1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:19,440 I made a decision face. The sunny sound I had was that everybody in 2 00:00:19,760 --> 00:00:24,600 seventies our show was happening. Hey, how's it going? Pretty good? 3 00:00:24,800 --> 00:00:28,600 Pretty good? Is her mic plugged into anything? You know? That's that 4 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:31,920 cable's like attached to the arm and she makes a horrible sound on the mic. 5 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:35,039 We're all fucked up over here. We were gonna have cameras so you 6 00:00:35,079 --> 00:00:37,960 could see us, but we don't have a chord. But there's a chord 7 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:41,880 yet. There's a chord hanging off on my microphone. Dylan keeps taking the 8 00:00:42,079 --> 00:00:44,920 you know what, I'm gonna kill that kid. I don't care. You 9 00:00:44,960 --> 00:00:49,399 know what, I care about our beautiful, beautiful supporters of our show, 10 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:56,000 like Jennifer who never gets up. She's still down, Jesus jen Man down. 11 00:00:56,560 --> 00:01:00,359 Sarah's the final snipe, pies on, No, Leslie still a coin? 12 00:01:00,880 --> 00:01:08,680 Come on with the coughing, Alicia, Amy, I love Amy. 13 00:01:08,959 --> 00:01:15,400 She is not a C word. No no, uh Kelly. She might 14 00:01:15,439 --> 00:01:17,840 be a sea word, but she might take in a plan fair to too 15 00:01:17,920 --> 00:01:29,239 exactly. Rebecca, that ass though, Missy and Gabby, come on, 16 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:34,599 stop causing trouble. Always into something, Katerina, I'm not even kidding. 17 00:01:34,599 --> 00:01:38,040 When I say check that you're gonna lose it, check her lose it. 18 00:01:38,480 --> 00:01:41,400 Valerie hits it out of the park. Polly, we love those pancakes. 19 00:01:41,760 --> 00:01:48,120 And this is Athena Ginshard is such a wonderful dancer. Yes she is full 20 00:01:48,200 --> 00:01:53,519 props Elizabeth Williamson. All we really know about her is that she has too 21 00:01:53,519 --> 00:01:57,560 many kids, a lot, and she loves him Hero. All we know 22 00:01:57,599 --> 00:02:02,879 about him is everybody his kids love him. We pay money just say I 23 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:07,400 know you. You got to be feeling good. And Father's Day, Father's 24 00:02:07,479 --> 00:02:13,479 Day, Yeah, reader rocks that bastinet. Jacob is so very very grawley, 25 00:02:13,520 --> 00:02:15,919 but we all love him. I just got accosted by Leslie outside of 26 00:02:16,039 --> 00:02:20,520 IKEA. You did as She tried to sex traffic me. She still had 27 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:27,960 Ashley so she Stephane used a stinker rinker, Christa get the strap and Sandra 28 00:02:28,039 --> 00:02:32,039 it's not easy being not easy being green, No, dude, something, 29 00:02:32,639 --> 00:02:37,599 This is a dumb story. But I take Phil for a walk today. 30 00:02:38,039 --> 00:02:43,199 I've been trying. So it's Memorial weekend. Natalia is on a trip with 31 00:02:43,199 --> 00:02:46,520 her father in New York, which was nice. Sunny didn't want to go 32 00:02:46,680 --> 00:02:51,360 because he's going to Japan in like less than one week from today. Whoa, 33 00:02:51,719 --> 00:02:54,719 I know, I know, the day before his birthday, leaving for 34 00:02:54,800 --> 00:02:59,000 Japan, and so he didn't want to go. He wanted to, you 35 00:02:59,039 --> 00:03:00,960 know, chill with his momma. Right, So it's just sunny and I 36 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:06,719 all weekend chilling I took. I've been trying to find a place over the 37 00:03:06,759 --> 00:03:09,479 weekend that will take Phil for a bath, and I every time I give 38 00:03:09,560 --> 00:03:14,000 him a bath outside, he ruins it. He goes right into the pool 39 00:03:14,479 --> 00:03:17,639 and it's you know, he's a mess. He's just a he's just a 40 00:03:17,680 --> 00:03:22,639 mongrel, as Jody would say, because she she came over over the weekend. 41 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:25,719 But so trying to get him to find him alas a bath over the 42 00:03:25,759 --> 00:03:30,800 weekend. Everybody's closed, nobody's open, blah blah blah. I do have 43 00:03:31,199 --> 00:03:38,560 Okay, there's a place. There's let's let's call them La LA's home groomer 44 00:03:38,919 --> 00:03:43,159 mobile groomer. Okay, okay, Lalla's my nickname by the way, from 45 00:03:43,479 --> 00:03:46,599 Jimmy Kimmel family. Yeah, they named me Laala since they were little kids. 46 00:03:46,599 --> 00:03:50,120 Anyway, So I hope this place is great because you're giving them a 47 00:03:50,240 --> 00:03:53,840 nice No, actually, I don't know. It sounds like Lalla anyway, 48 00:03:53,919 --> 00:03:59,520 La LA's mobile groomer would come and you know groom Phil. Everybody on my 49 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:03,560 street uses them, everybody. But here's the thing I don't like. First 50 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:05,960 of all, I got to go through an app to make the appointment. 51 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:09,439 Then they had to wait for them to get back to me. Then when 52 00:04:09,439 --> 00:04:11,719 they get back to me, it's not for a week, you know. 53 00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:14,840 And usually I've been like all right, or a few days, all right, 54 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:17,759 like I wanted to take him now today, like get him done right. 55 00:04:17,879 --> 00:04:23,800 So that's and then the other problem I have to say is Phil is 56 00:04:23,959 --> 00:04:27,720 very friendly. He loves when people come to the door. I'll take him, 57 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:30,600 you know, someplace. He'll He's just a friendly dog. He does 58 00:04:30,759 --> 00:04:34,920 not like the woman that comes in grooms. He sees he hears the doorbell 59 00:04:35,199 --> 00:04:39,199 and he's happy, go lucky wagon his fat ass to the door. And 60 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:42,639 then he sees who it is and he's like, oh hell no, really 61 00:04:42,639 --> 00:04:46,000 he doesn't like it. How does he act when you give him a bath? 62 00:04:46,519 --> 00:04:48,759 No, he's fine, that's the thing. And I do it with 63 00:04:48,800 --> 00:04:51,240 a hose in the backyard and it's got to be cold. He doesn't get 64 00:04:51,399 --> 00:04:55,439 He just stands there, you know, and I just scrub him down, 65 00:04:55,959 --> 00:04:59,720 but you know, he needs his nails trimmed and shit, so he doesn't 66 00:04:59,759 --> 00:05:01,600 like get so all right, So I'm trying to find him a place. 67 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:04,439 I call this one place that I used to take them too. Oh so 68 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:08,240 let me just get this straight. So the person that you were, that 69 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:11,000 you have had a few times, he doesn't like. So you were trying 70 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:14,920 to find another place, okay, and because a couple of reasons he doesn't 71 00:05:14,959 --> 00:05:17,560 like them, and also that it's throw an as It's just I just there's 72 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:23,240 a million places in our neighborhood. So okay, So I call this one 73 00:05:23,279 --> 00:05:26,600 place that Sonny told me it reminded me that we used to take them too, 74 00:05:26,759 --> 00:05:30,360 and left them a message now and they don't call me back. Then 75 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:32,199 they call me back the next day and I'm not around. It can't take 76 00:05:32,279 --> 00:05:34,439 them. They don't you know, I don't have the right time's not met. 77 00:05:34,680 --> 00:05:38,920 Then they call him again, leave a message, no answer, and 78 00:05:38,959 --> 00:05:42,279 then finally get a hold of them today and they say, uh, yeah, 79 00:05:42,319 --> 00:05:44,399 well we can give him a bath June seventh. And I'm like, 80 00:05:44,560 --> 00:05:47,040 no, thank you, June seventh. I know, like, and they're 81 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:51,240 like, I'm sorry, we're all booked anyway. You're like, he's dirty, 82 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:55,519 now, right, I know. So I'm walking him through the neighborhood 83 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:59,199 and I see this. I see millions of people walking with their dogs in 84 00:05:59,240 --> 00:06:02,439 the neighborhood. And I'm walking towards this guy. And he's got his hair 85 00:06:02,639 --> 00:06:05,800 is like grease bat he looks like a hippie, you know, like you 86 00:06:05,839 --> 00:06:13,399 know, granola type dude. Friendly, and he's walking his his labradoodle. 