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Who what's up, beautiful people?
What is your baby mama? Favorite baby

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mama? Stummyp And this is another
episode of Chocolate Chip and Zib the modern

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day female Perspective. Damn Son back
at it again, and we are back

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at it again at a different location, but kind of the same one from

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last time. We're back at the
se Content House. If you were in

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the Philadelphia excuse me. If you
were in the Atlanta area and you're looking

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for a place to record your podcast, host an event, or do anything

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extra, you want to check out
the Something Extraordinary Content House right here in

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Atlanta, Georgia. Okay, Now
I want to talk about something that was

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near and dear to my heart.
I feel like when you're moving through these

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streets and you're living certain lifestyles,
it's always good to have informants, okay,

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And ladies and gentlemen, you'll always
talking about, you know, well,

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your conversations down to earth, like
how do you know so much?

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Like who are we telling all our
secrets? I got informants. Okay,

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So today on a pide, I
got my number one informant, the mid

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God himself, all the way from
Philadelphia. It's my man, stupid stand

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Hey, Stan, what's up everybody. Stormy, you're a wonderful person.

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Thank you, thank you. UM. And this other gentleman I'm about to

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introduce UM. He's actually an informant
in training. UM, but we like

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to make sure we give him enough
grace to develop into the wonderful person that

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we know he's going to be.
Me and this gentleman have known each other

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since seventh grade, when he thought
he could dance like Usher. I want

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you guys to make some noise for
my man main Wash. Take him out.

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See your lips. Thank you,
thank you, Paul, thank you

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very much for the introduction. Yeah, I did dance better those he never

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danced, though. I give you
better than Stormy. Stormy used to have

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a fitted cat, big jeans,
and she thought she's part to be two

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K. Do you remember that talent
show I've been trying to tell y'all one

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talent show. I literally did the
whole B two K song. I did

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the whole B TWOK song and a
little fizz rap and choreography, shutting ship

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down. Y'all been thinking I'd be
joking. You were the whole I am

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B two K in the other two
and crazy and that was her too,

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ye what what are oh Marion fizz
Jay bug rats by a right, okay,

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giving a lot of ras B vibes. But other people, he always

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wouldn't be a solo act something so
so, so, so so happy to

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have you here, guys, I
just want to start there. Thank you,

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thank you. Um so I wanted
to recap the live show if that

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was cool with show. Um this
episode is going to drop a week after

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the live show, but to us, it was last night. So how

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was it? How good was I? What was your favorite part? Was

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it when Jermaine made me tostino Titti's
well, let's let me let me okay,

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al kay, let's let's huh recap
that small go ahead event that happened

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yesterday. You were in dire need
of, um, you know, some

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type of cloth, you know,
just to help you out with your respiratory

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issue that you had going on.
What I'm saying respiratory or prespiratory I was

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still on from yesterday a little bit. So yeah, so the sweating issue

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that we had, everybody was moving
very slow. I decided to be a

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gentleman because about my seat, put
my ass on my chest and hand you

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a napkin. That napkin just so
happened that at a piece of ship.

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Were you eating chips? Was it
your natural? Okay, but that wasn't

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my ship. This issue. Let
me tell you from my stident. I'm

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just gonna tell you that I tried
to see the date and help you out

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while everybody else was pushy footing around
you, dragging feet. So if we're

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being honest, I should probably get
a pat on the back of anybody,

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you know what I mean. I
seen it from behind the DJ booth.

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He's like searching around and he picked
it. Dampkin up. This brother.

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As soon as he picked up I
started cracking up because I knew he just

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had a handful of chips napkin.
It was like, this is gonna end

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bad. So all I know is
he hind you the napkin. He was

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cool. He did a gentleman he
has with the coral. Next thing,

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you know, you're patting yourself And
that's because she was supposed that that that

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put it back down. Boom,
that's how I supposed to work. You're

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giving it a flat, giving him
all of this, Like, man,

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it has to be a performance.
Get the point when I said it's really

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a chocolate chipping. No, it
was quickly your feet with that. I

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like that. Of all the things
that happened, y'all only wanted to talk

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about the chip. No. No, there was the one guy that we

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talked about. Oh yeah, I
probably gonna edit that out. I'm probably

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gonna I'm probably gonna edited. But
all honestly, it was it was a

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great dialogue between um, you and
uh somebody between you two. Um,

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you know what y'all intellect and how
well you guys speak on these topics,

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speak on these topics that we talk
about on a Delhi basis, or that

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we discussed on the Delhi basis.
It real transparent, opened up a lot,

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and it was interesting to me,
interesting to see everybody engaged in the

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in the room too. Oh y'all
mess y'all meshed really well, don't just

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go ahead, don't be just go
ahead. Care I felt like you just

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did the mom drawn because I want
you to look nice. Yeah, that's

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what my mom stick into this.
Just go y'all interaction with each other's se

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was was pure, genuine. It
seemed like y'all been doing it. It

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was a great vibe. The crowd
loved every part of it. Um.

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It was great, just the whole
interaction, the whole event, the whole

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taping. Everything was a dope,
dope time. Thank you man. If

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you don't you you, you don't
gotta take my word for it, take

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theirs. Okay, the next time
chocolate sheapensip it's coming to your city,

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make sure you get your tickets and
don't wait too long because you just moved

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your hand in front of the camera. Happen. Happening. I'm trying.

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I'm trying to point to you under
the hold on. Um. So I

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appreciate you guys, right, and
I feel like there is a lost art

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of friendship and not just between men, not just between women, but really

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between sexes. So I wanted to
talk today about female friends and the importance

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of men having female friends. Got
to have them, Yes, I totally

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agree. I support that. Thanks
for coming to our ted talk because what

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that's it, fellas, is this
camera on me. You need to have

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female friends. They keep you grounded. I always hit stormy up, y'all,

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is this is this bullshit? Shu
do I need to do? This?

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Is this conversations like that we need
to have with females as gonna be

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totally honest with you. Stormy is
a very very honest person. She's she

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can be an a hole, but
she's very honest. And that's why our

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friendship will always stay the way it
is because I know she's not gonna fee

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me, no be it. She's
not a yes woman. It's not a

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big dog. That ain't it ain't
big dogs. We were literally contact.

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We will contact each other for information
for like either creative ideas or just life

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ideas, and we are both responses
if it ain't it a dog. I

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think that I appreciate having been that
I can call, like, you know,

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my actual friends, because it really
comes to handing when you're dating,

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like sometimes you be in your mind
thinking you tripping, like sometimes I got

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hit stand up like yo, nigga, is it me? Like it's or

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it isn't him because I feel like
it's him. And sometimes Stammy like you

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be fucking with bitches, and I'm
like, okay, I asked you all

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that. I'm saying, like it's
good to have that. We're not gonna

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We're not gonna like that now.
I don't call him that or I guarantee

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he's light skinned. It's one of
the other and they don't always be light

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skinned. I'm pretty sure the majority
of the time, nine times out of

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nine they've been they have not,
they have not. But he does say

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like you you just you have a
certain type like Divins Stevens. You haven't

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heard any tall, dark and handsome
talk from you ever. So my last

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boyfriend was tall, dark and handsome. And where is he now? What's

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going on? Brother? God jail? Hi didn't both of us straight like

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that? I felt like we both
called it straight the fuck but just a

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piggyback off what Sam's talking about.
It is it is good to have um

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opposite sex friends obviously to talk to
about any and everything, because he can't

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call me all the time because I'm
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answer one one out of ten times, maybe because just off of the genuine

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like I'm a man, he's a
man coming from a male perspective, and

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these are the things that we probably
have in common and speak about. But

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you know, he could call you, get a different perspective and then move

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forward, maybe accordingly the right way. I think women are more likely to

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tell you when you're doing wrong,
like for men. I think if you

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have a female friend, she's more
likely to tell you like that's kind of

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fucked up. But if you have
like a male friend of like you know,

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bit just be trimping like we do
that. We still keep women give

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them the truth. But I'm and
die to tell man when he's wrong.

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That's not that's not to put that
out here. Oh you asked me,

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brother, you're wrong. You know
what. I'm glad you asked because now

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that you bring it up, like
yeah, yeah, no, no,

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I think that sometimes it's hard for
men to get out of their perspective like

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you were saying and look at it
and be like a devil's advocate. I

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think women are much more talented,
and being a devil's advocate them in a

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majority, I would say, yeah, there's something that can that can definitely

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step outside of the box and definitely
see I want to say, putting myself

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in your shoes. But like me
myself, I grew up a lot of

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women, so I kind of get
the perspective and see where you guys coming

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from. Not a woman, so
I won't know one hundred percent, but

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just through conversation and even like I
said, having a friend like you for

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twenty years, I can call you
and ask you something and it's like,

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Dan, that lines up with the
same thing I had in my mind or

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was thinking about. So coming from
a place of growth in hindsight, what's

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the worst advice you gave somebody or
the worst advice you received? And it's

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like, I shouldn't asked you.
I knew I shouldn't ask you. You

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know what I knew he was gonna
say that. I don't even know why

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I asked you, Like something you
can think of off the top of your

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head. I have a one home
is crazy. He's always at the end

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of these like conversations because it's just
be happening to be talking. He doesn't

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really give me no advice. He
just says the normal. Damn, that's

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crazy. That's it. They don't
give me no, no going forward,

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now, left, no right.
It's just that's crazy. I don't know

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how you're doing do that. I
don't want to be don't want to tell

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you this. But he don't give
a fuck about your conversation. He didn't

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hit you with ford. That's crazy. And you keep telling him the story

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and it's crazy, crazy crazy right
time, wrong person, Like I gotta

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be thinking about something like that,
that's crazy. I gotta do that.

