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Hi everyone, and welcome back to
between Us girlies. I am Bailey,

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I'm Casey, I'm brand I'm Lindsay. And how's it going everyone? Welcome

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back, Happy hump Day. It's
Wednesday for you guys. How's every one

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doing good? We've made to episode
two. I really did it. We

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did it. The first one's already
out. We survived. Now it's time

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to just keep it going. Now
we're rolling now it feels like natural,

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I know. So, how's everyone's
weekend? I haven't seen Casey or Brandon

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since the last time I recorded.
We haven't seen each other in a week,

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right, Yeah, which like felt
weird not seeing you guys this weekend.

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I know, like also exciting because
I'm like excited to debrief today with

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you guys too. We have a
lot to tell you. I can start.

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I had like a very Philly weekend. I started my weekend on Thursday

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and I went to this place called
the Mulberry, which I've never been to

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before. It was like a lit
happy hour. It's right next to the

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Comcast Center, so if you're trying
to meet some business, daddy's head over

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there. Me and my boyfriend we
fucked up garlic Knots Buffalo chicken dip.

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The food was amazing. They had
like pumpkin spic espresso martinis. And then

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after that I saw Wicked, which
is in Philly for like a month,

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so I saw a cute musical.
And then Friday, I went to a

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party with my boyfriend's friends, which
was fun. It was like disco themed,

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said drinkers, people get into the
theme. Yeah, Like they played

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like all like abba and they had
like the whole top floor rented out,

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which was really fun. That place
is fun. How was it? Yeah,

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it was honestly really fun. Like
I had a blast. That's like

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a different vibe. Yeah, it
was a totally different vibe, different crew.

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And then Saturday I went to Wilder
for brunch and it was so delicious,

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but me and my boyfriend we only
ordered carbs. Did you get the

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bread, Yeah, we got the
We got cinnamon. The cinnamon rolls looked

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crazy. They were crazy nuts.
Yeah, now don't do that. I'm

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posting a TikTok later, so like
subscribe. But yeah, we were so

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disgustingly full after that that we took
like a three hour nap and then like

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on a Saturday night, I feel
disgusting saying this. I went to the

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gym. I went to the gym
on time on Saturday night, like seven

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thirty, and it was a really
great time. There was nobody there I

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expected. And then my weeknd regret
is that I wish I went out with

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you guys on Saturday night, but
I had the tailgate on Sunday, which

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that will be the first and last. Like, no shade, I've grown

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up going to the tailgates. I
love them, just over stimulating for me,

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like in this era, I would
rather watch a football game at the

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bar, like I think, I'm
I do one tail gate a year.

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I did that one, maybe I'll
give it another go with you guys,

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but I'm just like, no,
there was a time and a place in

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my lives for tailgates, and going
to the Cowboys one was dumb on my

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part. It was so crowded beyond
like took me like thirty five minutes to

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get there. Like it was just
like no, but yeah, I wish

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I went out with you guys on
Saturday because it looked fun. What it

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was crazy because and you came home
from your dinner. So Brandon and host

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Way walk in my apartment and I
was getting ready to go out to dinner

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with Bailey, so I texted Bailey. I'm like, oh, like,

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let's go out to dinner. I
knew that, like you were doing stuff

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with Jake and Branda just come home
with her sway and I was like,

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let's go to dinner and just like
be weird. We'll see where God takes

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us. And obviously we went to
Figo because we don't know any other restaurants,

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and Bailey and are just like just
started drinking. Like we ordered baby

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appetizers and we just decided to draw
like I'd order meals. We ordered money

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balls meal. Like we looked at
each other and we were like, what

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should we eat? I got Barata
and she got me balls and that was

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all she wrote. So quite literally, I feel like you should I feel

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like you should get you should do
the deep dive into our weekend. Oh

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boy, okay, So I want
everyone to bear with me in my voice

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because clearly I was out and about. I only went out one day this

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past weekend, but it just you
made it count. I made it count.

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You just have to live life to
the fullest. So Lindsay and I

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did our thing. What's our problem
is together. I don't know what it

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is. We like feed into each
other's energy. I'm like, terrible,

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we can't stop. So we started
that figo. We only had about like

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what three drinks. That was like
the pregame. So we're like, all

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right, let's meet our friends out
at the bar. And it was like

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eleven o'clock. We had a shot. We had a green tea shot as

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well before we left. Deadly.
We get to the bar of our choice,

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as you guys know, and we
walk downstairs, like the downstairs.

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I'm like, it's barsaol. We
were at barstool. Let them know.

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Let me just set the scene.
There's a downstairs there and there's a few

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people there with tables that we know
somehow. That always happened anytime we go

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into barstool. Someone we know it
has a table, right, And we

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weren't going there for the tables either, Like we were just there to meet

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our friends. And I know,
whenever I'm near bottle service or a table,

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that's my demise. No, you
get Bailly, you have like a

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wet like I can't even put it
into words, because the luck that you

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have is absurd. Because we walk
downstairs, we're like in there. We

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see a few people here and there, Hey, what's up? And Bailey

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goes to the table and immediately the
bottles come out and she is running center.

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She first in line for this bottle. Like it was It's crazy,

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how you finessa Exactly, I'm not
kidding. Something fall and so like shots,

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I had no business. I was
just mixing a lot, like I

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already had tequila drink and I was
taking voxa shots. Excuse me sick.

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DJ was bumping, I was sweating
like a pig. Was it crowded?

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It was so crowd crowded. I
was gonna say, with the cowboys playing,

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but that was a Saturday, What
am I talking about? But I'd

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say my biggest regret out of all
of that is because I got so sweaty

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because I was wearing a sweater because
it's wintertime. I was so drunk.

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I went to the bathroom. Didn't
feel like waiting the girl's line, so

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I asked the bouncer if I could
use the men's bathroom to wipe my sweat

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off. So I so I did
just that, and I'm just standing there's

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a met there's a line for the
guys room too, and I'm just standingstairs.

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Yeah, I'm standard wiping that sweat
bang sticking to my head, like

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I look like a hot mess.
The crazy thing is I went to the

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bathroom with you. When I watched
you come out of the men's restroom,

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and I was like, what the
hell? Like, why did she go

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in there? You were like that
was so stupid for the guys in there.

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Yes, yes, full bathroom attended
everything. Wow, was it?

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Is it a mail? Yeah?
I guess yeah. And then you went

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like you stayed out. Yeah,
so the clock's turned back on Sunday,

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And I feel like I'm always out
on that. Well, I guess I'm

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always out, but I'm always out
on like the Daylight Savings. And so

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when we were there, like the
clocks turned back, but I feel like

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everyone forgot about it because it's probably
two o'clock at that point, so I

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just had to stay out and go
to an after hours bar. And I

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need to hear about this. It
was the best place I have been to

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in my four years of living in
Philadelphia. Like that place has a reputation,

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Like I've heard that they throw down
there, throw down? Are we

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going to Gatekeeper? Are we going
to drop the name? It was the

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Winston in Philadelphia, and so it's
after hours, twenty dollars cover, but

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I know you did not be Oh
no no, I did not pay that.

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But it was so fun up because
the clocks turned back, people didn't

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go there right away, so they
forgot. It was like open I guess

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or whatever. Two DJ's. There
was a downstairs DJ lounge and remind me

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of element O kind of. I'm
just saying all these names, but it

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was very like like vibey, like
disco weee, not disco wee, kind

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of like sexy a little yeah.
Like it was like, I don't know,

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it was just such a good vibe
down there. And then upstairs Bailey

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Witherspoon's home, trap like hip hop
like Gucci Man, just nasty strip club

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anthems. I was just getting down. I knew no one there. Here's

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the thing, like I'm just like
a social butterfly. So I just go

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out and about like I wasn't with
Lindsay. She left me. Linda,

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I will never forgive you, never
for you should have text. I feel

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like in that moment we shouldn't have
left. You should have called me and

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said stop being a bad friend and
not go let this guy's dogs out for

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the listeners. Bailey claimed that she
was not going to be going home with

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a certain gentleman who she said she
was leaving with when we were leaving the

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bar, So I assumed, as
not to get in her way, that

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I should also go home. But
no, she was just taking a little

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pitstof She didn't touch this man and
went to the bar exactly. I said,

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I was going to do that and
you should have stayed with me.

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Did you go with said man to
to the bar? No, So I

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went with his friend who's like,
it's like someone who lives in this building.

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I've never met this man before.
I don't know his name, but

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he looks like I can't tell I
can't tell you. Did you guys just

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walk in and say like shake hands, see you later. We were together

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the whole time. He's like,
want to go upstairs, want to go

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downstiously? It was nothing like flirtatious, nothing like friend. Yeah, And

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I read that and I was like, thank you so much for letting me

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come with you. I was like, I had such a good time.

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I had to do my trick where
I well, I was drinking tequila at

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three am there and I was like
barely like relax. So I did my

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thing where I go to the bar
and ask for just a seltzer like soda

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water with a line to make it
look like I was drinking. That's like

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my go to little trick. It's
also like hydre just like stopped the drinking.