87 00:06:13,720 --> 00:06:16,000 Right, Phil sees the labradoles, he starts getting exciting. He wants to 88 00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:20,720 go over whatever, and uh so I think to myself, I hang up 89 00:06:20,720 --> 00:06:24,800 with them. They say they can't, they can't take Phil till June's own, 90 00:06:24,879 --> 00:06:27,680 So I hang up. I'm irritated. I see this guy walking towards 91 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:30,360 me with a clean looking dog. He's not so clean, but the dog 92 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:33,839 is clean. He looks like like, you know, dude from Venice Beach 93 00:06:33,879 --> 00:06:39,199 and smoked a doobie. So I go, excuse me, he's friendly. 94 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:41,839 I go, can I ask you a quick question? Where do you take 95 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:46,519 your dog in the neighborhood to groom? And he goes, well, I'm 96 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:50,439 a little biased because my mom owns a grooming place. Can you guess what 97 00:06:50,519 --> 00:06:56,040 place it is? Oh? No, the mom? Oh no, what 98 00:06:56,399 --> 00:07:00,839 are the fucking odds that I run into the son? I swear to cry, 99 00:07:01,079 --> 00:07:02,959 I have his card, and then he gives me a card. He 100 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:05,600 goes, I love labs. I can take him for walks if you ever 101 00:07:05,639 --> 00:07:10,560 need walks, And I was like, okay, well I don't. You're 102 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:13,199 like, is it gonna be you or your mom? Yeah? I don't 103 00:07:13,199 --> 00:07:15,560 even this woman that takes Phil, I don't know if it's her. I 104 00:07:15,560 --> 00:07:18,240 don't know if it's the truck that he goes in or maybe he doesn't. 105 00:07:18,519 --> 00:07:23,519 But he's fine with loud noises. He's found at other places. He just 106 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:29,759 does not like that woman. That's so funny. And I'm so glad that 107 00:07:29,839 --> 00:07:32,399 you didn't like that he didn't go like, because let me tell you a 108 00:07:32,399 --> 00:07:36,439 story. I regularly go to and like, God, my dog hates them, 109 00:07:36,639 --> 00:07:40,639 especially the woman that comes up. He gets a bad vibe. Right, 110 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:46,600 I think her name's like Lala or something. I was like so hoping 111 00:07:46,639 --> 00:07:49,759 that this guy, But then then he tells me who his mother is, 112 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:53,720 and I'm like, are you kidding me? All right, I'll take your 113 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:57,240 card. Never mind, So I'm like, you know, oh, for 114 00:07:57,399 --> 00:08:01,720 eight tries trying to get Phil into a ming place. Are you in nextdoor 115 00:08:01,759 --> 00:08:05,560 dot com? Yes, good idea. Now go on nextdoor and just go 116 00:08:05,600 --> 00:08:07,639 who do you guys? Where do you guys take your dog to get that's 117 00:08:07,680 --> 00:08:13,399 a great idea. Well, I made an appointment for Petco store for tomorrow. 118 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:16,680 That's not bad. Yeah, I like it because you can see they're 119 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:20,680 like, you know, you see the dog, yes, sitting there up. 120 00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:22,959 They can't get up to any funny business, right right right? I 121 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:28,399 like that. I do too. And it's kind of like when you're in 122 00:08:28,439 --> 00:08:31,600 there for something else and you look in there, you can see like, 123 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:35,519 does everybody look crazy stressed? Right? You know? Right? Yeah? 124 00:08:35,519 --> 00:08:39,120 What are they? What exactly are they doing? They can't like be I 125 00:08:39,120 --> 00:08:41,799 don't want to say, like abusing your dog, but you know, right 126 00:08:43,279 --> 00:08:45,720 yeah, Now, and what do I do? Should I sit there and 127 00:08:45,759 --> 00:08:48,519 watch them get bathed? No? No, I'm leaving come back and pick 128 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:50,879 them up. I'll leave it to the people in the store to keep an 129 00:08:50,879 --> 00:08:58,120 eye on fill anyway, that's it's just a crazy And then you know what 130 00:08:58,200 --> 00:09:01,600 else happened? So okay? So then so then Natalia has got I got 131 00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:05,679 to get her passport, right because we're going to Cabo for her birthday trip 132 00:09:05,720 --> 00:09:11,159 that her you know, she planned anyway. So weird that you would say 133 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:15,559 that, because literally today I was like, I've got to get Elbe a 134 00:09:15,600 --> 00:09:18,279 passport. I've got to help her get a passport. I don't have to 135 00:09:18,279 --> 00:09:22,360 get it for her because she's eighteen, but but she should have a passport 136 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:24,600 because I was like, a bunch of her and the reason I thought of 137 00:09:24,639 --> 00:09:26,320 it was a bunch of her friends are going to Europe this summer, and 138 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:30,960 I was like, what if Elbie wanted to like join on a trip, 139 00:09:31,080 --> 00:09:33,279 she wouldn't be able to because she doesn't have a passport, right, but 140 00:09:33,440 --> 00:09:35,399 you could expedite it. Yeah, you get it, expedite it and whatever. 141 00:09:35,519 --> 00:09:41,039 So I'm waiting for this passport to come, and I go to them 142 00:09:41,039 --> 00:09:43,600 and so over the weekend it's Memorial weekend, I go to check the mail 143 00:09:43,759 --> 00:09:48,759 and there's the slip. Okay, so I got Stunny's passport. It came, 144 00:09:48,799 --> 00:09:52,600 no problem, pla blemo, as I would say, you would say, 145 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:56,440 right, So it came without a signature required. But so I'm waiting 146 00:09:56,440 --> 00:10:01,120 and it should come any day. So I checked the mail there's a thing 147 00:10:01,399 --> 00:10:05,159 from the US Postal Office. Miss you know you need to have signature is 148 00:10:05,240 --> 00:10:11,200 required? So I tracked the package and I see online it's at the postal 149 00:10:11,279 --> 00:10:13,600 office. The postal office is up the street. I think, okay, 150 00:10:13,639 --> 00:10:18,080 I'll go pick it up. But then I track it and it's in it's 151 00:10:18,159 --> 00:10:22,559 in um transit. Yes, thank you. So I'm like, okay, 152 00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:26,000 today's Tuesday. Why did you already get a paper for it if it's in 153 00:10:26,039 --> 00:10:30,279 transit? Or you mean you tracked it and it said it was in transit. 154 00:10:30,399 --> 00:10:31,840 So it says it's in transit. You didn't get like a notice like 155 00:10:31,879 --> 00:10:35,399 it's been it's at this Well, I got the notice and says it needs 156 00:10:35,399 --> 00:10:37,879 a signature required. So what do I do? Do I sign it, 157 00:10:37,919 --> 00:10:41,720 put it in the mailbox and wait, or do I sign it or take 158 00:10:41,759 --> 00:10:45,720 it to the post office and pick it up. So I look online it 159 00:10:45,720 --> 00:10:48,519 says it's in transit. So I'm thinking, okay, maybe they're gonna today's 160 00:10:48,559 --> 00:10:50,399 the day. It's Tuesday, they're going to deliver it. So I'm gonna 161 00:10:50,480 --> 00:10:52,399 keep an eye on it. So I sign it, I put it in 162 00:10:52,440 --> 00:10:56,279 the mailbox, and I'm take and fill on the walk. And then after 163 00:10:56,320 --> 00:11:01,360 I passed La LA's son down this, I'm turning the corner. There's the 164 00:11:01,360 --> 00:11:05,080 mailman. Like, oh my God, thank you Jesus. Like I never 165 00:11:05,159 --> 00:11:09,799 would think I would run into the mailman. I'm like, mister mailan, 166 00:11:09,919 --> 00:11:13,360 hold hold on, hold on. Run up to him and I show him. 167 00:11:13,559 --> 00:11:16,480 Oh no, I said, I didn't have the thing. I said, 168 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:18,519 I just I know you were already at my house, but I have 169 00:11:18,559 --> 00:11:22,360 a slip need signature required. Did you see it? And he goes, 170 00:11:22,720 --> 00:11:24,639 is this it? He gets it and hands it to me and I go, 171 00:11:24,879 --> 00:11:26,039 oh, do you have the package? And he goes, no, 172 00:11:26,159 --> 00:11:30,000 it's at the post office. You have to go pick it up. Well, 173 00:11:30,159 --> 00:11:31,960 why I know, I said, but it's in transit, he said, 174 00:11:31,960 --> 00:11:35,120 to give you a new slip. No, he goes, take this 175 00:11:35,159 --> 00:11:37,399 slip. He gave it back to me. He said, go to the 176 00:11:37,399 --> 00:11:39,519 post office and take it up with him in the first place, because then 177 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:43,559 he goes and gets it and then we'll bring it the next day. Oh 178 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:46,679 see they there, that's how it works. Okay. So he goes, 179 00:11:46,720 --> 00:11:48,559 if you go to the post office, you can go get it. I 180 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:52,480 go, your shirts at the post office. He said, yes, okay, 181 00:11:52,799 --> 00:11:56,639 Oh, I'm all excited. Finally it's here and one thing I less 182 00:11:56,679 --> 00:11:58,879 thing I have to worry about. Stand in line at the post office, 183 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:03,480 get right up. She sees me coming with the slip. She already knows. 