Made a decision. Thanks Sonny, Sun, I had vision night. Julie,
what's up? Everybody? Welcome to for crying out loud. Special thanks
to that bitch Julie Kaysum for coming in last week holding down the forge.
She was grazed. Awesome. I love her. Everybody loves Julie. Everybody
loves Julie. Thank you, Julie. She's the exception to uh that everybody
hates guests, right, but we've listened to you guys, and I think
you'll notice that we do get that our guests have their own show. Yeah
mm hmm. Right now there, let's say hello to our fabulous, fabulous
peachee Rachel newcomer who's still she's back to being a newcomer. Yeah yeah,
Ashley so sheic and Kelly Ladita and Amy's a hunt and Katie's rolling on e
and not Anna Faris and Anna, I mean, uh, Aaron, who
is Nikki? Call you girl? Leslie? One coughing and one's accosting yep,
yeah, oh, and I have a I have a little a costing
story too, uh Robin Wazinski over the weekend and uh yeah, and I
got accosted. But Jacob is so Growley and Rita Rocks the Basinette with Elizabeth
Williamson's kids and Elizabeth Williamson hot on Are. She's she's been going through something
with one of her beautiful kids, and we wish her all the best.
And Athena, we love your dancing Polly, we love your pancake and your
scissor. Vallery, Bubba Fenwick, it's out of the park. Katerina just
got that implant finally. She didn't listen to us about and she lost it.
Gabby and Missy Oh I saw him at Springsteen last outside trying to scalp
and they were scalping tickets, still scalping tickets when we left the shell.
You're like holding onto shows over Yeah, do that ass Yeah. And she's
one of them. She's a moderator on our on the religant page. She
is keep keeping Kelly bryandt She's not your aunt and she acts like it.
Alicia Lane from the City of al Lant almost done. Sarah's the fun and
stuffy sticker rinker, and Christa gets stopped and Sandra, it's not easy being
green and Jennifer get up and Aaron, you are a dirty Sanchez. Oh
my God, you and I both. Yes, we have so much to
talk about. We do. I feel like I haven't seen you in a
long time. It's been a couple of weeks. Yeah, and I feel
like a lot has had, A lot has transpired, yes, and lots
of things, lots of travels and so concerts to start with Florida. Yeah,
so I went to it was spring break, and I mean, my
kids have been talking about going to Florida for a year, like you know.
And the nice thing is is that, you know, Wendy's got a
house there and it's in Naples and it's next door to her. Well,
when she moved into Chicago, they moved into next door. Their next door
neighbors had the guy had a Porsche and it said his Porsche said Rosalita on
the license plate, which is a Bruce Springsteen song. And Wendy was like,
oh, hell yeah, we're gonna love these people. And they had
one daughter who married my nephew Nick and now they're in laws. Now they
have a baby. Yeah, and do they tell that story sometimes? Oh,
Wendy say, as soon as I saw that license plate, oh yeah,
yes, yes, well totally. And I showed that the car was
in Florida and they're garage and I had to show Sonny and Natalia I go,
and Natalia loved it, you know, because she likes that song.
But yeah, so then they they have they had a house in Florida.
So then Wendy's ex husband, who they're still together, bought a house next
door. So now they there's two houses next door to each other that we
all so it's plenty of room for people. So we made it this baby.
Wendy's still with her ex, I mean they're not officially except they're not
officially divorced. Oh, but they're still I mean, you know, cohabitating
it and not in Chicago, no, okay. And then they both use
that Florida house from you know, he's there when she's not there obviously,
so they live next door to each other. So Nicholas just had a baby.
Well now he's like seven months old and so so cute, Like I
barely heard the kid cry the whole time I was there. Just a sweetie.
It's so fun to be around babies and little kids again because and especially
being an aunt, because I can just have fun with them. And then
it's like all right, you know, you guys do all the work,
I get to have the fun being in the pool with them, you know.
So anyway they're there. Then Anthony, who rarely takes vacation, he's
you know, he works full time and he like has to plan his vacation's
way ahead of advance. So when Anthony I found out he was going to
be there with his wife and the two kids, I was, you know,
Sonny and Italia. It was like we were like, Okay, this's
gonna be a fun, big family vacation. And it was. We had
a good time. But so it was a lot you know, I mean,
there's a lot of a lot of us, and then there was Wendy
and I think that's it me and there me and my two kids. So
we had game nights, you know, like it was just so fun,
Like it felt like a real kind of family vacation, you know, like
getting up, going to breakfast in the morning, you know, I mean
and then eventually, you know, people getting on each other's nerves and starting
to argue, I mean whatever, But not with me. I was having
a good old time Auntie Lynnette, like I get the best of ever,
Like you know, I never get to see them, never get to see
the kids. They see each other all the time. Right sunny, Natalia
having a good time, so sunny, so n Italian. I flew out
just the two of us because Sonny had March Madness basketball oh okay game that
he had to go to on Saturday. So Italian I got because I wanted
to get there. I wanted a head start because I had to cut I
was cutting my short, my trip short, to get back for I had
tickets to see Bruce on Thursday night and last night Sunday nights. Oh you
went both nights, Well no, but I had tickets to go both nights.
