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Well. In this episode, Danny
and I talk about a game I

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saw on milf manor Too. It
goes to your phrase that you've always used,

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we never grow up, we just
grow It was like it was it

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was craziest. It was the craziest. I didn't even know what They can

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also look at how wars affected generations, even if you weren't in the war,

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were still affected. My father asked
as my fault. My father's Vietnam

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was Vietnam age and he couldn't go
because he had flat feet and cross eyes.

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That'd been a blessing. Seriously,
he wanted to. And Danny's lived

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this, but his take is very
different than you'd think, probably that I

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know some I have talked to some
people who have cheated on their significant others.

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They're still together and with the yeah, and the reason was because they

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had some broken compulsion in their life. It had nothing to do with love.

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All that more coming up right after
this and Rochester when your old career

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gives you lemons throwing some ice mixed
in some vodka. Podcast from the Mac

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of All Trade Studio in Fairport and
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It's Bilified the Bill Moran Podcast.
Well, hello and welcome. Thank

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you for getting your pat on,
Thanks for telling a friend. That's how

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we spread the word about the pirate
ship. Danny's here and he brought me

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a gift. Yes, oh Danny, you don't understand. Danny's doing a

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diet and this is this isn't will
sound like an ad and it's it's really

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not, because when I'm he's paying
for this. But I did the restoration

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wellness, uh, custom fat loss, and I lost I don't even know,

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twenty thirty pounds and uh it was
great, and I kept it off

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for a while and then slowly my
habits changed and things changed and your life

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changes hard. And so I turned
fifty. Yeah, it wasn't even really

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turning. It's funny you say that
blames everything on me turning forty. Yeah

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I didn't. I didn't. That's
when my weight took a turn. No,

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mine didn't. At fifty, Mine
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also maybe I'm starting to think,
like, chronologically, I may be younger

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than I don't know. I know
that sounds a little weird and stupid for

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me to say, because I have
no idea, but I noticed, like

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there are certain things that happen in
people's bodies, and I'm like, a

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few years later, yeah I was, but I was always sort of that

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way. But anyway, the custom
fat loss that Danny's doing, You've lost

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twenty pounds, which I think is
amazing. I've lost twenty pounds in how

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long it's been fourteen days, fourteen
days. That that's amazing. It's amazing.

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I mean people would give their left
kno right tity for five hundred alex

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people who are like I'd rather have
crowds so I can give a pinky top,

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right. I mean people would,
right, people would do that.

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But in there they also have this
pink salt. It's not exactly Himalayan salt.

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It's some kind of Hawaiian salt from
a volcan I don't know what the

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fuck it is, or a blend
of something. I loved it. I

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would throw this on literally everything.
My favorite when I was really deep in

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the diet was blueberries and almonds,
like a cup of each, or maybe

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half a cup of the almonds,
because the almonds can really bind you up.

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Yeah, they can cause migraines too, And almonds had to stop.

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And I would sprinkle this on there
and it tasted like ice cream to me,

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and I was like, damn,
I got some good stuff. They

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told us. They told us no
nuts on this. Yeah. I might

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have been after, okay, maybe
after. I don't remember. That stuff's

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good. I mean it's really good. It's hydrating, it's gotten all kinds

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of nutrients. You don't need a
lot of it or it's not like regular

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table salt. It's like really good
for you salt. Yeah, and you

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only need like an eighth of a
tea spoon. But you can, I

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can. You can only get it
there. Yeah right, yeah, now

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you can go in and buy it. Yeah, yeah, you can go

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in and buy it. I'm cheap. It was a very nice thing of

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you. Hey, bro, you're
my bro bro. All right, Well,

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happy fourth of July. So your
fourth of July or third of July

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present, Okay, you know what
to go great with Billy Doug's Deviled eggs.

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Makes everything taste everything tastes. That's
funny. That's very funny. Uh

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yeah, well you know we're we're
uh to kind of pull back the curtain.

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We're taping this word It will run
after fourth of July and we'll talk

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about some things. But uh,
one of the things that has gone on

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this week on the podcast is we
had Rebecca and I'm going to get their

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last name wrong, but Rebecca is
on milf manor took milf mannor milf manor

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the first show. Those are the
ladies you had when when Matt and uh

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yes and and Mark Mark, we're
here. Yes, Why did I go

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to Matt first? I don't know. I was sitting close closest to Mars,

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so I never told them I got
this call. Do you'm a sedative?

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I got a call from somebody who
said, hey, not sure if

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you're aware of this, but these
people are making the rounds and they're doing

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spoken word stuff, and I think
you do a great job with them.

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And here's here's the number. So
I'm like, all right, and so

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I throw I throw it out to
Kevin. I say, hey, man,

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if you can, here's the number, if you don't mind calling this

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chick, and the chicks like,
how did you get my number? And

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I and he could then pum it
off and say it was me because I

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don't want her to tell her.
I don't want to tell her what get

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my number? I don't want to
tell her where I got well, right,

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but when someone calls your cell phone
out of the blue, right,

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and I don't want to tell her
where I got it because I don't want

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to blow in the person who did
this for me, who works in TV.

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So I was like, okay,
anyway, So she comes in and

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are you familiar with milf manor Yeah, only from talking about it on this

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show. All right, So we're
hearing about it on the show I've never

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talked about all right. So milf
matter. The first one I watched like

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an episode of it, and it's
it's women between the ages of forty five

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and sixty sixty and guys between the
ages of twenty one and twenty seven?

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Is this the one where like one
woman's son was part of it? So

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what the What they didn't know was
the twist was that in the first season

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it was the sons of the mothers
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So it would be your mom hitting
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you potentially, right, potentially the
first time, so potentially then so then

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the uh and I watched, I
was like all right, yeah, okay,

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and then I went then this one
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it. So she comes in and
the twist this time, so we learned

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that she was supposed to be on
the first one. Her son had reached

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out to be in a reality dating
show. They contact him, They say

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to him, do you have a
hot mom? He says yeah, He

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sends in a picture of his mom. They say yeah, I know.

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They say, well, she's like
a fitness and fitness person. I have

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a hot mom. Well yeah.
So anyway, he finds out what the

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twist is and goes, mom,
I don't want to do this, So

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then they're gonna do milk too when
they contact her, and she goes,

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I don't have twenty days I can
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of weeks later they contact her and
goky, can you come like as a

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mid season person? So she comes
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all right. So the twist and
this one is it's uh same age difference,

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younger guys, older women, And
then all of a sudden, the

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dads of the guys show up and
they're in the mix. One brings an

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uncle and not a dad, so
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older generations. Now the women have
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that are are my kid's age.
So it would be like me and Jordan

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being on this show. Right,
That's exactly what it is, Daddy.

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I can see like somebody having a
breakdown. It's not fair, Dad,

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tell me about it. Try being
my age just isn't a side I talked

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to my man yesterday. Right,
he's going through stuff to get into grad

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school, and he's he's and then
so freaking hearts that and he's flying down

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to see Jackson, who has moved
to New York City. Oh he's already

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moved. Oh yeah, yeah,
I'll give you that story a little while.

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That's not a Jackson, that's right. So then we uh saw.

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Then he starts talking about he starts
going off on people. No one supported

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him, and now they're all over
social media saying I'm so proud look at

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what he did. Blah blah blah
he was. It's all bullshit, Like

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we know some people like that,
this has nothing nothing to do with you.

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Don't open your mouth, don't say
anything, and has nothing to do

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with you. It's like, just
let it go now you show up.

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Yeah oh yeah. But they thought
it was all good. They were not

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for this, anow. They're telling
the world they were for it, and

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I know and I know different,
and I'm like, I don't care.

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Every look. I don't believe in
re carnation, especially between cartoons and people.

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But Jordan could be the next Abe
Simpson. But good for him standing

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up for his brother, though,
so good for Jordan. So then yeah,

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so he was, but that's what
it would be like me and him

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being on the show. So then
Mark came back in on the last episode

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or an episode last week The Soldier, and he told and he had watched

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it, and he said he picked
up an episode five to just get a

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little bit of before Rebecca came on, and he said that he said,

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in his opinion, it was there
was nobody likable. None of the women

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were likable. And he goes,
when she came on, she did a

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great job. So I go home
and that after that episode and I'm like,

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you know what, I'm gonna watch
the episode that she arrives on.

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Well, Danny, they play a
game. They play games. It's a

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reality show, dating show, right. Just to give you an aside,

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again, my father lives kind of
in a retirement community and they do some

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things at the community center. And
I think it was last year Memorial Day

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they had barbecue when they played a
game. And I used to play this

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on the radio when I was at
jack Asters. A guy puts a plunger

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between his legs stick out. Woman
at the other end of the room has

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a has a roll of toilet paper
between her legs. You've got to put

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the stick without using your hands.
They got to put the stick into the

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toilet paper. My father went on
about what a disgusting game, and I

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mom, oh, I can't believe
this, And these people are radio olds.

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Who wants to watch that with these
disgusting everybody's over seventy five, you

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want to see this kind of He
was going crazy this game last night on

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the reality show milf manor two takes
the fucking Cake? Oh really? Oh?

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Does it take the cake? Each
father and son had two. They

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were a team. So a woman
would put a piece of watermelon between her

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legs. The guys would be They
would sit down, put a piece of

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watermelon between like their legs. The
guys had their hands handcuffed, handcuffed behind

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their back. They get down on
their knees and they have to eat the

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watermelon from between their legs, and
they could tap out and get the other

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person to jump in and finish.
Upt go. One guy's going. One

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guy's father's screaming at him when he's
doing much. Way, come on,

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get it, eat it, eat
it, hit it, look it suck

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it. It's like, oh my
god, oh my fuck you gut.

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This is the worst I go.
That is the trashiest, the trash.

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Their faces are all wet. One
lady's going like, a how wet?

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This is so hot? It really
happened, and I'm going home. He's

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got some skills. It goes to
your phrase that you've always used, we

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never grow up, we just grow
It was like it was. It was

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craziest. It was the craziest.
I didn't even know what to think of

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it. I could not. I
couldn't wrap my head around it. I'm

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like, man, my old man
would find this to be the most disgusting.

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Yeah, you should send it to
him. Hey, Dad, watch

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this. Can you imagine you and
I doing this? No, I couldn't.

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If they bring a grad dad with
three generations of Milt's manner, that's

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what we're getting. Filth manner is
what it is. Filth manner. Yeah,

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I mean I remember, like when
I was in college Paradise, Sally

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was the big Fisher bar. Yes, And there was this station that wasn't

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yours that did this thing where they
had guys eat the muffin. And what

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they would do is the women would
put a muffin between their legs and the

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guys would have to go and eat
it. Whoever finished in a certain at

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won the prize. Yeah, like
tickets for some game or I love that.

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Now I would have done a game
like that. I wouldn't. I

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would have done a GameLine gap when
I was doing Afternoon, I could have

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seen you do that. Absolutely,
I did everything else. How did I

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not think of that? Eat the
Muffin got them? I missed the boat?

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Yeah, so right there. I
mean we did toys for Tots,

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tots whatever it was. Yeah,
did you do midget and bum bowlding?

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No, I didn't like that stuff. I didn't like that either. I

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don't like any of them, but
I didn't like that. I don't like

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games and take advantage of people that
are just uh how do I phrase it.

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It's not take advantage of people,
because you could say you could say

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anything I did back it on the
radio. We would probably fall into that

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category in some way. But I
don't like them where they're humiliating people for

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something that they can't control. You
know what I mean. If you choose

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to come in and play Eat the
Muffin and we're all laughing and it's just

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a good time, and you're willing
to embarrass yourself way. I'm all for

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that, right right. I'm not
taking like the disabled guy and going,

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hey man, you know the guy
who's slightly on the spectrum, going,

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wouldn't you like to eat him?
I hate that kind of stuff. I

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never liked that. I didn't which
maybe sounds hypocritical, but I hope people

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understand what I'm saying. I never
like. I go back to the theory

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of I love busting balls. I
love having a good time. I love

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a laugh. I love a laugh
at my expense. I love and I

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hope that everybody else is kind of
of the same mind and cool with shit.

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I don't think people are. I
think people take themselves a little too

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seriously and can't always you know,
and I do too at times. But

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I don't like where it's hurting somebody
physically or knocking them because they're you know,

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slightly different. Although I did do
that as well, I just thought

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of it. I used to take
a big fat guy, big fat no,

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no, big fat guy called him
bad joke boy. He had terrible

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jokes. Oh yes, he's still
around, yeah, And I used to

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take him to a bar and he
would come out and we would play a

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tribute game and if you lost,
your punishment was you had to drink ass

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al Oh yeah, we poured it
down his back and caught it in a

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glass just before the crack of his
ass, and you had to drink it.

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And that guy came and I would
pick him up sometimes to take him

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and then yeah, no humiliating.
I mean, you're only doing it because

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he's fat and gross. Yeah that's
not so. I am as guilty of

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as anybody of that ship, you
know, and that that now bothers me.

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But at the time it was like, let's doll. Yeah, well

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eat the muffin would have been better. Yeah, because you have volunteers.

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Because you have volunteers, people think
it's funny. And you know most people

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are if they're gonna play anyway that
watch milk Man or two if you can.

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Yeah, maybe I'll catch that,
Maybe maybe you won't. Between Bible

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studies, I did see a I
was talking to a friend of mine,

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and you know they have all the
tents for the fireworks and stuff that you

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can buy. Oh yeah, yeah, you see a lot of them out

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where you live, right, Oh
yeah, absolutely, there everywhere. Gosh,

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So I knew somebody who went in
there and they bought something and it

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came to like an odd number,
like sixty three dollars and sixty three cents

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or something. So they gave the
person because they wanted some change back or

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whatever. They gave them seventy dollars
and sixty five cents. And the kids

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couldn't figure out. Yeah, they
couldn't figure it out. They couldn't figure

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it out. And they got back
twenty six dollars in change, okay,

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and so they go. The person
was like, I didn't know whether I

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should just leave and take my stuff, so they stayed and they gave the

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dead. But these were high kids, Like, yeah, high school kids,

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and at least they're working. Yes, they're trying, yes, yes,

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yes, And I don't know,
calculator if you feel pressure like in

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that moment or you can't. They
couldn't figure it out. They couldn't figure

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it out. And I'm like,
all right, we're just like, well,

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what are they doing in schools with
matt I I don't know. I

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think it could be an anxiety thing. I think here's what I worked at

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a restaurant and a castro just or
when you had to punch it every single

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digit right and so my uncle always
told me, and my man, our

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manager, Drew always told me,
just just whatever they give you, just

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put it in the machine and the
machine will figure yes, yes, yeah,

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so they will. Couldn't have twenty
six seventy and they hand you fifty

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five dollars punching fifty five dollars and
it'll give you the chase shame. And

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a calculator would do the same thing. I don't even think they had one.

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Maybe they have their phone though,
which has a calculation. WHI has

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a calculator, But I think I've
been there though, but they had He

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said, I think most people were
paying by debit or credit because they had

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one of those Oh okay, those
touch pads. Not a touch pad,

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square, yeah, square that would
fit on your Would you like to offer

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a tip? This guy was paying
cash and they had cash. You could

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do cash, but they couldn't figure
it out. A lot more people are

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paying cash now out of paranoia.
Who are these lots of people? Well,

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because the story was that if you
went to Gander Mountain, or if

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you went to what's that one store
in Henrietta that's like a it's like a

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good sporting good store. If you
went to any of those sporting good stores

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or Dicks and you bought AMMO or
guns or even bibles that you know that

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or bibles like the credit card companies
or whatever, would like report it back

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to the FBI or the CIA.
Now I don't. I'm not saying that

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that's happened. I'm saying that people
are talking about that and are aware,

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and then that's why they're using cash
because there they feel they feel target because

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you can pretty much track everything,
I mean Amazon, when you buy stuff,

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they pretty much have a profile of
you at this point, you know,

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wants more. Tony Robins books did
well. Have you ever like embarrassed

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yourself when you felt pressure? Because
I was of different points when I was

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a teenager. Every baseball game I
ever played, okay when I was especially

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if my old man showed up.
Yeah yeah, swing. I didn't swing

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the bat for the first year and
a half of my baseball career. Yeah,

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swing the bat. Okay, Yeah, I know the feeling I was.

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I remember being at an orthodontists appointment
and they would take you from the

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waiting room where like your parents and
all were, and then they had another

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waiting room in the back and it
was really small, and if you sat,

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you'd almost have be touching knees with
the person across from you, and

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they would quickly come and put you
in one of the chairs. And I

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remember this girl and I just thought
she was like really pretty, and I

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remember like noticing her in the lobby. Then we're in that little room together

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and she keeps kind of looking at
me, and I'm looking and she would

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look down and all this stuff,
and it was like that non verbal flirting

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kind of and I was like totally
smitten with this girl. Start yeah,

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yeah. So now we're done and
we're waiting in the waiting room and she's

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up at the window checking out.
And I don't know if her mom was

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there, maybe she was old enough
to drive. I don't remember. All

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I know is that I could not
take my eyes off of her sitting next

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to my mother. She's up at
the window, she's done, and I

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get up and I just start walking
toward her, and I'm just like hi,

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and I go and I stand at
the window and the woman looks at

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me and goes, what And I
go, oh, I don't know.

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She goes, we'll call you,
we'll call you. We're getting to you,

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and I sit down. My mother
goes, what are you doing?

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And I was like, I I
was so like looking out of body experience.

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It was like it was weird.
It was one of those things that

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was weird. And I go that
that's so. I felt a little bad

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for the kids at the thing because
we do talk about kids today and what's

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going on and problems and all that, and they eat more processed food than

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ever before, which leads to brain
chemistry issues, which leads to anxiety,

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which leads to like those nervous moment. Plus, you're a teenager, your

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brain's not fully developed. Yeah,
I don't You're probably right. I mean,

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I don't know with all that stuff
that may be true. I was

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thinking this because somebody said to me
something about you know my kid, and

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uh, he's fourteen. I said, look, he doesn't live with me.

