Hey, hey, good people, I'm back with something for you to think
about. Someone needs to hear this today. So many people in this world,
around the world are blaming others for their lives, for how they have
chosen to become. Now I've talked about it before, I've mentioned it several
times, but this is a full episode on it. You blaming others is
not gonna help you to heal and become better. Let me say it again.
You blaming others doesn't help you to heal and become better. People do
not understand that they cause unnecessary hear me, unnecessary self inflicted pain when they
don't allow themselves to heal, or when they choose to take a route that
they never have to take. So many people in this world, so many
are in terrible mind sex, terrible states of mind, terrible mental spaces,
however you want to put it. And it's all because people are holding on
to things that they should have let go of long ago. People are blaming
their parents, grown fully grown people still blaming their parents. No, you
have to make a choice for your life to be better for you. My
heart goes out to anyone who went through unnecessary trauma, unwarranted trauma. As
a child, my heart goes out to anyone and everyone. But as an
adult, you have to stop giving power to that. You have to stop
giving power to people from your past because you have every opportunity as an adult
to become better. You have every opportunity. Every day you live, you
have an opportunity to let it go and to become better than what you came
from. But so many people are so focused on negativity. Real are made
up because you can believe a lie so long until you believe it's true.
I mean, it's a fact. Even the Bible tells us, a tells
us that you can go for so long lying that you deceive yourself, and
that is what some people do. Everything don't come from trauma other than the
trauma that you create yourself. People think that, and I used to think
it too, that you had to come from trauma when you choose a bad
route, of the wrong road, the wrong path. But that's not true.
It is not true. Because people are raised in really good homes,
they turn out bad. Then you have those who are raised in really bad
homes they turn out good. It depends on the individual. It definitely depends
on the individual. Because the Bible tells us to train, you know,
children up, Train them up as a child, train them up, and
when they get old, they won't depart from from it. Listen, that
does not mean that they won't go off to the left. It doesn't mean
that. What it means is regardless of what they choose to do in life,
they know better, they was raised better. What they choose is up
to them totally. But they know the right thing, the right way.
But they still have the choice to choose whatever they want. I've always told
you that people hold on to negativity. They will hold on to negativity before
they grab a hold to positivity. That's just the way it is for most
people. But if you go through life blaming anyone, it does not benefit
you. What it does is keep you in the same mental state. It
keeps you feeling the same, It keeps you right where you've always been,
in that negative state of mind. It don't benefit you holding on to past
pains and blaming people, even if they contributed to trauma in your life.
As an adult, you have to be willing to deal with it, heal
from it, and move on. When don't, it will always without fail
cause devastation and destruction in your life, and some people veer so far off
that they do very destructive things, just ruin their lives because they're angry over
something that's in the past or something that for whatever reason they made up in
their own minds. It does happen. But what I'm trying to convey to
people is your life is what you make it, regardless of the curve balls,
regardless of the unknown. Your life is what you make it. People
can complain all day, they can blame all day, they can blame whoever
they want. Who you choose to become is on you. So many people
in life continue down that negative path, and they end up hurting people because
they were hurt. Instead of learning from what they went through and vowing to
never do that to anyone, they go right on and victimize people because they
were once victimized and they never healed from that trauma. So they go through
life inflicting the same criminal pain that was inflicted upon them. That's wrong,
It's not right in no kind of way. There's no excuse for it.
If you went through it, you should never want to put anyone else through
it. But some people that's exactly what they do. Commit The same crimes,
inflicting pain in the life of other people because somebody inflicted in their pain
in their lives. It's wrong. It is wrong. That's why it's so
important to feel from past pains. It's so important when you don't heal,
you take all of that trauma, all of that pain, and you just
like a garbage bag, a garbage bag full of stench. You drag it
from here to there and everywhere, and it causes you nothing but pain.
Self inflicted pain. The pain you feel is self inflicted because you're no longer
in the trauma you were once in as a kid. You're the one who's
holding on to the memories that's forming those negative thoughts and feelings you. That's
making you angry, insecure, fearful, hate yourself, hate everybody. You
are holding on to that negativity. That negativity is not holding on to you.
You are holding on to it, and you are blaming others for how
you've chosen to become. You should want to be better than what you came
from. Some of you turn around and do the same thing to your children,
the same thing that was done to you. You do it to your
children. And I don't want to hear the excuse, Well, I don't
know better because I was never taught excuse, excuses, excuses. You know
what pain feels like, you know what being done wrong feels like. So
don't make excuses as to why you do the same thing to your children.
You should want better for your children. But these children today, oh my
god, they need Oh my god, they need parents who know how to
cant. These kids are raising themselves. They are, I mean, it's
so terrible. They're being exploited all types of things. Parents trying to use
their children to make money. I mean, it's just pathetic, making their
children do things that the children probably don't even want to do, but the
parents are trying to make money. It's just terrible, it really is.
But people are the way that they have chosen to become because they choose to
not heal, They choose to not allow themselves to be free of the negativity.
You don't know your self worth. You get into relationships for the wrong
reasons, You get into relationships with no foundations. You just go through life
the very same way, and all you do is blame, blame, blame
for the way you've chosen to become. As an adult, you are responsible.