184 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:05,440 She takes it from my hand. She goes, I'll go, let 185 00:12:05,480 --> 00:12:07,600 me go back in the back and go get it. You know, she 186 00:12:07,639 --> 00:12:09,240 does it all day long. She sees those slips. She goes in the 187 00:12:09,240 --> 00:12:13,759 back. I like, I like her moxie because she's like going to the 188 00:12:13,759 --> 00:12:18,200 back. Comes out. It's not the fucking passport. Oh no, no, 189 00:12:18,960 --> 00:12:24,720 yes, not the passport, just something else, just a package that 190 00:12:24,960 --> 00:12:28,840 I didn't need the for Natalia that I don't know where who would sent it 191 00:12:28,879 --> 00:12:33,320 to her? I don't Yeah, like what the fuck? No? So 192 00:12:33,399 --> 00:12:39,080 now I'm like something from Polly's whatever, Princess Polly's something that seems or whatever 193 00:12:39,279 --> 00:12:43,919 sheen right now, I don't even know, but like, really, come 194 00:12:43,039 --> 00:12:48,600 on, anyway, can you track the passport? Yeah? You know where 195 00:12:48,600 --> 00:12:50,840 it is? Well? I asked that there was a guy that helped me. 196 00:12:52,200 --> 00:12:54,720 There was a guy I know, a guy, and I contacted him 197 00:12:54,720 --> 00:12:58,600 and he's getting me the info so I can track it. As we speak. 198 00:12:58,600 --> 00:13:01,600 I mean, this is all going on. This is a fluid situation. 199 00:13:03,720 --> 00:13:09,039 Well, let's take a quick break. All right, we're back. 200 00:13:09,159 --> 00:13:13,799 So how are you doing. How's your day? Uh, it's going well. 201 00:13:13,720 --> 00:13:16,559 You know, let Menna tell you a little, a little something about 202 00:13:16,600 --> 00:13:20,120 having children. Kaylin. I don't know if you're at the stage yet, 203 00:13:20,279 --> 00:13:24,559 but oh my god, it's like whack a mole. Get ready, Kaylin, 204 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:26,919 because I know you hear are these stories and you're like, oh, 205 00:13:26,960 --> 00:13:31,679 this is miles away from me. I don't have to worry about this show. 206 00:13:31,240 --> 00:13:37,240 The mill room has turned into I used to think I was in the 207 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:43,240 corner office, and now I'm I'm in like an executive suite where all roads 208 00:13:43,360 --> 00:13:46,039 lead to me. It's like a problem solver, right, Like I have 209 00:13:46,200 --> 00:13:50,480 I have a window view, I've got a comfy chair, but I got 210 00:13:50,480 --> 00:13:54,440 a lot of fucking people coming in my office all day long. Problems but 211 00:13:54,679 --> 00:14:00,799 only a problem problem. Who's got the problem? Right? Yeah? Sometimes 212 00:14:00,840 --> 00:14:03,919 I just want to lock my office door and go I don't know, I 213 00:14:03,919 --> 00:14:05,120 can't help any of you. I don't know how I got to this job 214 00:14:05,159 --> 00:14:09,759 in the first place. I didn't earn it. Yeah. Yeah, So 215 00:14:09,519 --> 00:14:13,240 sometimes I kind of longed for the day when the kids were just little and 216 00:14:13,279 --> 00:14:18,759 their problems where just yes, you know, I accidentally put jelly on their 217 00:14:18,759 --> 00:14:20,639 sandwich and they're upset, you know, and need some time alone in their 218 00:14:20,720 --> 00:14:26,120 room. Now it's like bigger, way, bigger problems. Yeah, it's 219 00:14:26,120 --> 00:14:30,639 like whack them ale. Yeah. And also, and I have a feeling 220 00:14:30,679 --> 00:14:33,000 a lot of people who listen to our podcasts could have seen this coming a 221 00:14:33,039 --> 00:14:39,840 mile away. But I feel like, in some ways it's possible that I 222 00:14:39,879 --> 00:14:45,720 haven't given my kids the resiliency to deal with certain issues on their own, 223 00:14:45,960 --> 00:14:48,840 right, Do you know what I mean? Yeah, yes I do. 224 00:14:48,679 --> 00:14:52,879 I was still liking about that today. Feel like maybe all of this making 225 00:14:52,919 --> 00:14:56,919 their lunch and like snow plowing ahead of them too so that they don't feel 226 00:14:56,960 --> 00:14:58,679 pain has come back to bite me in the ass just a little bit. 227 00:15:00,039 --> 00:15:03,919 Yes, I agree. And I was thinking about that because I was been 228 00:15:03,919 --> 00:15:07,120 with Sunny all weekend and I was like, are you hungry? What do 229 00:15:07,120 --> 00:15:11,120 you want some pasta? So I make him the pasta and he's in the 230 00:15:11,200 --> 00:15:13,720 kitchen talking to me and he was like that's it. I go. Yeah, 231 00:15:13,879 --> 00:15:16,879 especially with him, he just wants butter and cheese, and he was 232 00:15:16,960 --> 00:15:20,399 like, I go, yes, you need to start being able to do 233 00:15:20,440 --> 00:15:22,200 that, like I shouldn't be making I know. He goes, that's it, 234 00:15:22,279 --> 00:15:26,200 like that's all, that's all. Yeah, like he didn't know, 235 00:15:26,279 --> 00:15:31,840 like he thought from hard sucked with some kind of a magic Harry Potter magic 236 00:15:31,919 --> 00:15:37,360 kind of thing. Yes, but I laboratory. I will tell you. 237 00:15:37,480 --> 00:15:41,320 He's been cooking a lot with his other friends that like he just went, 238 00:15:41,519 --> 00:15:43,600 he had a barbecue that him and his friends went to the store. They 239 00:15:43,600 --> 00:15:48,559 bought their own little steaks, they seasoned everything, they got vegetables to grill 240 00:15:48,679 --> 00:15:52,840 up. So he's learning, he's getting there. Yeah. Oh, they 241 00:15:52,840 --> 00:15:54,840 can do stuff when they do it with their friends, right, It's just 242 00:15:54,879 --> 00:15:58,480 that when we're there, they don't know how to do anything. Right. 243 00:16:00,200 --> 00:16:03,840 My kids don't know how to do laundry. Whose fault is that? It's 244 00:16:03,919 --> 00:16:06,960 my fault. I've never been like, hey, let me show you how 245 00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:08,559 to do your own laundry. Never, not one time have I been, 246 00:16:08,960 --> 00:16:11,879 oh, you know what, I might have done it with Elbie, and 247 00:16:11,919 --> 00:16:17,799 I'm sure she's forgotten completely. I don't know why. Here's why. I 248 00:16:17,840 --> 00:16:19,000 guess in my mind, I go, well, it's just easier for me 249 00:16:19,080 --> 00:16:22,159 to do it because like, I know what I'm doing already, so it's 250 00:16:22,159 --> 00:16:26,360 easier for me to do it. But is it though, because then all 251 00:16:26,399 --> 00:16:29,279 I do is like kind of bitch and like grouse to myself and go, 252 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:32,240 oh here, I am like hawk with one chore after the next. Now 253 00:16:32,279 --> 00:16:33,919 I'm doing the laundry. Now I'm loading the dishwasher, because I'll be didn't 254 00:16:34,000 --> 00:16:37,600 unload the dishwasher, but I won't be a hard ass and go Elbie, 255 00:16:37,679 --> 00:16:42,080 unload the fucking dishwasher. Yeah, I have to say, both my kids 256 00:16:42,080 --> 00:16:47,399 do do their lot. They don't fold, but they do. Because Natalia 257 00:16:47,559 --> 00:16:51,120 has so much clothes, I just gave up and I was like, if 258 00:16:51,120 --> 00:16:52,519 you want you want to wear that tom out, you're gonna have to wash 259 00:16:52,559 --> 00:16:56,080 it. And then Sonny's got only like four T shirts he likes to wear 260 00:16:56,159 --> 00:17:00,879 and two pants he likes to wear, and they get dirty and he'll last 261 00:17:00,960 --> 00:17:03,839 night, he'll he'll do the laundry, but sometimes inconveniently, right when you're 262 00:17:03,839 --> 00:17:11,839 in there. That's right, that's right, that's right. Yeah, embarrassing, 263 00:17:11,119 --> 00:17:18,240 but anyway, Yeah, well, Xander is very much into fashion. 