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So this is kind of a companion
piece to an episode I just did on

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my show Really Am a Grandparent.
You can find that where you're all fine,

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all your fine podcast. I've been
in the mood to talk, and

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I have a different podcasts where it's
appropriate here and appropriate there. So I'm

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kind of moving around and working out
my feelings about a recent thing that just

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happened. That is, my grandmother, my last grandparent alive, my last

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grandmother, last anything, passed away
at age ninety eight, almost ninety nine,

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day before nine ninth birthday this week. And it was a very complex

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relationship. But I took about a
little bit of that over on the other

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show, I Really Have a Grandparent. You can check that episode out over

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there, and you hear what I'm
talking about. I'm thinking I want to

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bring up here myself comfortable about here
is that I'm fifty plus, only fifty

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five in four months, literally literally
in four months. My birthdays May tenth,

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and this is we're talking. This
is January sixteenth. My birthday is't

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about four months. I be fifty
five. I now have no grandparents.

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I also know that I am fortunate
on some level, even though we weren't

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close to the end, I could
still say I had a grandparent in my

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forties and fifties. I have a
lot of friends who are over for they

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don't have it, or we're older. I don't have grandparents anymore. My

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grandparents know and barely have parents.
That's another thing. Both of my biological

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parents are still alive, James Sr. And Benita. And many of you

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know this or may not know this, that I almost lost my mother last

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year. She almost died, but
she came back. So I was already

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faced with the mortality of having no
mother. It was injured. It was

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very interesting, very interesting. You
guys, some of you guys have gone

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through this. You understand we're at
that age. We can lose a parent

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in any age, but we're at
that age where it's just more likely to

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start losing parents and losing older people
in your life. And then you wake

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up and then you're like, I'm
the older person. That's what's really a

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trip. I got asked by a
friend who's younger than me, and I

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know he meant no disrespect, and
I know that he came from a place

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of love and support and true interest, but he said to me, I

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kN I wanna interview for this this
this thing, and and I I we

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really need a place where our elders
are heard. I accepted the invitation,

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of course, but I had to
laugh. I'm like, but I am

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one of the elders, one of
the elders, that's my position now this

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point. And I found I'd be
very interesting. That's all I wanted to

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say today about this. I was
like, I'm just finding that I am

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f when you're fifty plus, you
are you just there are some truths that

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are just you can't And I