I woke up in the middle of the night. Welcome to the Minnesota.
Goodbye by the way, it's Dave and Jenny and I woke up in the
middle of the night and I don't know if I had a dream or what,
but I was thinking about love and why we have love, why we
want love so much. Now I'm not talking about love from your parents,
or love from your dog, or love from your sister. I'm talking about
romantic love. And all the other love is important too, but romantic love
is amazing. And when you fall in love and you wake up thinking about
somebody, or you go to bed and they're the last thing and the first
thing that you think of, why is their love? Because somehow nature or
Mother nature or our creator or whatever gave us love. Why in our psychological
makeup is love necessary? Is it so we feel like we belong? Did
it evolve? Did like early humans not love each other? But then it
kind of evolved. Love is such a wonderful thing, but also love is
awful when you lose that love, like they break up with you, or
they cheat on you, or God forbid, they die. Why is their
love? What is its purpose? Jenny? I want answers now I think
it's well, I don't know that it has a purpose, but I think
when people discovered what love was, it obviously boosted how they felt inside.
So associating something with happy feelings makes you desire it that much more so once
you realize love makes me so much happier than yeah, you desire it more
so. I think it probably was an evolution of time because cave men and
women were not in relationships for love. They were in relationships for survival and
like and pro creating. Okay, so I think eventually people realize that love
is lovely and it is. But then again, why, I just I'm
just so interested in why is there? Do we need love to get by
as a species? And maybe we do. Maybe love is what makes us
want to stay with that person that we're having a baby with, even though
there's a lot of dads and moms that break up before they even have the
baby or right after. So I'm just curious, I mean, what,
just like a deeper philosophical question. What is love? Why is their love?
And why does it hurt so much when somebody breaks up with you?
That's another thing. And if your bra and somebody breaks up and then and
then to make it even worse and compound that even more, they're sleeping with
somebody else. And now not only do you not have them, but you
know that they're with somebody else physically, they're canoodling and kissing and holding hands
and going to you know, most lawn with that person. And it just
why does it hurt? Why? I don't have any answers, Okay,
I don't. I think it's just all psychological. But I also am not
a psychiatrist, therapist or anyone who could give you actual logic behind it.
Maybe you know, maybe you've got some answers for us. I don't know.
We don't spend a lot of spend a lot of time on that.
I just thought it was really interesting in a thought that woke me up in
the middle of the night. All right, let's get to the emails for
today, and we have a bunch, so we'll see how many we can
get to. This is from Andres Andris. I'm not sure how you say
your name for the woman who asked if she was wrong for letting her dog
go in a random person's yard. Remember last week she wrote in the dog
I think pete in somebody's yard well, I think they were just walking.
I bought onto the yard because she was on the street where I didn't have
a sidewalk. Yeah, that's right. So the somebody yelled and then got
mad at them. This says, yes, absolutely one thousand percent, say
what you want, but nobody is entitled to let their dog do the potty
on anybody's property but their own public dog parks or other public areas. I'm
a landscaper gardener, and you would not believe the amount of money, time,
and effort it takes to have a beautifully green lawn, especially during this
season where grass seeds are just starting to germinate. Yes, you can pick
up the poop, but will you pick up the urine? Because dog you're
in absolutely murders lawns. These are facts that woman who was mad about her
on lawn is definitely entitled to say she doesn't want your dog on her lawn.
It is her lawn that she pays for. Okay, I can see
that point. Honestly, though, I think when you live in a neighborhood
there's certain things that you just cannot say. This can't happen when I am
in my neighborhood. I have a right not to hear you blaring your eighties
classic rock while I'm trying to read in my backyard. I have a right
to not hear your dog bark every time I walk by. I mean,
I don't really have a right, but it would be best if I didn't
have to listen to your whatever it is while you're fixing your car while I'm
out in my backyard. But I also I live in a neighborhood, and
that's the price I pay. Yeah, what do you think I think?
I don't agree. I think dogs are allowed. I get where she's coming
from, but I don't agree dogs can pee where they want to pee.
