WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:02.960 I was thinking on the way into work this morning that doing the Minnesota Goodbye 2 00:00:03.120 --> 00:00:07.080 is actually one of my favorite parts of everything we do. And I don't 3 00:00:07.080 --> 00:00:12.000 know why. I think it's because there's no time schedule, there's no buttons 4 00:00:12.039 --> 00:00:16.120 to push or things to monitor. There's no worry. Also, if something 5 00:00:16.239 --> 00:00:18.960 does bad, you know what I mean, because it's kind of like we 6 00:00:19.079 --> 00:00:21.640 just read emails and move on to the next email. Yeah, it's not 7 00:00:21.679 --> 00:00:25.679 like a bit we created where if it bombs, we all know immediately because 8 00:00:25.679 --> 00:00:30.079 no one called and it's like, oh God, get out. And I 9 00:00:30.079 --> 00:00:32.759 think it's fun because we really kind of get a good reaction. Every day 10 00:00:32.799 --> 00:00:36.079 we get a dozen or so emails on the Minnesota Goodbye and we try to 11 00:00:36.079 --> 00:00:39.600 read every one of them. So let's dive in because we got a boatload. 12 00:00:39.679 --> 00:00:42.840 Here we go. Good morning. Quick email for Fallon, you mentioned 13 00:00:42.840 --> 00:00:46.479 that you think your hands are aging. Girl sunscreen on top of your hands. 14 00:00:46.479 --> 00:00:49.799 I use it every day. Also, I have some arm length UV 15 00:00:50.039 --> 00:00:53.399 protecting gloves that I keep in my car. I know it's a little ridiculous, 16 00:00:53.399 --> 00:00:57.079 but I also use those to protect my forearm tattoos. Sunscreen all day 17 00:00:57.280 --> 00:01:00.880 or a day reapplied to or so our every two or so hours when in 18 00:01:00.920 --> 00:01:03.359 the sun, especially in the summer. I'd like to say I'd do it 19 00:01:03.359 --> 00:01:08.680 for skin health, but I'm really just not aging gracefully and will extend my 20 00:01:08.719 --> 00:01:12.640 youthful looks as long as possible. Love you all, Thank you, Lisa. 21 00:01:12.840 --> 00:01:17.480 I definitely could do a better job of putting sunscreen on my hands, 22 00:01:17.480 --> 00:01:19.200 for sure. I mean, I try to use sunscreen as often as I 23 00:01:19.239 --> 00:01:23.280 can. I'll admit the past couple of weeks, I've been doing a lot 24 00:01:23.280 --> 00:01:26.319 of walking and I have them putting sunscreen on because it's you know, cloudy 25 00:01:26.319 --> 00:01:30.519 and gloopy. But I know that they say that's like when they get tricks, 26 00:01:30.519 --> 00:01:33.760 So I got to start wearing it next one. Hello all, I'm 27 00:01:33.799 --> 00:01:36.400 so glad you all exist. My world is better with you all in it. 28 00:01:36.480 --> 00:01:40.640 Anyway, I need podcasts. I'm looking for some without the stupid twenty 29 00:01:40.640 --> 00:01:46.239 minute musical, boring, dumb intro, any kind. I love all subjects 30 00:01:46.359 --> 00:01:49.840 from Stacy. The only one that I regularly listen to is and it's not 31 00:01:49.879 --> 00:01:52.599 your thing, but you say you love all of them, so I'm going 32 00:01:52.640 --> 00:01:55.400 to throw it out there. It's called Take to the Sky. The Air 33 00:01:55.439 --> 00:02:00.400 disaster podcast, and it's two women, Shelley and Stephanie. They're probably thirty 34 00:02:00.439 --> 00:02:04.079 five, they're both moms, they're both married, and they love travel, 35 00:02:04.159 --> 00:02:08.039 and they love aviation accidents and the reports and the how and the why and 36 00:02:08.080 --> 00:02:12.120 the stories of the people behind the scenes and whatever. And it's not your 37 00:02:12.159 --> 00:02:15.120 thing. I get it, but that's my That's the only podcast that I 38 00:02:15.199 --> 00:02:16.759 regularly listen to. And even wrote to them and I said, hey, 39 00:02:16.759 --> 00:02:21.080 I've been doing radio for a really long time and I actually coach radio shows. 