I'm traveling, I'm living the life I'm living. I'm living my best life.
In case you guys didn't know, Of case, you guys aren't influenced,
because we're totally hep. The men have had their balls chopped off in
a lot of different ways. She did you expeol She had a female explain
him. Don't give me your lip, mat don't man explain to me.
So I thought we could have a conversation about political correctness and how it's basically
destroying the entire fabric of our entire culture. It is kind of a cancer.
Yeah, a cancer is a great way to put it. And you
know, when we wrote a book, what was that twenty thirty, Well,
we were writing it in twenty thirteen. He came out in twenty fourteen.
Yeah, so we were writing at the end of twenty thirteen and it
was already such a big deal. And it's gotten so much worse, oh
my god, much worse. But it's it's it's putting all of our energy
in the wrong direction because it's teaching the kids get to cope bingo. It's
taking energy that you could be putting elsewhere into the absolute wrong thing. Like
words are just like the whole band Bossy campaign. Do you remember BOSSI campaign?
Yes? Yeah, the chick from Facebook, Cheryl sand Sandberg Sandberg,
Yeah, and she was so intent on we can't have the word bossy and
little girls shouldn't be called bossy. And it's like, why, why is
that so hurtful? I mean, I have a nine year old girl,
and if she was called bossy, it's so what, Yeah, who cares?
It's not going to ruin her life? And that's this is the ploy,
right, This is a total attempt to take over language in a way
that is completely backfiring to me because it makes people, It makes kids feel
like they're supposed to be outraged. They're supposed to be offended, they're supposed
to be insulted and victimized by words. Yeah, because why are we doing
this? Because I remember when we were growing up it with sticks and stones.
Yeah, sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never
hurt me. And that was a great lesson. Yeah, it was a
great lesson. Why why is that no longer the lesson? I don't there's
so many things that are no longer the lesson. But when we were on
the playground and somebody would call you something bad. It was you know,
I don't care whatever, Yeah what sticks and stones? Right? People would
you would say that bad? Yea? How about you bite me? I
mean that's that's how I was raised, and we're and we're okay exact.
Kids would call us names, and people called me names all the time,
and that's and maybe that's why I say bite me a lot now. But
I mean people would call me names and I would get over it. And
that's what all kids used to do. Kids used to be able to cope
with sort of this day to day picking on each other on the playground.
And now it's like, oh my god, I'm being bullied. Yeah,
and they're freaking cutting at twelve years old. You're right, I mean,
what is going on. What's going on is we have a whole generation of
kids who are severely troubled. Yeah, severely troubled. And it's because I
think a lot of them are so incredibly insulated. And we're the problem.
We are the problem. We are the problem. Parents are the problem.
Is because they have insulated these kids and they said, you're you're a victor,
You're a victim of words. If they're a victim of words and a
victim because of all the political correctness that we've put on them. Then imagine
how it's going to be for them in the real world. Oh my god,
it's going to be devastating. Well, and they are already causing so
much trouble, right, I mean kids now, Like I mean you hear
you joke. We joke about millennials all the time, but kids who are
entering the workforce now and the demands and expectations that they have of what a
workforce is supposed to be, like, it's completely warped. And what's worse
is that companies are starting to adapt, which is terrifying because it sets up
our entire culture to be weak. And why do we want that? Why
are we encouraging that? Because they continue with the coddling. Yeah, they
continue with that, and that's bad. That's bad because these are supposed to
be our future leaders. It's totally it's what ends up with. This is
how we get mayor Pete's right, this is how we get people like Pete.
I'm not going to say his last name. You say it, you
say it for me, because I can't stand to say it. It's edge
edge. But this is this is a mayor of South Bend, a presidential
candidate who I don't think could lead us out of a paper bag. Yeah,
the guy is just weak. Agreed. Agreed, And then you get
in the whole conversation of women, you know, and how women are treated,
and then we get into the me too stuff. Oh my god,
it's like the it's it's like political correctness run a muck, right, I
mean, because you you look at you know, like a feminist. So
we saw a feminist the other day who tweeted. He was like, you
know about some guy tried to take her her overhead baggage out of the overhead
compartment on an airplane to be nice, right, right, he was trying
to be nice to her, and she tweeted about how you know, it
was like a hashtag resist moment where she was fighting the patriarchy and that was
she was somehow brave and speaking out against that on Twitter like, oh no,
thanks, I got it, is what she said to him. Of
course I'm paraphrasing the tweet. But this is what this is what feminists are
doing, right. This is the age of political correctness where men feel scared
to do nice things for women now because we are so crazy. This is
the age of political correctness where women are being mean to men because men are
doing nice things for them. It's just kindness. And now they've got a
name for it. Now they call it benevolent sexism. What It's sexist to
open a door for a woman. It's sexist to help her, you know,
carry a heavy box. It's sexist to drive long distances. Yeah,
I mean, it's absolute nonsense, and it totally ruins the culture for those
of us who still appreciate that kind of chivalry. Yeah, it's like,
we can't be empowered. We can't own businesses. We can't you know,
be successful entrepreneurs, successful career women. We can't be you know, or
just choose what we want to do, right, We can't be empowered women
at all if we have men doing things for us, what are we to
do that. I love it when my husband does that stuff. I love
it when he carries you know, big shopping bags. I love it when
he opens the door for me. I love it when he drives long distances.