264 00:17:18,920 --> 00:17:25,440 He's pickier than both my girls. He really has like a look that he 265 00:17:25,519 --> 00:17:29,519 kind of adheres to. And he's so he's got like a lot. I 266 00:17:29,519 --> 00:17:33,240 always say, I think he's got more clothes than well, all of Elbie's 267 00:17:33,279 --> 00:17:37,599 clothes are like the tiniest little tank tops. Yeah. Yeah, baggy jeans 268 00:17:37,599 --> 00:17:44,279 and little tank tops, toddler T shirts. Uh. But Xander has a 269 00:17:44,319 --> 00:17:47,039 lot of T shirts and they have to fit a certain way. They have 270 00:17:47,079 --> 00:17:49,680 to be they have to be big, but not giant, because sometimes he'll 271 00:17:49,720 --> 00:17:52,440 get a shirt and it's a little too big and I'll think, oh, 272 00:17:52,519 --> 00:17:55,519 yeah, that's perfect, that's like I like to wear it, and he's 273 00:17:55,559 --> 00:17:56,880 like, no, yeah it's too big. Mom. Yeah yeah, Like 274 00:17:56,920 --> 00:18:00,599 how do you even know? Because if it and I have to be suited. 275 00:18:00,759 --> 00:18:07,200 So everything that Xander wears pretty much cannot go in the dryer because nothing 276 00:18:07,240 --> 00:18:10,599 can shrink. See what I'm saying, Like they get stuff and it's the 277 00:18:10,680 --> 00:18:14,799 size that they need it. Now, everything that I have can pretty much 278 00:18:14,799 --> 00:18:18,480 go in the dryer. I mean pretty much pretty much. It's T shirts 279 00:18:18,480 --> 00:18:22,640 and sweatpants and like, I know, my laundry is so easy, all 280 00:18:22,640 --> 00:18:26,400 the darks going the same and then all the light's gone that yes, and 281 00:18:26,440 --> 00:18:30,279 I'm constantly like washing sheets. Oh my god, that sheets. But every 282 00:18:30,319 --> 00:18:33,240 single one of Xander's t shirts has to be hung. So I got one 283 00:18:33,240 --> 00:18:37,079 of those dryer racks because I used to do sort of a makeshift like hang 284 00:18:37,160 --> 00:18:41,160 this one over the ironing board and hang this one just over the dryer. 285 00:18:41,279 --> 00:18:47,160 And I was like, now I've got so much and I don't have a 286 00:18:47,160 --> 00:18:49,880 clothesline. So I've got one of those dryer racks for clothes. And it's 287 00:18:49,920 --> 00:18:52,480 like, so I have, but I can only do like I can do 288 00:18:52,519 --> 00:18:56,440 a lot of Xander's stuff, but then I have to wait to do Sadie 289 00:18:56,519 --> 00:18:59,640 stuff. It's a whole shot, it is. Yeah, that's what I'm 290 00:18:59,640 --> 00:19:02,880 saying. Laundry is a lost I know, it's a beast, and none 291 00:19:02,920 --> 00:19:07,039 of the kids really help me with anything. Now Xander has insisted he's taken 292 00:19:07,079 --> 00:19:11,160 on. He does he makes his own lunches every night. That see, 293 00:19:11,279 --> 00:19:17,920 that's good. And he's also becomes very helpful as far as like he will 294 00:19:17,920 --> 00:19:21,319 offer to go to the store with me. Oh that's nice. Yeah, 295 00:19:21,359 --> 00:19:26,240 so he's kind of kicked it up a notch. But now Elbie's kind of 296 00:19:26,279 --> 00:19:30,079 kicked it down a notch. I can't do busy man, she's so busy. 297 00:19:30,359 --> 00:19:34,279 Time for no time, no time, trying to do laundry. No, 298 00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:38,839 But then I feel bad because it's like part of me wants to teach 299 00:19:38,880 --> 00:19:45,640 her some responsibility, and there's another part of me that's like this poor girl, 300 00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:48,279 like in her school's ending, she's about to graduate from high school. 301 00:19:48,279 --> 00:19:56,559 She's got a lot of stress on her plate right now. So my underparented 302 00:19:56,160 --> 00:20:00,079 heart goes, No, I don't want her to feel sad, and I 303 00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:04,319 want her to just like hang out with her boyfriend and just study and like 304 00:20:04,559 --> 00:20:08,039 you know, order her over eats and like you know, and then part 305 00:20:08,079 --> 00:20:11,799 of me like that. Then John's always like, well she even part of 306 00:20:11,839 --> 00:20:15,680 our family anymore? And I'm like, I don't know, kind of she 307 00:20:15,839 --> 00:20:21,200 does her best, she's living her best life. Yeah, John and I 308 00:20:21,240 --> 00:20:26,440 got into this like not a fight, but he sort of pointed out that 309 00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:30,039 it's it's hard for him because you know, I'm a little codependent with Elby, 310 00:20:30,279 --> 00:20:33,200 and he's like, you get upset with me. It's kind of like 311 00:20:33,240 --> 00:20:37,039 this weird catch twenty two where he can't really come down on her very hard 312 00:20:37,039 --> 00:20:40,480 because he's like, if I come down on her too hard, you get 313 00:20:40,559 --> 00:20:44,519 upset with me, and I was like, I was of course crying during 314 00:20:44,559 --> 00:20:47,440 this argument, and I was like, I know, and then he goes, 315 00:20:47,519 --> 00:20:52,000 But then you want me to also be the like you get mad if 316 00:20:52,039 --> 00:20:57,359 I'm like being her best friend and you have because sometimes I get upset with 317 00:20:57,359 --> 00:21:03,720 her like it. But it's because I I think you'll relate to this, 318 00:21:03,799 --> 00:21:07,920 Like I see, I try so hard to be like nice mom, you 319 00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:11,640 know, and like understanding and stuff, but then like something will build up 320 00:21:11,039 --> 00:21:15,759 and then before you know it, like I'm kind of mad and she doesn't 321 00:21:15,799 --> 00:21:18,440 understand where it's coming from. And then we're in an argument and I'm like, 322 00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:22,480 but then you and you also did this and you don't let the dishwasher 323 00:21:22,519 --> 00:21:25,920 and you blah blah blah, and you're disrespectful and your room is a messon 324 00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:30,119 and then everybody's like whoa, you know right, And then I'm like, 325 00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:33,440 in my mind, I'm like, fuck you, John, you complain about 326 00:21:33,440 --> 00:21:37,000 this stuff all the time too. And now you're like, well, I'll 327 00:21:37,079 --> 00:21:38,720 let you handle this, right, you know. And then I'm like, 328 00:21:38,799 --> 00:21:45,160 well, I thought you were mad about this too, but John feels rightly, 329 00:21:45,279 --> 00:21:48,279 so that like okay, But like we had one issue with Elbi, 330 00:21:48,319 --> 00:21:51,480 and now it just became five. So I was like, if it was 331 00:21:51,599 --> 00:21:53,000 up to me, I would have just told her the one thing that she 332 00:21:53,119 --> 00:22:00,000 was doing right right, But you decided to like let loose all the things, 333 00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:03,799 and now she's crying and now you're upset. And then he's like but 334 00:22:03,039 --> 00:22:06,799 and then I say, but how come I have to be the heavy And 335 00:22:06,880 --> 00:22:10,599 he's like, well, because if I get mad at her for all those 336 00:22:10,640 --> 00:22:15,039 little things leading up, you will protect her interesting And I was like, 337 00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:18,640 you're so, You're right, you can't. It's hard for you to win 338 00:22:18,799 --> 00:22:23,000 because I don't want him. I don't want him bitching at her about all 339 00:22:23,039 --> 00:22:27,039 these little things. Apparently I would just rather get mad at her once every 340 00:22:27,079 --> 00:22:32,599 six months. But you it's hard for you too, you know you you 341 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:37,000 know it's I see both sides of it totally. I totally see your side. 342 00:22:37,039 --> 00:22:40,200 I've done that many times, you know. I once I get going, 343 00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:42,079 it's like and then this, and then this, and then she starts 344 00:22:42,079 --> 00:22:45,200 to cry, and she's like, you know, because he doesn't do anything 345 00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:48,359 wrong, but she starts, you know, I'm just kidding. No, 346 00:22:48,519 --> 00:22:49,680 I know, I hear you. She like, you know, why are 347 00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:52,200 you so mean, Why are you getting so goad? Why are you in 348 00:22:52,240 --> 00:22:56,319 a bad mood? Like that's what I get, right, you know. 349 00:22:56,440 --> 00:23:00,240 But it's like a lot of times with her though, she doesn't give me 350 00:23:00,279 --> 00:23:03,799 a chance to talk, like I'm you know, I want to talk to 351 00:23:03,839 --> 00:23:04,720 you about this, I'm busy. Can we talk later, you know, 352 00:23:04,759 --> 00:23:08,079 and then it just falls by the wayside, and then it just comes up 353 00:23:08,119 --> 00:23:14,319 when it all comes up. Yeah, it's pretty stressful of teenagers, especially 354 00:23:14,559 --> 00:23:18,079 girls. Yeah, and I think that good