I made a decision face. The sunny sound I had was that everybody in
seventies our show was happening. Hey, how's it going? Pretty good?
Pretty good? Is her mic plugged into anything? You know? That's that
cable's like attached to the arm and she makes a horrible sound on the mic.
We're all fucked up over here. We were gonna have cameras so you
could see us, but we don't have a chord. But there's a chord
yet. There's a chord hanging off on my microphone. Dylan keeps taking the
you know what, I'm gonna kill that kid. I don't care. You
know what, I care about our beautiful, beautiful supporters of our show,
like Jennifer who never gets up. She's still down, Jesus jen Man down.
Sarah's the final snipe, pies on, No, Leslie still a coin?
Come on with the coughing, Alicia, Amy, I love Amy.
She is not a C word. No no, uh Kelly. She might
be a sea word, but she might take in a plan fair to too
exactly. Rebecca, that ass though, Missy and Gabby, come on,
stop causing trouble. Always into something, Katerina, I'm not even kidding.
When I say check that you're gonna lose it, check her lose it.
Valerie hits it out of the park. Polly, we love those pancakes.
And this is Athena Ginshard is such a wonderful dancer. Yes she is full
props Elizabeth Williamson. All we really know about her is that she has too
many kids, a lot, and she loves him Hero. All we know
about him is everybody his kids love him. We pay money just say I
know you. You got to be feeling good. And Father's Day, Father's
Day, Yeah, reader rocks that bastinet. Jacob is so very very grawley,
but we all love him. I just got accosted by Leslie outside of
IKEA. You did as She tried to sex traffic me. She still had
Ashley so she Stephane used a stinker rinker, Christa get the strap and Sandra
it's not easy being not easy being green, No, dude, something,
This is a dumb story. But I take Phil for a walk today.
I've been trying. So it's Memorial weekend. Natalia is on a trip with
her father in New York, which was nice. Sunny didn't want to go
because he's going to Japan in like less than one week from today. Whoa,
I know, I know, the day before his birthday, leaving for
Japan, and so he didn't want to go. He wanted to, you
know, chill with his momma. Right, So it's just sunny and I
all weekend chilling I took. I've been trying to find a place over the
weekend that will take Phil for a bath, and I every time I give
him a bath outside, he ruins it. He goes right into the pool
and it's you know, he's a mess. He's just a he's just a
mongrel, as Jody would say, because she she came over over the weekend.
But so trying to get him to find him alas a bath over the
weekend. Everybody's closed, nobody's open, blah blah blah. I do have
Okay, there's a place. There's let's let's call them La LA's home groomer
mobile groomer. Okay, okay, Lalla's my nickname by the way, from
Jimmy Kimmel family. Yeah, they named me Laala since they were little kids.
Anyway, So I hope this place is great because you're giving them a
nice No, actually, I don't know. It sounds like Lalla anyway,
La LA's mobile groomer would come and you know groom Phil. Everybody on my
street uses them, everybody. But here's the thing I don't like. First
of all, I got to go through an app to make the appointment.
Then they had to wait for them to get back to me. Then when
they get back to me, it's not for a week, you know.
And usually I've been like all right, or a few days, all right,
like I wanted to take him now today, like get him done right.
So that's and then the other problem I have to say is Phil is
very friendly. He loves when people come to the door. I'll take him,
you know, someplace. He'll He's just a friendly dog. He does
not like the woman that comes in grooms. He sees he hears the doorbell
and he's happy, go lucky wagon his fat ass to the door. And
then he sees who it is and he's like, oh hell no, really
he doesn't like it. How does he act when you give him a bath?
No, he's fine, that's the thing. And I do it with
a hose in the backyard and it's got to be cold. He doesn't get
He just stands there, you know, and I just scrub him down,
but you know, he needs his nails trimmed and shit, so he doesn't
like get so all right, So I'm trying to find him a place.
I call this one place that I used to take them too. Oh so
let me just get this straight. So the person that you were, that
you have had a few times, he doesn't like. So you were trying
to find another place, okay, and because a couple of reasons he doesn't
like them, and also that it's throw an as It's just I just there's
a million places in our neighborhood. So okay, So I call this one
place that Sonny told me it reminded me that we used to take them too,
and left them a message now and they don't call me back. Then
they call me back the next day and I'm not around. It can't take
them. They don't you know, I don't have the right time's not met.
Then they call him again, leave a message, no answer, and
then finally get a hold of them today and they say, uh, yeah,
well we can give him a bath June seventh. And I'm like,
no, thank you, June seventh. I know, like, and they're
like, I'm sorry, we're all booked anyway. You're like, he's dirty,
now, right, I know. So I'm walking him through the neighborhood
and I see this. I see millions of people walking with their dogs in
the neighborhood. And I'm walking towards this guy. And he's got his hair
is like grease bat he looks like a hippie, you know, like you
know, granola type dude. Friendly, and he's walking his his labradoodle.