40 00:02:21.319 --> 00:02:23.159 I said, you two are naturals. You're just great. And they 41 00:02:23.159 --> 00:02:25.759 wrote back and I was like, I got a little starstruck. That was 42 00:02:25.800 --> 00:02:29.840 kind of cool. Okay, I have a handful I can recommend, so 43 00:02:30.080 --> 00:02:35.680 let's start with. My favorites are National Park after Dark and be There in 44 00:02:35.759 --> 00:02:38.800 five and Scrubbing in Those are the three I listened to very regularly. Obviously, 45 00:02:38.879 --> 00:02:43.599 my podcast Right Person, Wrong Time, shout Out, Not Skinny but 46 00:02:43.639 --> 00:02:46.039 not Fat is all celebrity stuff. It's just so. I mean, if 47 00:02:46.080 --> 00:02:50.039 you don't arn into that, that's not it for you. Armchair experts. 48 00:02:50.039 --> 00:02:53.360 A great one that's the dak Shepherd One Second Life is she talks about a 49 00:02:53.400 --> 00:02:57.199 lot of famous people, but they're people who started out in one career and 50 00:02:57.199 --> 00:03:00.879 then they found huge success in a totally different career. If you like unbiased 51 00:03:01.000 --> 00:03:06.919 news and you're looking for that, Breaking Points is my top recommendation. Smartness 52 00:03:07.000 --> 00:03:08.719 is a funny one. It has actors Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Will 53 00:03:08.800 --> 00:03:14.599 Arnett. If you like as astrology stuff, my friend Ravens podcast Astro Candy 54 00:03:14.639 --> 00:03:19.120 would be a good one. And Norah McInerney, she's from here. She 55 00:03:19.199 --> 00:03:21.800 has the terrible things for asking, but now she has a daily one that's 56 00:03:21.840 --> 00:03:24.560 really quick and it's terrible. Thanks for asking. Yeah, And then that's 57 00:03:24.599 --> 00:03:30.120 great and it's the super successful podcast. It's like national, worldwide, huge. 58 00:03:30.520 --> 00:03:35.800 But she also has a new one which is like an every morning short, 59 00:03:36.240 --> 00:03:38.599 positive kind of podcast, and I honestly can't think of what it's called, 60 00:03:38.719 --> 00:03:42.280 but maybe that will help. There are ten that I listen to. 61 00:03:43.680 --> 00:03:46.879 Next email, it says, love you all, thanks for working so hard 62 00:03:46.879 --> 00:03:49.360 to bring us so much entertainment and laughter. You can use my name if 63 00:03:49.400 --> 00:03:53.560 you want to thank you. Melissa. I've lived in downtown Minneapolis for the 64 00:03:53.639 --> 00:03:55.759 last twelve years, and I deal with people shouting things at me, it 65 00:03:55.879 --> 00:04:00.280 just comes with the turf. I now have a two year old. Then 66 00:04:00.319 --> 00:04:02.560 I'm pregnant, but like to think I still have my quote city edge, 67 00:04:02.719 --> 00:04:06.800 winky face, smiley face. Somebody hollered something am I two year old and 68 00:04:06.879 --> 00:04:11.240 I this afternoon, and I didn't say anything back. But I found myself 69 00:04:11.319 --> 00:04:15.719 later wondering if I could come up with some sort of all encompassing comeback that 70 00:04:15.719 --> 00:04:19.160 would be appropriate to shout back to people in a variety of situations. And 71 00:04:19.360 --> 00:04:24.519 while I'm with my kids, something like cool your jets, Brah, can 72 00:04:24.600 --> 00:04:29.319 you please help me come up with an all encompassing, pithy, reasonably appropriate 73 00:04:29.399 --> 00:04:34.519 comeback. This is what I'm gonna do on the spot. No I can't. 74 00:04:35.519 --> 00:04:39.720 I'm gonna save this when I'm going to forward it to Jungle po flag 75 00:04:39.759 --> 00:04:42.360 on it. Where's the flag icon there? It is, I'm gonna flag 76 00:04:42.360 --> 00:04:45.319 it. That would be good