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He'd be like, yeah, damn, that's crazy, all right. Worst

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advice I don't think he wants to
be your friends. Then that's fine.

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I'm friends with everyone. Oh my
gosh, I don't. I don't.

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I think the worst advice, I
god is the advice that people don't take

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for themselves. So a lot of
the times, you know, and I'm

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I'm a I'm a big advocate of
it. Sometimes it's like I can really

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give you answers, but then I
can't. You can dish it, but

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you can't take it. Not that
I can't take it. Pause. Um,

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that's what she said. It's just
one of those grew up man.

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It's just one of those things where
it's one of those things where, Um,

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like I said, Patty, you
can give advice. You can give

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like a good word or two the
right direction to go into, But like

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I said, I can't take my
own advice. I might not be able

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to follow the steps I need to
to get to that next step or that

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next space. If you're not able
to take your own advice, does that

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qualify you to give advice or does
it depend on the topic. I think

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it does depend on the topic because
sometimes you can't speak on things that you

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haven't been through. But if you
that's just like a sports analyst they had

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They're not professional athletes, but at
the same time, they speak on professional

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topics every single day because they have
a perspective. People respect their their perspective

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and respect the years in time they
put into whatever they've been studying her.

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Or let me talking about I got
one girlfriend. I got one girlfriend,

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and I, hey, will contact
her to tell her story, but I

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already know I'm never gonna say none
of her advice because she can be like,

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yeah, hit that nigga, like
WHOA says no like or she like

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yeah, cut that nigga off.
Like her goal to was always you're done.

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Like I know for a fact I'm
going to get her up to be

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a sound board, but not to
get advice. You got to one friends

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guard gonna say yeah, hey,
yeah that yeah yeah, because it'll keep

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you humble at some point, like
damn, I should go for that,

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I go get hurt. Yeah,
I'm not gonna lie. That's for me.

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Really. Yes, he probably won't
say it. I never say that,

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but he definitely would be like man, I told him we would be

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working together, and I'm like,
yo, if I were get into a

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space, tell me stop bitching.
Oh no, listen, he can't now

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now he has fun with it.
Yeah, no, because what I call

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him I hit him up. I
let you do I know, let you

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get your rent off. I let
you get yours off once in a while,

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a lot of pausing. Gotta be
careful, he gotta be careful when

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you have these conversations. To be
careful or to be careful, I'm gonna

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chop up all the ship and it's
just gonna be all the flagrant and zesty

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stuff. No pause, nose.
And then at the end I'm at passe,

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Yo, you are ridiculous. No, he will go into a rant.

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I let him get his rant off. And then I'm like, yo,

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how bitch's gonna get the money?
You go get the bad, get

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the back. Are you right?
And we keep it moving. Um.

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So we were talking a little bit
about, you know, having friends of

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the opposite sex and the benefits that
they bring to your life when they are

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able to give you advice and offer
different perspectives and things that you may not

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have thought of. Right, how
is it when you get in a relationship

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like do you automatically feel like you
have to cut your female friends off or

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like, do you look at it
as you know, they was here before

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you, they're gonna be here after
you. So it is what it is

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like, it's kind of a more
so Yo, that's my if. That's

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like my dog, Like if I
get into relationship. First of all,

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they probably you know who you are, the joint that you being in the

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podcast with. Yeah, oh yeah
she cool. They love you. I

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don't know every girl to ever run
into oh yeah she's so come like she's

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really not. But you here to
hate you, here to hate coming off

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that you you got some nerve Germain, would you like to ask? Yeah.

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So as far as being in a
relationship, well, I haven't been

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in relationships, Um, by choice, by choice. I'm just saying if,

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if, and when I do get
in a relationship, UM, I

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don't think that it's necessary to like
cut everybody off, but there does have

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to be boundaries established, and there
has to just be a sense of communication

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about who's who, how long has
this person been around. If it's a

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new friend, we discuss it.
But if it's somebody, like I said,

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you know me and you've been friends
for twenty years. I just can't

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cut storm me out of my life. That's it's not how but she thought

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it's crazy. I feel like,
if y'all are really platonic friends shouldn't matter.

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No, your female friend is want
to respect you being in a relationship.

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And she's like, okay, Like
if if we are, y'all getting

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relationship today or tomorrow, I know
that, Like, yo, I can't

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hit y'all up after a certain time
at night, right, I think I

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gonna do what I want to do. No, No, I mean like,

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if y'all live in a relationship,
I'm not going to hit you up

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like a twelve o'clock at night.
And then like nine times i'd send I'm

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not gonna want end but singing you
this fucking emoji right here. So it's

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like I know that I also am
not going to be able to talk to

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you about certain things. I know. It's like certain things we're not going

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to be able to do together,
like just out of respect for you and

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your relationship. And if if I'm
really your friend, you don't have to

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check me on that because I should
know, like he can't do that he's

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in a relationship. No, that's
facts she wasn't lancing. Everybody's hiding that

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with everybody. Don't think um,
so, do you think it's hard for

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women to set up boundaries when they
have male friends and when they're male friends

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getting relationship. I think it's hard
for everybody. I don't think it's just

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women. I don't think it's gender. I don't think it's gener bias.

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I think it's more so some people
just don't know how to separate. Yeah,

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you know what, that is my
dog and then still my dog.

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I want my lady or vice versa. I guess that's my homeboy. But

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because you know other other option sexual
you're mate sometimes do tend to get jealous

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over like the little stuff that you
know that's not even really there. It's

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just you. Why nigga, why
are you laughing at nigga jokes so much?

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Because he funny? Nigga? Like, you'n't laughing none of my ship.

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Maybe you're not funny nigga. What
I do remember the story telling me

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this one time she said, Remember
it was like the second time I was

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on the show, and whoever the
guy that you are guess talking to it

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that point in time, it was
like, why are you laughing at Stanley

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jokes. Stupid versus when you talk
to me a thing to worry about.

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Maybe you need to go watch some
comic views and get your view. Don't

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getting one of these new jokes,
because you'll get you get canceled. That

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not comic view back, go back
to comic view. Yep. But but

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you know what's crazy, that's a
turn off for me, Like especially for

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it to be so simple, like
you're upset that I laugh at Stanley jokes.

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That's corny, that's and that's what
I was about to allude to as

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far as like insecurity, like when
it comes to when it come to like

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my man went to college, come
on, come on, come on,

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asks all right, listen, when
you started thinking about the insecurities that people

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have, that's what they need to
like check before they start to ask those

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type of questions. Because why am
I worried about you laughing at jokes from

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him? Because you're gonna laugh at
jokes from the comedian. You're gonna laugh

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at jokes from the person that was
telling the corny as joke. You're just

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gonna laugh because that might just be
you, but or a joke just might

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be funny. But my man,
you can't take that appoint yourself to making

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a personal thing like laughing at Stanley
jokes. You got something going on.

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I'm funny, it's fun I don't
know. That's why I'm saying Stanley because

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he ain't that funny. So it's
like he's not. He's just he told

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jokes like actual viewers. They love
me. Okay, well said, we're

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gonna go to a quick break.
You know what another thing is if you

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think that males and females can't be
platonic friends. I'm assumed you didn't get

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no coucie growing up. M that's
a that's a good one. That's somebody

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that might be a good one.
What about a woman's perspective? The same

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thing. I think that if you
believe no, no, no, no,

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no, no, you at growing
up? No no, no,

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you're right, you're right, you're
right, right, you're right, you're

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right. I think that if you're
a woman and you believe that men and

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women can't be platonic friends, you
can't control your coucie. And that sounds

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like a you problem. You can't
first set out on everybody else, like

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if you've never been able to have
a conversation with a man without having the

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urge to offer your vagina, Like
that's crazy. But that's also a you

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thing with the men. It's like, if if it's a man that thinks

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that women and men can't be platonic
friends, then you gotta turn this horny

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down just a little bit, just
a little bit. That's probably what it

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is. Come, don't do that, down your horny down anyway. But

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yeah, most guys would just have
to, like you know what I mean,

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adjusted thinking a little bit, you
know what I'm saying, because they

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walk into these situations with one mind
or one sided thoughts or one side of

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mind. I feel bad for you
if you think that, like it's either

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A you have too much coucie or
B you gave away your couchie too much,

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or see, you never had the
opportunity to feel safe and if with

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someone to be their friend without them
trying to take advantage of you, like

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you know what I mean, Because
I feel like that's also a thing too.