luck, Haylyn. I got 355 00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:25,039 a little while. I definitely also take certain things personally, which is, 356 00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:27,880 you know, my own issue and I have to work on it. But 357 00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:33,000 it's like I think I get so used to my kids like being my friends 358 00:23:33,079 --> 00:23:36,480 too, you know, and like wanting to hang out with them, that 359 00:23:36,599 --> 00:23:40,279 if they do something, let's say, even if they're not meaning to hurt 360 00:23:40,319 --> 00:23:44,000 my feelings, they just do something teenagery like you know, be embarrassed that 361 00:23:44,039 --> 00:23:47,319 I'm with them or something, or like not want me to meet their friends 362 00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:49,720 or something where I feel like, oh now, oh, I just suddenly 363 00:23:49,759 --> 00:23:53,039 got relegated to being like the mom. Yeah you know where I was like, 364 00:23:53,079 --> 00:23:57,039 but remember me cool mom? Like is Elbie still like that or is 365 00:23:57,079 --> 00:24:03,559 it more that? And obviously Elbie's gotten a little more like that in certain 366 00:24:03,599 --> 00:24:07,920 ways. Really just just hoping like they like at least start to grow out 367 00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:12,440 of it so that Yeah, I wish I wish they would grow out of 368 00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:18,960 it too. Let's let me put it this way. Sandy and Xander have 369 00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:22,759 never really gotten to that phase. They sort of love they they're almost the 370 00:24:22,799 --> 00:24:26,200 opposite. Like they'll have their friend they like what I'm around, and they 371 00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:29,960 will like use me to like they'll be the buffer. Remember I told you. 372 00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:32,359 They'll be like, mom, can't play a game with us? Yeah, 373 00:24:32,599 --> 00:24:34,240 why do you want me to play a game with you? Yeah? 374 00:24:34,519 --> 00:24:40,480 So inappropriate for me to play like a new phone, Hoods or those card 375 00:24:40,519 --> 00:24:44,119 games. It's like, no, I really want me to be pulling the 376 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:48,400 litty titty card out and like I never played those games? Is that how 377 00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:49,960 it is? It's fun? Yeah, they're fun. There's a little cards 378 00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:53,599 against humanity but a little bit watered down, but not that much. So 379 00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:57,599 some of the stuff's inappropriate, which is totally funny. But you'd think when 380 00:24:57,599 --> 00:25:02,559 they're with their friends they wouldn't want on their mom and her fifties right, 381 00:25:02,599 --> 00:25:06,319 you know, right saying I don't know it's funny, but I think it's 382 00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:07,799 cute. But I think it's cute too, And I see their point of 383 00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:12,960 view because I think that they like the buffer. I think, you know, 384 00:25:14,200 --> 00:25:17,960 I don't know, I mean, I I could see that, like 385 00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:22,880 there's some kids. Well as an adult, sometimes I like another third person 386 00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:26,279 to you know, so it's not just one. I don't know, you 387 00:25:26,279 --> 00:25:30,079 know what I'm saying. Yeah, but like all my kids, like both 388 00:25:30,119 --> 00:25:33,160 the kids will have like a friend over and they're all hanging out and they'll 389 00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:37,519 be like, mom, come play whatever, And I'm like, you guys 390 00:25:37,559 --> 00:25:41,160 have a friend over? Yeah, right, Like you're supposed to be self 391 00:25:41,160 --> 00:25:44,839 contained. Now, yes, I'm supposed to be listening to a murder podcast 392 00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:49,359 right that doesn't include me. That's an A to B to see to D 393 00:25:49,519 --> 00:25:57,920 conversation. I'm e yeah, yeah, absolutely, I'll be eating Caleb has 394 00:25:57,960 --> 00:26:03,960 your girls. My girls are very good, although they're starting to not listen 395 00:26:03,519 --> 00:26:10,720 age, Yeah they are. And even with the like when Ila was Blake's 396 00:26:10,759 --> 00:26:15,240 age, she would still listen. Now she's starting to not listen. But 397 00:26:15,279 --> 00:26:21,279 now Blake's not listening either. So do they like do they have each other, 398 00:26:21,359 --> 00:26:25,039 like if I think they're still is kind of young, do they like 399 00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:30,079 sometimes sunny and italiable gang up on me, Like if I'm on Natalia about 400 00:26:30,079 --> 00:26:33,640 something sunny, you'll come and butt in and go, mom, you're being 401 00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:38,079 unreasonable. They're kind of yeah, well, so, well it's only if 402 00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:41,480 you know, I'm having to be kind of stern towards Isla and then Blake 403 00:26:41,559 --> 00:26:45,240 will run in and stand in front of her with her arms out like that 404 00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:48,640 and say, leave my sister alone. Yeah, oh my god, so 405 00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:52,599 she does that. But uh yeah, so's been having to raise my voice 406 00:26:52,599 --> 00:26:56,279 a little more often lately. Did they just get them to do you have 407 00:26:56,279 --> 00:26:59,720 the dad voice? I meant breakfast, you know, like yes, nay, 408 00:26:59,759 --> 00:27:03,680 he knock it off. Yeah, yeah, that's good. You need 409 00:27:03,839 --> 00:27:07,839 they need the dad voice, which has always normally worked. Now it's starting 410 00:27:07,839 --> 00:27:11,079 to a little bit less. I'm having to increase the volume a little more. 411 00:27:11,240 --> 00:27:17,160 Yeah, because you're so laid back that they're just like, that's just 412 00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:19,799 dad. He's a big teddy there, right, You're like, oh, 413 00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:23,440 Dad, I don't know. With them, they I can pretty much get 414 00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:27,880 them to are you the who's the good cop bad cop? In your scenario. 415 00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:33,319 I would probably be the I don't know, like, they'll definitely, 416 00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:38,240 um, they'll definitely get Amy to a like annoy her more. But then 417 00:27:38,279 --> 00:27:41,599 she'll be like, all right, well I'm you're I'm gonna have to get 418 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:44,480 your dad to come in here now. So I guess that makes me the 419 00:27:44,519 --> 00:27:48,759 bad car. Okay, yeah that's good. Yeah. I always got to 420 00:27:48,759 --> 00:27:52,480 be a good cop, bad cop and the default parent. Now was your 421 00:27:52,559 --> 00:27:56,079 dad the I mean, your mom was had a temper, But was your 422 00:27:56,160 --> 00:28:00,680 dad really ever good cop or were they just bad cop bad cop? I 423 00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:07,119 my dad was always trying to avoid my mom um, but so I can't 424 00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:11,279 really remember. There was a time where they both slept in different bedrooms, 425 00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:17,640 so they never really were on the same page. My dad was always like, 426 00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:19,920 you're not you can't spend the night at this girl's house because they have 427 00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:23,480 a Doberman. You know. My dad was the strict the strict one. 428 00:28:25,039 --> 00:28:27,160 My mom was like, you know, she would have a temper, but 429 00:28:27,279 --> 00:28:30,799 she would be like, ah, go ahead to have a fun and go 430 00:28:30,839 --> 00:28:33,559 outside to go play, you know. But my dad would be like, 431 00:28:33,559 --> 00:28:34,839 you gotta be home when the lights come on, you know, when the 432 00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:38,359 street lights come on. He was the one that was like, where are 433 00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:42,160 you blah blah blah. But it's weird because then when I got older, 434 00:28:42,359 --> 00:28:48,519 in my late teens, like after high school, my dad was much like, 435 00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:52,119 understand knew I had a girlfriend, I mean a boyfriend, and my 436 00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:56,079 mom did not like I kept it from you know, Oh he's a brick, 437 00:28:56,079 --> 00:28:57,640 a layer, he's a he's gonna win and you were gonna lose. 438 00:28:57,680 --> 00:29:02,640 You know that, Daddy, your dy, right, But my dad knew 439 00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:04,119 I was on the pill, and he was fine with it, and he 440 00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:07,880 thought, you know, protect yourself. You know, I'm I would tell 441 00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:11,000 him I'm sleeping at Mike Gersting's house. I wouldn't tell him I was sleeping 442 00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:15,359 at you know, I tell my mom, I'm sleeping at my girlfriend's house. 