Right, Phil sees the labradoles, he starts getting exciting. He wants to
go over whatever, and uh so I think to myself, I hang up
with them. They say they can't, they can't take Phil till June's own,
So I hang up. I'm irritated. I see this guy walking towards
me with a clean looking dog. He's not so clean, but the dog
is clean. He looks like like, you know, dude from Venice Beach
and smoked a doobie. So I go, excuse me, he's friendly.
I go, can I ask you a quick question? Where do you take
your dog in the neighborhood to groom? And he goes, well, I'm
a little biased because my mom owns a grooming place. Can you guess what
place it is? Oh? No, the mom? Oh no, what
are the fucking odds that I run into the son? I swear to cry,
I have his card, and then he gives me a card. He
goes, I love labs. I can take him for walks if you ever
need walks, And I was like, okay, well I don't. You're
like, is it gonna be you or your mom? Yeah? I don't
even this woman that takes Phil, I don't know if it's her. I
don't know if it's the truck that he goes in or maybe he doesn't.
But he's fine with loud noises. He's found at other places. He just
does not like that woman. That's so funny. And I'm so glad that
you didn't like that he didn't go like, because let me tell you a
story. I regularly go to and like, God, my dog hates them,
especially the woman that comes up. He gets a bad vibe. Right,
I think her name's like Lala or something. I was like so hoping
that this guy, But then then he tells me who his mother is,
and I'm like, are you kidding me? All right, I'll take your
card. Never mind, So I'm like, you know, oh, for
eight tries trying to get Phil into a ming place. Are you in nextdoor
dot com? Yes, good idea. Now go on nextdoor and just go
who do you guys? Where do you guys take your dog to get that's
a great idea. Well, I made an appointment for Petco store for tomorrow.
That's not bad. Yeah, I like it because you can see they're
like, you know, you see the dog, yes, sitting there up.
They can't get up to any funny business, right right right? I
like that. I do too. And it's kind of like when you're in
there for something else and you look in there, you can see like,
does everybody look crazy stressed? Right? You know? Right? Yeah?
What are they? What exactly are they doing? They can't like be I
don't want to say, like abusing your dog, but you know, right
yeah, Now, and what do I do? Should I sit there and
watch them get bathed? No? No, I'm leaving come back and pick
them up. I'll leave it to the people in the store to keep an
eye on fill anyway, that's it's just a crazy And then you know what
else happened? So okay? So then so then Natalia has got I got
to get her passport, right because we're going to Cabo for her birthday trip
that her you know, she planned anyway. So weird that you would say
that, because literally today I was like, I've got to get Elbe a
passport. I've got to help her get a passport. I don't have to
get it for her because she's eighteen, but but she should have a passport
because I was like, a bunch of her and the reason I thought of
it was a bunch of her friends are going to Europe this summer, and
I was like, what if Elbie wanted to like join on a trip,
she wouldn't be able to because she doesn't have a passport, right, but
you could expedite it. Yeah, you get it, expedite it and whatever.
So I'm waiting for this passport to come, and I go to them
and so over the weekend it's Memorial weekend, I go to check the mail
and there's the slip. Okay, so I got Stunny's passport. It came,
no problem, pla blemo, as I would say, you would say,
right, So it came without a signature required. But so I'm waiting
and it should come any day. So I checked the mail there's a thing
from the US Postal Office. Miss you know you need to have signature is
required? So I tracked the package and I see online it's at the postal
office. The postal office is up the street. I think, okay,
I'll go pick it up. But then I track it and it's in it's
in um transit. Yes, thank you. So I'm like, okay,
today's Tuesday. Why did you already get a paper for it if it's in
transit? Or you mean you tracked it and it said it was in transit.
So it says it's in transit. You didn't get like a notice like
it's been it's at this Well, I got the notice and says it needs
a signature required. So what do I do? Do I sign it,
put it in the mailbox and wait, or do I sign it or take
it to the post office and pick it up. So I look online it
says it's in transit. So I'm thinking, okay, maybe they're gonna today's
the day. It's Tuesday, they're going to deliver it. So I'm gonna
keep an eye on it. So I sign it, I put it in
the mailbox, and I'm take and fill on the walk. And then after
I passed La LA's son down this, I'm turning the corner. There's the
mailman. Like, oh my God, thank you Jesus. Like I never
would think I would run into the mailman. I'm like, mister mailan,
hold hold on, hold on. Run up to him and I show him.