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How do y'all know, like women
wise, if a nigga really got

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coulchie back in the day, I
do know y'all have that like seventh sense.

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Yes, you can always tell if
a man is a late bloomer based

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on how he reacts to certain things
and the way he moves. Right,

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If a nigga got a lot of
coucie growing up, he's not pressed for

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coucie. Now you understand what I'm
saying, Like, he's not going to

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feel like, oh, by date
two, or because I spent this much

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money on you, or because I've
done this amount of things for you.

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But when i'm a fuck like eye, I am serious though. I feel

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like if you've always had it and
it's always been in abundance, you're you're

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not so pressed for it. Yes, and we don't like it. We

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don't like it. We don't like
it. And it's like it's nothing wrong

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with the late bloomers because I know
a lot of you out there are.

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I just want y'all to understand that
sometimes you gotta turn your honey down.

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Yeah, now we're all using it. How does that make you feel?

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Boom? Everybody? All right?
Anyway? So I wanted to shift gears

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for a bit here. We always
hear women on the internet coming from the

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standpoint of, you know, the
dating world is trash, and you know

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it's nobody out here right now.
Honestly, y'all, I'm gonna throw them

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under the bus a little bit,
a little bit. I'm going to let

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throw them under the bus a little
bit, right because staying in me are

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both single right and purposely single right. So I'm gonna ask you all some

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of the questions that I feel like
ladies want to know. Is that spit

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this? Why are y'all hosts?
That wasn't the question? What or no?

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So I listen because I actually had
a conversation with a girl before that

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says something like that, what makes
it me in the hole because he's attractive

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because women like him, or because
a lot of women like him, because

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because he continues to like date what
we what we do is like date,

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and y'all consider it like homing,
traditional dating and stuff like that. I

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was actually thinking, because y'all brief
like that's it, because y'all all holes,

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y'all all holes. I think that
if you don't answer me that question,

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so you think all meils a holes? No, I don't think you

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know you have a son. My
son is special, the princess. Okay,

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that's I do think that because here
get the host, why y'all like

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this set started. So you say
all that, and you see that young

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brother, That young brother's coming up
looking good. Man. I'm trying to

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tell you light skin already that should
you know how you feel about light skins?

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You got the good here, young
boy probably he probably already learned another

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language. You know what you're saying, bilingual? Any light skin any goody

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good here again, you see how
they're trying to deflect it. Get a

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different conversation. No, we don't
go back to why they hold Okay,

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and I'm gonna say that, I'm
gonna say this all right, not hosts.

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Right, but both of you are
over a certain age. You don't

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have kids? No, No,
because I'm both of you are over a

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certain age. You're attractive, you
don't have kids. I'm old school though.

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That's choice. So you mean to
tell me neither one of you have

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found a woman good enough to be
with exactly. You're choosing to be a

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house. It's not real. It
really is a different like world that we're

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living in right now, like like
the dating scene, like y'all say all

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the time, y'all just spew it
out and say, oh, it's trash,

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it's trash. We feel the same
way a lot of the times.

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But we just not out there gonna
say it's trash because we still gotta be

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outside. You still gotta go ahead
and fulfill whatever needs that you have as

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a man. So yeah, even
though it's trash, she was air pollution,

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you still went to work, didn't
you a quality? You still took

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ass outside. I went to the
story dodn't you. So it's like it's

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still thinks that you're gonna put up
with to a certain extent. Now,

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you're not gonna subject yourself to like
the bullshit on the Delhi or on the

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weekly or monthly that for that matter, But you're gonna put up with some

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of It's just how relationships are going. And that's why I'm single. I

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mean, I'm gonna be real.
I don't feel like I feel like,

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yes, all that is true for
women though, like I don't hear men

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like complaining like oh I want to
be in a relationship. We complain,

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Y're gonna call us pussys and bitches
and saying down, no, you're not.

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Mostly you're not doing that. So
you know, y'all don't think that

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y'all are intentionally not settling down right
now, you're gonna tell me within the

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past year, neither one of you
have found someone good enough to be with.

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No, I would not say that
I'm not I'm not gonna say.

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I'm not gonna say I haven't found
anyone good enough to be with. We

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might not be at that point yet. There's been people that I've been talking

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to and we go out, we
might hang out and talk all the time

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on the phone, bust it up. Were learning more about each other.

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But if we're not in a space
to like move forward, then how am

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I going to move forward? Is
the space to move forward? Comfortability learning?

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I mean being comfortable learn enough about
each other. Um Like as a

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from there's certain I guess points and
tears in your relationship that you gotta it.

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I mean as you grow with benchmarks. Right, so you're saying you're

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single because you're open to it,
you just haven't reached certain bench very open

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to me and and being with some
especially at this age. It's like I

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get to the point now where it's
like I'm not outside as much. I'm

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not running around doing a lot of
like things I was doing when I was

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younger ten years ago. This is
not that so okay, gonna turn in

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thirty four this year. It's like
I gotta start listen. You know the

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crazy part. Both of these motherfuckers
older than me. So I am I

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ad, I am not younger than
your birthday. It just passed. How

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old you thirty three? I am
not older than you. When your birthday?

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Tell him, I'm not older than
When is your birthday? When your

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birthday? I'm not older. Let's
get this the way. When your birthday,

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lady, when birthday? Tell y'all, Stormy is the same age as

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me, I am not. Her
birthday just passed in, and my birthday

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is next month. So you see
how they be tag teaming on working.

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I said, I'm younger than this. This is crazy. This is your

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comments sense, this is I literally
just trying to support her, and she

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said, Yo, that's crazy.
See they trying to guess like me again,

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y'all. They're trying to focus on
the birthdays instead of I'm really telling

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us why he's single. I literally
just saying, when you just you just

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asked me, y'all, go yaya, don't stay focused. I'm trying to

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stay focused. He was trying to
go on a birthday tangent. No,

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all right, I'm sorry, let's
bring it back. No man, whose

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side are you on? Oh my
god, that's a good that's a that's

405
00:27:33.119 --> 00:27:36.039
a good man. It's a good
one. That's a good one. Listen.

406
00:27:36.200 --> 00:27:40.759
I'm single because this year has literally
been a lot. I've got a

407
00:27:40.839 --> 00:27:45.839
new position at my my job at
the school. My DJ went off super

408
00:27:45.960 --> 00:27:51.960
fast, so my time at is
really limited, revery very limited. So

409
00:27:52.079 --> 00:27:55.519
it's like I didn't want no one
to get involved with me, and then

410
00:27:55.519 --> 00:27:57.759
I don't have enough time. I'm
big on quality time. He says that

411
00:27:57.839 --> 00:28:00.200
a lot. So if I can't
spend time with you, I feel like

412
00:28:00.319 --> 00:28:03.519
you're not getting the best of me. And then when I am home the

413
00:28:03.759 --> 00:28:06.799
days that I don't have to DJ
or do something to an event, I

414
00:28:06.880 --> 00:28:08.160
just want to be at home chilling. I don't want to go out.

415
00:28:08.240 --> 00:28:11.720
I don't want to do that.
Yeah I have the money to do it,

416
00:28:11.920 --> 00:28:12.960
do I want to know? I
just want to sit down and relax

417
00:28:14.039 --> 00:28:17.160
and eat pizza by yourself. No, if she's fine with that. But

418
00:28:17.200 --> 00:28:18.599
then it's like, though, then
I feel like I deprive you because oh

419
00:28:18.640 --> 00:28:21.480
I want to do this, or
I want to go away, or I

420
00:28:21.559 --> 00:28:22.640
want to do that. I want
to go out. It's like, yo,

421
00:28:22.759 --> 00:28:26.000
I want to, but it's like, yo, I really need to

422
00:28:26.079 --> 00:28:29.880
recharge. So you're single because you're
becoming a pop pope. It sounds like

423
00:28:29.960 --> 00:28:33.000
you're single because he's uh, you
can't find somebody to compromise with him,

424
00:28:33.039 --> 00:28:37.640
just I mean compromise because it feels
like, yo, you're you're taking back

425
00:28:37.680 --> 00:28:40.720
when you say compromise, I mean, but we all have to at some

426
00:28:40.759 --> 00:28:45.319
point. I think compromise has a
negative connotation for men because it usually involves

427
00:28:45.160 --> 00:28:48.680
something. Yeah, yeah, so
we have to give something and gain anything.