443 00:29:15,759 --> 00:29:18,279 You know. But this was after they were split up. Yeah, 444 00:29:18,359 --> 00:29:21,799 okay, they were separate, they were getting divorced. Yeah, ok yeah, 445 00:29:21,839 --> 00:29:25,599 so I could confine my dad. And I watched movies with my dad 446 00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:29,119 too that I felt like I had a comfort with him, you know, 447 00:29:29,599 --> 00:29:32,200 like if they're you know, it's really weird when you're like there's a sex 448 00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:34,160 scene stuff and you're watching it with your But it was uncomfortable. But my 449 00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:37,960 dad always kind of was like chill, like, you know, it was 450 00:29:38,119 --> 00:29:41,359 very easy to talk to. You know. Well, he seems like he 451 00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:47,720 was the more liberal one. He was definitely he was very understanding. When 452 00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:49,440 he wanted you to go to like the alternative school. Yes, he wanted 453 00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:52,240 me to go to the alternative school school of the Arts, you know, 454 00:29:52,880 --> 00:29:56,920 or inclusion. He loved that. Yeah, that's He would drive me every 455 00:29:57,000 --> 00:30:03,839 day from Canoga Arc to Van Eyes. He drove like a maniac too, 456 00:30:03,039 --> 00:30:07,559 on his way to work drop me off because I was getting bust there when 457 00:30:07,559 --> 00:30:11,200 I was younger. But as I got older, he would just take me 458 00:30:11,359 --> 00:30:15,279 to school and drop me off. And yeah, he was he was. 459 00:30:15,599 --> 00:30:18,920 My dad was like the one parent that I was a parent like. I 460 00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:22,480 was close with my mom. I always knew she was unpredictable and she was 461 00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:26,200 kooky and embarrassing, like, oh God, don't come out with my friend, 462 00:30:26,279 --> 00:30:30,119 stay home, you know, blah blah blah. My dad was like, 463 00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:33,160 oh, I'll just come pick you up. All cruise down at the 464 00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:36,039 end of the block and pick you up like that kind of stuff. Right. 465 00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:40,599 Yeah, it was very understanding. It's so funny because looking back, 466 00:30:41,359 --> 00:30:44,519 there's no reason my parents couldn't have taken me to school in the morning. 467 00:30:44,599 --> 00:30:48,359 Yeah, how did you get to school? Bus? City bus? Really 468 00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:52,480 city bush. It's like not that bad. But when I think, I 469 00:30:52,559 --> 00:30:56,519 just think, like I can't imagine putting my kids on the city bus. 470 00:30:56,759 --> 00:30:59,799 I used to take the ARC because they'd have to get they'd have to get 471 00:30:59,839 --> 00:31:02,799 up so early to get on. I just can't. I just like, 472 00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:06,119 what am I doing? Like it's not a big I mean maybe if I 473 00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:10,759 worked full time, but like my stepfather did not work, yeah at all, 474 00:31:10,759 --> 00:31:14,759 Like, yeah, he could have taken you totally could have That's bizarre. 475 00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:18,640 Get that. And maybe it was the time, you know that those 476 00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:23,640 were the times back then kind of thing, I guess, but it is 477 00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:30,559 just I mean not, I don't know. Let's take another let's take another 478 00:31:30,599 --> 00:31:38,160 quick break. I think this is one of the things, and you know, 479 00:31:38,200 --> 00:31:41,920 it's probably all comes It comes up a lot because I've been I just 480 00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:45,079 finished writing my book, Yeah, finished my copy Edits a lot of digging 481 00:31:45,079 --> 00:31:52,039 into the childhood right going on. I just think that my parents didn't think, 482 00:31:52,519 --> 00:31:56,960 didn't feel any sense of like we're shaping young minds. Like I just 483 00:31:56,960 --> 00:32:02,880 think they didn't give a fuck like about people's feelings, like what people were 484 00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:07,079 going through. So maybe I just care too much, you know, Yeah, 485 00:32:07,119 --> 00:32:12,160 yeah, a little overcompence. I'm definitely definitely over compensating. Like, 486 00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:20,119 I'm sure my kids could would be fine with a little more independence or a 487 00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:23,160 little more No, they have lots of independence. R I let them do 488 00:32:23,359 --> 00:32:27,799 anything that they want to do on their own. The more things that they're 489 00:32:27,799 --> 00:32:30,079 brave enough to like, hey, I don't mind doing that, I'm like, 490 00:32:30,319 --> 00:32:34,240 great, right, I'm all about that. I don't hold them back 491 00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:37,400 from that at all. I'm not a helicopter parent, yeah, I'm I'm 492 00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:40,799 a snowpow parent. I'm just like, hey, if you're feeling upset about 493 00:32:40,799 --> 00:32:43,960 something, let me try to help you. Let me fix it. Let's 494 00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:45,720 fix it. You know. I don't want you to have to feel sad 495 00:32:45,839 --> 00:32:51,000 or hurt or It's not that I'm trying to like, if they're going to 496 00:32:51,039 --> 00:32:53,480 feel sad and hurt, let them reach out and like, fuck up, 497 00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:55,720 right, then I'm going to try to help them so much, Like, 498 00:32:55,759 --> 00:33:01,960 I don't I get worried about them right especially, I think too, I 499 00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:06,039 don't know if are things different now, do you think where so many of 500 00:33:06,039 --> 00:33:09,279 these teenagers these days are having like mental health issues. Yes, I'm so 501 00:33:09,599 --> 00:33:15,640 paranoid. I hear so much about my kids friends, about so many kids 502 00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:21,559 that my kids know are like druggies, or they're super bad potheads, or 503 00:33:21,559 --> 00:33:24,119 they're I mean, we hear about it from our listeners. I have kids 504 00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:30,319 that are having a lot of people I know their kids are having serious issues 505 00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:36,359 with like drugs and alcohol already, right, or depression mental health issues, 506 00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:39,799 and like I worry, Oh if I'm not on top of it, if 507 00:33:40,039 --> 00:33:45,359 they're feeling really really sad, what if what if they try to harm themselves? 508 00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:49,240 What if they start what if they turn to like drugs to like feel 509 00:33:49,279 --> 00:33:52,559 better because they're not sharing with me and I'm not helping and supporting, so 510 00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:54,640 I don't know what it is, Like I think, well, And also 511 00:33:54,839 --> 00:34:02,960 I've been hearing social media as becoming dangerous a mental health issue for teenagers. 