Hi everyone, and welcome back to between Us girlies. I am Bailey,
I'm Casey, I'm brand I'm Lindsay. And how's it going everyone? Welcome
back, Happy hump Day. It's Wednesday for you guys. How's every one
doing good? We've made to episode two. I really did it. We
did it. The first one's already out. We survived. Now it's time
to just keep it going. Now we're rolling now it feels like natural,
I know. So, how's everyone's weekend? I haven't seen Casey or Brandon
since the last time I recorded. We haven't seen each other in a week,
right, Yeah, which like felt weird not seeing you guys this weekend.
I know, like also exciting because I'm like excited to debrief today with
you guys too. We have a lot to tell you. I can start.
I had like a very Philly weekend. I started my weekend on Thursday
and I went to this place called the Mulberry, which I've never been to
before. It was like a lit happy hour. It's right next to the
Comcast Center, so if you're trying to meet some business, daddy's head over
there. Me and my boyfriend we fucked up garlic Knots Buffalo chicken dip.
The food was amazing. They had like pumpkin spic espresso martinis. And then
after that I saw Wicked, which is in Philly for like a month,
so I saw a cute musical. And then Friday, I went to a
party with my boyfriend's friends, which was fun. It was like disco themed,
said drinkers, people get into the theme. Yeah, Like they played
like all like abba and they had like the whole top floor rented out,
which was really fun. That place is fun. How was it? Yeah,
it was honestly really fun. Like I had a blast. That's like
a different vibe. Yeah, it was a totally different vibe, different crew.
And then Saturday I went to Wilder for brunch and it was so delicious,
but me and my boyfriend we only ordered carbs. Did you get the
bread, Yeah, we got the We got cinnamon. The cinnamon rolls looked
crazy. They were crazy nuts. Yeah, now don't do that. I'm
posting a TikTok later, so like subscribe. But yeah, we were so
disgustingly full after that that we took like a three hour nap and then like
on a Saturday night, I feel disgusting saying this. I went to the
gym. I went to the gym on time on Saturday night, like seven
thirty, and it was a really great time. There was nobody there I
expected. And then my weeknd regret is that I wish I went out with
you guys on Saturday night, but I had the tailgate on Sunday, which
that will be the first and last. Like, no shade, I've grown
up going to the tailgates. I love them, just over stimulating for me,
like in this era, I would rather watch a football game at the
bar, like I think, I'm I do one tail gate a year.
I did that one, maybe I'll give it another go with you guys,
but I'm just like, no, there was a time and a place in
my lives for tailgates, and going to the Cowboys one was dumb on my
part. It was so crowded beyond like took me like thirty five minutes to
get there. Like it was just like no, but yeah, I wish
I went out with you guys on Saturday because it looked fun. What it
was crazy because and you came home from your dinner. So Brandon and host
Way walk in my apartment and I was getting ready to go out to dinner
with Bailey, so I texted Bailey. I'm like, oh, like,
let's go out to dinner. I knew that, like you were doing stuff
with Jake and Branda just come home with her sway and I was like,
let's go to dinner and just like be weird. We'll see where God takes
us. And obviously we went to Figo because we don't know any other restaurants,
and Bailey and are just like just started drinking. Like we ordered baby
appetizers and we just decided to draw like I'd order meals. We ordered money
balls meal. Like we looked at each other and we were like, what
should we eat? I got Barata and she got me balls and that was
all she wrote. So quite literally, I feel like you should I feel
like you should get you should do the deep dive into our weekend. Oh
boy, okay, So I want everyone to bear with me in my voice
because clearly I was out and about. I only went out one day this
past weekend, but it just you made it count. I made it count.
You just have to live life to the fullest. So Lindsay and I
did our thing. What's our problem is together. I don't know what it
is. We like feed into each other's energy. I'm like, terrible,
we can't stop. So we started that figo. We only had about like
what three drinks. That was like the pregame. So we're like, all
right, let's meet our friends out at the bar. And it was like
eleven o'clock. We had a shot. We had a green tea shot as
well before we left. Deadly. We get to the bar of our choice,
as you guys know, and we walk downstairs, like the downstairs.
I'm like, it's barsaol. We were at barstool. Let them know.
Let me just set the scene. There's a downstairs there and there's a few
people there with tables that we know somehow. That always happened anytime we go
into barstool. Someone we know it has a table, right, And we
weren't going there for the tables either, Like we were just there to meet
our friends. And I know, whenever I'm near bottle service or a table,
that's my demise. No, you get Bailly, you have like a
wet like I can't even put it into words, because the luck that you
have is absurd. Because we walk downstairs, we're like in there. We
see a few people here and there, Hey, what's up? And Bailey
goes to the table and immediately the bottles come out and she is running center.
She first in line for this bottle. Like it was It's crazy,
how you finessa Exactly, I'm not kidding. Something fall and so like shots,
I had no business. I was just mixing a lot, like I
already had tequila drink and I was taking voxa shots. Excuse me sick.
DJ was bumping, I was sweating like a pig. Was it crowded?
It was so crowd crowded. I was gonna say, with the cowboys playing,
but that was a Saturday, What am I talking about? But I'd
say my biggest regret out of all of that is because I got so sweaty
because I was wearing a sweater because it's wintertime. I was so drunk.
I went to the bathroom. Didn't feel like waiting the girl's line, so
I asked the bouncer if I could use the men's bathroom to wipe my sweat
off. So I so I did just that, and I'm just standing there's
a met there's a line for the guys room too, and I'm just standingstairs.
Yeah, I'm standard wiping that sweat bang sticking to my head, like
I look like a hot mess. The crazy thing is I went to the
bathroom with you. When I watched you come out of the men's restroom,
and I was like, what the hell? Like, why did she go
in there? You were like that was so stupid for the guys in there.
Yes, yes, full bathroom attended everything. Wow, was it?