428
00:28:48.759 --> 00:28:52.359
But they hate it because they were
like why you gotta take? Why

429
00:28:52.680 --> 00:28:55.920
why are you doing less? So
it's like I'm not trying to not to

430
00:28:56.039 --> 00:28:57.960
do less, like I should be
meeting in the middle. It should be

431
00:28:59.039 --> 00:29:00.680
it's alway. It's never fifty fifty. It never's going to be like a

432
00:29:00.839 --> 00:29:04.079
level scale. It's always gonna be
one person feels this way, one person

433
00:29:04.160 --> 00:29:08.079
feels that way. So it's never
gonna be the same, equal equal feelings.

434
00:29:08.119 --> 00:29:12.160
But it's like that understanding of someone
that can get it, like,

435
00:29:12.359 --> 00:29:17.839
all right, yo, you're working
your your career, your business, everything

436
00:29:17.960 --> 00:29:21.039
is moving. So it's like I
don't want to hold you up. I

437
00:29:21.079 --> 00:29:22.880
don't want to feel like I'm in
your space, but I do want to

438
00:29:22.880 --> 00:29:26.799
be there and support you. Someone
can't do that. I'm all for it,

439
00:29:26.279 --> 00:29:32.200
So I'm all I can understand.
I'm single because I haven't reached certain

440
00:29:32.359 --> 00:29:36.720
benchmarks, or I'm single because you
know, I want to make sure I'm

441
00:29:36.759 --> 00:29:41.400
giving someone the time that I really
have. Right But when you're still going

442
00:29:41.480 --> 00:29:45.079
through these single periods, do you
think that sometimes the two of you take

443
00:29:45.079 --> 00:29:48.960
advantage of women and their time and
their feelings and their emotions because you already

444
00:29:48.000 --> 00:29:52.039
know in your head that you're not
in a space to move forward. Nope,

445
00:29:52.039 --> 00:29:53.680
because I tell them from the rip, I don't have the time.

446
00:29:53.839 --> 00:29:56.359
So if you still want to be
cool and cordial, like, hey,

447
00:29:56.400 --> 00:30:00.720
we can communicate, we can call
each other when we're each other free,

448
00:30:00.039 --> 00:30:04.359
or we can make time to schedule
to be around each other. Then that's

449
00:30:04.359 --> 00:30:07.400
what it is. I'm letting you
know it right now. If things work

450
00:30:07.799 --> 00:30:10.640
and that, then let's do it. But if it doesn't, I'm letting

451
00:30:10.640 --> 00:30:12.000
you know right now. This is
what it is. Me in particular,

452
00:30:12.039 --> 00:30:17.640
I have a little more time than
stand does, like I do basketball trainers

453
00:30:17.640 --> 00:30:19.519
on the side but a lot of
that is like based on like whatever schedule

454
00:30:19.559 --> 00:30:23.920
I make myself. So for me, it's not really even like benchmark things.

455
00:30:23.960 --> 00:30:29.480
It's really just about being in the
space with somebody every single day.

456
00:30:29.759 --> 00:30:32.799
And like you said, it's like
relationships aren't fifty fifty, You're not.

457
00:30:33.839 --> 00:30:37.440
It will be fifty fifty. But
but you got to understand with fifty fifty

458
00:30:37.480 --> 00:30:41.960
years, fifty fifty is literally like
today it could be like I'm just not

459
00:30:42.160 --> 00:30:45.759
I'm just not feeling it. So
you got to give ninety and I'm giving

460
00:30:45.920 --> 00:30:48.039
ten, and then then another day
in me, I might be feeling it

461
00:30:48.079 --> 00:30:51.240
a little bit more, so I'm
gonna give eighty five while you given the

462
00:30:51.319 --> 00:30:56.200
fifteen. So yes, fifty fifty
and compromising in totality like everything, But

463
00:30:56.599 --> 00:31:00.759
there are days where people just can't
get past, like the small, small

464
00:31:00.839 --> 00:31:03.319
moments. I think maybe heaven and
that's why the benchmarks ain't getting hit,

465
00:31:03.519 --> 00:31:07.440
because you know, you get a
hiccup. People just nobody got to start

466
00:31:07.480 --> 00:31:10.480
all over, Nobody fighting for stuff
no more. Everybody feel like they don't

467
00:31:10.480 --> 00:31:12.240
want to waste their time. Everybody
seems selfish. That's what I'm thinking.

468
00:31:14.240 --> 00:31:18.359
We're older, Who the fuck is
we we're over. Y'all speak French now,

469
00:31:18.039 --> 00:31:29.799
yes? Oh we wait not me? Um okay, So let me

470
00:31:29.799 --> 00:31:32.960
ask you our question. Do you
think that the two of you are dating

471
00:31:33.000 --> 00:31:37.359
with intentions right now? If I
can? Yes? How how what's his

472
00:31:37.480 --> 00:31:40.440
dating with intentions look like for you? Um? Like I said, the

473
00:31:40.519 --> 00:31:44.599
quality of time? Uh, just
trying to be around each other, making

474
00:31:44.720 --> 00:31:49.920
something positive out of whatever we're doing. So what's Yeah, we're trying to

475
00:31:49.960 --> 00:31:53.599
build a connection. We're trying to
build that genuine connection. Whereas damn,

476
00:31:53.640 --> 00:31:56.880
I've really been thinking about you.
You know, while I'm out here doing

477
00:31:56.920 --> 00:31:59.640
this, I've been thinking about you. I'm anna checking or vice version.

478
00:32:00.039 --> 00:32:00.960
So it's like, yeah, this
is what it's going to be. So

479
00:32:01.880 --> 00:32:05.000
all right, Oh you know what, I might not take a gig this

480
00:32:05.160 --> 00:32:07.799
day because I really care about you. I want to do something that's ain't

481
00:32:07.880 --> 00:32:12.680
that's ain't a lot, That's what
I'm saying. But in that person also

482
00:32:12.720 --> 00:32:15.559
got to understand like, damn,
you don't really not go get you some

483
00:32:15.640 --> 00:32:17.400
money from me? All right,
Well, well I'm gonna do something too.

484
00:32:17.480 --> 00:32:20.920
So it's like they don't have to
do it because you want to like

485
00:32:21.079 --> 00:32:25.920
reciprocation, but it's like genuine,
like equally effort is the intentions, especially

486
00:32:27.000 --> 00:32:30.599
when money is such a stronghold in
our world today. So you're giving up

487
00:32:30.640 --> 00:32:32.920
some people to go spend some time
with somebody, we gotta really take that

488
00:32:34.000 --> 00:32:38.640
into consideration. Okay, Now I
want to take something else in spensideration based

489
00:32:38.680 --> 00:32:44.759
on everything that was said today,
I want to ask, are y'all using

490
00:32:44.839 --> 00:32:53.039
condom stuff very much? So?
Ninety two percent of the time? And

491
00:32:53.559 --> 00:33:01.480
that's a rap. You know.
One of the perks of having real friends

492
00:33:01.599 --> 00:33:05.359
come on the pot is that you
can ask questions that you already know the

493
00:33:05.400 --> 00:33:09.559
answer to. Now you don't think
that's taking advantage of women a little bit.

494
00:33:10.920 --> 00:33:15.119
I don't reason why I don't say
yes, it is because honestly,

495
00:33:15.680 --> 00:33:19.799
the time that I have done it, it was more so her choice,

496
00:33:20.960 --> 00:33:23.880
her body, her choice. She
y'all on top and wanted to do it.

497
00:33:24.240 --> 00:33:31.079
I you say she like it was
one she it was one. Listen,

498
00:33:31.160 --> 00:33:37.640
I'm not I had I haven't had
one woman that I've had sex with

499
00:33:37.920 --> 00:33:42.359
without a condom that that it wasn't
like planned that way you planned it said

500
00:33:42.359 --> 00:33:44.279
that it wasn't planning. I mean, no, it's not planning. Planned

501
00:33:44.279 --> 00:33:50.519
to not use a condom. It's
crazy. No, that's not what I

502
00:33:50.599 --> 00:33:55.559
mean. If we don't you do
not use a condom. If you don't

503
00:33:55.640 --> 00:33:59.319
use a condom, or if you
if you go attempt to try to have

504
00:33:59.400 --> 00:34:02.160
sex with women without using the condom, they will They will stop you in

505
00:34:02.319 --> 00:34:07.199
your tracks very quickly. No,
if they're not women for the most part,

506
00:34:07.199 --> 00:34:09.679
if they not would it, they
will stop you on your woman.

507
00:34:10.159 --> 00:34:13.920
Before that, I was like,
you know, four player, we're kissing

508
00:34:14.000 --> 00:34:15.480
laws other stuff, and then I
got up to go get the condoms,

509
00:34:15.519 --> 00:34:20.559
like where are you going? Once
again? Can I ask? Just said,

510
00:34:20.639 --> 00:34:22.239
I just ask questions. It's already
definitely getting one of you. Asked

511
00:34:22.239 --> 00:34:25.039
me where I'm going? Already made
up that she ain't using it. That

512
00:34:25.199 --> 00:34:29.639
that's what I wanted to ask when
she said when she said where you going?

