it.
I you say she like it was one she it was one. Listen,
I'm not I had I haven't had one woman that I've had sex with
without a condom that that it wasn't like planned that way you planned it said
that it wasn't planning. I mean, no, it's not planning. Planned
to not use a condom. It's crazy. No, that's not what I
mean. If we don't you do not use a condom. If you don't
use a condom, or if you if you go attempt to try to have
sex with women without using the condom, they will They will stop you in
your tracks very quickly. No, if they're not women for the most part,
if they not would it, they will stop you on your woman.
Before that, I was like, you know, four player, we're kissing
laws other stuff, and then I got up to go get the condoms,
like where are you going? Once again? Can I ask? Just said,
I just ask questions. It's already definitely getting one of you. Asked
me where I'm going? Already made up that she ain't using it. That
that's what I wanted to ask when she said when she said where you going?
Where you going, nigga? Where are you going? Shoot this club?
But shoot this club up right now? I heard that thing. I
only got this little water pistol. And now every two seconds he always sang,
I got the thing on me. You don't got the thing on me?
Right? I got the thing the pistol in Atlanta. But that was
cool. We could have carried that on the plane with us. Yeah,
that one we could have brought with us. The nerf gun. Yeah,
oh my guy. So y'all know y'are my dogs, right, So I
want you to get me y'all input on this situation. I know y'all be
sick of my crazy dating stories, but I swear they're all real and they're
all ridiculous. Okay every time, where are you find? So I'm talking
to this guy, right and we get into a bit of a tizzy because
I don't want to give up new coucie, right, Okay, So I
spend the night. Um in the morning he decides, you know, we're
still gonna go to breakfast. Uh yeah, we cuddle. You're playing with
That boy had blue power. I didn't. I had on a family reading
your shirt. That's even Oh my god. So listen. We go to
breakfast the next morning, and on the ride to breakfast, we're going through
a little bit of back and forth because I'm like, yeah, you know,
I'm just a little selective with you know who I'm having sex with right
now, And he was like, you know, I'm selective too. I'm
selective too. I can show you my hinge right now. This was a
morning discussion after you guys didn't have sex. Silent. Okay, He was
like, I'm selective too. I can show you my hinge right now.
Right first, I don't know who needs to hear this, but no woman
ever wants to see your hinge ever. Okay, ever, you don't ever
have to worry about that being a conversation. We never want to see it.
You trying to show us will never prove your point. It's going to
be a no. Right. So my man pulls up his hinge righta,
I just realized that you said, I get bro. Yes, he pulls
up his hinge. Right, He pulls up his hinge, and he goes
to his matches. This nigga has about six hundred matches. Six hundred fucking
matches. The same man who just told me I'm out here being selective has
six hundred matches. I'm not talking about likes because I don't mind. Like
you can't control who likes you. Somebody hit the button. Ain't got nothing
to do with you, right, This man has taken his time to match
with six hundred women, right, and that's not the kicker of these six
hundred women. It might have been about ten conversations. All of them said,
start chat, start chat, start chat. What type of fucking obscene
and security do you have where you have to have six hundred matches and you're
not even talking to all of them? Right? So I'm like, I
don't understand, like what you're trying to prove to me right now? Like
now, don't get me wrong, he's attractive, he has a nice job,
Like he get bitches on or off the apps. Right, So so
I'm like, I don't know, man, I just feel like you're having
six hundred matches. It don't make sense to me. Like so I'm like,
okay, who I'm gonna call my dog because my dog be on hinge,
right, so I know I'm gonna call my friend. And he was
like, no, call him, call him, call him, right?
I call him Stanley. I'm like, yo, let me ask you a
question first thing in the morning. You're gonna first thing in the morning.
Let me just get get this little input. I have no idea what's going
on. I'm I'm like half on the bear, like, yo, what's
up? She like I cant here. I'm like, where are you at?
There's so much going on in the background. She's like, don't worry
about that. Don't worry about that. Now, I go ahead. I'm
like, so, if a guy tells me he's being selective, but he
got six hundred matches, that's not him being selective, right. He was
like, this nigga got six hundred matches. He's living it up. He's
making me look out here, right, yo, this nigga getting holes.
I'm like, six hundred matches, there's a lot of I'm not even knowing
hands or know nothing about that ship. Six hundred sound like a lot of
anything, you six hundred is a lot. I don't even get six hundred
likes in a week. Ya. You know what what time is? It?
Is it twelve? I ain't think I got six hundred steps in.