Is it a mail? Yeah? I guess yeah. And then you went
like you stayed out. Yeah, so the clock's turned back on Sunday,
And I feel like I'm always out on that. Well, I guess I'm
always out, but I'm always out on like the Daylight Savings. And so
when we were there, like the clocks turned back, but I feel like
everyone forgot about it because it's probably two o'clock at that point, so I
just had to stay out and go to an after hours bar. And I
need to hear about this. It was the best place I have been to
in my four years of living in Philadelphia. Like that place has a reputation,
Like I've heard that they throw down there, throw down? Are we
going to Gatekeeper? Are we going to drop the name? It was the
Winston in Philadelphia, and so it's after hours, twenty dollars cover, but
I know you did not be Oh no no, I did not pay that.
But it was so fun up because the clocks turned back, people didn't
go there right away, so they forgot. It was like open I guess
or whatever. Two DJ's. There was a downstairs DJ lounge and remind me
of element O kind of. I'm just saying all these names, but it
was very like like vibey, like disco weee, not disco wee, kind
of like sexy a little yeah. Like it was like, I don't know,
it was just such a good vibe down there. And then upstairs Bailey
Witherspoon's home, trap like hip hop like Gucci Man, just nasty strip club
anthems. I was just getting down. I knew no one there. Here's
the thing, like I'm just like a social butterfly. So I just go
out and about like I wasn't with Lindsay. She left me. Linda,
I will never forgive you, never for you should have text. I feel
like in that moment we shouldn't have left. You should have called me and
said stop being a bad friend and not go let this guy's dogs out for
the listeners. Bailey claimed that she was not going to be going home with
a certain gentleman who she said she was leaving with when we were leaving the
bar, So I assumed, as not to get in her way, that
I should also go home. But no, she was just taking a little
pitstof She didn't touch this man and went to the bar exactly. I said,
I was going to do that and you should have stayed with me.
Did you go with said man to to the bar? No, So I
went with his friend who's like, it's like someone who lives in this building.
I've never met this man before. I don't know his name, but
he looks like I can't tell I can't tell you. Did you guys just
walk in and say like shake hands, see you later. We were together
the whole time. He's like, want to go upstairs, want to go
downstiously? It was nothing like flirtatious, nothing like friend. Yeah, And
I read that and I was like, thank you so much for letting me
come with you. I was like, I had such a good time.
I had to do my trick where I well, I was drinking tequila at
three am there and I was like barely like relax. So I did my
thing where I go to the bar and ask for just a seltzer like soda
water with a line to make it look like I was drinking. That's like
my go to little trick. It's also like hydre just like stopped the drinking.
Then I went to someone else's house. Okay, that's why I did
buy that. That is a good trick though, because like sometimes you just
need something in your hands, like when it's late at night, you don't
even want to drink anymore, but you want the like social aspect to have
something in your hand. Yeah, I do like that. Yeah, And
even if you're ever out with like friends and you just want to stop drinking,
just get like a selter like not an alcoholic one, just like get
a water and a cup or something just hold in your hand. It's a
good trick. But I feel like that was my your weekend? How's your
weekends? I had such a wholesome weekend. I had Jake's family. We
had a family wedding on Friday and it was nice, and then Saturday we
decided to be really wholesome when we went to like his nephew's soccer game,
and it was just like that was a vphew soccer and it was just like
being around all these families and like their children. I was just like,
Wow, this is like a different life than we usually live. Like these
are like normal people who have like normal jobs and little kids that play soccer
on Saturday mornings, Like they can't go out and drink. It was just
so we were glad that we could go. And we didn't have any like
steak in the game. We just went. We went to a diner,
and then we literally chilled at home all day and didn't do anything. I
like, wish I went out. I don't. I didn't have like fomo.
But when I woke up the next morning, I was like, I
could have gone out. I could have done something that's get the right thing,
taking care of your body and join your nice boyfriend too. I'll be
ready the next time, Like I'm coming in guns blazing the next time we
go out. We need we're going to be a problem. Yeah, we
need a really good fall going out. I feel like we've been a little
chill this fall. I want like a crazy night where we're all kind of
just out and who knows what happens. Yeah, I know, I feel
like Dorothy Explorer, Figo barstool. That's our little map, just some map
of things. But yeah, that was pretty good weekend. I'm so glad
I got to see you guys today. I know I didn't see this weekend,
but we were onto a new segment everyone. So last week Brandon brought
up a great, great point that I have a lot of boys in my
life and a lot of drama going on, as you can tell from this
past weekend. I mean, we just had two men go into that.
But I think I want to start off this segment of Bailey's Boys with some
trash. That's good idea. Let's take on the let's trash. Men who
have almost so many have boyfriends, men who have girlfriends. There is no
reason, and it just disgusts me that you should be in anyone's DMS with
if you have a girlfriend. Because have you guys ever gotten a woman?
Well, I mean I get I guess you guys ever gotten a woman to
woman DM? I don't even know what that is. I don't think I've
gotten one. I've been tempted to send one, but I haven't gotten one.
So to explain what a woman to a woman DM is pretty much kids
you. Yeah, it's when you I guess as the girlfriend. Right,
So, as a girlfriend, you have an inclination that your boyfriend is cheating
or being shady, so you ask another girl and in order to set the
scene instead of coming in guns blazing, you're like, hey, woman to
woman, is my man in your DMS? Or woman to woman do you
know my man? And like it's kind of like girl code for being like,
hey, this is a shitty situation. I need you to be real
with me. Sometimes not speaking from experience, but it's the opposite way around
where a random girl slides into your DMS to tell you that your boyfriend is
actually the worst woman to women. Yeah, girl to girl, it's a
girl code for like, I need you to tell me that my boyfriend's piece
of shit? So do we? I would like say that we fuck with
those right, Like right? I think there's two types of girls. There's
a girl who me appreciates it, and then there's a girl who's in denial
where they're like, oh, this girl's so annoying. She reached out to
me like women to women. I think the problem too with that is that
some girls like to send those dms, like, there are girls who enjoy
being the one that your boyfriend's being shady with. So they're like, I'm
gonna let her know, like just so you know your man's in mind.
