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Hey, hey, good people,
I'm back with something for you to think

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about. Someone needs to hear this
today. So many people in this world,

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around the world are blaming others for
their lives, for how they have

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chosen to become. Now I've talked
about it before, I've mentioned it several

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times, but this is a full
episode on it. You blaming others is

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not gonna help you to heal and
become better. Let me say it again.

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You blaming others doesn't help you to
heal and become better. People do

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not understand that they cause unnecessary hear
me, unnecessary self inflicted pain when they

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don't allow themselves to heal, or
when they choose to take a route that

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they never have to take. So
many people in this world, so many

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are in terrible mind sex, terrible
states of mind, terrible mental spaces,

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however you want to put it.
And it's all because people are holding on

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to things that they should have let
go of long ago. People are blaming

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their parents, grown fully grown people
still blaming their parents. No, you

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have to make a choice for your
life to be better for you. My

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heart goes out to anyone who went
through unnecessary trauma, unwarranted trauma. As

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a child, my heart goes out
to anyone and everyone. But as an

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adult, you have to stop giving
power to that. You have to stop

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giving power to people from your past
because you have every opportunity as an adult

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to become better. You have every
opportunity. Every day you live, you

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have an opportunity to let it go
and to become better than what you came

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from. But so many people are
so focused on negativity. Real are made

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up because you can believe a lie
so long until you believe it's true.

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I mean, it's a fact.
Even the Bible tells us, a tells

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us that you can go for so
long lying that you deceive yourself, and

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that is what some people do.
Everything don't come from trauma other than the

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trauma that you create yourself. People
think that, and I used to think

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it too, that you had to
come from trauma when you choose a bad

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route, of the wrong road,
the wrong path. But that's not true.

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It is not true. Because people
are raised in really good homes,

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they turn out bad. Then you
have those who are raised in really bad

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homes they turn out good. It
depends on the individual. It definitely depends

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on the individual. Because the Bible
tells us to train, you know,

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children up, Train them up as
a child, train them up, and

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when they get old, they won't
depart from from it. Listen, that

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does not mean that they won't go
off to the left. It doesn't mean

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that. What it means is regardless
of what they choose to do in life,

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they know better, they was raised
better. What they choose is up

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to them totally. But they know
the right thing, the right way.

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But they still have the choice to
choose whatever they want. I've always told

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you that people hold on to negativity. They will hold on to negativity before

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they grab a hold to positivity.
That's just the way it is for most

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people. But if you go through
life blaming anyone, it does not benefit

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you. What it does is keep
you in the same mental state. It

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keeps you feeling the same, It
keeps you right where you've always been,

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in that negative state of mind.
It don't benefit you holding on to past

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pains and blaming people, even if
they contributed to trauma in your life.

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As an adult, you have to
be willing to deal with it, heal

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from it, and move on.
When don't, it will always without fail

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cause devastation and destruction in your life, and some people veer so far off

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that they do very destructive things,
just ruin their lives because they're angry over

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something that's in the past or something
that for whatever reason they made up in

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their own minds. It does happen. But what I'm trying to convey to

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people is your life is what you
make it, regardless of the curve balls,

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regardless of the unknown. Your life
is what you make it. People

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can complain all day, they can
blame all day, they can blame whoever

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they want. Who you choose to
become is on you. So many people

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in life continue down that negative path, and they end up hurting people because

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they were hurt. Instead of learning
from what they went through and vowing to

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never do that to anyone, they
go right on and victimize people because they

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were once victimized and they never healed
from that trauma. So they go through

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life inflicting the same criminal pain that
was inflicted upon them. That's wrong,

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It's not right in no kind of
way. There's no excuse for it.

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If you went through it, you
should never want to put anyone else through

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it. But some people that's exactly
what they do. Commit The same crimes,

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inflicting pain in the life of other
people because somebody inflicted in their pain

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in their lives. It's wrong.
It is wrong. That's why it's so

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important to feel from past pains.
It's so important when you don't heal,

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you take all of that trauma,
all of that pain, and you just

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like a garbage bag, a garbage
bag full of stench. You drag it

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from here to there and everywhere,
and it causes you nothing but pain.

