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I'm traveling, I'm living the life
I'm living. I'm living my best life.

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In case you guys didn't know,
Of case, you guys aren't influenced,

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because we're totally hep. The men
have had their balls chopped off in

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a lot of different ways. She
did you expeol She had a female explain

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him. Don't give me your lip, mat don't man explain to me.

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So I thought we could have a
conversation about political correctness and how it's basically

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destroying the entire fabric of our entire
culture. It is kind of a cancer.

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Yeah, a cancer is a great
way to put it. And you

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know, when we wrote a book, what was that twenty thirty, Well,

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we were writing it in twenty thirteen. He came out in twenty fourteen.

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Yeah, so we were writing at
the end of twenty thirteen and it

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was already such a big deal.
And it's gotten so much worse, oh

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my god, much worse. But
it's it's it's putting all of our energy

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in the wrong direction because it's teaching
the kids get to cope bingo. It's

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taking energy that you could be putting
elsewhere into the absolute wrong thing. Like

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words are just like the whole band
Bossy campaign. Do you remember BOSSI campaign?

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Yes? Yeah, the chick from
Facebook, Cheryl sand Sandberg Sandberg,

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Yeah, and she was so intent
on we can't have the word bossy and

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little girls shouldn't be called bossy.
And it's like, why, why is

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that so hurtful? I mean,
I have a nine year old girl,

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and if she was called bossy,
it's so what, Yeah, who cares?

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It's not going to ruin her life? And that's this is the ploy,

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right, This is a total attempt
to take over language in a way

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that is completely backfiring to me because
it makes people, It makes kids feel

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like they're supposed to be outraged.
They're supposed to be offended, they're supposed

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to be insulted and victimized by words. Yeah, because why are we doing

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this? Because I remember when we
were growing up it with sticks and stones.

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Yeah, sticks and stones may break
my bones, but words will never

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hurt me. And that was a
great lesson. Yeah, it was a

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great lesson. Why why is that
no longer the lesson? I don't there's

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so many things that are no longer
the lesson. But when we were on

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the playground and somebody would call you
something bad. It was you know,

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I don't care whatever, Yeah what
sticks and stones? Right? People would

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you would say that bad? Yea? How about you bite me? I

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mean that's that's how I was raised, and we're and we're okay exact.

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Kids would call us names, and
people called me names all the time,

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and that's and maybe that's why I
say bite me a lot now. But

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I mean people would call me names
and I would get over it. And

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that's what all kids used to do. Kids used to be able to cope

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with sort of this day to day
picking on each other on the playground.

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And now it's like, oh my
god, I'm being bullied. Yeah,

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and they're freaking cutting at twelve years
old. You're right, I mean,

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what is going on. What's going
on is we have a whole generation of

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kids who are severely troubled. Yeah, severely troubled. And it's because I

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think a lot of them are so
incredibly insulated. And we're the problem.

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We are the problem. We are
the problem. Parents are the problem.

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Is because they have insulated these kids
and they said, you're you're a victor,

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You're a victim of words. If
they're a victim of words and a

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victim because of all the political correctness
that we've put on them. Then imagine

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how it's going to be for them
in the real world. Oh my god,

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it's going to be devastating. Well, and they are already causing so

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much trouble, right, I mean
kids now, Like I mean you hear

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you joke. We joke about millennials
all the time, but kids who are

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entering the workforce now and the demands
and expectations that they have of what a

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workforce is supposed to be, like, it's completely warped. And what's worse

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is that companies are starting to adapt, which is terrifying because it sets up

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our entire culture to be weak.
And why do we want that? Why

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are we encouraging that? Because they
continue with the coddling. Yeah, they

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continue with that, and that's bad. That's bad because these are supposed to

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be our future leaders. It's totally
it's what ends up with. This is

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how we get mayor Pete's right,
this is how we get people like Pete.