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So but I think like when I
was a kid, we there were

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three networks and we only got two
on a good day. So there wasn't

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this constant barrage of things to look
at and distract you. Yes, right,

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you get bored. Let alone in
your pocket, you get bored,

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and any one of us can jump
on social media immediately and be entertained and

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then we lose twenty thirty two hours, twenty thirty minute. You know,

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it doesn't matter, And somebody goes, yeah, you know that's the thing.

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Kids around it all the time.
I go, well, the problem,

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the problem that I see easier said
than done. I got two sons

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who were in there out they around
their own basically, and I got a

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fourteen year old who lives with his
mother. So really, I feel like

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I cannot say this, but it's
almost like there's no backbone in parenting,

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right, you know what I mean, there's no backbone in parenting because at

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fourteen, I don't think I was
allowed to even make decisions for myself.

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At nineteen, I wasn't allowed to
make decisions. Okay, you come back

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home Dan from college? My rules, yeah, my father, Yeah,

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my froably could be a lot of
freedom. But at the same time,

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I couldn't just get in the car
and drive the Buffalo. That was like

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driving to New York City. There's
criminals. Yeah, I mean, like

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my father had a different My father
had a very small world and he's very

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protective and he knew that like,
well, you know me now, I

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haven't really changed all that much.
Forty four years. I'm very naive,

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very trusting, and I could be
taken advantage of very easily. I've gotten

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better at it, but still,
you know, watch an infomercial. Oh

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wow, that makes a lot of
sense. But you know, if my

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father knew that about me, so
he's like, you're not going to that

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wrestling pay per view, I don't
care. I'm nineteen dead, I bought

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the tickets. I can do what
I want. The hell you can.

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Yeah, so yeah, I mean, yeah, so I know the feeling

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nowadays kids at fourteen they're like treated
like thirty year olds. Well the problem

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is, like so when you hear
things like there's TikTok and stuff, and

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I go, yeah, because I
feel like a lot of times the lines

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have gotten blurred, the lines have
gotten way blurred and into adulthood. You

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mean, well, I don't know, because I brought this up on a

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recent episode I Don't Milk Man or
two, in which we just talked about

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I don't remember when fifty year old
women dress like that, and it was

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it was okay, And I'm not
saying it's not okay. Try to follow

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me on this because I think people
take it the wrong way. I'm just

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saying that I don't remember women they
looked a age appropriate or of their age.

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I don't remember. I remember some
people's moms were pretty, but I

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don't remember hot mom coming in a
short supperazz gins right or whatever. I'm

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and there's nothing wrong with that if
you look good in it. But it

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was almost like back then, it
was like you were trying to be younger.

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This woman came in and like a
haltered she looked great, she looked

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fine, and nothing outrageously inappropriate.
But just like, go back to nineteen

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ninety four, go back to nineteen
eighty four, go back forty years,

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and I don't think I don't remember
seeing that. Oh no, I don't

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remember. No, oh no,
No, moms didn't like Yeah, it's

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like you said, like, oh
yeah, her mom's a slut. Yes,

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that was a conversation, And the
truth was, looking back, she

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wasn't. No, she just wanted
to look good and stay young. And

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you know the the I mean age
ate nothing but a number according Mary J.

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Blige, Yes, and that's when
that song came out, actually ninety

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four. And the thing is is
that she was right, yeah, because

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I mean, you don't want to
buy you don't want to throw into Wilford

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Brimley at forty four SULD. But
here's okay, but here's my question.

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Okay, here's my question. Does
that then this would be more a philosophical

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level. When I'm trying to stay
younger and now I'm almost competing, like

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on milf Man or two there's a
twenty father and son competing for the same

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woman. It's attention right normally,
do you see what I'm saying? So

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now I'm trying to be friends with
my kid. Well, if I'm trying

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to be my friends with my kid
when they're twenty and be cool, I'm

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probably being friends when they're thirteen fourteen
and letting them kind of hey yeah,

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tiktokh, what are you gonna do? Can't put the genie back? And

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well, no, you can take
the fucking phone. Yeah, you shouldn't

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be your kid's friend. No,
And there's oftentimes where I think it probably

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makes it more difficult for his mom. But I'll get calls like, hey,

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dad, can you send me twenty
bucks? And I go, no,

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no, Well what am I going
to do? I got, I

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got I'm coming to see and I
don't have AirPods or whatever. I go,

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not my not my problem. You
see, I never braw dolls braw

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dog. Well, right, that's
my father for money. Yeah, I

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had to earn it well also,
and he does. He washed his windows

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and does a lot of stuff.
He's playing a lot of basketball now,

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going to a lot of basketball camps
and trainings and stuff like that. So

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I think that's taken up most of
his time. And the flipsite. You

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never don't let you ask, Okay, I'm not playing that. No,

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no, no, no no.
But I also think that it's a slightly

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different dynamic in that Dad's not here
and Dad does whether he knows it or

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not. Dad feels very guilty about
that at times, really does, so

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I would so naturally for most of
the time, I would be like,

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I would get calls, hey,
uh my buddy, and can you say

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he's twenty dollars for snacks? And
I would, and then I started going,

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no, I'm not doing it,
because first of all, you're not

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spending on anything healthy. You're not
getting anything good out of it, you

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know. And if he was said, if he said to me twenty dollars,

407
00:28:00,799 --> 00:28:03,599
because he's been fishing a lot lately, I want to buy stronger line.

408
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:06,319
I would probably send it for that. Money for a purpose, not

409
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:08,119
money for a good you got it, you got it. I'd need air

410
00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:14,319
pods. Money needs to be an
investment to real air pods, right,

411
00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:17,759
right. You can find knockoff ones
for whatever, but you lost them.

412
00:28:18,519 --> 00:28:22,319
You gotta look at money as like
an empty calorie versus good calorie thing,

413
00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:25,039
right, A good calorie thing would
be like spending out of vegetables. In

414
00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:26,559
other words, it's gonna be an
investment in your life. It's gonna be

415
00:28:26,559 --> 00:28:29,319
something to help you. Hey,
dad, I need to buy books,

416
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:30,559
or Dad, I want to get
this book, or I want to get

417
00:28:30,559 --> 00:28:36,240
this lesson and how to fish or
whatever. Yes, you know, yeah,

418
00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:40,160
All I'm saying is like, there's
no real backbone because and I get

419
00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:44,359
it, it's easier not to your
days as busy as ever or hit with

420
00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:48,480
more information. You don't even know
who your kid may be talking to at

421
00:28:48,519 --> 00:28:52,000
the dinner table if they have their
phone. And that's and it's hard.

422
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:56,039
It sucks it look no parent likes
to say no parent likes to say no

423
00:28:56,119 --> 00:29:00,240
no phones at the table. That's
it. Put it away, right because

424
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:03,480
then it becomes a fight. But
I think that's what you got to do

425
00:29:03,839 --> 00:29:07,240
in order to sort of gain things
back. And let me ask you though,

426
00:29:07,279 --> 00:29:11,839
I mean, I know people whose
kids are like in their teens,

427
00:29:11,039 --> 00:29:15,880
they won't buy them a phone.
Yeah, I mean so, well,

428
00:29:15,079 --> 00:29:19,160
so what's the so is it because
of the distance? Is what Jack with

429
00:29:19,240 --> 00:29:22,880
Jamison? Yeah. No, every
boy was allowed to get a phone at

430
00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:26,640
thirteen, Okay, they were all
were allowed. That was the age you

431
00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:29,960
got to have a phone. It
was like and it was like the coming

432
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:33,279
of age thing. It was probably
more important to them than getting their life.

433
00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:36,640
That's hilarious because I hesitated and held
out getting a phone as long as

434
00:29:36,640 --> 00:29:38,279
I possible. Yeah, I didn't
want to get a phone. So the

435
00:29:38,359 --> 00:29:42,400
guys got phones because their friends had
phones. But they would also you could

436
00:29:42,519 --> 00:29:45,319
you could track them, you could
see where they were, they were up

437
00:29:45,319 --> 00:29:48,480
the street, at their friend's house, whatever. You could call them.

438
00:29:48,519 --> 00:29:51,200
You didn't have to call, you
know, over to the house. Hey.

439
00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:53,000
You know, and a lot of
people were starting to get rid of

440
00:29:53,079 --> 00:29:56,200
house phones, so this was a
way to get a hold Hey can you

441
00:29:56,240 --> 00:29:59,160
pick me up? Hey, I'm
going to stay after school. You could

442
00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:02,359
text, It was all kinds of
things. So there was sort of a

443
00:30:03,839 --> 00:30:07,839
utilitarian or a utility. It was
a utility, right, we could use

444
00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:12,079
it for stuff. Now, then
James Snake comes along and he's like stealing

445
00:30:12,119 --> 00:30:15,559
their phones and he's using them,
and they're getting pissed off, and he's

446
00:30:15,559 --> 00:30:18,799
stealing their iPads and they're getting so
finally, at like ten, I cracked.

447
00:30:18,799 --> 00:30:22,079
They go, fuck it, give
him a phone. Why do we

448
00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:26,839
have to wait till thirteen? He's
done. Yeah, but you're eight years

449
00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:29,240
older than him. It doesn't matter, like you know what I'm saying.

450
00:30:29,519 --> 00:30:32,200
So he gets the phone. I
went to all that. Yeah, he

451
00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:33,519
gets the phone. I do work
at fourteen. My siby's got to work

452
00:30:33,519 --> 00:30:38,240
at sixteen. Yeah, so he
gets the phone. But again it was

453
00:30:38,279 --> 00:30:42,319
like you almost needed it even at
that age because you were you know,

454
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:45,519
hey, he's going to be home
alone. You can check on you know

455
00:30:45,559 --> 00:30:51,960
what I mean, just simple things. So I think there is a purpose

456
00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:53,599
to the phone. Maybe get him
like the I don't know. There's there's

457
00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:56,720
versions of phones you can get.
I think my brother's kids have phones,

458
00:30:57,160 --> 00:31:02,119
but you can't get any realize on
them or anything like that or whatever.

459
00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:06,160
You know. Yeah, parental control, Yeah, that type of I think

460
00:31:06,279 --> 00:31:10,039
the big picture here is I'm not
a parent, I know, so I'm

461
00:31:10,039 --> 00:31:12,160
not gonna That's why I'm not gonna
say I kind of am not a either,

462
00:31:12,519 --> 00:31:17,359
so, but but you are a
parent. I think, like the

463
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:21,839
biggest problem is, like after World
War Two, America had this big you

464
00:31:21,839 --> 00:31:23,480
know, I don't want to say
revival. You just got through the depression,

465
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:26,880
and then you got through World War
two where we didn't know if America

466
00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:30,480
was going to be America thanks to
Hitler and everything else. And America is

467
00:31:30,519 --> 00:31:33,480
a big part in US in the
Allies winning World War Two. Now all

468
00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:37,359
of a sudden, America emerges as
one of the two biggest nations in the

469
00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:40,160
world. And back here you had
the baby boom because of the war,

470
00:31:40,880 --> 00:31:45,400
and you know, the baby boomers
were raised a certain way, and I

471
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,279
think, you know, so they
tried to pass that on to gen X

472
00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:52,039
Jen and like, I think they
may have overcorrected. So gen X responded

473
00:31:52,079 --> 00:31:56,160
by their parents saying I'm not gonna
be as hard as you were, and

474
00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:59,039
maybe went a little bit on the
other extreme. In other words, I

475
00:31:59,079 --> 00:32:02,359
think too many parents may have overcorrected
for their what they thought were their parents'

476
00:32:02,359 --> 00:32:06,319
mistakes. I don't know, I
think it's society over correction is a big

477
00:32:06,359 --> 00:32:10,440
problem. Hold that thought, because
I have uh, we'll bring that up.

478
00:32:10,480 --> 00:32:13,440
We'll take a moment and we'll bring
that. But I want to read

479
00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:17,599
you something because you've known Jackson when
we did the break Room years ago.

480
00:32:19,039 --> 00:32:23,079
I did a lot of stuff with
autism things because Jackson was on the spectrum

481
00:32:23,119 --> 00:32:30,799
and brainiac at Asperger Aspergian than anything. But he's you know, there's some

482
00:32:30,839 --> 00:32:34,319
things that are a little different about
to do. So he uh, he's

483
00:32:34,359 --> 00:32:37,119
had this dream to move to New
York City. He's wanted to move to

484
00:32:37,119 --> 00:32:40,920
New York City since he was like
a little guy, and he uh,

485
00:32:42,279 --> 00:32:45,559
he decided that he was going to
do it. He saved up his money,

486
00:32:45,079 --> 00:32:51,240
he found a he took a week, lived at my mom's, stayed

487
00:32:51,279 --> 00:32:53,319
with my mother, visited and would
jump on the train every day into New

488
00:32:53,359 --> 00:32:57,880
York City. It's about ninety miles
and he would take the train right down

489
00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:00,160
and runs right in and my mother
would pick him up in the evening and

490
00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:02,400
he would look for a job,
look for a place. He found a

491
00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:06,799
place, a room in Staten Island. I think it's like eleven hundred a

492
00:33:06,799 --> 00:33:08,960
month. I know for it,
I could see that it's at Airbnb.

493
00:33:09,119 --> 00:33:13,559
It's only a two month least.
Maybe they'll extend it after that. So

494
00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:15,599
I keep telling him, you got
to keep it super neat. You got

495
00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:17,359
to make sure you're wiping out the
sink in the bathroom, like all these

496
00:33:17,359 --> 00:33:23,119
little things. All right, anyway, So he uh, he texted me

497
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:28,160
yesterday because I had some leads on
gigs for him. He's looking for a

498
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:30,680
job down there. He goes,
just finished applying to the place. Wish

499
00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:34,400
me luck. I said, good
luck. This is all very exciting because

500
00:33:34,400 --> 00:33:37,359
I'm trying to stay as positive as
possible. Right, he goes, this

501
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:39,400
is hilarious. I just got an
email from the manager of the first place

502
00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:43,200
requesting to set up an interview.
And then he writes, all capitals,

503
00:33:43,319 --> 00:33:46,599
let's fucking go. I owe,
yes see, everything is always working out

504
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:50,799
for you. And this is what
he writes back, all thanks to you

505
00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:54,920
hard work, tenacity, and patience. Thanks for teaching me the hard lessons

506
00:33:54,960 --> 00:34:00,440
and never letting up on me.
Now, I don't remember being I know

507
00:34:00,519 --> 00:34:02,839
who I was hard on it,
and it wasn't him. That sounded really

508
00:34:02,839 --> 00:34:07,759
weird. I know I was tougher
on. I used to lecture Jordan.

509
00:34:07,839 --> 00:34:09,880
I would drop Jordan off et McQuaid
or pick Jordan up and it would be

510
00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:13,519
a lecture the whole way home.
I mean he would always he would be

511
00:34:13,519 --> 00:34:15,800
like, all right, here you
go. It was always a lecture.

512
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:17,920
I couldn't help it. I don't
know why. I was always always identify

513
00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:21,960
the one that they need to parently. I was like lecturing that guy.

514
00:34:22,280 --> 00:34:25,719
And uh, I didn't so much
with Jackson. So I just wrote back,

515
00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:29,760
going your mom and I have always
believed in you. That's it.

516
00:34:29,920 --> 00:34:32,840
But I thought, if that's what
he thinks, then good. I guess

517
00:34:34,159 --> 00:34:37,440
I don't remember being that that hard
on Diggon. I'm sure I was.

518
00:34:37,519 --> 00:34:40,639
I'm sure I maybe like by osmosis, I mean like when I heard my

519
00:34:40,719 --> 00:34:45,159
father yelling at my sister. Yeah, I took that lesson too. Yeah,

520
00:34:45,199 --> 00:34:47,639
you know, like it's like you
could you can learn from like,

521
00:34:47,840 --> 00:34:52,559
okay, I know not to do
this now, that's important. You know.

522
00:34:52,679 --> 00:34:59,440
My grandmother once. Uh there's one
gosh, I remember this Halloween forever

523
00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:01,400
because that night, that's so we're
how my memory works. It was like

524
00:35:01,639 --> 00:35:06,400
October of ninety four or ninety five, and it was a Monday night.

525
00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:08,159
It was Halloween, and I want
to go out with my friends and just

526
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:12,320
not cause trouble with clean fun,
you know, like throw water balloons and

527
00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:15,920
stuff like that. We truss like
burglars and we just have My father goes,

528
00:35:15,079 --> 00:35:17,639
that's a night of trouble. That's
not but a night of trouble.

529
00:35:17,679 --> 00:35:22,440
The only reason I remember is because
Kiss was doing unplugged that night on MTV,

530
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:25,039
and I had to be at my
uncle's house by nine o'clock no later,

531
00:35:25,679 --> 00:35:28,400
and that's when it was on.
So I turned out nobody's home and

532
00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:31,039
I'm watching Kiss Unplugged. It's pretty
good. But anyway, I'm out and

533
00:35:31,039 --> 00:35:36,440
we're just throwing. We're just throwing
like water balloons and shaving cream and stuff

534
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:38,400
like that. My grandmother had to
grab my father and go, do you

535
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:42,559
know who you're yelling at? He's
a good kid. Yeah, he's a

536
00:35:42,559 --> 00:35:44,960
good kid. Yeah, he goes, he's not gonna get that. If

537
00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:47,320
the last person in Silver Creek that's
going to get in trouble is your son,

538
00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:50,960
you raised him right now, could
you just trust yourself and trust him

539
00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:53,119
and let him go out? Yeah? And he finally like relented, and

540
00:35:53,159 --> 00:35:57,679
I think when I came home in
one piece. He started to realize it.

