WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:03.359 Hi everyone, and welcome back to another podcast episode. My name is Alicia 2 00:00:03.399 --> 00:00:06.759 Gogin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand 3 00:00:06.799 --> 00:00:09.759 your mind to become more self aware so that you can glow up into the 4 00:00:09.800 --> 00:00:14.240 best version of yourself. Hello, how are we doing? Happy Monday? 5 00:00:14.439 --> 00:00:18.120 If you're listening to this on a Monday, it is very early in the 6 00:00:18.160 --> 00:00:21.399 morning for me to be recording a podcast episode, but I just had to 7 00:00:21.399 --> 00:00:27.199 get on the mic. Okay, listen. I had a very spiritual morning, 8 00:00:27.359 --> 00:00:31.920 like I have been mentioning, well at least last week's episode, talking 9 00:00:31.960 --> 00:00:35.640 about how I've been really tapping more into my spirituality, just having a morning 10 00:00:35.679 --> 00:00:40.439 routine that's very much so light the incense, pull an order oracle card and 11 00:00:40.920 --> 00:00:45.759 listen to some Abraham Higgs vibes. And of course I did that this morning 12 00:00:45.880 --> 00:00:50.600 as well, and I pulled a card from my oral cold deck and it 13 00:00:50.719 --> 00:00:55.039 was all about trust and I want to read because it has like a little 14 00:00:55.079 --> 00:00:59.560 like guide to explain to you what the cards mean if you don't know what 15 00:00:59.600 --> 00:01:04.799 they mean. And these deck of cards that I have, I usually just 16 00:01:04.879 --> 00:01:08.159 like to pull them just to get my mind thinking of something. I don't 17 00:01:08.280 --> 00:01:15.439 use like oracle decks or like tarot cards or whatever to like truly like give 18 00:01:15.439 --> 00:01:18.400 me answers. Like I'm not seeking for answers, but I do love to 19 00:01:18.439 --> 00:01:22.359 pull them sometimes just to get my mind thinking. And a lot of times 20 00:01:22.560 --> 00:01:26.879 when I pull a card, it really does resonate with my soul or resonate 21 00:01:26.920 --> 00:01:32.439 with what something is happening like within my life. So I thought that this 22 00:01:32.560 --> 00:01:36.319 is such a good topic to talk about and something that I think it takes 23 00:01:36.719 --> 00:01:41.599 a long time to even understand what it means to trust your intuition or how 24 00:01:41.640 --> 00:01:44.359 to and I know I've just gotten a lot of questions about this, and 25 00:01:44.400 --> 00:01:48.000 I think, like as I get older, I'm twenty eight now, there's 26 00:01:48.040 --> 00:01:53.000 definitely things when I think about my life that I have done to help me 27 00:01:53.879 --> 00:01:59.719 trust myself more. And I guess trust my intuition and act on that more. 28 00:02:00.079 --> 00:02:06.719 And I'm actively always trying to go in the direction of what I deeply 29 00:02:06.799 --> 00:02:09.759 know is true for me in the world and where I want to move in 30 00:02:09.919 --> 00:02:16.120 life. And I am somebody who loves to talk a lot about healing work 31 00:02:16.159 --> 00:02:22.479 and feminine energy a lot and cyclical living. And I think the more that 32 00:02:22.520 --> 00:02:27.400 I tapped into cyclical living, which just means like, well, there's many 33 00:02:28.280 --> 00:02:32.400 ways you could cyclically live, I guess, but one is cycle sinking. 34 00:02:32.599 --> 00:02:37.120 Just understanding that as a woman, I'm also not on birth control, that 35 00:02:37.240 --> 00:02:40.120 I go through four phases of my cycle every single month. So my mood 36 00:02:40.199 --> 00:02:44.919 is going to be different, my energy levels are going to be different, 37 00:02:45.400 --> 00:02:49.439 my insights in life are going to be different. And I see that all 38 00:02:49.479 --> 00:02:53.159 the time. But just in general, understanding that life is not linear. 39 00:02:53.280 --> 00:02:59.520 Things happen, seasons happen, and there's just periods of your life where you 40 00:02:59.599 --> 00:03:04.439 sometimes need to come closer inwards, do that deep shadow work, do that 41 00:03:04.479 --> 00:03:07.759 healing work, and then there's some seasons of your life where things just feel 42 00:03:07.759 --> 00:03:09.800 really aligned and things are just moving and whatever. And I just embrace all 43 00:03:09.800 --> 00:03:13.719 of that. And I think, like coming from somebody who has been really 44 00:03:13.800 --> 00:03:15.560 strict on herself, I talk about that a lot in my book The Ultimate 45 00:03:15.560 --> 00:03:19.919 Globe Guide, where I went on this pursuit of glowing up in the best 46 00:03:20.000 --> 00:03:23.159 version of myself and I really try to change myself from a place of self 47 00:03:23.199 --> 00:03:27.360 hate. So I would do habits and behaviors that were really strict and all 48 00:03:27.439 --> 00:03:30.520 or nothing and every morning I have to wake up and have to do the 49 00:03:30.560 --> 00:03:32.680 same thing, and if I don't, then I'm just I hate the fact 50 00:03:32.680 --> 00:03:36.919 that I didn't, and I get so hard on myself when I don't, 51 00:03:37.000 --> 00:03:40.520 and I just so controlling and stressed out all the time. Once I went 52 00:03:40.560 --> 00:03:46.879 through a process of healing that whole, not part of me, but getting 53 00:03:46.879 --> 00:03:47.840 to the root as to why I was like that in the first place, 54 00:03:47.840 --> 00:03:53.919 and trying to self improve and love myself in a way that wasn't so strict, 55 00:03:53.520 --> 00:04:00.280 I found myself really resonating with the fact that things really aren't linear in 56 00:04:00.319 --> 00:04:03.960 life and they don't need to be. And so even when it comes to 57 00:04:04.360 --> 00:04:10.319 healthy habits, like when we're talking about the glow Up Challenge, I give 58 00:04:10.400 --> 00:04:15.439 myself different days to do different things because I know not every single day is 59 00:04:15.480 --> 00:04:18.839 the same, and like it doesn't have to do the same. So anyways, 60 00:04:19.000 --> 00:04:23.639 I say all that to say, the way that I live my life 61 00:04:24.800 --> 00:04:30.480 definitely does help me be able to connect more into my intuition, my higher 62 00:04:30.480 --> 00:04:36.639 self, my inner knowing, whatever it is. And definitely the morning routine 63 00:04:36.639 --> 00:04:41.399 that I currently have right now allows me to tap more into that. So 64 00:04:41.480 --> 00:04:48.879 anyways, let's just read what the Divine Intuition Oracle guide tells us about intuition. 65 00:04:49.040 --> 00:04:53.439 I think this is a really really good definition of what it means to 66 00:04:53.439 --> 00:04:56.160 trust your intuition. And then I'm going to give you some of the things 67 00:04:56.160 --> 00:05:00.439 that I have learned on my journey. Like I said, so the card, 68 00:05:00.439 --> 00:05:01.839 which I guess I'll just show you guys on YouTube what it looks like 69 00:05:03.399 --> 00:05:09.319 looks like this with little hands and like crossing the fingers. I guess that's 70 00:05:09.360 --> 00:05:13.759 what it is. Super cute and aesthetic of course, so it says trust. 