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I'm not going to say his last
name. You say it, you

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say it for me, because I
can't stand to say it. It's edge

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edge. But this is this is
a mayor of South Bend, a presidential

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candidate who I don't think could lead
us out of a paper bag. Yeah,

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the guy is just weak. Agreed. Agreed, And then you get

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in the whole conversation of women,
you know, and how women are treated,

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and then we get into the me
too stuff. Oh my god,

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it's like the it's it's like political
correctness run a muck, right, I

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mean, because you you look at
you know, like a feminist. So

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we saw a feminist the other day
who tweeted. He was like, you

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know about some guy tried to take
her her overhead baggage out of the overhead

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compartment on an airplane to be nice, right, right, he was trying

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to be nice to her, and
she tweeted about how you know, it

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was like a hashtag resist moment where
she was fighting the patriarchy and that was

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she was somehow brave and speaking out
against that on Twitter like, oh no,

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thanks, I got it, is
what she said to him. Of

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course I'm paraphrasing the tweet. But
this is what this is what feminists are

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doing, right. This is the
age of political correctness where men feel scared

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to do nice things for women now
because we are so crazy. This is

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the age of political correctness where women
are being mean to men because men are

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doing nice things for them. It's
just kindness. And now they've got a

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name for it. Now they call
it benevolent sexism. What It's sexist to

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open a door for a woman.
It's sexist to help her, you know,

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carry a heavy box. It's sexist
to drive long distances. Yeah,

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I mean, it's absolute nonsense,
and it totally ruins the culture for those

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of us who still appreciate that kind
of chivalry. Yeah, it's like,

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we can't be empowered. We can't
own businesses. We can't you know,

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be successful entrepreneurs, successful career women. We can't be you know, or

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just choose what we want to do, right, We can't be empowered women

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at all if we have men doing
things for us, what are we to

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do that. I love it when
my husband does that stuff. I love

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it when he carries you know,
big shopping bags. I love it when

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he opens the door for me.
I love it when he drives long distances.

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I love it when he does all
of those things. You know.

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I don't want him to stop doing
that, right, Well, and that's

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the fear, right is that you
hear. I mean, we've heard from

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men who are literally terrified to just
show what comes naturally to them, these

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acts of kindness that come naturally them
because they were raised well. And so

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they go to open a door for
a woman and this woman shoots him down

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and accuses them of being sexist.
So then they stop doing it right,

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And this is what we're encouraging exactly. I don't know when he did it,

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but Tucker Carlson did like a whole
monologue about all the troubles that men

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are facing now as a result of
our culture and how men are being unmanned.

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Essentially, they're like being emasculated in
so many ways. And there's a

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whole bunch of stats that he gave
that were really really troubling, so and

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I have those. So, for
example, the average American man is going

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to die five years before the average
American woman. One of the reasons for

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that is addiction. They're also twice
as likely to die of a drug od

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Seventy seven percent of suicides are committed
by men. Over ninety percent of inmates

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are male. Boys are failing in
school. Boys account for the overwhelming majority

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of school discipline cases. One in
five American kids live with only their moms.

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They don't. We're looking at all
these fatherless households and then wondering like

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where all the good men have gone? Yeah, yeah, I think it's

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well, science is pretty scary.
I mean when I was looking at some

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of those stats and thinking, nobody's
looking into this, like if this was

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a woman thing, if all of
a sudden estrogen levels were on the decline

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for decades, Yeah, and there
were headlines that said so maybe freaking out,

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oh my god, there would be
studies like crazy and maybe trying to

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figure out why. Right. Yeah, I do think though that the sam

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Elliots are Once Sam Elliott is gone, there's not going to be a lot

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more sam Elliots after sam Elliott has
gone. Right, It's just like when

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John Wayne died. It's like that's
that was a dying breed. So it

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does make me kind of it makes
me sad. Well, it's it's nerve

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wracking really. If you think about
how much we hear about the patriarchy and

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how toxic it is. That's that
is all men are hearing now is how

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toxic they are, how toxic they're
the patriarchy, is how awful they have

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made everything for women. Well,
if listen, if you're men and you're

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listening to this, you're not toxic. You know, we don't think you're

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toxic, so you're not. It's
a bunch of bull crap. It's all

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just a bunch of made up stuff. And they're even getting their hands slapped

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for opening doors, you know what
I mean, Like, you can open

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my door anytime. I know.
I love that. I love it.