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Then I went to someone else's house. Okay, that's why I did

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buy that. That is a good
trick though, because like sometimes you just

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need something in your hands, like
when it's late at night, you don't

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even want to drink anymore, but
you want the like social aspect to have

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something in your hand. Yeah,
I do like that. Yeah, And

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even if you're ever out with like
friends and you just want to stop drinking,

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just get like a selter like not
an alcoholic one, just like get

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a water and a cup or something
just hold in your hand. It's a

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good trick. But I feel like
that was my your weekend? How's your

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weekends? I had such a wholesome
weekend. I had Jake's family. We

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had a family wedding on Friday and
it was nice, and then Saturday we

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decided to be really wholesome when we
went to like his nephew's soccer game,

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and it was just like that was
a vphew soccer and it was just like

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being around all these families and like
their children. I was just like,

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Wow, this is like a different
life than we usually live. Like these

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are like normal people who have like
normal jobs and little kids that play soccer

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on Saturday mornings, Like they can't
go out and drink. It was just

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so we were glad that we could
go. And we didn't have any like

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steak in the game. We just
went. We went to a diner,

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and then we literally chilled at home
all day and didn't do anything. I

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like, wish I went out.
I don't. I didn't have like fomo.

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But when I woke up the next
morning, I was like, I

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could have gone out. I could
have done something that's get the right thing,

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taking care of your body and join
your nice boyfriend too. I'll be

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ready the next time, Like I'm
coming in guns blazing the next time we

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go out. We need we're going
to be a problem. Yeah, we

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need a really good fall going out. I feel like we've been a little

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chill this fall. I want like
a crazy night where we're all kind of

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just out and who knows what happens. Yeah, I know, I feel

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like Dorothy Explorer, Figo barstool.
That's our little map, just some map

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of things. But yeah, that
was pretty good weekend. I'm so glad

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I got to see you guys today. I know I didn't see this weekend,

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but we were onto a new segment
everyone. So last week Brandon brought

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up a great, great point that
I have a lot of boys in my

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life and a lot of drama going
on, as you can tell from this

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past weekend. I mean, we
just had two men go into that.

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But I think I want to start
off this segment of Bailey's Boys with some

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trash. That's good idea. Let's
take on the let's trash. Men who

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have almost so many have boyfriends,
men who have girlfriends. There is no

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reason, and it just disgusts me
that you should be in anyone's DMS with

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if you have a girlfriend. Because
have you guys ever gotten a woman?

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Well, I mean I get I
guess you guys ever gotten a woman to

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woman DM? I don't even know
what that is. I don't think I've

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gotten one. I've been tempted to
send one, but I haven't gotten one.

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So to explain what a woman to
a woman DM is pretty much kids

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you. Yeah, it's when you
I guess as the girlfriend. Right,

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So, as a girlfriend, you
have an inclination that your boyfriend is cheating

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or being shady, so you ask
another girl and in order to set the

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scene instead of coming in guns blazing, you're like, hey, woman to

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woman, is my man in your
DMS? Or woman to woman do you

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know my man? And like it's
kind of like girl code for being like,

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hey, this is a shitty situation. I need you to be real

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with me. Sometimes not speaking from
experience, but it's the opposite way around

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where a random girl slides into your
DMS to tell you that your boyfriend is

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actually the worst woman to women.
Yeah, girl to girl, it's a

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girl code for like, I need
you to tell me that my boyfriend's piece

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of shit? So do we?
I would like say that we fuck with

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those right, Like right? I
think there's two types of girls. There's

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a girl who me appreciates it,
and then there's a girl who's in denial

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where they're like, oh, this
girl's so annoying. She reached out to

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me like women to women. I
think the problem too with that is that

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some girls like to send those dms, like, there are girls who enjoy

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being the one that your boyfriend's being
shady with. So they're like, I'm

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gonna let her know, like just
so you know your man's in mind.

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Like, people enjoy that, and
that's the one I don't welcome when they

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ruin it for everybody. Yeah,
they're like excited to tell you that your

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boyfriend's being shady versus someone being like, hey, I'm coming to you because

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I like think highly of you kind
of thing. Yeah. So with that

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being said, I received a woman
to a woman DM around this time last

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year and it was from so I
used to hook up this I haven't touched

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him or seen him in person for
probably maybe three years now, three years

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since this DM, Like, I
do not talk to this man. And

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apparently when he was texting me he
had a girlfriend. I did not know

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that, but I did not give
him an inch or anything. He's freaking

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annoying. He's probably like, what
three years younger than me. I'm like

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an old geezer at this point.
So imagine it was a Monday. Imagine

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getting to work and you see a
DM saying is this your number? And

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then the like it says plus one
like full my phone number. I was,

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and I see the mutual friend is
that guy? And my heart sunk?

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But like, I also haven't been
texting this kid, so I really

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wasn't like that crazy, but like
I'm actually getting that text. Is this

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your phone number? My full phone
number? I say, question mark,

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and she's like is that your phone
number? I said, yeah, girl,

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but just end up. She I
felt bad because she just seemed heartbroken

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and she was just going through his
text and she's like I saw that,

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like he asked for nudes. I'm
like, yeah, you saw. I

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said, no, right, babe, you saw your boyfriend get deny.

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I'm like you saw that. Rand
like there's no reason for these d be

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going on. But I was like
listen, girl, whatever. She's like,

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okay, thank you. If he
contacts you again, would you care

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to let me know he's been crying
and pleading to me. I'm like,

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oh, babe. So it was
a situation where like she saw her man

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doing shady shit. I'm sure with
not only just me, but she's like

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holding on for you for this shit. And then they like bring like now

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you're involved, Like now if he
texts you, you have this like devil

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on your or angel on your shoulder, being like, oh, I have

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to let her know, but it's
also not your relationship, not your business,

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and you clearly don't care about this. I do not know that man.

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No, So after we originally post
our podcast, I get a DM

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from him saying, Hey, me
and my ex broke up. I'm sorry

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she was crazy. Pardon no,
ma'am, Like, it's just so sick

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with that, Like you clearly are
just so like disgusting. What makes you

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think I would even try to hook
up if you've have a girlfriend. I

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just don't like homewreckers. That's not
a thing. Like I'm stumbling around.

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Called her crazy, that's like what
that's a very flag. I think if

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a guy calls his ex crazy,
he's the crazy one, because like girls

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are crazy to some degree, but
the way that guys are like, oh

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my ex she was so no,
you made her crazy, you made her

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insane, you made her say because
she found out the truth, and you

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just probably gaslighter, Like I mean, I got blocked. The way you

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speak about your exes is like so
like on a date with somebody, you

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you have to be so careful with
that shit, Like there is just a

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fine line between like being honest about
a situation and just like then almost like

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exposing yourself. And it's like no, like the way you're telling the story

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is not adding up, Like you
don't have to go out of your way

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to trash your ex on a date
with somebody new, Like I would rather

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just like not hear about it or
just hear the honest truth. Yeah,

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Like is that even a conversation starter, Like, oh, let's talk about

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my ex? Like that's right,
it's a freak date. Yeah, some

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people are crazy and bring it up, but it's not like a you shouldn't

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talk about it. I would be
so taken aback, but that's like a

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third date for me, like and
I'm like serious, and it's like okay,

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like I want you to know that. Like I have dated people before,

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but I don't know's it's a weird
kind of lined across. I think,

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Yeah, I feel like every relationship
is. I feel like I didn't

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talk about Xes till like way far
in, Like we were like seven or

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eight months before we sat down and
were like, hey, what was your

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path? Like we had talked briefly, but we had like the real talk

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like late. But I know some
people that are way more upfront about it

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and say in the beginning, yeah, that's very interesting. Now a woman

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to woman DM, I've never as
a man, I've never gotten Okay,

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I guess that's not true. I've
gotten dms from like people being like,

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hey, have you talked to this
guy before? I'm talking to him?

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And I used to talk to someone
who was batshit crazy, let's just say

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that. And someone actually recently DM
me like a few months ago and was

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like, this guy is flexing that
he dated you, like he like bringing

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me up, being like I dated
that Philly influencer and I'm just like okay,

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why And she's like this the guy
who DM me was like he seems

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really crazy, like would you have
any advice? And I was just like,

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dude, block him, like he's
nuts, Like watch it, watch

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the fuck out. Don't you love
to? I mean I love to see

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someone like who you've parted ways with
because there's a certain behavior that you didn't

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like about them, and like they
kind of repeat, like it gives you

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like validation that like you made the
right choice. Like it's I haven't talked

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to this kind of like two years
and you're still pulling this crazy shit like

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dropping my name for whatever reason,
Like you were a weirdo. You've been

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a weirdo, and you're always gonna
fucking be a weirdo. And one thing

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I don't fuck with is a fucking
weird Yeah, weirdo was such the biggest

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Philly insult. Too, Weirdo was
my face. It's a weirdo and loser.

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If I'm in a heated argument and
I call you a fucking weirdo or

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a fucking loser, or you did
something to really get under my skin,

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like you you provoked, you wanted
to provoke me, I am provoked like

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that. They calling someone a loser
is like my reason to live, Like

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I just love when you're doing so
like grade school, Like it's like something

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you would say on the playground,
but it just hurts. Like if you

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compliment, if you insult someone's outfit
or someone's like anything, they could just

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be like whatever, I don't care
about their opinion. But if you're like

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you're a fucking loser, how are
you going to defend that? Viewers,

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Casey just pulled out the fingerpis,
how are you going to to defend it?

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No, you're a fuckingser. Oh, never think about like saying like

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a loser, like in pastic that's
so mean. I'm here for grade school

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insults. Let's bring them back.
Does shave the beard? Sanna? How

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that feels personal nasty? It's so
rude. Oh god, oh my goodness.

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I love you guys. You guys
are funny. So with that,

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I want to dive into this next
little thing. So with that same man,

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he is like, here's your tape
for today. He thinks. I

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don't answer this man, ever,
So what in his god damn mind would

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he think I would answer a text
sing I'm in your city. Bro.

