I guess we can start the Minnesota Goodbye this way that we have something coming
up Monday morning at seven twenty that you're gonna want to be here for.
Yeah, and if you listen live, then be here at seven twenty.
And if you don't listen live, you listen to the podcast later, then
listen for the seven twenty segment, because you're gonna want to hear this.
This is a big deal, and it involves Katie WB as a radio station
and some people that are on Katie w B. So I'm not supposed to
say anything more than that, but Jenny knows what I'm talking about. I
know. I was going to pretend like I don't know, and I'd be
like, oh, tell me, but no, I do know. Yeah,
So, but I can only tell you that it is coming up Monday
morning at seven twenty. You know, radio stations love seven twenty. I
don't know what it is about seven twenties, like, Hey, we're gonna
do a big thing, let's do it at seven twenty. But I guess
that's when a lot of people are listening. I think there's such a there's
a theory that a lot of people get out at least by seven, you
know, so they're awake, they turn their radio on by that point,
gave them some time to brush their teeth, get their cars for going and
stuff. So maybe seven twenties that magic number for people. Maybe, But
be here at seven twenty Monday morning. And you know if you miss it
by any chance, and I hope you don't, but if you do,
don't worry. You will hear about it. I promise. Here's our first
email. Don't say my name. Thanks for putting that up front. Good
morning. I was wondering if the furry craze and rumors going around Minnesota high
schools actually exist. I have a family member in high school, and their
parents seem to wholly believe that kids are dressing in full furrey costumes, demanding
that litter boxes be placed in schools. From what I've heard at furry conventions,
there are no litter boxes. The real furies no, and understand the
costume. It's just for fun and it's a health violation. My opinion is
litterbox comment was set as a joke and taken literally to the point of spiraling
out of control. I'm wondering if you've heard anything or have any listeners with
experience. Thanks, you all are the best. It's a rumor I haven't
heard. I've heard the same thing from people who are like, oh my
god. You know, it's like they want to identify as a cat,
so they put they had to put a litter box in the classroom or in
the bathroom for them to pee. Can you imagine if you're a whatever gender
you are, to be like, you know, it sounds good, I
want to pee in a litter box. I think maybe you'd do it one
time and then go no, no thanks, don't really enjoy that. I
think I'd rather use the potty. Yeah. We've definitely talked about this on
the radio show even before, and there's been multiple teachers who have emailed in
after that and been like, no, this is a rumor, this isn't
true. I feel like I always heard it address as like people dress up
as cats, not furries. Oh right, yea yea yeah, can't dress
up as cats? Yeah right. But either way, a lot of people
have debunked it. But maybe it is a thing in a couple high schools
classrooms somewhere. I don't know. I don't think that's I think it's one
of those things that it becomes like, oh god, next thing, you
know, they're going to want to put a litter box in the classroom or
in the bathroom. And then somebody will say, did you hear that at
Blank High School or Blank Middle School? That people are identifying cats or whatever?
It's from everything I've heard. It is a rumor that people love to
spread because it's really compelling. It's like a lot of those different like urban
legend kind of things. Yeah, it's just crazy. It's like, well,
not at my school, but I've heard another school. And then you
asked the other school and they go, no, not at my school,
but I've heard about it too, So thank you for that one. And
next one, I put little word flags on him here, Jenny, so
I can know which ones to go to. This one says, hold on
one second, Dave, I heard you mentioned the creepy places that you went
in Dallas. If you didn't hear it. When I was in Texas last
week, we went to the clock tower where in nineteen sixty six, some
guy who was meant obviously mentally ill, he was a former marine sniper,
climbed to the top of a like a thirty story clock tower and randomly killed
anybody that he could randomly like. He was obviously a marine sniper, so
he was a great shot. And he killed people from like up to five
hundred yards away. That's five football fields way, if you can imagine,
killed fifteen people injured, like you know, thirty more. And then some
cops finally climbed up the top clock tower and they crept around the four corners
and they killed him. But the clock tower is still there. It looks
exactly like it did in nineteen sixty six, and so I wanted to see
it. So we drove there and it was you know, I was asking
Ginny. I said, am I creepy for going there? And then I
said, I also went to a day plaza where JFK was shot and killed
in nineteen sixty three, And I said, is it creepy that I go
to these places? And then people called in and said no, for the
most part, it's kind of like going to the Twin Towers site. Or
there was somebody who said I went on a Jack the Ripper tour in England.