513
00:34:29.679 --> 00:34:31.960
Where you going, nigga? Where
are you going? Shoot this club?

514
00:34:32.039 --> 00:34:42.719
But shoot this club up right now? I heard that thing. I

515
00:34:42.800 --> 00:34:45.280
only got this little water pistol.
And now every two seconds he always sang,

516
00:34:45.519 --> 00:34:47.760
I got the thing on me.
You don't got the thing on me?

517
00:34:47.920 --> 00:34:54.199
Right? I got the thing the
pistol in Atlanta. But that was

518
00:34:54.280 --> 00:34:57.199
cool. We could have carried that
on the plane with us. Yeah,

519
00:34:57.280 --> 00:34:59.280
that one we could have brought with
us. The nerf gun. Yeah,

520
00:35:00.280 --> 00:35:02.719
oh my guy. So y'all know
y'are my dogs, right, So I

521
00:35:02.800 --> 00:35:06.639
want you to get me y'all input
on this situation. I know y'all be

522
00:35:06.679 --> 00:35:08.800
sick of my crazy dating stories,
but I swear they're all real and they're

523
00:35:08.840 --> 00:35:15.480
all ridiculous. Okay every time,
where are you find? So I'm talking

524
00:35:15.519 --> 00:35:19.280
to this guy, right and we
get into a bit of a tizzy because

525
00:35:19.280 --> 00:35:22.360
I don't want to give up new
coucie, right, Okay, So I

526
00:35:22.440 --> 00:35:24.039
spend the night. Um in the
morning he decides, you know, we're

527
00:35:24.079 --> 00:35:29.880
still gonna go to breakfast. Uh
yeah, we cuddle. You're playing with

528
00:35:29.920 --> 00:35:37.159
That boy had blue power. I
didn't. I had on a family reading

529
00:35:37.239 --> 00:35:45.559
your shirt. That's even Oh my
god. So listen. We go to

530
00:35:45.599 --> 00:35:49.000
breakfast the next morning, and on
the ride to breakfast, we're going through

531
00:35:49.039 --> 00:35:51.199
a little bit of back and forth
because I'm like, yeah, you know,

532
00:35:51.639 --> 00:35:53.719
I'm just a little selective with you
know who I'm having sex with right

533
00:35:53.760 --> 00:35:58.639
now, And he was like,
you know, I'm selective too. I'm

534
00:35:58.719 --> 00:36:00.519
selective too. I can show you
my hinge right now. This was a

535
00:36:00.599 --> 00:36:06.480
morning discussion after you guys didn't have
sex. Silent. Okay, He was

536
00:36:06.519 --> 00:36:08.119
like, I'm selective too. I
can show you my hinge right now.

537
00:36:08.599 --> 00:36:12.440
Right first, I don't know who
needs to hear this, but no woman

538
00:36:12.519 --> 00:36:15.840
ever wants to see your hinge ever. Okay, ever, you don't ever

539
00:36:15.920 --> 00:36:17.280
have to worry about that being a
conversation. We never want to see it.

540
00:36:17.599 --> 00:36:21.480
You trying to show us will never
prove your point. It's going to

541
00:36:21.559 --> 00:36:25.000
be a no. Right. So
my man pulls up his hinge righta,

542
00:36:25.559 --> 00:36:31.679
I just realized that you said,
I get bro. Yes, he pulls

543
00:36:31.719 --> 00:36:37.639
up his hinge. Right, He
pulls up his hinge, and he goes

544
00:36:37.679 --> 00:36:45.039
to his matches. This nigga has
about six hundred matches. Six hundred fucking

545
00:36:45.119 --> 00:36:49.519
matches. The same man who just
told me I'm out here being selective has

546
00:36:49.639 --> 00:36:52.280
six hundred matches. I'm not talking
about likes because I don't mind. Like

547
00:36:52.440 --> 00:36:54.920
you can't control who likes you.
Somebody hit the button. Ain't got nothing

548
00:36:54.920 --> 00:36:59.000
to do with you, right,
This man has taken his time to match

549
00:36:59.119 --> 00:37:02.440
with six hundred women, right,
and that's not the kicker of these six

550
00:37:02.599 --> 00:37:07.679
hundred women. It might have been
about ten conversations. All of them said,

551
00:37:07.760 --> 00:37:12.679
start chat, start chat, start
chat. What type of fucking obscene

552
00:37:12.760 --> 00:37:15.559
and security do you have where you
have to have six hundred matches and you're

553
00:37:15.599 --> 00:37:19.400
not even talking to all of them? Right? So I'm like, I

554
00:37:19.480 --> 00:37:22.559
don't understand, like what you're trying
to prove to me right now? Like

555
00:37:22.559 --> 00:37:24.880
now, don't get me wrong,
he's attractive, he has a nice job,

556
00:37:25.119 --> 00:37:30.880
Like he get bitches on or off
the apps. Right, So so

557
00:37:30.599 --> 00:37:32.800
I'm like, I don't know,
man, I just feel like you're having

558
00:37:32.840 --> 00:37:37.320
six hundred matches. It don't make
sense to me. Like so I'm like,

559
00:37:37.480 --> 00:37:40.599
okay, who I'm gonna call my
dog because my dog be on hinge,

560
00:37:40.920 --> 00:37:45.679
right, so I know I'm gonna
call my friend. And he was

561
00:37:45.719 --> 00:37:46.400
like, no, call him,
call him, call him, right?

562
00:37:46.880 --> 00:37:49.880
I call him Stanley. I'm like, yo, let me ask you a

563
00:37:50.000 --> 00:37:57.920
question first thing in the morning.
You're gonna first thing in the morning.

564
00:37:58.079 --> 00:38:00.800
Let me just get get this little
input. I have no idea what's going

565
00:38:00.840 --> 00:38:04.360
on. I'm I'm like half on
the bear, like, yo, what's

566
00:38:04.480 --> 00:38:07.599
up? She like I cant here. I'm like, where are you at?

567
00:38:07.639 --> 00:38:09.000
There's so much going on in the
background. She's like, don't worry

568
00:38:09.039 --> 00:38:12.880
about that. Don't worry about that. Now, I go ahead. I'm

569
00:38:12.920 --> 00:38:15.320
like, so, if a guy
tells me he's being selective, but he

570
00:38:15.400 --> 00:38:20.360
got six hundred matches, that's not
him being selective, right. He was

571
00:38:20.440 --> 00:38:22.599
like, this nigga got six hundred
matches. He's living it up. He's

572
00:38:22.599 --> 00:38:28.119
making me look out here, right, yo, this nigga getting holes.

573
00:38:28.960 --> 00:38:32.679
I'm like, six hundred matches,
there's a lot of I'm not even knowing

574
00:38:32.760 --> 00:38:36.559
hands or know nothing about that ship. Six hundred sound like a lot of

575
00:38:36.599 --> 00:38:39.840
anything, you six hundred is a
lot. I don't even get six hundred

576
00:38:39.880 --> 00:38:44.840
likes in a week. Ya.
You know what what time is? It?

577
00:38:44.960 --> 00:38:45.960
Is it twelve? I ain't think
I got six hundred steps in.

578
00:38:46.119 --> 00:38:51.320
Oh my god. I'm like no, really like doing makes sense. He's

579
00:38:51.320 --> 00:38:52.239
like, no, don't fucking make
sense, and you know it don't make

580
00:38:52.280 --> 00:38:55.000
sense. Cut up my phone with
this bullshit. I'm like, okay,

581
00:38:55.000 --> 00:38:58.880
I'm gonna call you back right.
So after I leave the guy I called

582
00:38:58.960 --> 00:39:00.599
standing, he's like, what the
fuck is going on with you? No?

583
00:39:01.280 --> 00:39:04.639
Before that, before you hung up, because I was like, she

584
00:39:04.760 --> 00:39:07.159
asked me that, And then I
was like it's real loud. I don't

585
00:39:07.199 --> 00:39:08.119
know if I was gonna speak.
I was like, nigga, you want

586
00:39:08.159 --> 00:39:14.480
a date? That because y'all know
Stanley loves to embarrass me when I am

587
00:39:14.639 --> 00:39:19.079
on dates. Yo. I remember
one time I was outside, all right,

588
00:39:19.239 --> 00:39:22.119
and I want to say I was
outside. Hear me. I was

589
00:39:22.280 --> 00:39:25.360
outside, Stanley calls me, and
of course I pick up the conversation.

590
00:39:25.480 --> 00:39:29.840
We're talking on the phone and he
like, nigga, you want a date.