Oh my god. I'm like no, really like doing makes sense. He's
like, no, don't fucking make sense, and you know it don't make
sense. Cut up my phone with this bullshit. I'm like, okay,
I'm gonna call you back right. So after I leave the guy I called
standing, he's like, what the fuck is going on with you? No?
Before that, before you hung up, because I was like, she
asked me that, And then I was like it's real loud. I don't
know if I was gonna speak. I was like, nigga, you want
a date? That because y'all know Stanley loves to embarrass me when I am
on dates. Yo. I remember one time I was outside, all right,
and I want to say I was outside. Hear me. I was
outside, Stanley calls me, and of course I pick up the conversation.
We're talking on the phone and he like, nigga, you want a date.
You gotta keep it brief with him, yo. He's like, nigga,
you on a date. I'm like no, And the guy who I'm
with us like, yes we are, yo, yo. Yo, bus
going twenty right under it, right there, bus already going twenty. I'm
sorry to that man. That's for the record. Um, I didn't know
we were on a date. Six hundred matches is wild? Yes, Y
added to you going out with anybody? Yeah, so the story can tell
you you're right, Stanley. So I told him like, yo, my
friend said that's not normal, right, And I'm like, my friend,
you know, worn is at a hundred yo. So he was like I'm
not gonna lie because I said, you know, my friend is handsome,
he's on Hinge, he get bitches like, I don't think he has,
you know, all these matches. Let me call him like. That's how
the conversation started. It was fine, quick, one Hinge. You know
if you get I don't even have ran about lights of matches, matches,
the six hundred numbers, Okay, I can tell you right now. I
don't know. That's the last time I've seen it. It was definitely probably
like six six. And that's what I said to him. I'm like,
yo, six hundred. But here's the thing. This, this is what
I was trying to get him understand. I'm like, Yo, when I'm
one Hinge, I'm never on long right, but I'll get like six hundred
likes, and I will match with maybe three people. That's different, but
three people. I like you too, and you just like every fucking body
tender is like I'm a Hinge is like tender, right, I would assume
I mean like the same, Like that's the last thing I can remember,
like a tender type thing where it's like you just swipe left or right like
somebody. Yes, yes, yes, that means he's this. This is
the definition, yo, This is the definition of a for everybody asked,
nigga, like, you are literally for everybody at this point, toy story.
Remember when the pig is hit. I'm like, yo, so we're
back to the back to the story. Back to the story. So I'm
like, yeah, you know, he said, no, it's not that
thing. He then looks at me and says, I'm not gonna lie the
fact that you call him handsome. That don't sit well with me. I
don't really like that. I'm like, bro, he get bitches like,
I don't know what you want me to say. The crazy part is anytime
somebody compliments Stanley or asked me about Stanley, I do the same thing exactly
exactly. And we didn't even have that conversation exactly. So it's like I
am acknowledging that. He gets bitches like I know that other women find him
attractive, that doesn't mean I do. So then he got incivilains about that
too, and it just was a down health thing there. Yeah, you
can't start telling other niggas about how you feel about other niggas because they ain't
gonna go well with them. Niggas, but don't but you. But he
was so hype and so excited when he thought Stanley was gonna be on his
side. I mean, good job to put him in his place. I'm
with you, but I'm just saying, if you want that relationship to have
to continue, don't talk about other niggas with the nigga that you would,
especially somebody that she's just close to, because it draws a certain type of
energy that you necessarily don't want to have to deal with at first. But
then this goes back to what we were talking about the beginning of the episode.
It's not a real friendship, no, y'all that that can be that.
But if I'm sitting here and it's like I'm gonna date with you and
it's like, well, Stanley handsome and Stanley got this cool, fuck Stanley.
But it's point though, like I went, I went, now to
what you're saying exactly, I'm just throw some I wouldn't. I wouldn't.
I wouldn't bring that up. I hear what you're saying, and I agree.
I wouldn't just randomly be like, oh my god, it's so sunny
outside, yo, Stanley, so fucking handsome, Like I wouldn't do that,
Like that's not I agree that is a bad join for sure, But
don't try to make me seem like com crazy when I got a crazy nigga
who I can ask and he's going to confirm that I'm not crazy, like
you know, the fuck a lot of crazy, foolish niggas out here.
Yeah yeah, leader of the fucking pack, Leader of the fucking cuckoo Club.
Okay, listen, so we're gonna get into the edible portion of our
show. The edible portion of our show is when I read questions that you
guys sent in, and this is me ignoring them all. So the questions
that I have today are actually some of the questions that were left over from
the live show. Um. But if you do have a question or story
or something you would like me to talk about and it's too long to fit
in the prompts that I usually put up on Thursdays, you can always DM
it to me at Chocolate Chip etzip at Stormy p p e A. Or
you can email it to me at inquiries at stormyp dot com. Okay,
so the first question is great sex enough to end? I'm sorry it is
bad sex enough to stay in a good relationship. You have a good relationship.