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You know if the only man I've
ever answered that text to was Aubrey Drake

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Graham when he performed at the Wells
Fargo Center, That's the only man that

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said I'm coming to your city,
like texted you Mini. I was like,

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Rake, unless you're a celebrity,
you being in first off, in

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your city. We live in Philadelphia, and sir, you do not live

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that far from here, so don't
act like you're flying across the country.

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Unless you are a celebrity, you
do not have the right to tell someone

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I'm in your city. Also,
what does that even mean? Like it

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would be one thing that they're like, oh, like i'm around, like

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if you're trying to meet up or
like get a drink or something like I'm

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down. It's like, I'm in
your city cool the time, like enjoyed

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Crosshouse, Like I don't know,
it's a Tuesday night, I'm going to

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bed six o'clock in the afternoon.
I don't care. Don't tell me you're

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in my city. No. It's
so it's which is so weak, like

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so lazy, like like literally say
like, hey, I'm in Philly,

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Like do you want to grab a
drink while I'm here? That changes the

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vibe totally, Like it's not great, but it's still like okay, like

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whatever, but like I'm in your
city. You are not important. Who

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do you think you are? What
are you flying in by helicopter? Are

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you here for like a fucking government
event? I don't give a fuck.

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I don't care, honestly, just
be a sleeze ball and drop your pin

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and I'll be like, oh,
you're nearby and you want to fuck there

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you go, No, I'm in
your city. Like it's the equivalent of

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being like can I have your snap? Like it's just so immature, like

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take it somewhere else. We are
grown adults. You do not need to

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be saying that, Oh, you
guys are funny today, it looks like

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explain you know. The third one
that I hate is when they someone tms

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you and their Instagram bio is moves
in silence. Oh you could not quite

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literally move in any less silence.
If you have put that into your keyboard

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and entered it in something as public
as your Instagram bio, you need to

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change it to like I move in
earthquakes, Like there's nothing silent about the

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way you move, like and it's
like the prayer or like the emoji,

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because they're like silence Like that Casey
always brings up which tickles me is the

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black screen when someone's Instagram story is
just a black screen with white text,

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and it's always like I need you
to give an example of like the weird

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like they will. It'll be like
two am and they're posting a black screen

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with white text, and it's like, I can't deal with lay mass fake

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people at you. I've only got
real ones in my circle. You know

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who you are. It's like,
no, shut the fuck up, no

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one gives a fuck you are not
like you're not speaking in like proverbs and

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you're like this advice channel. You
are a random ass dude on Instagram.

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No one cares. It's like a
subtweet, but like yes, they're trying

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to make it like so so public, like just say you want attention,

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Like just say that? Or what
are those things in the dms now where

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they're at the top, it's like
little bubbles when you could put almost like

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status. People are doing shit like
that, Like oh, no one likes

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me anymore. Put that shit somewhere
else in your diary, like I like

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we were putting like going away stasses
up there, like doing that shit too,

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like it's for attention. I'm like, just stop. It's like what

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we used to post on Facebook in
like twenty ten when we would like go

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to a football game and then come
home and be like saw my crush tonight?

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Lol, Like no, we don't
need to be doing that now,

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put it in your diary. Let's
move in silent. Yeah, they're be

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careful, they move in silence.
I think we should do I love where

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this conversation is going. I think
we should make our pyramid rankings types of

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DMS we should that we've received,
Like so I guess we should do bad

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ones. Yes, it's like bad
MS at the top is like your least

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favorite genre of DM to receive,
and at the bottom still like bad,

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but like not as bad, like
almost like bad cringe. Top is insufferable,

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and I feel like we should make
it across like not just like men

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dming like any kind of like so
at the bottom, something that's annoying but

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not as annoying as others is people
that swipe up to every single story with

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an emoji, like on a hundred
a fire and it's like cute, thank

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you, but like every single story. And yes, there is someone I'm

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thinking of in particular who I know
you guys are thinking of who does this

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to everything every single an emoji and
emoji. I'm just like, bro,

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if you want to talk that bad, send me a text. I'm not

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going to answer it. But I'm
also not going to answer your DM.

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Yeah. To be honest, though, I have people like that and it

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kind of hurts my feelings. They
don't do it because then I'm like,

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what's wrong with this story? Does
the food look bad? Do you not

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want to know where I am?
Yeah? Do you not want to know

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where my outfit's from. I'll link
it, I'll send you might like to

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know it, but I'm offended you
do. You guys feel the same about

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people who like stories though, like
avidkers, No, I kind of think

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it's cute me too. It's like
you didn't like. I don't get like

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a notification when that happens. I
just like, I'm like, oh,

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like what I'm doing. I wasn't
into that before and I just recently got

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into it now I love it now. I just want to like everyone's story.

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It's my way of flirting. I
like your story the other day.

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Why don't you ever like my story? Oh? I did? Okay?

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I think also at the bottom and
this, honestly, it may be a

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hot take, but I think that
the girls who are part of those pyramid

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schemes who like it rhymes with I'm
great or I'm not going to say the

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brands, but you can use your
head or like you know what I'm talking

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about. They'll be like, hey, babe, I totally noticed your profile

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and it's so ascetic. Is that
even English? I love you so much

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and miss you from high school.
We should catch up sometime. And sometimes

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you're like, oh, like cute, like she thinks, I'm like,

406
00:25:12.319 --> 00:25:15.640
my profile is asthetic, and like
she wants to catch up, and then

407
00:25:15.640 --> 00:25:18.119
she's like, have you ever wanted
to be your own boss? No?

408
00:25:18.640 --> 00:25:22.480
I would have asked my parents for
an investment in something if I wanted to

409
00:25:22.519 --> 00:25:25.839
be my own boss. And it's
like they rope, they try to get

410
00:25:25.880 --> 00:25:27.960
you to do this, and honestly
I did fall for one once. I

411
00:25:29.000 --> 00:25:32.480
did not participate. I did not
become my own boss. But I bought

412
00:25:32.519 --> 00:25:36.480
the product and the product was fine, but it wasn't anything to write home

413
00:25:36.519 --> 00:25:38.359
about. I wasn't like this you
would try to sell it to thirty of

414
00:25:38.400 --> 00:25:45.440
your friends. I think no,
not at all. And they are overwhelmingly

415
00:25:45.480 --> 00:25:48.160
irritating because they'll follow up if you
don't answer the like, I know you're

416
00:25:48.200 --> 00:25:51.839
busy. I'm so busy too,
babe, with my own business. Have

417
00:25:51.880 --> 00:25:55.319
you ever wanted to take care of
your hair? Yes, it's called a

418
00:25:55.359 --> 00:25:57.359
silk press. You go to your
hair dress, you schedule the appointment,

419
00:25:57.599 --> 00:26:00.359
you pull up, you pay the
money, and leave. Taking care of

420
00:26:00.359 --> 00:26:03.920
your hair annoying zero out of ten. Yeah, and they like, especially

421
00:26:04.000 --> 00:26:07.400
if it's out of pocket. The
way they say, like if you post

422
00:26:07.519 --> 00:26:11.359
like oh had such a stressful day
at work and they DM and they're like,

423
00:26:11.400 --> 00:26:12.440
well, if you wanted to leave
your job, like you could,

424
00:26:12.519 --> 00:26:17.480
and it's like, I'm not quitting
my job, like because they take it

425
00:26:17.519 --> 00:26:21.599
down. They give like pump fake
dms like they'll they make they like hey,

426
00:26:21.680 --> 00:26:23.160
girl, love your content and then
you can only see that part of

427
00:26:23.200 --> 00:26:26.680
it until you open the full message, so I can say you up with

428
00:26:26.720 --> 00:26:30.079
this nice little scheme for its six
hundred Yeah. It's almost like the cold

429
00:26:30.200 --> 00:26:34.519
calling yes, like shut up,
I'm not on your call list, and

430
00:26:34.559 --> 00:26:37.440
they fail to give you any details, like the fact that starting your own

431
00:26:37.480 --> 00:26:41.599
business is like, like you just
said, bailing a six hundred dollars down.

432
00:26:41.200 --> 00:26:45.920
Where do you think I have six
hundred dollars to buy inventory for a

433
00:26:45.920 --> 00:26:48.440
product that literally no one is going
to buy? Do you think money girls

434
00:26:48.440 --> 00:26:53.200
on trees you sell to you guys. I would always tell it to y'all.

435
00:26:53.359 --> 00:26:56.240
If one of us was part of
those MLM schemes, I would see

436
00:26:56.279 --> 00:26:59.880
you. It would be an intervention
like I would call your mother, like

437
00:27:00.079 --> 00:27:02.720
you would walk into a room and
it would be like your daughter or son

438
00:27:02.759 --> 00:27:06.799
needs assistance. Would you buy the
product for me? Just one commission?