Oh no, I said, I didn't have the thing. I said,
I just I know you were already at my house, but I have
a slip need signature required. Did you see it? And he goes,
is this it? He gets it and hands it to me and I go,
oh, do you have the package? And he goes, no,
it's at the post office. You have to go pick it up. Well,
why I know, I said, but it's in transit, he said,
to give you a new slip. No, he goes, take this
slip. He gave it back to me. He said, go to the
post office and take it up with him in the first place, because then
he goes and gets it and then we'll bring it the next day. Oh
see they there, that's how it works. Okay. So he goes,
if you go to the post office, you can go get it. I
go, your shirts at the post office. He said, yes, okay,
Oh, I'm all excited. Finally it's here and one thing I less
thing I have to worry about. Stand in line at the post office,
get right up. She sees me coming with the slip. She already knows.
She takes it from my hand. She goes, I'll go, let
me go back in the back and go get it. You know, she
does it all day long. She sees those slips. She goes in the
back. I like, I like her moxie because she's like going to the
back. Comes out. It's not the fucking passport. Oh no, no,
yes, not the passport, just something else, just a package that
I didn't need the for Natalia that I don't know where who would sent it
to her? I don't Yeah, like what the fuck? No? So
now I'm like something from Polly's whatever, Princess Polly's something that seems or whatever
sheen right now, I don't even know, but like, really, come
on, anyway, can you track the passport? Yeah? You know where
it is? Well? I asked that there was a guy that helped me.
There was a guy I know, a guy, and I contacted him
and he's getting me the info so I can track it. As we speak.
I mean, this is all going on. This is a fluid situation.
Well, let's take a quick break. All right, we're back.
So how are you doing. How's your day? Uh, it's going well.
You know, let Menna tell you a little, a little something about
having children. Kaylin. I don't know if you're at the stage yet,
but oh my god, it's like whack a mole. Get ready, Kaylin,
because I know you hear are these stories and you're like, oh,
this is miles away from me. I don't have to worry about this show.
The mill room has turned into I used to think I was in the
corner office, and now I'm I'm in like an executive suite where all roads
lead to me. It's like a problem solver, right, Like I have
I have a window view, I've got a comfy chair, but I got
a lot of fucking people coming in my office all day long. Problems but
only a problem problem. Who's got the problem? Right? Yeah? Sometimes
I just want to lock my office door and go I don't know, I
can't help any of you. I don't know how I got to this job
in the first place. I didn't earn it. Yeah. Yeah, So
sometimes I kind of longed for the day when the kids were just little and
their problems where just yes, you know, I accidentally put jelly on their
sandwich and they're upset, you know, and need some time alone in their
room. Now it's like bigger, way, bigger problems. Yeah, it's
like whack them ale. Yeah. And also, and I have a feeling
a lot of people who listen to our podcasts could have seen this coming a
mile away. But I feel like, in some ways it's possible that I
haven't given my kids the resiliency to deal with certain issues on their own,
right, Do you know what I mean? Yeah, yes I do.
I was still liking about that today. Feel like maybe all of this making
their lunch and like snow plowing ahead of them too so that they don't feel
pain has come back to bite me in the ass just a little bit.
Yes, I agree. And I was thinking about that because I was been
with Sunny all weekend and I was like, are you hungry? What do
you want some pasta? So I make him the pasta and he's in the
kitchen talking to me and he was like that's it. I go. Yeah,
especially with him, he just wants butter and cheese, and he was
like, I go, yes, you need to start being able to do
that, like I shouldn't be making I know. He goes, that's it,
like that's all, that's all. Yeah, like he didn't know,
like he thought from hard sucked with some kind of a magic Harry Potter magic
kind of thing. Yes, but I laboratory. I will tell you.
He's been cooking a lot with his other friends that like he just went,
he had a barbecue that him and his friends went to the store. They
bought their own little steaks, they seasoned everything, they got vegetables to grill
up. So he's learning, he's getting there. Yeah. Oh, they
can do stuff when they do it with their friends, right, It's just
that when we're there, they don't know how to do anything. Right.