Like, people enjoy that, and that's the one I don't welcome when they
ruin it for everybody. Yeah, they're like excited to tell you that your
boyfriend's being shady versus someone being like, hey, I'm coming to you because
I like think highly of you kind of thing. Yeah. So with that
being said, I received a woman to a woman DM around this time last
year and it was from so I used to hook up this I haven't touched
him or seen him in person for probably maybe three years now, three years
since this DM, Like, I do not talk to this man. And
apparently when he was texting me he had a girlfriend. I did not know
that, but I did not give him an inch or anything. He's freaking
annoying. He's probably like, what three years younger than me. I'm like
an old geezer at this point. So imagine it was a Monday. Imagine
getting to work and you see a DM saying is this your number? And
then the like it says plus one like full my phone number. I was,
and I see the mutual friend is that guy? And my heart sunk?
But like, I also haven't been texting this kid, so I really
wasn't like that crazy, but like I'm actually getting that text. Is this
your phone number? My full phone number? I say, question mark,
and she's like is that your phone number? I said, yeah, girl,
but just end up. She I felt bad because she just seemed heartbroken
and she was just going through his text and she's like I saw that,
like he asked for nudes. I'm like, yeah, you saw. I
said, no, right, babe, you saw your boyfriend get deny.
I'm like you saw that. Rand like there's no reason for these d be
going on. But I was like listen, girl, whatever. She's like,
okay, thank you. If he contacts you again, would you care
to let me know he's been crying and pleading to me. I'm like,
oh, babe. So it was a situation where like she saw her man
doing shady shit. I'm sure with not only just me, but she's like
holding on for you for this shit. And then they like bring like now
you're involved, Like now if he texts you, you have this like devil
on your or angel on your shoulder, being like, oh, I have
to let her know, but it's also not your relationship, not your business,
and you clearly don't care about this. I do not know that man.
No, So after we originally post our podcast, I get a DM
from him saying, Hey, me and my ex broke up. I'm sorry
she was crazy. Pardon no, ma'am, Like, it's just so sick
with that, Like you clearly are just so like disgusting. What makes you
think I would even try to hook up if you've have a girlfriend. I
just don't like homewreckers. That's not a thing. Like I'm stumbling around.
Called her crazy, that's like what that's a very flag. I think if
a guy calls his ex crazy, he's the crazy one, because like girls
are crazy to some degree, but the way that guys are like, oh
my ex she was so no, you made her crazy, you made her
insane, you made her say because she found out the truth, and you
just probably gaslighter, Like I mean, I got blocked. The way you
speak about your exes is like so like on a date with somebody, you
you have to be so careful with that shit, Like there is just a
fine line between like being honest about a situation and just like then almost like
exposing yourself. And it's like no, like the way you're telling the story
is not adding up, Like you don't have to go out of your way
to trash your ex on a date with somebody new, Like I would rather
just like not hear about it or just hear the honest truth. Yeah,
Like is that even a conversation starter, Like, oh, let's talk about
my ex? Like that's right, it's a freak date. Yeah, some
people are crazy and bring it up, but it's not like a you shouldn't
talk about it. I would be so taken aback, but that's like a
third date for me, like and I'm like serious, and it's like okay,
like I want you to know that. Like I have dated people before,
but I don't know's it's a weird kind of lined across. I think,
Yeah, I feel like every relationship is. I feel like I didn't
talk about Xes till like way far in, Like we were like seven or
eight months before we sat down and were like, hey, what was your
path? Like we had talked briefly, but we had like the real talk
like late. But I know some people that are way more upfront about it
and say in the beginning, yeah, that's very interesting. Now a woman
to woman DM, I've never as a man, I've never gotten Okay,
I guess that's not true. I've gotten dms from like people being like,
hey, have you talked to this guy before? I'm talking to him?
And I used to talk to someone who was batshit crazy, let's just say
that. And someone actually recently DM me like a few months ago and was
like, this guy is flexing that he dated you, like he like bringing
me up, being like I dated that Philly influencer and I'm just like okay,
why And she's like this the guy who DM me was like he seems
really crazy, like would you have any advice? And I was just like,
dude, block him, like he's nuts, Like watch it, watch
the fuck out. Don't you love to? I mean I love to see
someone like who you've parted ways with because there's a certain behavior that you didn't
like about them, and like they kind of repeat, like it gives you
like validation that like you made the right choice. Like it's I haven't talked
to this kind of like two years and you're still pulling this crazy shit like
dropping my name for whatever reason, Like you were a weirdo. You've been
a weirdo, and you're always gonna fucking be a weirdo. And one thing
I don't fuck with is a fucking weird Yeah, weirdo was such the biggest
Philly insult. Too, Weirdo was my face. It's a weirdo and loser.
If I'm in a heated argument and I call you a fucking weirdo or
a fucking loser, or you did something to really get under my skin,
like you you provoked, you wanted to provoke me, I am provoked like
that. They calling someone a loser is like my reason to live, Like
I just love when you're doing so like grade school, Like it's like something
you would say on the playground, but it just hurts. Like if you
compliment, if you insult someone's outfit or someone's like anything, they could just
be like whatever, I don't care about their opinion. But if you're like
you're a fucking loser, how are you going to defend that? Viewers,
Casey just pulled out the fingerpis, how are you going to to defend it?
No, you're a fuckingser. Oh, never think about like saying like
a loser, like in pastic that's so mean. I'm here for grade school
insults. Let's bring them back. Does shave the beard? Sanna? How
that feels personal nasty? It's so rude. Oh god, oh my goodness.
I love you guys. You guys are funny. So with that,
I want to dive into this next little thing. So with that same man,
he is like, here's your tape for today. He thinks. I
don't answer this man, ever, So what in his god damn mind would
he think I would answer a text sing I'm in your city. Bro.
You know if the only man I've ever answered that text to was Aubrey Drake
Graham when he performed at the Wells Fargo Center, That's the only man that
said I'm coming to your city, like texted you Mini. I was like,
Rake, unless you're a celebrity, you being in first off, in
your city. We live in Philadelphia, and sir, you do not live
that far from here, so don't act like you're flying across the country.
Unless you are a celebrity, you do not have the right to tell someone
I'm in your city. Also, what does that even mean? Like it
would be one thing that they're like, oh, like i'm around, like
if you're trying to meet up or like get a drink or something like I'm
down. It's like, I'm in your city cool the time, like enjoyed
Crosshouse, Like I don't know, it's a Tuesday night, I'm going to
bed six o'clock in the afternoon. I don't care. Don't tell me you're
in my city. No. It's so it's which is so weak, like
so lazy, like like literally say like, hey, I'm in Philly,
Like do you want to grab a drink while I'm here? That changes the
vibe totally, Like it's not great, but it's still like okay, like
whatever, but like I'm in your city. You are not important. Who
do you think you are? What are you flying in by helicopter? Are
you here for like a fucking government event? I don't give a fuck.