71 00:05:13.959 --> 00:05:16.720 You have drawn this card today to encourage you when you act on feel 72 00:05:16.720 --> 00:05:23.439 good intuitions, the results will speak for themselves. And I think there's a 73 00:05:23.519 --> 00:05:28.360 reason why we ask the question of how do I trust my intuition more? 74 00:05:28.639 --> 00:05:34.839 Because I think that there's an inner knowing that our intuition, like there's something 75 00:05:34.839 --> 00:05:40.759 within us if we could just hap into it, that is the right action 76 00:05:40.920 --> 00:05:45.480 to take from or trusting the feeling that we have within ourselves. Like I 77 00:05:45.480 --> 00:05:48.000 think that's why we ask the question because it's like we know that if we 78 00:05:48.000 --> 00:05:54.680 were to act more on our intuition or trust our intuition, we would get 79 00:05:54.959 --> 00:05:57.600 either the results that we really want in our lives, or we would just 80 00:05:57.600 --> 00:06:01.079 get in alignment to what we actually desire in ours. So let's expand on 81 00:06:01.120 --> 00:06:05.920 trusting your intuition. How do you learn to trust your intuition? How can 82 00:06:05.959 --> 00:06:11.600 you be sure that your inner sense of guidance isn't mere daydreaming or wishful thinking. 83 00:06:12.439 --> 00:06:15.000 Do you need to practice for years, read hundreds of books, or 84 00:06:15.040 --> 00:06:18.839 be born with a special gift. The answer is actually much simpler than that. 85 00:06:19.079 --> 00:06:25.720 The key is to act on it. Your logical mind will protest because 86 00:06:25.759 --> 00:06:30.279 it wants to guarantee. It wants to know that what it's making is the 87 00:06:30.360 --> 00:06:32.959 right decision and acting on the right information, which is very true. Right. 88 00:06:33.000 --> 00:06:38.759 It's like we almost like have this intuition, this knowingness, desire, 89 00:06:39.040 --> 00:06:44.000 and it feels so good, and then we get into our logical minds and 90 00:06:44.040 --> 00:06:46.160 then we come up with all the evidence just to prove to us why we 91 00:06:46.240 --> 00:06:49.759 can't trust or we shouldn't trust, and we go into the spiral of thinking. 92 00:06:50.040 --> 00:06:54.560 And I think that's just like number one key to know whether the feeling 93 00:06:54.600 --> 00:06:59.199 that you have or the thoughts that you have really whether it's intuition or if 94 00:06:59.199 --> 00:07:02.319 it's kind of just like you're limiting beliefs or your negative self talk or your 95 00:07:02.319 --> 00:07:08.120 trauma talking or your survival mode, like getting activated is how do you feel? 96 00:07:08.519 --> 00:07:12.360 And usually our intuition like there's a good feeling that we want to act 97 00:07:12.399 --> 00:07:15.720 out of. We have this insight or this desire that feels good to us. 98 00:07:15.959 --> 00:07:20.199 And then what follows that is all of the negative, the not so 99 00:07:20.360 --> 00:07:25.240 good feeling, the second guessing. And I want to talk about like the 100 00:07:25.279 --> 00:07:28.759 second guessing and where that comes from. But let's continue on. In our 101 00:07:28.800 --> 00:07:32.600 black and white world, we often look at life far too simplistically. Everything 102 00:07:32.639 --> 00:07:36.920 is either good or bad, up or down, positive or negative, right 103 00:07:38.079 --> 00:07:43.079 or wrong. But life is much more nuanced than that. From our first 104 00:07:43.120 --> 00:07:46.519 days at school, we're taught that there is a right and or wrong answer 105 00:07:46.519 --> 00:07:48.480 to every question, and a right or wrong way of doing things. But 106 00:07:48.519 --> 00:07:55.720 where is a creativity and individual perspective? Which is another thing that is so 107 00:07:55.959 --> 00:07:58.920 true and something that I really learned as I got older, was like, 108 00:07:59.480 --> 00:08:01.839 yes, on one hand, we need logic, we need structure, we 109 00:08:01.879 --> 00:08:05.879 need to know rules, regulations, we need yes or nos. We need 110 00:08:07.680 --> 00:08:15.120 we need clarity in life, But life is just It is more nuanced than 111 00:08:15.120 --> 00:08:18.000 that, like, we we have to take in consideration. We have emotions, 112 00:08:18.040 --> 00:08:22.680 we have we're dealing with other human beings, we have ebbs and flow 113 00:08:22.839 --> 00:08:26.600 of literal mother and nature. We have so many things changing that things can't 114 00:08:26.639 --> 00:08:30.879 just be black or white in life. Even when I think about dieting, 115 00:08:31.680 --> 00:08:35.039 like I remember when I used to always want to jump onto strict diets of 116 00:08:35.120 --> 00:08:39.600 being like, Okay, well I want a certain outcome, so I'm the 117 00:08:39.600 --> 00:08:41.600 way I want to get this outcome is if I'm going to be like one 118 00:08:41.639 --> 00:08:45.679 hundred percent with eating clean or one hundred percent with all my meals every single 119 00:08:45.759 --> 00:08:48.720 day for three months, and then I'm gonna glow up. It's just like 120 00:08:48.480 --> 00:08:54.639 we're not taking in consideration other aspects that will play a role in our ability 121 00:08:54.679 --> 00:08:56.240 to get our goals. But it doesn't mean you can't get your goals. 122 00:08:56.440 --> 00:09:00.080 It just means that you need to understand that there's going to be things in 123 00:09:00.120 --> 00:09:05.440 your life that play a role in you on getting to the path of your 124 00:09:05.480 --> 00:09:09.360 goal, and how do we navigate that, how do we not get tied 125 00:09:09.440 --> 00:09:11.399 up? And oh my god, today I didn't have a good day and 126 00:09:11.440 --> 00:09:13.639 my emotions were all over the place where I didn't have a lot of energy 127 00:09:13.639 --> 00:09:18.679 because I had my period and whatever. When we understand that there's just ebbs 128 00:09:18.720 --> 00:09:20.799 and flows in life, like let's say there's just going to be a week 129 00:09:20.840 --> 00:09:24.399 out of the month for me that I'm going to be on my period, 130 00:09:24.799 --> 00:09:28.600 I learn to adapt. I learned to support myself. I don't turn on 131 00:09:28.639 --> 00:09:31.720 myself because I don't have all the energy in the world to hit all of 132 00:09:31.759 --> 00:09:35.840 my workouts. I learned the workouts that I can do on the days that 133 00:09:35.879 --> 00:09:37.960 I need more rest in my life, and I continue to flow. And 134 00:09:39.000 --> 00:09:41.600 the more that I do that and not resist the natural ebbs and flow of 135 00:09:41.679 --> 00:09:46.519 life, I still get to my goals because I'm not just stopping everything right. 136 00:09:48.240 --> 00:09:50.240 I think this comes back to you again when we go on diet and 137 00:09:50.600 --> 00:09:54.919 whatever, you emotionally ate for some reason, or you just didn't have time 138 00:09:54.960 --> 00:09:56.879 to make your meal at home, so you just had to go stop somewhere. 139 00:09:58.279 --> 00:10:01.480 But because you're so black, and you look at the fact that you 140 00:10:01.519 --> 00:10:03.279 had to go stop and get something to eat as like, oh my god, 141 00:10:03.320 --> 00:10:05.759 all my progress is loft. Oh my god, I'm not going to 142 00:10:05.840 --> 00:10:09.759 get to my goals. Oh my god, this shouldn't be happening. Who 143 00:10:09.840 --> 00:10:11.759 said that that shouldn't be happening. And then on top of that, your 144 00:10:13.399 --> 00:10:16.000 perception of the fact that it shouldn't be happening is the thing that allows you 145 00:10:16.480 --> 00:10:22.200 to continue to perpetuate the thing that is not the best for you. And 146 00:10:22.279 --> 00:10:26.120 that's the issue. It's not to say that eating a piece of cake or 147 00:10:26.279 --> 00:10:31.159 eating something that's not necessarily nutritionally good for you is like the best thing for 148 00:10:31.240 --> 00:10:35.879 you. But at the end of the day, things happen. But it's 149 00:10:35.919 --> 00:10:41.240 the fact that you think it's so bad that you tend to then fall more 150 00:10:41.320 --> 00:10:46.519 into the unhealthy food or the unhealthy behavior, and you falling into the unhealthy 151 00:10:46.519 --> 00:10:52.159 behavior like eating food every single day until Monday because you ruin something on Thursday. 