And what are you supposed to do tell your dog to stop peeing the moment
that they're not on your own lawn? Like then you could sit and say,
like, well, then you shouldn't have a dog if you can't control
where they pee. Like there's so many arguments there, but I just don't
agree with that dogs can pee on someone's lawn and maybe it'll ruin it for
well, I don't know how it'll ruin it, but it might ruin it
a little bit. I think if you're that picky about it, then maybe
you shouldn't live in a neighborhood where people can. I don't. I don't
know, but it's like I get that first of all, in an average
neighborhood, being so picky about your lawn is just not going to work very
well, you know what I mean? I don't know. Okay, Next
one. I had a terrible week last week. My eighteen year old Wiener
dog, Walter. Oh, Walter, he sounds so sweet. He passed
away early Tuesday morning in his sleep. And then that same day I had
to make the painful decision to help my eleven year old bully mix Gestavo cross
the Rainbow Bridge. Oh my gosh, two dogs in one day. I
will only say that I'm glad that Walter passed in his sleep because at least
you did not have to take Walter down to do that, which is really
hard. I am absolutely heartbroken. Just cannot get over them not being with
me. I work from home, so I was with them all day every
day, my best friends. I feel like I have a black cloud over
my head. I feel like I failed them somehow, or that they didn't
really know how much I loved them or how much I terribly miss them.
It's tearing me apart. I don't know why I feel the need to email
you about it. Maybe because I know you guys are also animal lovers and
understand. Maybe if you talk about it on the radio, it'll be another
way for them to know what they mean to me. I'm probably crazy,
but I don't mind any words you can give me to get me through.
This is so appreciated. Thank you so much, Jade, Jade, there
are no words that really will help you. I only say if you send
me an email. I guess you did send me an email. I'm going
to send you back something that I send two friends when their dog dies,
and it is something that if you give me a second, I can find
it. It is basically is like, is it a poem or something.
It is like it's a very very primitive line drawing of a little dog and
I'm trying to get it to blow up on my phone and a culture.
I won't do it right now, damn it. It says no, I
can't read it. I can't get it to blow up on my phone right
now. But it's basically a dog saying I know how much you love me.
I wish that we could be together forever. We had so many good
times together. But I love you even right now because I'm old and I'm
tired, and I know this is best for me. So and it's like,
I wish I could tell you how much I love you, so I
will send that to you. And that it doesn't help. It is just
heartbreaking. You know. People will go, well, it's just a dog.
Well to you, it might just be a dog, but that's your
buddy, yeah, I mean your buddy Walter is with you for eighteen years.
When when Fallon's dog Elliott died, that was Fallon's buddy since she lived
back in Indiana, I know, and I only lived with Mickey for a
couple of years when we put Mickey down a year and a half ago,
and it was so hard. I've never experienced a loss of a pet before
because the only pet we had was put down when I was like three or
four, so I didn't remember it, yep, and I was yeah,
I was not prepared. So I know that you're it's a hard time right
now. But I feel better eventually, and you'll be able to look back
at all your photos and your videos of the dogs and like feel happy again
because for a while I couldn't even like look at pictures and making oh so
devastated when Mickey died. I remember, my friend Curtis was never a dog
lover, but he and his partner Brian had a dog named Kirby, and
Curtis fell in love with Kirby, and when Kirby died, he was just
devastated, like a death in the family. And you know, I think
one thing is this is something to keep in mind. With a pet,
when they die, you get over it more completely than you do when you
lose somebody that's like, you know, a cousin or a parent or something,
because you never really get over you're a human dying, and you don't
really get over a dog dying either. But when you do get past that
grief, it's much less present. In other words, you get over it
more completely. Would you agree with that? Yeah, no, I do
agree. I mean I still like, if something pops up with Mick,
I'll start crying. I cried yesterday talking about her because my sister had to
just put her cat down, and then I brought up something with making it
I started crying, so like, there's definitely still that grief there, but
it's not like weighing over me every day. Yeah, totally, it's been
a while. Uh. Hello, everyone, I want to your guy's input
because I feel like I have an unpopular opinion. I really cannot handle when
people say that something gives them some sort of vibes but doesn't use the word
vibes. Example, I'm wearing an ugly asshold sweater and my friend says it's
given Grandma. It's given grandma, instead of saying it's given grandma vibes.