591
00:39:29.840 --> 00:39:31.519
You gotta keep it brief with him, yo. He's like, nigga,

592
00:39:31.559 --> 00:39:35.039
you on a date. I'm like
no, And the guy who I'm

593
00:39:35.039 --> 00:39:45.159
with us like, yes we are, yo, yo. Yo, bus

594
00:39:45.280 --> 00:39:50.559
going twenty right under it, right
there, bus already going twenty. I'm

595
00:39:50.599 --> 00:39:53.719
sorry to that man. That's for
the record. Um, I didn't know

596
00:39:53.800 --> 00:39:59.280
we were on a date. Six
hundred matches is wild? Yes, Y

597
00:40:00.119 --> 00:40:04.280
added to you going out with anybody? Yeah, so the story can tell

598
00:40:04.280 --> 00:40:06.480
you you're right, Stanley. So
I told him like, yo, my

599
00:40:06.519 --> 00:40:08.519
friend said that's not normal, right, And I'm like, my friend,

600
00:40:08.599 --> 00:40:13.559
you know, worn is at a
hundred yo. So he was like I'm

601
00:40:13.599 --> 00:40:15.719
not gonna lie because I said,
you know, my friend is handsome,

602
00:40:15.840 --> 00:40:19.800
he's on Hinge, he get bitches
like, I don't think he has,

603
00:40:20.000 --> 00:40:22.039
you know, all these matches.
Let me call him like. That's how

604
00:40:22.079 --> 00:40:25.239
the conversation started. It was fine, quick, one Hinge. You know

605
00:40:25.679 --> 00:40:30.159
if you get I don't even have
ran about lights of matches, matches,

606
00:40:30.360 --> 00:40:32.320
the six hundred numbers, Okay,
I can tell you right now. I

607
00:40:32.360 --> 00:40:36.320
don't know. That's the last time
I've seen it. It was definitely probably

608
00:40:36.519 --> 00:40:37.960
like six six. And that's what
I said to him. I'm like,

609
00:40:38.000 --> 00:40:40.480
yo, six hundred. But here's
the thing. This, this is what

610
00:40:40.519 --> 00:40:43.599
I was trying to get him understand. I'm like, Yo, when I'm

611
00:40:43.679 --> 00:40:46.159
one Hinge, I'm never on long
right, but I'll get like six hundred

612
00:40:46.320 --> 00:40:50.159
likes, and I will match with
maybe three people. That's different, but

613
00:40:50.480 --> 00:40:52.639
three people. I like you too, and you just like every fucking body

614
00:40:52.840 --> 00:40:55.519
tender is like I'm a Hinge is
like tender, right, I would assume

615
00:40:55.960 --> 00:40:59.719
I mean like the same, Like
that's the last thing I can remember,

616
00:40:59.800 --> 00:41:02.000
like a tender type thing where it's
like you just swipe left or right like

617
00:41:02.159 --> 00:41:08.119
somebody. Yes, yes, yes, that means he's this. This is

618
00:41:08.199 --> 00:41:12.480
the definition, yo, This is
the definition of a for everybody asked,

619
00:41:12.519 --> 00:41:16.400
nigga, like, you are literally
for everybody at this point, toy story.

620
00:41:16.440 --> 00:41:22.480
Remember when the pig is hit.
I'm like, yo, so we're

621
00:41:22.519 --> 00:41:25.480
back to the back to the story. Back to the story. So I'm

622
00:41:25.519 --> 00:41:28.199
like, yeah, you know,
he said, no, it's not that

623
00:41:28.360 --> 00:41:30.480
thing. He then looks at me
and says, I'm not gonna lie the

624
00:41:30.599 --> 00:41:35.159
fact that you call him handsome.
That don't sit well with me. I

625
00:41:35.239 --> 00:41:38.039
don't really like that. I'm like, bro, he get bitches like,

626
00:41:38.639 --> 00:41:42.760
I don't know what you want me
to say. The crazy part is anytime

627
00:41:42.880 --> 00:41:46.760
somebody compliments Stanley or asked me about
Stanley, I do the same thing exactly

628
00:41:47.119 --> 00:41:51.360
exactly. And we didn't even have
that conversation exactly. So it's like I

629
00:41:51.519 --> 00:41:53.920
am acknowledging that. He gets bitches
like I know that other women find him

630
00:41:53.960 --> 00:41:58.039
attractive, that doesn't mean I do. So then he got incivilains about that

631
00:41:58.079 --> 00:42:00.840
too, and it just was a
down health thing there. Yeah, you

632
00:42:00.880 --> 00:42:02.679
can't start telling other niggas about how
you feel about other niggas because they ain't

633
00:42:02.679 --> 00:42:06.119
gonna go well with them. Niggas, but don't but you. But he

634
00:42:06.280 --> 00:42:07.960
was so hype and so excited when
he thought Stanley was gonna be on his

635
00:42:08.000 --> 00:42:10.199
side. I mean, good job
to put him in his place. I'm

636
00:42:10.480 --> 00:42:14.159
with you, but I'm just saying, if you want that relationship to have

637
00:42:14.320 --> 00:42:16.159
to continue, don't talk about other
niggas with the nigga that you would,

638
00:42:17.559 --> 00:42:22.320
especially somebody that she's just close to, because it draws a certain type of

639
00:42:22.440 --> 00:42:24.800
energy that you necessarily don't want to
have to deal with at first. But

640
00:42:24.880 --> 00:42:28.119
then this goes back to what we
were talking about the beginning of the episode.

641
00:42:29.039 --> 00:42:30.880
It's not a real friendship, no, y'all that that can be that.

642
00:42:31.039 --> 00:42:34.239
But if I'm sitting here and it's
like I'm gonna date with you and

643
00:42:34.320 --> 00:42:37.199
it's like, well, Stanley handsome
and Stanley got this cool, fuck Stanley.

644
00:42:37.360 --> 00:42:40.639
But it's point though, like I
went, I went, now to

645
00:42:40.800 --> 00:42:45.360
what you're saying exactly, I'm just
throw some I wouldn't. I wouldn't.

646
00:42:45.360 --> 00:42:46.760
I wouldn't bring that up. I
hear what you're saying, and I agree.

647
00:42:46.800 --> 00:42:50.480
I wouldn't just randomly be like,
oh my god, it's so sunny

648
00:42:50.480 --> 00:42:52.360
outside, yo, Stanley, so
fucking handsome, Like I wouldn't do that,

649
00:42:52.639 --> 00:42:55.840
Like that's not I agree that is
a bad join for sure, But

650
00:42:57.000 --> 00:42:59.960
don't try to make me seem like
com crazy when I got a crazy nigga

651
00:43:00.000 --> 00:43:02.000
who I can ask and he's going
to confirm that I'm not crazy, like

652
00:43:02.119 --> 00:43:06.320
you know, the fuck a lot
of crazy, foolish niggas out here.

653
00:43:06.440 --> 00:43:09.159
Yeah yeah, leader of the fucking
pack, Leader of the fucking cuckoo Club.

654
00:43:09.239 --> 00:43:12.599
Okay, listen, so we're gonna
get into the edible portion of our

655
00:43:12.599 --> 00:43:17.239
show. The edible portion of our
show is when I read questions that you

656
00:43:17.360 --> 00:43:22.119
guys sent in, and this is
me ignoring them all. So the questions

657
00:43:22.119 --> 00:43:24.880
that I have today are actually some
of the questions that were left over from

658
00:43:24.880 --> 00:43:29.320
the live show. Um. But
if you do have a question or story

659
00:43:29.639 --> 00:43:32.239
or something you would like me to
talk about and it's too long to fit

660
00:43:32.320 --> 00:43:36.920
in the prompts that I usually put
up on Thursdays, you can always DM

661
00:43:37.039 --> 00:43:39.639
it to me at Chocolate Chip etzip
at Stormy p p e A. Or

662
00:43:39.800 --> 00:43:45.320
you can email it to me at
inquiries at stormyp dot com. Okay,

663
00:43:45.239 --> 00:43:52.840
so the first question is great sex
enough to end? I'm sorry it is

664
00:43:52.960 --> 00:44:00.559
bad sex enough to stay in a
good relationship. You have a good relationship.

665
00:44:00.679 --> 00:44:05.320
It's like best bond I've ever had
with someone. But the sex is

666
00:44:05.440 --> 00:44:08.960
horrible, and it could be any
type of horrible. It can be dry,

667
00:44:09.159 --> 00:44:12.920
it can be whacked, it can
stink, it can be any type

668
00:44:12.960 --> 00:44:15.400
of horrible. I had that before. But you are in love. You

669
00:44:15.519 --> 00:44:20.280
have never been fulfilled in every other
I I'm a filter nigga. So the

670
00:44:20.320 --> 00:44:24.119
sex gotta match. The sex gotta
match. So there's no way we could

671
00:44:24.159 --> 00:44:29.119
have a great, like fun bond. And how can we have fun and

672
00:44:29.159 --> 00:44:32.360
then go home to born corny as
sex? So yeah, you can't love

673
00:44:32.440 --> 00:44:37.880
me through the corny side. Only
only if you're willing to learn and understand

674
00:44:38.119 --> 00:44:42.360
that this ain't what it should be. Now what if she's willing to learn,

675
00:44:42.639 --> 00:44:45.559
but she's a slow learner. I
mean, well, we're gonna get

676
00:44:45.599 --> 00:44:49.400
them training wheels off somehow. There's
not a time limit on it. If

677
00:44:49.480 --> 00:44:52.559
we if this is the best bond
that, I'm willing to make it work.

