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Hey, Hey, I'm bad with
something for you to think about. I

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know some of you have listened to
me, and some of you have not.

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If you're new, welcome. If
you are someone who listened to me,

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thank you so much. Keep coming
back. I wanna tell you today

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that no matter what you've gone through
in life, I don't care what it

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is. I don't care the extreme, I don't care how long you went

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through. I don't care who did
it. Positivity is a choice. Positivity

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is a choice. I know some
people are so full of hurt, animosity,

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anger, rage, all types of
negative things, but that's because it's

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what you're choosing. I understand trauma. My trauma may not be your trauma,

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but I understand trauma. I've experienced
it myself, and I know many

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many people who have gone through trauma. Bottom line, positivity is a choice.

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Let me tell you what I've found. I've found over the years that

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people hold on to negativity far more
than they're willing to entertain positivity. It's

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just natural for people to hold on
to negativity, and it ruins their lives.

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It causes people to become stagnant,
some for a lifetime, straight into

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the grains. But it's a choice. It's absolutely a choice. I just

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want you to understand only you can
change your life. You don't have to

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live a negative life. You don't
have to have that negative mindset. Some

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people cannot see their negativity. They
cannot see what they're doing to their self.

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They cannot see the cycles that they're
on. They can't see it.

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They blame everyone else. Everyone else
is the problem, but they cannot see

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what they are doing to them.
I understand people contributing to how you think,

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how you feel, or I understand
that, but as an adult,

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who you become is your responsibility.
It falls on you. You can no

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longer blame anyone else. You are
the person who is responsible. So if

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you choose negativity, that's your choice, just like if you chose positivity,

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because that's your choice too. So
many people go through their entire lives the

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same way. It don't make sense. It is so, it is so

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unfortunate. It's unfortunate because people do
not give themselves the opportunity to grow to

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prosper mentally. And I've told you
several times. People may accomplish certain things,

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they may reach certain goals and things
like that, but their mindsets don't

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change. They still have hated their
heart. They're still bitter, they're still

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angry, they're still depressed, they're
still all types of negative things because that

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is what they're holding on to.
Positivity is a choice. Every day you

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wake up, it's a choice.
Some days I wake up I don't want

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to go to work. I'm like, oh lord, I don't feel like

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it today. But guess what.
Before I leave my house, mindset is

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like, you gotta do it.
So there's no need to go to work

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with no one attitude or none of
that. And I would never do it.

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And I don't take it when people
come at me with attitude, Oh

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I didn't do it to you,
you're not doing it to me, simple

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as that. I don't take it. I don't care. Even when I

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worked in the prisons, I may
have been shaken in my boots, but

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they didn't know it. I didn't
take their trash. I didn't put you

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there. I have done nothing to
you. I'm gonna respect you, but

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you're gonna respect me too. But
people choose to be negative, grumpy,

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mad, mean, bitter because that's
a choice. People are carrying old Yes,

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I said it, Oh baggage own
baggage. You're holding on to things,

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you have grudges because that's what you
choose to do. A change mindset

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is a change life. When you
change the way you think, feelings and

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actions follow. No one. No
one has to walk around negative being a

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negative person. That's the worst person
to be around. Someone who is negative

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always got something negative to say about
anything and everything. Just it is so

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exhausting. It's so exhausting. But
you can't let people do it to you.

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You just can't. Sometimes you just
gotta cut people off. I don't

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care who they are, I don't
care. You gotta just cut them off

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seriously, for your own peace.
You have to cut people off. Feed

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them with that lone handlespoon. Love
them, but do not give them the

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opportunity to drain you of your energy, to cause you stress because they don't

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choose positivity. Don't let them take
it from you. If you do,

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you're giving them your your power.
You have empowered them to stress you out.

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They are annoying as all get out. They are annoying, annoying,

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very annoying. But you have to
feed them with that lone handle spoon.

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Some people, I don't care what
you say to them. I don't care

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how many therapists they see. They
will be negative. When positivity it's always

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right there. For the reaching it's
right there. All you gotta do is

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grab hold. People get so comfortable
in their negativity, they get so comfortable

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in their crap that they don't desire
change because they think the way they are

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is all right. It's not them, it's you. When it is,

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then their mindsets are the biggest culprit
in their lives. It's their greatest enemy,

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their mindsets. But they can't see
it. They can't see it.

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People go through life the same way. That's why we see people who have

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high status doing the most foolish things
getting caught up in the most foolish mess

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because their mindsets haven't changed. They
have became people of status, but their

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hearts and minds have not changed.
That's why they're still struggling. That's why

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they're alcoholics and drug addicts and sex
addicts and every other addict. Because the

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only thing changed is they became a
person of status. And like I said,

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so many people have gone to the
grave the very same way negative.

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A lot of people call themselves pastors
and so holy and this and that,

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but they are some of the meadest, angriest, terrible people. But that's

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because they're talking from the side of
the next. They're professing Christ, but

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their hearts are far from them because
they're too engulfed with negativity. Way way,

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way, way, way way in
golf too in golf with negativity.

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Some people are drowning in negativity,
literally barely keeping their heads up. But

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they're not trying to change. They're
not trying to change. They still doing

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the same things. They're still acting
the same. You can never change by

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remaining the same. You cannot You
cannot be better by remaining the same.