for the radio show, and we could actually 77 00:04:45.439 --> 00:04:48.279 people would come up with one for you, because this is something that I 78 00:04:48.319 --> 00:04:51.920 don't understand. In twenty twenty three. I'm embarrassed for other men, and 79 00:04:51.920 --> 00:04:56.040 I'm ashamed of other men. And this is why men get, you know, 80 00:04:56.199 --> 00:04:59.560 we get lumped in with all the doughheads. We'll say something like you 81 00:04:59.639 --> 00:05:02.360 look, you know, I mean that ass is fat or whatever they yell. 82 00:05:02.480 --> 00:05:05.279 Jenny used to go. They had. My favorite one was Jenny got 83 00:05:05.319 --> 00:05:09.639 yelled at, damn girl, you're thick. Yeah, And to me, 84 00:05:09.680 --> 00:05:15.560 it's like, God, you know better than that? What do you well? 85 00:05:15.639 --> 00:05:18.560 They should well not if that's what they're accustomed to being acceptable and growing 86 00:05:18.639 --> 00:05:23.800 up around. Um. I also would like want to I want ideas too. 87 00:05:23.879 --> 00:05:26.560 I mean that would be like, I think it's important too in front 88 00:05:26.600 --> 00:05:30.199 of your kids to show like a way to stand up for yourself, like 89 00:05:30.240 --> 00:05:32.199 that's not acceptable behavior. You don't get to talk to me like that. 90 00:05:32.399 --> 00:05:38.199 You know what he's gonna say, though, bitch yeah well or worse yep. 91 00:05:38.800 --> 00:05:43.160 And that's why it's like I wish all guys didn't get and I don't 92 00:05:43.160 --> 00:05:46.680 think they do anymore. I think everybody realizes not all guys are like that. 93 00:05:46.959 --> 00:05:50.199 Nearly all of us are kind and respectful, But when you walk downtown 94 00:05:50.399 --> 00:05:56.959 and you get damn girl, you're thick, it's like God, just that's 95 00:05:57.040 --> 00:06:00.639 that's awful, all right. From talking about the most beautiful song, I 96 00:06:00.680 --> 00:06:04.560 started listening to some older songs from people like Mariah Carey, Whitney Houston, 97 00:06:04.600 --> 00:06:09.800 Celindi on, etc. And I came to a conclusion in my opinion that 98 00:06:09.800 --> 00:06:14.120 Whitney Houston is probably the goat. I agree with that absolutely. I think 99 00:06:14.120 --> 00:06:16.839 she's the best singer of all time. There will never be anyone like her. 100 00:06:17.120 --> 00:06:19.360 I would agree with that when the only person that comes close, in 101 00:06:19.399 --> 00:06:24.879 my opinion is Leona Lewis from the songs like a moment in time, I 102 00:06:24.920 --> 00:06:27.720 have nothing, I will always love you. Oh, so the case I 103 00:06:27.759 --> 00:06:30.199 see, they're not listening Leona Lewis songs, they're listening Whitney Houston songs A 104 00:06:30.279 --> 00:06:33.800 moment in time, I have nothing and I will always love you. Yeah. 105 00:06:33.839 --> 00:06:38.439 I think that she was an amazing singer. It's just amazing. It's 106 00:06:38.480 --> 00:06:43.519 just such a shame that she led such a troubled life. And you look 107 00:06:43.519 --> 00:06:46.959 at a life like Whitney Houstons and you go, even if you were addicted 108 00:06:46.000 --> 00:06:50.839 to drugs, you could hire the best rehab, the best people to be 109 00:06:50.879 --> 00:06:55.639 around you. But I think that Whitney Houston's character was a little bit flawed. 110 00:06:55.680 --> 00:06:59.439 I think she had a beautiful face, she was famous, and she 111 00:06:59.560 --> 00:07:04.360 was ultra talented, but that doesn't ever mean that she was a quality, 112 00:07:05.160 --> 00:07:09.399 good decision making human being, and I think we give her credit for things 113 00:07:09.399 --> 00:07:12.879 that she was not right. And also a lot of people obviously can hit 114 00:07:12.920 --> 00:07:17.319 Whitney Houston notes. It's just the tone, it's every bit about her voice. 