541
00:35:57,719 --> 00:36:00,440
You know what, Yeah, I
do have a good kid to keep

542
00:36:00,519 --> 00:36:02,519
riding him. Well, he would
just he was afraid I would turn out

543
00:36:02,559 --> 00:36:06,440
to be him. Yeah, so
he would overcorrect because he didn't want me

544
00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:07,400
to be the rebellious kid. I'm
like, Dad, I don't think there's

545
00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:13,079
a rebellious bone in my body.
I often thought, like, be rebellious,

546
00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:16,039
I don't know, skin your knee, fall down, get humiliated,

547
00:36:16,119 --> 00:36:21,760
be embarrassed, be a little bit
shame. Shame, it's something that's lost

548
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:23,519
in society. A little bit of
shame goes so far away. I'm not

549
00:36:23,559 --> 00:36:29,119
saying we need to shame people do
it, but you yourself being cocky and

550
00:36:29,159 --> 00:36:31,800
going out and trying to show off
and you know, fall down in front

551
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:36,480
of a girl, embarrass yourself,
make a terrible joke and learn, because

552
00:36:37,039 --> 00:36:40,159
that experience is going to teach you, maybe way more than being saying don't

553
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:44,920
don't make it an inappropriate joke in
front of it. I make an inappropriate

554
00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:47,199
joke in front of somebody, and
see how it fucking plays. Words don't

555
00:36:47,239 --> 00:36:50,960
teach, and people don't realize.
I think that's really the truth, and

556
00:36:51,159 --> 00:36:57,760
actions teach. Feelings just experience,
right, experience it all and get humiliated

557
00:36:57,800 --> 00:37:00,440
and get beat up, get a
little dirty. And I'm not saying hurt

558
00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:06,199
yourself or anything. I'm just I
hope people understand what I'm saying because I

559
00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:09,000
think a lot of times we've gotten
so we're afraid to do this, we're

560
00:37:09,039 --> 00:37:13,800
afraid to do that. And then
but if you skin your you learn,

561
00:37:14,119 --> 00:37:15,800
you learn what's right. Oh my
gosh, fear was the most Fear's the

562
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:19,239
worst thing in my life. Yeah, it was the most criptling thing.

563
00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:21,679
There's so many things I could have
done and wanted to do or didn't do.

564
00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:24,079
Be going to New York City.
All right, So we had we

565
00:37:24,159 --> 00:37:30,639
had an internamed r J who is
now an executive producer for the number two

566
00:37:30,679 --> 00:37:34,639
sports morning show I think maybe number
one sports morning show in New York.

567
00:37:34,679 --> 00:37:36,960
And he has to be in New
York, right. He took a chance,

568
00:37:37,159 --> 00:37:38,679
He got up and he applied and
he left. They made him work

569
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:40,960
the overnight shift. Then he worked
his way to the Michael Ka Show.

570
00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:45,559
He was on Yes Network, he
was on television and then eventually like to

571
00:37:45,599 --> 00:37:49,639
this to the morning show and you
looked at me one day, I go,

572
00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:52,840
man, how about that huh.
And you said, what did I

573
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:55,679
say, party you wishes? What
party you wishes? That you could have

574
00:37:55,679 --> 00:38:00,360
done that too? Huh? I
go, yeah, sometimes yeah, because

575
00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:02,159
not that I didn't want to be
part of the break criminal, but the

576
00:38:02,199 --> 00:38:06,320
idea was like he was doing sports
radio, which is what I really wanted

577
00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:07,960
to do, and he was doing
it in the Big Apple, and I

578
00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:12,119
never had the guts to ever like
move by myself to New York City.

579
00:38:12,119 --> 00:38:14,039
I could, I could have had
that job. Sure, yeah, I

580
00:38:14,039 --> 00:38:15,280
had way more experience. I'd never
applied for it. I didn't want to

581
00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:17,119
do it. I was un a
contract. But at the same time,

582
00:38:17,159 --> 00:38:22,320
you know, I was afraid to
leave the bubble, right and you can't.

583
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:25,719
I'm not saying like you said.
I'm not saying take risks, huge

584
00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:30,920
risks, like go out and like
jump the shark, like like the Fonds.

585
00:38:30,159 --> 00:38:31,719
But I am saying, though,
is that, like, hey,

586
00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:35,119
fear is going to be crippling,
you gotta get over it and go out

587
00:38:35,159 --> 00:38:38,280
and experience life. I agree.
I think that even to this day,

588
00:38:38,320 --> 00:38:43,920
I think I was much the same
way, Like I never I my parents

589
00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:45,800
didn't move around, so I didn't
want to have a transient life like that,

590
00:38:45,960 --> 00:38:49,719
Yeah, I stayed in one spot. It was it worked for me

591
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:52,519
until it didn't, right, But
I mean it worked. I had a

592
00:38:52,639 --> 00:38:59,079
nice career and choices I could make
and do all those things. And but

593
00:38:59,159 --> 00:39:01,039
I hear what you're saying, and
I think sometimes now I start to think,

594
00:39:02,119 --> 00:39:05,400
how much time do I have left? And do I have one more

595
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:08,039
big act left in me? Do
I have one more? Because the thing

596
00:39:08,039 --> 00:39:16,039
that I was thinking, the thing
that I was thinking is that every everywhere,

597
00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:22,360
and I'll say more starting with the
let's say the breakroom, but everywhere

598
00:39:22,559 --> 00:39:27,199
was like there was nothing and you
had to build something right. So a

599
00:39:27,199 --> 00:39:30,000
lot of times you could say music
radio where they were coming for the music

600
00:39:30,039 --> 00:39:32,519
back then, right rock stations,
this is the only place you're going to

601
00:39:32,559 --> 00:39:36,159
get it. But you could build
it up in between the records if you

602
00:39:36,199 --> 00:39:37,960
did the right stuff. I just
thought that was like the mortar that held

603
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:40,440
the bricks together. We liked looking
at a brick wall, But what's holding

604
00:39:40,440 --> 00:39:44,679
that brick wall? So if I
could build the stuff between the records,

605
00:39:44,679 --> 00:39:46,719
that was going to do it.
That's how I did it. I got

606
00:39:46,719 --> 00:39:53,159
that to number one, and that
they certainly ingratiated me to the management.

607
00:39:54,039 --> 00:40:01,440
What was the breakroom was when a
big morning legend aft. Now you're nobody

608
00:40:01,480 --> 00:40:06,880
believed in that, nobody, no. So that was we had to build

609
00:40:06,920 --> 00:40:13,440
from nothing to being number one.
Okay, leave there, go to another

610
00:40:13,480 --> 00:40:16,599
station where they had nothing, build
it up to a top five or whatever,

611
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:22,559
had management issues and stuff there.
I would have never really left,

612
00:40:22,719 --> 00:40:24,840
But there was a guy who everywhere
he went he tried to hire me,

613
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:29,400
including Los Angeles. I went out. We know that story. Then I

614
00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:32,039
go back and it's there was a
station where they had a talk show in

615
00:40:32,079 --> 00:40:35,280
the morning, talk show in the
afternoon, music in the middle of the

616
00:40:35,320 --> 00:40:40,000
day. Now, all talk FM
stations are very popular in cities with longer

617
00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:43,880
commutes. We have not a long
commute in the city we live in.

618
00:40:44,079 --> 00:40:47,079
It's what eight to ten, fifteen
minutes, Well, twenty is the average.

619
00:40:47,119 --> 00:40:52,000
Now twenty is what they're saying.
Yeah, actually, but that that's

620
00:40:52,440 --> 00:40:58,039
it used to be fifteen hours twenty
okay, So how do you how do

621
00:40:58,079 --> 00:41:00,760
you build that? We took that
as an all talk to number one.

622
00:41:00,760 --> 00:41:07,239
It became the highest rated show on
that station, which it should never be.

623
00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:09,039
You should never have that. So
like all those things, but there

624
00:41:09,079 --> 00:41:12,840
were it was like a lot of
work. I was good at starting over,

625
00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:15,280
building it up, starting over,
building up, and now I'm going

626
00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:21,039
I have one more act in me
to do it, or am I just

627
00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:25,239
I don't fucking know. I don't
know. But there is something about that,

628
00:41:25,320 --> 00:41:29,119
and there is the fear. And
you can either just go all in

629
00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:32,000
and just go fuck it. I'm
gonna do this. And you have turned

630
00:41:32,039 --> 00:41:35,679
out then you know, tune out
the naysayers and tune out to the people.

631
00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:37,480
And believe me, there's a lot
I was telling you about one.

632
00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:40,159
All right, well, take a
moment. I want to get back to

633
00:41:40,199 --> 00:41:46,639
your gen X and overcorrection, overcorrection. We'll talk about that and uh and

634
00:41:46,679 --> 00:41:52,519
then somebody who made a little help. I have a story about a couple,

635
00:41:53,119 --> 00:41:57,079
all right, Yeah, any advice, Uh no, this is like

636
00:41:57,119 --> 00:41:59,920
a personal thing, but I have
advice. I mean I sort of,

637
00:42:00,079 --> 00:42:04,159
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670
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You know this band sounds like The
Stones, Oh, very similar.

671
00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:42,760
Bah, he's an American band.
Here we go, Come on, Smarty

672
00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:52,119
Tucker. No, it's a band
that you probably know, the Seal the

673
00:44:52,239 --> 00:44:57,199
Stone. Okay, it's not the
Guess Who. No, that's a Canadian

674
00:44:57,239 --> 00:45:06,480
band. Yeah, that's why I
that plug sweat too. No, sad.

675
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:10,599
This band had one of the biggest
hits from my childhood. I was

676
00:45:10,639 --> 00:45:14,400
like in third grade, so we've
been in the early eighties. But I

677
00:45:14,559 --> 00:45:17,079
know you know the song Jay Giles. Yeah, this is Jake Giles.

678
00:45:17,079 --> 00:45:21,440
This is Jay Giles. This is
what they really were about. You know.

679
00:45:21,719 --> 00:45:23,519
Centerfold was a very pop song.
Yeah. I thought it was very

680
00:45:23,599 --> 00:45:29,920
cheesy. I liked it, But
so they sounded more like this. Yes,

681
00:45:31,440 --> 00:45:35,760
I love Ja's got like a three
dog Nightfield to I fucking loved this

682
00:45:35,800 --> 00:45:44,440
many Yes they do, yep.
Peter Walker. Oh okay, all right,

683
00:45:44,599 --> 00:45:47,199
so that sad. Yeah, ain't
nothing but a house party. That's

684
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:50,039
one of my favorite. Do you
ever hear a song and you're like,

685
00:45:50,079 --> 00:45:53,920
you think it's a certain band and
it's not. I know, Well no,

686
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:57,800
no, only because I don't really
yes, maybe so, yes,

687
00:45:57,840 --> 00:46:00,519
I have so. Like I remember
going to a party and I was like

688
00:46:00,559 --> 00:46:04,119
in college, but it was a
party back home, much of adults party,

689
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:06,599
and we just stopped in to say
hello, and I'm like, is

690
00:46:06,639 --> 00:46:07,639
this is this Queen? They're like, no, it's your riot. Heap,

691
00:46:09,199 --> 00:46:12,000
heap. I'm like, no,
yeah, but I could hear.

692
00:46:12,079 --> 00:46:15,000
I could. It's because sounds like
queen. That's a great guess. Yes,

693
00:46:15,159 --> 00:46:16,440
you know, well it's a band
that you wouldn't really know. Yeah.

694
00:46:16,480 --> 00:46:21,039
They were a deep cut band.
I always used to think that John

695
00:46:21,079 --> 00:46:23,719
Cafferty and the Beaver Brown band.
Yeah, with Springsteen sometimes yeah, yeah,

696
00:46:23,840 --> 00:46:29,840
I did so. Yeah. And
in the movie Ed he had the

697
00:46:29,880 --> 00:46:32,079
Cruiser. Yes, he never got
to play himself, so nobody knew who

698
00:46:32,079 --> 00:46:36,840
he was. No. I love
that band or the few songs that I

699
00:46:36,920 --> 00:46:39,320
knew then. There was on the
Dark Sid What was the other one that

700
00:46:39,880 --> 00:46:45,800
Robert Plant fronted a band? It
was Moon something, Okay, I don't

701
00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:47,760
oh god, I'd have to look
that up. But anyway, that's it.

702
00:46:49,199 --> 00:46:52,599
Danny brought up or correction over correction
and you were saying, like the

703
00:46:52,639 --> 00:46:57,480
generations, right, yeah, the
baby boomer generation, because we were talking

704
00:46:57,519 --> 00:47:00,760
about parenting and I said, I
think part of the problem that we're seeing

705
00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:04,840
today is parenting not having a backbone. Yeah, because there's so much shit.

706
00:47:05,119 --> 00:47:07,880
There's so much influence on your kids, their friends are influenced by stuff.

707
00:47:08,159 --> 00:47:12,639
All this shit's going on. It
used to be like you tuned into

708
00:47:12,760 --> 00:47:16,599
MTV and maybe that was like the
big no no. Now it's everything all

709
00:47:16,639 --> 00:47:20,440
the time, right on your phone, right at you, and I go.

710
00:47:20,599 --> 00:47:22,880
The part of the tough part is
you're a parent. Take the phone.

711
00:47:22,320 --> 00:47:25,039
Don't allow tiktoking on the phone that
if that, if you feel like

712
00:47:25,079 --> 00:47:29,639
that's a problem, don't allow it, you know. But it's it's easier

713
00:47:29,679 --> 00:47:32,960
to to not have that fight than
it is to have that fight. And

714
00:47:34,000 --> 00:47:37,639
I think that, uh yeah,
yes, it's very difficult. It sucks.

715
00:47:37,840 --> 00:47:40,559
It sucks. Like the worst thing
is like when you I can imagine

716
00:47:40,599 --> 00:47:44,480
like not the worst thing, but
like the worst feeling is your parents,

717
00:47:44,519 --> 00:47:46,360
like mommy, daddy, I hate
you. Yeah, it could be worse

718
00:47:46,400 --> 00:47:49,880
if they end up in a casket. Right, And but in the moment,

719
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:52,039
in the moment, you're not thinking
about the latter part. You're thinking

720
00:47:52,079 --> 00:47:55,199
about, oh man, it just
cuts me like a knife, right,

721
00:47:55,239 --> 00:48:00,440
exactly sure, And I think that, uh, my own man and my

722
00:48:00,519 --> 00:48:02,480
old man, you just always said
to me, I'm not here to ruin

723
00:48:02,519 --> 00:48:06,920
your good time. I'm here to
keep you alive. And with me,

724
00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:09,639
that was like a real thing.
So my father just didn't want me to

725
00:48:09,679 --> 00:48:14,280
turn out like him. That was
his big though. God I was it

726
00:48:14,360 --> 00:48:17,239
was too late. It was too
late for me. It was just this

727
00:48:17,320 --> 00:48:22,280
girl I went to high school with
it's birthday and I remember her sixteenth.

728
00:48:22,320 --> 00:48:24,760
It just came up on Facebook,
right, I remember her sixteenth birthday party.

729
00:48:25,079 --> 00:48:29,679
And at her sixteenth birthday party,
I stood on the roof of a

730
00:48:29,719 --> 00:48:34,960
car and surfed down a road thinking
I was cool, like at thirty miles

731
00:48:34,960 --> 00:48:37,599
and I think we were get twenty
thirty miles, maybe twenty, I don't

732
00:48:37,599 --> 00:48:40,599
know. I'm just going. You
slip, you fall, you fucking whack

733
00:48:40,639 --> 00:48:44,360
your head. I don't care if
it's ten miles. People have fallen.

734
00:48:44,559 --> 00:48:45,880
Oh why, that's what happened to
Chris Henry the Bengals. He died.

735
00:48:45,920 --> 00:48:50,039
He jumped on the back of a
truck. Yes, yes, he missed,

736
00:48:50,119 --> 00:48:52,400
fell off, hit his head.
Boom, guard you go. That's

737
00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:54,800
what I'm saying. And I think
if my old man saw that, he

738
00:48:54,840 --> 00:49:00,960
would I remember my old man really
getting mad at me because we were somewhere

739
00:49:01,199 --> 00:49:06,599
with a bunch of families camping and
one of the guys, one of the

740
00:49:06,639 --> 00:49:10,880
little girls was swimming and she didn't
have a top on, so I was

741
00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:15,280
all confused. But she was not
a developed girls. There are like seven,

742
00:49:15,320 --> 00:49:19,400
eight or nine on ten ten,
maybe, I don't know. And

743
00:49:19,480 --> 00:49:22,960
I remember like, for whatever reason, somebody thought it would be funny to

744
00:49:23,000 --> 00:49:25,239
try to pull her pants down,
and I thought that's a good idea.

745
00:49:25,280 --> 00:49:29,559
So I was joking around, we'll
pull your pants down or something like that,

746
00:49:29,599 --> 00:49:32,559
and some other parents told my father
my father fucking jacked me up on

747
00:49:32,599 --> 00:49:37,360
a tree and goes, you never
do like pick me up. I was

748
00:49:37,519 --> 00:49:40,320
up in the air, had me
up against the tree, going, you

749
00:49:40,360 --> 00:49:45,000
will never talk to a young lady
like that, and you will go and

750
00:49:45,079 --> 00:49:51,559
apologize to her father. I was
like, oh fuck, I didn't even

751
00:49:51,559 --> 00:49:53,119
know what I did. Like,
I was like completely, like I had

752
00:49:53,119 --> 00:49:57,719
no idea, Like I truly there
was nothing in my head. And I

753
00:49:57,760 --> 00:50:02,519
don't even know if like thinking back
then, I can't even now. I

754
00:50:02,559 --> 00:50:07,239
don't remember why, you know,
taking her pants down. I think it

755
00:50:07,280 --> 00:50:12,239
was just funny being naked. I
don't know you, I was probably ten.