512 00:34:04,079 --> 00:34:07,199 Yeah, you know, it's getting really bad. Yeah you've seen have you 513 00:34:07,239 --> 00:34:12,239 heard about that? Of course? Yeah? Yeah, that I hate And 514 00:34:12,400 --> 00:34:16,599 I think about it and like, you know, my kids really Sunny doesn't. 515 00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:21,320 We talk a lot and he'll tell me a lot of things, but 516 00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:24,880 he doesn't really open up and tell me when things are bothering him. And 517 00:34:25,039 --> 00:34:30,400 I've never really seen him cry, you know. He sometimes gets sad about 518 00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:35,119 it something and he'll get teary eyed about it, but he doesn't he doesn't 519 00:34:35,159 --> 00:34:38,440 really open up to me. But you know, I've I've talked to him. 520 00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:40,719 I tell him like you can tell me, and you know whatever. 521 00:34:42,239 --> 00:34:45,119 Natalia will open up to me once and when she's ready, you know, 522 00:34:45,199 --> 00:34:49,719 and certain to like like sometimes I'm not even expecting it. I'll walk in 523 00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:52,360 her bedroom and she'll just start talking, you know, and that's when I'm 524 00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:55,039 like, Okay, here's my chance to like, you know. But then 525 00:34:55,079 --> 00:34:59,000 when I start to get like, is everything okay? How do you like, 526 00:34:59,079 --> 00:35:02,079 She'll be like I'm like, she gets she gets very like, doesn't 527 00:35:02,159 --> 00:35:07,320 want me to really dig too much, you know. But remember when she 528 00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:14,000 went through that time where you were really worried about her and her friends were 529 00:35:14,039 --> 00:35:16,320 coming to you, yes, saying we're really worried about Italia, and then 530 00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:22,679 you got her into therapy. Yeah, But do you ever feel I hate 531 00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:24,119 to use the word triggered, but do you ever feel like, I don't 532 00:35:24,119 --> 00:35:28,840 know, you see her being seeming sad or seeming something, and then you 533 00:35:28,920 --> 00:35:31,079 go like, oh, what if she's gone back to that time feeling like 534 00:35:31,119 --> 00:35:34,960 that? Yeah, and what if I don't know it? And what if 535 00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:37,000 her friends have to come to me to go like Lynette, like you know, 536 00:35:37,039 --> 00:35:43,000 miss Carolla were really worried about Natalia, Like yeah, that's how I 537 00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:45,159 feel. Yeah, No, I know I think about that, but I 538 00:35:45,199 --> 00:35:50,519 feel like that was a phase because there was other girls in her group that 539 00:35:50,559 --> 00:35:54,599 we're acting that way. But um, it's interesting because Sonny and I just 540 00:35:54,639 --> 00:36:00,239 had this conversation the other night because Jody came over and Jody was like saying 541 00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:05,440 that, um, you know, Natalia could have gone. She thinks Natalia 542 00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:08,880 could have gone either way, Like she's got great friends because she knows all 543 00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:14,480 of Natalia's friends. She's met them and they are really good kids. And 544 00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:16,079 we were talking and she was like, she could have gone either way. 545 00:36:16,119 --> 00:36:20,239 She could have been with the mean girls, but she ended up being with 546 00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:22,639 it, you know. And then Sonny and I started talking afterwards and he 547 00:36:22,679 --> 00:36:25,559 was like, I disagree with that, he said, because if you think 548 00:36:25,599 --> 00:36:32,159 about Natalia, she she had that like spark and like fiery. She still 549 00:36:32,199 --> 00:36:37,760 does and she's attracted to kind of like you know, let's have fun kind 550 00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:40,159 of thing. But as far as like a mean girl, he's like, 551 00:36:40,280 --> 00:36:45,840 honestly, mom, he goes all the most popular girls in our school and 552 00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:47,280 he named them, and I know who they are. They're volleyball girls. 553 00:36:47,519 --> 00:36:52,760 He goes super nice, super inclusive, super sweet, super blah blah blah. 554 00:36:52,800 --> 00:36:57,199 And he's like, and the guys, there's not like a guy that 555 00:36:57,239 --> 00:37:00,239 walks around bullies kids. I don't know. He's like, and I think 556 00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:05,679 maybe it's there. Our new generation has been taught like, you don't bully, 557 00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:09,280 anti bullying, anti bullying. Maybe that I don't know, Like it's 558 00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:15,559 definitely better. Yeah, that's for sure in that way. Elby's told me 559 00:37:15,599 --> 00:37:20,199 the same thing. I mean, and she goes to a big public high 560 00:37:20,239 --> 00:37:24,239 school that's you would think would have the burnout to the socials and the populars 561 00:37:24,320 --> 00:37:29,800 and the right. No. Yeah, Elby tells me. She's like, 562 00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:34,480 there's there are and there they don't even call them clicks anymore, or as 563 00:37:34,559 --> 00:37:37,320 John would call it, cliques, which I'm like, it's called a click. 564 00:37:37,599 --> 00:37:44,000 It cleeks. He's very into like princ things with in old fashioned ways, 565 00:37:45,039 --> 00:37:49,039 but he made married to me. Elby says that it's just groups. 566 00:37:49,119 --> 00:37:52,320 Like there's definitely friend groups. But she's like, that's yeah. But she's 567 00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:55,760 like and there's like she's Alby's in like a very big friend group, but 568 00:37:55,840 --> 00:38:00,679 she goes but they all kind of morph and change, and she's like, 569 00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:05,599 and most of people are pretty open. Like if some new girl, if 570 00:38:05,639 --> 00:38:07,079 somebody made friends with someone in their class and was like, oh so it's 571 00:38:07,079 --> 00:38:10,000 so sitting with us at lunch today, we'd all be like cool, right, 572 00:38:10,079 --> 00:38:14,159 Like they wouldn't be like, oh who are you? Yeah, and 573 00:38:14,199 --> 00:38:16,599 Wednesdays we were paid, right, they would they would just yea be like 574 00:38:16,639 --> 00:38:20,320 oh okay. Yeah. So like in Sonny, I was like, you 575 00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:22,800 know, you watch these movies and you see like, you know, the 576 00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:25,920 douchebag dude that walks in and like smacks the tray out of the kid's hands, 577 00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:29,079 right Like, yeah, you know that's not like that. No, 578 00:38:29,199 --> 00:38:34,559 people would be like what what a dick? Yeah see, that's not nice 579 00:38:34,559 --> 00:38:37,599 for you to look forward to Klin for your kids. Yeah, you know, 580 00:38:37,159 --> 00:38:43,559 but there's other the mental illness and the like the social media and stuff 581 00:38:43,599 --> 00:38:49,519 like that that's the scary. It doesn't stop our girls from feeling insecure about 582 00:38:49,559 --> 00:38:53,400 themselves. And their bodies and their hate it who they are and how tall 583 00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:57,679 they are and how you know if do they have acne? And like there's 584 00:38:57,719 --> 00:39:01,039 just a lot of kids that still feel like losers I know, you know, 585 00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:07,840 right, and even if people are friendly to them, and there are 586 00:39:07,880 --> 00:39:14,679 still definitely tons of kids abusing drugs. Oh yeah, and I'll absolutely yeah, 587 00:39:14,760 --> 00:39:21,480 I definitely noticed that, Like Elbie's friend group. Never they never became 588 00:39:21,519 --> 00:39:24,320 like hard partiers. I don't even know of kids because I know I hear 589 00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:29,800 about the parties and usually at these parties, like and some of them I've 590 00:39:29,800 --> 00:39:32,840 talked about on Patreon, but one or two kids will get like really drunk. 591 00:39:34,039 --> 00:39:37,239 But like in my day, I sound like I'm eighty, right, 592 00:39:37,320 --> 00:39:44,360 in my day, everybody got drunk. Yeah, there wasn't a chauber I 593 00:39:44,559 --> 00:39:49,599 in the house, but seriously, everybody was hammered. Like that was what 594 00:39:49,719 --> 00:39:53,480 you did. And when I was a kid, you went out for the 595 00:39:53,559 --> 00:39:58,760 specific purpose of drinking. Like you didn't even go to parties to socialize. 