152 00:10:52.559 --> 00:10:56.200 That's where you get into hot waters and then you tell yourself, see 153 00:10:56.240 --> 00:11:01.000 nothing works, or see like yeah, any so I'm going on a rant, 154 00:11:01.039 --> 00:11:05.159 but that's what I that's my thoughts on that when you act on your 155 00:11:05.159 --> 00:11:09.159 inner prompts, those unexpected feelings of just knowing, you will discover more about 156 00:11:09.159 --> 00:11:13.720 yourself and your life and your unique language of your intuition, which is also 157 00:11:13.759 --> 00:11:18.159 another thing to think about, is you have a unique sense of what your 158 00:11:18.200 --> 00:11:22.440 intuition or your higher self or your soul is. Everyone is different the way 159 00:11:22.440 --> 00:11:26.320 that we experience life. A lot of us feel things more than others. 160 00:11:26.360 --> 00:11:31.960 A lot of us think things than others. Like sometimes, like I think 161 00:11:31.120 --> 00:11:43.919 in imagination in pictures a lot, I'm very like tapped into what my higher 162 00:11:43.960 --> 00:11:50.200 self and my intuition is always really saying. Some people are guided by you 163 00:11:50.240 --> 00:11:52.159 know, maybe even if it's you know, like something to do with spirituality 164 00:11:52.320 --> 00:11:56.799 or even God or whatever. Like, we all move through life and we 165 00:11:56.840 --> 00:12:03.200 all have a different language and a different way that we actually experience this whatever 166 00:12:03.240 --> 00:12:07.480 it is, higher self intuition, this deeper knowing of something. So that's 167 00:12:07.519 --> 00:12:11.519 just something to think about. Over time, you will start to notice the 168 00:12:11.559 --> 00:12:16.120 difference between a mere thought generated by your black and white mind trying to be 169 00:12:16.279 --> 00:12:20.799 right, and your intuition guiding you to step outside the square and explore other 170 00:12:20.840 --> 00:12:26.440 possibilities. They will actually feel different, as though a mere thought has a 171 00:12:26.440 --> 00:12:31.279 different texture or vibration from an intuitive inspired idea. And I think that this 172 00:12:31.279 --> 00:12:35.480 at least is very apparent to me. When I feel good, I know 173 00:12:35.559 --> 00:12:39.720 it's coming from a place of intuition, my desires. I think that your 174 00:12:39.720 --> 00:12:45.360 desires are a part of where your intuition will kind of sit within your body, 175 00:12:45.399 --> 00:12:48.919 your soul, your mind. And I am very aware of when my 176 00:12:50.000 --> 00:12:54.480 black and white thinking comes online. And it's not that black and white thinking 177 00:12:54.559 --> 00:13:00.919 or logical thinking is wrong, but I find when I'm feeling really or I'm 178 00:13:00.960 --> 00:13:05.000 starting to feel anxious, I'm starting to second guess, I'm starting to actually 179 00:13:05.159 --> 00:13:07.799 freeze, like I'm not even taking action on any black or white thinking or 180 00:13:07.879 --> 00:13:13.399 logical thinking. That's what I know that it's no longer serving me. And 181 00:13:13.639 --> 00:13:16.519 there's times where I need to think black or white and I need to take 182 00:13:16.559 --> 00:13:18.679 logical action and step forward, and I have to plan and I have to 183 00:13:18.679 --> 00:13:22.399 be organized and have to think in the future. Yes, yes, yes, 184 00:13:22.120 --> 00:13:26.039 but that should still feel like flow a lot of the times. And 185 00:13:28.120 --> 00:13:31.039 when I am feeling this is what happens for me at least, is when 186 00:13:31.080 --> 00:13:35.080 I get to in the black or white thinking and over analyzing things, I 187 00:13:35.519 --> 00:13:39.360 tend to genuinely not take any action at all. I get into this energy 188 00:13:39.399 --> 00:13:43.720 of procrastination. I won't do anything, I'll take hours doing something. And 189 00:13:43.759 --> 00:13:48.480 that's when I know that my black and white thinking, my logical the right 190 00:13:48.519 --> 00:13:54.360 answer thinking is actually not serving me, right, So thinking about you know, 191 00:13:54.440 --> 00:14:01.279 are you able to take action on black or white thinking? Logical thinking 192 00:14:01.399 --> 00:14:05.080 like step by step processes, And if you're not able to even do that, 193 00:14:05.120 --> 00:14:09.000 and if you're so overwhelmed, most likely that's not actually serving you anymore. 194 00:14:09.000 --> 00:14:11.960 And then sometimes what I do when I get into that overwhelm, I 195 00:14:13.039 --> 00:14:16.799 just say, screw it, none of that's working for me. What would 196 00:14:16.840 --> 00:14:18.360 feel good to me in this moment? And I know we can't always act 197 00:14:18.360 --> 00:14:22.759 on every single thing that feels good in every single moment, but there's a 198 00:14:22.799 --> 00:14:26.519 part of you that knows that there's something that would feel better than what you're 199 00:14:26.519 --> 00:14:30.080 doing right now, go take action on that. And then usually what happens 200 00:14:30.120 --> 00:14:35.080 is I'm able to It's almost like rid the anxiety that I once had, 201 00:14:35.120 --> 00:14:37.759 and then I'm able to have a little bit of a clear focus on what 202 00:14:37.840 --> 00:14:41.080 is the next action step to take if I need to take that. Depending 203 00:14:41.080 --> 00:14:46.279 on what I'm talking about, the thought will come from a degree of effort, 204 00:14:46.440 --> 00:14:50.559 but the intuition guidance will pop up unexpectedly, often bringing with it a 205 00:14:50.759 --> 00:14:56.440 feeling of wonder and delight. Notice how quickly your logical mind tries to shut 206 00:14:56.480 --> 00:15:00.919 down that positive feeling, telling you it couldn't possibly be right. Train yourself 207 00:15:00.919 --> 00:15:05.240 to recognize that the moment when the inspiration arrives, act on it, which 208 00:15:05.279 --> 00:15:11.720 is so it's so big when you feel good, when you have a desire, 209 00:15:13.559 --> 00:15:18.279 act on it. And again, this is actually inviting your logical structural 210 00:15:18.679 --> 00:15:22.960 like black or white thinking kind of back into the picture of you know, 211 00:15:22.960 --> 00:15:26.039 stepping into the masculine energy of act acting right. It's not that we want 212 00:15:26.039 --> 00:15:31.360 to throw away the masculine structure, masculine energy getting things done, but it's 213 00:15:31.399 --> 00:15:35.039 like when you feel this, and I'll give you a quick example of today. 214 00:15:35.159 --> 00:15:37.320 I really when I started reading this, I was like, this is 215 00:15:37.320 --> 00:15:39.960 such a good podcast episode to talk about, Like I feel really aligned. 