Okay. So my plan was was to fly you know, Friday with
Natalia and get there and then fly home on Wednesday, go to Bruce thirdday.
Okay, Okay, So anyway, I so her and I fly out.
I had a nice I had the best time traveling with her because it's
just like you know, and never get to spend that one on one and
I thought about it, it's the best. And I was thinking, it's
like whenever we ever ever did travel, it was either you know, it
was sunny or or or her friends or I'm going with her and her friends,
you know, and she's with her friends. It was I've never like
I get her alone for a long you know, a whole day of travel,
and it's the best. It was the best. So going I'm going
with LB this weekend because I remember I told you she got into sdsum M
San Diego State University and so we're going to accepted Students days. So she
and I are going to drive together on Fridays, stay in a hotel being
all so Saturday, and then get to drive home together and so nice.
The best part I'm looking forward to is like hanging with her in this for
a couple hours. I know. It's just it's so and like she's really
totally I know, and she's like relaxed, and she's like she's matured so
much like the last I don't know, therapy. I don't know what it
is, but it's definitely matured. It's just you know, and we get
to we're joking and she's like, you know, Natalia is not really like
she's she cracks jokes, but it was like a totally like she's you know,
I don't know, it was she was like a pal, like a
friend, right, you know, like hanging out with a friend. So
the two of us get there, and then Sonny has his basketball game on
Saturday, so he flies by himself on Sunday night, Easter, and he's
got to take we got to take two planes to get there, so there's
like a layover in Houston and whatever. Oh yeah. So and then it's
like forty five minutes from the airport to get to her house. So he
gets in. He I got him a car to pick him up. I
just didn't, you know, I didn't want to risk get with them.
I don't know, got so got the car to pick him up. And
he gets in late Sunday night, and and then like we're having a great
time. And then and then everybody else kind of trickles in. Like Anthony
drove from Chicago with his family straight through for twenty four hours, straight through
with six year old and a two year old. Oh my god, crazy,
all right, but they were first of all, his kids are I
mean, they're so sweet and they you know, but they're six and two.
So yeah, they they drove straight through, and so they start trickling
in. Sonny gets in and then and then you know, like we we're
having a great time, and Sonny's not like really a fun in the sun
kind of kid. And that's really like all you're doing all day, right,
you know, and like the first day it's like at the pool whatever,
He's okay, you know. And then she's close to the beach.
You know, all Natali wants to do is go to the beach, beach,
beach beach, and she's up early. She's like, when are we
going? What are we doing when? And you can't do that to especially
my family. They you know, there's no everybody just flies by the seat
of their pants. There's really not a lot of planning, especially when it
comes to the little kid. You gotta be flexible. So Anthony's got the
two kids, then Nicholas has a six month old seven month old baby,
you know, so it's like, but you know, they need to start
packing to just go for a ten minute drive to the beach. They forget
about it the night before, I know, got eight diaper bags. Yes,
you know, as we used to talk about pack like you're going on
a cruise, right, like you're never coming, like there's not and toys
and yet the sun block and forget about the back sunlock, the blankets and
pillows. Yes, so I mean you stay there for ten minutes and then
you're like, let's go. And then the baby. Yeah. So and
the first day Natalia is like, you know, can we go to that?
And Nicholas and on. Everybody's sweet to my kids, especially Nicholas and
his wife. Andrea is a people pleaser, like she's just that kind of
a person. She's old school, like Italian girl, like you know,
but she's definitely a people pleaser. So she never wants to ever let anybody
down. So Natalia is like, that's her. She prays on Andrea like
poor girl, you know. And Natalia is sleeping at their house, like
you know, so there's Wendy's house next door. Their house is, and
so Natalia's got her room at their house. So she's up first in the
morning, like and of course they're up with the baby. She hears them
and it's like, you know, she's like a shark in the water smelling
blood, like oh, and she knows she's got their number, you know.
And so and Nicholas too. Nicholas is just an easy going dude like
okay, or you know, all right, you want to go to the
beach, Sure, wait, I gotta take the baby. Oh, Okay,
you know, it's just you know, he's just this fumbling dad.
Andrea has a great mom, so so she doesn't want to let me tell
you that. So the first day, it's like their first day at the
beach with the baby, like they haven't this is their first this is the
baby's first outing alone since he's been born. These are two new parents and
they're gonna go to the beach for the first time with the baby. And
they got in Italia going let's go, you know, on the clock,
like it talks, you know, clocks ticket. So anyway, but I
said, didn't it tell you you help them? Of course I'll help them,
you know, blah blah blah. So they get a head start,
you know, Wendy and I are like prepping. I'm helping Wendy get the
house ready because Anthony's driving, you know, with the two kids, and
she wants to get the blow up bed, and so I stay back to
help Wendy and she gets she takes she gets them to the beach. They
have a great time. It was their first time with the baby on the
beach, and they had all their shit, you know, like the pop
up ten and whatever, you know. The sunscreen, this, the that,
and they had a great day and yeah, it was a lot of
that. So yeah, Sonny is not that you know, so Sonny ends
up, It's like, where's Sonny. He's on the bike. He's like,
right, he gets a hold of one of the bikes in Wendy's garage
and you never see him. He's just like riding around with his earbuds,
you know, just riding around the neighborhood, listening to his porn. Yeah.
