This is Doctor Wendy Walsh and you're listening to KFI AM six forty the Doctor
Wendy Walsh Show on demand on the iHeartRadio app. Welcome to the Doctor Wendy
Waalsh Show. I'm KFI AM six forty live everywhere on the iHeartRadio App.
I'm Doctor Wendy Walsh. If you're new to my show, I have a
PhD in clinical psychology. Now I'm not a therapist. I'm a psychology professor
at cal State, Channel Islands, and I'm obsessed with the science of love.
I've written three books on relationships, and I like to talk about the
state of our unions. Later in the show, I am going to talk
for a couple segments to single people. And you might be newly single no
matter what your age. Right, Remember when till Death Do Us part was
ament to death was pretty imminent because of our very long life expectancies. Very
few people are going to meet their soulmate in their twenties and die in their
arms in their eighties or nineties. The truth is, even the most monogamous
of humans, remember we have a wide variety of human sexual behavior. Even
the most monogamous of humans are going to find themselves having two or three long
stants of monogamy with some mate selection in between. We call that dating.
So I am going to be talking to single people. I want to talk
about the Kate Middleton controversy that seems to not end with that altered photo and
what we should be aware of in how to look for altered photos in dating
apps. Also, I will be taking your social media questions. If you've
got a relationship question. Remember I'm not a therapist, I'm a psych professor,
but I've got a lot of life experience I'd love to lay on you.
You can just DM me. Instagram's great, I think, Producer Kayla,
you're probably going to be checking Instagram during the show at Dr Wendy Walsh.
At Doctor Wendy Walsh. Send me some questions, and then let's get
into some self help advice. You know, there are some things out there
that you can all be doing to improve your mental health. What science says
works, and a bunch of it that does a work at all not proven
by science. And finally, at the end of the show, let's talk
about our workplace relationships. You've heard about that trend quiet quitting. Well,
we know how to quiet quit if we're the one doing it. But what
if your coworker, your colleague, the person you rely on to help get
your job done, is sitting there quiet quitting. How to handle that.
We'll talk about that later in the show. But first, the state of
our dating marketplace. If you are new to the single scene, let me
tell you a lot has changed in the last fifteen years. Obviously, the
biggest change has been the advent of technology, including things like dating websites social
media. I actually think that more young people are dating on Instagram than they
do on Match or Bumble or what have you. I don't know the data
on that, but it sure feels like it. The fact that people are
texting more than talking. I will say that dating apps in particular have really
like, in some ways, they're amazing because they've expanded the dating marketplace for
certain minorities. This has been really really good news, right depending if you're
a racial minority, a sexual orientation minority, a gender minority, and you
might live in a smaller town or a rural area where there might only be
one other person that you're interested in, what you can get on that dating
app and find thousands of people who are in your kind of group, the
kinds of mates that you desire, you can cast a wide net. However,
the advent of dating apps has not been good for what I call cis
gender heterosexual mates. Sis means you know, typical heterosexual right binary cis binary
male, female and heterosexual. And here's why. So let's go back to
what evolutionary psychologists would say is natural for our species. Back in our one
hundred gathered days, we roamed the planet in tribes of mostly thirty five to
forty people, and most of them were related to us. We rarely ever
would have had sex with a stranger, usually the person we made it with
with somebody we knew because they were part of our small tribe or small town.
And in our entire lifespan, we probably never laid eyes on more than
one hundred and fifty people. So dating apps have now expanded the landscape where
a new potential mate is a thumb swipe away, and there could be thousands
and thousands of potential mates. So it makes this search harder because human beings
suffer from something called paradox of choice. You probably heard me talk about this
bias before, and what it means is the more choice you are presented with,
the less likely you are to make a choice. The brain kind of
freezes, and if you do make a choice, you value it less.
