WEBVTT 1 00:00:04.080 --> 00:00:07.160 So when you saw the title of the video, what did you think were 2 00:00:07.160 --> 00:00:10.480 you were like, what is team's going to share with us about what he 3 00:00:10.640 --> 00:00:17.039 knows? Well, this is not gonna do. As I get older, 4 00:00:17.920 --> 00:00:25.160 I am learning the more I think I know. I don't know about that 5 00:00:25.239 --> 00:00:30.480 for a second. I know a lot of stuff obviously from what we experiences 6 00:00:30.519 --> 00:00:35.920 I've had, whether it's schooling or life or as I say, formal education 7 00:00:36.280 --> 00:00:43.039 and life education the street. I got to fifty four US fifty five. 8 00:00:43.320 --> 00:00:48.039 Somehow I am here. Oh, I made mistakes, done things I shouldn't 9 00:00:48.039 --> 00:00:52.320 have did, had some fun along the way, and made it here. 10 00:00:52.359 --> 00:00:55.240 And I look at that a little bit as I'm my birthdays is in a 11 00:00:55.280 --> 00:01:00.679 few months, and I'm looking at I start getting reflectively around this time period 12 00:01:00.560 --> 00:01:03.480 and I'm looking at my birthday. I'm looking at when I just my life 13 00:01:03.799 --> 00:01:07.079 in general as an adult, say from eighteen on, because I was on 14 00:01:07.120 --> 00:01:11.319 my own eighteen, that's when those subs she left when I was on eighteen, 15 00:01:11.719 --> 00:01:14.560 which I always knew I was going to. I mean, my mother 16 00:01:14.640 --> 00:01:15.439 tell you, I was like, I'm gonna leave eighteen. I'm gonna go 17 00:01:15.480 --> 00:01:23.680 and sport the world. But from eighteen to now fifty four, we had 18 00:01:23.680 --> 00:01:29.640 some life and experience and I look back and I go, wow, I've 19 00:01:29.680 --> 00:01:32.400 accomplished this, this, this, this, this done this that I've had 20 00:01:32.400 --> 00:01:34.799 many lives and my friends and family know that. You guys know that. 21 00:01:37.519 --> 00:01:40.680 And it's just times I might go, how did I do it? Like 22 00:01:40.760 --> 00:01:42.480 I did it? I know I did it, but I really did bounce 23 00:01:42.560 --> 00:01:47.439 back or I mean, there were times I've lost stuff and fires, floods, 24 00:01:47.799 --> 00:01:51.439 relationships, whatever, and I'm like, I was thinking, I was 25 00:01:51.439 --> 00:01:53.799 thinking about the other day. I was thinking back in nineteen ninety nine, 26 00:01:55.040 --> 00:01:57.760 I was trying to find a place to live. I was trying to leave 27 00:01:57.799 --> 00:02:00.760 situation that wasn't good. Living situation I was like, wasn't good. And 28 00:02:00.799 --> 00:02:05.159 it was like one percent vacancy in San Francisco. It's dot com boom. 29 00:02:05.239 --> 00:02:09.759 Everything was booming. People were like doing gift baskets and muffins just for credit 30 00:02:09.840 --> 00:02:14.479 checks, you know, things like that. And I remember I decided to 31 00:02:14.520 --> 00:02:21.719 walk up and down the street and see what was available. And I had 32 00:02:21.759 --> 00:02:23.000 at the time, I had a pre decent job. I was working pretty 33 00:02:23.000 --> 00:02:29.360 good, so I could I could get something decent. Was getting expensive back 34 00:02:29.400 --> 00:02:34.360 then, you know, thirty years ago. I was read twenty five years 35 00:02:34.360 --> 00:02:38.560 ago. I remember I was down the street and I just am by the 36 00:02:38.639 --> 00:02:42.280 grace of God and everything else in the world. I come up on an 37 00:02:42.280 --> 00:02:47.199 apartment where the person who's looking for people part manager went to high school with 38 00:02:47.240 --> 00:02:53.400 my then current boss, and also he was Puerto Rican. We just we 39 00:02:53.479 --> 00:02:57.639 banded together with the New York stuff. My boss, my boss at the 40 00:02:57.680 --> 00:02:59.719 time, gave a great and I was working for him, so he gave 41 00:02:59.719 --> 00:03:04.280 a great reference. And that's