115 00:07:18.040 --> 00:07:21.279 It's hard to explain because obviously Selene Dion can hit Whitney Houston notes. 116 00:07:21.360 --> 00:07:26.000 You know what I mean in Selein Dion's a phenomenal singer, but there's just 117 00:07:26.120 --> 00:07:32.519 something so comforting to the ear, especially with Whitney. Next one, I 118 00:07:32.560 --> 00:07:35.720 was on vacation last week, so I'm getting caught up. Last week, 119 00:07:35.759 --> 00:07:40.079 my five year old son was wearing swim shirts almost constantly, and one day 120 00:07:40.120 --> 00:07:44.000 he told me his pimple hurt, and I asked him and asked me to 121 00:07:44.000 --> 00:07:46.959 look at it. He meant nipple, so we had a giggle about that. 122 00:07:47.120 --> 00:07:50.600 Out of the mouths of babes, his swim shirt rubbed his little nipple 123 00:07:50.720 --> 00:07:55.439 raw. It popped into my head that I'm pretty sure that Dave talked about 124 00:07:55.480 --> 00:07:59.759 putting band aids on his nipples when he ran to stop bloody nipples. So 125 00:07:59.759 --> 00:08:01.399 we kept band aids on for the rest of the trip, and it stopped 126 00:08:01.480 --> 00:08:05.519 hurting. I just want to say thank you. It's funny how the show 127 00:08:05.560 --> 00:08:09.480 weaves itself into listeners lives and maybe a new record for number of instances the 128 00:08:09.480 --> 00:08:15.079 word nipple was used in an email for me at least love you guys, 129 00:08:15.199 --> 00:08:20.759 upside down smiley face. That's from cammy true story. I don't run distances 130 00:08:20.839 --> 00:08:24.399 like I used to. But when I was training for a marathon, there 131 00:08:24.399 --> 00:08:28.920 are times when you'd run ten, fifteen, even a twenty mile training run, 132 00:08:28.399 --> 00:08:33.440 and I was in the several times, and I'd learned pretty quickly that 133 00:08:33.559 --> 00:08:35.440 your shirt bounces up and down on your nipples. And I was out in 134 00:08:35.480 --> 00:08:39.080 the rain on the Excelsior Trail one time, and I think I ran five 135 00:08:39.080 --> 00:08:43.200 miles out, five miles back, and I had blood streaming down the front 136 00:08:43.200 --> 00:08:46.200 of my shirt from bloody nipples on a yellow shirt. I'll never forget it. 137 00:08:46.440 --> 00:08:50.159 And then I heard about nip guards. If you're a runner and you 138 00:08:50.240 --> 00:08:52.720 run distance, you already know what nip guards are. Are you going to 139 00:08:52.799 --> 00:08:58.159 title this nip guards? And they're little. They looked like tiny little round 140 00:08:58.799 --> 00:09:03.559 band aids that are meant specifically to stick on your nipples, and they're a 141 00:09:03.639 --> 00:09:05.679 must. I mean men and women. They're a must if you run distances, 142 00:09:07.240 --> 00:09:09.759 band aids come off and sweat a lot of the time. Yeah. 143 00:09:09.759 --> 00:09:13.759 So a great picture of Jake running in a white top when he was training 144 00:09:13.759 --> 00:09:18.799 for his I think he had half a marathon and yeah, bloody nipples through 145 00:09:18.840 --> 00:09:20.120 a shirt and I was like, stop, let me take a picture. 146 00:09:20.159 --> 00:09:24.799 I was super pregnant, got my picture of him, laughed, drove off. 147 00:09:24.360 --> 00:09:28.039 There is a we're kind of out of emails now because there's something I 148 00:09:28.039 --> 00:09:33.080 want to say for the actual radio show, including embarrassing moments for kids, 149 00:09:35.279 --> 00:09:41.279 and then servers court and then the Minnesota Goodbye about living in downtown Minneapolis and 150 00:09:41.279 --> 00:09:45.360 people shouting things. There was something that I was going to bring up. 151 00:09:45.399 --> 00:09:48.039 I brought it up to you the first thing that I came in this morning. 