216 00:15:39.960 --> 00:15:43.360 I was journaling this morning about it, and I was like, this is 217 00:15:43.399 --> 00:15:46.000 something I need to talk about. My intuition was like yes. And the 218 00:15:46.039 --> 00:15:50.399 thing is, though I had on my list of things to do, I 219 00:15:50.440 --> 00:15:52.679 got to wake up, I'm in a journal, got to go to the 220 00:15:52.759 --> 00:15:54.720 gym, I gotta do step by step by step. And it's not to 221 00:15:54.759 --> 00:15:56.960 say that those things are bad and those things are wrong, but realistically there's 222 00:15:58.000 --> 00:16:02.000 something There was a desire within me that felt just better than even going to 223 00:16:02.039 --> 00:16:03.039 the gym right in this moment, which I can go to the gym like, 224 00:16:03.080 --> 00:16:07.000 it doesn't mean that I can't go to the gym right now. And 225 00:16:07.080 --> 00:16:11.600 I knew my soul that it's best to act on this inspiration in this motivation 226 00:16:11.720 --> 00:16:15.639 really because it's not gonna last, because what's gonna happen is I'm gonna start 227 00:16:15.639 --> 00:16:17.679 getting in my head about all these things, or maybe I should talk about 228 00:16:17.679 --> 00:16:19.600 this topic or da da da da. So I knew, let's just do 229 00:16:19.639 --> 00:16:22.919 it, let's just act on it right now. But I still acted on 230 00:16:22.960 --> 00:16:26.360 it right I still had to take that action in that alignment. So that's 231 00:16:26.360 --> 00:16:30.639 just something else to think about. Learning to trust your intuition will probably take 232 00:16:30.679 --> 00:16:33.919 a little bit of time because it's a new habit you need to develop. 233 00:16:33.159 --> 00:16:38.600 Trust grows through taking action and experiencing the result. And when I read this 234 00:16:38.679 --> 00:16:44.600 last sentence, this is where I really thought about having this conversation. Trust 235 00:16:45.000 --> 00:16:51.480 grows from taking action and experiencing the results. And I get questions all of 236 00:16:51.519 --> 00:16:56.879 the time, how do I trust myself more? And the truth is, 237 00:16:56.879 --> 00:17:00.720 is the way that you learn to trust yourself and even have confidence within yourself 238 00:17:00.799 --> 00:17:04.119 is if you take action. Now, the problem with a lot of us 239 00:17:04.319 --> 00:17:11.400 is that we've either taken action or we've experienced a result that was negative and 240 00:17:11.440 --> 00:17:15.519 that was wrong. Right, So let's bring it to relationships for a second. 241 00:17:15.599 --> 00:17:19.559 You might have gone through a relationship where maybe there was cheating involved, 242 00:17:19.640 --> 00:17:25.559 or maybe somebody just I don't know, lied to you or whatever. So 243 00:17:25.720 --> 00:17:30.279 it's no wonder that now you go through the world with trust issues because the 244 00:17:30.400 --> 00:17:34.799 experience of the result was not the experience that you wanted. But in order 245 00:17:34.839 --> 00:17:41.920 for you to rebuild trust in other people, rebuild trust in yourself is obviously 246 00:17:41.000 --> 00:17:47.599 experiencing a new result. How do you experience a new result though, when 247 00:17:48.640 --> 00:17:51.839 all you have seen is kind of the negative. Well, I think a 248 00:17:51.880 --> 00:17:57.279 few things can be very helpful. One is, let's say you broke your 249 00:17:57.279 --> 00:18:03.400 own trust. There was information that you acted on based off of what you 250 00:18:03.480 --> 00:18:07.359 knew at the time, and I think that's really helpful for a process of 251 00:18:08.279 --> 00:18:15.400 accepting and giving yourself grace. You know, there's gonna be times in your 252 00:18:15.440 --> 00:18:18.599 life where maybe you didn't necessarily make the right decision, even though I don't 253 00:18:18.599 --> 00:18:23.759 actually think there's any wrong decision but it was based off of information, it 254 00:18:23.839 --> 00:18:27.359 was based off of whatever it was in that moment. And this is what 255 00:18:27.400 --> 00:18:33.880 I also think as well, is that we struggle with trusting too, especially 256 00:18:33.880 --> 00:18:36.519 with let's say with men. Is because let's say, i'll just give you 257 00:18:36.559 --> 00:18:42.319 a relationship example. Is because when we first learned to trust in let's say 258 00:18:42.440 --> 00:18:49.400 dating a man, we weren't actually listening to our intuition. And actually, 259 00:18:49.400 --> 00:18:52.240 I'm gonna take out ween, I'm just gonna say myself because not everyone is 260 00:18:52.279 --> 00:18:55.839 the exact same and this is just a blanket statement, So I'm gonna just 261 00:18:55.880 --> 00:19:02.519 look back on my situations. I struggled with trusting that I was going to 262 00:19:02.599 --> 00:19:07.680 get a better result in relationships because of obviously I never I've never been cheated 263 00:19:07.680 --> 00:19:11.480 on, but like there's just been things that just haven't worked out in relationships. 264 00:19:11.680 --> 00:19:18.920 But if I actually look back, I put myself in relationships in situations 265 00:19:18.960 --> 00:19:25.559 where I was ignoring my intuition, I was ignoring signs. And if I 266 00:19:25.759 --> 00:19:30.799 actually listened to my intuition and I acted not out of a place of trauma 267 00:19:30.920 --> 00:19:37.279 or survival, I most likely wouldn't have had that result that would create distrust 268 00:19:37.400 --> 00:19:41.640 within me. So sometimes when we are going on this journey of trusting, 269 00:19:42.519 --> 00:19:48.440 we think that we are making the right decision based off of like what we 270 00:19:48.480 --> 00:19:52.680 really want, but actually we're ignoring the signs. We're ignoring the signals. 271 00:19:52.720 --> 00:19:56.359 We're ignoring X, Y and Z, and then we get into hot waters 272 00:19:56.359 --> 00:19:57.359 and then we get cheated on or we get X, Y and Z, 273 00:19:57.880 --> 00:20:03.240 and then we're like, see, like I shouldn't have I can't trust myself, 274 00:20:03.359 --> 00:20:07.200 or I can't trust whatever. Now obviously just completely depends. But and 275 00:20:07.240 --> 00:20:11.359 this is what I'm bringing it back to, you just acted on information that 276 00:20:11.400 --> 00:20:18.880 you knew at the time. For me, in relationships, I ignored signs, 277 00:20:18.880 --> 00:20:25.160 especially in relationships because I was acting out of survival mode. I got 278 00:20:25.200 --> 00:20:29.920 into relationships where I was accepting the bare minimum even though I really wanted something 279 00:20:29.920 --> 00:20:32.720 deep down, but I was too afraid to say it because I didn't have 280 00:20:32.799 --> 00:20:36.799 a lot of self worth. I didn't know sometimes the signs to even look 281 00:20:36.839 --> 00:20:38.200 for, right. So sometimes it's not about the fact that you just know. 282 00:20:38.799 --> 00:20:42.519 But there are definitely things I look back on and I'm like, well, 283 00:20:44.680 --> 00:20:51.839 yeah, I either did know the signs or I was just acting out 284 00:20:51.839 --> 00:20:53.920 of survival mode and I was playing small and xyz. But at the end 285 00:20:53.960 --> 00:20:59.599 of the day, it was all based out of things that were ingrained in 286 00:20:59.640 --> 00:21:02.599 me. So I can't even get mad at myself. It's no wonder I 287 00:21:02.680 --> 00:21:06.000 ended up getting the results that I did in my life, right, and 288 00:21:06.200 --> 00:21:11.000 it's all learning lesson anyways, Like now I can look back and see how 289 00:21:11.119 --> 00:21:15.759 I was not honoring myself or I wasn't listening to my intuition. Now, 290 00:21:15.079 --> 00:21:22.160 there's obviously other things that play a role in why we struggle with trusting others 291 00:21:22.240 --> 00:21:29.319 or even trusting ourselves in general. When we start getting socialized, when we 292 00:21:29.400 --> 00:21:33.000 grow up with certain parents, certain dynamics, certain experiences in our life, 293 00:21:33.720 --> 00:21:41.039 it takes us farther away from our actual deepest inner knowing and desires. And 294 00:21:41.519 --> 00:21:45.720 it's not always a bad thing, because obviously we need we need to be 295 00:21:45.759 --> 00:21:51.039 socialized in this world, we need direction from parents, but a lot of 296 00:21:51.079 --> 00:21:56.720 that does take us away from what we really deeply want in our lives. 