I saw some article about like the rise in actual audio porn. I
was like, oh, so it's actually it's an actual thing. Really wow,
audio porn. I guess that seems like more of a girl girl.
But anyway, go on. Yeah, so he he's outriding his bike.
But you know, then we we did one night we went to Benny Han
Like it wasn't Benny Hannah, but it was a like exactly, oh my
god, do you that's my favorite thing. I'm like a total Benny hannahor
really yeah, I haven't been to one of them. And like I was
upset that John didn't want to go for his birthday. I'm like, I'll
make everybody go for their birthday. It's so cheesy, but it is.
It's so cheesy. It's so cheesy something so fun I like the food,
yeah, the food is delicious. Yeah. So it wasn't like a Benny
Hannah, but it was abachi type place. And it's so funny now when
we go out to dinner with an Italia because she's the hostess, that's her
job at a restaurant, and like we get there and they like, seat
us at a table that's a regular like a booth, and we were like,
no, we wanted the you know, the table, the grill,
and so Wendy, you know, she's like and Italian is like, O'll
be nice to the hostesses, like, don't be mean anyway. So we
get the table and we're all we have the whole thing to ourselves pretty much.
And also when you have kids, you're going to dinner at like four
thirty five o'clock because their bedtimes like seven o'clock. And Anthony is like my
brother, how my brother used to be. It's like and I used to
be too, like like you know, freaking eight o'clock bedtime. That's the
law in this house. Like you're you guys are going to bed whether you're
tired or not you know whatever. So we go to dinner and uh,
they're flicking the things, you know, the they're throwing the shrimp and the
chicken at everybody around the table. Then they do this weird thing where they
had like it was kind of gross. I don't even know what was in
the I think it was lemonade, but they had like a baby like a
baby doll, like a like a squeeze, and then they had the like
it's like he was peeing into your mouth and he would shoot it like to
the people. And I saw him do it to the table next to us,
and I was like, so he brought it out. I was like,
oh no, no, no, no, no no no no no
no no no no, we're not gonna need that now, put that thing
away. This is so weird. But yeah, so we did that.
And then and one night Wendy and I went to like there's like a like
I really wanted to they do what do you call it bingo? But carry
it there's like a karaoke bingo thing. But we didn't do that. When
you have kids, you know, it's like you gotta there's a lot of
plans kind of get you know, shut down. One day went to the
zoo and me Sonny in Italian are like, oh hell no, like we
stayed here. Sonny's riding his bike in Italian and I are just sitting by
the pool. Not a lot to do like during the day except be in
the pool or go to the beach. Well, that's the nice thing about
your kids getting older, too, is you get to say, like,
you know, what been done that right with the zoo. It's like when
Gina Kimmel was like, one thing I won't be doing is going to the
park exactly, and I even she gets to say that, she gets to
like, not go to the park anymore. I'll do anything with you except
go to the park. Yes, I was like, I'll do anything,
but I ain't going to the zoo tomorrow. Like that's that's all you guys.
Know. Me and I thought Sonny and Natalia would want to go,
and they're like, oh no, you know, I don't know. I
was like, you know, I don't know. But the funny thing too,
is they go to the zoo, they're up and gone by like eight
thirty nine in the morning, and then they're back at like twelve thirty one
o'clock, like you know, there's not a lot. I mean it's not
the La Zoo either. It's just done the local zoos or whatever. So
and then at night we would play games. There's this game called Code Word,
which we all loved and it was so fun and you get like in
two teams and stuff and there's all these you would you would love it,
like you got to come up. It's this whole thing. But they lay
out all these words. It's fun. The fun thing is is you're you're
on a team and you're playing board game. It's a it's it's there is
no board, but yes, they put you put these words out and there's
like twenty five words and you got it and you get You look at the
card and there's you get you like like three. You try and get as
many words with one by using one word like I don't know, like like
you'll see like beach and then you'll see like restaurants. You'll have beach restaurant,
bicycle, and then you you have to give like one word to try
and or if you can't get three, try to get the three words.
Or if you can't get three words, you'll you'll just say I get I'll
just do one word you know, you can just say one word like sand
and then they'll go, okay, beach. But but then sometimes you get
creative, you know, like you'll think of a movie that would tie all
like Star Wars. Somebody came, somebody just said Star Wars the movie and
they were able to do like Falcon and like in Galaxy, you know,
Galaxy Galaxy and like you know jet, you know what I mean, and
then they get three three words are knocked down. So it's it's it was
it's fun, you know, and it's like you sit there and you think
for a while, but you can talk and chit chat. When it's the
person's turn, they have to, like, you know, they got to
sit there and think for a little bit. So then there's a lot of
chit chatting and you know, so we played that and you know, it
was it was great. It was a really nice trip. And then Sunny
and Natalia. Why was oh, because like I was supposed to be leaving
on Wednesday and going to stay longer, and they were staying longer. They
were staying an extra day, they were staying. I was leaving Wednesday,
they were leaving Friday. Everybody was leaving Friday, and they talked to me.