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You can open my door. You
can call me darling. I'm fine with

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that too, because I'm from the
South. You can make sure that I'm

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walking on the inside of the street, you know what I mean, Like

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on the sidewalk, make sure I'm
away from traffic. Those I love those,

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I love that, all those things. You can wink at me.

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I'm fine with that. It's totally
okay, it's totally fine. I'm just

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not buying into this. It's not
toxic. Masculinity is not talk. It's

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good. It's God given and it's
wonderful. And by the way, apparently

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one of these other stats that I
saw too, said that because there's so

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many fatherless, you know, so
many single moms are raising their kids and

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there's so many fatherless households. It
tends to be that serial killers come mostly

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from fatherless households, and bullies bullies
mostly come from fatherless households. Isn't that

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interesting? We need men, We
need them to be raising our kids with

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us. I mean that, listen. I get that sometimes it can't always

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work out that way, but it
is. It is weird when you start

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seeing a lot of women that are
like, I'm just going to have a

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kid on my own, as if
men are just totally expendable and not necessary,

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not important. They're not expendable.
They're important and they're wonderful, and

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we love them, especially when they
don't have man buns, right, we

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love them. So I just take
disease. It's like an assault. It's

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an assault on men. I mean, people have talked about the war on

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women forever, but it's that pingj
has swung way too far. I totally

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agree. It is. It's time
for some like resetting. Yeah, I

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mean yeah, and bring dudes back. I don't know what we do about

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the testosterone levels, but yeah,
hashtag bring dudes back, bring the balls

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back. That's right, that's what
we want. That's right. Okay.

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So I sent you an article the
other day, it was Jillian Michaels.

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Yes, yeah, And I like, I think Jillian Michaels is fine.

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She seems pretty hardcore. I like
her. I've seen her on TV.

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She seems like she's pretty cool.
But and she also seems like she understands

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physical fitness. And one of those
components of physical fitness is understanding that it's

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okay to say obesity is not healthy. It's not And she's saying that in

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an article. And I sent this
to you and I'm like, listen,

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so she just wrote this article.
What was she wrote it? Just what

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like a week ago? I think, so it's pretty recent. Yeah,

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it's yeah, just last week.
Yeah, December is December of two thousand

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nineteen is when she wrote this article. And so she was she was like,

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listen, it's not okay to glamorize
obesity. And this whole body positivity

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thing is kind of whack. Yeah, and it's all part of this political

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correctness culture. Yeah, right,
because they're gonna so afraid to say you're

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fat, right, you know,
I mean to the point where doctors are

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even afraid to say it for fear
that of backlash. It used to be

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that you go to your doctor,
and your doctor be like, listen,

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you gotta lose fifty pounds because you're
gonna die if you don't lose fifty pounds.

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You're eventually you're gonna get diabetes,
you're gonna get heart disease, you're

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gonna get all these awful things,
and then eventually that those things can kill

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you. You may want to lose
fifty pounds, honestly, and they would

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not have any fear about saying that
because that is their job. That is

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their job. Nowadays, doctors don't
do that as much because of all this

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political correctness bull crap. It's nonsense, it is, And she's speaking to

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that. She's speaking to the political
correctness society that we live in. And

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man thea from this article, and
she is a personal traiter. She has

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a physical fitness guru. She is
like the person that people go they put

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her on television to train people to
make fat people skinny, right or healthy?

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I'm sorry healthy, because that's the
whole thing this is. It's called

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a body positivity movement. What are
how? What is there? Why are

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we showing people to be positive about
a body state that'll put you closer to

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death? Yeah? Why are we
it's it's it's not something to encourage,

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it really isn't. I mean if
I saw that, like my daughter was

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was, you know, she's nine, and I saw that she was gaining

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weight and gaining weight and getting weight, I wouldn't shame her, but I

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would make sure I would be like, what am I doing wrong as a

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parent? You know that is is
putting her in a state where she is

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becoming closer and closer to a place
where one day she's going to die prematurely.

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Why would you do that? Why
would you do that to your kids?

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What would you to yourself? Why
would you to anybody that you love?

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I just don't understand why people are
trying to make this a positive.

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It's not positive. That's nagad.
And again, it's not about these people.