My kids don't know how to do laundry. Whose fault is that? It's
my fault. I've never been like, hey, let me show you how
to do your own laundry. Never, not one time have I been,
oh, you know what, I might have done it with Elbie, and
I'm sure she's forgotten completely. I don't know why. Here's why. I
guess in my mind, I go, well, it's just easier for me
to do it because like, I know what I'm doing already, so it's
easier for me to do it. But is it though, because then all
I do is like kind of bitch and like grouse to myself and go,
oh here, I am like hawk with one chore after the next. Now
I'm doing the laundry. Now I'm loading the dishwasher, because I'll be didn't
unload the dishwasher, but I won't be a hard ass and go Elbie,
unload the fucking dishwasher. Yeah, I have to say, both my kids
do do their lot. They don't fold, but they do. Because Natalia
has so much clothes, I just gave up and I was like, if
you want you want to wear that tom out, you're gonna have to wash
it. And then Sonny's got only like four T shirts he likes to wear
and two pants he likes to wear, and they get dirty and he'll last
night, he'll he'll do the laundry, but sometimes inconveniently, right when you're
in there. That's right, that's right, that's right. Yeah, embarrassing,
but anyway, Yeah, well, Xander is very much into fashion.
He's pickier than both my girls. He really has like a look that he
kind of adheres to. And he's so he's got like a lot. I
always say, I think he's got more clothes than well, all of Elbie's
clothes are like the tiniest little tank tops. Yeah. Yeah, baggy jeans
and little tank tops, toddler T shirts. Uh. But Xander has a
lot of T shirts and they have to fit a certain way. They have
to be they have to be big, but not giant, because sometimes he'll
get a shirt and it's a little too big and I'll think, oh,
yeah, that's perfect, that's like I like to wear it, and he's
like, no, yeah it's too big. Mom. Yeah yeah, Like
how do you even know? Because if it and I have to be suited.
So everything that Xander wears pretty much cannot go in the dryer because nothing
can shrink. See what I'm saying, Like they get stuff and it's the
size that they need it. Now, everything that I have can pretty much
go in the dryer. I mean pretty much pretty much. It's T shirts
and sweatpants and like, I know, my laundry is so easy, all
the darks going the same and then all the light's gone that yes, and
I'm constantly like washing sheets. Oh my god, that sheets. But every
single one of Xander's t shirts has to be hung. So I got one
of those dryer racks because I used to do sort of a makeshift like hang
this one over the ironing board and hang this one just over the dryer.
And I was like, now I've got so much and I don't have a
clothesline. So I've got one of those dryer racks for clothes. And it's
like, so I have, but I can only do like I can do
a lot of Xander's stuff, but then I have to wait to do Sadie
stuff. It's a whole shot, it is. Yeah, that's what I'm
saying. Laundry is a lost I know, it's a beast, and none
of the kids really help me with anything. Now Xander has insisted he's taken
on. He does he makes his own lunches every night. That see,
that's good. And he's also becomes very helpful as far as like he will
offer to go to the store with me. Oh that's nice. Yeah,
so he's kind of kicked it up a notch. But now Elbie's kind of
kicked it down a notch. I can't do busy man, she's so busy.
Time for no time, no time, trying to do laundry. No,
But then I feel bad because it's like part of me wants to teach
her some responsibility, and there's another part of me that's like this poor girl,
like in her school's ending, she's about to graduate from high school.
She's got a lot of stress on her plate right now. So my underparented
heart goes, No, I don't want her to feel sad, and I
want her to just like hang out with her boyfriend and just study and like
you know, order her over eats and like you know, and then part
of me like that. Then John's always like, well she even part of
our family anymore? And I'm like, I don't know, kind of she
does her best, she's living her best life. Yeah, John and I
got into this like not a fight, but he sort of pointed out that
it's it's hard for him because you know, I'm a little codependent with Elby,
and he's like, you get upset with me. It's kind of like
this weird catch twenty two where he can't really come down on her very hard
because he's like, if I come down on her too hard, you get
upset with me, and I was like, I was of course crying during
this argument, and I was like, I know, and then he goes,
But then you want me to also be the like you get mad if
I'm like being her best friend and you have because sometimes I get upset with
her like it. But it's because I I think you'll relate to this,
Like I see, I try so hard to be like nice mom, you
know, and like understanding and stuff, but then like something will build up
and then before you know it, like I'm kind of mad and she doesn't
understand where it's coming from. And then we're in an argument and I'm like,
but then you and you also did this and you don't let the dishwasher
and you blah blah blah, and you're disrespectful and your room is a messon
and then everybody's like whoa, you know right, And then I'm like,
in my mind, I'm like, fuck you, John, you complain about
this stuff all the time too. And now you're like, well, I'll
let you handle this, right, you know. And then I'm like,
well, I thought you were mad about this too, but John feels rightly,
so that like okay, But like we had one issue with Elbi,
and now it just became five. So I was like, if it was
up to me, I would have just told her the one thing that she
was doing right right, But you decided to like let loose all the things,
and now she's crying and now you're upset. And then he's like but
and then I say, but how come I have to be the heavy And
he's like, well, because if I get mad at her for all those
little things leading up, you will protect her interesting And I was like,
you're so, You're right, you can't. It's hard for you to win
because I don't want him. I don't want him bitching at her about all
these little things. Apparently I would just rather get mad at her once every
six months. But you it's hard for you too, you know you you
know it's I see both sides of it totally. I totally see your side.