Right, So dating apps overwhelm the brain with too much choice, and people
will fill their message boxes up with five or ten or twenty matches that they're
chatting with every once in a while, and that chatting is often enough to
sustain them. They're not even motivated to go out there and get dressed up
and go on a date. And the other big change is that people are
meeting strangers instead of through the real world social networks. And this is completely
unnatural. Right, every mate we ever had in our history was vetted by
somebody, So this idea of meeting some stranger off an app is wrought with
all kinds of anxiety, and it allows people to be complete frauds. In
fact, in the next segment out of the commercial, I want to talk
about how people lie with their photographs even And then here's another thing that's happened
with the mating marketplace. We've got an oversupply of successful women and is all
good. This is good, good successful women, lots of education, making
lots of money, but they are biology hasn't changed much, and US women
are eating up our fertility window, getting education and building careers. And then
there's this competition for mates in the early thirties, right If I could say
that to help navigate this new dating landscape, there are three rules I would
give you. One is, when you're on those dating apps, just match
with two people at once. That's it. Let your brain avoid paradox of
choice, choose one or the other and make sure you actually meet them in
the real world, and then decide to pair with two others. Match with
two others if instead of having ten or twenty people to choose from. Secondly,
meet fast. People make the mistake of endless texting, where they're not
even texting with a human. They're texting with their fantasies who they imagine that
person is. And you know what, you got to get in the real
world quick so that you can determ if this person, if you like this
person, and if they're real. And also, don't ghost. Ghosting is
when you just cut off all communication, politely reject have a canned text that
says, hey, great chatting with you. I don't think romances in the
cards. And here's why ghosting can be emotionally injurious to the person you're ghosting,
But imagine if you run into that person later. People on dating apps
are humans. You know what if you have a business meeting with a new
client next week and there's that person right in the room. Something similar to
that actually happened to me one time. I'll tell you when we come back.
It was so embarrassing. And also, Kate Middleton and those edited photos?
Are any photos real anymore? How can we tell if somebody's photos on
a dating app are real or not? I've got some tips. You're listening
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forty Welcome back to the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show on KFI AM six forty,
Live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. Hey, if you have a relationship question,
I would love to weigh in and answer it. Why don't you shoot
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Walsh at Dr Wendy Walsh. Producer Kayla's going to be checking the DMS because
after this segment, I'm gonna go in now. I'm not going to out
you. It will be anonymous. I'm not going to say your name.
Don't you worry. You can send me a personal question. I'll be kind
a promise. Hey, can we talk about that altered photo of Kate Middleton?
Is she princess? What's her title? Yeah? I think she's a
princess, right, prince and princess? I don't know. So she put
out this family photo for Mother's Day in the UK because she apparently has been
recovering from abdominal surgery. By the way, producer, Kayla, do you
know why I think the abdominal surgery? What all this mess is about?
No, why she had a tommy tuck? She had three kids, That's
all this is. You're hidding it because she's a princess. He's a princess.
Princess, I'm sure that's all it is. So she got it done
in like January. It's March now. It takes a long time for the
swelling to go down. And a friend of mine who had a tummy tuck
after she had triplets, you got to they cut right through the muscles and
reattach them. And she said, you walk like a bent over old man
for like three weeks right before you stretch out those muscles. So I'm not
even sure why Kate Middleton is trending, like, what's the hoopla about?
So she put out this picture on Mother's Day of her with her laughing,
smiling children, and when certain members of the media examined it, they found
that the picture was altered. And when you look at I looked at the
close ups of the pieces, one part of a sleeve of the daughters is
cut off, and then something about where the daughter's hair is lying on her
shoulder isn't quite natural, and something about Kate Middleton's zipper on her jumper.
Anyway, here's the thing. If you you guys don't know this. You
know all those beautiful Christmas cards, Well, I don't know if people even
mail Christmas cards family Christmas cards anymore. I get fewer and fewer every single
year. I think we're down to about five now. I used to get
like forty, and now I'm down to about five because people just post them
on Facebook. They get that nice picture. So whether you're looking at it
on Facebook or whether you actually get it in the mail. Many families do
the group shot and then each member of the family picks the picture where they
think they look the best in, and then they photoshop it all together.
I know many families who have done that. There have been wars because the
teenagers are like, you are not setting that picture, and so they go,
okay, well, we'll just cut and paste you from another picture.