439
00:27:06.799 --> 00:27:08.960
And then you can have an intervention. I would think about it, but

440
00:27:10.000 --> 00:27:14.160
it's because I like you, Okay, we're on the bottom, we need

441
00:27:14.200 --> 00:27:17.319
one more. That's not that well, it's bad, but like not as

442
00:27:17.359 --> 00:27:21.400
bad as the mid and the top. Hmmm. I think people who trauma

443
00:27:21.480 --> 00:27:26.960
dump yeah, oh yeah, because
sometimes I don't put it at the top

444
00:27:26.039 --> 00:27:30.200
because like sometimes like you can tell
someone really just needs a friend or someone

445
00:27:30.240 --> 00:27:33.359
to talk to, and like I
feel bad when I'm just like okay,

446
00:27:33.400 --> 00:27:34.680
like, yeah, it's kind of
weird that you chose me because we're not

447
00:27:34.680 --> 00:27:41.000
close, but like you also might
really need somebody. But like there is

448
00:27:41.519 --> 00:27:42.599
that was really sweet, by the
way. Yeah, like I would I

449
00:27:42.640 --> 00:27:45.960
do understand, like sometimes like I
want to be there, but sometimes like

450
00:27:47.079 --> 00:27:51.799
people need to remember that the person
you're dumping your problems on has problems of

451
00:27:51.839 --> 00:27:53.720
their own, and like when it's
a friend a family member, and that's

452
00:27:53.799 --> 00:27:56.480
kind of like a written agreement,
like an unwritten agreement that you're going to

453
00:27:56.519 --> 00:28:00.440
be there for each other. Like
dumping your proper on a stranger is like

454
00:28:00.799 --> 00:28:04.440
not always the most selfless thing to
do. And why I put that disclaimer

455
00:28:04.440 --> 00:28:07.279
in the beating is sometimes when you're
going through something you're not really thinking rationally,

456
00:28:07.319 --> 00:28:12.559
but like there are some people that
you have posted nothing to trigger this

457
00:28:12.640 --> 00:28:15.960
kind of a dump, Like you
could literally post a photo of a sunset

458
00:28:17.000 --> 00:28:18.319
and they'll be like, I just
to watch sunsets with my boyfriend all the

459
00:28:18.319 --> 00:28:21.039
time. And then he dumped me
and I haven't talked to him and I've

460
00:28:21.039 --> 00:28:22.920
never been the same for three years. And I'm like, oh my god,

461
00:28:23.000 --> 00:28:26.240
I'm so sorry, Like great,
I don't know how to reply to

462
00:28:26.279 --> 00:28:30.119
that. And then yeah, you're
like I don't. Should I give you

463
00:28:30.160 --> 00:28:33.079
advice? Should I like not say
anything? And it's hard, especially like

464
00:28:33.519 --> 00:28:36.640
I'm I always post like authentic,
like I try to be like vulnerable on

465
00:28:36.720 --> 00:28:38.200
my stories and like what you're saying, Like sometimes there's a time and place

466
00:28:38.200 --> 00:28:41.960
where it's like, hey, I'm
putting on my story that I'm saying something

467
00:28:41.039 --> 00:28:45.319
vulnerable, Like you can DM me
something, but if you're not, if

468
00:28:45.359 --> 00:28:49.400
your story has nothing to do with
being vulnerable or open, people shouldn't reply

469
00:28:49.480 --> 00:28:52.480
to that. I've had something a
little even more unhinged, not even a

470
00:28:52.519 --> 00:28:57.839
DM. I've gotten audio calls from
people at like three in the morning,

471
00:28:59.039 --> 00:29:03.119
like they set me DM and I
answered something and then I wake up the

472
00:29:03.160 --> 00:29:07.519
next morning and I have like eight
like Instagram calls. I'm just like bro

473
00:29:07.119 --> 00:29:11.440
like that. Like, I also
don't like that future on Instagram. I'm

474
00:29:11.440 --> 00:29:14.000
like, I give certain people my
phone number and don't give it out to

475
00:29:14.039 --> 00:29:15.799
others, Like I don't want people
like being able to like close crossing a

476
00:29:15.839 --> 00:29:21.119
boundary too exactly like you were reaching
out being nice, like to like call

477
00:29:21.440 --> 00:29:23.480
him, Like, I guess I
understand, like I wouldn't do it,

478
00:29:23.640 --> 00:29:26.200
but I understand why they would.
I mean, you're a nice man.

479
00:29:29.000 --> 00:29:32.279
I feel like I have a bottom
one if I bumped your trauma to road

480
00:29:32.359 --> 00:29:37.000
number two. Okay, the person
who is dying to be your friend but

481
00:29:37.079 --> 00:29:41.200
doesn't know you, And that's different
than the person who likes your like who

482
00:29:41.240 --> 00:29:44.920
swipes up on everything. This is
a person who is active in your dms,

483
00:29:44.960 --> 00:29:47.559
like, oh my god, girls
so cute, let's get sushi.

484
00:29:47.880 --> 00:29:49.279
Oh my god, girl love this? What are you doing next weekend?

485
00:29:49.400 --> 00:29:52.200
I love your friends. Oh I
wish I had friends like that. It's

486
00:29:52.240 --> 00:29:56.160
like, I don't know what I
did on the internet to appeal to you,

487
00:29:56.200 --> 00:30:02.000
but whatever I did, please ignore
it because you are irritating. I

488
00:30:02.000 --> 00:30:03.319
feel like in that same regard.
I don't know if this fits to go

489
00:30:03.359 --> 00:30:07.319
on the pyramid. It's just like
a side one. But because we live

490
00:30:07.359 --> 00:30:10.119
in Philly. When people DM,
they're like, what's your favorite place about

491
00:30:10.119 --> 00:30:11.200
in Philly? I'm coming to Philly. Where should I go for bread?

492
00:30:11.279 --> 00:30:14.680
They men? Should I go for
drinks? It's like, I, I

493
00:30:14.680 --> 00:30:17.160
don't know. I'm not the Meyer. I don't know where to go.

494
00:30:17.400 --> 00:30:18.960
Like, I think that's great,
and I would put that as number two.

495
00:30:19.240 --> 00:30:26.759
People that don't use Google. They
literally ask you a question that they

496
00:30:26.839 --> 00:30:30.400
could ask anybody else, including Google
a search engine, and just type that

497
00:30:30.440 --> 00:30:33.839
in. But they come into your
dms and I've had I have this one

498
00:30:33.960 --> 00:30:40.000
particular follower, Oh my god,
I'm so sorry, but they DM me

499
00:30:40.480 --> 00:30:44.200
a question on everything, and the
way that they come into it, it's

500
00:30:44.240 --> 00:30:48.000
like almost like it's questioning like my
integrity. They're like was it really good?

501
00:30:48.200 --> 00:30:51.200
Like was that actually good? Like? Lol? Did they do this?

502
00:30:51.319 --> 00:30:53.519
And I'm just like, bro,
Like, if I have a question

503
00:30:53.559 --> 00:30:57.400
about a restaurant, I post I
always tag a restaurant. They have this

504
00:30:57.440 --> 00:31:00.240
cool thing. It's called a phone
number, and if you call the phone

505
00:31:00.319 --> 00:31:04.640
number, you could ask them what
time they close and The person who answers

506
00:31:04.640 --> 00:31:07.279
will be like, oh, we
close at nine pm tonight. Why are

507
00:31:07.319 --> 00:31:10.519
you asking me what time do they
close? Could I come in at eight

508
00:31:10.559 --> 00:31:15.160
forty five for a takeout? What? Just because I had an experience where

509
00:31:15.200 --> 00:31:18.599
I sat down and ordered a cocktail
at this restaurant, I do not know

510
00:31:18.640 --> 00:31:25.480
the inner workings of their business,
which brings me to number one guys,

511
00:31:26.160 --> 00:31:32.000
and I'm sorry, my blood pressure
is going to swap the number one DM,

512
00:31:32.119 --> 00:31:37.759
but I hate receiving is an unsolicited
recommendation. Now we are going to

513
00:31:37.799 --> 00:31:42.920
put these on two separate categories.
A thoughtful recommendation that starts off with something

514
00:31:42.960 --> 00:31:45.599
like, hey, if you like
this, I'm not sure, like not

515
00:31:45.640 --> 00:31:48.920
trying to be annoying, but you
might also like this, that is fine.

516
00:31:49.319 --> 00:31:53.839
The unsolicited recommendation I'm talking about starts
with three words, you have to

517
00:31:56.359 --> 00:32:00.599
you're on vacation. Oh my god, you have to go here? Do

518
00:32:00.720 --> 00:32:04.599
I? I thought I paid for
this vacation and I planned this itinerary.

519
00:32:05.119 --> 00:32:09.319
I have to go to some restaurant
because you told me to. Or there's

520
00:32:09.359 --> 00:32:14.640
so many layers. I'll post a
picture of food. Let's say I post

521
00:32:14.680 --> 00:32:17.960
a picture of a steak and a
bread basket. You have to order the

522
00:32:19.000 --> 00:32:22.920
sushi. You see, I clearly
do not order the sushi. I don't

523
00:32:23.039 --> 00:32:27.720
what if I don't even like sushi? Shut up, I don't have to

524
00:32:27.799 --> 00:32:30.519
do that. I don't like if
you rephrase it and say, oh my

525
00:32:30.559 --> 00:32:35.079
gosh, not sure if you're already
finished eating, but I love their sushi.

526
00:32:35.160 --> 00:32:37.240
If you're a big fan of sushi, you should try this role.

527
00:32:37.319 --> 00:32:39.880
Okay, fine, I'm still kind
of annoying, but like whatever, you

528
00:32:40.079 --> 00:32:45.759
have to recommendations and when someone does
it, and I know that you'll understand

529
00:32:45.759 --> 00:32:50.839
this on a workout video or something
of you have to try this or like,

530
00:32:52.079 --> 00:32:55.640
I'm sorry, blame Western beauty standards. We cannot just freely throw out

531
00:32:55.640 --> 00:33:00.720
workout suggestions. People are very sensitive. Like a lot of time people post

532
00:33:00.720 --> 00:33:02.720
and they don't want any They don't
want your dms, they don't want like

533
00:33:02.759 --> 00:33:05.720
anything, Like it's nice if you
DM some I'm like, oh my god,

534
00:33:05.759 --> 00:33:07.160
you look great, like whatever.
But like, just because I post

535
00:33:07.200 --> 00:33:09.920
a selfie of me at the gym
does not mean I'm asking you to tell

536
00:33:09.920 --> 00:33:13.920
me what to do at the gym. In fact, I would beg of

537
00:33:13.960 --> 00:33:16.559
you not to write like I posted. Ay, I hate on solicit recommendation.