Everybody talked me into staying. Oh so you skipped Bruce. I did
only because I was able to get Suzanne was able to sell my ticket to
one of her friends. Okay, and otherwise I wasn't. I wasn't gonna
do it. But yeah it was and it was the Bruce played like as
Suzanne was. Suzanne was there on Thursday night, and and we came home.
Actually we came home Thursday night. Sorry, everybody was leaving Friday,
but we came home Thursday, and I just stayed because you know, my
kids were on spring break. It's their last spring breaka, so you still
came home before they did. No, I came home with them. They
were coming home on Friday. Everybody was leaving on Friday, but my kids
were supposed to come home Thursday. Oh and so I extended my trip to
come home Thursday. Okay, Yeah, let's take a quick break and then
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like, and for some reason, I have Suzanne on my Find my Friends.
I have my kids, and I have Suzanne on Fine my Friends.
So I don't know how that happened, but we think it's funny, like
we can see each other where we're at. So we were we were flying
home Thursday. We were flying over Los Angeles, you know in LAX,
you're coming in. As you're coming in, you fly over like Sofi Stadium
downtown LA. And Natalie is like, oh, we're gonna fly over Bruce
right now because she's at Bruce and so we were like looking out the window
and like she's like, Mom, thank you so much for staying. Like
it was you know, we had a great time. So glad you stayed,
you know, and I know it was so sweet. Yah makes it
worth it right there totally. And the fact that she wants to sit next
to me on the plane, like Sonny sat next to a stranger. He's
like, I'm fine sitting by myself. I don't need you to. And
then like you know, we were like talking and we were gonna watch a
movie together, but we both fell asleep. But yeah, it was really
it was really cute. So yeah, we were flying over. So Suzanne
was able to get my tickets sold. And then I saw Bruce last night
and I twisted my knee, which is how did you do that? I
was dancing in the pit. Oh okay, we were So we get there,
we're in the pit, and you know, we're really close. And
a lot of these people I was reading on the I follow like a Facebook
page fan of people, and you know Springsteen fans, and they're intent.
They fly all over the world to come to la to see Bruce. And
they were talking about getting there at six a m. This morning in the
morning to get their wristbands to get in the pit. And I'm like,
yeah, we used to do that in the back of the day, but
we don't need it. You don't need it with you now. You just
buy your ticket. But they want to be like right up in the front,
you know, but like, yeah, Suzanne and I do too,
but like we're like two people behind being like we don't need to be like
touching his shoe the whole time, you know what I mean, Like I
don't know, I mean, I get it, but but then like you
know, people give you the like when you get into the pit, they
like, you know, most of the fans are really nice, but this
one guy was like, like, you know, had this like stern mean
look, and he's tall and he's in front of us, and he's there.
But then I was like, Suzanne's like, I think he's gonna be
a dick. And then the other people around us were really nice, and
then I was like, what's going on. I started talking to him.
Turned out he was really nice. They flew in from Boston with his daughter,
him and his wife to take them to see and I go, I
took my kids. I flew to Boston when he was at Foxboro, you
know, so then you like meet people. And before the show starts,
this girl comes up to me and she's like, are you a net?
Shut up? I took a picture with her. I go yeah, and
she goes. I love for crying out loud. Oh my god, isn't
that cute. I love when that happens. I was like, oh my
god. His Ann's like, let's get a picture, took a picture.
I don't her name. Oh gosh, she had an Alexandria I think is
her name. And if she's listening, hello, but I don't think she
was she's on our Facebook page or she could be, but she was so
shy though. I was like, what are you doing, Like, let's
hang out, like I'm having a beer, I'm excited and and and she's
like, no, I don't want to bother you. Don't want to bother
you. And I was like, oh, please bother me. I love
this, like like somebody listening to our show. I love that. Like
ah, She's like I had a feeling you were going to be here.
Uh So she was really sweet. But yeah, it was nice. And
then we saw Jeff Ross was in the pit. I didn't see him until
after the show's over. But that was fun and it was a great show.
Yeah, it was amazing. And you know John Stewart there, No,
he's he's on the East coast is yeah, well he lives in New
Jersey. I think he lives in Yeah, he lives in New York.
I just I guess I always feel like he was a show well because he's
doing the Daily Show now, so I thought maybe it was from not here.
Oh h Now, usually you know when I would see Bruce and he
was there, it would be on the East Coast. The people that I
would see What made me sad was I would see all the time is Bob
Saggott at Bruce and he would be with Jeff Ross. Yeah, that that's
sad. But I know, I don't really, I didn't. Really Usually
you see, like especially at LA, you know, you usually see celebrities
and stuff. But I didn't. I don't. I mean, I'm in
the pit, so I don't know. And they're probably sitting in the you
know, skyboxes or wherever. But and it was at the Forum, not
at the Staples Center. He doesn't like the Staple Center, Bruce. Why
I don't He doesn't like people being in those boxes and those suits. You
know, That's what I read. I don't know, and talk to him,
that's what he told me. I mean, i'd want to know how
Patty feels about that exactly. Well, you know, Patty freaking Patty,
Like I don't know, she like she's not at any shows really never she
usually is, but like for the last few years, she says, doesn't
come around. You think, no, they're together, But I just think
that she's you know, she can I don't know, she probably just like
maybe she's an ass full of it. Yeah, I don't know who knows,
but of course she shows up in LA and does two songs I could
have done without. Oh I need to see their lovey dovey love songs together,
like all right, and then they do another one. I'm like,
oh, you're gonna do another one, bitch, why are you're not doing
this singing? Huh she was singing? Yeah, she comes out and does
it do like this two love duet songs. Oh, and not even like
my favorite songs. There's other songs they could have picked, but whatever.