I don't care, honestly, just be a sleeze ball and drop your pin
and I'll be like, oh, you're nearby and you want to fuck there
you go, No, I'm in your city. Like it's the equivalent of
being like can I have your snap? Like it's just so immature, like
take it somewhere else. We are grown adults. You do not need to
be saying that, Oh, you guys are funny today, it looks like
explain you know. The third one that I hate is when they someone tms
you and their Instagram bio is moves in silence. Oh you could not quite
literally move in any less silence. If you have put that into your keyboard
and entered it in something as public as your Instagram bio, you need to
change it to like I move in earthquakes, Like there's nothing silent about the
way you move, like and it's like the prayer or like the emoji,
because they're like silence Like that Casey always brings up which tickles me is the
black screen when someone's Instagram story is just a black screen with white text,
and it's always like I need you to give an example of like the weird
like they will. It'll be like two am and they're posting a black screen
with white text, and it's like, I can't deal with lay mass fake
people at you. I've only got real ones in my circle. You know
who you are. It's like, no, shut the fuck up, no
one gives a fuck you are not like you're not speaking in like proverbs and
you're like this advice channel. You are a random ass dude on Instagram.
No one cares. It's like a subtweet, but like yes, they're trying
to make it like so so public, like just say you want attention,
Like just say that? Or what are those things in the dms now where
they're at the top, it's like little bubbles when you could put almost like
status. People are doing shit like that, Like oh, no one likes
me anymore. Put that shit somewhere else in your diary, like I like
we were putting like going away stasses up there, like doing that shit too,
like it's for attention. I'm like, just stop. It's like what
we used to post on Facebook in like twenty ten when we would like go
to a football game and then come home and be like saw my crush tonight?
Lol, Like no, we don't need to be doing that now,
put it in your diary. Let's move in silent. Yeah, they're be
careful, they move in silence. I think we should do I love where
this conversation is going. I think we should make our pyramid rankings types of
DMS we should that we've received, Like so I guess we should do bad
ones. Yes, it's like bad MS at the top is like your least
favorite genre of DM to receive, and at the bottom still like bad,
but like not as bad, like almost like bad cringe. Top is insufferable,
and I feel like we should make it across like not just like men
dming like any kind of like so at the bottom, something that's annoying but
not as annoying as others is people that swipe up to every single story with
an emoji, like on a hundred a fire and it's like cute, thank
you, but like every single story. And yes, there is someone I'm
thinking of in particular who I know you guys are thinking of who does this
to everything every single an emoji and emoji. I'm just like, bro,
if you want to talk that bad, send me a text. I'm not
going to answer it. But I'm also not going to answer your DM.
Yeah. To be honest, though, I have people like that and it
kind of hurts my feelings. They don't do it because then I'm like,
what's wrong with this story? Does the food look bad? Do you not
want to know where I am? Yeah? Do you not want to know
where my outfit's from. I'll link it, I'll send you might like to
know it, but I'm offended you do. You guys feel the same about
people who like stories though, like avidkers, No, I kind of think
it's cute me too. It's like you didn't like. I don't get like
a notification when that happens. I just like, I'm like, oh,
like what I'm doing. I wasn't into that before and I just recently got
into it now I love it now. I just want to like everyone's story.
It's my way of flirting. I like your story the other day.
Why don't you ever like my story? Oh? I did? Okay?
I think also at the bottom and this, honestly, it may be a
hot take, but I think that the girls who are part of those pyramid
schemes who like it rhymes with I'm great or I'm not going to say the
brands, but you can use your head or like you know what I'm talking
about. They'll be like, hey, babe, I totally noticed your profile
and it's so ascetic. Is that even English? I love you so much
and miss you from high school. We should catch up sometime. And sometimes
you're like, oh, like cute, like she thinks, I'm like,
my profile is asthetic, and like she wants to catch up, and then
she's like, have you ever wanted to be your own boss? No?
I would have asked my parents for an investment in something if I wanted to
be my own boss. And it's like they rope, they try to get
you to do this, and honestly I did fall for one once. I
did not participate. I did not become my own boss. But I bought
the product and the product was fine, but it wasn't anything to write home
about. I wasn't like this you would try to sell it to thirty of
your friends. I think no, not at all. And they are overwhelmingly
irritating because they'll follow up if you don't answer the like, I know you're
busy. I'm so busy too, babe, with my own business. Have
you ever wanted to take care of your hair? Yes, it's called a
silk press. You go to your hair dress, you schedule the appointment,
you pull up, you pay the money, and leave. Taking care of
your hair annoying zero out of ten. Yeah, and they like, especially
if it's out of pocket. The way they say, like if you post
like oh had such a stressful day at work and they DM and they're like,
well, if you wanted to leave your job, like you could,
and it's like, I'm not quitting my job, like because they take it
down. They give like pump fake dms like they'll they make they like hey,
girl, love your content and then you can only see that part of
it until you open the full message, so I can say you up with
this nice little scheme for its six hundred Yeah. It's almost like the cold
calling yes, like shut up, I'm not on your call list, and
they fail to give you any details, like the fact that starting your own
business is like, like you just said, bailing a six hundred dollars down.
Where do you think I have six hundred dollars to buy inventory for a
product that literally no one is going to buy? Do you think money girls
on trees you sell to you guys. I would always tell it to y'all.
If one of us was part of those MLM schemes, I would see
you. It would be an intervention like I would call your mother, like
you would walk into a room and it would be like your daughter or son
needs assistance. Would you buy the product for me? Just one commission?
