Welcome to fifty plus. I'm James Line Junior. Over the next few months,
I'm heading towards fifty five. That's right, kids, fifty five and
I'm crying about now. I'm just my eye. I'm so waking up.
But I'm training fifty five in a few months. So doing this podcast is
really interesting right now because I'm reflecting on a lot of stuff as I get
to a birthday I always do. And then also I'm working on an album
right now that i want to represent my fifty five years. So I'm kind
of like introspect. I write songs and stuff, and so I'm introspect a
moment right now. After a year of craziness and not being about me,
now I'm thinking about me. One of the things I want to think to
talk about was gray hair and sort of things that very interesting as you see
have it on the side for those who are watching, you're listening, have
my temples I have? My beard is getting grayer? I have? Well,
can we see I have some face I asked, some chest hair that's
gray and other parts. But it's funny because where the hair lands that turns
gray makes a total difference. And I'm also knowing in society and men versus
women. The reactions to my gray hair so gray hand really bothered me.
I didn't gray earlier or nothing. Then you say, oh, people with
dark haired gray early. First, I to get grays early. I probably
had a few strands here and there, but I never really like. I
have a couple of relatives, like my own faith, who has beautiful gray
hair, people with sim with beautiful silver hair. My father's gray hair,
but like my brother shaves his head, so we don't know what his hair
color is at all. He shaves it. But for me, as i've
grown hair in at least i've shaved my head. I've been until two years
ago. I decided to grow it out for a while and I'll probably shave
it again at some point. So now it's it's hair. But my hair
isn't that gray the actual top of my head. So the temples which runs
my family all kind of have it. But I'm not doing It's not too
bad for fifty five. I'm still hanging in there. I guess with that,
and so I just shave it down a little bit. I don't dye
my hair. It was kind of like I guess I when I have my
hair down and I have it done. Sometimes the way the light hits the
gray in the dark hair, it looks beautiful. It's like shiny and it's
beautiful, and like, you know, I'm getting older. I'm not a
youngish faith on some level, I don't have that many wrinkles, you know,
on that end. But I'm like, but the gray hair, I'm
like, okay, so I don't know fully yet what they up here what
I feel about it, because that'sn't really there's nothing to me. Is something
that's so think about really other parts of my body. I was like,
oh, that's gray now that I didn't like, and I was and I
felt a little something about that for a moment. I'll be honest, I
was like, Okay, this is not what I pictured or envisioned. But
anybody, they're just you know, but the go tea, the beer go
tea. That's the main thing. And what I have found, which is
very interesting. It's not everybody, but in general the reaction has been women
love it. It's distinguished and a lot of stuff. Men hate it.
A lot of the men I've met in in my life. Don't we talking
about our looks or whatever? Will be like, you should diet just for
men, diet, shave it diet, And I'm like, no, actually,
I don't mind my beer getting it's getting grayer. It was gray first
the tea little bottom halves, but it's starting getting gray all over. I
sometimes shave my face, which that's a mixed reaction too from people. A
lot don't like it, a lot to like it. I like facial actually,
and I was like, the great part. It doesn't bother me.
But society is funny. In Hollywood. Somebody told me once you should die
your hair gray. You don't look ten times younger. And I'm like,
but do I want to look younger? I mean, like I said,
I don't have an age thing where I'm like, I'm trying to look young.
I'm not trying to look younger. I'm like, I just look like
me. But I just know it's from for me. It is my experience.
A lot of men in my life are just like, yeah, you
said you said shave it, or you said you shaid you know just for
a minute or whatever. Diet that doesn't know it doesn't bother me. I
feel like I've earned every gray hair. As I looked at it, I
always say there, they're wisdom. They turned white to their wisdom. All
those doing different sayings. But I don't. I don't know. Bing wrinkles
and gray hair are just a part of life as we get there. There
are times that I look at my hands and go, God, they're old
hands. And I try to take care of my skin and everything. It's
a big thing for me. I tried to take care of my hair,
but I said, I didn't think about goates, anything about chest hair,
anything about body hair down there. I never thought about any of that stuff
turning grad I just never thought about it. I saw, well, you
always do the top of your head. Yeah, I always do that.
And there was some things I was like, why I can have a great,
nice gray beard. That can be fun kind of thing. So I
don't know, I just but it was just funny. I just already thought
the other parts and what that would look like. But there is a whole
daddy stuff that was going on. I likes that you get more acceptable,
but it's it's a mixture. It's a tall mixture. And I've noticed that
hair period. I can grow this. I can grow hair. I think
there's tons of hair. I'm not losing it at all, and that's an
achilles heel for a lot of men. That's that's the thing that a lot
of my male friends, that's the thing they're like worrying about losing their hair,
not having enough hair, not having strong hair, you know. And
for me, I take it for granted. I know I've taken it for
granted. I just have a lot of hair. And sometimes I'm like,
oh my god, I know it's hair, but I'd be careful who I
say that around, because someone are like, oh, Jay's I can't even
grow it. So I'm very fortunate that I can still grow hair and it's
very healthy. And uh, because I just never because I so when I
shaved my hair, which is my choice, I have a nice shaped head,
thank god. That's everybody's nice shaped hands either. So for me,
it was just like, okay, well, I'm just if I but I
don't see that. But there's this thing. I don't know how it feels
if I involuntarily was losing my hair, I might feel different. I don't
know. Because I have a choice. I can have hair not have hair,
So to me, there's nothing for me to think about. But if
but if the choice is taken away from me. I wonder how I would
feel actually, if i'd be upset or be fine or well, I know
it's luckily I have a nice shaped head, and many and many guys that
they have great shaped hands, you'll be all fine, but I don't.
But I just know sadness that that is the wrapping around behavor one strand and
then trying to hold on any right. So people don't have great shaped hands
or it looks strange for the shaved head. A yeah, I get it.
I totally get it. We have real care with yourself, obviously,
whatever that is. And that's actually the whole point of these fifty plus episodes.
We talk about things that happen. My hair loss can happen in your
twenties, stirties at that too, but by the time you get to your
fifties you are facing a lot of times the gray hair issue, the hair
loss issue, body hair. You start as you grow hair in spots.
That's another one to you. They don't tell you my nose hairs I'm plucking
every other day. It's like just just strong nose hairs coming out. And
the ear I have ear hairs and hair is spot. I'm like because my
arms aren't hairy. My legs aren't hairy. But it's like other spots,
I'm like, where the hair come from? Where? Why is it on
my shoulder? Like what's that? So there's there is a hair collective that
happens when you get a little older too, and places you're like where did
I come from? You know? So weird. I started sagging my mustage
to my mom because nough. For some women too, they get hair and
aboup the lip and other spots they have to get it waged off, and
it's just kind of like it's just like okay, hair, hair growth and
followers. It's it's a it's a it's a very interesting thing because it's obviously
has life cycles and it has and for certain people it stops and otherwise,
and it's yeah, it's a lot the things you think about when you're fifty
plus. I'm James Egr. We're audio and video, so CHaGS out anywhere
and I'll talk to you next time.