It's like best bond I've ever had with someone. But the sex is
horrible, and it could be any type of horrible. It can be dry,
it can be whacked, it can stink, it can be any type
of horrible. I had that before. But you are in love. You
have never been fulfilled in every other I I'm a filter nigga. So the
sex gotta match. The sex gotta match. So there's no way we could
have a great, like fun bond. And how can we have fun and
then go home to born corny as sex? So yeah, you can't love
me through the corny side. Only only if you're willing to learn and understand
that this ain't what it should be. Now what if she's willing to learn,
but she's a slow learner. I mean, well, we're gonna get
them training wheels off somehow. There's not a time limit on it. If
we if this is the best bond that, I'm willing to make it work.
But if you don't catch you on, I'm like, listen, we
might not have to have sex. So now we're abstin it. Were just
going there's color with each other. No, No, we're gonna do something.
You're No, it's the best join you ever had. Sure if it's
the best join I ever had if the sex ain't as good as I wanted
to be, because that comes with being the part being I need. I
need to as just as nasty as I am. And that's what That's what
I'm saying. It's like I was watching a short clip about something where it's
like, don't engage in stuff that's like not where you are in life on
your level, and I kind of went against it, but I also was
like on board with it because it's like, why would I get involved with
somebody who isn't as nasty or freaky as I am knowing that it may cause
a riff at some point, regardless of how much we may have in common,
how good our relationship may be, or it's like, then we could
be friends, we can be really good friends. I'm gonna go to the
next really good We're gonna fly to that land and come to thee oh God,
put her in the master class. Come on? If I am,
I don't know. I don't know. I think it depends on why they're
bad. Why is the sex bad, especially if you're a woman, Why
is the sex bad? Connection? Really isn't there? No? Not really?
Because what if like for women smell that can be like you can you
can get that. This is what I'm saying. That's why I think it
depends on what the bad is. Yeah, but see that's not the continuous
like this is. When you say bad, I'm thinking like you with somebody,
can you be with them with bad sex forever? Yes, Like she
is never gonna be able to ain't got to think forever. She's never gonna
be able to throw back. She's never gonna be able to do the golf
talk three thousand, she's never gonna be doing you don't have you maybe you
can learn to like fifteen hundred. It ain't gotta be three thousand long.
They're gonna be like, give me a little half of something, you know,
compromise, compromise, They're gonna compromise, compromise, They're gonna compromise like
whatever. So it's like it ain't got to be top tier everything. But
it's just I'm not just like y'all not gonna deal with bottom of the barrel
stuff mentioned that to do or women either to that matter, nobody should have
to deal with anything that that's not giving them one hundred percent joy or at
least some type of joy on a deli basis right, because the sex is
going to be like a thing where it's like, what do you call it?
It's the word I'm looking for. M I don't know. I'm gonna
be real with both of y'all. What you're saying makes complete sense. But
I think Stan is being honest because a majority of people that I know that
be out here cheating on their wives, cheating on their long term girlfriends,
is because they are just not pleased with the sex. Like a lot of
people will venture out to something different simply because their girl is never in the
mood, or simply because their girl never wants to do what they want to
do, and it's not even nothing extreme or extravagant, they just don't want
to or they choosing not to go forward. And this is how I've been
doing this. What's your problem? That something yesterday and I had to connue
with myself. I mentioned it was like a key little message. It was
like to resentment. I'm not sure who which one of you said that,
but it was like, Rod, we'll be in these situations where it's like
a road to resentment. We will sit there and we will deal with all
of this stuff just to end up resenting that person for dealing with all the
things that they ended up putting us through. It's like, why why not
just say, listen, this is not what I like, this is not
what I'm into. I don't enjoy this. Get on board or get lost.
We got to do it. It works for you at the end of
the day. So it's like, I believe him when he says when he
says certain things. Of course, obviously I'm just joking around just being a
man and man, but in general, I mean space that were usually end
most men not dealing with that shit. Okay, go to the next question.
All right, how do you get rid of someone that you have made
crystal clear that you are not interested? You have stopped engaging, stop entertaining,
and stop replying, yet they still proceed. I'm gonna read that again.
How do you How do you get rid of someone that you have made
crystal clear that you are not interested. You have stopped engaging, stop entertaining,
and stop replying, yet they still proceed. That is a stalker.