And then like she she's not doing this in Cleveland, Ohio. That's for
It's like, really, you're gonna come out in LA, like, I
don't know. It's just so okay, all right, miss Priss. I
ain't no play a hater, but all right, get your groove on.
You know, I'm here to see Bruce really not you, right, thank
god? She let and then she well, I don't care that she's in
the band. I just don't want two songs being taken up of them doing
their but whatever. And they weren't like super popular songs. They yeah they
are. They're pretty popular, better than the tougher than the rest. That's
the god Linette. That's weird to god God, I was gonna say,
does he ever tougher than the rest he did last night? The only reason
I say that is because you know, I don't know if you remember that.
I love the singer Colin Hay who's from Men at Work. Yeah,
yeah, I have Men at Work. But he has a major solo career.
Sometimes he's still tours with Men at Work. But I used to go
see him contantly many many years ago, like even before I met John,
I would go see him at like Largo, right, and he wasn't that
popular, like it wasn't a thing. Yeah, but he did. That
was one cover that he did with oppru Springsteen's song, and I dit the
first time hes sang that song, I was like, oh my god,
I'm obsessed. And then I went and listened to Springsteen's version of it,
and it's like a deep cut. It is a deep No, it's not.
It's not a big song. I know. It's one of Jimmy Kimmel's
favorite songs too, is yeah, yeah, yeah, and yeah, because
it's not on like it's not on one of his big albums. It is
a deeper cut. It's he always does it usually when whenever he does it
since like I think the eighties. If he ever does it, it's with
her and they sing together. It's cute, No, it is. It's
good. I've seen it enough, like all right, like let's let's let's
get some jungle land or something, you know. But but it was it
was cute. But yeah, they did. Oh and then uh, Tom
Morello came out from Rage against Machine because he used to travel with Brute.
He's the one you know in Rage gets with the guitar strings like busted and
he does it, you know, with this and he did two songs with
him. They did forty one Shots, which is a controversial song about a
black man. It was it was based on This was from I think the
early nineties. Black guy got shot by cops forty one times in New York
City and that's that was. He did that one. And then he did
Ghost of Tom Joe. So yeah, Tom Morello came out. That was
fun. It was great. It was great. Like it was a shorter
song than I mean, a shorter show than Suzanne got. She got like
three hours and twenty minutes. Yeah, ours was like, uh, just
at the three hour mark, it's still a long time. It's a long
time. Yeah, it goes by so fast, so fast. But it
was fun. But yeah, I twisted my knee. Now it's like,
so, how did you twist your I didn't know. It was dancing.
Oh oh my go like at the end of the show, he does like
dancing in the dark Glory Days Rosalie am born to like and he turns the
lights on, so all the lights are on and everybody's dancing. So I
don't know. I was jumping up and down and I just I didn't feel
it when I did it, but I sure felt it this morning when I
got up. Okay, So it wasn't like you got injured at the time.
I mean, we're getting old. It sucks, I know, I
know. So I know you got you got some stories. I do.
I have some stories too. So anyway, all's well, that ends well.
But you had a great time, had a great time. Florida was
great and now you're back. Yeah I traveled as well. So but this
this saga, okay, so just what this is what happened Alby? Okay,
so we're so Elbe as I announced, like, I don't know whether
it was last week, the week before Elbe got into San Diego State,
the school that she didn't get into last year. So as everybody recalls,
because I talked about it ad nauseum, because when your kids are sad,
it's really hard to not feel sad for them. As we all remember LB
there there's the good ucs, the top U sees, not the good use.
But you know, it's funny because last week Julie was on here and
she was talking about the fact that her husband, Jamil, who is now
a pretty prestigious doctor at UCLA in adult congenital heart defects, but he went
to UC Riverside, which is not like the good U ses, you know,
but you know, but then he had to go to med school and
he went to medical school, UCLA Medical School. So now what I'm saying
is like, you can't really be a snob, but the kids get it
in their heads, especially these LA kids that are like, I want to
go to you know, UCLA, Berkeley, U c Irvine, U see
San Diego. Elbie really wanted to do, you see Santa Barbara. As
you remember, she got rejected from everywhere, including cal Poly Slow. So
for those of you who are not from LA, it's cal Poly San Luis
Obispo, which is a state school, but it's one of the best state
schools. San Diego State is also one of the best state schools. So
there's like there's like cal State Fullerton, cal State Chico, cal State Fresnos,
you know, but people don't necessarily want to go to those. They
want San Diego State, big raw raw school with football and you know,
big city, right, and then there's cal Poly Slow, which is just
a more prestigious of the cal States anyway, but there's those are still not
the same level as like your UC Irvine you see, uh UCLA. Okay,
So Elbe applied only this year she had to reapply. She only applied
to schools that she would go to. This time, she was like,
I'm not applying to like university somewhere that I wouldn't go. So she applied
to the five UC's, the ones I just mentioned, plus how Polly Slow
and San Diego State. She got into San Diego State. We're all happy,
Yeah, this is going to be great. We signed up. I
signed her up for the tour for the Accepted Students' Day because when she was
going to go to Santa Cruz, we didn't go to Accepted students stay because
it was full, so she couldn't go to Santa Cruz at a time that
there were like a bunch of stuff happening and lots of kids, so it
was kind of shitty. Like she went and it was like hard. She
couldn't see any students. All she could see was trees. With that story,
she was like, I don't want to go to school on a hiking
trail. I'm not doing it. I'd rather go to community college for a
year. But as you know, she had to go through the whole thing
again, reapplied all these schools. So she gets into San Diego State.