756
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:15,400
Yeah, you wouldn't know anything what
I would because I don't forget I

757
00:50:15,440 --> 00:50:19,559
was so I always wondered like,
was there something there or I wanted to

758
00:50:19,559 --> 00:50:22,280
see what a girl had, because
hang on a second, I thought girls

759
00:50:22,280 --> 00:50:23,000
said, but I think that was
it. I would go, I want

760
00:50:23,039 --> 00:50:27,440
to see what's down there. I
didn't see the girl. I think in

761
00:50:27,519 --> 00:50:30,239
my head my father fucking when he
found out. Holy shit, I was

762
00:50:30,360 --> 00:50:37,400
off the ground, jacked up against
a tree, and I had to go

763
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:40,760
apologize, and I think that I
probably would have done the same thing.

764
00:50:40,800 --> 00:50:45,320
But on the other hand, I
just told a story about when May and

765
00:50:45,360 --> 00:50:51,440
my friend Michael Murray I've got into
a fistfight and I flipped Michael over my

766
00:50:51,559 --> 00:50:53,280
back into a stream and he was
crying and he went in wet and his

767
00:50:53,360 --> 00:50:55,079
mother's like, all right, go
dry off, and that was the end

768
00:50:55,079 --> 00:51:00,559
of it. And then years later, Jackson, my son and the kid

769
00:51:00,559 --> 00:51:04,679
across the street, we're up at
somebody's camp on the Salmon River, and

770
00:51:04,920 --> 00:51:07,360
one of the mothers comes. They
were somewhere else and they come back to

771
00:51:07,480 --> 00:51:08,719
how's it going, Ah, the
boys got into a little bit of scuffle,

772
00:51:08,760 --> 00:51:10,440
no big deal, but they worked
it out. She goes, oh,

773
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:13,519
what happened? I said, I
don't know. I say, I

774
00:51:13,840 --> 00:51:16,239
think like Jackson might have flipped you
know, your son into the water,

775
00:51:16,360 --> 00:51:19,679
or flipped them off a bride.
I don't know, something like gotten too

776
00:51:19,719 --> 00:51:22,800
our. She didn't talk to us
for like a month or two after that,

777
00:51:23,519 --> 00:51:29,360
and I was always like, maybe
it was my casual, like as

778
00:51:29,360 --> 00:51:31,280
though I was endorsing violence. I
certainly wasn't, but I wasn't gonna go

779
00:51:31,360 --> 00:51:36,599
jack I figured that's boys being boys
and they figure it out. Hey,

780
00:51:36,639 --> 00:51:39,239
fellat's work it out. If I
saw it, I'm gonna break it up,

781
00:51:39,280 --> 00:51:42,920
and I'm gonna hey, man,
let's let's use our words. Let's

782
00:51:42,960 --> 00:51:45,519
try to figure what's happening here.
Let's take some time to cool off.

783
00:51:45,800 --> 00:51:50,599
But nobody was there, and one
of the kids came home, Okay,

784
00:51:50,679 --> 00:51:52,599
all right, all right, are
you still breathing? Yeah, you're good?

785
00:51:52,639 --> 00:51:54,679
All right? What happened? And
then we work it out from there.

786
00:51:54,840 --> 00:52:00,039
This mother was like, don't indorse
violence, So I don't know,

787
00:52:00,280 --> 00:52:04,320
do you ever think that over correction? Well yeah, well yeah, So

788
00:52:04,360 --> 00:52:07,599
along lines of over correction. Do
you ever think that parents show off for

789
00:52:07,679 --> 00:52:10,199
other parents their parenting? Fucking yes, in your dad's situation, do you

790
00:52:10,199 --> 00:52:13,760
think that was his way of zoe? He didn't, He didn't. It

791
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:15,079
was a reflection, So it's not
a reflection on him. I want to

792
00:52:15,079 --> 00:52:19,000
wright to know that I don't know. I do not condone my son's but

793
00:52:19,239 --> 00:52:22,079
I don't think my father. I
don't think anybody else knew. I mean,

794
00:52:22,079 --> 00:52:25,000
I don't think anybody knew that I
was jacked up, and he certainly

795
00:52:25,000 --> 00:52:30,960
didn't parade me over to apologize.
I had to go on my own and

796
00:52:30,039 --> 00:52:34,280
do it. So I don't think
that's the case. I do believe there

797
00:52:34,360 --> 00:52:39,280
is show off punishment. Oh how
I witnessed my fair share of parents show

798
00:52:39,320 --> 00:52:44,239
off many many, many times,
not my son, in my own on

799
00:52:44,360 --> 00:52:49,679
my own property. I saw it
many times, Daniel. But I would

800
00:52:50,039 --> 00:52:59,719
to your point, I wonder if
UH wars had impact on parenting. And

801
00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:04,000
I started to say this the other
night on the podcast that I often wondered

802
00:53:04,000 --> 00:53:07,039
because you'll see things like on social
media, uh gen X. We didn't

803
00:53:07,079 --> 00:53:10,480
have to We didn't wear seatbelts.
We ran out to the sun the dusk

804
00:53:10,719 --> 00:53:14,199
to the lights went off, all
this stuff we would smoke when we were

805
00:53:14,280 --> 00:53:16,880
six, Yeah, whatever, whatever, it was right, And I go,

806
00:53:17,280 --> 00:53:20,960
I spoke when she was pregnant.
Didn't bother me, right, right,

807
00:53:21,440 --> 00:53:23,039
So I go, Okay, hang
on a second, what was going

808
00:53:23,119 --> 00:53:29,920
on in society? Because I don't
think that any parents don't love their kids.

809
00:53:30,519 --> 00:53:35,639
And I came from what my sister
would call a violent household. I

810
00:53:35,760 --> 00:53:37,960
never thought of it that way.
But if I started to tell stories to

811
00:53:38,039 --> 00:53:43,280
people, they go the fuck and
I go, yeah, so, and

812
00:53:43,320 --> 00:53:46,679
then I have friends who uh never
heard of, never saw the parents argue,

813
00:53:46,760 --> 00:53:51,159
know that they had disagreements, but
that everything was settled out out of

814
00:53:51,199 --> 00:53:57,719
their earshot, and everything was calm. I know now the people that I

815
00:53:57,800 --> 00:54:02,719
know were like that are more houses
with all daughters. So there was all

816
00:54:02,760 --> 00:54:07,239
women. So and it was a
little counter. We were a mixed house

817
00:54:07,480 --> 00:54:10,119
and my house was a fucking frat
house when the guys you're little. So

818
00:54:10,639 --> 00:54:14,639
yeah, it was always chaos.
So I don't know if that's part of

819
00:54:14,679 --> 00:54:16,840
it. I didn't have little girls, but I also think that it was

820
00:54:16,960 --> 00:54:22,280
highly dysfunctional. But going back to
this, so you come off World War

821
00:54:22,320 --> 00:54:28,639
two and it was a win,
Yes, and you're feeling good. All

822
00:54:29,079 --> 00:54:32,159
right, grades, but they were
heroes. Go with my go with my

823
00:54:32,280 --> 00:54:36,679
theory on the law of attraction.
Just follow this and see if see if

824
00:54:37,239 --> 00:54:40,360
you can see any correlations. So
World War two, when we're on a

825
00:54:40,440 --> 00:54:44,920
high, we come back, everybody's
banging, having kids, they're building houses,

826
00:54:44,960 --> 00:54:50,480
you're getting your house jobs. Where
the economy going, everything's coming along.

827
00:54:50,559 --> 00:54:53,159
We got this Americans, the American
dream. People are living in the

828
00:54:53,159 --> 00:54:57,199
American dream. Everybody's feeling good.
Things are cooking right. There were no

829
00:54:57,239 --> 00:55:00,239
middle classes around the rest of the
world. No, And I would say

830
00:55:00,280 --> 00:55:05,280
even in America. One of the
things that makes it great is there's no

831
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:07,679
real class. There's class distinction,
but you don't have to stay in that

832
00:55:07,719 --> 00:55:12,320
class. You can rise, you
can fall, but you can you can.

833
00:55:12,519 --> 00:55:19,920
Yeah. So and then Vietnam comes. Vietnam comes. And I was

834
00:55:19,960 --> 00:55:23,440
saying one of the recent podcasts,
I don't know anybody who got spin on,

835
00:55:23,480 --> 00:55:27,559
but I said, I've talked to
like six guys who were non guys,

836
00:55:27,599 --> 00:55:30,480
and none of them had that experience. But that's six, that's not

837
00:55:30,960 --> 00:55:35,079
many. So I don't want I
don't want to discount because somebody, oh,

838
00:55:35,360 --> 00:55:37,800
my uncle that's what maybe Okay,
I can't say that, but I

839
00:55:37,840 --> 00:55:42,239
always wonder if like this story got
greater later. That's always been my worry

840
00:55:42,280 --> 00:55:45,199
with things like that. I think
there was descent because no one understood why

841
00:55:45,199 --> 00:55:47,199
we were there. I don't even
think the soldiers knew. It was to

842
00:55:47,199 --> 00:55:50,679
stop the spread of communism. We
tried to get the friends to fight it.

843
00:55:50,719 --> 00:55:52,800
They they lost. So we we
we were in, and then it

844
00:55:52,840 --> 00:55:55,960
was big bad America and we're going
all in. We're going all in,

845
00:55:57,039 --> 00:56:00,760
war contracts, Kronkite goes in and
so what. But now we got people

846
00:56:01,400 --> 00:56:07,719
who some of them who come back
severely damaged and no way to know.

847
00:56:07,840 --> 00:56:12,800
Nobody talked about. That's why the
movie Born on the Fourth of July was

848
00:56:12,800 --> 00:56:16,039
made. That's why, like Springsteen
wrote, USA, Yes, yeah,

849
00:56:16,159 --> 00:56:19,519
I was, you know, first
kick, I took it, I hit

850
00:56:19,519 --> 00:56:22,760
the ground. But then I get
into a little scrape. They to get

851
00:56:22,760 --> 00:56:23,880
out of it. They put a
gun in my hand and send me off

852
00:56:23,880 --> 00:56:27,880
to kill the yellow man. That's
what I think. The lyrics are born

853
00:56:27,880 --> 00:56:30,880
in the USA. So I so
then i started I'm watching this. I

854
00:56:30,880 --> 00:56:34,480
go, Okay, you came back. You didn't really know what you were

855
00:56:34,480 --> 00:56:37,239
fighting for now there's divisions. Some
people see you as an enemy within your

856
00:56:37,280 --> 00:56:42,400
own country, or maybe you felt
that way. You applied meaning to whatever,

857
00:56:42,559 --> 00:56:45,960
right, whatever you think, and
uh, and now you're going to

858
00:56:46,039 --> 00:56:50,960
raise kids and it's kind of like
you're fucked up. You're trying to appease

859
00:56:51,000 --> 00:56:52,920
your parents. They're telling you there's
still an influence on you no matter how

860
00:56:52,920 --> 00:56:54,960
old they are, as long as
they're on the planet, you're always going

861
00:56:55,000 --> 00:56:59,960
to be their kid. And I
go and you're just kind of like,

862
00:57:00,440 --> 00:57:04,760
fuck it whatever. I don't know
if that's part of it. Because my

863
00:57:04,920 --> 00:57:08,719
dad didn't go to NAM, my
uncle did. My grandmother didn't want two

864
00:57:08,760 --> 00:57:12,239
guys in Noms. She was very
worried she was gonna lose. She didn't

865
00:57:12,239 --> 00:57:14,360
want to lose both her sons,
who she was trying to get my dad

866
00:57:14,400 --> 00:57:16,880
to defer, and he wouldn't.
He went in he could take in the

867
00:57:16,880 --> 00:57:20,719
college to firment. He didn't.
He got a lottery number and it was

868
00:57:20,760 --> 00:57:24,880
such a low lottery number like whatever
that he never got drafted. But he

869
00:57:24,880 --> 00:57:28,960
wouldn't do that because his brother was
in NAM and he wasn't gonna do that.

870
00:57:29,239 --> 00:57:31,199
And my uncle was a pilot in
Noam and then went on to be

871
00:57:31,239 --> 00:57:35,840
an airline pilot and that was the
end of that. Uh. But I

872
00:57:35,880 --> 00:57:37,480
mean, you know, you had
guys dying of agent Orange. You had

873
00:57:37,599 --> 00:57:40,679
got all these all these horrible things, and I just wonder if, like,

874
00:57:40,760 --> 00:57:45,519
does that fuck up the psyche of
that generation. You didn't win the

875
00:57:45,519 --> 00:57:49,239
war like your dad did. Right, we had World War Two. Guys,

876
00:57:49,320 --> 00:57:52,559
their sons go to Nam, they
don't win, They're not appreciated.

877
00:57:52,559 --> 00:57:55,039
They're not coming home to Rah rah
rah. They're coming home to what the

878
00:57:55,079 --> 00:57:59,480
fuck were you doing? You know, a division in the country trying to

879
00:57:59,559 --> 00:58:01,039
choose their own thing. Some of
them who fought. Oh yeah, you're

880
00:58:01,079 --> 00:58:05,400
right, we shouldn't have been there, and people are dying for what more?

881
00:58:05,719 --> 00:58:07,320
You know, all this stuff just
trusts. They weren't even accepted at

882
00:58:07,360 --> 00:58:12,000
vfw's when they came home, like
no, okay, you know it's like,

883
00:58:12,519 --> 00:58:14,760
yeah, I don't know that.
But I had a couple of people

884
00:58:14,800 --> 00:58:16,119
tell me that no, they could
be. And I also had I also

885
00:58:16,159 --> 00:58:20,559
had my father asked, asked my
fact. My father's Vietnam was Vietnam age

886
00:58:21,079 --> 00:58:23,800
and he couldn't go because he had
flat feet and cross high that'd been a

887
00:58:23,880 --> 00:58:29,960
blessing. Seriously, he wanted to
go, but he didn't really fully understand

888
00:58:29,960 --> 00:58:32,079
the scope of things, and then
realized later on, oh yeah, that

889
00:58:32,079 --> 00:58:36,440
that would have been a horrible idea. But he said he'd ask people at

890
00:58:36,480 --> 00:58:37,320
work that he worked with, Hey, can I ask you a question about

891
00:58:37,360 --> 00:58:42,320
NOM? And he goes to a
man. Several of them said, I

892
00:58:42,320 --> 00:58:44,920
really don't want to talk about it. Yeah, this is what I'm saying.

893
00:58:45,239 --> 00:58:49,760
So now you've got that and they're
coming back, and I think that

894
00:58:49,760 --> 00:58:53,119
that just permeates out into society.
So everybody start of that age that her

895
00:58:53,199 --> 00:58:57,960
parents. He starts to see what
the Joneses are doing with their kids,

896
00:58:58,159 --> 00:59:00,960
and so you do it with your
kid, and you maybe you talk about

897
00:59:00,960 --> 00:59:04,719
it, and the mom's talk and
this, and I think that that's how

898
00:59:04,760 --> 00:59:07,719
we do things, and we look
around and now it's the same thing.

899
00:59:07,800 --> 00:59:13,000
But where you're saying, like over
correction, I don't know we were allowed

900
00:59:13,039 --> 00:59:15,840
to just dude. I think of
the things I did, and I go,

901
00:59:16,320 --> 00:59:20,639
I would never let my kids do
that. I think my parents would

902
00:59:20,639 --> 00:59:23,960
have never let me do that.
But I think that that was a generation

903
00:59:24,079 --> 00:59:29,199
of parenting that was emotionally unavailable.
I really do. I could see that,

904
00:59:29,280 --> 00:59:32,519
I really do. I think it
was because you didn't live up to

905
00:59:32,599 --> 00:59:37,480
your dad's war, yes, and
whether you went or not, And I

906
00:59:37,519 --> 00:59:40,960
think that permeates society. I think
your parents things are changing, distracting.

907
00:59:42,000 --> 00:59:45,360
They're trying to live the American dream
and keep the jobs and things are different,

908
00:59:45,400 --> 00:59:49,679
and there's college education and not,
and you're trying to be better than

909
00:59:49,719 --> 00:59:52,159
your parents. And I just think
you're emotionally unavailable. And I think all

910
00:59:52,159 --> 00:59:58,719
that shit from the wars fucked either
do well or don't right, And even

911
00:59:58,719 --> 01:00:00,440
the people who didn't go to the
war, what opinion on the watched the

912
01:00:00,519 --> 01:00:07,480
Arnold documentary. He talks about Austria
losing and how violent the men were and

913
01:00:07,519 --> 01:00:12,639
how angry and defeated and lost they
felt after losing them. He felt emasculated

914
01:00:12,920 --> 01:00:15,639
exactly. So how are you supposed
to raise a young man when you can't

915
01:00:15,000 --> 01:00:19,079
feel like you're a man yourself?
What I'm saying, so, now now

916
01:00:19,199 --> 01:00:22,880
you come up right, and you're
going to try to go the other way

917
01:00:22,119 --> 01:00:24,079
right. A lot of times do
the other way. I used to always

918
01:00:24,159 --> 01:00:28,840
joke, how do I parent?
Do everything opposite my parents do? I

919
01:00:28,920 --> 01:00:30,239
used to say that as a joke. I watched my brother and sister,

920
01:00:30,400 --> 01:00:36,199
and that's exactly what they sort of
do, right. Not that my parents

921
01:00:36,320 --> 01:00:40,280
certainly gave us every opportunity they could, but it was the emotional unavailability was

922
01:00:40,320 --> 01:00:43,960
certainly a thing, and I think
it was a thing for a generation.