And then you can have an intervention. I would think about it, but
it's because I like you, Okay, we're on the bottom, we need
one more. That's not that well, it's bad, but like not as
bad as the mid and the top. Hmmm. I think people who trauma
dump yeah, oh yeah, because sometimes I don't put it at the top
because like sometimes like you can tell someone really just needs a friend or someone
to talk to, and like I feel bad when I'm just like okay,
like, yeah, it's kind of weird that you chose me because we're not
close, but like you also might really need somebody. But like there is
that was really sweet, by the way. Yeah, like I would I
do understand, like sometimes like I want to be there, but sometimes like
people need to remember that the person you're dumping your problems on has problems of
their own, and like when it's a friend a family member, and that's
kind of like a written agreement, like an unwritten agreement that you're going to
be there for each other. Like dumping your proper on a stranger is like
not always the most selfless thing to do. And why I put that disclaimer
in the beating is sometimes when you're going through something you're not really thinking rationally,
but like there are some people that you have posted nothing to trigger this
kind of a dump, Like you could literally post a photo of a sunset
and they'll be like, I just to watch sunsets with my boyfriend all the
time. And then he dumped me and I haven't talked to him and I've
never been the same for three years. And I'm like, oh my god,
I'm so sorry, Like great, I don't know how to reply to
that. And then yeah, you're like I don't. Should I give you
advice? Should I like not say anything? And it's hard, especially like
I'm I always post like authentic, like I try to be like vulnerable on
my stories and like what you're saying, Like sometimes there's a time and place
where it's like, hey, I'm putting on my story that I'm saying something
vulnerable, Like you can DM me something, but if you're not, if
your story has nothing to do with being vulnerable or open, people shouldn't reply
to that. I've had something a little even more unhinged, not even a
DM. I've gotten audio calls from people at like three in the morning,
like they set me DM and I answered something and then I wake up the
next morning and I have like eight like Instagram calls. I'm just like bro
like that. Like, I also don't like that future on Instagram. I'm
like, I give certain people my phone number and don't give it out to
others, Like I don't want people like being able to like close crossing a
boundary too exactly like you were reaching out being nice, like to like call
him, Like, I guess I understand, like I wouldn't do it,
but I understand why they would. I mean, you're a nice man.
I feel like I have a bottom one if I bumped your trauma to road
number two. Okay, the person who is dying to be your friend but
doesn't know you, And that's different than the person who likes your like who
swipes up on everything. This is a person who is active in your dms,
like, oh my god, girls so cute, let's get sushi.
Oh my god, girl love this? What are you doing next weekend?
I love your friends. Oh I wish I had friends like that. It's
like, I don't know what I did on the internet to appeal to you,
but whatever I did, please ignore it because you are irritating. I
feel like in that same regard. I don't know if this fits to go
on the pyramid. It's just like a side one. But because we live
in Philly. When people DM, they're like, what's your favorite place about
in Philly? I'm coming to Philly. Where should I go for bread?
They men? Should I go for drinks? It's like, I, I
don't know. I'm not the Meyer. I don't know where to go.
Like, I think that's great, and I would put that as number two.
People that don't use Google. They literally ask you a question that they
could ask anybody else, including Google a search engine, and just type that
in. But they come into your dms and I've had I have this one
particular follower, Oh my god, I'm so sorry, but they DM me
a question on everything, and the way that they come into it, it's
like almost like it's questioning like my integrity. They're like was it really good?
Like was that actually good? Like? Lol? Did they do this?
And I'm just like, bro, Like, if I have a question
about a restaurant, I post I always tag a restaurant. They have this
cool thing. It's called a phone number, and if you call the phone
number, you could ask them what time they close and The person who answers
will be like, oh, we close at nine pm tonight. Why are
you asking me what time do they close? Could I come in at eight
forty five for a takeout? What? Just because I had an experience where
I sat down and ordered a cocktail at this restaurant, I do not know
the inner workings of their business, which brings me to number one guys,
and I'm sorry, my blood pressure is going to swap the number one DM,
but I hate receiving is an unsolicited recommendation. Now we are going to
put these on two separate categories. A thoughtful recommendation that starts off with something
like, hey, if you like this, I'm not sure, like not
trying to be annoying, but you might also like this, that is fine.
The unsolicited recommendation I'm talking about starts with three words, you have to
you're on vacation. Oh my god, you have to go here? Do
I? I thought I paid for this vacation and I planned this itinerary.
I have to go to some restaurant because you told me to. Or there's
so many layers. I'll post a picture of food. Let's say I post
a picture of a steak and a bread basket. You have to order the
sushi. You see, I clearly do not order the sushi. I don't
what if I don't even like sushi? Shut up, I don't have to
do that. I don't like if you rephrase it and say, oh my
gosh, not sure if you're already finished eating, but I love their sushi.
If you're a big fan of sushi, you should try this role.
Okay, fine, I'm still kind of annoying, but like whatever, you
have to recommendations and when someone does it, and I know that you'll understand
this on a workout video or something of you have to try this or like,
I'm sorry, blame Western beauty standards. We cannot just freely throw out
workout suggestions. People are very sensitive. Like a lot of time people post
and they don't want any They don't want your dms, they don't want like
anything, Like it's nice if you DM some I'm like, oh my god,
you look great, like whatever. But like, just because I post
a selfie of me at the gym does not mean I'm asking you to tell
me what to do at the gym. In fact, I would beg of
you not to write like I posted. Ay, I hate on solicit recommendation.
Let's get that straight off. Because to be honest, I'm gonna be
dead honest, I don't care. I really don't. I do my own
research on a lot of things. I can do it. I don't need
your recommendation, babe. So like I posted the worko I was running on
a treadmill. I don't run, but I just post its lib right,
No, I was doing a quick sprint. I get you know, I
have to show you how to do some sprints, how to run. You
don't have to do that because I don't care what I don't need to Like,
I run perfectly fine, and I don't like to run, So you
don't have to waste your time to give me a recommendation on how to do
that. That's the thing, Like I don't mind the recommendation. I actually
love recommendations. Like a lot of our friends have food pages, Like a
lot of the Philly influencers are foodies. I love to go look by myself
for a recommendation. And like Brandon said, I don't mind like a slide
into my DMS. Like let's say we go to a restaurant and someone's like,
oh my gosh, like I love that restaurant. My favorite is the
Tiramsu. Great love that. Maybe it'll be my favorite too. But you're
absolutely right setting those two apart. When it's like, oh, you have
to do you don't have to especially I've gotten it were someone's recommend it the
same thing twice. No, like I can see the back to back DM
like it's a two backpack to you don't if you already wasted your breath once,
don't do it twice or so, like I don't know. They just
go out of pocket. And though like I had one. This was a
while ago where I posted something about my makeup and some girl send me one
hundred and twelve dollars foundation and said, you have to try this now unless
you are buying that for me to try. Where is the fuck do you
think I'm gonna spend one hundred and twelve dollars on foundation? She's never heard
of a DA And yeah, no, she was so about it too,
she was and just sent me a whole paragraph about it. And I'm like,
stop assuming that I am going to spend that kind of money or that
ironic yeah, to do that, Like, you can't assume that people care
about what you have to say in terms of like recommendation, Like that's another
thing, ludicrous recommendation, not saying that one hundred and twelve dollars could be
one man's trash is another man's tread. Yeah, one hundred and twelve dollars
could be your twenty bucks. Not me, but to each their own.