I've done that many times, you know. I once I get going,
it's like and then this, and then this, and then she starts
to cry, and she's like, you know, because he doesn't do anything
wrong, but she starts, you know, I'm just kidding. No,
I know, I hear you. She like, you know, why are
you so mean, Why are you getting so goad? Why are you in
a bad mood? Like that's what I get, right, you know.
But it's like a lot of times with her though, she doesn't give me
a chance to talk, like I'm you know, I want to talk to
you about this, I'm busy. Can we talk later, you know,
and then it just falls by the wayside, and then it just comes up
when it all comes up. Yeah, it's pretty stressful of teenagers, especially
girls. Yeah, and I think that good luck, Haylyn. I got
a little while. I definitely also take certain things personally, which is,
you know, my own issue and I have to work on it. But
it's like I think I get so used to my kids like being my friends
too, you know, and like wanting to hang out with them, that
if they do something, let's say, even if they're not meaning to hurt
my feelings, they just do something teenagery like you know, be embarrassed that
I'm with them or something, or like not want me to meet their friends
or something where I feel like, oh now, oh, I just suddenly
got relegated to being like the mom. Yeah you know where I was like,
but remember me cool mom? Like is Elbie still like that or is
it more that? And obviously Elbie's gotten a little more like that in certain
ways. Really just just hoping like they like at least start to grow out
of it so that Yeah, I wish I wish they would grow out of
it too. Let's let me put it this way. Sandy and Xander have
never really gotten to that phase. They sort of love they they're almost the
opposite. Like they'll have their friend they like what I'm around, and they
will like use me to like they'll be the buffer. Remember I told you.
They'll be like, mom, can't play a game with us? Yeah,
why do you want me to play a game with you? Yeah?
So inappropriate for me to play like a new phone, Hoods or those card
games. It's like, no, I really want me to be pulling the
litty titty card out and like I never played those games? Is that how
it is? It's fun? Yeah, they're fun. There's a little cards
against humanity but a little bit watered down, but not that much. So
some of the stuff's inappropriate, which is totally funny. But you'd think when
they're with their friends they wouldn't want on their mom and her fifties right,
you know, right saying I don't know it's funny, but I think it's
cute. But I think it's cute too, And I see their point of
view because I think that they like the buffer. I think, you know,
I don't know, I mean, I I could see that, like
there's some kids. Well as an adult, sometimes I like another third person
to you know, so it's not just one. I don't know, you
know what I'm saying. Yeah, but like all my kids, like both
the kids will have like a friend over and they're all hanging out and they'll
be like, mom, come play whatever, And I'm like, you guys
have a friend over? Yeah, right, Like you're supposed to be self
contained. Now, yes, I'm supposed to be listening to a murder podcast
right that doesn't include me. That's an A to B to see to D
conversation. I'm e yeah, yeah, absolutely, I'll be eating Caleb has
your girls. My girls are very good, although they're starting to not listen
age, Yeah they are. And even with the like when Ila was Blake's
age, she would still listen. Now she's starting to not listen. But
now Blake's not listening either. So do they like do they have each other,
like if I think they're still is kind of young, do they like
sometimes sunny and italiable gang up on me, Like if I'm on Natalia about
something sunny, you'll come and butt in and go, mom, you're being
unreasonable. They're kind of yeah, well, so, well it's only if
you know, I'm having to be kind of stern towards Isla and then Blake
will run in and stand in front of her with her arms out like that
and say, leave my sister alone. Yeah, oh my god, so
she does that. But uh yeah, so's been having to raise my voice
a little more often lately. Did they just get them to do you have
the dad voice? I meant breakfast, you know, like yes, nay,
he knock it off. Yeah, yeah, that's good. You need
they need the dad voice, which has always normally worked. Now it's starting
to a little bit less. I'm having to increase the volume a little more.
Yeah, because you're so laid back that they're just like, that's just
dad. He's a big teddy there, right, You're like, oh,
Dad, I don't know. With them, they I can pretty much get
them to are you the who's the good cop bad cop? In your scenario.
I would probably be the I don't know, like, they'll definitely,
um, they'll definitely get Amy to a like annoy her more. But then
she'll be like, all right, well I'm you're I'm gonna have to get
your dad to come in here now. So I guess that makes me the
bad car. Okay, yeah that's good. Yeah. I always got to
be a good cop, bad cop and the default parent. Now was your
dad the I mean, your mom was had a temper, But was your
dad really ever good cop or were they just bad cop bad cop? I
my dad was always trying to avoid my mom um, but so I can't
really remember. There was a time where they both slept in different bedrooms,
so they never really were on the same page. My dad was always like,
you're not you can't spend the night at this girl's house because they have
a Doberman. You know. My dad was the strict the strict one.