So she says, I heard you mentioned the creepy places. I unintentionally
went to see Columbine. My friend's brother had a Cairo office nearby. We
went for a walk and it just hit me that I had seen that school
in the distance before. Super weird feeling. I'd also driven by an office
building Minneapolis that a disgruntled employee that was going to be fired had come in
and shot some people several years back, so I kind of get it.
I never did see the stuff from the riots in Minneapolis, as I didn't
want to go alone and my hubby wanted nothing to do with being there.
Anyway. The reason I'm sending this I know you seem to need new things
to watch and tend to be a bit behind on things, so maybe you
haven't seen these yet. Okay, let's find out Dark Tourists on Netflix.
It's eight episodes, but they didn't do more due to COVID. It's been
a few years since I saw this, but I remember them going on tours
to an island that was one of Pablo Escobars, went to Chernobyl and I
think there was a Charles Manson episode and maybe Jack the Ripper. Oh that
sounds interesting. Dark Tourists, Yeah, so you go to these like murderous
websites, murderous places or places where tragedies took place next one. Sure,
noble HBO Max, I think you said you had this, hoping you do.
I don't. HBO Max is one that I know we have, but
we have trouble logging into it, so hope, well really because you were
watching the last of us on it and that's not too far okay, So
you've just not gotten back in somethings. Yeah, we can't log into it.
We log in and we can get on the phone. We have so
many problems with logins. And then if you if I go to Colorado,
when I log in there, then it's like, oh, you've changed your
location and you can only change your location a couple of times, and blah
blah blah. Hope one of them at least can entertain you for a few
nights both or just one season and maybe last you a week off. You
wen't have a great day. By the way, my husband hero that is
I FR that's an airplane instrument flight rules written exam last month and hoping to
do the oral and flights this month. So when you get your there's different
kinds of pilot licenses. I am a visual flight rules guy, which means
I can fly, but it has to be clear enough for me to see
the ground and see the horizon, so I can navigate without instruments. Instrument
flight rules means you can be in the soup and the clouds. You can
be above the cloud deck flying above the clouds, can't see the ground at
all, but you still know where you're going. I can't do that,
so anyway. It is a rigorous kind of a thing. It's kind of
like studying for the bar, but not that intense. But good luck.
Those check rides are booked up far in advance. You should think about getting
it. I hear it's the hardest thing you will do, though, Liz.
I know Liz, I know her husband and they both I see him
at you know, we talk about flying and things like that. So good
luck on your Instrument flight rules exam. Next one, let's see I.
My name is Tiffany, and I've been a listener since I can remember.
I have so many members of memories of me and my grandma listening to the
Dave Ryan Show on our rides to school. I want to say thank you
for everything you in the show do. I still love listening to you all
the morning and willing to work. I'm not a morning person, but you
guys always make my morning's brighter. It's been a few months, but I
remember one day on my way to work, day brought up a topic about
mental health and going to a therapist. I've always been a huge believer in
mental health and listening to your body, and I've been going to a therapist
for several months now, but I don't feel like I'm getting the full benefits.
So I'm starting my search for a person I was hoping for some guidance.
I remember from the conversation that everyone on the team prefers when the therapist
leads the session and ask questions. I want to find somebody like that.
Current sessions, it's a lot of awkward silence with a few questions. I've
attempted talking to my therapist about this and nothing's changed, so it's time to
start my search. Do you have any advice on how you found your therapist,
what questions do you ask, and how you start your search. I
know it's personal and fully understand if you prefer not to talk about it,
would you mind sharing information, the name of the clinic, et cetera.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this. I want everybody
on the show, like on the show like our like family to me,
and I truly appreciate you guys in the show. I'm not going to say
her name, I know what you mean. I've gone to a couple of
therapists and it was awkward because they're like, so, what's going on?
And you talk and then they go uh huh, and then they say,
what else is going on? Uh huh? What do you think about that?