To ask me to spend one hundred and twelve dollars whatever, I already forget
the dollar amount on foundation to try. Go to Sephora, ask for one
of the girls and they will put a little dab on their hand. They'll
even apply it for you and use other products to show you how it's going
to look. Wait for it for free? Could you absolutely imagine? Yeah?
And then sometimes they follow up yes and they're like did you'd go?
Did you let you do it? How did you like it? Like my
problem with that you have to is I feel like a lot of people like
they almost try to incentivize. I think this is more like for traveling posts,
but they like almost try to get you to have fomo, like,
oh, you didn't go there, you really missed out. You didn't experience
Barcelona unless you went here. Actually I experienced it, just the fuck fine,
Like, I think I'll live and if I want to go back and
I want to go to that place, maybe I'll bite you next time.
But I didn't. I didn't. I planned my own trip and I think
I experienced it just right. Yeah, I think that that sound like a
b No. I think. I think the main takeaways are one, use
Google because it's a great technology. It's there for a reason. You can
ask it. Literally, anything you can think of, you type it into
Google and you will find an answer. So I think the takeaway is like,
use Google and stay in your lane unless someone is posting I'm going to
Barcelona, where should I go out to eat? Like, don't unless it's
your best friend. Like, don't send unsolicited recommendations. It's unsolicited. If
I solicit I've done it a million times. I'll be like, hey,
guys, I'm in this city and I need a quick bite to eat.
Where should I go? I'm soliciting your recommendations. It's unsolicited. Go here
while you're here. No, don't tell me what to do. Yeah,
so at the top is unsolicited. We don't like them. Don't send them
and google your own information. I mean, since we're like speaking of our
truth. Should we get into our immunity next? That's sure. Yeah,
I might as you guys, because you copped out last week and the listeners
have been waiting. Yeah, Lindsay, what is yours? Okay? Mine?
Is? It hits home? It's personal and I want everyone to watch
who everyone's watching and listening, who I'm friends with. Just know this is
about you. It is one hundred and fifty percent about you. Getting I
don't like when people make a production out of the smallest things, and for
some reason, people look at me and they see a director in like they
look at me. They're like, Lindsay's a director because she's going to put
on a production. No, I'm not a director. If I text you
and I say, come to my house at ten forty five and you show
up at eight thirty, what did you think? Did you read? Did
you read did you read the room? And did you read my text?
No? You did neither. Number two I want to have had this girl
who I do not know. I don't know this girl from a can of
paint. She comes to my home with a friend and who I didn't know,
and she goes, do you have any foundation? Now? If you
look at the back of my hand, the front of my face. I
am a young black woman, fine, but this girl was several several several
shades lighter than me. So no, I don't have any foundation for you.
She goes, okay, No, that's fine. She goes into my
bathroom she applies my foundation. Now I've sensitive skin, so one, don't
use my makeup products, but don't use my brushes. You thought I wanted
to share skin with you. She comes out of the bathroom like nothing is
wrong. In the morning, I look at all my stuff messed up in
the bathroom. It's like, did you think I wasn't gonna notice? You
didn't respect me the amount of blonde hairs in my brush. Girl, that's
like, I don't even have blonde hair. You don't need an immuning necklace
for that statement, because if somebody goes into your makeup counter and touches anything
of yours like that is disgusting. It's disrespectful and granted, are you bringing
home the pr products that you do, the one hundred and twelve dollars makeup
products I can't afford when I get them for free from King Flake's. Don't
touch them. They are not for you. If you want to go buy
things that are expensive pop off, but my bathroom is not an open invitation
for you to go shopping. It's so disrespectful. And then for people to
look at me, I'll wrap it up, But for people to look at
me and say, Lindsey will do it. She will take care of it.
If we're all going out and there are multiple people in the group,
why do you think I should call the uber? You know what this group
before does, I'll call it. I'll do it for some reason, when
it gets to the larger squad, nobody everyone's phone is broken, no one
owns the uber app. Or if it's like where should we go tonight?
I think that's where you're looking at. From you, It's like people that
just like couldn't be self sufficient if they tried, Like you could provide the
framework for a beautiful evening, a meeting spot, a time, and a
plan, and they still need you to like hold their hands somehow and be
like wait, what time is it again? Like how what should I what
should I wear? What should I do this? I'm like, listen,
I'm gonna just put a little disclaimer. I understand people who have anxiety and
like sometimes if you're hanging out with a new group. I'm not talking about
that. Yeah, I'm talking about people who I've gone out with several times.
We do the same fucking thing every weekend. We go to the same
bar. I have to give you a play by play of every single thing
going on. I have to tell you exactly how we're getting there, what
time we're going. Oh, can I come in with you? You know,
the bouncer all this shit, like just show up like I'm gonna Why
would I Why would I lead you astray if I invited you? Right?
Do you honestly think if the bouncer lets me in, I'm gonna all right,
girl, have a good night. Enjoy that line? When have I
ever done that? It's it's bizarre that people just look at me and they're
like, oh, like lindsay, it's a production, like she wants to
do this. No, no, no. You can lead a horse to
water, but you can't make them drink it. Moms that a lot.