My mom was like, you know, she would have a temper, but
she would be like, ah, go ahead to have a fun and go
outside to go play, you know. But my dad would be like,
you gotta be home when the lights come on, you know, when the
street lights come on. He was the one that was like, where are
you blah blah blah. But it's weird because then when I got older,
in my late teens, like after high school, my dad was much like,
understand knew I had a girlfriend, I mean a boyfriend, and my
mom did not like I kept it from you know, Oh he's a brick,
a layer, he's a he's gonna win and you were gonna lose.
You know that, Daddy, your dy, right, But my dad knew
I was on the pill, and he was fine with it, and he
thought, you know, protect yourself. You know, I'm I would tell
him I'm sleeping at Mike Gersting's house. I wouldn't tell him I was sleeping
at you know, I tell my mom, I'm sleeping at my girlfriend's house.
You know. But this was after they were split up. Yeah,
okay, they were separate, they were getting divorced. Yeah, ok yeah,
so I could confine my dad. And I watched movies with my dad
too that I felt like I had a comfort with him, you know,
like if they're you know, it's really weird when you're like there's a sex
scene stuff and you're watching it with your But it was uncomfortable. But my
dad always kind of was like chill, like, you know, it was
very easy to talk to. You know. Well, he seems like he
was the more liberal one. He was definitely he was very understanding. When
he wanted you to go to like the alternative school. Yes, he wanted
me to go to the alternative school school of the Arts, you know,
or inclusion. He loved that. Yeah, that's He would drive me every
day from Canoga Arc to Van Eyes. He drove like a maniac too,
on his way to work drop me off because I was getting bust there when
I was younger. But as I got older, he would just take me
to school and drop me off. And yeah, he was he was.
My dad was like the one parent that I was a parent like. I
was close with my mom. I always knew she was unpredictable and she was
kooky and embarrassing, like, oh God, don't come out with my friend,
stay home, you know, blah blah blah. My dad was like,
oh, I'll just come pick you up. All cruise down at the
end of the block and pick you up like that kind of stuff. Right.
Yeah, it was very understanding. It's so funny because looking back,
there's no reason my parents couldn't have taken me to school in the morning.
Yeah, how did you get to school? Bus? City bus? Really
city bush. It's like not that bad. But when I think, I
just think, like I can't imagine putting my kids on the city bus.
I used to take the ARC because they'd have to get they'd have to get
up so early to get on. I just can't. I just like,
what am I doing? Like it's not a big I mean maybe if I
worked full time, but like my stepfather did not work, yeah at all,
Like, yeah, he could have taken you totally could have That's bizarre.
Get that. And maybe it was the time, you know that those
were the times back then kind of thing, I guess, but it is
just I mean not, I don't know. Let's take another let's take another
quick break. I think this is one of the things, and you know,
it's probably all comes It comes up a lot because I've been I just
finished writing my book, Yeah, finished my copy Edits a lot of digging
into the childhood right going on. I just think that my parents didn't think,
didn't feel any sense of like we're shaping young minds. Like I just
think they didn't give a fuck like about people's feelings, like what people were
going through. So maybe I just care too much, you know, Yeah,
yeah, a little overcompence. I'm definitely definitely over compensating. Like,
I'm sure my kids could would be fine with a little more independence or a
little more No, they have lots of independence. R I let them do
anything that they want to do on their own. The more things that they're
brave enough to like, hey, I don't mind doing that, I'm like,
great, right, I'm all about that. I don't hold them back
from that at all. I'm not a helicopter parent, yeah, I'm I'm
a snowpow parent. I'm just like, hey, if you're feeling upset about
something, let me try to help you. Let me fix it. Let's
fix it. You know. I don't want you to have to feel sad
or hurt or It's not that I'm trying to like, if they're going to
feel sad and hurt, let them reach out and like, fuck up,
right, then I'm going to try to help them so much, Like,
I don't I get worried about them right especially, I think too, I
don't know if are things different now, do you think where so many of
these teenagers these days are having like mental health issues. Yes, I'm so
paranoid. I hear so much about my kids friends, about so many kids
that my kids know are like druggies, or they're super bad potheads, or
they're I mean, we hear about it from our listeners. I have kids
that are having a lot of people I know their kids are having serious issues
with like drugs and alcohol already, right, or depression mental health issues,
and like I worry, Oh if I'm not on top of it, if
they're feeling really really sad, what if what if they try to harm themselves?