I'm excited about it. I sign her up for Accepted Students Day. We're
gonna go this weekend, which we're going right, but like a few days
ago, and this is before I left on my trip with Robin, so
this was Thursday. I left on Friday, so this just happened. This
is just last weekend. I'm like, I was like talking to Elbe about
there's this other person that I know who has a daughter that's Elbie's age and
they're both in the same position, and that mom was saying that her daughter
got into San Diego State and maybe we could all do Accepted Students Day together,
right. I go tell Elbie that and I get the the tight lipped
like I wish you guys could see me because it's like like she gives me
this like smile like kay right, and I'm like, what's what's wrong?
She goes nothing, I'm fine, and I'm like, you seem off,
like aren't you You're not excited to do not want to go to see San
Diego State? Like I think this would be a great school for you,
you know. I was like, no, I do I do? And
I was like, okay, well do you not want to go with my
friend and her daughter? Is that what you're feeling like because we don't have
to go with them? And she's like it's fine. So I'm like,
something's wrong. And lately Elbie just hasn't been talking to me that much,
Like I just feel like she's been a little bit remote ya you know what
I mean? Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, And I'm like I just
feel like something deeper is going on with her and I don't know what it
is. So I was finally I was like, something's wrong and I just
wish you would tell me. Is it that you just you don't want to
go to San Diego State. A big tear falls and she goes, Mom,
I got waitlisted at cal Poly Slow. So I was like, oh,
okay, and she goes, it's just not good. That's the city,
that's a state school. It just doesn't bode well for my other applications.
And you know, my brain is like trying to do like mama brain,
but I don't want to be like toxic positivity and like that doesn't matter,
you know. So I'm like, well, I was like, yeah,
but that school has a really small sociology department, like maybe they just
don't accept a lot of transfer students. And she's like, Mom, you
know it's not good. And I was like, well, you don't want
to go to that school anyway. I was small and it's kind of out
there and it's not like a big college town and it's a bunch of fucking
nerds that cares who cares. And she's like, it's not that, it's
that, it's it's bad news for me getting into the good like U sees.
And I was like, well, we don't know that, like let's
not go let's not totally go down that path. But she was set then
she starts kind of crying and I'm like, but she's like, Mom,
I just I just don't know if I can handle handle like what happened last
year. I just don't know if I'm see if I can handle it.
And I was like, I know, I know, And then in my
mind I'm immediately like, should I tell her to call her therapist? Like
I text her therapist? You know, you know, I get so far
ahead of myself. I get anxious and I want to control it, and
I'm like, I want to like be a I want to call the school,
so like you need to let LB in. She's hard right now,
you know. But at the same time too, I'm like, listen,
she did everything she can do that it's sad of her control, I know.
So anyway, eventually I'm like, do you want to go to Target
with me? I have to dye my roots because I got gray hair and
I'm going to be And she's like okay, So she goes to Target with
me. I buy her some chocolate. We're having a good talk. I'm
like, listen, we're gonna go to San Diego, like it's a great
school. They rejected your ass last year and you got in so it's already
you already have a great option, like we know you're gonna have somewhere to
go. And she's like yeah, and then at the end of the night
she's like, you know, it's fine. She goes, I'm I'm I'm
excited to go see San Diego and with we can go with like the other
friend and that'll be fun. And I'm like, okay, well yeah,
yeah, go ahead. The next day, you see, Irvine decisions came
out, so like what happens is what happened. All the kids talk about
the decisions. They all know it's on TikTok. All these kids that have
applied to UC's, they their decisions come out on certain days and it's throughout
April for the transfer kids. Yeah, okay, So April fifth was UCI
decision day, and so I was lee. I left to go drive to
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FCL. So so that morning, the next morning when I left, I
knew that the Irvine decisions were coming out. Why because I'm on Reddit,
because I'm up on with the kids, because I'm like obsessed with it when
these decisions are coming out. But I know that she knows too, just
like she knew that she but she didn't tell me that she got waitlisted to
help Polly Slow until I was bugging her about what's wrong. She'd found that
out like two days before, right, So that morning I went to go
drive with with Robin and I was like, I was asking Robin. I
was like obsessing over it. I'm like, what do you think do you
think the fact that she didn't get into that she got waitlisted for cal Poly
Slow. I was like, Elbie thinks this is a really bad sign,
Like what do you think And Robin's like, I just don't know. Because
her son Jack went through this a few years ago. He ended up at
San Diego State, but he did community college for two years. He got
into UC San Diego. He got into some some schools, but he didn't
apply to the same ones Elbe applied to. But anyway, she was like,
I just don't know. Well, later that day is when I knew
the decisions were coming out, right, So I figured she would check it,
like before she left for work. I don't I don't hear anything from
her, and I my heart like was just like oh, Like, I
was like, she would have known by five o'clock, by five pm Pacific
times she would have known. And I saw that she didn't leave for work
until like six thirty. So I was like, she didn't get in.