Uh huh? And I'm like, to me, that's that's a certain
kind of therapy, and I would rather have a therapist who gives me directions,
you know what I mean, gives me kind of like action to take
based on what you're dealing with or what you want to overcome or something.
I think there are different kinds of therapy. There's I don't know, cognitive
behavioral therapy, reflective therapy, and the one that I think that you had
experienced and I had experienced is the one where they ask you, so,
what happened with your husband? Well blah blah blah blah blah, Well how
does that make you feel? Well? I feel this way, And then
how do you think that you'll you know, proceed from here and that's not
what I wanted. You're going to therapy, Jenny, personal question, No,
I have not. I've thought about I've definitely thought about it recently just
because, like I've learned how to handle a lot of things in life.
But one thing that I've still never gotten a grasp on is when i get
like random bouts of anxiety or when I'm feeling really overwhelmed and stressed and stuff,
because it like physically affects me. It's not just a mental thing at
that point, Like when I'm feeling like physical effects from anxiety, like my
chest is like feels like super heavy, or I have a stress headache or
something like that. So, like, I definitely want to look into getting
a therapist. My hold off and I know a lot of people tell me
it's worth the money. Is that honest? My insurance isn't great here at
Ihearts, and they only cover they do cover some therapy appointments for free,
but I think it's only like up to five or something, which is great,
a great start, but like this person says, sometimes it takes a
while to even find a good therapist. So then am I going to like
waste half of those appointments? Even looking for someone, and then I finally
get one, and then I have to start paying out a pocket and stuff.
And I have just a lot of medical debt from last year, from
a lot of stuff that I had last year. So I've kind of been
putting off the therapy appointments, and that sucks because you know, I will
tell you this, Jenny, from all outward appearances, a lot of people
to go to therapy or want to go to therapy appear to the rest of
us is very normal, very happy. You seem normal, happy, you're
busy, you're stressed, whatever. But you know, like Fallon seems you
know, mostly normal, mostly got it together. Same with me, same
with rape. But I think a lot of people still need therapy because we
put on a nice face for everybody, but we still could benefit from therapy.
I would say, keep looking. It's kind of like having a partner,
Like if you are dating somebody and it's like, yeah, it's awkward,
guess what It's time to move on to somebody who you just vibe with,
you know, So I would say, keep looking. Yeah, I
read something last night and I don't have it in front of me. I'm
going to paraphrase a little bit, but it was written I think in The
Atlantic or something. I saw it on Apple News last night, and basically
it's saying that we have got to be careful about trigger words. In other
words, she was a feminist writer and a mental health professional, if I
remember right, and she said, starting in about twenty twelve or so,
we started to become really aware of trigger words. So if you said sexual
assault, well you have to say, well, that's going to trigger some
people who went through something like that, and it's not good for people to
hear trigger words. This therapist has said, I'm starting to change my mind
because there are too many triggers in the world for us to avoid number one
and to be so sensitive to number two. So in other words, let's
say, let's say your trigger word was lottery, because you spend all your
money, Jenny, on the lottery, and you've lost fourteen thousand dollars,
so lottery is a trigger word for you. This therapist, who has gone
with this the entire time, has basically started to change their mind and said,
I'm starting to rethink our sensitivity to trigger words. So in other words,
you need to learn to hear the word lottery without going oh, my
god, I'm going to panic. I'm going to go into a fit of
anxiety or depression because you cannot avoid all the words in the world that would
upset you, right, Yeah, And I really think there is something to
that, and you know, there's certain things that would trigger me. But
I don't really have anything where I'd say I don't really want to hear that
word. That's a trigger word to me. Yeah, So I know I
don't really have anything either. But that's something that TikTok has been very strict
with with trigger words. So like sexual assault is never really allowed to be
said. It has to be like essay if someone's really not right, Okay,
Yeah, a lot of things get flagged on TikTok if you have certain
words in it. Obviously, like really inappropriate stuff gets flagged. But there's
a lot of trigger words I think that are out there that people say a
different way like essay instead. I didn't know that that makes sense, though,
but I thought that was interesting that, you know, as we all
evolve and therapy evolves or whatever, that this woman who is very big supporter
of avoiding trigger words is now like, hey, I mean you think about
it, you go through your life, and you're gonna say you're gonna see
something in a movie, or you're gonna see, like, I don't know,
maybe your dad died of lung cancer. So you see somebody who smokes
and it triggers you. It would be good to get to a point where
you can see somebody smoking without being upset by it. Yeah, so I
don't I don't know. I'm only paraphrasing what I saw. Next one,
my name is Kelsey. I want to tell you my senior picture story.