152 00:09:48.240 --> 00:09:50.559 It's dicey, even for the Minnesota Goodbye. Should I bring it up? 153 00:09:50.799 --> 00:09:54.080 Sure? Why not? Okay? So I have a friend, and 154 00:09:54.120 --> 00:09:58.240 I don't want to give too much information because I don't know who listens to 155 00:09:58.279 --> 00:10:00.759 the show, but I think it's safe. They live in an another state. 156 00:10:00.919 --> 00:10:03.240 Yeah, and it's not even my friend, it's her friend. So 157 00:10:03.440 --> 00:10:07.159 her my friend went for a walk with her neighbor, and for context, 158 00:10:07.159 --> 00:10:13.399 they're both in their fifties. And my friend's friend told my friend, who 159 00:10:13.440 --> 00:10:16.600 repeated it to me, she said, I just never thought I'd be at 160 00:10:16.600 --> 00:10:20.039 a point in my life where I'm so unhappy. And they started talking, 161 00:10:20.120 --> 00:10:24.399 and again, she's fifty five ish, I don't know, and she's married. 162 00:10:24.440 --> 00:10:26.960 She's like, I never thought I'd be at a point in my life 163 00:10:26.000 --> 00:10:30.120 where I'm so happy at this point in my unhappy at this point in my 164 00:10:30.120 --> 00:10:33.159 life. Or her marriage is not going well and I don't know how long 165 00:10:33.320 --> 00:10:39.000 or why exactly, but you know, marriages get to be very stale sometimes 166 00:10:39.080 --> 00:10:41.200 and then you go, do I want to start over? I'm fifty five 167 00:10:41.240 --> 00:10:45.879 years old, Do I want to start over? And it turned out that 168 00:10:45.960 --> 00:10:50.360 her friend had found on her husband's electronics, his tablet, her phone, 169 00:10:52.120 --> 00:10:56.799 evidence that he was hooking up with younger men. And I don't mean probably 170 00:10:56.840 --> 00:10:58.519 eighteen year old. I don't know. I don't know exactly, but I 171 00:10:58.600 --> 00:11:01.360 knew, you know, they were doing oral I don't know if he was 172 00:11:01.440 --> 00:11:07.480 giving or receiving. But she found out that she was that her husband was 173 00:11:07.519 --> 00:11:11.120 hooking up with younger men for oral sex. She doesn't know for how long 174 00:11:11.159 --> 00:11:16.360 it's been going. She doesn't know for how long, and she didn't confront 175 00:11:16.440 --> 00:11:20.679 him about it, And the reason that I gather and I didn't say, 176 00:11:20.720 --> 00:11:24.080 why didn't she and why? But I only know she didn't confront him about 177 00:11:24.120 --> 00:11:28.519 it? Why? Well, probably because what do you say, I know 178 00:11:28.600 --> 00:11:33.000 you've been having sex with men and I'm leaving? Or what do you do 179 00:11:33.039 --> 00:11:37.440 with that information? What do you do with that information? It depends on 180 00:11:37.480 --> 00:11:39.919 the person. I think. If you find out your partner is having sex 181 00:11:39.960 --> 00:11:43.720 with men or their same sex or whatever, and you didn't know this and 182 00:11:43.759 --> 00:11:48.080 you're not okay with it and you're not planning on leaving, what do you 183 00:11:48.080 --> 00:11:50.120 do with that information? Do you? I think she just is going to 184 00:11:50.120 --> 00:11:56.840 pretend she doesn't know, and their crappy marriage will continue on being crappy. 185 00:11:56.200 --> 00:12:00.320 If she's that unhappy, I understand because they've obviously been together for a long 186 00:12:00.360 --> 00:12:03.200 time. But I hope she doesn't think like, oh, I'm in my 187 00:12:03.279 --> 00:12:05.960 fifties, I'm too old to start over. Because that's not too old to 188 00:12:05.960 --> 00:12:09.559 start over, No, it's not. I mean, I firmly believe that 189 00:12:09.600 --> 00:12:16.480 you should be at least moderately happy in your life, and so I feel 190 00:12:16.559 --> 00:12:22.559 so sad that she wasn't happy to begin with, and then she finds this 191 00:12:22.600 --> 00:12:24.799 out. I could never not say anything. I just couldn't. It would 192 00:12:24.840 --> 00:12:26.679 It would eat me alive. Well, it would not, you would. 