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If you remain the same, you're
gonna get the same results in life.

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You're gonna always have that inner part
of you that's causing you grief because your

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mindset is formed according to your experiences, and normally it's trauma, hurt pain.

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People hold on to it. Some
of the people that cost you hurting

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pain dead and gone. They've been
dead for years, and you're still angry.

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It's unnecessary. It is self inflicted
pain. It is self destruction.

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That's what it is. Because you're
no longer in that traumatic situation, but

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you're causing trauma in your life because
you don't know how to love. You

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don't love yourself. You treat everybody
bad because you're mad and angry. You

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can't trust, You lack confidence,
you have no self esteem. I mean,

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it's just nuts. Some people you
will never think who have issues with

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confidence. You would never think it
because the way they look or the way

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they carry themselves. But they are
so insecure, very insecure. Where do

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you think insecurities come from? Insecurity, jealousy, envy, hate, all

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of those negative things and many,
many, many many more comes from the

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same place inside of you, because
that's where all of the junk, the

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negativity, the darkness, that's where
it lies inside of you. You are

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holding on to it. It's not
holding you down, it's not holding on

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to you. You're holding on to
it. Some of you are dealing with

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past stuff, childhood stuff, and
some of you because of what you went

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through now you're leading a life no
longer in that situation, but you're creating

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it for other people because you're victimizing
because you chose negativity or the positivity.

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You could have changed, You could
have changed, but instead you continue down

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the same path. Some of you
are in trouble because of it because you

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got caught. Some of you have
not gotten caught yet, but you're going

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to if you keep on, and
you're in a place that you did not

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have to be because you chose negativity. I have a child, My own

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child chows negativity, didn't have to
never went through trauma, but just chose

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to take that hard route because of
defiancy and just want to do it her

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way. I mean, I know
plenty of people who's choosing negativity, and

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not all came from trauma. Not
all came from trauma. I promise you

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mine didn't, My Jordan didn't.
But there's a lot of people they don't

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come from trauma, but they just
choose because they just want to go through

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life their way, regardless of how
hard, regardless of how unnecessary, because

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they think, because I'm an adult, I could do whatever I want to

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do and end up in a place
that they never had to be, and

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many in places of truly no return
because they do things that there's no coming

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back from it. And I think
it's a situation in people's life that they

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truly, truly are causing themselves so
much unnecessary drama, unnecessary No one have

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to live a life of negativity,
but so many people are choosing it.

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Some of you have parents who love
you, but you don't care. All

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you care about it's anything to hurt
them, because it's your life. You

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live it the way you want to
live. You can, but stop seeking

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after people who don't love you,
and love the people who do love you.

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Parents shouldn't try to run their children's
life, but if you have good

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parents, you should probably listen to
what they're saying to you. I'm not

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talking about parents trying to control your
life. I'm not talking about that type

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of parenting. I'm talking about good
parents who love you. You shouldn't listen

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to what they say. You don't
have to necessarily do it, but you

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shouldn't be rebellious and defiant because they're
trying to tell you something that you don't

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want to hear. But so many
people, they ostracize themselves from their families

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and chase after other people because of
their own doing, because of their own

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mind mindsets. They have believed things
that are not true for so long.

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Until they believe it, you can't
tell them it's not true. You have

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people who went through things as a
young child, and they are allowing it

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to ruin their life, sabotage them
self destruction because they won't let them.

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Not understanding. People who hurt you
when you were little are people who were

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hurt somebody does something to them.
No, it does not give them a

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pass. It does not. But
what I'm trying to tell you is you

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live your life or you're living your
life allowing someone who is weak. You're

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allowing that person or those people to
influence how you think, feel and act

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as an adult, somebody from your
childhood. It makes no sense. You

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are empowering them. And some of
the people are dead, You're still giving

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power to that person and they're in
the grave. It's because of your mindset.

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You choose to hold on to negativity
instead of making your life better.

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You can make your life better.
You have to want to to continue to

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think about past pains. That's a
choice. Youthfully engage in the memories.

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You willfully engage in the memories.
You're not just angry, mad, sad,

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depressed for no reason. You engage
in the memories and you just keep

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bringing these thoughts to your head and
you just hold on to it. Or

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I hate her, I hate him, But you're only damaging to yourself.

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This is how so many millions upon
millions are living their lives. And then

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on top of that, you have
the audacity to have children, bring them

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into the world and project all of
that negativity on them, awful off of

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offul If you want change to occur, only you could make it happen.

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No one has to go through life
full of negativity. When you know,

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you a person who is always talking
about negativity. If you're a person who's

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always talking about what happened to you, you are causing self inflicted pain in

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your life, self destruction, causing
dysfunction in your own life. You're doing

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it to yourself by choice, because
positivity is a choice. On that note,

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I'm leaving it right there. Thank
you for listening. Please share this,

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Share, share, share because people
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is full of people. Oh my
God, we need Jesus. People need

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to hear this. Please share.
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Thank you so much much love and
to each and every one of you.

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As always, if you want to
talk, if you need to reach

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out to me, you can always
go to my podcast page. It'll tell

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you my email. Sendend an email, I will respond. Thank you so

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much again. You know I in
every episode the same, and I hope

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and I pray you do it.
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