538
00:33:16.640 --> 00:33:21.480
Let's get that straight off. Because
to be honest, I'm gonna be

539
00:33:21.559 --> 00:33:23.960
dead honest, I don't care.
I really don't. I do my own

540
00:33:24.000 --> 00:33:27.680
research on a lot of things.
I can do it. I don't need

541
00:33:27.720 --> 00:33:30.480
your recommendation, babe. So like
I posted the worko I was running on

542
00:33:30.519 --> 00:33:34.480
a treadmill. I don't run,
but I just post its lib right,

543
00:33:34.559 --> 00:33:37.680
No, I was doing a quick
sprint. I get you know, I

544
00:33:37.720 --> 00:33:38.680
have to show you how to do
some sprints, how to run. You

545
00:33:38.720 --> 00:33:43.440
don't have to do that because I
don't care what I don't need to Like,

546
00:33:43.599 --> 00:33:45.079
I run perfectly fine, and I
don't like to run, So you

547
00:33:45.079 --> 00:33:47.839
don't have to waste your time to
give me a recommendation on how to do

548
00:33:47.880 --> 00:33:51.519
that. That's the thing, Like
I don't mind the recommendation. I actually

549
00:33:51.680 --> 00:33:53.640
love recommendations. Like a lot of
our friends have food pages, Like a

550
00:33:53.680 --> 00:33:58.839
lot of the Philly influencers are foodies. I love to go look by myself

551
00:33:59.039 --> 00:34:01.519
for a recommendation. And like Brandon
said, I don't mind like a slide

552
00:34:01.559 --> 00:34:05.480
into my DMS. Like let's say
we go to a restaurant and someone's like,

553
00:34:05.519 --> 00:34:07.280
oh my gosh, like I love
that restaurant. My favorite is the

554
00:34:07.280 --> 00:34:12.679
Tiramsu. Great love that. Maybe
it'll be my favorite too. But you're

555
00:34:12.679 --> 00:34:15.079
absolutely right setting those two apart.
When it's like, oh, you have

556
00:34:15.159 --> 00:34:21.360
to do you don't have to especially
I've gotten it were someone's recommend it the

557
00:34:21.440 --> 00:34:23.920
same thing twice. No, like
I can see the back to back DM

558
00:34:23.960 --> 00:34:27.880
like it's a two backpack to you
don't if you already wasted your breath once,

559
00:34:27.960 --> 00:34:30.360
don't do it twice or so,
like I don't know. They just

560
00:34:30.360 --> 00:34:32.559
go out of pocket. And though
like I had one. This was a

561
00:34:32.559 --> 00:34:36.400
while ago where I posted something about
my makeup and some girl send me one

562
00:34:36.440 --> 00:34:39.320
hundred and twelve dollars foundation and said, you have to try this now unless

563
00:34:39.400 --> 00:34:43.480
you are buying that for me to
try. Where is the fuck do you

564
00:34:43.480 --> 00:34:45.400
think I'm gonna spend one hundred and
twelve dollars on foundation? She's never heard

565
00:34:45.400 --> 00:34:47.760
of a DA And yeah, no, she was so about it too,

566
00:34:47.760 --> 00:34:51.000
she was and just sent me a
whole paragraph about it. And I'm like,

567
00:34:51.039 --> 00:34:52.840
stop assuming that I am going to
spend that kind of money or that

568
00:34:52.880 --> 00:34:58.239
ironic yeah, to do that,
Like, you can't assume that people care

569
00:34:58.280 --> 00:35:00.480
about what you have to say in
terms of like recommendation, Like that's another

570
00:35:00.559 --> 00:35:06.800
thing, ludicrous recommendation, not saying
that one hundred and twelve dollars could be

571
00:35:06.960 --> 00:35:09.519
one man's trash is another man's tread. Yeah, one hundred and twelve dollars

572
00:35:09.599 --> 00:35:15.039
could be your twenty bucks. Not
me, but to each their own.

573
00:35:15.480 --> 00:35:19.159
To ask me to spend one hundred
and twelve dollars whatever, I already forget

574
00:35:19.199 --> 00:35:22.760
the dollar amount on foundation to try. Go to Sephora, ask for one

575
00:35:22.800 --> 00:35:25.039
of the girls and they will put
a little dab on their hand. They'll

576
00:35:25.079 --> 00:35:28.960
even apply it for you and use
other products to show you how it's going

577
00:35:29.000 --> 00:35:34.960
to look. Wait for it for
free? Could you absolutely imagine? Yeah?

578
00:35:35.360 --> 00:35:37.199
And then sometimes they follow up yes
and they're like did you'd go?

579
00:35:37.440 --> 00:35:43.239
Did you let you do it?
How did you like it? Like my

580
00:35:43.320 --> 00:35:45.400
problem with that you have to is
I feel like a lot of people like

581
00:35:45.760 --> 00:35:51.239
they almost try to incentivize. I
think this is more like for traveling posts,

582
00:35:51.320 --> 00:35:52.320
but they like almost try to get
you to have fomo, like,

583
00:35:52.519 --> 00:35:55.639
oh, you didn't go there,
you really missed out. You didn't experience

584
00:35:55.679 --> 00:36:00.039
Barcelona unless you went here. Actually
I experienced it, just the fuck fine,

585
00:36:00.280 --> 00:36:04.199
Like, I think I'll live and
if I want to go back and

586
00:36:04.239 --> 00:36:06.239
I want to go to that place, maybe I'll bite you next time.

587
00:36:06.239 --> 00:36:08.039
But I didn't. I didn't.
I planned my own trip and I think

588
00:36:08.039 --> 00:36:12.000
I experienced it just right. Yeah, I think that that sound like a

589
00:36:12.039 --> 00:36:15.639
b No. I think. I
think the main takeaways are one, use

590
00:36:15.679 --> 00:36:21.360
Google because it's a great technology.
It's there for a reason. You can

591
00:36:21.400 --> 00:36:23.639
ask it. Literally, anything you
can think of, you type it into

592
00:36:23.639 --> 00:36:27.760
Google and you will find an answer. So I think the takeaway is like,

593
00:36:27.920 --> 00:36:30.480
use Google and stay in your lane
unless someone is posting I'm going to

594
00:36:30.480 --> 00:36:34.760
Barcelona, where should I go out
to eat? Like, don't unless it's

595
00:36:34.760 --> 00:36:38.039
your best friend. Like, don't
send unsolicited recommendations. It's unsolicited. If

596
00:36:38.039 --> 00:36:42.119
I solicit I've done it a million
times. I'll be like, hey,

597
00:36:42.119 --> 00:36:44.320
guys, I'm in this city and
I need a quick bite to eat.

598
00:36:44.320 --> 00:36:50.239
Where should I go? I'm soliciting
your recommendations. It's unsolicited. Go here

599
00:36:50.239 --> 00:36:55.159
while you're here. No, don't
tell me what to do. Yeah,

600
00:36:55.800 --> 00:36:59.760
so at the top is unsolicited.
We don't like them. Don't send them

601
00:37:00.360 --> 00:37:04.079
and google your own information. I
mean, since we're like speaking of our

602
00:37:04.119 --> 00:37:06.960
truth. Should we get into our
immunity next? That's sure. Yeah,

603
00:37:07.119 --> 00:37:10.119
I might as you guys, because
you copped out last week and the listeners

604
00:37:10.239 --> 00:37:15.599
have been waiting. Yeah, Lindsay, what is yours? Okay? Mine?

605
00:37:15.880 --> 00:37:19.719
Is? It hits home? It's
personal and I want everyone to watch

606
00:37:19.760 --> 00:37:22.719
who everyone's watching and listening, who
I'm friends with. Just know this is

607
00:37:22.760 --> 00:37:27.960
about you. It is one hundred
and fifty percent about you. Getting I

608
00:37:28.000 --> 00:37:32.559
don't like when people make a production
out of the smallest things, and for

609
00:37:32.599 --> 00:37:37.039
some reason, people look at me
and they see a director in like they

610
00:37:37.039 --> 00:37:38.559
look at me. They're like,
Lindsay's a director because she's going to put

611
00:37:38.599 --> 00:37:43.760
on a production. No, I'm
not a director. If I text you

612
00:37:43.800 --> 00:37:47.400
and I say, come to my
house at ten forty five and you show

613
00:37:47.480 --> 00:37:52.239
up at eight thirty, what did
you think? Did you read? Did

614
00:37:52.320 --> 00:37:54.079
you read did you read the room? And did you read my text?

615
00:37:54.280 --> 00:37:58.880
No? You did neither. Number
two I want to have had this girl

616
00:37:58.960 --> 00:38:00.679
who I do not know. I
don't know this girl from a can of

617
00:38:00.719 --> 00:38:05.039
paint. She comes to my home
with a friend and who I didn't know,

618
00:38:05.400 --> 00:38:07.800
and she goes, do you have
any foundation? Now? If you

619
00:38:07.840 --> 00:38:10.840
look at the back of my hand, the front of my face. I

620
00:38:10.880 --> 00:38:16.280
am a young black woman, fine, but this girl was several several several

621
00:38:16.320 --> 00:38:20.920
shades lighter than me. So no, I don't have any foundation for you.