I say that. I think that. I feel like before people ask a
question, they need to like stop and think has this been talked about in
the group chat? Can I type into my message search bar and see if
there's a recent text that follows my question, or second, can this be
addressed when I get there? Do I have to send this before or can
we just talk about it when we get there? And then the third is
like do they care? Do I need to tell them all? Like,
just just self reflect and then if it passes all of those questions, then
send the text, then go ahead and ask a question. It's what Brendon
said, like sometimes I will genuinely provide an itinerary, like I will literally
say, I'll go be here at this time. I'm wearing this outfit.
These are the people that are going to be joining us. I have this
alcohol in my house. If you don't like that, feel free to bring
something else. Please don't bring a guest. I don't want anybody else here.
Can I bring my friend? What time are we going? What's the
code to get into your door? Are you wearing heels or sneakers? Did
you read read? Please? It is an essential skill. Pop off,
Bailey. I'm sorry, but it's like this episode is just so high.
I like this, I like this. I need a good belly laugh.
So mine is a little personable, but I think everyone can understand Instagram giveaways
and to be very, very specific. I am sick and tired. For
the past year. On Crumble Cookies Instagram, every Sunday they release their new
lineup and they say tag three friends in the comment for your chance to win
a four pack. For the last year, I have been embarrassed because I
tag you three every Sunday and I wait for Monday at eleven am Central Central
time. It's like mountain time. No, it's mountain time. I think
to get a tag from Crumble Cookies that I want and I haven't, And
I think going off that brands, if you see someone commenting so many times,
just give them the free cookies. Damn. But like with that,
I think going off all that, all these free giveaways. I mean,
I do tag y'all on a lot, but I don't win. But I
think it's so cringey when a big celebrity like a Kardashian does that thing,
or they pose in front of a staircase with all these Louis Vauton bags and
they're trying to auction. I don't know if it's like a sweepstakes. I'm
like, why are you guys doing that? Tesla's You're not winning. I
feel like it's cringier and your crumble thing is different because that's like you're just
commenting in the comments. It's different. But the people who genuinely post Kim
Kardashian sitting on a staircase with Chanel bags behind her, like those people that
put it on the story, like did you think you were going to win?
I genuinely want to know if there are any listeners out here listening or
watching this and you've won a giveaway, like I want to have you on
the show, like I want you to come sit right next to us.
They need like a twenty twenty episode, like yeah, celebrity giveaways, like
we need to. It wasn't like a mister beast he like recently did I
was. I was close to put it on my because I think it was
like he was getting away ten million dollars. It was like a belief.
I believe this brand is like rooted into giving back, right, But these
celebrities, like I just feel like it's like a cloud chase, like they
just want they require you to follow them, and so like people, you
get a bunch of followers when you do giveaways. What I tell because I
do this a lot of times, brands will ask me if I can do
a giveaway post, and I always say no because it tanks your engagement.
You get like, let's say, three hundred followers, but they're not loyal
followers. They just honestly fuck up your numbers. And that's what I think
so many brands like they don't see that. It's just like, Okay,
you're literally ruining your engagement and all of your analytics just because you wanted three
hundred followers from one post, like just give away the fucking thing. Like
it didn't need to me, this whole production. It's just like big celebrities,
like it just looks weird to me. It was like authentic Is that
even the word unauthentic? Yeah? Sorry, it's giving. Remember when we
were growing up and it was like the Sweet Life of Zack and Cody,
like Animals giveaways, where like it was the commercial every day on Disney Channel
and like no one ever wanted. That's what these like Kim Kardashian giveaways,
I think these are worse. Like I love a small business giveaway, like
even you doing that giveaway like for the people Casey did a giveaway for like
a small setic salon and her lips look juicy and great, and she wanted
others to look like that, and it gave Casey some followers. The salon
some followers, and a lucky girl got lips. They can be done the
right way exactly. But I I and even those like Disney ones, I
feel like people do win them, Like I feel like they pick a random
person and you just get lucky. But those like those ones where it's super
celebrities, like, you're not winning. The entire doesn't need to does,
Like it's ridiculous. You already have merch, you have everything, Like he's
a company, Yeah, you don't need to do giveaways, babe. What's
his company again? Countless? And the merch is fucking cute. He's been
doing that for a while. What's on everyone's TikTok for you page this week?
Oh? I don't know if anybody else. I feel like your fo
you pages are literally crafted for you. So I'm an influencer, even though
I hate calling myself that. I am. On deinfluencing talk. There's a
creator I was on a deep dive. I think her name is Jane Wong,
and she he just goes into stores, she shows you the price tag
and then she shows you like the composition of the material, and she just
basically like roast the fuck out of the story. She's like, you are
paying one hundred ninety nine dollars for this Abercrombie coat. It's not even wool.
This is the materials. It's gonna break down. These these are weak
stitches, I know. And that's the thing. I like, am watching
her videos and I'm like, holy fuck, Like I don't want to buy
anything after watching them, because like there are a few brands that like she
praises and like there's some good ones and you're like, oh, like,
I'm glad I shop there, Like it seems like it's good quality. But
I am very on deinfluencing talk and seeing so many things of people being like,
don't buy this, and I will contribute to the conversation. I made
a TikTok about this. Lindsey can advocate for me if I am going to
deinfluence anybody. Do not buy a high sense Roku tvy do not work.
I cannot stress to you how sad I get every time I try to turn
on my TV to watch something and me twenty minutes just to get it connected
to my internet. It is devastating when I have a plate of hot food
in front of me and by the time I get the TV show on,
the plate is gone because it's so long to cut up the TV. When
we rocked up her sister, who's gonna go through the literally be like all
right, you want to show through it? And it just gets I even
have had my boyfriend do it and like he gets so frustrated. Why working
And it's so funny, but please spend your three hundred dollars on anything else
high sense Roku TV, I have beef with you. I will never purchase
you again. Do not do not buy it. Oh I love my Roku.
My TikTok for you page is only and exclusively the Susie stitch tiktokses anyone
else on the past yeah where the girls like for anyone who doesn't know the
girls, Like a girl made an innocent ass TikTok where she was like,
call me crazy, but I don't like pest I don't like storeball pesto.
And everyone was like making fun of her because like, that's not crazy,
it's just you not liking a condiment or whatever Pesto was, I guess.