The other day, I think on the podcast, I said senior pictures are
a waste of money. Did I say that? Well, you said that
because you were like give us your bold statements. But then a photographer email
then on top of it, is this the same person or not? I
don't think so. No, she said. Currently, I'm thirty two years
old and graduated from Chicago Lakes High School two thousand nine. My parents divorced
when I was in sixth grade. We were pretty broke afterward. Fast forward
to my senior year. I did not want to ask my parents about senior
pictures because I knew they couldn't afford it. So I used my camera that
I got for Christmas, and I took my own picture, which is now
called a selfie, but we didn't have a name for it back then.
I drove my ninety one Honda Civic to Walmart, hooked up my camera to
the photo printing Kiosk, and paid for my wallet sized pictures to give my
friends and family. Even though my seventeen year old self with envious of other
kids whose parents could afford the professional pictures, I was proud of myself for
figure out a way to do it without involving my parents. To this day,
I have that same mentality. I put my mind to something and get
it done. Good lesson to include in your book, Dave, winky face,
winky face. Side note. I have three brothers. One's thirty four
and did not He did not have a senior picture. Why because his friend
shaved off his eyebrows when he was passed out after drinking too much. That's
funny. One is eighteen and graduated this year with no senior pictures because he
didn't care about him. He isn't even having a grad party because he doesn't
want one. The last one is fifteen, so we'll see if he has
a picture, But so so far, myselfie is the only photo representation of
my siblings and I graduating high school. Thanks for reading my email. Hopefully
it wasn't too long. I met you guys at the Walk for Animals Humane
Society in twenty eighteen or so, and you met my bearded dragon named Spike.
I remember Spike, who sadly passed away in twenty twenty. Thanks for
all you do and making my drive to work more entertaining. I attached my
senior pictures so you can see how overture it is. Can see quick.
I know that. Yeah, I know this is a podcast and nobody else
can. But oh, I mean that's not bad for take it just a
selfie. Back on my selfie is we're very obnoxious because I did. I
took them on like disposable cameras. I was taken selfies back in high school.
That is a really nice senior picture, Kelsey. And it's like,
you know, your face is in focus and it's well lit, and then
behind you everything's like, you know, a little like your shoulder is a
little out of focus. So it's you did a really good job. I'm
sure it took you thirty or forty attempts to get that one, but I
really admire you for doing that one. And to listen, go get your
senior pictures taken. There a tradition, but I bring it up and say
it's a waste of money because Alison senior pictures. She went out and got
different wardrobes and changed and had to pro take pictures. And we have a
frame with like eight pictures of her. It's a cardboard frame. It's leaning
against the wall in the guest room. Carson had a bunch of senior pictures
taken down by Saint Anthony Falls and there's one of them hanging somewhere in the
house. I think. Yeah, so senior pictures are a big deal,
but they're quickly forgotten because as soon as your senior year is done, you've
got a lot more important things in your life to worry about. Yeah,
so if you want to look listen. I love photographers. I hope you
make a lot of money as a photographer, but I will tell you if
you're trying to save money, senior pictures are not the best investment. Maybe
have some taken, but not eight hundred dollars worth. Yeah. I think
we got a little bit of a discount on mine because I was actually the
only time in my entire life was I asked to be a model for something.
It was for our Senior and Pictures, the company that did it.
There were like two big photography companies in my hometown, and one of them
was like, can we feature you on like our big pamphlet. We sent
set out to everyone to like the model. I was the girl on the
front of the pamphlet. And then in the mall there was the stands with
a bunch of the pictures on it, so I was on that as well.
Oh that's cool. I'd never knew that. You never told me you
were a model. And that's it for the Minnesota goodbye. Remember listening Monday
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