I love it when he does all of those things. You know.
I don't want him to stop doing that, right, Well, and that's
the fear, right is that you hear. I mean, we've heard from
men who are literally terrified to just show what comes naturally to them, these
acts of kindness that come naturally them because they were raised well. And so
they go to open a door for a woman and this woman shoots him down
and accuses them of being sexist. So then they stop doing it right,
And this is what we're encouraging exactly. I don't know when he did it,
but Tucker Carlson did like a whole monologue about all the troubles that men
are facing now as a result of our culture and how men are being unmanned.
Essentially, they're like being emasculated in so many ways. And there's a
whole bunch of stats that he gave that were really really troubling, so and
I have those. So, for example, the average American man is going
to die five years before the average American woman. One of the reasons for
that is addiction. They're also twice as likely to die of a drug od
Seventy seven percent of suicides are committed by men. Over ninety percent of inmates
are male. Boys are failing in school. Boys account for the overwhelming majority
of school discipline cases. One in five American kids live with only their moms.
They don't. We're looking at all these fatherless households and then wondering like
where all the good men have gone? Yeah, yeah, I think it's
well, science is pretty scary. I mean when I was looking at some
of those stats and thinking, nobody's looking into this, like if this was
a woman thing, if all of a sudden estrogen levels were on the decline
for decades, Yeah, and there were headlines that said so maybe freaking out,
oh my god, there would be studies like crazy and maybe trying to
figure out why. Right. Yeah, I do think though that the sam
Elliots are Once Sam Elliott is gone, there's not going to be a lot
more sam Elliots after sam Elliott has gone. Right, It's just like when
John Wayne died. It's like that's that was a dying breed. So it
does make me kind of it makes me sad. Well, it's it's nerve
wracking really. If you think about how much we hear about the patriarchy and
how toxic it is. That's that is all men are hearing now is how
toxic they are, how toxic they're the patriarchy, is how awful they have
made everything for women. Well, if listen, if you're men and you're
listening to this, you're not toxic. You know, we don't think you're
toxic, so you're not. It's a bunch of bull crap. It's all
just a bunch of made up stuff. And they're even getting their hands slapped
for opening doors, you know what I mean, Like, you can open
my door anytime. I know. I love that. I love it.
You can open my door. You can call me darling. I'm fine with
that too, because I'm from the South. You can make sure that I'm
walking on the inside of the street, you know what I mean, Like
on the sidewalk, make sure I'm away from traffic. Those I love those,
I love that, all those things. You can wink at me.
I'm fine with that. It's totally okay, it's totally fine. I'm just
not buying into this. It's not toxic. Masculinity is not talk. It's
good. It's God given and it's wonderful. And by the way, apparently
one of these other stats that I saw too, said that because there's so
many fatherless, you know, so many single moms are raising their kids and
there's so many fatherless households. It tends to be that serial killers come mostly
from fatherless households, and bullies bullies mostly come from fatherless households. Isn't that
interesting? We need men, We need them to be raising our kids with
us. I mean that, listen. I get that sometimes it can't always
work out that way, but it is. It is weird when you start
seeing a lot of women that are like, I'm just going to have a
kid on my own, as if men are just totally expendable and not necessary,
not important. They're not expendable. They're important and they're wonderful, and
we love them, especially when they don't have man buns, right, we
love them. So I just take disease. It's like an assault. It's
an assault on men. I mean, people have talked about the war on
women forever, but it's that pingj has swung way too far. I totally
agree. It is. It's time for some like resetting. Yeah, I
mean yeah, and bring dudes back. I don't know what we do about
the testosterone levels, but yeah, hashtag bring dudes back, bring the balls
back. That's right, that's what we want. That's right. Okay.