But then people started like saying they like make fun of her, and they
tell like an absurd story. They're like, oh my god, Susie,
that's so crazy. One time in high school, I hooked up with my
gym teacher, like whatever it is. But I sit there and I listen
to the full three minute TikTok, but I always read the comments to see
if it's worth listening to, and then if it is, I'll listen to
the full thing. And they are all crazy. I will admit I've heard
some insane stories from that. We were just talking about that. We like,
I'm a Susie Stan Yeah. Yeah. I tried looking at Susie's page
to see if she did a video, being like, I see the jokes,
they're funny. But she hasn't turned off the comments. She hasn't removed
the stitches from that video, So I assume Susie's like taking it in good
faith, and I love that for her, right. I think people made
it funny now, Like at first they were clowning her and then they were
like, oh wait, this is like now it's like a trend. I
haven't seen this girl. Oh it's funny, you'll see it now. And
you're fat I'm sure pop up. Mine's really wholesome. I'm like cat TikTok
cause I think I want a cat, and I think, like I just
can't stop watching cat tiktoks. Like there's a specific one she has rag dolls.
I think it's called Blossom's Cat or whatever. So it's like babies kittens.
It's all my fret that this wholesome. I can't because I click on
the page, I just started getting sucked in more and more, so that
just pops up. Yeah, that's about it. I think that mine.
I did it to myself. So every time Brandon and I go on a
vacation and share a hotel room, we either watch Shark Tank or s VU.
And when we went to Fashion Week, like I probably watched six hours
of Law and Order. She was balls deep. No, that's aw I
could not stop. I will get reruns on my FYP of just little clips.
I'll end up watching the whole episode s VU, the like the the
what's the who's Charlie? The chocolate factory? What's that thing he's on?
Like the Good Doctor or something? Oh yeah, yeah, the Good Doctor,
Yeah, the Good Doctor. Like she watched Paud Judge Judy and she
will watch a full episode of Judge Judy on TikTok and she's like like yeah,
part like she really, I'm like, Jesus Christ, you just turn
on the TV. No, because Judge Judith Shineland is going to solve the
case. I think if you do the crime, I have the time,
So no matter what platform it's on it, I will watch it. No,
I'm so with I love watching movies or like shows on TikTok and you're
on like part forty seven and I've gotten to the point now, which is
why I know my brain is like mashed potatoes. Is because sometimes when I'm
watching something on normal TV, I'm like, oh, what are the comments
saying? And then I'm like, oh my god, I'm watching something on
it there's no comments, Like I think all TV shows should have comments.
So funny. So I wanted to read this up when you were saying,
so there's another trend right now, and I just found out about this last
night, and I think I'm late to it. There's a new Jack Harlow's
song. It's Vanilla Baby, and the guy's doing this dance and like he
like every guy who's doing it. It's like a thirst trap kind of trend,
and it's so funny to run to the comments and see like people like
to have totally opposite types as you. So like I watched this one video
end of this guy doing the vanilla baby trends and I was like, that
was horrific. That guy is so gross. The top comment was I've put
this on loops so many times, and I was just like, oh my
god. And then there's it's worse though, when you were like, damn,
he's cute, and then you go to and they're like this was so
crunch. It's like, oh, I thought it was good, Like when
you were not aligned with the comment section on TikTok. It's such a humbling
experience that thankfully you can keep to yourself. It's like, Okay, I'm
not gonna comment my thought, but oh my god. Like when you think
something so mean and you're like, oh my god, everyone must be talking
about this certain part in the TikTok and then no one addressed and you're like,
oh, I'm just I'll search for the comment, like there has to
be someone in the twelve thousand comments in the same thing I am. Or
when something is not good but you as an audience collectively agree that you're going
to sauce that person without question. Like one of my favorite TikTokers. I
don't know if y'all have seen him, but his name is Raoul and he
like was famous for the SpongeBob singing voice. I don't know if you've no
one's heard of that. He'll like do aggressive TikTok dances. He will sing
Rihanna songs in full. I know it's not American idol like twenty twenty three,
but the comments just gassed him, and every time I'm like, yes,
Raoul will pop off. There's a term for that. It's called like
I I just watched a tictack on this, but I think it's called like
glazing or something. It's like a new like millennial term when you like gas
someone up who you clearly like feel bad for, or like you like like
you know the comments, but I don't even feel bad for him. I
genuinely am like you're, yeah, just get it. But you know the
videos where it's like, yes, like four girls dancing and one girl's doing
a bad job and all the comments are like I love your top. Like
that's there's like a churn for it. Yeah. Yeah, no, I'm
like a sometimes a secret hater. There's this one account I brought up to
all of you guys before. It's like this family account that like they get
so much hate and like I don't hate them that much. We're like I
don't comment or anything, like I'm always on the lives though, Like I
spend the half of my time on their TikTok day and night looking at the
updates, and I'm like a secret hater, but like I just read all
the comments. I'm like, damn, Like I don't hate this bad.
There's so much power in being a silent hater. I see videos all the
time and I'm like that was fucking stupid, and I scroll and there's so
much power in that. If you were taking the time to write a mean
comment, is it that you're a loser? Yeah, Like you are a
that serious. Like it's just like putting negative energy out, You're only going
to get it back in unless it's racist, homophobic, or weird, right,
And that's weird to me. That's not a hate comment. That's like
literally calling somebody out. But yeah, if you're gonna comment something hateful or
stupid just because you didn't like a video like grow Up. Yeah. I
feel like this episode was a therapy. Yeah. I feel like we we
sounded like those old ladies with that I've Had It podcast. Maybe we need
to call this episode the girlies have had It. No, actually, pressure,
if it was like a meter, it would just be like yeah by
the whole time. I feel that's what happens. We don't see each other
for a week, we just catch up and get heat it about things pop
off. Yeah, we love to ship talk. I know that's a wrap.
Don't send us annoying us solicited dms Google. If you are in a
relationship, don't dm us inappropriate things, because we will expose you. Yes,
if you're in our city, just put on the story and keep it
pushing. Yeah, let's just keep every little thing we said today between us,
gurlies. Yeah, keep it between us gurlies. See you all next
week, guys,