678
00:44:52.000 --> 00:44:54.360
But if you don't catch you on, I'm like, listen, we

679
00:44:54.480 --> 00:44:59.679
might not have to have sex.
So now we're abstin it. Were just

680
00:44:59.760 --> 00:45:01.639
going there's color with each other.
No, No, we're gonna do something.

681
00:45:01.920 --> 00:45:12.320
You're No, it's the best join
you ever had. Sure if it's

682
00:45:12.320 --> 00:45:15.119
the best join I ever had if
the sex ain't as good as I wanted

683
00:45:15.159 --> 00:45:17.400
to be, because that comes with
being the part being I need. I

684
00:45:17.480 --> 00:45:21.599
need to as just as nasty as
I am. And that's what That's what

685
00:45:21.679 --> 00:45:24.480
I'm saying. It's like I was
watching a short clip about something where it's

686
00:45:24.519 --> 00:45:30.360
like, don't engage in stuff that's
like not where you are in life on

687
00:45:30.519 --> 00:45:32.760
your level, and I kind of
went against it, but I also was

688
00:45:32.760 --> 00:45:36.719
like on board with it because it's
like, why would I get involved with

689
00:45:36.760 --> 00:45:39.880
somebody who isn't as nasty or freaky
as I am knowing that it may cause

690
00:45:39.920 --> 00:45:44.920
a riff at some point, regardless
of how much we may have in common,

691
00:45:45.039 --> 00:45:46.480
how good our relationship may be,
or it's like, then we could

692
00:45:46.480 --> 00:45:50.199
be friends, we can be really
good friends. I'm gonna go to the

693
00:45:50.239 --> 00:45:53.760
next really good We're gonna fly to
that land and come to thee oh God,

694
00:45:55.079 --> 00:46:01.039
put her in the master class.
Come on? If I am,

695
00:46:01.880 --> 00:46:06.280
I don't know. I don't know. I think it depends on why they're

696
00:46:06.320 --> 00:46:08.480
bad. Why is the sex bad, especially if you're a woman, Why

697
00:46:08.559 --> 00:46:12.039
is the sex bad? Connection?
Really isn't there? No? Not really?

698
00:46:12.039 --> 00:46:15.760
Because what if like for women smell
that can be like you can you

699
00:46:15.880 --> 00:46:19.320
can get that. This is what
I'm saying. That's why I think it

700
00:46:19.360 --> 00:46:22.000
depends on what the bad is.
Yeah, but see that's not the continuous

701
00:46:22.119 --> 00:46:25.239
like this is. When you say
bad, I'm thinking like you with somebody,

702
00:46:25.400 --> 00:46:29.079
can you be with them with bad
sex forever? Yes, Like she

703
00:46:29.360 --> 00:46:31.320
is never gonna be able to ain't
got to think forever. She's never gonna

704
00:46:31.320 --> 00:46:34.239
be able to throw back. She's
never gonna be able to do the golf

705
00:46:34.280 --> 00:46:37.639
talk three thousand, she's never gonna
be doing you don't have you maybe you

706
00:46:37.679 --> 00:46:42.440
can learn to like fifteen hundred.
It ain't gotta be three thousand long.

707
00:46:42.480 --> 00:46:44.960
They're gonna be like, give me
a little half of something, you know,

708
00:46:45.800 --> 00:46:50.679
compromise, compromise, They're gonna compromise, compromise, They're gonna compromise like

709
00:46:50.840 --> 00:46:53.599
whatever. So it's like it ain't
got to be top tier everything. But

710
00:46:53.719 --> 00:46:58.440
it's just I'm not just like y'all
not gonna deal with bottom of the barrel

711
00:46:58.480 --> 00:47:01.679
stuff mentioned that to do or women
either to that matter, nobody should have

712
00:47:01.679 --> 00:47:06.639
to deal with anything that that's not
giving them one hundred percent joy or at

713
00:47:06.679 --> 00:47:09.599
least some type of joy on a
deli basis right, because the sex is

714
00:47:09.639 --> 00:47:12.719
going to be like a thing where
it's like, what do you call it?

715
00:47:13.000 --> 00:47:16.440
It's the word I'm looking for.
M I don't know. I'm gonna

716
00:47:16.440 --> 00:47:21.800
be real with both of y'all.
What you're saying makes complete sense. But

717
00:47:22.000 --> 00:47:25.719
I think Stan is being honest because
a majority of people that I know that

718
00:47:25.840 --> 00:47:29.719
be out here cheating on their wives, cheating on their long term girlfriends,

719
00:47:30.079 --> 00:47:32.880
is because they are just not pleased
with the sex. Like a lot of

720
00:47:32.960 --> 00:47:38.079
people will venture out to something different
simply because their girl is never in the

721
00:47:38.199 --> 00:47:42.480
mood, or simply because their girl
never wants to do what they want to

722
00:47:42.519 --> 00:47:45.000
do, and it's not even nothing
extreme or extravagant, they just don't want

723
00:47:45.039 --> 00:47:50.480
to or they choosing not to go
forward. And this is how I've been

724
00:47:50.559 --> 00:47:53.000
doing this. What's your problem?
That something yesterday and I had to connue

725
00:47:53.000 --> 00:47:59.719
with myself. I mentioned it was
like a key little message. It was

726
00:47:59.719 --> 00:48:01.280
like to resentment. I'm not sure
who which one of you said that,

727
00:48:01.400 --> 00:48:05.079
but it was like, Rod,
we'll be in these situations where it's like

728
00:48:05.079 --> 00:48:07.039
a road to resentment. We will
sit there and we will deal with all

729
00:48:07.079 --> 00:48:12.519
of this stuff just to end up
resenting that person for dealing with all the

730
00:48:12.599 --> 00:48:15.480
things that they ended up putting us
through. It's like, why why not

731
00:48:15.639 --> 00:48:17.039
just say, listen, this is
not what I like, this is not

732
00:48:17.159 --> 00:48:21.960
what I'm into. I don't enjoy
this. Get on board or get lost.

733
00:48:22.599 --> 00:48:24.119
We got to do it. It
works for you at the end of

734
00:48:24.119 --> 00:48:27.800
the day. So it's like,
I believe him when he says when he

735
00:48:27.840 --> 00:48:30.360
says certain things. Of course,
obviously I'm just joking around just being a

736
00:48:30.400 --> 00:48:34.960
man and man, but in general, I mean space that were usually end

737
00:48:35.320 --> 00:48:40.079
most men not dealing with that shit. Okay, go to the next question.

738
00:48:40.440 --> 00:48:45.159
All right, how do you get
rid of someone that you have made

739
00:48:45.199 --> 00:48:51.880
crystal clear that you are not interested? You have stopped engaging, stop entertaining,

740
00:48:52.280 --> 00:48:54.719
and stop replying, yet they still
proceed. I'm gonna read that again.

741
00:48:55.199 --> 00:48:59.000
How do you How do you get
rid of someone that you have made

742
00:48:59.039 --> 00:49:02.480
crystal clear that you are not interested. You have stopped engaging, stop entertaining,

743
00:49:02.639 --> 00:49:07.599
and stop replying, yet they still
proceed. That is a stalker.

744
00:49:07.920 --> 00:49:13.480
That's goned four pledge stalker. He
or she has a purpose and is to

745
00:49:13.599 --> 00:49:16.719
piss you off. Listen, I'm
not gonna give what I want, So

746
00:49:16.760 --> 00:49:20.360
I'm just gonna make your life a
living hell. The only thing you can

747
00:49:20.440 --> 00:49:24.000
do is block him. And some
people in my homegirl just so crazy as

748
00:49:24.039 --> 00:49:29.800
I me at the airport yesterday,
just told me about this, and she

749
00:49:29.960 --> 00:49:32.400
was like, Yo, I'm scared
to block him because I don't want him

750
00:49:32.480 --> 00:49:37.920
to find another way to find me
or contact me. I'm like, damn,

751
00:49:37.039 --> 00:49:39.280
that's really crazy, because all right, you know what, bit,

752
00:49:39.400 --> 00:49:43.719
I've been trying to text you all
this time and then you got there the

753
00:49:43.719 --> 00:49:45.159
blocker me. Are you know what? I'm pulling up to the job now.

754
00:49:45.199 --> 00:49:49.480
I'm finding out where you're at.
I'm gonna check everybody social media.