So I sent you an article the other day, it was Jillian Michaels.
Yes, yeah, And I like, I think Jillian Michaels is fine.
She seems pretty hardcore. I like her. I've seen her on TV.
She seems like she's pretty cool. But and she also seems like she understands
physical fitness. And one of those components of physical fitness is understanding that it's
okay to say obesity is not healthy. It's not And she's saying that in
an article. And I sent this to you and I'm like, listen,
so she just wrote this article. What was she wrote it? Just what
like a week ago? I think, so it's pretty recent. Yeah,
it's yeah, just last week. Yeah, December is December of two thousand
nineteen is when she wrote this article. And so she was she was like,
listen, it's not okay to glamorize obesity. And this whole body positivity
thing is kind of whack. Yeah, and it's all part of this political
correctness culture. Yeah, right, because they're gonna so afraid to say you're
fat, right, you know, I mean to the point where doctors are
even afraid to say it for fear that of backlash. It used to be
that you go to your doctor, and your doctor be like, listen,
you gotta lose fifty pounds because you're gonna die if you don't lose fifty pounds.
You're eventually you're gonna get diabetes, you're gonna get heart disease, you're
gonna get all these awful things, and then eventually that those things can kill
you. You may want to lose fifty pounds, honestly, and they would
not have any fear about saying that because that is their job. That is
their job. Nowadays, doctors don't do that as much because of all this
political correctness bull crap. It's nonsense, it is, And she's speaking to
that. She's speaking to the political correctness society that we live in. And
man thea from this article, and she is a personal traiter. She has
a physical fitness guru. She is like the person that people go they put
her on television to train people to make fat people skinny, right or healthy?
I'm sorry healthy, because that's the whole thing this is. It's called
a body positivity movement. What are how? What is there? Why are
we showing people to be positive about a body state that'll put you closer to
death? Yeah? Why are we it's it's it's not something to encourage,
it really isn't. I mean if I saw that, like my daughter was
was, you know, she's nine, and I saw that she was gaining
weight and gaining weight and getting weight, I wouldn't shame her, but I
would make sure I would be like, what am I doing wrong as a
parent? You know that is is putting her in a state where she is
becoming closer and closer to a place where one day she's going to die prematurely.
Why would you do that? Why would you do that to your kids?
What would you to yourself? Why would you to anybody that you love?
I just don't understand why people are trying to make this a positive.
It's not positive. That's nagad. And again, it's not about these people.
It's not about people who are overweight being of less value, or it's
it's them being of value. That's what I'm just saying. It's like,
you love those people, why wouldn't you want them to be here a very
long time? It's like, of course you want them to be here a
long time because you do love them, Because they it's showing that you do
value them and you value their body yes, and the Ais are the only
ones who are going to get exactly God gave you one vessel. Man,
It's like, you have this one vessel on earth. You got to treat
it with kindness and respect. I mean, it's the way I look at
it. It's like I had that spinal fusion in twenty fifteen, and I
listen, this may not have a lot to do with fat but I remember
waking up in the hospital bed and it was sort of like a come to
Jesus meeting because I woke up in that bed and I couldn't walk, okay,
like it's and of course I knew, like in the back of my
brain, I knew, all right, I'll be able to walk in like
three days, but I was I couldn't walk. I mean I physically,
you know, when you have spinal surgery, you can't walk, and so
you're basically, I want to say paralyzed, but you just physically can't get
up. And I remember thinking, oh my god, what like you start
panicking, You start panicking, and so you start not taking things for granted
after days like that, right, And that's the thing, Like, after
that, I was like, all right, I'm not gonna not work out
a couple of days a week. I'm not gonna not move my body.
I'm not gonna I'm not gonna not take things for granted, you know.
And so this is the thing is like you have one vessel. You got
to treat it with respect. You know. That's the most positive thing you
can do for your body. I mean, it's like, I'm never going
to be a fitness model, but it's you know, just be nice to
your body. Why would you not want to be nice to your body?
And don't encourage obesity. This is a really dumb thing to encur. It
is really dumb. Love people who are obese, encourage them to get healthy.