That's goned four pledge stalker. He or she has a purpose and is to
piss you off. Listen, I'm not gonna give what I want, So
I'm just gonna make your life a living hell. The only thing you can
do is block him. And some people in my homegirl just so crazy as
I me at the airport yesterday, just told me about this, and she
was like, Yo, I'm scared to block him because I don't want him
to find another way to find me or contact me. I'm like, damn,
that's really crazy, because all right, you know what, bit,
I've been trying to text you all this time and then you got there the
blocker me. Are you know what? I'm pulling up to the job now.
I'm finding out where you're at. I'm gonna check everybody social media.
I think that you know that it has events as something. I'm gonna see
if you everybody's stories. Oh yeah, we are Umi and r and B.
I'm at you Me and RMB shout out to you. That's my guys.
Um Okay, now what part does this play in? I thought men
love the chase, they love the game, so it's that it's could he
be so adamant because he just feels like she's that much more worth it?
The chase only is only for us a little bit. It's like back in
the day, like, don't make me sound too crazy. I know a
lot of us play this game, but growing up like elementary, catch a
girl, freaker girl, Okay, we don't know basically free. But why
do you keep saying we because y'all niggas was in the yard, all right,
but you're only chasing for a little bit because she still wants you.
But it's like she's shown that she still wants you. But it's like I'm
interest. Yeah, it's like I chase because you show interest. But when
you don't show interest, there's no chase. Now, I'm just following or
fucking stalking like you said now, I was like, now you're doing too
much. Yeah, it's a big difference. And I was like, I
didn't I didn't sit seventeen good mornings in ten minutes. I think that a
part that we often miss when we're dealing with people we're not interested in that
we've chosen to cut off, is if they're making you feel uncomfortable and you
have made crystal clear that you're not interested, a you have to act like
you're not interested. You have to stand on that I'm not replying, I'm
not interested. No, thank you, you cannot reply to any of their
advances. And b if you feel like yo, you wilding a little bit,
you have to tell that person like, yo, I've made it clear
that I'm not interested. At this point, you're making me feel uncomfortable.
Please adjust, Please adjust, because sometimes people really do think they're living in
a love story. In his mind, he think he prints charming bitch,
he going around the village trying to figure out who shoo does this spin,
But in all actual reality, he going around the village about to get a
fucking PFA. Okay, so you need to be clear and say, yo,
thank you, I appreciate it, but I want you to know,
as I said before, I'm not interested. And at this point you're making
me feel uncomfortable listening me off. There's too many times where those same guys
running the women that like that little bit of chase and like the little extra
shit, or like that, oh I like the crazy guy shit. And
so now that's a good point. Now you get the crazy guy who actually
it's a little crazy, and it's like he crazy to the wrong person,
right, because that bitch from a suburbs don't like that shit. We don't
like that this ain't little little little uh little feast from down not a little
feast. Come on now with this woman? Ain't there nothing to nobody names
out there? Now? How I get this? It's a little from It's
a little Vicky from down twenty ninth streets. Yo, man, Um,
thank y'all so much for kicking with me today. Thank y'all for coming down
to Atlanta to support me. I really appreciate that. Um, thank y'all
for sitting in the top room with me. Everything that you guys have been
doing all weekend, I appreciate it. Did just get I don't know where
y'all want to drop your socials or then you want to drop your corneas clothes?
Like, what's up? You wear it in promos? I'm listening.
Why would you? Why would you trying to do that's wrong with the black
community now that that you just did? So? Do I wear your clothes
all the time? Yeah, but we're in front of carry trying too good?
Oh oh, I'm always following me. Main was eleven. I mean,
don't hack me no more. I was talking at main Wash eleven.
Um on everything. I'm not on everything. I'm just on Instagram and everything.
I'm not on everything. Yeah, I'm just saying, whenever you want
to go look me up, that's the name you're gonna look up because I'm
not using another name. So, um, that's that's where it's at.
The apparently everything but not every everything but not everything. Like I just said,
that was a good one. That was good. That's good. That
was good. Uh Stan, we trust Twitter, Instagram. I finally got
my name back on Instagram. It was memorable. Hack Man, finally,
you don't they took that page and ran with that page, but they let
my name go. They freed my name name back. Um, the brand
loyalty is for everyone. Loyalty isn't for everyone. I'm sorry. We didn't
start drinking and it got hot. I'm getting delirious in here. Um book
me for DJ and you could always go on the same same social instant.
We trust and we haven't fun out Onlanda. We're not done, as won't.
We've done this and you're doing the next thing. And we have side
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