297 00:21:56.880 --> 00:22:00.440 And I think that that's the process that a lot of us are going through 298 00:22:00.480 --> 00:22:06.680 right now in our lives is learning how to distinguish whether is this the path 299 00:22:06.680 --> 00:22:08.720 that I actually want to take, or is it somebody else's path right, 300 00:22:08.839 --> 00:22:12.559 Or are these thoughts really what I actually believe about the world, about myself, 301 00:22:12.640 --> 00:22:15.799 or is just are these just things that I've picked up from my past 302 00:22:15.839 --> 00:22:21.519 And a lot of that is and I think a lot of you who listen 303 00:22:21.519 --> 00:22:23.880 to the podcast and you're doing a lot of healing work, you're starting to 304 00:22:23.920 --> 00:22:30.839 realize you're starting to differentiate the difference between my inner critic that wants to control 305 00:22:30.880 --> 00:22:33.079 everything and keep me safe because it once learned how to do that in childhood, 306 00:22:33.079 --> 00:22:37.680 because I was actually in a very traumatic environment and that kept me very 307 00:22:37.720 --> 00:22:41.039 safe, like I just said, and I talk about that in my book. 308 00:22:41.079 --> 00:22:45.240 But these thoughts, these feelings, these ways in which I'm operating in 309 00:22:45.599 --> 00:22:49.119 my life now now are not serving me, like you're starting to really see. 310 00:22:49.160 --> 00:22:53.799 So that's just one process of learning to tap more into your intuition and 311 00:22:53.839 --> 00:23:00.200 be able to trust. Is distinguishing whether these thoughts are serving me anymore or 312 00:23:00.240 --> 00:23:07.319 not. And I think that something that's really helped me be able to trust 313 00:23:07.359 --> 00:23:14.359 myself and tap into intuition is this mindset of and I guess you could just 314 00:23:14.400 --> 00:23:19.279 take it from like the law of assumption is just assuming that when you start 315 00:23:19.319 --> 00:23:23.079 to trust others or yourself more, or you start to act on like some 316 00:23:23.119 --> 00:23:29.599 sort of impulse or desire, like a healthy impulse that you're gonna be safe 317 00:23:29.599 --> 00:23:34.359 and okay, even if for any reason it wasn't necessarily the right decision, 318 00:23:34.400 --> 00:23:38.880 which I actually again don't think there's any really wrong decision. I think all 319 00:23:40.000 --> 00:23:45.440 the juiciness of your life is all meant to be happening when it's happening, 320 00:23:45.480 --> 00:23:48.559 even good or bad. But I think that this helps when it comes to 321 00:23:48.759 --> 00:23:55.480 learning how to trust is because there's always gonna be a little bit of fear 322 00:23:56.200 --> 00:24:00.359 of you acting on your intuition or acting on a desire, and so you're 323 00:24:00.359 --> 00:24:03.960 gonna need to be able to tell yourself that you are safe, you're gonna 324 00:24:03.960 --> 00:24:07.079 be okay, even if this doesn't necessarily have the outcome that you necessarily wanted, 325 00:24:07.240 --> 00:24:14.119 right and understanding that you're really just going on a small little journey of 326 00:24:15.119 --> 00:24:18.640 seeing what it even means to trust your intuition. So I'm gonna give you 327 00:24:18.640 --> 00:24:25.079 a quick example of how you can slowly start to trust your intuition, because 328 00:24:25.119 --> 00:24:29.240 it's so subtle and it's just like not gonna be I don't know, like 329 00:24:29.279 --> 00:24:30.559 I just think that when you're going on a journey of everything. It's just 330 00:24:30.599 --> 00:24:34.359 not going to be like black and white, of course. So let's say 331 00:24:34.880 --> 00:24:41.119 you are in this major in your studying studying sorry this, I don't know 332 00:24:41.680 --> 00:24:47.519 whatever, you're studying, and you know that it's just like it's draining you 333 00:24:47.640 --> 00:24:49.680 beyond just the fact that you have to do your homework and study, like 334 00:24:49.680 --> 00:24:53.079 we know that we have to do that, but you just really don't want 335 00:24:53.079 --> 00:24:57.039 to be studying this major anymore, and you really have a calling to study 336 00:24:57.440 --> 00:25:02.640 a new major, a different major, something that's like completely different. But 337 00:25:03.440 --> 00:25:06.640 when you entertain that thought and you have this desire, just feels so good 338 00:25:06.680 --> 00:25:10.720 and you just love it. And if you just dream of like your next 339 00:25:10.759 --> 00:25:14.599 ten fifteen years, the dream job, the dream life, the dream everything 340 00:25:15.000 --> 00:25:18.720 based off of you switching this major or whatever, obviously there's a part of 341 00:25:18.759 --> 00:25:22.960 you, in my personal opinion, that would be a part of like what 342 00:25:22.039 --> 00:25:25.960 your soul is calling, and you really want to go in that direction, 343 00:25:26.000 --> 00:25:29.559 but you're terrified. You're terrified because your parents say you can't do it, 344 00:25:29.640 --> 00:25:32.839 or you shouldn't do it, society's telling you shouldn't do it. You don't 345 00:25:32.880 --> 00:25:37.480 know anyone else that's doing it like all that. So obviously it's gonna be 346 00:25:37.559 --> 00:25:41.960 really hard for you to take any action steps towards that because you have all 347 00:25:42.039 --> 00:25:45.680 of this evidence around you, you have all of these people in your ear 348 00:25:45.759 --> 00:25:51.200 telling you that you shouldn't what I would personally do instead of just taking a 349 00:25:51.279 --> 00:25:53.480 leap being like, okay, we'll screw it and taking this leap from this 350 00:25:53.640 --> 00:25:57.279 anxiety place of so much fear, right, because that can get you into 351 00:25:57.319 --> 00:26:03.960 hot waters. Let's say you don't have to stop your major next week and 352 00:26:04.519 --> 00:26:08.240 start like applying to the new one yet, if you're not really ready but 353 00:26:08.279 --> 00:26:12.039 you still want to go in that direction, I would slowly start to find 354 00:26:12.279 --> 00:26:18.559 signs of the path that you really want to go on. So whether it's 355 00:26:18.680 --> 00:26:22.440 like I don't know if you believe in God or the universe or whatever, 356 00:26:22.480 --> 00:26:25.680 but you could just be asking the universe like, give me a sign, 357 00:26:25.720 --> 00:26:27.440 and you don't have to ask anyone anything, right, you could just simply 358 00:26:27.440 --> 00:26:30.680 be like, you know what, in the next month, I am going 359 00:26:30.759 --> 00:26:37.160 to wake up and I am going to feel into how it would feel to 360 00:26:37.319 --> 00:26:41.000 switch into a major and what my life would look like. And I want 361 00:26:41.039 --> 00:26:47.559 to go out in the world and find signs in signals to support my decision 362 00:26:48.359 --> 00:26:53.400 of moving forward. But whether that be you're going to start having conversations about 363 00:26:53.759 --> 00:27:00.799 switching a major to those around you that obviously wouldn't completely shut it down. 364 00:27:00.400 --> 00:27:07.000 Or maybe you're gonna go to let's say it's a new school or something. 