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Self inflicted pain. The pain you
feel is self inflicted because you're no longer

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in the trauma you were once in
as a kid. You're the one who's

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holding on to the memories that's forming
those negative thoughts and feelings you. That's

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making you angry, insecure, fearful, hate yourself, hate everybody. You

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are holding on to that negativity.
That negativity is not holding on to you.

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You are holding on to it,
and you are blaming others for how

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you've chosen to become. You should
want to be better than what you came

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from. Some of you turn around
and do the same thing to your children,

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the same thing that was done to
you. You do it to your

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children. And I don't want to
hear the excuse, Well, I don't

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know better because I was never taught
excuse, excuses, excuses. You know

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what pain feels like, you know
what being done wrong feels like. So

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don't make excuses as to why you
do the same thing to your children.

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You should want better for your children. But these children today, oh my

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god, they need Oh my god, they need parents who know how to

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cant. These kids are raising themselves. They are, I mean, it's

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so terrible. They're being exploited all
types of things. Parents trying to use

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their children to make money. I
mean, it's just pathetic, making their

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children do things that the children probably
don't even want to do, but the

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parents are trying to make money.
It's just terrible, it really is.

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But people are the way that they
have chosen to become because they choose to

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not heal, They choose to not
allow themselves to be free of the negativity.

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You don't know your self worth.
You get into relationships for the wrong

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reasons, You get into relationships with
no foundations. You just go through life

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the very same way, and all
you do is blame, blame, blame

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for the way you've chosen to become. As an adult, you are responsible.

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You. You're responsible and accountable for
your life, for your decisions,

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good or bad. You can never
become better by remaining the same. You

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can never become better by blaming,
by holding on to that negativity and blaming

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your whoever, whoever it may be. Well, I'm like this because they

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did this or they did that.
Okay, maybe they did. And I

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know some of you are saying it's
no. Maybe, Okay, I get

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it you went through But why are
you continuing to put yourself through unnecessary drama

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over something that happened when you were
a child. Why are you putting yourself

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through the same version and pain that
you went through as a child. Please

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help me to understand. Stop making
excuses, Stop using your past as a

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crutch. It is not a crutch. Stop using it as a clutch,

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because all you're doing is remaining where
you've always been, in that state of

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negativity, never growing, never maturing, never progressing mentally, because you're too

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stuck. You can't move forward because
you're too busy looking behind, still blaming,

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not taking responsibility for your own life. You still have it in the

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hands of those who hurt you.
When you, as a child given power

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to powerless people to cause you to
be powerless, giving power to those negative

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memories to keep you in a negative
state of mind. That's why so many

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people, I mean, I be
on on YouTube sometimes just looking at things,

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and it's very, very disheartening the
comments people make. Clearly people are

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so fixated on lust, greed,
self gratification, so worried about other people,

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people they don't even know who would
care less about them. That all

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comes from that unresolved inside of you, that inner part of you that is

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unhealed. Insecurities, the inability to
trust, are trusted too much, self

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love, confidence, all of those
things and being more comes from that unresolved

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inside, that place within that is
unhealed. And if you never heal,

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you're gonna remain the same, You're
gonna keep struggling with the same things.

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Many of you are struggling with mental
health issues that have come about because of

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the mindset that you have. All
of your anger and bitterness and hate have

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formed or caused you to form some
forms of mental health issues. It comes

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from all the negativity, the stress, the strain. Mental stress forms into

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mental illnesses. It most definitely can, but it's because you give into it.

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You allow that in your life.
It's like you open the door to

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it. That's why people battle so
frequently with suicidal thoughts because they don't heal

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from whatever their ailments are. They
don't heal from those things. They keep

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going through life, struggling, compiling
other things on top of what's already there,

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and it gets to a point of
breakdown. People want to give up

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because they don't feel things to get
better. No, things don't get better

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when you don't allow them to get
better. Things don't get better when you

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keep holding on to the negativity.
No matter what people say to you,

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are you see is negative. That's
all you see, negativity. I don't

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care how encouraging a person can be
to you. All you see is negativity

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because that's what you have become familiar
and comfortable with. And I think it

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is horrible. It's a horrible thing
people do to themselves self inflicted pain,

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because no one has to live that
way. You recognize your pain, but

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you wattle in it. You know
you have unresolved issues, but you waddle

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in them. You don't try to
work on them. You waddle and you

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stay there because you are familiar with
that negativity. You are familiar with that

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pain, so you become comfortable in
it, and all it does is affect

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you in many facts of your life. You can move forward. You are

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stuck mentally, and I've told you
many times. You may accomplish things in

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life, but it does not take
away that unresolved inside of you. And

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don't take it away, so you
still suffer. You still don't love yourself,

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You still don't know your self worth. You still do anything for love.