923
01:00:44,199 --> 01:00:46,199
I think all those parents, I
think that they also lived through the sexual

924
01:00:46,599 --> 01:00:51,559
revolution. Yeah, are you're talking
about trying to gain a foothold. My

925
01:00:51,639 --> 01:00:57,480
mother couldn't get on a mortgage in
nineteen seventy whatever three because even though she

926
01:00:57,599 --> 01:01:00,880
had a job and a master's degree, they said, because you're gonna take

927
01:01:00,920 --> 01:01:02,639
time off to have a baby.
And she fought and fought and fought to

928
01:01:02,639 --> 01:01:06,519
get her name on that mortgage because
she goes, I'm an earner, Yeah,

929
01:01:06,559 --> 01:01:09,079
fuck you, you gotta you gotta
count my income, and they go,

930
01:01:09,159 --> 01:01:12,440
yeah, but you're gonna take time
off to have babies. You can't.

931
01:01:12,760 --> 01:01:16,280
And you understand the banks they're not
they're not emotional. They're looking at

932
01:01:16,320 --> 01:01:20,280
it from business, right, strictly
business. How are we getting our money

933
01:01:20,320 --> 01:01:23,400
back? You're gonna base it on
this salary, but that half that salary

934
01:01:23,440 --> 01:01:27,079
is going to go away if you
take time off to have a child.

935
01:01:27,760 --> 01:01:30,559
Right, Yeah, and then you
know on the flip side too, you

936
01:01:30,559 --> 01:01:35,199
know, with parents in that in
that generation and everything else, all of

937
01:01:35,239 --> 01:01:37,400
a sudden somewhere in the seventies or
eighties, and you could tell me better

938
01:01:37,400 --> 01:01:39,960
than I could, you know.
I mean, your parents were kind of

939
01:01:40,000 --> 01:01:44,199
like the exception to the rule that
it became the norm. Two parents working.

940
01:01:44,559 --> 01:01:45,679
Yeah, you two parent, two
income. Okay, I want to

941
01:01:45,719 --> 01:01:52,920
know where that's kind of came from. My my dad's my grandfather, who

942
01:01:52,920 --> 01:01:59,159
I loved and adored, had arthritis
so badly as a young man rheumataid arthritis

943
01:01:59,519 --> 01:02:02,039
rheumatoi North Randers. Yeah, that
he was in a wheelchair. Now,

944
01:02:02,079 --> 01:02:05,320
I don't know how it went away. I don't know how it felt.

945
01:02:05,360 --> 01:02:07,880
I don't know because I knew him. We used to write, but he

946
01:02:07,000 --> 01:02:10,599
was he was in a wheelchair when
my dad was like three. My grandmother

947
01:02:10,679 --> 01:02:15,760
had to work. So my grandmother, my dad's mom, always worked.

948
01:02:15,800 --> 01:02:21,119
She was the secretary for Yuie Carry
and his oil company, and he eventually

949
01:02:21,199 --> 01:02:24,960
became the governor of New York and
she but she was his secretary. So

950
01:02:25,480 --> 01:02:29,800
a woman working in my dad's world
was just normal. My mom had gone

951
01:02:29,800 --> 01:02:31,840
to college. It was just normal. So that was and that was so

952
01:02:31,920 --> 01:02:36,719
that was my normal. But you're
right, a lot of my friend's moms

953
01:02:36,719 --> 01:02:38,840
didn't. And so by the time, like the nineties, kid, right,

954
01:02:38,960 --> 01:02:43,039
I mean you and I both have
serious There's a Lithium channel. It's

955
01:02:43,039 --> 01:02:46,159
the nineties alternative and they have this
woman who sounds like Daria from Beavis and

956
01:02:46,199 --> 01:02:49,280
butt Has. She had her own
show, Daria, you know, yeah,

957
01:02:49,320 --> 01:02:53,199
and it's the sarcastic voiceover lady who
goes latch key kids Unite. Meaning

958
01:02:53,599 --> 01:02:57,880
in the nineties, we all came
home from school, our parents were working.

959
01:02:57,960 --> 01:03:00,119
Yeah, so we had to raise
ourselves, right, you know.

960
01:03:00,159 --> 01:03:01,920
I think that's also part of it
when your parents, when both your parents

961
01:03:01,920 --> 01:03:06,320
are out working. Now, like
at a certain age, you're raising yourself.

962
01:03:06,840 --> 01:03:08,039
It's like a little bit, a
little bit when he come home.

963
01:03:08,199 --> 01:03:12,239
Yeah yeah, I loved it.
Yeah yeah, because now MTV Baby,

964
01:03:12,400 --> 01:03:15,320
m TV. Oh yeah, I
went to my Playboy magazine, did you

965
01:03:15,719 --> 01:03:22,679
banks one now go home talking about
Yeah, I loved it. I loved

966
01:03:22,679 --> 01:03:24,000
it. When they were god,
oh god, it was fucking heaven.

967
01:03:25,639 --> 01:03:29,679
I used to hate it. I
used to be able to I used to

968
01:03:29,679 --> 01:03:32,960
be able to tell who was coming
up the road by the sound of the

969
01:03:34,079 --> 01:03:37,159
car. I would know who was
driving by Oh yeah, my father drove

970
01:03:37,199 --> 01:03:39,000
a Chrysler. They have a very
distinctive sound. And I could hear when

971
01:03:39,000 --> 01:03:43,960
it was my parents coming and it
would always be like two houses down and

972
01:03:44,039 --> 01:03:45,239
I could hear them, and I'd
be like, oh fuck, and you

973
01:03:45,519 --> 01:03:50,320
I would be scrambling to do whatever
I was doing to not be doing,

974
01:03:50,760 --> 01:03:52,559
you know, because there was always
something and then they were always bitching at

975
01:03:52,559 --> 01:03:55,719
you. That was vacuum. Yeah, they were emotionally unavailable. I'm just

976
01:03:57,280 --> 01:03:59,840
so I think that's to your point, the over correction, But I think

977
01:03:59,840 --> 01:04:01,679
it. I think war fucks us
up. Yeah, of course it does.

978
01:04:02,239 --> 01:04:04,880
Of course it does. Yeah,
I just think it does. I

979
01:04:04,880 --> 01:04:10,880
think it's the psyche, right,
Yeah, when everybody's great a loss or

980
01:04:11,000 --> 01:04:13,360
loss, we don't know what's going
on. Yeah, we feel defeated,

981
01:04:13,559 --> 01:04:15,960
split Germany in half. Yeah,
ye all right, Well take a moment.

982
01:04:16,119 --> 01:04:20,480
Uh got a bunch of things here. I got to tell you something

983
01:04:20,519 --> 01:04:24,199
I did learn over fourth of July. And I wonder if we're going to

984
01:04:24,239 --> 01:04:30,599
see uh this eventually. Just I
don't know if it'll go away in society,

985
01:04:30,599 --> 01:04:32,920
but it could get all that right
after this Jojo Bista and Wine Bar

986
01:04:33,039 --> 01:04:39,400
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987
01:04:39,400 --> 01:04:42,480
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988
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989
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990
01:04:48,360 --> 01:04:51,840
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991
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992
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993
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994
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995
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Feel so, it's almost like a hipper

996
01:05:41,320 --> 01:05:45,920
Elvis and definitely a Bruce influencer.
Right. I'm always wanted to got the

997
01:05:45,000 --> 01:05:49,480
sleeveless shirts. I don't remember what
he looked like. Not a great looking

998
01:05:49,519 --> 01:05:55,039
guy, I don't know. I've
always wanted to mash this sung up with

999
01:05:55,320 --> 01:05:58,679
Springsteen. She's the one, yeah, because that's why everybody looks at this

1000
01:05:58,719 --> 01:06:01,719
guy like he's Springsteen because the two
songs sound a lot alike. The thing

1001
01:06:01,920 --> 01:06:06,559
is, this is a bigger hit
than most Springsteen songs. Springsteen was like

1002
01:06:06,800 --> 01:06:11,559
he was big. But as our
friend Cana would tell us, we would

1003
01:06:11,559 --> 01:06:14,440
when he would play him on CMF, he only play certain Springsteen songs.

1004
01:06:14,480 --> 01:06:17,800
Yeah, because Springsteen didn't test well, like he didn't test as well as

1005
01:06:17,840 --> 01:06:23,159
Bob Seeger or the Eagles. But
yet he sells out arena still at like

1006
01:06:23,199 --> 01:06:28,920
seventy something years old when he goes
on tour. I love Bruce greatest concert

1007
01:06:28,960 --> 01:06:32,519
I've ever seen. That's why I
like when I hear about the Pearl James

1008
01:06:32,559 --> 01:06:36,119
On tour they had they've had a
stall in London, and the reasons because

1009
01:06:36,199 --> 01:06:40,679
Eddie's like sick or something, Eddie
Veteran, the lead singer, and people

1010
01:06:40,679 --> 01:06:45,000
are complaining that they're playing more for
tickets, but yet they're getting only two

1011
01:06:45,000 --> 01:06:48,199
hours instead of three hour shows and
they're sitting down for the first few songs,

1012
01:06:48,199 --> 01:06:54,119
so they're going slow and they're pacing
themselves. Oh my god, did

1013
01:06:54,159 --> 01:06:59,960
he rip this off? Not Bruce
Cafferty. Yeah, they sound almost exactly

1014
01:07:00,159 --> 01:07:04,239
like ship. I never noticed,
but that makes total sense. Like,

1015
01:07:04,360 --> 01:07:08,039
let me go back to the beginning
of this one. Here's the beginning.

1016
01:07:12,559 --> 01:07:14,280
No no, no, no,
no, no no. It might be

1017
01:07:14,320 --> 01:07:16,119
down a step, and then you
go to she's the one. It's up

1018
01:07:16,119 --> 01:07:28,800
a step. One. Cafferty may
have gone down a step and played down

1019
01:07:28,840 --> 01:07:35,159
the on the on the base end
of the piano. Oh my god,

1020
01:07:35,599 --> 01:07:43,440
they're very they're very close. I've
never heard about anybody. He's higher.

1021
01:07:43,719 --> 01:07:49,599
This is Cafferty. Yeah, he's
higher. This is lower. Well,

1022
01:07:49,639 --> 01:07:53,760
his his thing. I thought the
piano was higher. His piano is lower.

1023
01:07:53,760 --> 01:08:00,360
Springsty's pianos higher. This is Springsteen. Yeah, oh yeah, yeah,

1024
01:08:00,440 --> 01:08:02,119
you're right. It's almost like the
same exact. Yeah, weird,

1025
01:08:09,599 --> 01:08:15,400
Bruce wants to make some extra scratch. So what came out first? Great

1026
01:08:15,480 --> 01:08:18,560
questions? All right, I'm assuming
that she's the one came out. Didn't

1027
01:08:18,560 --> 01:08:28,520
that come out in the River album
or something? Ohay, Springsteen Anthology updated.

1028
01:08:29,840 --> 01:08:40,199
Oh they're giving me like a movie
Springsteen song hang on nineteen seventy five.

1029
01:08:40,359 --> 01:08:44,199
Okay, so I guaranteed John cafferck
after you ripped it off. Yeah,

1030
01:08:44,840 --> 01:08:48,039
holy fuck? Wow. What did
they tell you in songwriting when you

1031
01:08:48,039 --> 01:08:50,720
first try to write a song,
take take a song you love and do

1032
01:08:50,760 --> 01:08:56,359
it in reverse. Okay. But
the weird part is I don't know the

1033
01:08:56,720 --> 01:09:00,800
I don't know the the what is
it called? I want to say,

1034
01:09:00,960 --> 01:09:08,319
like, it's not copyright when they
go intellectual property, yeah, the intellectual

1035
01:09:08,399 --> 01:09:12,359
property law, or maybe I even
have that wrong. For music. I

1036
01:09:12,399 --> 01:09:15,560
don't think they can go in court
and play the music. I think you

1037
01:09:15,680 --> 01:09:20,760
have to give the written notes,
okay, And people look at that,

1038
01:09:21,520 --> 01:09:27,119
and I'm always confused because I go, what that doesn't make sense if that?

1039
01:09:27,359 --> 01:09:30,479
But I believe that's the rule.
I don't think they can play it.

1040
01:09:30,800 --> 01:09:32,960
I think you have to look at
the notes and go, wow,

1041
01:09:33,000 --> 01:09:36,640
they're similar, or read the lyrics
or whatever it is. And I go,

1042
01:09:36,680 --> 01:09:41,520
how do you take people who probably
have no musical training and get them

1043
01:09:41,560 --> 01:09:46,680
to decide because led Zeppelin took spirit? There's no way. There's no fucking

1044
01:09:46,720 --> 01:09:51,239
way. Spirit came first with this
song that they turned into or took the

1045
01:09:51,279 --> 01:09:55,560
beginning of it made Stairway to Heaven. If I played him side by side,

1046
01:09:55,800 --> 01:09:59,399
it's uncanny. The same thing here. How did now? Maybe Bruce

1047
01:09:59,479 --> 01:10:01,279
is just cooling. I don't give
a fuck. You know, hey,

1048
01:10:01,279 --> 01:10:04,159
man, the man made a song
people like it. Let him have it,

1049
01:10:05,239 --> 01:10:09,000
But Bruce could have used that money
was going through his tax problems in

1050
01:10:09,079 --> 01:10:13,840
the mid eighties. Yeah, how
I saw. I think Vanilla Ice ripped

1051
01:10:13,840 --> 01:10:15,640
off Queen. To this day,
he swears that his song is different.

1052
01:10:16,000 --> 01:10:19,359
Maybe I don't know. I don't. I have no idea. I'm not.

1053
01:10:19,920 --> 01:10:25,600
But to the untrained ear which I
would, I'd have to hear it.

1054
01:10:25,640 --> 01:10:28,640
To the untrained ear it. Yeah, I couldn't at first. I

1055
01:10:28,640 --> 01:10:32,800
would always think like I would get
confused under pressure or Ice Ice baby.

1056
01:10:32,880 --> 01:10:36,560
I couldn't tell. No Ice turned
up in a movie. I just saw

1057
01:10:38,199 --> 01:10:42,279
Rob van Winkle. Oh what the
hell did I see? I think it

1058
01:10:42,319 --> 01:10:47,560
was cool as eyes. Yeah,
he shows up, he showed. Oh

1059
01:10:48,840 --> 01:10:51,439
that's my boy with Adam Sandler.
Well, of course, it's an Adam

1060
01:10:51,479 --> 01:10:56,720
Sandler movie. But it's phenomenal.
It pulls everybody from it's great. It's

1061
01:10:56,760 --> 01:11:00,239
great he does. But Vanilla Ice
still looks great. Oh yeah, and

1062
01:11:00,359 --> 01:11:04,439
a multimillionaire with his properties and shit, Oh yeah whatever, he invested his

1063
01:11:04,439 --> 01:11:08,960
money. Well he took advantage of
his fifteen minutes. Yes, yes he

1064
01:11:09,000 --> 01:11:13,600
did. He certainly did. God
bless them smartly. So I learned something

1065
01:11:13,640 --> 01:11:20,000
over the America's birthday that America's early
columnists drank almost three times more than modern

1066
01:11:20,039 --> 01:11:25,239
Americans. Really, yeah, and
I go out, Maybe they thought the

1067
01:11:25,239 --> 01:11:28,760
water was bad and they had to
Maybe it wasn't bad alcohol. It might

1068
01:11:28,800 --> 01:11:31,479
have been bad, right, because
we have purification systems and all kinds of

1069
01:11:31,479 --> 01:11:34,960
things, even if we have dead
bodies floating our water. Here. Yeah,

1070
01:11:35,000 --> 01:11:39,520
they drank an average of six gallons
of pure alcohol every year. It's

1071
01:11:39,560 --> 01:11:43,279
a fact. Because I had to
look this up. I go, I'm

1072
01:11:43,279 --> 01:11:45,880
not sure. But then again,
you question everything, even the stuff that's

1073
01:11:45,920 --> 01:11:49,600
on the internet. In the eighteenth
century, there were more taverns per capita

1074
01:11:49,640 --> 01:11:53,720
than any other business in the country. Nowadays, the US has one of

1075
01:11:53,800 --> 01:11:58,079
the lowest rates of drinking in the
developed world, except for New York,

1076
01:11:58,079 --> 01:12:01,119
which I can't believe that. I
go, wait a second, I must

1077
01:12:01,159 --> 01:12:05,039
really be trying to skew that single
hand. You know. It's so it's

1078
01:12:05,079 --> 01:12:10,439
so funny. So you know,
in church, there's differences of opinion when

1079
01:12:10,479 --> 01:12:13,680
it comes to alcohol, right,
you know, there are some you know,

1080
01:12:13,800 --> 01:12:16,119
if you read the Bible through,
you know there are warnings against alcohol.