365 00:27:07.200 --> 00:27:10.480 You're gonna just go visit the school. You're just gonna go see, like 366 00:27:10.839 --> 00:27:12.880 you know, what the even what the campus looks like, or what your 367 00:27:12.920 --> 00:27:18.279 curriculum would be. Or you're going to search up on YouTube people who are 368 00:27:18.279 --> 00:27:22.440 in the same major and what they have been learning or what topics they're really 369 00:27:22.480 --> 00:27:29.480 interested in. You're just gonna start entertaining the thought of you switching a major. 370 00:27:29.680 --> 00:27:33.279 And the reason why I think this is important is because when you start 371 00:27:33.279 --> 00:27:37.359 to entertain your desires or your intuition, you start to feel into what it 372 00:27:37.400 --> 00:27:42.599 feels like to feel good. You tend to start looking through a lens of 373 00:27:42.839 --> 00:27:48.640 possibility and you tend to find opportunities you to start having conversations. You tend 374 00:27:48.640 --> 00:27:52.440 to start getting in alignment with people who are showing you it's possible that you 375 00:27:52.480 --> 00:27:56.359 can even take that route. But this is what we usually do when when 376 00:27:56.359 --> 00:28:00.680 we have like a desire intuition, We look for all the evidence to prove 377 00:28:00.720 --> 00:28:03.200 ourselves why we shouldn't do it, you know, like, oh, and 378 00:28:03.240 --> 00:28:07.680 this comes back to you have a desire, and then it's followed by all 379 00:28:07.759 --> 00:28:10.519 the ways of which you can't do it, all the ways that you shouldn't 380 00:28:10.559 --> 00:28:12.519 do it. And now this is obviously ingrained in us, these thoughts, 381 00:28:12.559 --> 00:28:15.720 these beliefs about how you can't get what you want and you know you can't 382 00:28:15.720 --> 00:28:18.920 do this because it's not going to be safe or x Y and Z. 383 00:28:18.720 --> 00:28:25.680 I want you to try your best to entertain your desires and your intuition or 384 00:28:25.680 --> 00:28:30.359 try to follow whatever you really are wanting in your life from a positive aspect 385 00:28:30.440 --> 00:28:34.079 and a positive light for let's say just even a month, right, And 386 00:28:34.119 --> 00:28:37.440 I think that there's things that you're going to need to do in your life 387 00:28:37.440 --> 00:28:41.839 though, to be able to create this positivity in this lens in which you're 388 00:28:41.880 --> 00:28:45.799 able to actually see that as possible, Like you're seeing evidence in your life, 389 00:28:45.839 --> 00:28:48.039 because you kind of need evidence to be able to take that step forward. 390 00:28:48.480 --> 00:28:52.680 If you don't see any evidence, you're gonna be really afraid to start, 391 00:28:52.000 --> 00:28:56.160 you know, taking the major or whatever it is. But Let's say 392 00:28:56.880 --> 00:29:00.640 you're entertaining the fact that you want to go into this major, and now 393 00:29:00.680 --> 00:29:06.039 you're going to library and you're learning more about the topics that you need to 394 00:29:06.359 --> 00:29:10.200 learn, or you're having conversations with people who are in that major. You 395 00:29:11.039 --> 00:29:15.519 are having positive conversations. You're seeing the evidence, and that brings you one 396 00:29:15.559 --> 00:29:19.079 step closer of feeling like it's possible for you to do this, and you're 397 00:29:19.079 --> 00:29:23.240 going to find more evidence to back it up, and then you could eventually 398 00:29:23.319 --> 00:29:26.720 get to a point where you have all the steps, you have all the 399 00:29:26.759 --> 00:29:33.720 resources, you are so trusting in this decision that you're able to something somewhere 400 00:29:33.880 --> 00:29:37.279 you will find alignment and you'll be able to take that step or you will 401 00:29:37.319 --> 00:29:41.880 have trust in yourself to go in the direction. And I think the same 402 00:29:41.920 --> 00:29:48.680 thing can be true with relationships, right Like, Let's say you're deciding you 403 00:29:48.680 --> 00:29:51.400 want to learn how to trust men more, and it's going to be up 404 00:29:51.440 --> 00:29:55.480 to you to decide that you want to go in the direction of trusting that 405 00:29:55.960 --> 00:29:59.640 a healthy relationship is possible or that or you can trust men. You're gonna 406 00:29:59.680 --> 00:30:03.119 have to look for signs and evidence to prove to you that this man is 407 00:30:03.160 --> 00:30:08.839 a trustworthy man. And so instead of waking up every single day and looking 408 00:30:08.960 --> 00:30:15.000 for all the ways in which he is proving you right about not trusting, 409 00:30:15.839 --> 00:30:19.799 what are the actions, what are the things he's saying. What are also 410 00:30:19.839 --> 00:30:23.880 the things you're doing in your life to show you that actually he is a 411 00:30:23.920 --> 00:30:29.160 trustworthy man. And I just coming back to the fact that we really focus 412 00:30:29.279 --> 00:30:32.960 on all of the things that we don't want in our lives, right, 413 00:30:33.599 --> 00:30:41.640 And I think having a routine, a mental diet of a positive just some 414 00:30:41.680 --> 00:30:45.279 sort of like spiritual practice or whatever it is that you want to do day 415 00:30:45.319 --> 00:30:49.519 in and day out out will really help you be able to see that evidence 416 00:30:49.559 --> 00:30:53.680 and help you trust and move the direction of trusting your intuition. But it's 417 00:30:53.720 --> 00:30:57.000 like it's no wonder. You don't know how to trust yourself, You don't 418 00:30:57.000 --> 00:31:00.799 know how to tap into your intuition, you don't know how to follow your 419 00:31:00.839 --> 00:31:06.359 desires when everything in your environment is all negative, everything that you're paying attention 420 00:31:06.480 --> 00:31:11.559 to is all the opposite of what you're trying to persist in. So take 421 00:31:11.599 --> 00:31:14.720 a look at the conversations that you're having, take a look at the people 422 00:31:14.759 --> 00:31:18.400 you're surrounding yourself with. Take a look at the things you're reading, or 423 00:31:18.400 --> 00:31:22.920 the people you're learning from, or the stories you're listening to. Are these 424 00:31:22.960 --> 00:31:30.559 things really helping you cultivate a better connection to your intuition or not? And 425 00:31:30.599 --> 00:31:37.160 the truth is probably not. And you know, I think that being very 426 00:31:37.240 --> 00:31:41.880 aware of the stories you tell yourself is so huge. I also talk about 427 00:31:41.920 --> 00:31:48.119 this in my book the stories you tell yourself, because the stories you tell 428 00:31:48.119 --> 00:31:53.279 yourself will dictate whether you're going to continue to listen to your desires, act 429 00:31:53.319 --> 00:31:56.960 out of the feel good energy that you might have, or go in a 430 00:31:57.000 --> 00:32:01.440 new direction or a positive light or not. And a lot of the stories 431 00:32:01.440 --> 00:32:07.319 you tell yourself are based off of just old, limiting beliefs that might have 432 00:32:07.440 --> 00:32:10.480 kept you safe or you just picked up from other people. And again I 433 00:32:10.559 --> 00:32:14.960 go so deep in this in my book, I give you journal prompts and 434 00:32:14.960 --> 00:32:17.519 guides and we talk about shadow work and where your inner critic comes from and 435 00:32:17.559 --> 00:32:22.480 where all of these negative stories even come from. But it's really important to 436 00:32:22.519 --> 00:32:25.440 see how you tell yourself how hard things are going to be, how you 437 00:32:25.480 --> 00:32:30.759 can't do something in your life all the right ways, you can't have what 438 00:32:30.799 --> 00:32:34.200 you want in your life, and in the more times you tell yourself these 439 00:32:34.200 --> 00:32:38.160 stories, you are not going