622
00:38:21.679 --> 00:38:23.400
She goes, okay, No,
that's fine. She goes into my

623
00:38:23.480 --> 00:38:30.000
bathroom she applies my foundation. Now
I've sensitive skin, so one, don't

624
00:38:30.079 --> 00:38:31.920
use my makeup products, but don't
use my brushes. You thought I wanted

625
00:38:31.960 --> 00:38:37.119
to share skin with you. She
comes out of the bathroom like nothing is

626
00:38:37.159 --> 00:38:39.199
wrong. In the morning, I
look at all my stuff messed up in

627
00:38:39.239 --> 00:38:42.559
the bathroom. It's like, did
you think I wasn't gonna notice? You

628
00:38:42.599 --> 00:38:47.039
didn't respect me the amount of blonde
hairs in my brush. Girl, that's

629
00:38:47.159 --> 00:38:51.320
like, I don't even have blonde
hair. You don't need an immuning necklace

630
00:38:51.360 --> 00:38:54.119
for that statement, because if somebody
goes into your makeup counter and touches anything

631
00:38:54.159 --> 00:39:00.760
of yours like that is disgusting.
It's disrespectful and granted, are you bringing

632
00:39:00.800 --> 00:39:05.079
home the pr products that you do, the one hundred and twelve dollars makeup

633
00:39:05.119 --> 00:39:09.000
products I can't afford when I get
them for free from King Flake's. Don't

634
00:39:09.079 --> 00:39:13.800
touch them. They are not for
you. If you want to go buy

635
00:39:13.840 --> 00:39:17.519
things that are expensive pop off,
but my bathroom is not an open invitation

636
00:39:17.599 --> 00:39:22.239
for you to go shopping. It's
so disrespectful. And then for people to

637
00:39:22.320 --> 00:39:25.239
look at me, I'll wrap it
up, But for people to look at

638
00:39:25.320 --> 00:39:30.119
me and say, Lindsey will do
it. She will take care of it.

639
00:39:30.719 --> 00:39:32.159
If we're all going out and there
are multiple people in the group,

640
00:39:32.440 --> 00:39:36.199
why do you think I should call
the uber? You know what this group

641
00:39:36.239 --> 00:39:39.000
before does, I'll call it.
I'll do it for some reason, when

642
00:39:39.000 --> 00:39:43.960
it gets to the larger squad,
nobody everyone's phone is broken, no one

643
00:39:44.000 --> 00:39:46.199
owns the uber app. Or if
it's like where should we go tonight?

644
00:39:47.719 --> 00:39:51.639
I think that's where you're looking at. From you, It's like people that

645
00:39:51.760 --> 00:39:57.159
just like couldn't be self sufficient if
they tried, Like you could provide the

646
00:39:57.199 --> 00:40:00.119
framework for a beautiful evening, a
meeting spot, a time, and a

647
00:40:00.159 --> 00:40:06.519
plan, and they still need you
to like hold their hands somehow and be

648
00:40:06.639 --> 00:40:09.280
like wait, what time is it
again? Like how what should I what

649
00:40:09.480 --> 00:40:12.320
should I wear? What should I
do this? I'm like, listen,

650
00:40:12.719 --> 00:40:16.079
I'm gonna just put a little disclaimer. I understand people who have anxiety and

651
00:40:16.119 --> 00:40:20.559
like sometimes if you're hanging out with
a new group. I'm not talking about

652
00:40:20.599 --> 00:40:23.440
that. Yeah, I'm talking about
people who I've gone out with several times.

653
00:40:23.440 --> 00:40:27.119
We do the same fucking thing every
weekend. We go to the same

654
00:40:27.159 --> 00:40:30.519
bar. I have to give you
a play by play of every single thing

655
00:40:30.559 --> 00:40:31.920
going on. I have to tell
you exactly how we're getting there, what

656
00:40:32.039 --> 00:40:35.639
time we're going. Oh, can
I come in with you? You know,

657
00:40:35.679 --> 00:40:38.400
the bouncer all this shit, like
just show up like I'm gonna Why

658
00:40:38.440 --> 00:40:42.320
would I Why would I lead you
astray if I invited you? Right?

659
00:40:42.400 --> 00:40:45.320
Do you honestly think if the bouncer
lets me in, I'm gonna all right,

660
00:40:45.320 --> 00:40:47.000
girl, have a good night.
Enjoy that line? When have I

661
00:40:47.039 --> 00:40:51.880
ever done that? It's it's bizarre
that people just look at me and they're

662
00:40:51.920 --> 00:40:53.719
like, oh, like lindsay,
it's a production, like she wants to

663
00:40:53.760 --> 00:40:55.960
do this. No, no,
no. You can lead a horse to

664
00:40:57.039 --> 00:41:00.519
water, but you can't make them
drink it. Moms that a lot.

665
00:41:00.599 --> 00:41:05.119
I say that. I think that. I feel like before people ask a

666
00:41:05.239 --> 00:41:08.360
question, they need to like stop
and think has this been talked about in

667
00:41:08.360 --> 00:41:12.519
the group chat? Can I type
into my message search bar and see if

668
00:41:12.519 --> 00:41:15.639
there's a recent text that follows my
question, or second, can this be

669
00:41:15.639 --> 00:41:19.800
addressed when I get there? Do
I have to send this before or can

670
00:41:19.880 --> 00:41:22.280
we just talk about it when we
get there? And then the third is

671
00:41:22.280 --> 00:41:24.960
like do they care? Do I
need to tell them all? Like,

672
00:41:25.360 --> 00:41:29.920
just just self reflect and then if
it passes all of those questions, then

673
00:41:29.960 --> 00:41:31.559
send the text, then go ahead
and ask a question. It's what Brendon

674
00:41:31.599 --> 00:41:36.320
said, like sometimes I will genuinely
provide an itinerary, like I will literally

675
00:41:36.320 --> 00:41:39.079
say, I'll go be here at
this time. I'm wearing this outfit.

676
00:41:39.400 --> 00:41:42.519
These are the people that are going
to be joining us. I have this

677
00:41:42.559 --> 00:41:44.800
alcohol in my house. If you
don't like that, feel free to bring

678
00:41:44.840 --> 00:41:46.880
something else. Please don't bring a
guest. I don't want anybody else here.

679
00:41:49.119 --> 00:41:51.320
Can I bring my friend? What
time are we going? What's the

680
00:41:51.360 --> 00:41:53.960
code to get into your door?
Are you wearing heels or sneakers? Did

681
00:41:54.039 --> 00:42:00.440
you read read? Please? It
is an essential skill. Pop off,

682
00:42:00.480 --> 00:42:05.400
Bailey. I'm sorry, but it's
like this episode is just so high.

683
00:42:06.639 --> 00:42:07.719
I like this, I like this. I need a good belly laugh.

684
00:42:08.760 --> 00:42:14.920
So mine is a little personable,
but I think everyone can understand Instagram giveaways

685
00:42:15.400 --> 00:42:21.360
and to be very, very specific. I am sick and tired. For

686
00:42:21.440 --> 00:42:25.039
the past year. On Crumble Cookies
Instagram, every Sunday they release their new

687
00:42:25.079 --> 00:42:29.679
lineup and they say tag three friends
in the comment for your chance to win

688
00:42:29.920 --> 00:42:34.679
a four pack. For the last
year, I have been embarrassed because I

689
00:42:34.760 --> 00:42:40.199
tag you three every Sunday and I
wait for Monday at eleven am Central Central

690
00:42:40.199 --> 00:42:43.199
time. It's like mountain time.
No, it's mountain time. I think

691
00:42:43.519 --> 00:42:46.519
to get a tag from Crumble Cookies
that I want and I haven't, And

692
00:42:46.559 --> 00:42:52.840
I think going off that brands,
if you see someone commenting so many times,

693
00:42:52.920 --> 00:42:55.400
just give them the free cookies.
Damn. But like with that,

694
00:42:55.559 --> 00:42:58.840
I think going off all that,
all these free giveaways. I mean,

695
00:42:58.840 --> 00:43:01.239
I do tag y'all on a lot, but I don't win. But I

696
00:43:01.280 --> 00:43:06.599
think it's so cringey when a big
celebrity like a Kardashian does that thing,

697
00:43:06.800 --> 00:43:09.880
or they pose in front of a
staircase with all these Louis Vauton bags and

698
00:43:10.000 --> 00:43:13.960
they're trying to auction. I don't
know if it's like a sweepstakes. I'm

699
00:43:13.960 --> 00:43:19.079
like, why are you guys doing
that? Tesla's You're not winning. I

700
00:43:19.119 --> 00:43:22.199
feel like it's cringier and your crumble
thing is different because that's like you're just

701
00:43:22.280 --> 00:43:25.840
commenting in the comments. It's different. But the people who genuinely post Kim

702
00:43:25.920 --> 00:43:30.480
Kardashian sitting on a staircase with Chanel
bags behind her, like those people that

703
00:43:30.519 --> 00:43:31.519
put it on the story, like
did you think you were going to win?

704
00:43:31.800 --> 00:43:35.760
I genuinely want to know if there
are any listeners out here listening or

705
00:43:35.800 --> 00:43:38.400
watching this and you've won a giveaway, like I want to have you on

706
00:43:38.440 --> 00:43:40.480
the show, like I want you
to come sit right next to us.

707
00:43:40.480 --> 00:43:45.000
They need like a twenty twenty episode, like yeah, celebrity giveaways, like

708
00:43:45.039 --> 00:43:47.440
we need to. It wasn't like
a mister beast he like recently did I

709
00:43:47.480 --> 00:43:50.960
was. I was close to put
it on my because I think it was

710
00:43:50.960 --> 00:43:52.960
like he was getting away ten million
dollars. It was like a belief.