What if they start what if they turn to like drugs to like feel
better because they're not sharing with me and I'm not helping and supporting, so
I don't know what it is, Like I think, well, And also
I've been hearing social media as becoming dangerous a mental health issue for teenagers.
Yeah, you know, it's getting really bad. Yeah you've seen have you
heard about that? Of course? Yeah? Yeah, that I hate And
I think about it and like, you know, my kids really Sunny doesn't.
We talk a lot and he'll tell me a lot of things, but
he doesn't really open up and tell me when things are bothering him. And
I've never really seen him cry, you know. He sometimes gets sad about
it something and he'll get teary eyed about it, but he doesn't he doesn't
really open up to me. But you know, I've I've talked to him.
I tell him like you can tell me, and you know whatever.
Natalia will open up to me once and when she's ready, you know,
and certain to like like sometimes I'm not even expecting it. I'll walk in
her bedroom and she'll just start talking, you know, and that's when I'm
like, Okay, here's my chance to like, you know. But then
when I start to get like, is everything okay? How do you like,
She'll be like I'm like, she gets she gets very like, doesn't
want me to really dig too much, you know. But remember when she
went through that time where you were really worried about her and her friends were
coming to you, yes, saying we're really worried about Italia, and then
you got her into therapy. Yeah, But do you ever feel I hate
to use the word triggered, but do you ever feel like, I don't
know, you see her being seeming sad or seeming something, and then you
go like, oh, what if she's gone back to that time feeling like
that? Yeah, and what if I don't know it? And what if
her friends have to come to me to go like Lynette, like you know,
miss Carolla were really worried about Natalia, Like yeah, that's how I
feel. Yeah, No, I know I think about that, but I
feel like that was a phase because there was other girls in her group that
we're acting that way. But um, it's interesting because Sonny and I just
had this conversation the other night because Jody came over and Jody was like saying
that, um, you know, Natalia could have gone. She thinks Natalia
could have gone either way, Like she's got great friends because she knows all
of Natalia's friends. She's met them and they are really good kids. And
we were talking and she was like, she could have gone either way.
She could have been with the mean girls, but she ended up being with
it, you know. And then Sonny and I started talking afterwards and he
was like, I disagree with that, he said, because if you think
about Natalia, she she had that like spark and like fiery. She still
does and she's attracted to kind of like you know, let's have fun kind
of thing. But as far as like a mean girl, he's like,
honestly, mom, he goes all the most popular girls in our school and
he named them, and I know who they are. They're volleyball girls.
He goes super nice, super inclusive, super sweet, super blah blah blah.
And he's like, and the guys, there's not like a guy that
walks around bullies kids. I don't know. He's like, and I think
maybe it's there. Our new generation has been taught like, you don't bully,
anti bullying, anti bullying. Maybe that I don't know, Like it's
definitely better. Yeah, that's for sure in that way. Elby's told me
the same thing. I mean, and she goes to a big public high
school that's you would think would have the burnout to the socials and the populars
and the right. No. Yeah, Elby tells me. She's like,
there's there are and there they don't even call them clicks anymore, or as
John would call it, cliques, which I'm like, it's called a click.
It cleeks. He's very into like princ things with in old fashioned ways,
but he made married to me. Elby says that it's just groups.
Like there's definitely friend groups. But she's like, that's yeah. But she's
like and there's like she's Alby's in like a very big friend group, but
she goes but they all kind of morph and change, and she's like,
and most of people are pretty open. Like if some new girl, if
somebody made friends with someone in their class and was like, oh so it's
so sitting with us at lunch today, we'd all be like cool, right,
Like they wouldn't be like, oh who are you? Yeah, and
Wednesdays we were paid, right, they would they would just yea be like
oh okay. Yeah. So like in Sonny, I was like, you
know, you watch these movies and you see like, you know, the
douchebag dude that walks in and like smacks the tray out of the kid's hands,
right Like, yeah, you know that's not like that. No,
people would be like what what a dick? Yeah see, that's not nice
for you to look forward to Klin for your kids. Yeah, you know,
but there's other the mental illness and the like the social media and stuff
like that that's the scary. It doesn't stop our girls from feeling insecure about
themselves. And their bodies and their hate it who they are and how tall
they are and how you know if do they have acne? And like there's
just a lot of kids that still feel like losers I know, you know,
right, and even if people are friendly to them, and there are
still definitely tons of kids abusing drugs. Oh yeah, and I'll absolutely yeah,
I definitely noticed that, Like Elbie's friend group. Never they never became
like hard partiers. I don't even know of kids because I know I hear
about the parties and usually at these parties, like and some of them I've
talked about on Patreon, but one or two kids will get like really drunk.