We'll get the one you like. This happens all the time, and so
that's my suspicion because the kids are all too perfectly laughing, and no way
they would be laughing exactly the same amount, and nobody with their eyes closed
or what have you. So I think that's all that happened. They photoshopped
all the bodies in. So now that you know how easy it is to
do, I thought it might be cool to talk about some of my tips
for trying to spot fake pictures in dating profiles. Now, obviously we're going
to try to put our best face forward when we build our dating profile,
and there's so much research to show that all single people cheat just a little
bit, especially when they're describing themselves on their dating profile. So the common
things people will do is under report their full weight or shave a couple of
years off their age. Who do you think does what gender? Do you
think does that the most women? Why? Amen? Women cut off their
age and they cut off some other pans. Again, this is all anthropological.
If you asked an evolutionary psychologist, they would say, because even if
a woman is fifty, she wants to look young and hot, so to
pretend she's in her fertility window. It's so crazy. Nobody wants to make
babies anymore at that age. Anyway. Other things they might do is over
report their height. Who does that? Kayla? And the boys do that?
That's right, they over report their height. I have just learned when
I read a dating app profile that any man who puts he six feet tall
is five eleven. That's just it, okay, no five eleven guy,
rights. I've never seen five eleven written. Oh, except by the five
foot nine guys. They will write five eleven. But yeah, just assume
you know, take off an inch. It's okay, it's okay. They
also men love to hide their receiving hairlines under baseball caps. Dudes, you
don't have to. We know if every single picture on your profile is you
in a baseball hat or some kind of hat. We know, so just
give us one. How you really look like? Okay. Also, men
are famous for giving themselves better sounding job titles on dating profiles, like literally,
I have seen I've never seen a worker. I have seen a founder,
a VP, a CEO, a manager of this a sanitary technician.
That's a garbage person, a sanitary technician, right, But I want to
warn you there is research from the Kinsey Institute that found that when dates feel
deceived, even by ten pounds of body weight, it makes them lose trust
from the get go. It makes it hard to believe anything else about this
person. So I'm a big proponent of being one hundred percent honest. Now,
when it comes to photos, there are a few ways that people deceive.
They either photoshop their own photos, or they use one of the many
beauty filters out there, or they use photos that were taken years ago.
They don't look like that anymore. There was research done by OkCupid once and
it showed that the average age of a photo used as a main profile picture
is three years old. That means it's from three years ago, folks.
Because people find a good picture that they actually like and they don't change it,
right, But probably more egregious and dark is that some people might actually
steal someone else's photo and become a full on romance scammer. A romance scammer
you never heard of that. It's people pretending to be somebody else. They
always create some kind of reason why they can't meet in the real world,
and they earn your love and attachment, and then they ask you to start
sending money, and they can wait you out. It can take ages before
you start to do it, all right, What can you do to prevent
all of this, not only romance scammers, but also people who you're just
seeing and wondering about their photos? First of all, I don't know if
you know how to do this, but you can download or take a screenshot
of any photo that you find on any dating app. And you know,
in that little Google search bar, do you ever look to the right,
there's a little picture of a camera. You click on that it says upload
photo, and you can put any photo into a Google search for you shoppers
out there. I hate to ruin it for retailers, but I go in
stores and take pictures of the merch, upload it into Google and find out
where I can get it cheaper. Sorry, it's my favorite trick. I
love doing that. So you will see right away if it's a stolen photo,
because you'll find out where that photo actually came from, if they grabbed
it from the internet somewhere, or if you're seeing it showing up under different
names than the name of the profile. Oh, big red flag. Lock
that person, get rid of them. Okay. Now, if you're trying
to decide if the photo's been altered, look for slight blurriness or unnaturally smooth
skin. Maybe this shows that they used face tune or something. Anyway,
I've got a few more tips when we come back after the break, and
I promise to tell you that story about the guy I ghosted who I ran
into later that was really awkward. You're listening to the Doctor Wendy Wall Show
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App. We're talking about how to tell if there's a fake photograph or an
altered photograph in somebody's dating profile. I mentioned take a screenshot uploaded into Google
and do a photo search. Also, there are so many filters people are
using, and ladies, if you're listening, men don't like them. You
know what they say, you look like you look like a cartoon, and
you do. So don't use filters in your dating profile. Use nice lighting,
nice makeup, whatever, but be real because it's jarring when you show
up for the coffee date and you don't look like a cartoon. Right,
So yeah, look for a little bit of blurriness or unnaturally smooth skin that
shows that it's probably been altered. Also, this is what I like to
do. I compare all the photos in somebody's profile and I decide which one
is the least flattering. Now, you got to know the person shows those,
right, they put them up, and so they think they're all pretty
good, but one of them is completely not flattering. That's who they look
like. Okay, that's the one that's closest to what they look like in
real life. Because nobody's going to put up a picture that they believe is
unflattering, so they think it looks good. But you know it's the least
of them all, so that's what to expect. Just focus on that one,
don't even look at any of the other pictures. Get your mind ready.