596 00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:02,000 You went to drink. Nowadays, they don't have keg parties, right, 597 00:40:02,199 --> 00:40:07,239 nobody know, it's like they will have alcohol. I'm not stupid, like 598 00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:10,119 I know for sure, and it'll be somebody's job to like get the alcohol, 599 00:40:10,159 --> 00:40:15,000 and they like have fake IDAs and whatnot. But it doesn't feel like 600 00:40:15,039 --> 00:40:19,000 they're all like the focus is on like let's go drink somewhere. Yeah, 601 00:40:19,039 --> 00:40:22,000 because they will also do other things that I would never have, Like there 602 00:40:22,039 --> 00:40:24,719 they will be like, oh, we're all gonna go bowling, right, 603 00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:30,760 We're not getting drunk there. So they do activities. I can't even imagine 604 00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:32,159 that from you as a kid. And it was all about where we're gonna 605 00:40:32,199 --> 00:40:36,800 drink, right, I know, Like Sonny just went fishing the other day 606 00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:40,239 with his friend. See, I rest my case. I know where's Mark 607 00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:45,000 Gregos? Yeah? I look, I Oh I took I took Mark Garrigos 608 00:40:45,039 --> 00:40:47,039 in my car the other day. You did? Oh god? Yes? 609 00:40:47,159 --> 00:40:51,960 And here's this, like, uh, all right, I gotta talk about 610 00:40:52,000 --> 00:40:55,960 my ex husband. But this is so Natalia is going on a trip with 611 00:40:57,000 --> 00:41:00,960 them to New York and she has to be at the airport or like because 612 00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:07,199 they're going on Garaghost's jet, okay, and uh so she has to be 613 00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:08,280 But then she tells me, you don't have to take me to the air 614 00:41:08,239 --> 00:41:13,360 report. You can just drop me off at Garaghosa's, which is close by 615 00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:16,239 where we live. I was like, okay, perfect. So then she 616 00:41:16,320 --> 00:41:21,159 says, do you want to go to Barry's boot camp with me at six 617 00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:25,039 am? Okay, I think I saw this on your Facebook Instagram. Yeah 618 00:41:25,079 --> 00:41:29,880 you did it six ten am class. Yeah, She's like, can you 619 00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:31,519 do? Can we go to that and then we can eat breakfast at home 620 00:41:31,559 --> 00:41:35,440 and then you can just drop me off at the garaghosts. And I was 621 00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:38,800 like, okay, hey, I have never come across such a go get 622 00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:43,159 her as your kids. She isn't. Yes when it comes to she's which 623 00:41:43,199 --> 00:41:45,840 I did you guys wake up like five five thirty and you know what's weird? 624 00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:50,599 She woke up at five thirty without the She set her alarm for five 625 00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:54,559 thirty pm and she she woke up anyway, So we got up at five 626 00:41:54,760 --> 00:41:59,519 thirty. We had like nothing to drink. I mean, we just drank 627 00:41:59,559 --> 00:42:02,360 some water. Her got in the car, didn't need anything, went to 628 00:42:02,400 --> 00:42:08,480 Barry's bootcam coffee before No, I didn't have time, like I just got 629 00:42:08,519 --> 00:42:14,519 up and she drinks these like healthy seltzer something I don't know. Gave me 630 00:42:14,599 --> 00:42:17,840 one. So anyway, we go six ten o' class and did it, 631 00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:22,280 and then I gotta say it felt great, Like it's like I need to 632 00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:24,960 do this more often for a few hours than by Yeah, by noon. 633 00:42:25,039 --> 00:42:30,360 I was like, oh, meanwhile, she's trotting often. So I'm driving 634 00:42:30,360 --> 00:42:35,440 her over to Garago, so she needs to be there at nine thirty. 635 00:42:35,519 --> 00:42:38,719 We're leaving my house at nine twenty and we're driving down the street, turned 636 00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:43,679 the corner and there's a guy we see the back of his head and he's 637 00:42:43,679 --> 00:42:47,679 walking around and he's on the phone on his earbuds and it's Garagos. It's 638 00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:51,639 Mark Garrigos. So I pull over. I was like, hey, I'm 639 00:42:51,719 --> 00:42:53,480 on the way to take her, and he goes, oh, oh great, 640 00:42:53,599 --> 00:42:57,280 oh, And I was like, was he going for like his morning 641 00:42:57,320 --> 00:43:00,800 constitutional I do? Go. I see him a lot walking around, But 642 00:43:00,880 --> 00:43:02,960 I go, did you know she was? And he goes, no, 643 00:43:02,960 --> 00:43:07,559 No, but that's great, that's great. I go, wait, nobody 644 00:43:07,639 --> 00:43:09,559 told you that she was coming to your house at nine thirty. No, 645 00:43:09,639 --> 00:43:14,960 but it's fine. It's like, really one of the fuck anyway, So 646 00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:16,159 he no. Tali gets out of the front seat, he gets in the 647 00:43:16,199 --> 00:43:17,960 front he goes, no, let me go with you. Look, let's 648 00:43:17,960 --> 00:43:22,239 go and he's just like, so, hey, how's it going. Friendly 649 00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:24,960 blah blah blah. Did she ever? But so she'd already, oh, 650 00:43:25,039 --> 00:43:29,000 you were on your way to his house. She's already gotten showered and got 651 00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:31,360 her show together cases in my car. So you would have gotten to his 652 00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:34,360 house and he wouldn't have been there because he would have been on a walk, 653 00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:37,400 right, right. So I took him to his house and it's like, 654 00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:40,920 you know, one minute, two minutes or whatever away and dropped her 655 00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:43,679 off. I was like in the tally, he was like, mom, 656 00:43:43,679 --> 00:43:45,840 oh my god, I'm embarrassing. Thank god you like we saw it would 657 00:43:45,840 --> 00:43:49,960 have been embarrassing for her, you know, I mean I was gonna walk 658 00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:52,159 her up and everything. But anyway, yeah, saw Mark Garra goes. 659 00:43:52,480 --> 00:43:54,800 He was like, yeah, call me sometimes he's like you ghost me. 660 00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:58,760 I go, I don't ghost you. We want you on my show. 661 00:43:58,880 --> 00:44:01,360 He's like, yeah, okay, zoom them in. Oh my god, 662 00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:09,119 we have okay. So yeah, So was he going on the New York 663 00:44:09,119 --> 00:44:14,079 trip too? Yeah, yeah, okay, yeah, yeah, she's she's 664 00:44:14,079 --> 00:44:19,559 having a good time and Sonny went fishing and fishing. Yes, it was. 665 00:44:19,599 --> 00:44:21,719 He was like, I'm going out with my friends I don't know what 666 00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:23,760 we're doing. And then an hour later I look on the map and I 667 00:44:23,840 --> 00:44:28,519 see he's like in the middle of nowhere. I'm like, where are you 668 00:44:28,519 --> 00:44:32,320 and he goes, we're out of lake fishing. Okay, so I guess 669 00:44:32,360 --> 00:44:35,559 we don't have to worry about your kids. Well, I mean, I 670 00:44:35,599 --> 00:44:37,639 don't know he was gonna They said they were gonna catch fish and cook it 671 00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:40,320 for the grill it, but they didn't, so instead they went to store 672 00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:45,559 and bought steaks. But I like that he's learning how to cook from his 673 00:44:45,599 --> 00:44:50,159 friends. That is my kids are They feed off of what their friends do. 674 00:44:50,519 --> 00:44:53,719 Ye mind? Yeah, which is good. Okay. That reminds me 675 00:44:53,800 --> 00:44:58,239 of a story that I have for you for Friday. Remind me of what 676 00:44:58,360 --> 00:45:01,039 Xander did yesterday. Okay a Memorial Day. Okay, all right, but 677 00:45:01,119 --> 00:45:07,880 before we go, listen, this is exciting. So my friend Adam Lerner 678 00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:12,280 who Adam Adam will get you a car. 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