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It's not about people who are overweight
being of less value, or it's

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it's them being of value. That's
what I'm just saying. It's like,

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you love those people, why wouldn't
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long time? It's like, of
course you want them to be here a

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long time because you do love them, Because they it's showing that you do

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value them and you value their body
yes, and the Ais are the only

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ones who are going to get exactly
God gave you one vessel. Man,

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It's like, you have this one
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it with kindness and respect. I
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it. It's like I had that
spinal fusion in twenty fifteen, and I

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listen, this may not have a
lot to do with fat but I remember

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waking up in the hospital bed and
it was sort of like a come to

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Jesus meeting because I woke up in
that bed and I couldn't walk, okay,

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like it's and of course I knew, like in the back of my

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brain, I knew, all right, I'll be able to walk in like

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three days, but I was I
couldn't walk. I mean I physically,

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you know, when you have spinal
surgery, you can't walk, and so

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you're basically, I want to say
paralyzed, but you just physically can't get

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up. And I remember thinking,
oh my god, what like you start

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panicking, You start panicking, and
so you start not taking things for granted

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after days like that, right,
And that's the thing, Like, after

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that, I was like, all
right, I'm not gonna not work out

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a couple of days a week.
I'm not gonna not move my body.

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I'm not gonna I'm not gonna not
take things for granted, you know.

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And so this is the thing is
like you have one vessel. You got

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to treat it with respect. You
know. That's the most positive thing you

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can do for your body. I
mean, it's like, I'm never going

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to be a fitness model, but
it's you know, just be nice to

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your body. Why would you not
want to be nice to your body?

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And don't encourage obesity. This is
a really dumb thing to encur. It

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is really dumb. Love people who
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Right. That is the best body
positivity you can have. And so

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Lillian and Michael's is right, and
actually she's dead on. I think for

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people who are like, you're being
some mean people. No, you're being

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mean to people by telling them that
they should remain fat because you're basically saying

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I want you to die early.
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of mean. I think that to
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is dead on, right, that's
exactly. So that's that. Okay,

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Well, now I'm just not gonna
eat cake. Yes today, that's not

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true. You can eat the cake
in moderation, and then I totally eat

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the cake. I eat all the
cake. I just told you, move

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your bikey. There's like you have
to do. You have to do all

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the things like you do things in
moderation. I think you can do all

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those things. You can eat the
cake and then you just walk a mile

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right right, that is exactly do
or take two flights of stairs. I

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can do that briskly. I can't
do it here at work because the stairwells

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are all locked. Yeah, but
I will do that. Yeah, exactly.

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You can do all those things.
It's totally fine. There you go,

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right. Not only have wedding proposals
gotten out of control. Prom proposals

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have gotten out of control. There's
no home homecoming, homecoming proposals or out

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of every Everything is a production right
now for social media. Yeah, can

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we just reverse this trend because that
I feel like this is way too much

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pressure for dudes. It's way too
much pressure for parents to be It's just

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too much. It's too much.
It's like, look at me, me,

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me, And it makes me sad
that it's trickled down to kids in

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middle school, because now we have
Matt's kid who's being told by his little

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girlfriend, Hey, by the way, you asked me to homecoming yesterday,

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which is great and I want to
go, But the way you're really supposed

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to ask me is this way.
Here's a list of things you're supposed to

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do. That is a big crock
of crap right there. I just can't

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believe that he's having to do that. He's having to jump through hoops and

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do all these things that I never
dreamed of of any boy doing for me

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when I was in middle school or
high school. We just went, you

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know what I mean, we just
we were asked in hallways right right.

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We were asking cars. When we're
asking you had a really sweet note past,

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Yeah, exactly. I mean,
it just wasn't a big deal.

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We just did these things and then
we went and that was life, and

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it was you know, it was
very sweet, yeah, and it was

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more intimate and it was there's I
just I love that time. I know,

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it was an innocent, wonderful time, and I missed that. And

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this really is about the advent of
social media, right with a question,

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because otherwise, what's I don't think
people would be going so over the top

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if they didn't think, oh,
this is going to be a viral moment.