Right. That is the best body positivity you can have. And so
Lillian and Michael's is right, and actually she's dead on. I think for
people who are like, you're being some mean people. No, you're being
mean to people by telling them that they should remain fat because you're basically saying
I want you to die early. That's a yeah, I think that's kind
of mean. I think that to me, And I think Jillian's the one
is dead on, right, that's exactly. So that's that. Okay,
Well, now I'm just not gonna eat cake. Yes today, that's not
true. You can eat the cake in moderation, and then I totally eat
the cake. I eat all the cake. I just told you, move
your bikey. There's like you have to do. You have to do all
the things like you do things in moderation. I think you can do all
those things. You can eat the cake and then you just walk a mile
right right, that is exactly do or take two flights of stairs. I
can do that briskly. I can't do it here at work because the stairwells
are all locked. Yeah, but I will do that. Yeah, exactly.
You can do all those things. It's totally fine. There you go,
right. Not only have wedding proposals gotten out of control. Prom proposals
have gotten out of control. There's no home homecoming, homecoming proposals or out
of every Everything is a production right now for social media. Yeah, can
we just reverse this trend because that I feel like this is way too much
pressure for dudes. It's way too much pressure for parents to be It's just
too much. It's too much. It's like, look at me, me,
me, And it makes me sad that it's trickled down to kids in
middle school, because now we have Matt's kid who's being told by his little
girlfriend, Hey, by the way, you asked me to homecoming yesterday,
which is great and I want to go, But the way you're really supposed
to ask me is this way. Here's a list of things you're supposed to
do. That is a big crock of crap right there. I just can't
believe that he's having to do that. He's having to jump through hoops and
do all these things that I never dreamed of of any boy doing for me
when I was in middle school or high school. We just went, you
know what I mean, we just we were asked in hallways right right.
We were asking cars. When we're asking you had a really sweet note past,
Yeah, exactly. I mean, it just wasn't a big deal.
We just did these things and then we went and that was life, and
it was you know, it was very sweet, yeah, and it was
more intimate and it was there's I just I love that time. I know,
it was an innocent, wonderful time, and I missed that. And
this really is about the advent of social media, right with a question,
because otherwise, what's I don't think people would be going so over the top
if they didn't think, oh, this is going to be a viral moment.
Either either it's going to be a viral moment or I am the star
of my own, my own social media. Everybody, look at me,
look a look at me. Look at what this person did. It's not
about the you know about I guess about that little girl going to the dance
with Matt's son, and how and how that is just a wonderful thing on
its own. It's about the event itself. It's about what it looks like
to everybody else. Well that is the key, what it looks like to
everybody else, and that's what matters. Now. Yeah, and that sucks
because it should be about you two going together and having a good time and
not about what it looks like. And now, I mean, think about
all the one upping that's going to be taking place, right So, like
this guy started a forest fire and they're gonna be like, oh, you
only killed this many trees. Yeah, Well, at my gender Revealed party,
we took care of the entire Amazon jump. I mean, you know,
it's gonna get to the point where nothing is going to be good enough
because everything's already been done, and listen, I know that we probably will
even do a podcast on this in the future. But I've said that about
about weddings forever. Oh yeah, because listen, my wedding was like six
hundred dollars and we had a reception at our house. So I'm like not
want to talk about when it comes to over the top weddings. So I'm
just not an over the top wedding kind of girl. But when it comes
to like all the pomp and circumstance and the craziness and the doing things for
other people, I just feel like a lot of a lot of weddings,
a lot of things that people do nowadays, they do it for other people,
and it's like it's never about like the marriage, you know what I
mean, Yeah, it's it's about it's about the show and it's and it's
like eventually you're gonna have you're it's gonna be the two of you, Like
eventually, like Matt's boy and that little girl are gonna be alone at that
dance and then we're gonna have to have a conversation and then what Yeah,
then what's gonna happen? And same thing with all these these people. You
know, they're gonna have the kids, they're gonna it's real life is gonna
happen, and then what Yeah, they got to be ready for the actual,
real lit it. I mean, so she's not always pomp and circumstances
and fanfare. No, it's not just you're living. There ain't no filters,
there's no Instagram filters. In real life, you gotta deal with with
the stuff. So we need to get back to basics. All you young
dudes out there who are getting ready to ask your uh, your little girlfriends
to home coming and then coming up for prom, just you know, ask
him in a car. Yeah, and if she's not down, then maybe
that's not the right girl. Yeah, Or if she don't should care about
going to prom with you and not how you ask, or if she gives
you a list of things that you need to do tomorrow because you didn't ask
the right way. Ask somebody else, you know, ask somebody else.