Why doesn't anyone use the word vibes? I don't want or need to get
that. It's all grammatically correct, by the way, it's not because so
many don't use the correct grammar all the time. But it sounds so dumb
and it makes my blood pressure rise when I hear it, and I just
don't get it. It seems like everyone does this. Why uh? And
then she asked, first, tome writer sticker, which I got some more
in the mail last week, so I will mail went out to you in
a few days. So it's given grandma. Isn't there one of the sweepers
that we have, which is one of those things like the Dave Ryan Show.
It's giving funny. Yes, do we have one of those, right,
I do have one of those, And it's because it's a gen Z
thing. It's how they describe things nowadays. That's why. And I don't
know who they're talking about in that email that says like it's giving grandma how
old they are, But that's a total gen Z thing. And then millennials
pick up on a lot of gen Z things, so then we start saying
it too. But yeah, I'll look at our girl's outfit and be like,
oh my god, that's giving, like queen, you know, like
es. I'd be like, that's giving Queen. Yeah. I would never
feel coupable. That's not really me. I wouldn't feel comfortable doing that one.
Dave Jenny Vaughan. I was recently listening to the Minnesota Goodbye podcast and
you mentioned an email from a staff writer who talked about brushing their teeth before
eating. I wanted to share my input on this matter. When I was
in boot camp for the US Navy, they used to have us eat our
meals in the following order. Desserts first, main meals, salads or leafy
greens, fruits or other vegetables, apples absolutely last. So I'll do it
again, desserts first, main meal salads or leafy greens, fruits or other
vegetables, apples last. The justification was that you would eat the unhealthy food
first, then finish with the healthy options that would eventually clean your teeth naturally,
so you wouldn't need to brush your teeth after your meal. Considering we
usually don't have a lot of time to eat, let alone time after meals.
That was something I occasionally catch myself doing randomly in the wild. Anyway,
I always ate before I brushed, because that's how I was taught,
but I don't think it was through Sesame Street. I am probably confusing my
memory with my training. A right, thanks for the laughs. That's from
Chris. Chris, I will give you a cliche, but sincere, thank
you for your service. I've always thought if there was a branch of the
military I wanted to join, it would be the name. I wanted to
be. The guy in an aircraft carrier that waves the plane into position and
then like like leans over it, giving him direction. Yeah, and then
like leans over and ducks underneath the plane when they fly over and take off.
I don't know if what they're called, but that's what I would have
done in the Navy, so you probably go do that at delta. Just
go work down an MSP if you'd want not the same, No, I
know, I would be the same, not the same at all. I'd
like to be on an aircraft carrier, but I wouldn't want to be in
a room full of stinky, farting sailors because you figure, you know,
feels like a stereotype. You think it just reeks in there all the time.
I would imagine it does. Yeah, But it's interesting they say apples
absolutely last, because apples apparently clean your teeth first, but didn't say leafy
greens was in there almost like second to last. Yes, yep. I
feel like that's what always ends up being stuck in my teeth most of the
time. That's why you're eating well, that's why you have an apple last,
because the apple. But interesting, I've never heard anything about like food
cleaning your teeth in any way, shape or form. You No, I've
heard apples kind of like their nature's toothbrush. I think nature up kind of
made that up, all right, Moving on to the next email. Let
me do a little clicking and a little tapping, and here we go on
the top of a wedding, thank you cards or any thank you cards?
Can you discuss the proper turnaround for a thank you card? Please? Two
weeks, one month, three months? Does the size of the present determine
the thank you card turnaround time? Does the event birthday, baby shower,
wedding determine to thank you turnaround time? Does the location determine the turnaround time?
Do we give the married couple grace because they just got married and are
busy living their married life and they want to just went on their honeymoon.
The wedding in question for me was over a month ago. I gave them
a good amount of cash. I did not get a thank you card or
even a thank you text or thanks for coming to the wedding out of town.
So what is the turnaround time? I would say a month ish.