711
00:43:53.039 --> 00:43:58.320
I believe this brand is like rooted
into giving back, right, But these

712
00:43:58.360 --> 00:44:00.800
celebrities, like I just feel like
it's like a cloud chase, like they

713
00:44:00.880 --> 00:44:05.079
just want they require you to follow
them, and so like people, you

714
00:44:05.119 --> 00:44:07.239
get a bunch of followers when you
do giveaways. What I tell because I

715
00:44:07.320 --> 00:44:09.480
do this a lot of times,
brands will ask me if I can do

716
00:44:09.480 --> 00:44:13.880
a giveaway post, and I always
say no because it tanks your engagement.

717
00:44:14.159 --> 00:44:15.920
You get like, let's say,
three hundred followers, but they're not loyal

718
00:44:15.960 --> 00:44:20.360
followers. They just honestly fuck up
your numbers. And that's what I think

719
00:44:20.400 --> 00:44:22.320
so many brands like they don't see
that. It's just like, Okay,

720
00:44:22.360 --> 00:44:27.559
you're literally ruining your engagement and all
of your analytics just because you wanted three

721
00:44:27.599 --> 00:44:30.239
hundred followers from one post, like
just give away the fucking thing. Like

722
00:44:30.280 --> 00:44:34.320
it didn't need to me, this
whole production. It's just like big celebrities,

723
00:44:34.320 --> 00:44:37.559
like it just looks weird to me. It was like authentic Is that

724
00:44:37.599 --> 00:44:43.039
even the word unauthentic? Yeah?
Sorry, it's giving. Remember when we

725
00:44:43.039 --> 00:44:45.280
were growing up and it was like
the Sweet Life of Zack and Cody,

726
00:44:45.480 --> 00:44:50.039
like Animals giveaways, where like it
was the commercial every day on Disney Channel

727
00:44:50.079 --> 00:44:52.440
and like no one ever wanted.
That's what these like Kim Kardashian giveaways,

728
00:44:52.440 --> 00:44:55.800
I think these are worse. Like
I love a small business giveaway, like

729
00:44:55.840 --> 00:45:00.719
even you doing that giveaway like for
the people Casey did a giveaway for like

730
00:45:00.760 --> 00:45:04.960
a small setic salon and her lips
look juicy and great, and she wanted

731
00:45:05.000 --> 00:45:07.039
others to look like that, and
it gave Casey some followers. The salon

732
00:45:07.159 --> 00:45:10.000
some followers, and a lucky girl
got lips. They can be done the

733
00:45:10.039 --> 00:45:15.119
right way exactly. But I I
and even those like Disney ones, I

734
00:45:15.119 --> 00:45:16.599
feel like people do win them,
Like I feel like they pick a random

735
00:45:16.639 --> 00:45:21.880
person and you just get lucky.
But those like those ones where it's super

736
00:45:21.920 --> 00:45:24.280
celebrities, like, you're not winning. The entire doesn't need to does,

737
00:45:24.639 --> 00:45:30.079
Like it's ridiculous. You already have
merch, you have everything, Like he's

738
00:45:30.079 --> 00:45:32.199
a company, Yeah, you don't
need to do giveaways, babe. What's

739
00:45:32.199 --> 00:45:37.159
his company again? Countless? And
the merch is fucking cute. He's been

740
00:45:37.159 --> 00:45:39.639
doing that for a while. What's
on everyone's TikTok for you page this week?

741
00:45:42.679 --> 00:45:45.400
Oh? I don't know if anybody
else. I feel like your fo

742
00:45:45.519 --> 00:45:49.840
you pages are literally crafted for you. So I'm an influencer, even though

743
00:45:49.840 --> 00:45:54.480
I hate calling myself that. I
am. On deinfluencing talk. There's a

744
00:45:54.559 --> 00:45:58.880
creator I was on a deep dive. I think her name is Jane Wong,

745
00:45:59.480 --> 00:46:02.159
and she he just goes into stores, she shows you the price tag

746
00:46:02.199 --> 00:46:06.599
and then she shows you like the
composition of the material, and she just

747
00:46:06.639 --> 00:46:08.159
basically like roast the fuck out of
the story. She's like, you are

748
00:46:08.199 --> 00:46:12.840
paying one hundred ninety nine dollars for
this Abercrombie coat. It's not even wool.

749
00:46:13.039 --> 00:46:15.000
This is the materials. It's gonna
break down. These these are weak

750
00:46:15.039 --> 00:46:20.559
stitches, I know. And that's
the thing. I like, am watching

751
00:46:20.599 --> 00:46:22.719
her videos and I'm like, holy
fuck, Like I don't want to buy

752
00:46:22.800 --> 00:46:28.400
anything after watching them, because like
there are a few brands that like she

753
00:46:28.559 --> 00:46:30.039
praises and like there's some good ones
and you're like, oh, like,

754
00:46:30.159 --> 00:46:32.400
I'm glad I shop there, Like
it seems like it's good quality. But

755
00:46:32.800 --> 00:46:37.559
I am very on deinfluencing talk and
seeing so many things of people being like,

756
00:46:37.880 --> 00:46:40.760
don't buy this, and I will
contribute to the conversation. I made

757
00:46:40.760 --> 00:46:44.760
a TikTok about this. Lindsey can
advocate for me if I am going to

758
00:46:44.800 --> 00:46:52.760
deinfluence anybody. Do not buy a
high sense Roku tvy do not work.

759
00:46:52.440 --> 00:46:58.039
I cannot stress to you how sad
I get every time I try to turn

760
00:46:58.079 --> 00:47:01.239
on my TV to watch something and
me twenty minutes just to get it connected

761
00:47:01.239 --> 00:47:06.119
to my internet. It is devastating
when I have a plate of hot food

762
00:47:06.159 --> 00:47:08.119
in front of me and by the
time I get the TV show on,

763
00:47:08.159 --> 00:47:13.679
the plate is gone because it's so
long to cut up the TV. When

764
00:47:13.679 --> 00:47:15.599
we rocked up her sister, who's
gonna go through the literally be like all

765
00:47:15.679 --> 00:47:20.480
right, you want to show through
it? And it just gets I even

766
00:47:20.559 --> 00:47:23.599
have had my boyfriend do it and
like he gets so frustrated. Why working

767
00:47:24.000 --> 00:47:30.360
And it's so funny, but please
spend your three hundred dollars on anything else

768
00:47:30.800 --> 00:47:34.199
high sense Roku TV, I have
beef with you. I will never purchase

769
00:47:34.239 --> 00:47:37.719
you again. Do not do not
buy it. Oh I love my Roku.

770
00:47:38.079 --> 00:47:44.400
My TikTok for you page is only
and exclusively the Susie stitch tiktokses anyone

771
00:47:44.400 --> 00:47:46.599
else on the past yeah where the
girls like for anyone who doesn't know the

772
00:47:46.599 --> 00:47:50.639
girls, Like a girl made an
innocent ass TikTok where she was like,

773
00:47:50.719 --> 00:47:52.559
call me crazy, but I don't
like pest I don't like storeball pesto.

774
00:47:53.119 --> 00:47:57.079
And everyone was like making fun of
her because like, that's not crazy,

775
00:47:57.159 --> 00:47:59.920
it's just you not liking a condiment
or whatever Pesto was, I guess.

776
00:48:00.079 --> 00:48:02.920
But then people started like saying they
like make fun of her, and they

777
00:48:02.920 --> 00:48:06.440
tell like an absurd story. They're
like, oh my god, Susie,

778
00:48:06.480 --> 00:48:07.519
that's so crazy. One time in
high school, I hooked up with my

779
00:48:07.559 --> 00:48:10.760
gym teacher, like whatever it is. But I sit there and I listen

780
00:48:10.840 --> 00:48:14.920
to the full three minute TikTok,
but I always read the comments to see

781
00:48:14.920 --> 00:48:16.880
if it's worth listening to, and
then if it is, I'll listen to

782
00:48:16.920 --> 00:48:20.760
the full thing. And they are
all crazy. I will admit I've heard

783
00:48:20.800 --> 00:48:23.000
some insane stories from that. We
were just talking about that. We like,

784
00:48:23.119 --> 00:48:28.480
I'm a Susie Stan Yeah. Yeah. I tried looking at Susie's page

785
00:48:28.480 --> 00:48:30.480
to see if she did a video, being like, I see the jokes,

786
00:48:30.480 --> 00:48:32.559
they're funny. But she hasn't turned
off the comments. She hasn't removed

787
00:48:32.559 --> 00:48:37.400
the stitches from that video, So
I assume Susie's like taking it in good

788
00:48:37.440 --> 00:48:38.679
faith, and I love that for
her, right. I think people made

789
00:48:38.679 --> 00:48:42.239
it funny now, Like at first
they were clowning her and then they were

790
00:48:42.280 --> 00:48:44.920
like, oh wait, this is
like now it's like a trend. I

791
00:48:44.960 --> 00:48:46.960
haven't seen this girl. Oh it's
funny, you'll see it now. And

792
00:48:47.000 --> 00:48:52.519
you're fat I'm sure pop up.
Mine's really wholesome. I'm like cat TikTok

793
00:48:52.480 --> 00:48:54.920
cause I think I want a cat, and I think, like I just

794
00:48:55.000 --> 00:48:59.840
can't stop watching cat tiktoks. Like
there's a specific one she has rag dolls.

795
00:49:00.000 --> 00:49:02.599
I think it's called Blossom's Cat or
whatever. So it's like babies kittens.