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Either either it's going to be a
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of my own, my own social
media. Everybody, look at me,

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look a look at me. Look
at what this person did. It's not

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about the you know about I guess
about that little girl going to the dance

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with Matt's son, and how and
how that is just a wonderful thing on

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its own. It's about the event
itself. It's about what it looks like

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to everybody else. Well that is
the key, what it looks like to

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everybody else, and that's what matters. Now. Yeah, and that sucks

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because it should be about you two
going together and having a good time and

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not about what it looks like.
And now, I mean, think about

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all the one upping that's going to
be taking place, right So, like

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this guy started a forest fire and
they're gonna be like, oh, you

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only killed this many trees. Yeah, Well, at my gender Revealed party,

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we took care of the entire Amazon
jump. I mean, you know,

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it's gonna get to the point where
nothing is going to be good enough

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because everything's already been done, and
listen, I know that we probably will

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even do a podcast on this in
the future. But I've said that about

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about weddings forever. Oh yeah,
because listen, my wedding was like six

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hundred dollars and we had a reception
at our house. So I'm like not

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want to talk about when it comes
to over the top weddings. So I'm

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just not an over the top wedding
kind of girl. But when it comes

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to like all the pomp and circumstance
and the craziness and the doing things for

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other people, I just feel like
a lot of a lot of weddings,

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a lot of things that people do
nowadays, they do it for other people,

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and it's like it's never about like
the marriage, you know what I

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mean, Yeah, it's it's about
it's about the show and it's and it's

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like eventually you're gonna have you're it's
gonna be the two of you, Like

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eventually, like Matt's boy and that
little girl are gonna be alone at that

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dance and then we're gonna have to
have a conversation and then what Yeah,

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then what's gonna happen? And same
thing with all these these people. You

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know, they're gonna have the kids, they're gonna it's real life is gonna

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happen, and then what Yeah,
they got to be ready for the actual,

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real lit it. I mean,
so she's not always pomp and circumstances

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and fanfare. No, it's not
just you're living. There ain't no filters,

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there's no Instagram filters. In real
life, you gotta deal with with

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the stuff. So we need to
get back to basics. All you young

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dudes out there who are getting ready
to ask your uh, your little girlfriends

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to home coming and then coming up
for prom, just you know, ask

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him in a car. Yeah,
and if she's not down, then maybe

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that's not the right girl. Yeah, Or if she don't should care about

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going to prom with you and not
how you ask, or if she gives

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you a list of things that you
need to do tomorrow because you didn't ask

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the right way. Ask somebody else, you know, ask somebody else.

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That's exactly right. I'm sure there's
somebody who would be delighted to go with

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you. Yeah, all right,
let's talk about mag aren't bride's a sign

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of the patriarchy now, which is
why people aren't getting married. Well,

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that's a great point, right,
And there are lots and lots of changes

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with marriage. I saw swage saw
some stats. Half of these are just

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interesting stats from Pew Research. You
know how they do all the polling or

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the whatever the stats. So many
status you get, So she's got all

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the status. I have so many
stats, so give them, give them

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to us. Mot here I go. Okay, half of Americans aged eighteen

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or older were married in twenty seventeen, which has been our stable number over

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the past recent years, but is
down eight points since nineteen ninety. And

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that is because you may have noticed
this. Americans are staying single for longer.

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Yeah, this is happening. People
are waiting. Yeah for real,

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You got any more weird stats in
there? You need to well? The

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good news I guess according to Peughs
that love is still the top reason the

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Americans want to get married. That's
good. But I'm not sure what the

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alive is. But I mean it
says nine and ten. That means one

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in ten Americans don't find love to
be the main reason to get married.

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Okay, Like who is that?
Who would that person be? That would

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be like an Anna Nicole Smith who
did not marry for love, right,

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Well, I suppose you know,
a companionship is another big one. To

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me, those things go hand in
hand. But there are people that say

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financial stability your legal rights and benefits, and you know, that's a whole

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other can of worms too. Is
talking about how government is involved in marriage

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and really, why why is that
a thing? Right? It used to

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just be you know, you wanted
your marriage to be recognized by whatever your

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church is, but now it's like
it's a tax thing and all that sort

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of stuff. But yes, the
number of people that are cohabitating is very

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much on the rise. Only let's
see, in addition to the half of

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adults who are married, seven percent
were cohabiting cohabitating in twenty sixteen, and

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now let's see it's up twenty nine
percent since two thousand. That's a lot.