755
00:49:49.559 --> 00:49:52.360
I think that you know that it
has events as something. I'm gonna see

756
00:49:52.360 --> 00:49:55.360
if you everybody's stories. Oh yeah, we are Umi and r and B.

757
00:49:55.519 --> 00:50:01.039
I'm at you Me and RMB shout
out to you. That's my guys.

758
00:50:01.400 --> 00:50:06.320
Um Okay, now what part does
this play in? I thought men

759
00:50:06.480 --> 00:50:08.880
love the chase, they love the
game, so it's that it's could he

760
00:50:09.039 --> 00:50:14.880
be so adamant because he just feels
like she's that much more worth it?

761
00:50:15.480 --> 00:50:19.480
The chase only is only for us
a little bit. It's like back in

762
00:50:19.519 --> 00:50:22.320
the day, like, don't make
me sound too crazy. I know a

763
00:50:22.400 --> 00:50:27.320
lot of us play this game,
but growing up like elementary, catch a

764
00:50:27.360 --> 00:50:31.079
girl, freaker girl, Okay,
we don't know basically free. But why

765
00:50:31.119 --> 00:50:35.760
do you keep saying we because y'all
niggas was in the yard, all right,

766
00:50:36.480 --> 00:50:40.719
but you're only chasing for a little
bit because she still wants you.

767
00:50:40.800 --> 00:50:45.000
But it's like she's shown that she
still wants you. But it's like I'm

768
00:50:46.039 --> 00:50:49.719
interest. Yeah, it's like I
chase because you show interest. But when

769
00:50:49.760 --> 00:50:52.000
you don't show interest, there's no
chase. Now, I'm just following or

770
00:50:52.480 --> 00:50:55.599
fucking stalking like you said now,
I was like, now you're doing too

771
00:50:55.719 --> 00:50:58.480
much. Yeah, it's a big
difference. And I was like, I

772
00:50:58.519 --> 00:51:05.519
didn't I didn't sit seventeen good mornings
in ten minutes. I think that a

773
00:51:05.679 --> 00:51:09.000
part that we often miss when we're
dealing with people we're not interested in that

774
00:51:09.000 --> 00:51:15.039
we've chosen to cut off, is
if they're making you feel uncomfortable and you

775
00:51:15.159 --> 00:51:19.559
have made crystal clear that you're not
interested, a you have to act like

776
00:51:19.679 --> 00:51:22.199
you're not interested. You have to
stand on that I'm not replying, I'm

777
00:51:22.239 --> 00:51:25.679
not interested. No, thank you, you cannot reply to any of their

778
00:51:25.679 --> 00:51:30.440
advances. And b if you feel
like yo, you wilding a little bit,

779
00:51:31.079 --> 00:51:34.639
you have to tell that person like, yo, I've made it clear

780
00:51:34.800 --> 00:51:37.920
that I'm not interested. At this
point, you're making me feel uncomfortable.

781
00:51:37.840 --> 00:51:43.039
Please adjust, Please adjust, because
sometimes people really do think they're living in

782
00:51:43.119 --> 00:51:45.239
a love story. In his mind, he think he prints charming bitch,

783
00:51:45.440 --> 00:51:49.280
he going around the village trying to
figure out who shoo does this spin,

784
00:51:49.559 --> 00:51:51.960
But in all actual reality, he
going around the village about to get a

785
00:51:52.000 --> 00:51:55.280
fucking PFA. Okay, so you
need to be clear and say, yo,

786
00:51:57.599 --> 00:51:59.679
thank you, I appreciate it,
but I want you to know,

787
00:52:00.039 --> 00:52:01.840
as I said before, I'm not
interested. And at this point you're making

788
00:52:01.840 --> 00:52:07.119
me feel uncomfortable listening me off.
There's too many times where those same guys

789
00:52:07.280 --> 00:52:10.519
running the women that like that little
bit of chase and like the little extra

790
00:52:10.519 --> 00:52:13.719
shit, or like that, oh
I like the crazy guy shit. And

791
00:52:13.840 --> 00:52:15.840
so now that's a good point.
Now you get the crazy guy who actually

792
00:52:16.480 --> 00:52:20.800
it's a little crazy, and it's
like he crazy to the wrong person,

793
00:52:21.199 --> 00:52:23.599
right, because that bitch from a
suburbs don't like that shit. We don't

794
00:52:23.639 --> 00:52:29.239
like that this ain't little little little
uh little feast from down not a little

795
00:52:29.239 --> 00:52:34.760
feast. Come on now with this
woman? Ain't there nothing to nobody names

796
00:52:34.800 --> 00:52:39.800
out there? Now? How I
get this? It's a little from It's

797
00:52:39.800 --> 00:52:44.840
a little Vicky from down twenty ninth
streets. Yo, man, Um,

798
00:52:45.079 --> 00:52:46.639
thank y'all so much for kicking with
me today. Thank y'all for coming down

799
00:52:46.679 --> 00:52:50.920
to Atlanta to support me. I
really appreciate that. Um, thank y'all

800
00:52:50.960 --> 00:52:52.519
for sitting in the top room with
me. Everything that you guys have been

801
00:52:52.559 --> 00:52:55.440
doing all weekend, I appreciate it. Did just get I don't know where

802
00:52:58.679 --> 00:53:01.840
y'all want to drop your socials or
then you want to drop your corneas clothes?

803
00:53:01.880 --> 00:53:06.320
Like, what's up? You wear
it in promos? I'm listening.

804
00:53:06.360 --> 00:53:07.840
Why would you? Why would you
trying to do that's wrong with the black

805
00:53:07.840 --> 00:53:14.559
community now that that you just did? So? Do I wear your clothes

806
00:53:14.559 --> 00:53:16.840
all the time? Yeah, but
we're in front of carry trying too good?

807
00:53:17.039 --> 00:53:21.239
Oh oh, I'm always following me. Main was eleven. I mean,

808
00:53:21.320 --> 00:53:24.079
don't hack me no more. I
was talking at main Wash eleven.

809
00:53:24.400 --> 00:53:29.679
Um on everything. I'm not on
everything. I'm just on Instagram and everything.

810
00:53:29.840 --> 00:53:31.280
I'm not on everything. Yeah,
I'm just saying, whenever you want

811
00:53:31.280 --> 00:53:34.760
to go look me up, that's
the name you're gonna look up because I'm

812
00:53:34.800 --> 00:53:37.079
not using another name. So,
um, that's that's where it's at.

813
00:53:37.400 --> 00:53:42.320
The apparently everything but not every everything
but not everything. Like I just said,

814
00:53:43.199 --> 00:53:45.559
that was a good one. That
was good. That's good. That

815
00:53:45.679 --> 00:53:51.239
was good. Uh Stan, we
trust Twitter, Instagram. I finally got

816
00:53:51.280 --> 00:53:52.760
my name back on Instagram. It
was memorable. Hack Man, finally,

817
00:53:53.119 --> 00:53:58.599
you don't they took that page and
ran with that page, but they let

818
00:53:58.639 --> 00:54:02.239
my name go. They freed my
name name back. Um, the brand

819
00:54:02.360 --> 00:54:07.159
loyalty is for everyone. Loyalty isn't
for everyone. I'm sorry. We didn't

820
00:54:07.360 --> 00:54:10.599
start drinking and it got hot.
I'm getting delirious in here. Um book

821
00:54:10.639 --> 00:54:15.559
me for DJ and you could always
go on the same same social instant.

822
00:54:15.559 --> 00:54:19.320
We trust and we haven't fun out
Onlanda. We're not done, as won't.

823
00:54:19.320 --> 00:54:22.400
We've done this and you're doing the
next thing. And we have side

824
00:54:22.760 --> 00:54:27.719
side outside. Listen they outside.
I'm probably gonna go edit. You're gonna

825
00:54:27.760 --> 00:54:30.639
edit right at at this day point, Oh my god. Once again,

826
00:54:30.679 --> 00:54:36.400
I want to thank some Maya and
the something extraordinary Content House for letting us

827
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use your facilities. Everything is amazing. Everything has been wonderful. This house

828
00:54:39.760 --> 00:54:45.480
is crazy crazy. If you are
in the Atlanta area and you're looking for

829
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a place to film your podcast,
you're looking for a way to support black

830
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businesses, You're looking for a ways
to support black female owned businesses. You

831
00:54:52.840 --> 00:54:54.679
want to have a birthday, a
baby shower, bought mitzvah, a divorce

832
00:54:54.800 --> 00:54:59.920
party, anything, Okay, you
want to come to the Something Extraordinary Content

833
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House and all of your wishes will
come true. All right, follow me

834
00:55:02.800 --> 00:55:07.960
on the ground at Stormy p p
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835
00:55:07.239 --> 00:55:13.239
And if you don't remember anything else, please remember loyalty isn't for everyone.

836
00:55:13.400 --> 00:55:15.079
I love you, guys. I
want to see you next week. Peace,

837
00:55:21.519 --> 00:55:22.559
Same as it everyone was