796
00:49:02.639 --> 00:49:07.800
It's all my fret that this wholesome. I can't because I click on

797
00:49:07.800 --> 00:49:09.199
the page, I just started getting
sucked in more and more, so that

798
00:49:09.280 --> 00:49:14.679
just pops up. Yeah, that's
about it. I think that mine.

799
00:49:14.920 --> 00:49:16.519
I did it to myself. So
every time Brandon and I go on a

800
00:49:16.599 --> 00:49:21.519
vacation and share a hotel room,
we either watch Shark Tank or s VU.

801
00:49:22.199 --> 00:49:25.440
And when we went to Fashion Week, like I probably watched six hours

802
00:49:25.440 --> 00:49:30.280
of Law and Order. She was
balls deep. No, that's aw I

803
00:49:30.320 --> 00:49:35.320
could not stop. I will get
reruns on my FYP of just little clips.

804
00:49:35.360 --> 00:49:38.760
I'll end up watching the whole episode
s VU, the like the the

805
00:49:38.880 --> 00:49:43.000
what's the who's Charlie? The chocolate
factory? What's that thing he's on?

806
00:49:43.519 --> 00:49:45.920
Like the Good Doctor or something?
Oh yeah, yeah, the Good Doctor,

807
00:49:45.119 --> 00:49:52.400
Yeah, the Good Doctor. Like
she watched Paud Judge Judy and she

808
00:49:52.840 --> 00:49:59.519
will watch a full episode of Judge
Judy on TikTok and she's like like yeah,

809
00:50:00.119 --> 00:50:04.320
part like she really, I'm like, Jesus Christ, you just turn

810
00:50:04.360 --> 00:50:08.159
on the TV. No, because
Judge Judith Shineland is going to solve the

811
00:50:08.280 --> 00:50:12.360
case. I think if you do
the crime, I have the time,

812
00:50:12.440 --> 00:50:14.719
So no matter what platform it's on
it, I will watch it. No,

813
00:50:14.880 --> 00:50:20.079
I'm so with I love watching movies
or like shows on TikTok and you're

814
00:50:20.079 --> 00:50:22.800
on like part forty seven and I've
gotten to the point now, which is

815
00:50:22.800 --> 00:50:25.480
why I know my brain is like
mashed potatoes. Is because sometimes when I'm

816
00:50:25.519 --> 00:50:29.000
watching something on normal TV, I'm
like, oh, what are the comments

817
00:50:29.000 --> 00:50:30.159
saying? And then I'm like,
oh my god, I'm watching something on

818
00:50:30.199 --> 00:50:35.199
it there's no comments, Like I
think all TV shows should have comments.

819
00:50:35.239 --> 00:50:37.360
So funny. So I wanted to
read this up when you were saying,

820
00:50:37.400 --> 00:50:39.320
so there's another trend right now,
and I just found out about this last

821
00:50:39.400 --> 00:50:42.800
night, and I think I'm late
to it. There's a new Jack Harlow's

822
00:50:42.840 --> 00:50:45.800
song. It's Vanilla Baby, and
the guy's doing this dance and like he

823
00:50:45.960 --> 00:50:50.079
like every guy who's doing it.
It's like a thirst trap kind of trend,

824
00:50:50.559 --> 00:50:54.639
and it's so funny to run to
the comments and see like people like

825
00:50:54.760 --> 00:50:59.719
to have totally opposite types as you. So like I watched this one video

826
00:51:00.280 --> 00:51:02.039
end of this guy doing the vanilla
baby trends and I was like, that

827
00:51:02.199 --> 00:51:07.559
was horrific. That guy is so
gross. The top comment was I've put

828
00:51:07.599 --> 00:51:12.960
this on loops so many times,
and I was just like, oh my

829
00:51:13.039 --> 00:51:15.800
god. And then there's it's worse
though, when you were like, damn,

830
00:51:15.800 --> 00:51:21.559
he's cute, and then you go
to and they're like this was so

831
00:51:21.800 --> 00:51:25.239
crunch. It's like, oh,
I thought it was good, Like when

832
00:51:25.320 --> 00:51:30.960
you were not aligned with the comment
section on TikTok. It's such a humbling

833
00:51:30.960 --> 00:51:34.159
experience that thankfully you can keep to
yourself. It's like, Okay, I'm

834
00:51:34.159 --> 00:51:37.679
not gonna comment my thought, but
oh my god. Like when you think

835
00:51:37.719 --> 00:51:39.239
something so mean and you're like,
oh my god, everyone must be talking

836
00:51:39.280 --> 00:51:43.920
about this certain part in the TikTok
and then no one addressed and you're like,

837
00:51:43.960 --> 00:51:46.039
oh, I'm just I'll search for
the comment, like there has to

838
00:51:46.039 --> 00:51:50.360
be someone in the twelve thousand comments
in the same thing I am. Or

839
00:51:50.400 --> 00:51:53.519
when something is not good but you
as an audience collectively agree that you're going

840
00:51:53.559 --> 00:52:00.039
to sauce that person without question.
Like one of my favorite TikTokers. I

841
00:52:00.039 --> 00:52:02.280
don't know if y'all have seen him, but his name is Raoul and he

842
00:52:02.480 --> 00:52:07.000
like was famous for the SpongeBob singing
voice. I don't know if you've no

843
00:52:07.119 --> 00:52:10.599
one's heard of that. He'll like
do aggressive TikTok dances. He will sing

844
00:52:10.719 --> 00:52:16.039
Rihanna songs in full. I know
it's not American idol like twenty twenty three,

845
00:52:16.079 --> 00:52:20.039
but the comments just gassed him,
and every time I'm like, yes,

846
00:52:20.159 --> 00:52:22.320
Raoul will pop off. There's a
term for that. It's called like

847
00:52:22.679 --> 00:52:25.280
I I just watched a tictack on
this, but I think it's called like

848
00:52:25.280 --> 00:52:30.079
glazing or something. It's like a
new like millennial term when you like gas

849
00:52:30.119 --> 00:52:35.519
someone up who you clearly like feel
bad for, or like you like like

850
00:52:35.559 --> 00:52:37.119
you know the comments, but I
don't even feel bad for him. I

851
00:52:37.280 --> 00:52:40.320
genuinely am like you're, yeah,
just get it. But you know the

852
00:52:40.400 --> 00:52:44.480
videos where it's like, yes,
like four girls dancing and one girl's doing

853
00:52:44.480 --> 00:52:46.000
a bad job and all the comments
are like I love your top. Like

854
00:52:46.639 --> 00:52:51.679
that's there's like a churn for it. Yeah. Yeah, no, I'm

855
00:52:51.679 --> 00:52:54.239
like a sometimes a secret hater.
There's this one account I brought up to

856
00:52:54.280 --> 00:52:59.559
all of you guys before. It's
like this family account that like they get

857
00:52:59.639 --> 00:53:01.719
so much hate and like I don't
hate them that much. We're like I

858
00:53:01.760 --> 00:53:05.199
don't comment or anything, like I'm
always on the lives though, Like I

859
00:53:05.239 --> 00:53:08.400
spend the half of my time on
their TikTok day and night looking at the

860
00:53:08.480 --> 00:53:13.280
updates, and I'm like a secret
hater, but like I just read all

861
00:53:13.320 --> 00:53:15.840
the comments. I'm like, damn, Like I don't hate this bad.

862
00:53:15.960 --> 00:53:20.199
There's so much power in being a
silent hater. I see videos all the

863
00:53:20.199 --> 00:53:22.719
time and I'm like that was fucking
stupid, and I scroll and there's so

864
00:53:22.920 --> 00:53:27.400
much power in that. If you
were taking the time to write a mean

865
00:53:27.480 --> 00:53:30.039
comment, is it that you're a
loser? Yeah, Like you are a

866
00:53:30.280 --> 00:53:35.039
that serious. Like it's just like
putting negative energy out, You're only going

867
00:53:35.119 --> 00:53:37.599
to get it back in unless it's
racist, homophobic, or weird, right,

868
00:53:37.840 --> 00:53:40.039
And that's weird to me. That's
not a hate comment. That's like

869
00:53:40.079 --> 00:53:44.639
literally calling somebody out. But yeah, if you're gonna comment something hateful or

870
00:53:44.679 --> 00:53:49.199
stupid just because you didn't like a
video like grow Up. Yeah. I

871
00:53:49.199 --> 00:53:52.039
feel like this episode was a therapy. Yeah. I feel like we we

872
00:53:52.079 --> 00:53:57.360
sounded like those old ladies with that
I've Had It podcast. Maybe we need

873
00:53:57.360 --> 00:54:00.360
to call this episode the girlies have
had It. No, actually, pressure,

874
00:54:00.400 --> 00:54:02.880
if it was like a meter,
it would just be like yeah by

875
00:54:02.960 --> 00:54:06.440
the whole time. I feel that's
what happens. We don't see each other

876
00:54:06.559 --> 00:54:09.320
for a week, we just catch
up and get heat it about things pop

877
00:54:09.360 --> 00:54:14.159
off. Yeah, we love to
ship talk. I know that's a wrap.

878
00:54:14.199 --> 00:54:17.639
Don't send us annoying us solicited dms
Google. If you are in a

879
00:54:17.679 --> 00:54:22.400
relationship, don't dm us inappropriate things, because we will expose you. Yes,

880
00:54:22.559 --> 00:54:24.639
if you're in our city, just
put on the story and keep it

881
00:54:24.679 --> 00:54:30.679
pushing. Yeah, let's just keep
every little thing we said today between us,

882
00:54:30.719 --> 00:54:35.480
gurlies. Yeah, keep it between
us gurlies. See you all next

883
00:54:35.480 --> 00:54:36.880
week, guys,