You. You're responsible and accountable for your life, for your decisions,
good or bad. You can never become better by remaining the same. You
can never become better by blaming, by holding on to that negativity and blaming
your whoever, whoever it may be. Well, I'm like this because they
did this or they did that. Okay, maybe they did. And I
know some of you are saying it's no. Maybe, Okay, I get
it you went through But why are you continuing to put yourself through unnecessary drama
over something that happened when you were a child. Why are you putting yourself
through the same version and pain that you went through as a child. Please
help me to understand. Stop making excuses, Stop using your past as a
crutch. It is not a crutch. Stop using it as a clutch,
because all you're doing is remaining where you've always been, in that state of
negativity, never growing, never maturing, never progressing mentally, because you're too
stuck. You can't move forward because you're too busy looking behind, still blaming,
not taking responsibility for your own life. You still have it in the
hands of those who hurt you. When you, as a child given power
to powerless people to cause you to be powerless, giving power to those negative
memories to keep you in a negative state of mind. That's why so many
people, I mean, I be on on YouTube sometimes just looking at things,
and it's very, very disheartening the comments people make. Clearly people are
so fixated on lust, greed, self gratification, so worried about other people,
people they don't even know who would care less about them. That all
comes from that unresolved inside of you, that inner part of you that is
unhealed. Insecurities, the inability to trust, are trusted too much, self
love, confidence, all of those things and being more comes from that unresolved
inside, that place within that is unhealed. And if you never heal,
you're gonna remain the same, You're gonna keep struggling with the same things.
Many of you are struggling with mental health issues that have come about because of
the mindset that you have. All of your anger and bitterness and hate have
formed or caused you to form some forms of mental health issues. It comes
from all the negativity, the stress, the strain. Mental stress forms into
mental illnesses. It most definitely can, but it's because you give into it.
You allow that in your life. It's like you open the door to
it. That's why people battle so frequently with suicidal thoughts because they don't heal
from whatever their ailments are. They don't heal from those things. They keep
going through life, struggling, compiling other things on top of what's already there,
and it gets to a point of breakdown. People want to give up
because they don't feel things to get better. No, things don't get better
when you don't allow them to get better. Things don't get better when you
keep holding on to the negativity. No matter what people say to you,
are you see is negative. That's all you see, negativity. I don't
care how encouraging a person can be to you. All you see is negativity
because that's what you have become familiar and comfortable with. And I think it
is horrible. It's a horrible thing people do to themselves self inflicted pain,
because no one has to live that way. You recognize your pain, but
you wattle in it. You know you have unresolved issues, but you waddle
in them. You don't try to work on them. You waddle and you
stay there because you are familiar with that negativity. You are familiar with that
pain, so you become comfortable in it, and all it does is affect
you in many facts of your life. You can move forward. You are
stuck mentally, and I've told you many times. You may accomplish things in
life, but it does not take away that unresolved inside of you. And
don't take it away, so you still suffer. You still don't love yourself,
You still don't know your self worth. You still do anything for love.
You allow people to treat you any kind of way. All of that,
all of it comes from that unresolved inside of you. Every day you
live is a new opportunity for you. You should never ever choose to remain
the same when you can always become better. I don't care what you went
through. I don't care who did it, mom, dad, grandma and
granddad, uncle, cousin, auntie, brother, sister, friend, friend
of the family, pastor whoever. It don't matter who did it. You
went through it. You're here, so you survived it. And as an
adult, you don't have to hold onto that mess. You don't because the
scars sometimes could be permanent, but you can always heal from those past pains.
Some of you may have physical scars. But still you can heal from
those past pains. You have to want to, You must be willing to.
Many people are not it. Just go through life the same angry,
leave home angry every day, go to work, causing all kind of havoc
on the job, just always something, just causing drama everywhere you go.
That comes from that unresolved part of you. Some of you hate, some
of you follow right in the footsteps of other negative people. You don't even
think for yourself. You follow right in the same footsteps that somebody else travels.
You follow in the same footsteps, doing the same negative stuff because somebody
else did it. That's because of your mindset. You're not thinking for yourself.
You just go along with anything, even if it's wrong. Your life
is your life. You only get one. You can stay stuck in your
past, or you can heal from it and move on. It's your choice.
So many people have lived for many, many years just existing, just
existing, not enjoying life. Never loved self. Horrible, horrible, horrible
the things people do to self, self destruction and self inflicted pain, when
you always could choose to be better always every day that you get to see
every beautiful day, whether it's raining or snowing or whatever, it's a beautiful
day because it's a gift from God. And for people to never try to
become better, that's a sad, sad shame. People just don't have love
anymore. Because you don't love yourself, you can't love anyone else self inflicted
pain. But you are responsible for your life. If you want to do
to other people the same things that was done to you, it's a consequence
for that. If you choose to remain the same, still waddling in past
pays, it's a consequence for that. Whatever you choose is up to you.
Your life is your life. But all I'm saying, no one has
to go through life the same. Every last one of us can choose to
be better. We just have to want to. We just have to want
to intentional willingness. You just have to want to. You have to be
sick and tired of your own crap because it's your crap. It's over what
you went through. What you're going through now is your crap because you're holding
on to negativity, leaving your houses, just angry, ready to fight,
kill or whatever. Someone anyone who say anything that you don't like that is
so immature and ridiculous, but so many people are that way, just angry
as if the world did it. The world didn't do it. Booboo,
the world didn't do it. You have to want to be better for yourself,
and I pray, I pray that people change their hearts and their minds,
change that they no longer give in to the darkness, the wickedness,
the evil. You know, because the devil wants you just like you are.
He wants you to think your life can be better. He wants you
to hate yourself. He wants you to hate others. He wants you to
continue to hold on to the negativity. He want that he wanted. He
wants you miserable and unhappy, and so many people are giving him just exactly
what he wants. When you don't have to, you always have a choice.
Always blaming someone else only keeps you right where you are. And that's
it. That's all I'm saying about it. I'm leaving it right there.
Thank you so much for listening. Much love to each and every one of
you. I pray that you choose change because it's yours to choose. Please
remember, every day you get to live is another chance to better. It's
a chance to get to know Jesus all love. It is up to you.
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