Then I was like, okay, maybe on the off off chance that she
decided like I don't want to see bad news before I go to work.
I don't want it to riad by night. I'll just check it later when
I get home. So so Robin and I went out and I'll tell you
about that. On Friday. We had we had a great time, but
I was the whole time trying to like distract myself. Like that night Friday
night, I was feeling really just kind of off and anxious and just like
and in my mind, I was like, Okay, all right, Like
she didn't get in, but what does this mean. It doesn't mean that
she won't get into UCSB, which is like her dream school, like she
wanted to go there last year. I was like, cause, you see,
Irvine is one of the hardest you sees. It's like up there with
Berkeley and UCLA, and so I'm like, you know, I don't know.
And so that night, I I'm look, I'm reading Reddit, and
I'm seeing all the kids going like I got into Irvine. And then I'm
seeing other kids that are like, I have a four point zero and I
got rejected and it's all the transfer kids, and some kids are like,
I don't know what I had to do. I you know, I did
everything I needed to do. I had a four point zero in community college
and I didn't get in. And I'm reading stuff to Robin and and so
now it's like midnight, she's been home. I'm like, if she got
in, she would have texted me, like she would have texted she wouldn't
have cared that it was midnight. So now I'm like, well, I
mean she didn't get in, And I'm like, okay, I'm gonna this
is going to be a long ass week because we're going to see San Diego.
But she's maybe going to be in a bad mood about it. The
rest of the decisions don't come out for another like couple of weeks, right,
So the next day I just I'm just distracting myself and go do my
thing, which I'll tell you about later. I do my book panel,
and like I said, it was fun. And then I'm signing some books.
Then I get a fucking text from John okay, and he's like,
oh, and by the way, I had sent John a text, and
I was like, head's up, Albi. I don't think Elbie got into
Irvine, and she's probably really upset about it. She might not say anything.
She's not she she's not going to tell us that she didn't get in.
She's but she might be really, really off right. And he's like,
Okay, well, she came in from home from work last night.
She didn't seem like she was in a bad mood. I was like,
that's cause she probably didn't know yet, you know in my mind. And
he's like, she but she was on the phone, but okay, thanks
for letting me know. So now it's like, you know, I don't
know what time it was, but it was like noon the next day and
he goes, uh, he sends me a text and he goes, hey,
Albi got some news dot dot dot and I was like, yeah,
I know, and he's like, and she's she's pretty emotional and I think
she needs her mom. And I'm like, I'm at the I'm at a
book signing. I was like, but I was like, it's I know,
it's bad. I was like, but in my mind, I'm like,
can you can you talk to her? Yeah? You can't. Like
I'm gonna have to go get somewhere away from everybody and she's gonna be crying
and I'm gonna need to like and I was like, I'm gonna need to
talk her down and give her like statistics and what And I was like,
can you talk to her? And he goes, I mean, I am,
but I think she wants to talk to her mom. And I was
like, okay, can you give me like a few minutes because I'm still
with all these people, and I was like, oh, I feel so
bad. My heart is hurting right now. And he was like, he
was like, dumb ass. She got in, and I was like,
I screamed so loud. I was like, right, I standing in front
of you, was like, she got in. Robin was like cause she
Robin had been listening to me yes for a day and af upset and she
was Robin starts crying, crying. I'm like hugging Robin screaming. And then
I look at my text from LB and she was like, mom, you
bitch got Do you see Irvine? So, oh my god, that's so
great. That's so great. We were cheering and it's just been like,
honestly, such load off. Oh I bet. I bet, because it's
not even necessarily that she wants to go to Irvin. She's never even been
there. She does have a friend there who loves it. But it's the
idea of, like, listen, even if she didn't get into some of
the other ones, I think she would feel better knowing she's got a good
ucy to choose from. Yes, then if she goes to San Diego and
loves it and chooses to go there, she's doing it because she had options,
not because it was the old that wanted. Right, How the fuck
does somebody like Elbie like, just it's so crazy. It's California, so
cricking hard. It's California. It's the California schools. They're all impacted.
They're very, very difficult to get into. Like at least I know now
with Sadie and Xander, right not to because with Elbie we were too dumb
to realize it's hard. So also, also the major really makes a big
difference, and we didn't know that the major. We didn't know that the
major of psychology was so hard to get into. And this time, and
this time she's doing sociology, which I'm hopeful will be a slightly less impacted.