You could also do things like, if you're chatting with somebody and messaging
them, ask them to take a photo on today's date. Do it together.
Go oh, let me see you in your kitchen, or let me
see what you're eating right now, and get them to take a picture of
whatever they're doing and you do the same. Then you see And also it's
not a bad idea. We did it during COVID. We could do it
now. Do a little FaceTime or zoom date before you actually go out in
the real world. Why not see who they really are? Okay, this
is the time of the show where I'm answering your relationship questions. If you've
got a question, Remember I'm not a therapist. I'm a PhD in clinical
psychology. I'm a psychology professor. I've written three books on relationships, and
i am obsessed with the science of love. I've also had lots of life
experience. Oh speaking which, Oh so, if you want to send a
DM, send it on an Instagram to at dr Wendy Walsh. Okay,
so I met this guy in a dating app once. We didn't actually talk
on the phone, We just texted back and forth. I was actually traveling
and out of town at the time, and you know how you go like
into a compartment when you're somewhere else and you get home and you just kind
of forget about it, because I was like, oh, well, that
was somebody I was chatting with while I was in my hotel room on business
and whatever. So I never bothered. And then like five years later,
I'm working on charity project at my kid's school and I meet this dad and
we had to talk about some there was something we had to do about planning
an organization of this event, and he gives me his number and I said,
yeah, i'll text you about the time that we're going to meet for
the thing. Blah blah. Nothing romantic, it's just like, hey,
I got to do this whatever. And so I put the number in my
phone and the first day I go to make a text, I go,
wait, already texted with this person, and then I scroll on back and
I see all the sexy, flirty texts from that night and when I was
in my hotel room on the road. Oh my god, it was so
awkward. I had to send him a text about a charity thing at the
school now, and he's going to look at that and scroll back and see
the whole text chain. Caleb, What could I have Could I have deleted
the text chain, but he would have seen it in his phone right now.
You should have downloaded a Google number at that point and then texted him
from your Google. She so smart. And he never mentioned it and I
never mentioned. Oh that's lucky, because that could have been really awkward.
No, we were both felt awkward about it because he technically was the one
ghosted by me. Yeah, that's yeah. He didn't get Hi bring it
up. Oh I know. I felt so bad. That's why I say,
don't ghost people. You guys, when you texted him about the charity,
I just went forward as normal conversation. He just went forward with a
charity like nothing else, nothing else there. And you know we were both
reading those textscrolling back. Oh yeah, for sure. And it was like
a couple of years before. Like those other texts, they stay in your
phone for how embarrassing. Okay, let me go to social media and take
your DMS all right, Hello doctor Wendy, Hello to you. I'm always
such a I need closure kind of girl, and I'm trying not to because
if I'm being real, what does that even mean? He's been acting strange
all week and I let him be the entire day to day. Haven't heard
from him. I don't know the history here, I don't know how long
you've been dating, but you got right into it, all right, she
says. I'm currently fighting the urge to reach out so that we could talk
things out. If I were to reach out, I'd pretty much just say
I'm done and won't bother him anymore. But him not reaching out in itself
shows me how he really does not care exactly. I'm trying to be a
strong woman and it's just so hard. I don't want to give in.
I want to be better. How do I do this? What do I
do? Okay, So this is a hard one because you know, inquiring
minds want to know. We want to know. Is it something we said?
Is it something we messed up on? Yeah? Is he just And
you know what, there's always missing information, and I guarantee it's somebody else.
He probably already has a girlfriend and started dating you on the side and
then made up with a girlfriend or something, and you don't know that.
