Hey, Hey, I'm bad with something for you to think about. I
know some of you have listened to me, and some of you have not.
If you're new, welcome. If you are someone who listened to me,
thank you so much. Keep coming back. I wanna tell you today
that no matter what you've gone through in life, I don't care what it
is. I don't care the extreme, I don't care how long you went
through. I don't care who did it. Positivity is a choice. Positivity
is a choice. I know some people are so full of hurt, animosity,
anger, rage, all types of negative things, but that's because it's
what you're choosing. I understand trauma. My trauma may not be your trauma,
but I understand trauma. I've experienced it myself, and I know many
many people who have gone through trauma. Bottom line, positivity is a choice.
Let me tell you what I've found. I've found over the years that
people hold on to negativity far more than they're willing to entertain positivity. It's
just natural for people to hold on to negativity, and it ruins their lives.
It causes people to become stagnant, some for a lifetime, straight into
the grains. But it's a choice. It's absolutely a choice. I just
want you to understand only you can change your life. You don't have to
live a negative life. You don't have to have that negative mindset. Some
people cannot see their negativity. They cannot see what they're doing to their self.
They cannot see the cycles that they're on. They can't see it.
They blame everyone else. Everyone else is the problem, but they cannot see
what they are doing to them. I understand people contributing to how you think,
how you feel, or I understand that, but as an adult,
who you become is your responsibility. It falls on you. You can no
longer blame anyone else. You are the person who is responsible. So if
you choose negativity, that's your choice, just like if you chose positivity,
because that's your choice too. So many people go through their entire lives the
same way. It don't make sense. It is so, it is so
unfortunate. It's unfortunate because people do not give themselves the opportunity to grow to
prosper mentally. And I've told you several times. People may accomplish certain things,
they may reach certain goals and things like that, but their mindsets don't
change. They still have hated their heart. They're still bitter, they're still
angry, they're still depressed, they're still all types of negative things because that
is what they're holding on to. Positivity is a choice. Every day you
wake up, it's a choice. Some days I wake up I don't want
to go to work. I'm like, oh lord, I don't feel like
it today. But guess what. Before I leave my house, mindset is
like, you gotta do it. So there's no need to go to work
with no one attitude or none of that. And I would never do it.
And I don't take it when people come at me with attitude, Oh
I didn't do it to you, you're not doing it to me, simple
as that. I don't take it. I don't care. Even when I
worked in the prisons, I may have been shaken in my boots, but
they didn't know it. I didn't take their trash. I didn't put you
there. I have done nothing to you. I'm gonna respect you, but
you're gonna respect me too. But people choose to be negative, grumpy,
mad, mean, bitter because that's a choice. People are carrying old Yes,
I said it, Oh baggage own baggage. You're holding on to things,
you have grudges because that's what you choose to do. A change mindset
is a change life. When you change the way you think, feelings and
actions follow. No one. No one has to walk around negative being a
negative person. That's the worst person to be around. Someone who is negative
always got something negative to say about anything and everything. Just it is so
exhausting. It's so exhausting. But you can't let people do it to you.
You just can't. Sometimes you just gotta cut people off. I don't
care who they are, I don't care. You gotta just cut them off
seriously, for your own peace. You have to cut people off. Feed
them with that lone handlespoon. Love them, but do not give them the
opportunity to drain you of your energy, to cause you stress because they don't
choose positivity. Don't let them take it from you. If you do,
you're giving them your your power. You have empowered them to stress you out.
They are annoying as all get out. They are annoying, annoying,
very annoying. But you have to feed them with that lone handle spoon.
Some people, I don't care what you say to them. I don't care
how many therapists they see. They will be negative. When positivity it's always
right there. For the reaching it's right there. All you gotta do is
grab hold. People get so comfortable in their negativity, they get so comfortable
in their crap that they don't desire change because they think the way they are
is all right. It's not them, it's you. When it is,
then their mindsets are the biggest culprit in their lives. It's their greatest enemy,
their mindsets. But they can't see it. They can't see it.
People go through life the same way. That's why we see people who have
high status doing the most foolish things getting caught up in the most foolish mess
because their mindsets haven't changed. They have became people of status, but their
hearts and minds have not changed. That's why they're still struggling. That's why
they're alcoholics and drug addicts and sex addicts and every other addict. Because the
only thing changed is they became a person of status. And like I said,
so many people have gone to the grave the very same way negative.
A lot of people call themselves pastors and so holy and this and that,
but they are some of the meadest, angriest, terrible people. But that's
because they're talking from the side of the next. They're professing Christ, but
their hearts are far from them because they're too engulfed with negativity. Way way,
way, way, way way in golf too in golf with negativity.