to act on your actual desires. So something 440 00:32:38.160 --> 00:32:43.119 that I'm always so aware of day in and day out is the stories that 441 00:32:43.160 --> 00:32:46.119 I tell myself about how hard something is going to be, how challenging something's 442 00:32:46.319 --> 00:32:51.559 going to be, how I can't have this. And if I'm telling myself 443 00:32:51.680 --> 00:32:54.400 if I say, like I have a desire to let's say, when I 444 00:32:54.440 --> 00:33:00.279 had a desire to start my podcast channel, if I had the story of 445 00:33:00.400 --> 00:33:01.279 oh, I don't know if I can do this, or this is going 446 00:33:01.359 --> 00:33:04.759 to be really cringey, or what if people don't like this? Da da 447 00:33:04.880 --> 00:33:07.240 da, I would ask myself, well, where is these stories even coming 448 00:33:07.279 --> 00:33:10.440 from? Because this is not actually the truth of me, even if I 449 00:33:10.440 --> 00:33:14.240 think about it in the sense of, you know, I really don't back 450 00:33:14.240 --> 00:33:15.400 myself right now, I don't have a lot of confidence. Well where is 451 00:33:15.440 --> 00:33:20.960 this coming from. It's not an actual, like innate thing to think crappy 452 00:33:21.000 --> 00:33:23.400 thoughts about yourself all the time. It's coming from somewhere. It's coming from 453 00:33:23.640 --> 00:33:27.559 you know, maybe you grew up in an environment where people were really strict 454 00:33:27.559 --> 00:33:30.799 on you, or people were really critical of you, or you move in 455 00:33:30.920 --> 00:33:35.519 areas where everyone's critical about everyone, and everyone's judging everyone. Surround yourself with 456 00:33:35.559 --> 00:33:38.119 new people, get to the root of why you are telling yourself this story 457 00:33:38.440 --> 00:33:42.680 and combat it with a new story. When I get in my head about 458 00:33:42.680 --> 00:33:45.640 something, let's say I wake up in the morning and I'm feeling like not 459 00:33:45.720 --> 00:33:49.720 that motivated to go to the gym. Naturally, I'll start to have a 460 00:33:49.759 --> 00:33:52.759 story of, oh, the gym is going to be so hard and all 461 00:33:52.839 --> 00:33:53.839 legs are going to be so hard, and like, I don't have the 462 00:33:53.960 --> 00:33:57.559 energy to do this is that? And Third, when I noticed that I 463 00:33:57.640 --> 00:34:00.799 have these just not so serving stories my head, I like to come up 464 00:34:00.799 --> 00:34:06.000 with a more self serving story that's gonna help me get up out of my 465 00:34:06.079 --> 00:34:08.519 bed. This is not being delusional, it's just being realistic, and it's 466 00:34:08.559 --> 00:34:13.480 just being healthy, honestly. So I'll tell myself and some of the moments 467 00:34:13.519 --> 00:34:15.639 being like, okay, well, first of all, you don't even need 468 00:34:15.679 --> 00:34:16.840 to be one hundred percent to be able to get up and go to the 469 00:34:16.880 --> 00:34:20.800 gym, all right. You don't have to have all the motivation and all 470 00:34:20.800 --> 00:34:23.199 the energy in the world to be able to get the workout done. And 471 00:34:23.239 --> 00:34:27.440 by the way, let's look at the evidence to show you that it's actually 472 00:34:27.519 --> 00:34:30.280 possible that you can go to the gym because you've actually done it before, 473 00:34:30.559 --> 00:34:32.360 you've done this leg day before, you can actually you can do it. 474 00:34:32.599 --> 00:34:36.760 And now how am I going to enjoy the process. Well, I'm gonna 475 00:34:36.760 --> 00:34:39.760 start to listen to some positive affirmations or a positive podcast, or I'm gonna 476 00:34:39.760 --> 00:34:43.239 listen to a playlist that's gonna get me in the mood and get me in 477 00:34:43.320 --> 00:34:45.199 the energy, in the flow of being able to get up and go to 478 00:34:45.239 --> 00:34:50.119 the gym. Like, you have to have a new story. You have 479 00:34:50.199 --> 00:34:53.159 to tell yourself a positive thing. You have to have a routine that supports 480 00:34:53.199 --> 00:34:57.239 you and your ability to get up and go. And the more times you 481 00:34:57.320 --> 00:35:00.679 do that, the less that you will have those negative thoughts and stories in 482 00:35:00.679 --> 00:35:04.000 your mind. Like I'm giving you that example. Realistically, I don't really 483 00:35:04.039 --> 00:35:07.880 have that much resistance to going to the gym anymore because I have worked so 484 00:35:07.039 --> 00:35:12.960 heavily on the stories that do not serve me anymore, and I've created routines 485 00:35:13.000 --> 00:35:16.920 where it's just it's kind of like more motivating to get up. And now 486 00:35:17.000 --> 00:35:21.559 I've created a routine and a habit out of going to the gym that it's 487 00:35:21.880 --> 00:35:25.000 it's more of an automatic thing, but at first it wasn't really automatic. 488 00:35:25.079 --> 00:35:29.159 And the same thing is gonna be true with you trusting anything in your life. 489 00:35:29.159 --> 00:35:31.239 It's not gonna be automatic because you haven't even been doing it. So 490 00:35:31.480 --> 00:35:36.199 there's gonna be a level of you kind of like reparenting yourself in the moment 491 00:35:36.239 --> 00:35:38.119 of telling yourself like, nope, we can do this. It's thinking about 492 00:35:38.239 --> 00:35:42.440 a little child who wants to go play and she's very, very shy, 493 00:35:42.760 --> 00:35:45.440 but she really wants to go play with the kids at the playground. I 494 00:35:45.480 --> 00:35:46.880 have this desire. Oh my god, it looks so much fun over there. 495 00:35:46.960 --> 00:35:50.519 Da da da. And then she's coming to mom, mom being you. 496 00:35:51.039 --> 00:35:52.679 Oh my god, Mom, I really want you, but I'm so 497 00:35:52.760 --> 00:35:55.599 scared dadada. What that child needs in the moment is for her mom to 498 00:35:55.639 --> 00:35:59.039 be like, Babe, you can go do this. Don't worry, You're 499 00:35:59.079 --> 00:36:00.960 gonna be safe. They want to be with you, they want to have 500 00:36:01.039 --> 00:36:04.760 fun with you. It's not going to be scary. Even if you don't 501 00:36:04.800 --> 00:36:06.880 know all the right words, you don't know how to play the rules of 502 00:36:06.920 --> 00:36:08.400 the game, don't worry, they're going to teach you. You can ask 503 00:36:08.480 --> 00:36:10.920 questions, and even if these kids are going to be roote to you, 504 00:36:12.199 --> 00:36:14.639 or if for some reason it doesn't work out, you're still going to be 505 00:36:14.679 --> 00:36:16.440 fine. I'm going to be there for you. You're gonna be fine. 506 00:36:16.480 --> 00:36:21.079 Da da da da. That's how you have to talk to yourself in those 507 00:36:21.119 --> 00:36:23.320 moments. That's how you get yourself to do things. And bringing it back 508 00:36:23.360 --> 00:36:25.079 to the fact that at the end of the day, when you want to 509 00:36:25.079 --> 00:36:30.920 build confidence, you want to build trust within yourself, you need evidence. 