Okay, So I think it might be best to let him go if you
can. But I'm like you, so I'll tell you what I've done in
the past when someone's kind of ghosted me. I've waited a period of time,
like a good two weeks, two weeks literally, because it gives him
a chance to come back and save face in that time. And at the
end of the two weeks, I write, hey, I haven't heard from
you. I guess that means we're probably not a good match, right,
It's like the universe deciding you're a good match, not you don't like him
or he doesn't like you. It's just probably not a good match. It
was nice meeting you, And if I run into you sometime, I'll say
hello, just keep it light because you might see him again. Leaves the
door kind of open. Whatever. But anybody who hasn't called you for two
weeks you're not interested in now, So kind of don't let him rekindle at
that point, because he can't just do that and come back in just when
he wants to. But yeah, I used to write those six and by
the way, get be prepared. They don't usually write back, but it's
there, and they've been herd, you've been heard. Okay, it's there.
I did write to somebody one time who I had a really great phone
call with. It was like we were on the phone for like two hours
and we'd met on a dating app and we seem like so connected, and
then we had planned to talk or something the next day and I said him
a text and it was like, no answer, nothing. So I did
write another text and just said was it something I said? And he no
answer. I still think the way you handle it is very classy. Yeah,
you're a class act. Just like let him know. Yeah, Hey,
that's weird. You don't just ghost? Yeah anyway, Well, the
fact that he ghosts tells me he doesn't have enough emotional maturity to be able
to be with me anyway. So he proved me I can do the touchdown
cheer bad match. Oh right, dear doctor Wendy. Would it be Would
it be okay with your best friend going out with female friends? Oh?
BF is boyfriend? I'm thinking best friend right now. Okay, let me
go back to it. All the acronyms you guys write, would it be
okay with Would you be okay? Would I be okay? Okay with your
boyfriend going out with female friends he's dated before? As for me, no,
no, no, no, no okay. So I want to tell
you all sides of this argument, and you don't have to agree with me.
So we had that guy on our show a couple weeks ago, Christopher
Ryan, who wrote the book Sex at Dawn you really should read it about
He believes we're all meant to be polyamorous. And he says that we do
a weird thing in our culture in that we cut our exes out of the
tribe. We literally make them just freaking disappear. Right, So he says
we should find ways to have relationships with our exes. I've never found a
way, So I can't advise you on this. But if he's keeping these
extra women as potential backup mates, this bothers me because if they've been dating
before and had sex before, and you guys are in a downtime, he
could think, well, it's not really cheating, it's somebody had sex with
before. No, they think like that. They find ways to rationalize it.
All right, I'm gonna answer more your questions when we come back.
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Okay, dear doctor Wendy, I have been listening to you for years.
Oh, thank you. I love your show. Thank you. Look
at me just reading out the comm elements. I didn't have to read that
part. So this gentleman says, I have been in a relationship of convenience
for two years. Convenience. That's an interesting word. Not butterfly love,
but admiration. Well, admiration's good. However, it's never been like previous
relationships where I crave the physical intimacy. I enjoy it, but I don't
really feel like hugging or holding hands all the time with her, as I
have in past relationships. I am forty seven, she is forty two.
She's extremely uncomfortable during intimacy because she has body issues, and I'm quite the
opposite. I like women taking ownership of their appearance. Well that's good,
you like women like that. Okay, it works because we kind of have
kids the same age. Oh I know about that. Like, it's just
I think anyway, he said, I could go on forever. But this
woman walked up to me at a dog park the other day and I melted,
not literally. I didn't need to call emergency services. I love it
when my listeners write me a whole story. Here. We walked, I
found out she is the mother of my kid's friend at school, and she
pivoted and literally said, I can't believe she said this. She was so
forward. Quote, do we have chemistry here? I'm feeling this is a
moment here. I told her, I'm seeing someone. I don't know if
you're into the butterflies thing, doctor Wendy, but I'd rather take my chances
seeing if we can start something, even if it crashes and burns. Okay,
Am I being fair to everyone here? Well, you are not being
fair to the woman. You are having a relationship of convenience with you didn't
mention whether you live together. You got to wrap that up first. So
here's the thing. Remember was it last week I talked about how to walk
into love instead of falling into love. Falling into love is when you get
emotionally hijacked by a cocktail of neuro hormones called lust, love, and attraction,
and you end up blowing up lives for a whole bunch of people.