I would say as long as you get one, even a couple months is
acceptable. Getting one is, you know, a different thing. That's another
story. Jenny doesn't think of thank you notes necessary. I never said that.
I just said I don't care if it's handwritten. I think a thank
you note is good, but I would give them two months, especially if
someone went on a honeymoon, or if it's like a destination wedding or something.
I think you give them a little bit more time, but I would
say two months. Either you're getting one by two months, or you're not
getting a thank you note. Uh, okay, next one. Good morning,
guys. I fell behind on episodes because they had a girl's trip that
I hosted in Nashville. It was the first annual trip. I'm so excited
to continue doing them in the future. We plan on changing the destination every
year, but I've really never been west of Tennessee. My question is for
a girl's trip on a budget, no skiing or snowboarding, where should we
go? We are not nightlife people mostly want somewhere to chill and maybe go
on a hike, good weather, botanical gardens, tubing, whitewater rafting.
We're pretty big foodies, love a good coffee shop, not crazy touristy since
we are all chill smokers looking for fun outdoor adventures. I want to go
to go to Minneapolis, but I'm not sure I can sell everybody on it.
Helped me convince them was totally unprepared for you to shout me out on
Tuesday for being one of the few listeners if you did Patreon, I recorded
it and send it to everyone. Got my stickers that is from Cestna.
Okay, so not expensive, no snowboarding, chill, hike, good weather.
Where would you send them, Jenny? Would you? Could you sell
them on Minnesota? The I mean there's definitely hikes on the north Shore that
would be fun, but then that's a whole like extra, like you fly
into MSP and then you got to like drive up to the north Shore.
Yeah. So truthfully, no, I probably wouldn't tell them on Minnesota.
But I gotta be honest. I can't think of a place that's going to
have like adventurous, fun outdoor activities that is affordable. I mean Denver is
not too bad, and then you could go hiking and do stuff like that.
Like usually I don't know where they're flying from, but like flights from
MSP to Denver are usually decently cheap. But most cities, like Malibu,
I did a girl's trip there and it was expensive. Yeah, Like I
don't know, most places are expensive to stay at is what it comes down
to, Like the lodging becomes expensive. That's very true. I would you
know if I gonna sell you on Minnesota. I would say, you're probably
not going to come here for the hiking unless you went, like to Tailor's
Falls or down by the bluffs in Winona. I would sell you on going
on Lake Minnetonka. I would say, rent a pontoon boat and go out
on the lake on Lake Minnetonka. The only problem is if you go and
it's shitty that day, and you come in town for a weekend and it's
shitty the day you're going to go on in Minnetonka. So I don't know.
Boating would be out. Colorado would be awesome because there's whitewater rafting and
there's gentle whitewater rafting where it's fun but you're not in danger of drowning on
the white water rafting on the Arkansas. And Colorado, of course there's hiking
breweries. Weed is legal if you like to smoke. When you said we
were all chill smokers, that means they smoke weed. But I would say
Colorado. But then again, Colorado's not really cheap either. I know,
I don't know where's cheap. Savannah was decently cheap for the bachelorette party that
we did. In terms of places to stay, I feel like that was
a little bit more affordable. But Savannah's not an adventurous city really. It's
more of a like, go get drinks and do ghost tours and see cemeteries
and history and stuff. Okay, gotcha? Yeah, And I think it's
a hard thing. Is like finding I don't know, something chill that everybody
can agree on. But Minnesota might be a little bit of a hard sell.
I would I mean, it wouldn't be for me because I love it
here and I would know what to do. But trying to get girls like
Minnesota, why would I go there? Oh? God, that is pretty
much it for the Minnesota Goodbye. There's a couple that I did not get
to. But for the most part, we're looking for more. Email.
Let me know about love. Let me know about why does love exist?
Why does love feel so good? Is it important as a species? I
mean, ducks don't fall in love. Panda bears don't fall in love.
You might go, oh, they mate for life. I mean, but
do they fall in love? Do they really know what they're doing? Do
monkeys fall in love or is it just like they become attached to I don't
know. Let me know any thoughts on that all right. That's it for
the Minnesota Goodbye. Send emails to Ryan's show at KDIWB dot com.