1081
01:12:16,159 --> 01:12:19,520
At the same time, alcohol is
a blessing and the idea is,

1082
01:12:19,560 --> 01:12:24,399
at least in the Baptist Church,
refrain, whereas in other denominations is like

1083
01:12:24,520 --> 01:12:28,640
moderation. Right. John Calvin is
the father of Calvinism, and John Calvin

1084
01:12:28,640 --> 01:12:31,640
had a contract to get like two
to three hundred gallons of wine a year

1085
01:12:31,960 --> 01:12:35,880
as a stipend at his church.
So, I mean, you know,

1086
01:12:36,119 --> 01:12:41,960
I think we look at alcohol differently
since the since the prohibition days. I

1087
01:12:42,000 --> 01:12:45,239
still think we have that one hundred
year you know, you know, I

1088
01:12:45,279 --> 01:12:48,840
don't want to say stench, but
like maybe it's one hundred year's stench of

1089
01:12:48,880 --> 01:12:51,680
like alcohol is bad, it's it
should be prohibitive, it's ill, it's

1090
01:12:51,760 --> 01:12:55,680
evil, that type of thing.
You shouldn't do it. And you know,

1091
01:12:55,720 --> 01:12:59,960
we see people dying in or in
dwis or whatever or drunk driving app

1092
01:13:00,000 --> 01:13:01,760
ex So we say, see see
what alcohol can do. But no,

1093
01:13:01,840 --> 01:13:04,560
what you did was you got in
the behind the wheel of the car when

1094
01:13:04,560 --> 01:13:08,920
you shouldn't have, right, you
know what I'm saying. So I think

1095
01:13:09,000 --> 01:13:12,880
alcohol can be vilified. I don't
recommend it. It's not healthy for you

1096
01:13:12,920 --> 01:13:15,600
at all in any sense, except
for I think tequila or guinness. But

1097
01:13:15,640 --> 01:13:18,439
at the end of the day,
hey, I don't think it's the it's

1098
01:13:18,520 --> 01:13:25,279
thank you for that. Yeah,
you're welcome. I love drinking. I

1099
01:13:25,319 --> 01:13:28,720
love it. I love drinking.
I love getting a buzz. It makes

1100
01:13:28,720 --> 01:13:31,880
me happy. I do what Kevin
calls billing. After that, I get

1101
01:13:31,920 --> 01:13:36,039
all charming and fun. And you
know I, Charlie, I love it.

1102
01:13:36,119 --> 01:13:40,239
I love alcohol. I love it. I love it, love it,

1103
01:13:40,359 --> 01:13:45,359
love it. I grew up with
it. I've been drinking in excess

1104
01:13:45,399 --> 01:13:49,239
since I was fourteen years old.
I don't know why. I often wonder

1105
01:13:49,439 --> 01:13:56,760
what residuals will happen down the line
from the amount of excessive blackout drinking up

1106
01:13:56,760 --> 01:14:00,199
into my fifties. I don't know. But I have enjoyed it every single

1107
01:14:00,279 --> 01:14:03,920
fucking time. I mean, I
love drinking. I don't know what it

1108
01:14:04,000 --> 01:14:06,600
is. I love it. I
love everyone else. I've never really like

1109
01:14:06,680 --> 01:14:10,960
enjoyed it, like I don't mind
having a cocktail with friends, you know,

1110
01:14:11,199 --> 01:14:14,399
but I don't want to have too
many. And I love it.

1111
01:14:14,439 --> 01:14:18,399
I don't want to go because I
will lose control and then I don't remember,

1112
01:14:18,560 --> 01:14:23,000
and I could be the funniest guy
or the moodiest guy, it depends,

1113
01:14:23,119 --> 01:14:27,640
or the angriest guy all kinds of
things could happen, But I like

1114
01:14:27,720 --> 01:14:30,640
where I can just get that happy
buzz and just have a good time and

1115
01:14:30,760 --> 01:14:32,520
you know, it's just fun and
you relax and you're good, you feel

1116
01:14:32,560 --> 01:14:39,000
safe and I'm not driving or whatever
like that. Other drugs not such a

1117
01:14:39,000 --> 01:14:41,960
fan. I mean, I like
once in a while eating a gummy because

1118
01:14:41,960 --> 01:14:45,640
it's kind of it's uplifting. If
you get the right one, it's uplifting.

1119
01:14:45,680 --> 01:14:47,479
And I like that. I do
like being slightly and a breathing.

1120
01:14:47,720 --> 01:14:51,119
I can't help it. I don't
know what that is. You, Yeah,

1121
01:14:51,159 --> 01:14:55,119
man, it does. I feel
good when I'm having cocktails up.

1122
01:14:58,159 --> 01:15:00,840
Maybe what's happening? Know, all
of a sudden, I'll say things that

1123
01:15:00,920 --> 01:15:06,640
I probably shouldn't say, so we
know some of it lands Well, well,

1124
01:15:06,720 --> 01:15:10,520
that's all right. We chug out, Danny, we chug on.

1125
01:15:10,760 --> 01:15:12,920
It's just a weird thing like that. I had a buddy tell me over

1126
01:15:12,920 --> 01:15:15,079
the weekend. I was at my
niece's birthday party and she said or and

1127
01:15:15,119 --> 01:15:17,800
he said, he goes, I
remember I grew up because that's where he

1128
01:15:17,800 --> 01:15:19,800
grew up. He said, he
grew up in your Kodak And he said,

1129
01:15:19,840 --> 01:15:24,760
I remember there used to be this
bar across from the Kodak Theater where

1130
01:15:24,800 --> 01:15:27,399
he goes seven o'clock in the morning. Man, that place was hot because

1131
01:15:27,399 --> 01:15:30,800
all the C shift workers, so
that was their evening. They go and

1132
01:15:30,840 --> 01:15:32,279
have a cocktail. You got it. When I was that bar is out

1133
01:15:32,279 --> 01:15:36,600
there anymore. When I was the
marketing director at twenty three years old of

1134
01:15:36,600 --> 01:15:42,960
a radio station, I used to
take the mobile home of rock and roll

1135
01:15:43,000 --> 01:15:45,279
down to that bar with coffee and
donuts and I would give him out as

1136
01:15:45,319 --> 01:15:47,960
people were leaving the bar. Oh
wow, seven o'clock in the morning.

1137
01:15:49,079 --> 01:15:53,359
Brilliant. Yeah. It wasn't my
idea. Yeah, with somebody in there,

1138
01:15:53,399 --> 01:15:55,840
but we wound up doing it.
We did it for a little bit.

1139
01:15:57,000 --> 01:15:59,399
Well, it was one of these
things where you're right, I mean

1140
01:15:59,439 --> 01:16:01,760
you I think at the time it
was more of a pain of the ass

1141
01:16:01,760 --> 01:16:04,039
and it wasn't what I wanted to
do. I wanted to be behind a

1142
01:16:04,079 --> 01:16:08,479
microphone, not you know, doing
that. But it was about touching people

1143
01:16:08,720 --> 01:16:13,439
and doing that. You know,
we talk about drinking. I jokingly say

1144
01:16:13,479 --> 01:16:17,279
things like blacking out, although I
certainly have you worry about the residuals.

1145
01:16:17,319 --> 01:16:21,720
But what they did a poll,
I think it was a you GOV poll

1146
01:16:23,119 --> 01:16:30,079
of the most embarrassing thing you've ever
forgotten, and like a spouse's birthday,

1147
01:16:30,199 --> 01:16:33,000
Yeah, kid's birthday, because allegedly
we have like three hundred and thirty two.

1148
01:16:33,399 --> 01:16:38,560
I don't know how they come up
with that number. But forgetful moment

1149
01:16:38,640 --> 01:16:44,119
a year okay, according to these
things that I've read, and I go,

1150
01:16:44,600 --> 01:16:48,039
what's the thing I forget the most
people's names? Oh, that's terrible

1151
01:16:48,159 --> 01:16:53,159
names. And I've met some people
like seventeen times. I had a slide

1152
01:16:53,159 --> 01:16:56,960
out of this studio once not that
long ago and call somebody and go,

1153
01:16:57,279 --> 01:17:00,399
hey man, so and so just
showed up here. It's the guy that

1154
01:17:00,439 --> 01:17:02,359
blank at blanket blank blank, what's
his name? And they go, you

1155
01:17:02,520 --> 01:17:08,239
idiot, Like I can't remember.
But I don't want that person who walked

1156
01:17:08,279 --> 01:17:12,560
in here. They're all happy and
says hey man, and it is introducing

1157
01:17:12,600 --> 01:17:15,760
their wife. I don't want them
to think I forgot them, because I

1158
01:17:15,199 --> 01:17:18,640
know who you are and what you
do. I just don't know your name.

1159
01:17:18,920 --> 01:17:21,880
At the moment, I didn't know
the person's name. And I go,

1160
01:17:23,199 --> 01:17:27,800
I have done this so many times
because you meet so many people right

1161
01:17:27,920 --> 01:17:30,399
at times that I'll always try this
move. Hey, this is my friend

1162
01:17:30,479 --> 01:17:34,000
Dan, and they go, oh, day Dan, And I think the

1163
01:17:34,079 --> 01:17:38,640
other person, if they're pretty savvy, picks up and they don't want to

1164
01:17:38,640 --> 01:17:43,279
embarrass because they'll do it too,
so they'll say, I'm I'm Joe Schmo.

1165
01:17:43,600 --> 01:17:46,359
I you know, I have a
painting business that I do, and

1166
01:17:46,359 --> 01:17:49,520
blah blah blah, and and everything's
cool. And then I'm go, oh

1167
01:17:49,640 --> 01:17:53,199
yay, yeah, I go Joe. I got to tell you because then

1168
01:17:53,239 --> 01:17:57,920
I would make sure I use the
name right. Right. It's terrible,

1169
01:17:57,920 --> 01:18:01,039
but that's that's right. To use
name three times and it's yours. Yeah,

1170
01:18:01,119 --> 01:18:03,720
Like Andrew Carnegie wrote, or Dale
Carnegie wrote to uh, how to

1171
01:18:03,720 --> 01:18:09,000
win friends and influence people. The
most wonderful sound is somebody's next own name.

1172
01:18:09,079 --> 01:18:11,560
Yeah you know, yeah, So
don't overdo it. But see here's

1173
01:18:11,560 --> 01:18:15,319
the genuine about it. When you
repeat it, then you start to remember

1174
01:18:15,359 --> 01:18:16,199
it. It goes out with the
arm and out of your mouth and into

1175
01:18:16,199 --> 01:18:19,680
your brain. When I hear my
name, it doesn't it's not sweet on

1176
01:18:19,800 --> 01:18:24,079
my years, depends on what version
of my name, because there was always

1177
01:18:24,079 --> 01:18:27,800
well Dan or Danny. I guess
Billy. If it's Billy, I know

1178
01:18:27,840 --> 01:18:30,159
it's a friendly thing, and I
don't mind when people do that. But

1179
01:18:30,239 --> 01:18:38,239
when I used to hear like the
first consonant of my name hit hard Bill,

1180
01:18:38,760 --> 01:18:45,159
I'm like, fuck I So it
was almost weaponized Bill. I got

1181
01:18:45,399 --> 01:18:47,760
and I I got it all my
life, but probably because I stepped in

1182
01:18:47,840 --> 01:18:54,960
more ship than I needed to.
So how about passwords? Oh yeah,

1183
01:18:54,960 --> 01:18:58,680
I have this problem. Yeah,
because so I have my passwords stored on

1184
01:18:58,760 --> 01:19:00,800
my computer. Uh huh, which
is not a great idea, but you

1185
01:19:00,800 --> 01:19:03,359
know I forget passwords all the time. So here's the problem. When you

1186
01:19:03,359 --> 01:19:10,000
forget your password anything, and sometimes
you'll forget your your user name. Yes,

1187
01:19:10,079 --> 01:19:13,720
right, So now you end up
like me with two Ticketmaster accounts and

1188
01:19:13,720 --> 01:19:16,920
two NFL plus accounts. So now
you're paying extra money and it's it's like

1189
01:19:17,000 --> 01:19:20,960
he can't try to cancel them.
Yeah, like ones on the Roku stick

1190
01:19:21,000 --> 01:19:24,000
the other one. I'm like,
how do I cancel? Yes? You

1191
01:19:24,039 --> 01:19:27,199
know I have two accounts? Why
because I forgot my password. I have

1192
01:19:27,199 --> 01:19:30,760
a I have a friend from uh
that I grew up with that will once

1193
01:19:30,760 --> 01:19:36,720
in a while hack in and use
their parents' Amazon Prime account for movies and

1194
01:19:36,760 --> 01:19:41,399
things because they always know that their
dad was such a Giants fan, so

1195
01:19:41,399 --> 01:19:45,920
it would always be a player's name, and like they're like straighthand ninety two.

1196
01:19:45,079 --> 01:19:49,119
Yes, right, so that was
it. He would just guess ninety

1197
01:19:49,119 --> 01:19:54,239
two, but he would guess.
He would goes, I don't That's how

1198
01:19:54,239 --> 01:19:57,560
the NFL's twitter got hacked. Yes, that's what I'm saying. I go

1199
01:19:58,039 --> 01:20:01,520
sometimes if you're if we make too
easy for us to remember other people who

1200
01:20:01,640 --> 01:20:05,920
are I don't know or O,
you well can hacking. I'm not even

1201
01:20:05,960 --> 01:20:12,479
saying yeah, outside forces, I'm
talking about your family could hack in if

1202
01:20:12,520 --> 01:20:15,800
they know that Danny's a big Yankee
fan and it's Jeter two. Yeah,

1203
01:20:15,840 --> 01:20:17,399
you know. I mean that's why
I always have a special method for my

1204
01:20:17,439 --> 01:20:21,079
passwords. Yeah, for every password. It's a special it's a very special

1205
01:20:21,079 --> 01:20:25,159
method which I'll not get into here. But the thing is, though you

1206
01:20:25,199 --> 01:20:28,640
have all different passwords, oh yes, yeah, yes, all different passwords,

1207
01:20:29,199 --> 01:20:31,800
but I have a special formula that
I use. But you know,

1208
01:20:32,039 --> 01:20:36,039
if you use the same password for
seventeen different things, you're gonna get hacked.

1209
01:20:36,039 --> 01:20:41,479
Guys, You're gonna get hacked.
It's going to happen, you know,

1210
01:20:41,880 --> 01:20:46,479
So I mean so yeah, but
passwords are tough but yeah, and

1211
01:20:46,600 --> 01:20:51,399
names. So I have a funny
story about my wife. Yeah. I

1212
01:20:51,439 --> 01:20:55,279
finally realized who she was when I
was like first, like, oh,

1213
01:20:55,279 --> 01:20:58,560
wow, she's beautiful. I like
to talk to her. I go,

1214
01:20:58,640 --> 01:21:03,319
hey, her band opened up for
a little uh they call it Toys for

1215
01:21:03,359 --> 01:21:10,800
Tots and no, Brennan bell Knapp
would always she was from the Fallen and

1216
01:21:10,840 --> 01:21:13,760
he would always do this event every
year. He'd have five bands play for

1217
01:21:13,840 --> 01:21:20,119
a winter a winter show either at
Pineapple Jacks or whatever, and the admission

1218
01:21:20,199 --> 01:21:24,800
was a donated toy. And so
we were the third band. Her band

1219
01:21:24,840 --> 01:21:27,119
was in the first band. And
I'm watching it, I'm like, wow,

1220
01:21:27,199 --> 01:21:30,640
she's really she's really pretty. She's
really good, you know, as

1221
01:21:30,640 --> 01:21:31,439
I'm going to introduce myself, like, oh, hi, I'm Dan,

1222
01:21:32,079 --> 01:21:35,239
Dan, It's Beth. Yeah,
nice to meet you, Beth. We've

1223
01:21:35,239 --> 01:21:40,800
met like seven times. I've been
at six of your shows. You've been

1224
01:21:40,840 --> 01:21:45,439
to one of mine before. But
nice to meet you. I'm sorry.

1225
01:21:45,479 --> 01:21:47,960
I'm sorry, Beth. She didn't
she was like she was cool. I

1226
01:21:48,000 --> 01:21:53,680
remember her name for that point forward, and now we're married, she still

1227
01:21:53,720 --> 01:21:57,840
does. She still breaks my stones
over sure, I'm sure, all right,

1228
01:21:58,800 --> 01:22:01,600
we'll take a moment. I'll give
you the This is an interesting story,

1229
01:22:01,880 --> 01:22:06,680
one that I think you can relate
to, and I can totally totally

1230
01:22:06,720 --> 01:22:15,560
see how a person in this situation
may feel. But my advice would be

1231
01:22:15,640 --> 01:22:19,159
different. Okay, all right,
all right, yeah, it would almost

1232
01:22:19,239 --> 01:22:23,880
go against the green. Let me
say that my advice may go against the

1233
01:22:23,920 --> 01:22:28,560
green. Yes, we'll get to
all that right after this. Leo says

1234
01:22:28,560 --> 01:22:31,199
everything you need to not heat up
your kitchen. That's right, pre made

1235
01:22:31,199 --> 01:22:35,159
meals ready for you to grab and
go from Keisha's to salads to maybe you

1236
01:22:35,159 --> 01:22:39,640
want sandwiches. Oh, you could
get some fresh baked bread or rolls,

1237
01:22:39,960 --> 01:22:42,640
and you can get all the boar's
head meats. Did you know that Leo's

1238
01:22:42,760 --> 01:22:45,239
is the only official boarshead deli of
distinction in the area. And I gotta

1239
01:22:45,279 --> 01:22:48,359
tell you, Boar's head meats are
so much better. They even have a

1240
01:22:48,399 --> 01:22:51,199
grabbing go case. You can go
right in there and pick up a half

1241
01:22:51,239 --> 01:22:56,279
pound of the boar's head London broil
and go the American cheese boom. We're

1242
01:22:56,319 --> 01:22:58,680
ready, we got it. Oh, don't forget the may age. Somebody

1243
01:22:58,680 --> 01:23:00,159
get the mustard. We're all set. You can make it. Go grab

1244
01:23:00,199 --> 01:23:02,520
some tomatoes. Will slice those up. We're not heating up the kitchen.

1245
01:23:02,680 --> 01:23:06,079
It's delicious. It's all thanks to
Leo's. Oh and why we're there,

1246
01:23:06,119 --> 01:23:11,119
we might as well get some cookies
or cakes or pies or whatever. They've

1247
01:23:11,119 --> 01:23:15,039
got it all Leos. What's the
best thing about Leo's? Everything on Despats

1248
01:23:15,079 --> 01:23:19,840
Drive in East Rochester and open every
day. Iron Smoke Distillery the internationally acclaimed

1249
01:23:19,880 --> 01:23:44,880
New York State farm distillery at Ironsmokedistillery
dot com. There's another song you've probably

1250
01:23:44,880 --> 01:23:50,600
never heard. No so hacky Diamonds. No it's not. I'm wearing the

1251
01:23:50,640 --> 01:24:06,640
shirt, but I have no stock? Is this Johnny Close? Not close?