how I got the place to live. And 42 00:03:04.280 --> 00:03:07.360 the place I was living in was very unique, and I just remember thinking 43 00:03:07.520 --> 00:03:09.960 now the background and going wow, I looked at this unique place and a 44 00:03:10.000 --> 00:03:15.080 great part of town. I lived my life. I was golden coming out 45 00:03:15.080 --> 00:03:21.080 of a situation that wasn't golden. I made it. That's why I just 46 00:03:21.080 --> 00:03:24.919 made it. I've had jobs that I just was oh, they were so 47 00:03:25.199 --> 00:03:30.800 serious and dire and oh my god, and then somehow those jobs are in 48 00:03:30.840 --> 00:03:34.159 my past. Half the jobs I've worked in San Franisco are now out of 49 00:03:34.199 --> 00:03:38.840 business. Then I even a business anymore, and like they were, so 50 00:03:38.919 --> 00:03:40.319 it's just so serious. I mean, my whole world, which just like 51 00:03:40.439 --> 00:03:44.879 I'm just I'm just learning that I I know what I know what, I 52 00:03:44.919 --> 00:03:50.159 know what I know right, And now we have this thing called social media. 53 00:03:50.560 --> 00:03:53.520 So as an older person, I'm watching all these younger people and me 54 00:03:53.560 --> 00:03:59.400 telling what they think life is and the meanings of life and whatever. A 55 00:03:59.400 --> 00:04:01.000 lot of them, I just feel it's just it's all for clicks and hits 56 00:04:01.000 --> 00:04:11.199 and platitudes. And I've noticed a lot of these younger influencers or talkers, 57 00:04:11.240 --> 00:04:15.639 what racial speaks, whatever, they follow other people like they're so like they 58 00:04:15.759 --> 00:04:18.199 quote other people all the time. It's like, well, what do you 59 00:04:18.240 --> 00:04:20.000 use think? I was, like, what do you think? But you're 60 00:04:20.079 --> 00:04:24.160 quoting people. I quote my own life experiences. I don't quote other people 61 00:04:24.480 --> 00:04:27.040 except for family members. Maybe I'll say that Mike, grandma should say. 62 00:04:27.600 --> 00:04:33.120 But otherwise they will quote other folks. That's interesting thought right there. But 63 00:04:33.199 --> 00:04:39.560 there are a few that to me, are very unique and they're very real 64 00:04:39.759 --> 00:04:43.879 and they share themselves and their experience and I follow a few of those and 65 00:04:43.879 --> 00:04:47.439 I love those those guys and the other things I push aside and you know, 66 00:04:47.439 --> 00:04:49.920 okay, whatever, they try to get clicks and hits, and that's 67 00:04:49.959 --> 00:04:53.759 the whole thing. But there's some folks who are like me, where we're 68 00:04:53.759 --> 00:05:00.120 just transparent. We just tell our experience. There's something about shared experience what 69 00:05:00.120 --> 00:05:02.560 I'm worring about in their fifties. Two. I'm in a situation right now 70 00:05:03.959 --> 00:05:09.759 that I wouldn't have understood about if I hadn't gone through what I went through 71 00:05:09.839 --> 00:05:13.959 last year. That makes any sense. I'm in a new situation where I'm 72 00:05:14.199 --> 00:05:19.160 able to understand that person situation because I went through it. So shared experience 73 00:05:19.199 --> 00:05:24.319 one thing. I will say, shared experience make a big difference on mindset. 74 00:05:24.360 --> 00:05:26.759 And I'm like, okay, now, now, a couple of years 75 00:05:26.800 --> 00:05:31.720 ago, I would have understood in theory what you're saying actually would have been 76 00:05:31.720 --> 00:05:36.000 different. Now I'm like, I totally get it. I totally get But 77 00:05:36.120 --> 00:05:39.560 that is because I went through it myself, and I know the ins and 78 00:05:39.600 --> 00:05:45.759 outs of it, and it's tough. I think I'll just end it there. 79 00:05:45.800 --> 00:05:48.199 That's what fifty pluses this week. I'm fifty plus. I'm James la 80 00:05:48.279 --> 00:05:50.480 Junior, jailj Media. Talk to you next time.