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You allow people to treat you any
kind of way. All of that,

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all of it comes from that unresolved
inside of you. Every day you

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live is a new opportunity for you. You should never ever choose to remain

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the same when you can always become
better. I don't care what you went

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through. I don't care who did
it, mom, dad, grandma and

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granddad, uncle, cousin, auntie, brother, sister, friend, friend

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of the family, pastor whoever.
It don't matter who did it. You

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went through it. You're here,
so you survived it. And as an

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adult, you don't have to hold
onto that mess. You don't because the

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scars sometimes could be permanent, but
you can always heal from those past pains.

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Some of you may have physical scars. But still you can heal from

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those past pains. You have to
want to, You must be willing to.

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Many people are not it. Just
go through life the same angry,

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leave home angry every day, go
to work, causing all kind of havoc

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on the job, just always something, just causing drama everywhere you go.

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That comes from that unresolved part of
you. Some of you hate, some

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of you follow right in the footsteps
of other negative people. You don't even

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think for yourself. You follow right
in the same footsteps that somebody else travels.

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You follow in the same footsteps,
doing the same negative stuff because somebody

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else did it. That's because of
your mindset. You're not thinking for yourself.

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You just go along with anything,
even if it's wrong. Your life

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is your life. You only get
one. You can stay stuck in your

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past, or you can heal from
it and move on. It's your choice.

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So many people have lived for many, many years just existing, just

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existing, not enjoying life. Never
loved self. Horrible, horrible, horrible

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the things people do to self,
self destruction and self inflicted pain, when

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you always could choose to be better
always every day that you get to see

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every beautiful day, whether it's raining
or snowing or whatever, it's a beautiful

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day because it's a gift from God. And for people to never try to

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become better, that's a sad,
sad shame. People just don't have love

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anymore. Because you don't love yourself, you can't love anyone else self inflicted

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pain. But you are responsible for
your life. If you want to do

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to other people the same things that
was done to you, it's a consequence

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for that. If you choose to
remain the same, still waddling in past

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pays, it's a consequence for that. Whatever you choose is up to you.

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Your life is your life. But
all I'm saying, no one has

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to go through life the same.
Every last one of us can choose to

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be better. We just have to
want to. We just have to want

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to intentional willingness. You just have
to want to. You have to be

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sick and tired of your own crap
because it's your crap. It's over what

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you went through. What you're going
through now is your crap because you're holding

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on to negativity, leaving your houses, just angry, ready to fight,

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kill or whatever. Someone anyone who
say anything that you don't like that is

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so immature and ridiculous, but so
many people are that way, just angry

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as if the world did it.
The world didn't do it. Booboo,

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the world didn't do it. You
have to want to be better for yourself,

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and I pray, I pray that
people change their hearts and their minds,

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change that they no longer give in
to the darkness, the wickedness,

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the evil. You know, because
the devil wants you just like you are.

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He wants you to think your life
can be better. He wants you

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to hate yourself. He wants you
to hate others. He wants you to

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continue to hold on to the negativity. He want that he wanted. He

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wants you miserable and unhappy, and
so many people are giving him just exactly

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what he wants. When you don't
have to, you always have a choice.

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Always blaming someone else only keeps you
right where you are. And that's

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it. That's all I'm saying about
it. I'm leaving it right there.

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Thank you so much for listening.
Much love to each and every one of

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you. I pray that you choose
change because it's yours to choose. Please

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remember, every day you get to
live is another chance to better. It's

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a chance to get to know Jesus
all love. It is up to you.

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Please share this episode, go out
and check relatable life chronicles. Check

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it out. Thank you so much
for listening. Listen. If you want

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better, you have to do better. I end every episode the same and

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I hope you do it. Thank
going it