It's just like trying a delicious, fabulous drug. You crave this drug so
much that you said you don't even care if it crashes and burns. But
guess what you're going to be the last man standing with not a relationship of
convenience, somebody who you admire and are helping work through her body issues,
and then somebody who you're gonna have a big high with and who knows after
Here's my advice. If you're really attracted to this woman, take your time
and walk into love with her, but not until you wrap up what you
have going on in your relationship of convenience, Because no, you're not being
fair to everyone here. So what you tell miss dog Park is, yes,
we had a moment I'm feeling it too. However, I'm a good
person, moral person. I like to do things correctly, So give me
some time to wrap up what I'm dealing with and break up with my girlfriend.
And then if you're still available, I would love to take you out.
That's what you do. That is the right moral way to deal with
this. Please please do that, all right? Moving on, dear doctor
Wendy, how do I maintain a friends with benefits situation while also dating?
Is it possible to do both? I'm not compatible romantically in the relationship with
the friends with benefits, but the physical intimacy is just enough. Is there
any way to separate the two and still date other people intentionally? See you
listen to my show intentionally? Okay, let me talk to you about human
beings. So wouldn't it be great like we have this fantasy right that we're
all basically monogamous people, that there's never an overlap. We wrap like I
just told that man before, do the right thing, wrap it up,
then start the next one. However, it is possible to keep a snacky
treat on the side as long as you have very clear boundaries. Kathy,
you never had a snacky treat. I just love the word snacky treat.
It's just a little ice cream yeah, like in an ice cream store.
Right. But here's the important thing about the snacky treat. You have to
have very clear boundaries, and you have to be hyper aware if they are
because you know, it's all fun and games till somebody falls in love.
Right If they're starting to have feelings for you and they're saying things like they
want to hang out or do whatever, you cut it off. You'd be
nice, and you cut it off because you don't want to hurt them right
now, when you're dating the other people that you intentionally want to date,
that you want to walk into love with, you don't tell them about your
snacky treat, of course, but it's probably not a good idea to start
having a sexual relationship with them until so at the point where you're ready to
try a sexual relationship with somebody who you've developed some emotional into. This is
just my advice, this would be my plan. Okay, there's no textbook
on this. I'm just telling you from life wisdom. So you keep your
snack treat on stuff as all us girls do. It's a little quiet thing
in a compartment. Then you go date with the guys who you want to
be maybe your husband someday. And when you get to the point where you're
like, you know, I actually really like this guy and I think I'm
ready to have sex with him, then you say to your snacky treat,
were going on pause, we are going to stop this. No what if?
No? No? I agree with you one thousand percent, But is
it the same if a man wrote that question into does he keep his little
snacky treat and then just date intentionally on the side as long as a woman's
aware, yep, as long as this snack tree wasn't dating. Until you've
had sex with somebody, you don't know them anything, right, Because once
you've entered the physical relationship, then you're exposing your potential eggs or your bloodstream
to somebody else, or you're potentially caring diseases from the snaky tree to the
other person. There's all kinds of reasons why you need to be on the
up and up once you've decided you're entering a sexual relationship. But when you're
just exploring and having dinners and conversations and phone calls and texts, you don't
owe them anything. Yet am I wrong, Kayla, Like no, no,
no, I just want to When I got that question, that was
from a man's profile, so I didn't expect your response, but you read
it as a woman's perspective, as like, oh so yeah, yeah,
it applies both ways. It applies both ways. I think so too.
Now, when I was a teenager, listen, if any teenagers are listening,
do not tell your parents that I told you this. But you know
that whole sexual double standard where men get points for sexual experience and women get
demerit points for the same sexual experience. So when I was in high school
and girls were getting these reputations for being a slut terrible, I never wanted
to have that reputation. So I just dated college guys and they never knew
about it. I mean I slept with the college guys. I dated the
high school guys, and I didn't get yeah no, because I didn't want
them to give me a bad reputation. Great advice for the teen and stuff.
Yeah, it's what women do, all right. When we come back,
can we start to talk about self help? Apparently I need some self
help here. Nobody gets through life on scathed. Let's talk about all the
self help advice out there that doesn't work. Prove it's not proven by science.
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