And sure she even wanted that to begin. I mean, that's the
better route, that that's the better major that she wanted. Right then,
she wanted psychology. But Santa Barbara, we found out that the major is
brain science, which she realized is not her jam. Anyway, she didn't
want to take a bunch of biology classes. And you have to take biology
and you have to take science stuff, you know, which she was like
chemistry, weird stuff to what she thought was a people thing, being a
therapist. You know, sociology, it none of this matters. You have
to go to grad school if you're going to do some of these things.
But sociology you can do a lot with r You can like go, you
can use it for marketing or HR or like social media stuff or like advertising
or there's a lot of things you can do with sociology. Right, But
if you go to grad school, she could be still be a therapist.
It doesn't matter what you undergrad, right, right, But you get so
caught. And also these freaking kids shouldn't really have to pick a major yet.
They shouldn't just explain yeah, yeah, yeah. When we were in
school, everybody was undeclared, right, you know, right, can't you?
Does it look bad if you put undecided? Does it hurt you?
I don't think it hurts or doesn't give you a better chance? I don't.
I don't really, That's what I was wondering because I told Sonny,
like for one of the school I said, maybe you should just put like
undecided, because you know, I maybe because you never know, like what
if there's too many people for that going for the same may I don't know.
But they're really specific about like whether you're you're a stem kid or whether
you're like a humanities kid. So you can't you can't stay undecided and then
decide, oh, I'm going to be an engineer, because they're going to
be like well or or computer science, like some of these majors are so
impacted that you have to be like, you could be a four point zero,
you know, cured cancer, did all these things and still get waitlisted
because computer science is just very impacted. Well so psychology not as bad as
as like, but of the humanities, like, she wasn't making the cut.
So anyway, all this means to her is like I have a better
chance. Yes, maybe I'll get options. It's possible I could get into
Santa Barbara Berkeley, UCLA. That's a possibility. But even if I,
even if she doesn't, I think she just feels it's going to be a
better week. She's been in a really good mood. Yes, I feel
the best I've felt literally in a year. That's kay awesome that she got
into a good school. Yeah good, absolutely absolutely, And so is she
still You're still waiting to hear from the other schools. But we won't know
until after we've gone to accepted students stay at San Diego State. But this
way she'll go into with a better attitude, knowing that, like she's also
going to see Irvine, knowing that she has a chance at other schools,
maybe she'll see San Diego State and be like, I freaking love this.
Yeah, as LB always tells me, Mom, I'm a basic bitch.
San Diego State is a basic bitch school. Yeah, it's all the things.
It's girls in half tops, it's San Diego, it's you know,
yeah, it's kids that like to go to raves. Right, you know
this is going to be I think she's going to see herself right there.
Right. It's not school on a hiking trail. Yeah, thank god.
It's kids that don't want to go to school. Not a lot of trees,
of trees, you know, just enough trees. Yeah. Yeah,
anyway, that's awesome, I know, is great to end on. So
at that note, how about a shout out from a friend, Adam Lerner.
Adam's got a car dot com or his phone numbers three one zero nine
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people a week for crying out loud. That's great. He's so happy to
just answer questions or like educate if you If you don't, you don't have
to sign up with him. You could just be like, hey, I
just have some questions. I'm just starting the process. He'll be happy to
talk to you, right. He loves to talk cars great and tell us
about Mike Gerstein. Well, speaking of cars and Mike Gerstein, I love
his slogan. By the way, it's they're number one with number two.
I know we were laughing about that last week. So for you guys in
the Phoenix metro area and basically all of Maricopa County, Mike is a twenty
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com and check them out my pal mic. Yeah, and also don't forget
about the Family Skeptical. It's a podcast about raising kids with no religion.
It's friend of the show. It's her podcast. It's only there's only a
new episode like every three weeks, so you won't get like two bucked up.
That's nice. Yeah. Also Wilmaan and Frida. If you're in Palm
Springs or Palm Desert, go get you some brunch. It's the best brunch
in town. It was voted best breakfast like a million years in a row.
Yeah. And also Basic Becky. Oh my god, Basic Becky sent
us a pillow that I just forgot to bring into the studio and it's says
it's Lynette and Stephanie f co l University, Like, oh my god,
I love you University. How people were talking about how we're we have our
in college. Remember, yes, she sent us our pillow for it to
put on the couch here. Oh my god, I know. So if
you want something from Basic Becky, go to just Basic Becky dot com or
find her on Facebook at basic Becky. Yeah, I'm trying to get her
to make me a mug that says dumb bitch juice a coffee mug. Yeah.
Yeah, so she's looking at it, just can't figure it out.
Yeah, all right, you guys, Hey, thank you guys. Thursday
Wednesday we have a Patreon. Yes, it's already been recorded. And Thursday
we have Leon Kreischer, Bert Kreischer's wife from Wife of the Party podcast that
is our Thursday guest. She's fantastic. I did her podcast and we sat
for like two hours. I talked and she goes there, came about the
mommy issues, all the stuff. Love it. Tune in for that.
And we have a zoom coming up from our Patreon a week from Sunday is
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thanks Kaylin, love you guys, your parents. Now, don't f it
up, letting go