1252
01:24:06,760 --> 01:24:28,920
Actually, but I see what you
were saying as John Hyatt, Okay,

1253
01:24:29,079 --> 01:24:33,239
John Hia Macgoner's. Actually you did
this with a band called I always

1254
01:24:33,319 --> 01:24:36,880
liked it. We have to check
out some new music this week. Well,

1255
01:24:38,600 --> 01:24:41,680
there's so much music, right.
There's a like when we play that

1256
01:24:41,720 --> 01:24:45,119
game, there's a whole era that
I didn't really pay attention to. I

1257
01:24:45,119 --> 01:24:47,960
don't know Puddle of Mud that well. And I like some of the stuff.

1258
01:24:48,000 --> 01:24:51,520
I don't you know, some of
those post grunge bands. I don't

1259
01:24:51,560 --> 01:24:56,079
really know those early two thousands.
Yeah, if they weren't pop, I

1260
01:24:56,119 --> 01:25:00,640
don't think I you know, because
uh, Top forty State were around,

1261
01:25:00,680 --> 01:25:02,479
and I kind of like pop music. To be honest with you, I

1262
01:25:02,520 --> 01:25:06,720
do too. Yeah. I played
the tiki torches open because I'm talking to

1263
01:25:06,720 --> 01:25:14,199
a friend of mine and he,
uh, he like some people, and

1264
01:25:14,239 --> 01:25:18,000
I like this. I have a
friends with a couple. They've been married

1265
01:25:18,039 --> 01:25:23,279
for six years, probably together for
thirteen, and at the end of June

1266
01:25:23,680 --> 01:25:30,079
they celebrate their first date more than
they celebrate their wedding anniversary. And I

1267
01:25:30,079 --> 01:25:31,760
always thought it was the woman because
I'm like, well, guy, I

1268
01:25:31,760 --> 01:25:35,199
can remember the fucking first date of
their first date. I can probably tell

1269
01:25:35,239 --> 01:25:41,039
you. I can tell you where
I went on first dates with people,

1270
01:25:41,239 --> 01:25:43,479
but I can't tell you what the
date was. I had have no fucking

1271
01:25:43,520 --> 01:25:49,279
clue. I remember one day where
I was at I was in college and

1272
01:25:49,359 --> 01:25:55,279
I was at TGI Fridays and we're
having dinner and I'm all of a sudden,

1273
01:25:55,319 --> 01:25:58,039
I'm looking at the TV and I
go, why am I watching bowling?

1274
01:25:58,079 --> 01:26:03,560
I don't even like bowling? And
that chick never let me forget that,

1275
01:26:04,920 --> 01:26:10,880
never let me forget it. But
the this is Uh, but I

1276
01:26:10,880 --> 01:26:13,680
thought that was kind of cool.
But this is the avice, So this

1277
01:26:14,159 --> 01:26:17,960
chick to celebrate like they've been together
for two years dating, she's divorced,

1278
01:26:18,279 --> 01:26:23,000
he's never been married, engaged,
but never married. Uh. They she

1279
01:26:23,039 --> 01:26:26,359
wants to go to Lake George.
She loves Lake George. There's some area

1280
01:26:26,399 --> 01:26:30,359
around like George. It's I guess
kind of nice. That's right. And

1281
01:26:30,439 --> 01:26:34,279
he but that's where she used to
go with her husband. Now she's been

1282
01:26:34,680 --> 01:26:38,720
divorced for a number of years.
He doesn't want to go because that's where

1283
01:26:38,720 --> 01:26:43,600
she would go on vacation with her
husband. Okay, right now, what

1284
01:26:43,760 --> 01:26:48,520
is your thoughts? She wants to
go that's one of like there's some maybe

1285
01:26:48,560 --> 01:26:53,159
I'm wrong, somewhere in the Anirondecks
that she loves. She loves going,

1286
01:26:53,159 --> 01:26:57,840
and it's near Lake George. From
what I can understand, they Okay,

1287
01:26:58,279 --> 01:27:03,399
why, because I mean it kind
of shows insecurity in your part, does

1288
01:27:03,600 --> 01:27:08,079
that you don't want to go somewhere
where she went with her ex husband.

1289
01:27:08,119 --> 01:27:12,279
I could understand why, like all
of a sudden, like he's you know,

1290
01:27:12,359 --> 01:27:15,159
all of a sudden, now you're
replacing the ex husband. Before you

1291
01:27:15,199 --> 01:27:17,319
know it, She's gonna start to
groom you like the ex husband. So

1292
01:27:17,359 --> 01:27:20,920
she misses the ex husband. So
now this is kind of like a way

1293
01:27:21,000 --> 01:27:25,560
to bring back her ex husband without
being the ex Oskay, that's way deeper

1294
01:27:25,600 --> 01:27:27,520
than I ever would thought. I
mean, no, no, no,

1295
01:27:27,560 --> 01:27:30,479
that's very very good. I'm saying
like, yeah, I'll go, sure,

1296
01:27:30,000 --> 01:27:33,640
okay, whatever, but I'm okay. So my thing to guys like

1297
01:27:33,720 --> 01:27:36,239
can and I just don't want to
go. It's like they had memories there

1298
01:27:36,279 --> 01:27:39,119
and all that stuff. And I
said, yeah, but what if you

1299
01:27:39,159 --> 01:27:42,359
look at it this way? What
if you look at it is it's one

1300
01:27:42,359 --> 01:27:45,479
of her favorite places to go,
right, So that's not a their place,

1301
01:27:45,520 --> 01:27:48,880
it's a her place, and it's
so special to her that she wants

1302
01:27:48,920 --> 01:27:54,239
to share it with whoever is she's
closest to in her life, and that

1303
01:27:54,479 --> 01:27:58,079
at this moment in time, you
is you? So why not think of

1304
01:27:58,119 --> 01:28:00,960
it that way and not think of
it the other way? I go,

1305
01:28:00,000 --> 01:28:04,000
because you go the other way,
and it's gonna ruin the entire fucking week

1306
01:28:04,199 --> 01:28:10,880
weekend long weekend. Wherever you decide
to do, You're gonna destroy it.

1307
01:28:12,039 --> 01:28:15,000
Why why do that when if you
can look at it the other way?

1308
01:28:15,399 --> 01:28:19,279
And maybe you make more memories or
better memories, or have more fun or

1309
01:28:19,840 --> 01:28:23,439
I wouldn't be surprised if all of
a sudden, I always wanted to do

1310
01:28:23,479 --> 01:28:27,239
this one when I was here,
and he never wanted to. Now you're

1311
01:28:27,560 --> 01:28:30,840
you're one up. Yes, I
mean there's a chance that that that happens.

1312
01:28:30,840 --> 01:28:33,119
Like we go with, you know, because what's the saying. It's

1313
01:28:33,119 --> 01:28:36,760
a stupid saying, but it's got
some value. Happy wife, happy life,

1314
01:28:38,119 --> 01:28:41,640
right, I mean it's all give
and take a little bit. But

1315
01:28:41,720 --> 01:28:44,840
I go just go and enjoy,
you know, go with a shitty attitude.

1316
01:28:44,840 --> 01:28:46,439
It's gonna You're gonna have shit.
I like to call that the illusion

1317
01:28:46,479 --> 01:28:57,960
of control. Who am I kidding? Uh, I don't know. I

1318
01:28:57,960 --> 01:29:01,279
saw somebody on TikTok just talking about
this is wrong relationships. If he cheated

1319
01:29:01,319 --> 01:29:05,239
on you, he never loved you
and doesn't love himself. I don't believe

1320
01:29:05,239 --> 01:29:08,720
that. You don't believe that.
I don't believe that. I know some

1321
01:29:09,279 --> 01:29:14,479
I have talked to some people who
have cheated on their significant others. They're

1322
01:29:14,479 --> 01:29:20,239
still together and yeah, and the
reason was because they had some you know,

1323
01:29:20,279 --> 01:29:25,079
broken compulsion in their life. It
had nothing to do with love.

1324
01:29:25,159 --> 01:29:29,439
It's just like, uh, it's
like it's like it's like playing a toy,

1325
01:29:29,880 --> 01:29:32,239
or like doing something you're not supposed
to do. It's like being rebellious

1326
01:29:32,319 --> 01:29:35,600
or and I'm not excusing any of
that. It's wrong to cheat. I

1327
01:29:35,640 --> 01:29:40,520
wouldn't do it. I couldn't do
it. But in their instances, you

1328
01:29:40,520 --> 01:29:45,720
know, the wife I kind of
like understands that he's not cheating because he's

1329
01:29:45,760 --> 01:29:49,239
not satisfied with her, their love, their relationship. It's more that this

1330
01:29:49,399 --> 01:29:56,159
is what he does and he stopped. Yeah who could have? Who could

1331
01:29:56,439 --> 01:30:00,840
where it's to duplicate that woman?
Who is that? Yeah, that's just

1332
01:30:00,880 --> 01:30:01,960
what he does. But I think
what that big deal? Well, I

1333
01:30:01,960 --> 01:30:05,239
think on the flip side, I
think she was insecure, uh, in

1334
01:30:05,279 --> 01:30:10,039
herself. This is the best I'll
do. Well now, eventually they all

1335
01:30:10,159 --> 01:30:13,079
settled it. But I mean,
it's like the people who cheat though,

1336
01:30:13,159 --> 01:30:15,279
don't love themselves. I can see
where you're not happy with yourself, so

1337
01:30:15,359 --> 01:30:19,079
you're trying to find satisfaction outside yourself. I agree. You've got to be

1338
01:30:19,319 --> 01:30:24,960
stable inside, and that usually writes
the ship. When you're not, you'll

1339
01:30:25,000 --> 01:30:28,159
look for things to fulfill it,
whether it be drug, sex, something

1340
01:30:28,319 --> 01:30:30,880
something trying to fill that void or
that hole. I'm not sure that you

1341
01:30:30,880 --> 01:30:35,840
don't love yourself. It's usually like
even the milf that came in from Milk

1342
01:30:35,920 --> 01:30:41,399
Matter Too said she was dating a
guy after her divorce for I think they

1343
01:30:41,399 --> 01:30:44,840
were together for seventeen years or no, he was seventeen years older than her

1344
01:30:45,319 --> 01:30:47,840
and they were together for a number
of years. And then she even says

1345
01:30:47,880 --> 01:30:51,159
it on the reality show because I
watched it, because they do like that,

1346
01:30:51,439 --> 01:30:53,840
you know, you just sit in
front of the camera and do you

1347
01:30:53,920 --> 01:30:57,720
have my ex wife on the show? No, but she said that that

1348
01:30:57,840 --> 01:31:00,600
like the sex had died off and
they were relationship, and so she cheated

1349
01:31:00,800 --> 01:31:03,479
and he found out and she goes. I really think that the cheating was

1350
01:31:03,560 --> 01:31:06,479
just kind of a way to get
to the end, the end of the

1351
01:31:06,520 --> 01:31:12,239
relationship, you know, not the
excuse. But when I look back as

1352
01:31:12,239 --> 01:31:15,119
to why did I do this instead
of just ending it, I think I

1353
01:31:15,159 --> 01:31:19,399
didn't know how to end it.
This happened and and and it ended it.

1354
01:31:19,399 --> 01:31:23,359
It was a way out, you
know, subconsciously, like maybe I

1355
01:31:23,439 --> 01:31:25,800
was looking for a way out and
I just wasn't strong enough to do it

1356
01:31:25,840 --> 01:31:28,439
the right way. I guess yeah, uh, that could be. I

1357
01:31:28,439 --> 01:31:31,319
don't know. You want to you
want to end it, end it,

1358
01:31:31,720 --> 01:31:34,479
don't look for an excuse to end
it or a way like end it.

1359
01:31:34,920 --> 01:31:40,600
You know. I think that's that's
important. You need to maintain trust and

1360
01:31:40,680 --> 01:31:45,199
honorability no matter what. And it's
hard in relationships, but you got you

1361
01:31:45,239 --> 01:31:46,399
gotta do it. You got to
make the effort, you to yourself and

1362
01:31:46,399 --> 01:31:49,560
you to your wife or husband to
do that. Yeah, I agree,

1363
01:31:49,800 --> 01:31:54,399
I agree. Yeah, my ex
not my ex wife. My wife,

1364
01:31:54,520 --> 01:32:00,319
her ex husband like cheated on her
once and she called his bloff it said

1365
01:32:00,760 --> 01:32:03,880
well she could take care of you, then hung up the phone. Oh

1366
01:32:03,920 --> 01:32:08,840
a week later he's calling back.
Yeah, I'm sorry. She took him

1367
01:32:08,880 --> 01:32:13,680
back, and she regretted it late
because he would do it again. Yeah,

1368
01:32:13,840 --> 01:32:15,760
you know, and eventually she said, Nope, we're done. I'm

1369
01:32:15,800 --> 01:32:18,520
not gonna do this anymore. I'm
not going to take you back a second

1370
01:32:18,520 --> 01:32:21,680
time, you know. I mean, there's a lot of reasons people cheap,

1371
01:32:21,680 --> 01:32:24,840
but none of them are good.
None of them are good. No,

1372
01:32:24,920 --> 01:32:27,680
they're not even a lack of sex. No, that's not a reason

1373
01:32:27,760 --> 01:32:30,760
cheat. Let's go to your relationship. Because it's summertime. Now your wife's

1374
01:32:30,800 --> 01:32:32,479
a teacher, not boo. Now
you're boo. What time does she get

1375
01:32:32,520 --> 01:32:36,680
up during the school year? About
five o'clock, five o'clock in the morning.

1376
01:32:36,800 --> 01:32:42,920
Yeah, she's up, and you're
usually about eight. Okay, so

1377
01:32:43,079 --> 01:32:45,159
now it's summertime. I stay up
later though, Okay, yeah, but

1378
01:32:45,239 --> 01:32:48,680
now it's summertime. Yes, okay, are you getting up at the same

1379
01:32:48,760 --> 01:32:53,800
time? Because I have a friend
whose wife's a teacher, and she gets

1380
01:32:53,840 --> 01:32:57,840
up at five and he he usually
gets up probably around six thirty seven,

1381
01:32:58,600 --> 01:33:01,199
and so it's another hour and a
half to two hours, and he never

1382
01:33:01,239 --> 01:33:04,000
says anything, and she's, you
know, getting ready and all this stuff,

1383
01:33:04,039 --> 01:33:06,560
and you know, lights are on
and all that. He goes,

1384
01:33:06,640 --> 01:33:11,039
now it's summertime. She's sleeping,
and he goes, I get up the

1385
01:33:11,039 --> 01:33:13,439
other day at seven thirty. You
put something on. She's like, CA,

1386
01:33:13,760 --> 01:33:15,840
I'm trying to sleep. Bitch it, okay, bitch it. And

1387
01:33:15,920 --> 01:33:18,960
I go I wonder if Danny runs
into this. No, no, my

1388
01:33:19,000 --> 01:33:21,960
wife still gets up early, just
that as early, but she still gets

1389
01:33:23,039 --> 01:33:26,159
up early. We have two cats
that are very needy, okay, and

1390
01:33:26,199 --> 01:33:30,439
so yeah, they're used to getting
fed at like five fifteen and so now

1391
01:33:30,479 --> 01:33:31,880
it's like, what are you doing, man, what's up with that?

1392
01:33:32,439 --> 01:33:35,760
You know, we catch mice for
you, do all this stuff for you,

1393
01:33:36,600 --> 01:33:40,560
so they're trained, right. So
she she then she can't go back

1394
01:33:40,600 --> 01:33:45,199
to sleep and she can't nap either. My wife can't nap like I could

1395
01:33:45,199 --> 01:33:46,079
take a good nap, Oh I
could. Did you know that? Like

1396
01:33:46,079 --> 01:33:48,880
I think I brought this up last
week that I found out last week that

1397
01:33:49,079 --> 01:33:53,880
if you nap at least three four
days a week, maybe just thirty minutes,

1398
01:33:53,920 --> 01:33:58,880
the ninety minutes don't go too far, that you will decrease your risk

1399
01:33:59,000 --> 01:34:01,760
for heart disease by thirty to sixty
percent. There's not a pill in the

1400
01:34:01,760 --> 01:34:04,079
world that can do that for you. If you nap three days a week

1401
01:34:04,159 --> 01:34:06,720
during the day. Now it's hard
because people are working, but if you

1402
01:34:06,720 --> 01:34:11,560
could get away to nap, nap, take that. Spain's got it right,

1403
01:34:11,680 --> 01:34:14,239
man. They shut down. Oh
yeah, nothing's open. It's where

1404
01:34:14,239 --> 01:34:15,680
they used to. At least nothing's
open. And you gotta you know,

1405
01:34:16,199 --> 01:34:19,359
midday supper. Yeah, America,
man, we're going all day long.

1406
01:34:19,439 --> 01:34:23,159
Well, that's why we leave the
pack all day all night. Now,

1407
01:34:23,399 --> 01:34:26,479
let's go, let's go the county
destroyed. I don't know. I just

1408
01:34:26,560 --> 01:34:31,119
saw, well, hang on a
second. Chinese were trying to launch a

1409
01:34:31,199 --> 01:34:38,279
rocket just the other day, but
it was like a test and somebody accidentally

1410
01:34:38,279 --> 01:34:41,680
shot it off and wasn't supposed to
happen, and it crashed into a mountain,

1411
01:34:42,000 --> 01:34:45,520
and I went, you know what, I like hearing that because we're

1412
01:34:45,520 --> 01:34:47,640
not the only ones that screw up. You know, it was some big,

1413
01:34:47,960 --> 01:34:50,840
expensive rocket. I don't know where
it was going, what the purpose

1414
01:34:50,880 --> 01:34:55,199
of the study was. I just
know it. There's somebody made a mistake.