But like in my day, I sound like I'm eighty, right,
in my day, everybody got drunk. Yeah, there wasn't a chauber I
in the house, but seriously, everybody was hammered. Like that was what
you did. And when I was a kid, you went out for the
specific purpose of drinking. Like you didn't even go to parties to socialize.
You went to drink. Nowadays, they don't have keg parties, right,
nobody know, it's like they will have alcohol. I'm not stupid, like
I know for sure, and it'll be somebody's job to like get the alcohol,
and they like have fake IDAs and whatnot. But it doesn't feel like
they're all like the focus is on like let's go drink somewhere. Yeah,
because they will also do other things that I would never have, Like there
they will be like, oh, we're all gonna go bowling, right,
We're not getting drunk there. So they do activities. I can't even imagine
that from you as a kid. And it was all about where we're gonna
drink, right, I know, Like Sonny just went fishing the other day
with his friend. See, I rest my case. I know where's Mark
Gregos? Yeah? I look, I Oh I took I took Mark Garrigos
in my car the other day. You did? Oh god? Yes?
And here's this, like, uh, all right, I gotta talk about
my ex husband. But this is so Natalia is going on a trip with
them to New York and she has to be at the airport or like because
they're going on Garaghost's jet, okay, and uh so she has to be
But then she tells me, you don't have to take me to the air
report. You can just drop me off at Garaghosa's, which is close by
where we live. I was like, okay, perfect. So then she
says, do you want to go to Barry's boot camp with me at six
am? Okay, I think I saw this on your Facebook Instagram. Yeah
you did it six ten am class. Yeah, She's like, can you
do? Can we go to that and then we can eat breakfast at home
and then you can just drop me off at the garaghosts. And I was
like, okay, hey, I have never come across such a go get
her as your kids. She isn't. Yes when it comes to she's which
I did you guys wake up like five five thirty and you know what's weird?
She woke up at five thirty without the She set her alarm for five
thirty pm and she she woke up anyway, So we got up at five
thirty. We had like nothing to drink. I mean, we just drank
some water. Her got in the car, didn't need anything, went to
Barry's bootcam coffee before No, I didn't have time, like I just got
up and she drinks these like healthy seltzer something I don't know. Gave me
one. So anyway, we go six ten o' class and did it,
and then I gotta say it felt great, Like it's like I need to
do this more often for a few hours than by Yeah, by noon.
I was like, oh, meanwhile, she's trotting often. So I'm driving
her over to Garago, so she needs to be there at nine thirty.
We're leaving my house at nine twenty and we're driving down the street, turned
the corner and there's a guy we see the back of his head and he's
walking around and he's on the phone on his earbuds and it's Garagos. It's
Mark Garrigos. So I pull over. I was like, hey, I'm
on the way to take her, and he goes, oh, oh great,
oh, And I was like, was he going for like his morning
constitutional I do? Go. I see him a lot walking around, But
I go, did you know she was? And he goes, no,
No, but that's great, that's great. I go, wait, nobody
told you that she was coming to your house at nine thirty. No,
but it's fine. It's like, really one of the fuck anyway, So
he no. Tali gets out of the front seat, he gets in the
front he goes, no, let me go with you. Look, let's
go and he's just like, so, hey, how's it going. Friendly
blah blah blah. Did she ever? But so she'd already, oh,
you were on your way to his house. She's already gotten showered and got
her show together cases in my car. So you would have gotten to his
house and he wouldn't have been there because he would have been on a walk,
right, right. So I took him to his house and it's like,
you know, one minute, two minutes or whatever away and dropped her
off. I was like in the tally, he was like, mom,
oh my god, I'm embarrassing. Thank god you like we saw it would
have been embarrassing for her, you know, I mean I was gonna walk
her up and everything. But anyway, yeah, saw Mark Garra goes.
He was like, yeah, call me sometimes he's like you ghost me.
I go, I don't ghost you. We want you on my show.
He's like, yeah, okay, zoom them in. Oh my god,
we have okay. So yeah, So was he going on the New York
trip too? Yeah, yeah, okay, yeah, yeah, she's she's
having a good time and Sonny went fishing and fishing. Yes, it was.
He was like, I'm going out with my friends I don't know what
we're doing. And then an hour later I look on the map and I
see he's like in the middle of nowhere. I'm like, where are you
and he goes, we're out of lake fishing. Okay, so I guess
we don't have to worry about your kids. Well, I mean, I
don't know he was gonna They said they were gonna catch fish and cook it
for the grill it, but they didn't, so instead they went to store
and bought steaks. But I like that he's learning how to cook from his
friends. That is my kids are They feed off of what their friends do.
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