That's exactly right. I'm sure there's somebody who would be delighted to go with
you. Yeah, all right, let's talk about mag aren't bride's a sign
of the patriarchy now, which is why people aren't getting married. Well,
that's a great point, right, And there are lots and lots of changes
with marriage. I saw swage saw some stats. Half of these are just
interesting stats from Pew Research. You know how they do all the polling or
the whatever the stats. So many status you get, So she's got all
the status. I have so many stats, so give them, give them
to us. Mot here I go. Okay, half of Americans aged eighteen
or older were married in twenty seventeen, which has been our stable number over
the past recent years, but is down eight points since nineteen ninety. And
that is because you may have noticed this. Americans are staying single for longer.
Yeah, this is happening. People are waiting. Yeah for real,
You got any more weird stats in there? You need to well? The
good news I guess according to Peughs that love is still the top reason the
Americans want to get married. That's good. But I'm not sure what the
alive is. But I mean it says nine and ten. That means one
in ten Americans don't find love to be the main reason to get married.
Okay, Like who is that? Who would that person be? That would
be like an Anna Nicole Smith who did not marry for love, right,
Well, I suppose you know, a companionship is another big one. To
me, those things go hand in hand. But there are people that say
financial stability your legal rights and benefits, and you know, that's a whole
other can of worms too. Is talking about how government is involved in marriage
and really, why why is that a thing? Right? It used to
just be you know, you wanted your marriage to be recognized by whatever your
church is, but now it's like it's a tax thing and all that sort
of stuff. But yes, the number of people that are cohabitating is very
much on the rise. Only let's see, in addition to the half of
adults who are married, seven percent were cohabiting cohabitating in twenty sixteen, and
now let's see it's up twenty nine percent since two thousand. That's a lot.
It's a lot. And it goes back to what I said about faith.
You know, a lot of people there's a lack of religion now,
Like if you look at the stats of people who used to be people of
faith and then people who aren't now because man, so many people are like
agnostic and atheists now and they're like, I don't care about God recognizing my
relationship you know that that probably goes hand in hand with that, which is
sad. That also makes me say, I know, the people just don't
care. They just people just don't care anymore, and then why commit?
Right? Yeah, I mean marriage is great. It is great. I
mean, besides the sex on tab it's great. It really there's I mean,
it really is great. It's all of it has been great. I
mean I listen, I was divorced, and there was probably like a two
week span where I was like, I'm never gonna get married again, you
know, because I was like, because you know, you go through that
whole post divorce thing, you're like ah. But then after that, I
was like, you know I could, I could do this. And then
when you meet the person that you're supposed to be with, you're like,
of course, I'm all in. This is of course you want to do
this. And I guess that's why I can't imagine why I don't understand why
people don't get married, because that is that is precisely what I wanted to
do. When I met my husband, I was like, oh my god,
I want to marry this guy. Yeah, like don't you remember,
oh yeah? And it was really it was probably inappropriate on my part because
I thought that within the first couple of nurs like you just like you know,
like you just you're like, I love this guy so much, I
have to be with them, Like even though this is so completely inconvenient,
so inconvenient, Like there's step kids, there's all sorts of stuff. I
mean, there's so much. I just but I love I just want to
be with this person. So I mean, I can't imagine not wanting to
be married, yeah, and not wanting to do that in front of God
and everybody and now, and not and not wanting someone that is really going
to have your back through your whole life. Yeah, you know. That's
to me, that's like the greatest comfort. And then having and having theirs
yeah, yeah, and having someone else and knowing that your partners and you're
in it for the long haul. I don't know why anybody would not want
that. Yeah, And I feel like that seals the deal. Yeah,
that seals And maybe if you don't, maybe if you're in a situation where
you are living with someone and you don't have that sense of wanting that,
then that isn't the right person. Because I don't understand how you're I just
don't understand not wanting that, yeah, or knowing that that person wants to
do that with you. Yeah, I just I can't understand that either.
I don't. I don't know. It's a different generation. It's a different
generation, different generation. And who knows, maybe in thirty years, like
I said, maybe twenty thirty years from now, Pe will be like,
yeah, these kids had it, right, Who knows. I don't know.
I don't know. But I hope my kid gets married. Yeah,
me too. I want to see him get married to you exactly right,
I know, because that would be amazing, right, would be amazing,
totally, totally, and it won't be a thirty five thousand dollars wedding.
That's all I'm saying. Right, that's going to be very simple, that's
all. That's all I'm saying about that. Okay, all right, you
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