1415
01:34:55,279 --> 01:34:57,880
I don't even know if there were
human beings in it. I was.

1416
01:34:58,920 --> 01:35:00,680
I don't think it wasn't a miss
but that's a good point. I

1417
01:35:00,720 --> 01:35:05,520
don't know. But it crashed into
you entered the rock code yeah thing,

1418
01:35:05,640 --> 01:35:09,880
I don't know. I don't know
what that is. Uh, since it's

1419
01:35:09,920 --> 01:35:13,680
summer too, I'll ask a few
We'll wrap it up with a few couple

1420
01:35:13,720 --> 01:35:15,960
of questions. Here, pool,
lake or beach? Which do you prefer?

1421
01:35:16,199 --> 01:35:20,600
I have a specific order for myself, actually I have a specific number

1422
01:35:20,680 --> 01:35:26,239
one. Yeah, pool, lake
or beach? Which do you prefer?

1423
01:35:26,479 --> 01:35:31,319
I think I want to say the
beach, the beach, yes, like

1424
01:35:31,560 --> 01:35:35,640
ocean beach. Yes, the lake
area where I grew up, Yah had

1425
01:35:35,640 --> 01:35:39,840
a beach. You had beaches,
yeah, yes, real beaches with real

1426
01:35:39,960 --> 01:35:42,439
sand. Yeah. It wasn't like
I mean there were rocks, but there

1427
01:35:42,520 --> 01:35:45,000
was a lot of sand stuff.
It wasn't like Lake Ontario where like you

1428
01:35:45,000 --> 01:35:47,359
don't want to go in there.
It was actually clean and so like the

1429
01:35:47,359 --> 01:35:50,319
beach to me is like better the
lake, you know. Yeah, But

1430
01:35:50,359 --> 01:35:53,880
I mean like if I got to
like pull up to a dock, then

1431
01:35:53,920 --> 01:35:57,880
I'm like, I'm not as you
know, I'm not as willing to do

1432
01:35:57,920 --> 01:36:00,119
it. I mean, it's not
bad to look at the water, but

1433
01:36:00,159 --> 01:36:01,159
there's really not much you can do
unless you get in a boat and go

1434
01:36:01,199 --> 01:36:04,920
somewhere and then what I don't fish
so but a beach, yes, and

1435
01:36:04,960 --> 01:36:09,600
then in a pool you know.
I mean I've been to people's pools and

1436
01:36:09,640 --> 01:36:13,319
I don't mind it, but then
you're obligated to get into it. Yes.

1437
01:36:13,600 --> 01:36:15,800
I don't like doing like I go
to beach, just lay out and

1438
01:36:15,800 --> 01:36:17,560
never go in the water once.
Whereas a pool, yeah, you could

1439
01:36:17,600 --> 01:36:20,159
do that, but then you're at
somebody's house. Now it's you know,

1440
01:36:20,199 --> 01:36:24,199
it's kind of like under their roof, their rules. You know so.

1441
01:36:24,479 --> 01:36:27,840
I mean not that they're weird or
anything, but I could be myself at

1442
01:36:27,840 --> 01:36:30,840
a beach. Okay, all right, I'm a lake dude. You love

1443
01:36:30,880 --> 01:36:34,439
the lake. Love to run down
the dock, jump off the dock,

1444
01:36:34,640 --> 01:36:38,880
climb up high into somebody's boat roof, you know, if they have like

1445
01:36:38,960 --> 01:36:42,479
a some kind of lean to or
something that they have to their boat in.

1446
01:36:42,560 --> 01:36:45,960
I love to jump off that.
I love to jet ski. I'll

1447
01:36:46,000 --> 01:36:50,399
go a boat's are great, But
taking a swing. I love the big

1448
01:36:50,520 --> 01:36:54,600
rope that you swing out over the
lake and you drop off of that.

1449
01:36:54,880 --> 01:36:58,439
I used to love to do this
again. I fucking love lakes. Lakes

1450
01:36:58,479 --> 01:37:01,159
to me are the greatest. I
don't know why not the great lakes.

1451
01:37:01,199 --> 01:37:05,399
I'm talking like a finger lake or
lakes where I grew up. These little

1452
01:37:05,439 --> 01:37:12,479
lakes. Then I'm torn between a
pool and a beach. Pool restricted,

1453
01:37:12,560 --> 01:37:15,600
but they can be relaxing. I
had a pool for a number of years

1454
01:37:15,680 --> 01:37:18,000
that was kind of nice. I
used to love to just sometimes it would

1455
01:37:18,000 --> 01:37:20,840
be very daring if no one was
home. People always made fun of me.

1456
01:37:20,880 --> 01:37:24,479
I would jump in, skinny dip, swim around, hang out,

1457
01:37:24,800 --> 01:37:27,039
have a beer. I used to
put a beer at one end of the

1458
01:37:27,039 --> 01:37:29,680
pool, go to the deep end, dive in, swim up, have

1459
01:37:29,760 --> 01:37:32,279
my beer in the shallow Yeah,
I used to do that. I'm not

1460
01:37:33,159 --> 01:37:36,680
I used to float all the time. I'd like to just get on a

1461
01:37:36,720 --> 01:37:40,640
tube and float or a raft and
just hang out. It was fucking it

1462
01:37:40,720 --> 01:37:44,720
was. I love water. And
then I always loved the ocean as a

1463
01:37:44,840 --> 01:37:47,520
kid, the beach, except that
the sand would getting the cracks your ass.

1464
01:37:47,560 --> 01:37:50,159
You know this or that. You
know, sometimes the ocean would get

1465
01:37:50,199 --> 01:37:53,840
violent. My old man got dumped
on his head body surfing and wound up

1466
01:37:53,840 --> 01:37:57,920
in the neck. Brace it.
So I don't know. That was always

1467
01:37:58,000 --> 01:38:02,520
my my thing. So I would
go probably I'm going to say lake Pool

1468
01:38:02,840 --> 01:38:06,840
beach. Now I have a question
about the pool. So I've heard people

1469
01:38:06,840 --> 01:38:11,079
say pools are like boats. Yeah, the best day is the day you

1470
01:38:11,119 --> 01:38:13,239
buy them, in the day to
sell them. Or it's like having another

1471
01:38:13,319 --> 01:38:15,359
kid. Yeah, because you have
to take care of this stupid thing.

1472
01:38:15,479 --> 01:38:18,560
Yes. Is it worth having a
pool? It was worth it when my

1473
01:38:18,680 --> 01:38:24,880
guys were little. I enjoyed the
shit out of it. But I had

1474
01:38:24,920 --> 01:38:28,000
a pool that was it was an
inground pool, but it was an older

1475
01:38:28,960 --> 01:38:30,239
pool. It was a home that
was built nineteen sixty three. I don't

1476
01:38:30,239 --> 01:38:33,239
know when the pool went in,
and I remember, you know, we

1477
01:38:33,399 --> 01:38:36,800
did different things. I got the
flat cover the tunnel that no one could

1478
01:38:36,880 --> 01:38:40,560
fall through, that kind of thing, you know, that wouldn't really trap

1479
01:38:40,640 --> 01:38:43,680
water on it, so everything would
drain through to the pool. And one

1480
01:38:43,760 --> 01:38:48,359
year, it's probably around February March
warmer day, and I remember Jordan coming

1481
01:38:48,359 --> 01:38:50,159
in and going, hey, well
happened to the water in the pool.

1482
01:38:50,199 --> 01:38:53,119
I go, you can't really see
through. The guy goes, no,

1483
01:38:53,199 --> 01:38:57,319
there's water. Sure enough. There
was a hole because it was a liner,

1484
01:38:57,760 --> 01:39:00,600
so I had to have it drained. I had to have it.

1485
01:39:00,640 --> 01:39:02,600
That's expensive. Oh fuck, it
was a pain. So that was a

1486
01:39:02,640 --> 01:39:06,319
pain. Then I got a heater
on the pool because so that that was

1487
01:39:06,359 --> 01:39:12,720
another thing. Then there was the
sand filter when something else went The saltwater

1488
01:39:12,760 --> 01:39:16,119
pools are great because they're very low
maintenance, but they're expensive. I was

1489
01:39:16,119 --> 01:39:18,840
going to convert it to salt water
and then I want to just sort of

1490
01:39:18,840 --> 01:39:21,760
moving, but I would it's a
pain in the ass. It's funny you

1491
01:39:21,800 --> 01:39:26,520
had at you had a pool all
those years. Nobody ever gave you an

1492
01:39:26,600 --> 01:39:30,000
endorsement then you go over to like
the other steer station, and all of

1493
01:39:30,000 --> 01:39:31,640
a sudden you have endorsements to help
with your pool. You know? Is

1494
01:39:31,720 --> 01:39:35,600
that funny how salespeople know how to
sell at some locations and the others.

1495
01:39:38,279 --> 01:39:41,119
What I'm just saying, Billy,
all right, last question? It was

1496
01:39:41,119 --> 01:39:45,399
an opportunity lost? Who works harder
when the grill is going? I saw

1497
01:39:45,439 --> 01:39:48,000
this wife for the or the or
the guy on the grill, the husband

1498
01:39:48,159 --> 01:39:53,960
or the wife the wife. Yeah, the grill is just the guy.

1499
01:39:54,239 --> 01:39:59,079
Literally, you just flipped the burger
Danny. Now after around, Like they

1500
01:39:59,079 --> 01:40:01,359
say, the man who runs the
grill is the master of the house.

1501
01:40:01,600 --> 01:40:04,680
Don't ever let somebody else run your
grill. You need to run your grill.

1502
01:40:04,840 --> 01:40:10,039
Yes, baby, I'll make dinner
tonight. If you get the ingredients,

1503
01:40:10,079 --> 01:40:13,199
make the size, season the meat, put me outside and help me

1504
01:40:13,239 --> 01:40:15,800
find my tongues in spatula. I'll
grill and you can just relax. Yes,

1505
01:40:16,680 --> 01:40:23,079
Yes, it's always the wife.
She's making the salads grilled, she's

1506
01:40:23,199 --> 01:40:28,039
washing the dishes. I have a
william Sonomo Grilling grilling cookbook that I loved,

1507
01:40:28,520 --> 01:40:30,479
and I used to follow the recipes. Marinate the meat for a couple

1508
01:40:30,520 --> 01:40:32,800
of days and then go out.
But I didn't make any of the sides.

1509
01:40:32,840 --> 01:40:34,600
I would buy them. Yeah,
I would buy it. Yeah,

1510
01:40:34,640 --> 01:40:42,239
yes, for a while, but
most of the time I never got to

1511
01:40:43,039 --> 01:40:45,119
the grill would be fired up and
going. I would say, hey,

1512
01:40:45,199 --> 01:40:47,600
I want to do this, and
it would already be happening because people would

1513
01:40:47,640 --> 01:40:54,119
take over everything and would drive me
fucking insane. Hey, by the way,

1514
01:40:54,279 --> 01:40:57,640
the joyceph by the way. You
know, like as the moment that

1515
01:40:57,640 --> 01:41:00,000
we're doing this podcast, you know, we don't know who our next president,

1516
01:41:00,039 --> 01:41:03,880
it's going to be all that stuff. So I'm telling you we are

1517
01:41:04,000 --> 01:41:08,600
taping this a little earlier than you're
hearing it. And for some reason,

1518
01:41:08,680 --> 01:41:13,239
I think over the holiday weekend we
are going to hear that Biden stepping down

1519
01:41:13,479 --> 01:41:16,279
as it can. I think that's
a very very distinct possibility. I've thought

1520
01:41:16,279 --> 01:41:20,520
that since that debate, inflation has
been a big thing. So I was

1521
01:41:20,560 --> 01:41:25,000
talking to a guy the other day
and when was the last time you had

1522
01:41:25,000 --> 01:41:28,359
a Wegman's Because we mentioned Wegmans and
like condiments and stuff for a cookout,

1523
01:41:28,520 --> 01:41:30,600
When was the last time you had
a Wegman six dollars meal? When it

1524
01:41:30,640 --> 01:41:34,439
was six dollars. When was the
last time you had a Wegmans six dollar

1525
01:41:34,600 --> 01:41:40,720
meal? I don't even know.
I think it means that now. I

1526
01:41:40,720 --> 01:41:43,920
thought there were eight dollar meals.
They're now thirteen dollars. Well they're not.

1527
01:41:44,319 --> 01:41:45,800
Oh they're not. No, they're
not. I was just told the

1528
01:41:45,840 --> 01:41:50,159
other day, dude, I bought
those thirteen dollars. No, they're more

1529
01:41:50,199 --> 01:41:54,399
than that. It depends on what
you get. But I was going to

1530
01:41:54,439 --> 01:42:00,079
say, I've bought the meals.
I'll always have a little Thanksgiving before Thanksgiving,

1531
01:42:00,199 --> 01:42:05,319
and I love they're prepared. They're
fourteen or fifteen dollars. Okay,

1532
01:42:05,479 --> 01:42:08,560
I like meat loaf once in a
while, I'm not gonna make it.

1533
01:42:08,600 --> 01:42:11,279
I'll go to Wegmans and buy the
prepared meal with the meal loaf in it,

1534
01:42:11,319 --> 01:42:15,279
which sounds so weird. But that's
like fourteen dollars. So yeah,

1535
01:42:15,399 --> 01:42:18,279
I don't think they don't have six
dollar meals. I thought they had eight

1536
01:42:18,319 --> 01:42:20,960
dollars. After that, Yeah,
then they became eight dollars, then they

1537
01:42:20,960 --> 01:42:25,119
became ten. Now they're Yeah.
This hasn't been married. I haven't paid

1538
01:42:25,159 --> 01:42:28,600
attention because I have my wife cooks. I'd rather cook and do this stuff.

1539
01:42:28,680 --> 01:42:30,880
Well, it's like fifteen dollars.
Yeah, it is. But here's

1540
01:42:30,920 --> 01:42:33,039
the way I look. We blame
that, Oh no, but here's what

1541
01:42:33,159 --> 01:42:38,680
I would Here's what I would say. It's much like going It's cheaper than

1542
01:42:38,720 --> 01:42:42,279
going to a restaurant, because if
you took your wife out and you've got

1543
01:42:42,279 --> 01:42:46,600
a full meal, an entree,
you're not paying fifteen dollars for because I

1544
01:42:46,640 --> 01:42:50,720
think sometimes they include a little dessert
in there. So it's you're getting either

1545
01:42:50,840 --> 01:42:56,439
two sides and the meal for fifteen
bucks. So now let's say you buy

1546
01:42:56,439 --> 01:42:59,840
two Let's say it's thirty dollars.
If you pick up a bottle of wine

1547
01:42:59,840 --> 01:43:03,000
on your way home, that's ten
to fifteen to call it fifteen. Let's

1548
01:43:03,000 --> 01:43:05,800
say you can take a middle thing. Right, So now you're at forty

1549
01:43:05,840 --> 01:43:10,760
five and there's still if you eat
it out of the containers. There's no

1550
01:43:10,880 --> 01:43:16,279
dishes, right except your wine glass, but the dishwager you could use the

1551
01:43:16,399 --> 01:43:20,279
U texils that you could get from
Wegman. You could. Actually it's cheaper

1552
01:43:20,319 --> 01:43:24,720
than going out. It is.
It's cheaper than going out, and I

1553
01:43:24,720 --> 01:43:28,000
think you have to look at it
that way because I'm with you. It's

1554
01:43:28,039 --> 01:43:30,760
like, oh, we shoot they're
charging. That was my first reaction,

1555
01:43:30,119 --> 01:43:34,880
killings. No, no, I'm
killing twenty twenty four. Part of it

1556
01:43:34,880 --> 01:43:39,159
could be the economy. I don't
know. The economy seems to be coming

1557
01:43:39,199 --> 01:43:42,439
back a little bit. But yes, prices are high and we're hearing that

1558
01:43:42,479 --> 01:43:46,319
a lot about Wegmans. People are
finding alternatives to shop and stuff. But

1559
01:43:46,479 --> 01:43:48,960
the way I look at it is, let's say it was a date night

1560
01:43:49,000 --> 01:43:53,800
and you're going to do a stay
date instead of a go out date.

1561
01:43:54,319 --> 01:43:57,760
You could do that and you could
even plate it. Then you got dishes,

1562
01:43:58,119 --> 01:44:00,880
but it would be I think if
you go out for a meal like

1563
01:44:00,920 --> 01:44:05,560
that, I'm always thinking your ballpark
one twenty five minimum. I think.

1564
01:44:05,840 --> 01:44:10,720
I think if you go out for
a decent meal, yeah, a minimum.

1565
01:44:10,760 --> 01:44:15,199
Oh that's that's yeah. I'm saying
before tip, before tip, before

1566
01:44:15,279 --> 01:44:16,960
tip, That's the way I look
at it. So you might as well

1567
01:44:17,199 --> 01:44:20,840
pretend to grill and uh, get
the meal. I don't know. I

1568
01:44:20,880 --> 01:44:24,800
don't know, Danny. It's always
fun when we're hanging out. Absolutely.

1569
01:44:25,600 --> 01:44:29,039
Uh, we will see at some
point this week. I hope everybody's having

1570
01:44:29,079 --> 01:44:31,079
a great summer so far. Be
the man of your grill. Yes,

1571
01:44:31,359 --> 01:44:34,520
that's right. Somebody else doesn't.
They're the man of your grill. That's

1572
01:44:34,600 --> 01:44:39,560
right. You don't want that.
No for Dan Marilla off, Noil Bart.

1573
01:44:39,760 --> 01:44:40,840
We'll see you next time.