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It's a lot. And it goes
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You know, a lot of people
there's a lack of religion now,

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Like if you look at the stats
of people who used to be people of

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faith and then people who aren't now
because man, so many people are like

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agnostic and atheists now and they're like, I don't care about God recognizing my

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relationship you know that that probably goes
hand in hand with that, which is

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sad. That also makes me say, I know, the people just don't

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care. They just people just don't
care anymore, and then why commit?

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Right? Yeah, I mean marriage
is great. It is great. I

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mean, besides the sex on tab
it's great. It really there's I mean,

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it really is great. It's all
of it has been great. I

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mean I listen, I was divorced, and there was probably like a two

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week span where I was like,
I'm never gonna get married again, you

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know, because I was like,
because you know, you go through that

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whole post divorce thing, you're like
ah. But then after that, I

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was like, you know I could, I could do this. And then

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when you meet the person that you're
supposed to be with, you're like,

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of course, I'm all in.
This is of course you want to do

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this. And I guess that's why
I can't imagine why I don't understand why

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people don't get married, because that
is that is precisely what I wanted to

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do. When I met my husband, I was like, oh my god,

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I want to marry this guy.
Yeah, like don't you remember,

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oh yeah? And it was really
it was probably inappropriate on my part because

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I thought that within the first couple
of nurs like you just like you know,

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like you just you're like, I
love this guy so much, I

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have to be with them, Like
even though this is so completely inconvenient,

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so inconvenient, Like there's step kids, there's all sorts of stuff. I

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mean, there's so much. I
just but I love I just want to

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be with this person. So I
mean, I can't imagine not wanting to

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be married, yeah, and not
wanting to do that in front of God

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and everybody and now, and not
and not wanting someone that is really going

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to have your back through your whole
life. Yeah, you know. That's

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to me, that's like the greatest
comfort. And then having and having theirs

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yeah, yeah, and having someone
else and knowing that your partners and you're

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in it for the long haul.
I don't know why anybody would not want

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that. Yeah, And I feel
like that seals the deal. Yeah,

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that seals And maybe if you don't, maybe if you're in a situation where

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you are living with someone and you
don't have that sense of wanting that,

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then that isn't the right person.
Because I don't understand how you're I just

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don't understand not wanting that, yeah, or knowing that that person wants to

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do that with you. Yeah,
I just I can't understand that either.

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I don't. I don't know.
It's a different generation. It's a different

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generation, different generation. And who
knows, maybe in thirty years, like

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I said, maybe twenty thirty years
from now, Pe will be like,

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yeah, these kids had it,
right, Who knows. I don't know.

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I don't know. But I hope
my kid gets married. Yeah,

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me too. I want to see
him get married to you exactly right,

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I know, because that would be
amazing, right, would be amazing,

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totally, totally, and it won't
be a thirty five thousand dollars wedding.

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That's all I'm saying. Right,
that's going to be very simple, that's

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all. That's all I'm saying about
that. Okay, all right, you

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guys, all right, So if
you're out there and you're listening, get

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married, stay married, Yeah,
that's our advice. And then go forth

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and pro create. Yes, do
that. Do that, and also make

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us on facebo point two million people
can't be wrong, Yeah, you're right,

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they're all right. And then there's
also a group on Facebook you can

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you can, you know, follow
us there. We also put stuff out

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there. Where else can they find
us? Our website the most important place

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Chicks on the Right dot com.
You should be having that as your default

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homepage. That way you'll never miss
new content. That's where all the good

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stuff happens. Yeah, and on
our website and the top right corner of

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our website are happy little cartoon Faces. That's where you can find like all

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the places for our podcast. It's
a very easy place to go if obviously

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you're at our podcast right now,
but if you want to tell people that

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you know to hey, go look
at their podcasts, listen to their podcast.

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Our cartoon faces are out there.
It has like eighteen k jillion places

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where you can find our podcast,
which is a really all the platform,

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all the places. So yes,
those are all the places you can find

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us. Next week, yeah,
next week, we will be back talking

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about some juicy morsels of stuff until
then, yes, until then everyone, Bye,