510 00:36:30.159 --> 00:36:34.320 So there's gonna be a level of you having to take that action and showing 511 00:36:34.360 --> 00:36:37.159 yourself as possible. So the next time you want to go play with the 512 00:36:37.239 --> 00:36:38.719 kids, the next time you want to go to the gym. It's not 513 00:36:38.760 --> 00:36:42.559 that you're going to be one hundred percent ready, because it depends right on 514 00:36:42.599 --> 00:36:45.199 what it is that you're trying to take action for. But you're gonna at 515 00:36:45.280 --> 00:36:46.800 least be able to go in your memory and think, oh, well, 516 00:36:46.880 --> 00:36:49.880 last time I went to hang out with the kids and it was a really 517 00:36:49.920 --> 00:36:53.159 good time. Now the reason why we shall go with trusting is because maybe 518 00:36:53.199 --> 00:36:57.719 you've gone to the playground and the kids weren't nice to you, right the 519 00:36:57.800 --> 00:37:02.639 kids weren't welcoming, or for some reason something happened over here, But we 520 00:37:02.719 --> 00:37:07.199 don't need to continue to go to that memory and use that as evidence for 521 00:37:07.760 --> 00:37:10.960 us moving in the direction of what we really want, which is to play 522 00:37:12.000 --> 00:37:15.519 with the children. Okay, which it's very hard, obviously, because you 523 00:37:15.559 --> 00:37:17.599 have to rebuild that trust again. But the only way you're gonna do that 524 00:37:17.679 --> 00:37:21.440 is if you take action. And what you need to tell yourself in those 525 00:37:21.480 --> 00:37:23.159 moments is, Okay, these kids over here that were rude to me over 526 00:37:23.159 --> 00:37:28.760 here, they're unwell, they for some reason weren't taught how to be nice 527 00:37:28.840 --> 00:37:31.920 children or whatever it is. Or maybe you know, like I messed up 528 00:37:31.960 --> 00:37:35.480 over here, but that's okay. That I messed up is not a big 529 00:37:35.519 --> 00:37:42.079 deal. Or I dated a guy who ruined my trust. But realistically, 530 00:37:42.119 --> 00:37:45.280 if I'm being honest, I actually knew the signs way sooner, and even 531 00:37:45.320 --> 00:37:49.239 if you didn't, maybe that wasn't your situation, but even if you didn't, 532 00:37:49.400 --> 00:37:52.480 Okay, I acted, and I dated somebody, and I put trust 533 00:37:52.480 --> 00:37:55.000 in somebody that you know, Unfortunately, for whatever reason, they ruin that 534 00:37:55.039 --> 00:37:59.079 trust. But I am not going to let this person who's no longer in 535 00:37:59.159 --> 00:38:01.320 my life take my life moving forward. We're not going to do that. 536 00:38:01.800 --> 00:38:06.679 And I just think when it comes to trust though, a lot of the 537 00:38:06.719 --> 00:38:13.800 times we are not connected to our truest needs and desires to begin with, 538 00:38:14.039 --> 00:38:17.199 and then we override ourselves and then we get ourselves sometimes in hot waters. 539 00:38:17.199 --> 00:38:20.639 Like I said, it's not always our fault, but I think about, 540 00:38:21.119 --> 00:38:28.320 you know, my life circumstance, there was always a level of suppressing my 541 00:38:28.360 --> 00:38:34.880 emotions and suppressing my needs and my wants and not listening to what I really 542 00:38:34.880 --> 00:38:38.400 desired in my life. But that was based off of the fact that I 543 00:38:38.559 --> 00:38:44.360 was programmed to be like that from a parent, which then I would go 544 00:38:44.440 --> 00:38:47.800 into relationships or I would go into situations where I would suppress my needs and 545 00:38:47.840 --> 00:38:52.400 want in my emotions, and then I would have a shitty outcome because realistically 546 00:38:53.039 --> 00:38:59.360 I was led into a not so good situation based off of me actually not 547 00:38:59.440 --> 00:39:04.079 standing up in my worth. It's not my fault because I was programs like 548 00:39:04.119 --> 00:39:07.599 that. But I can see now if I actually was connected to myself, 549 00:39:07.840 --> 00:39:12.199 if I didn't have all that trauma, that survival mode, that information that 550 00:39:12.239 --> 00:39:15.800 I was operating out of, I most likely wouldn't have been in a situation 551 00:39:15.920 --> 00:39:19.599 where I was led astray from somebody, or somebody broke my trust or whatever 552 00:39:19.639 --> 00:39:23.079 the case is. So sometimes again we just naturally were never even connected to 553 00:39:23.079 --> 00:39:25.960 our intuition in the first place, based off of what we've gone through in 554 00:39:27.000 --> 00:39:30.199 our past, which we forgive, we need to move on, we need 555 00:39:30.239 --> 00:39:35.800 to heal, we need to understand that. That is, honestly the majority 556 00:39:36.239 --> 00:39:42.079 of what happens in life is unfortunately we get this deck of cards that's dealt 557 00:39:42.119 --> 00:39:46.760 to us where for a lot of reasons, we get really disconnected to our 558 00:39:46.760 --> 00:39:52.519 intuition. But we can learn how to go on a process of reconnecting. 559 00:39:52.880 --> 00:39:59.119 But that first starts with understanding WHOA I've always had this intuition, but I 560 00:39:59.320 --> 00:40:04.719 just was an attune to it from my life circumstance. And now I'm going 561 00:40:04.760 --> 00:40:08.119 to go in a process of no longer focusing on all the negative, crappy 562 00:40:08.159 --> 00:40:13.320 situations in my life because that was based out of what I knew back then 563 00:40:13.400 --> 00:40:15.440 anyways, So I'm not going to use that as evidence, and I'm going 564 00:40:15.480 --> 00:40:21.880 to create a life and I'm going to look through a healthier lens now and 565 00:40:21.920 --> 00:40:24.360 I'm going to show myself as possible that I can go in that direction of 566 00:40:24.400 --> 00:40:28.760 feeling good, of trusting myself, and I'm going to take those baby steps, 567 00:40:28.760 --> 00:40:31.320 and I'm going to tell myself it's also going to be okay even if 568 00:40:31.400 --> 00:40:36.039 things don't work out one hundred percent, because I have myself. But you 569 00:40:36.119 --> 00:40:38.679 have to start small, bringing it back to like the major or whatever. 570 00:40:38.719 --> 00:40:45.679 It is just entertaining the idea of going in the direction of something that you 571 00:40:45.719 --> 00:40:50.559 really want in your life and seeking those opportunities and those people, in those 572 00:40:50.599 --> 00:40:55.239 conversations and reading into things more and you will see those signs. You will 573 00:40:55.320 --> 00:41:01.280 see them and you take those steps. So I hope this episode was insightful. 574 00:41:01.800 --> 00:41:07.119 I didn't really plan this episode other than literally this morning when I read 575 00:41:07.119 --> 00:41:08.960 this and then I was like, oh my god, let's do it. 576 00:41:09.119 --> 00:41:15.000 So yeah, I will always be on a journey of connecting more to myself. 577 00:41:15.079 --> 00:41:21.719 I think the best thing that we can do for ourselves is have some 578 00:41:21.760 --> 00:41:22.960 sort of routine, whether that's in the morning. That's why I talk about 579 00:41:23.000 --> 00:41:29.400 journaling so much. This is why I talk about healing work so much, 580 00:41:30.119 --> 00:41:32.760 is because the more you heal, the more you journal, the more you 581 00:41:32.840 --> 00:41:37.360 ask yourself questions as to why why do I think like this, where did 582 00:41:37.400 --> 00:41:40.599 this come from? How do I connect the dots, the more you're able 583 00:41:40.760 --> 00:41:46.599 to open up space of your actual truest desires and your feelings, right, 584 00:41:47.159 --> 00:41:51.599 And sometimes what we do is we suppress the feelings, and we suppress emotions 585 00:41:51.639 --> 00:41:55.800 and this that. But realistically, underneath a lot of this trauma and distrust 586 00:41:57.119 --> 00:42:00.679 is our intuition that will guide us in in the direction that we always really 587 00:42:00.679 --> 00:42:05.400 want, which is feeling good and bringing so much abundance in our lives. 588 00:42:05.440 --> 00:42:10.320 So I hope you enjoyed this episode, have an amazing week, and I'll 589 00:42:10.320 --> 00:42:13.599 see you guys in the next one. Bye.