Some people are drowning in negativity, literally barely keeping their heads up. But
they're not trying to change. They're not trying to change. They still doing
the same things. They're still acting the same. You can never change by
remaining the same. You cannot You cannot be better by remaining the same.
If you remain the same, you're gonna get the same results in life.
You're gonna always have that inner part of you that's causing you grief because your
mindset is formed according to your experiences, and normally it's trauma, hurt pain.
People hold on to it. Some of the people that cost you hurting
pain dead and gone. They've been dead for years, and you're still angry.
It's unnecessary. It is self inflicted pain. It is self destruction.
That's what it is. Because you're no longer in that traumatic situation, but
you're causing trauma in your life because you don't know how to love. You
don't love yourself. You treat everybody bad because you're mad and angry. You
can't trust, You lack confidence, you have no self esteem. I mean,
it's just nuts. Some people you will never think who have issues with
confidence. You would never think it because the way they look or the way
they carry themselves. But they are so insecure, very insecure. Where do
you think insecurities come from? Insecurity, jealousy, envy, hate, all
of those negative things and many, many, many many more comes from the
same place inside of you, because that's where all of the junk, the
negativity, the darkness, that's where it lies inside of you. You are
holding on to it. It's not holding you down, it's not holding on
to you. You're holding on to it. Some of you are dealing with
past stuff, childhood stuff, and some of you because of what you went
through now you're leading a life no longer in that situation, but you're creating
it for other people because you're victimizing because you chose negativity or the positivity.
You could have changed, You could have changed, but instead you continue down
the same path. Some of you are in trouble because of it because you
got caught. Some of you have not gotten caught yet, but you're going
to if you keep on, and you're in a place that you did not
have to be because you chose negativity. I have a child, My own
child chows negativity, didn't have to never went through trauma, but just chose
to take that hard route because of defiancy and just want to do it her
way. I mean, I know plenty of people who's choosing negativity, and
not all came from trauma. Not all came from trauma. I promise you
mine didn't, My Jordan didn't. But there's a lot of people they don't
come from trauma, but they just choose because they just want to go through
life their way, regardless of how hard, regardless of how unnecessary, because
they think, because I'm an adult, I could do whatever I want to
do and end up in a place that they never had to be, and
many in places of truly no return because they do things that there's no coming
back from it. And I think it's a situation in people's life that they
truly, truly are causing themselves so much unnecessary drama, unnecessary No one have
to live a life of negativity, but so many people are choosing it.
Some of you have parents who love you, but you don't care. All
you care about it's anything to hurt them, because it's your life. You
live it the way you want to live. You can, but stop seeking
after people who don't love you, and love the people who do love you.
Parents shouldn't try to run their children's life, but if you have good
parents, you should probably listen to what they're saying to you. I'm not
talking about parents trying to control your life. I'm not talking about that type
of parenting. I'm talking about good parents who love you. You shouldn't listen
to what they say. You don't have to necessarily do it, but you
shouldn't be rebellious and defiant because they're trying to tell you something that you don't
want to hear. But so many people, they ostracize themselves from their families
and chase after other people because of their own doing, because of their own
mind mindsets. They have believed things that are not true for so long.
Until they believe it, you can't tell them it's not true. You have
people who went through things as a young child, and they are allowing it
to ruin their life, sabotage them self destruction because they won't let them.
Not understanding. People who hurt you when you were little are people who were
hurt somebody does something to them. No, it does not give them a
pass. It does not. But what I'm trying to tell you is you
live your life or you're living your life allowing someone who is weak. You're
allowing that person or those people to influence how you think, feel and act
as an adult, somebody from your childhood. It makes no sense. You
are empowering them. And some of the people are dead, You're still giving
power to that person and they're in the grave. It's because of your mindset.
You choose to hold on to negativity instead of making your life better.
You can make your life better. You have to want to to continue to
think about past pains. That's a choice. Youthfully engage in the memories.
You willfully engage in the memories. You're not just angry, mad, sad,
depressed for no reason. You engage in the memories and you just keep
bringing these thoughts to your head and you just hold on to it. Or
I hate her, I hate him, But you're only damaging to yourself.
This is how so many millions upon millions are living their lives. And then
on top of that, you have the audacity to have children, bring them
into the world and project all of that negativity on them, awful off of
offul If you want change to occur, only you could make it happen.
No one has to go through life full of negativity. When you know,
you a person who is always talking about negativity. If you're a person who's
always talking about what happened to you, you are causing self inflicted pain in
your life, self destruction, causing dysfunction in your own life. You're doing
it to yourself by choice, because positivity is a choice. On that note,
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