193 00:12:28.000 --> 00:12:31.240 They wouldn't even seem like the same person anymore. It's like, it's like 194 00:12:31.519 --> 00:12:33.080 the truth. It's like, in a way, I would be like, 195 00:12:33.159 --> 00:12:35.879 if I found out, for example, that my partner was attracted to other 196 00:12:35.919 --> 00:12:39.519 women and was hooking up with other women, I wouldn't blame her for having 197 00:12:39.559 --> 00:12:41.879 those desires. I wouldn't at all. It's like, hey, you know 198 00:12:41.960 --> 00:12:46.399 what, you have your desires. After a while, you're going to act 199 00:12:46.440 --> 00:12:50.440 on those desires. But cheating is cheating, but cheat but cheating is cheating. 200 00:12:50.440 --> 00:12:54.080 But not only that. To find out something that was a truth about 201 00:12:54.120 --> 00:12:58.559 her that I didn't know, It's kind of like finding out that your husband 202 00:12:58.600 --> 00:13:01.879 had been a family, well another family. But I was going to say 203 00:13:01.919 --> 00:13:05.960 something like they had been in the nineteen eighty four Olympics. I'd be like, 204 00:13:05.000 --> 00:13:07.799 are you kidding me? Yeah, I didn't know that you were in 205 00:13:07.879 --> 00:13:11.279 the nineteen eighty four Olympics. Oh yeah, I mean I meant. I 206 00:13:11.399 --> 00:13:13.799 meant to tell you but it's like, I don't know who you are, 207 00:13:15.440 --> 00:13:22.320 but I'm gonna guess that it goes both ways. I am certain that there 208 00:13:22.360 --> 00:13:26.399 are plenty of men who have desires for other men, but they're in a 209 00:13:26.480 --> 00:13:30.799 straight, supposedly monogamous marriage and a cup of other men. I am also 210 00:13:30.840 --> 00:13:35.960 going to guess that there are plenty of women who are in a straight monogamous 211 00:13:35.960 --> 00:13:39.279 marriage that it's like, you know what, I've always had a thing for 212 00:13:39.320 --> 00:13:43.240 women I'm gonna go hook up with. I think my big question is where's 213 00:13:43.279 --> 00:13:46.519 he meeting these guys? I mean, where do you meet? It's got 214 00:13:46.519 --> 00:13:48.720 to be online? Is he paying them? I mean I could tell you 215 00:13:48.799 --> 00:13:52.279 stories, but I know some of these people listen, So I'm not going 216 00:13:52.320 --> 00:13:58.360 to share stories of people that have like cheated and had mistresses and dominatrix people 217 00:13:58.399 --> 00:14:01.600 in that type of thing. But I don't know what what do you do 218 00:14:01.639 --> 00:14:03.440 with that information when you find out your husband is hooking up with other men 219 00:14:05.519 --> 00:14:09.840 and you're fifty five. I'm going to guess that anybody who writes in would 220 00:14:09.879 --> 00:14:13.240 say I would leave him immediately, he's out of my house, etc. 221 00:14:16.080 --> 00:14:18.200 But I don't know that that's the truth with everybody. Yeah, so weird 222 00:14:18.240 --> 00:14:22.440 topic. I know it's a weird topic, but if you have any thoughts 223 00:14:22.519 --> 00:14:26.080 on that, send him in to Ryan Show at KDWB dot com. That 224 00:14:26.159 --> 00:14:28.879 is the address for the Minnesota Goodbye. And thank you for all the emails, 225 00:14:28.919 --> 00:14:31.759 whether you've never emailed, or emailed once, or you email every week 226 00:14:31.799 --> 00:14:35.679 and some people do. That's what we do. The whole show around is 227 00:14:35.960 --> 00:14:41.519 emails and stories that our friends told us that we shouldn't tell on the Minnesota Goodbye.