WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:02.879 Hi, everyone, Welcome back to another podcast episode. My name is Alicia 2 00:00:02.919 --> 00:00:06.120 Gogan, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand 3 00:00:06.160 --> 00:00:09.240 your mind and become more self aware so that you can glow up into the 4 00:00:09.279 --> 00:00:14.359 best version of yourself. And girlies, aren't we going to be glowing up 5 00:00:14.359 --> 00:00:18.559 into the best version of ourselves this summer? And we need to talk about 6 00:00:18.600 --> 00:00:21.519 how we are going to do that. And first we need to talk about 7 00:00:21.800 --> 00:00:26.960 confidence. Okay, you guys ask me all of the time to talk about 8 00:00:27.079 --> 00:00:31.679 body confidence, confidence within yourself, even outside of physical appearance. And recently, 9 00:00:31.719 --> 00:00:36.960 I just posted a YouTube video talking about how to stop faking it until 10 00:00:37.000 --> 00:00:40.200 you make it and just be confident now. So I want to talk about 11 00:00:40.200 --> 00:00:44.560 a few things that I said in that video and also set us up for 12 00:00:44.640 --> 00:00:48.560 a either six or seven part series that I'm going to be starting on. 13 00:00:48.600 --> 00:00:53.560 The podcasts all about glowing up into the literal best version of yourself, because 14 00:00:53.560 --> 00:00:55.880 that's literally what the podcast is about. But first, I needs to address 15 00:00:55.920 --> 00:00:59.159 a few things before we get into today's episode. So the first thing is 16 00:00:59.520 --> 00:01:03.359 Apple doesn't seem to want to update my podcast art, so I didn't end 17 00:01:03.439 --> 00:01:08.319 up mentioning it in last week's episode. So you, guys, whoever is 18 00:01:08.359 --> 00:01:12.640 listening on Apple podcasts and or if you're listening anywhere else, you might still 19 00:01:12.680 --> 00:01:17.799 not have seen the podcast art. When I go onto my podcast for Apple, 20 00:01:18.000 --> 00:01:22.040 it still has the old cover arts with all of the blue, and 21 00:01:22.120 --> 00:01:25.480 so I'm assuming it's like that for everyone else. But I'm also assuming if 22 00:01:25.480 --> 00:01:29.159 you listen to the episode where I talked about the rebrand, then most likely 23 00:01:29.239 --> 00:01:32.920 you probably just went to Instagram or something to go see it because you're probably 24 00:01:32.920 --> 00:01:36.120 like, what the heck what is she talking about? So I'm sorry if 25 00:01:36.120 --> 00:01:38.159 you still haven't seen it. And if you haven't, then just go to 26 00:01:38.200 --> 00:01:42.319 the podcast Instagram the Globe Secrets podcast and follow and then you'll see the podcast 27 00:01:42.439 --> 00:01:47.319 art. Also, I saw on Spotify that they have this option for you 28 00:01:47.359 --> 00:01:52.799 to give your response of each episode of the podcast. So if you click 29 00:01:52.840 --> 00:01:56.280 on the episode, it will ask you what did you think about this episode, 30 00:01:56.280 --> 00:01:59.519 and then you can press reply. So let me know, because that's 31 00:01:59.599 --> 00:02:04.760 kind of cool to be able to interact with you guys. Vias something for 32 00:02:04.799 --> 00:02:08.159 the podcast. If you don't watch on YouTube and you don't even follow the 33 00:02:08.199 --> 00:02:13.479 Instagram, I feel like podcasts is one of the things where there's not much 34 00:02:13.639 --> 00:02:16.719 of an opportunity to build a community the same way YouTube used to be. 35 00:02:16.759 --> 00:02:21.240 Other than the comment sections, we never used to have like community tabs, 36 00:02:21.400 --> 00:02:23.400 So I feel like that is essentially like a community tab. But also you're 37 00:02:23.400 --> 00:02:28.560 really giving me feedback on if you want me to talk more about something that 38 00:02:28.639 --> 00:02:31.960 I spoke about in the episode, So definitely try that out if you'd like. 39 00:02:32.039 --> 00:02:37.159 You could also give me a review on Spotify or Apple. Another thing 40 00:02:37.199 --> 00:02:40.319 that I addressed today on my Instagram, Alicia Googin if you're not following, 41 00:02:42.159 --> 00:02:45.759 is that I get so many dams from you guys, and I don't even 42 00:02:45.759 --> 00:02:49.240 have that many followers. Okay, guys, I'm at like sixteen k Instagram 43 00:02:49.280 --> 00:02:53.560 followers, which is pretty small. It's my smallest platform considering my other ones. 44 00:02:54.240 --> 00:02:59.159 But I have such an amazing audience, Like you guys are so amazing 45 00:02:59.159 --> 00:03:02.199 in this community is so strong that you guys take your time out of your 46 00:03:02.280 --> 00:03:07.000 day to send me a message and let me know just how amazing my content 47 00:03:07.159 --> 00:03:10.639 is and how it's changed your life. And then, of course the nature 48 00:03:10.719 --> 00:03:15.280 of the type of content that I create, I attract a lot of people 49 00:03:15.319 --> 00:03:17.400 who really do want advice, And on top of that, I post all 50 00:03:17.439 --> 00:03:23.560 the time on my stories also of course in my feed, but my stories, 51 00:03:23.560 --> 00:03:28.080 so I'm constantly getting responses back, replies, just you guys hyping me 52 00:03:28.199 --> 00:03:30.960 up, you guys loving something, you guys asking questions, and I love 53 00:03:30.000 --> 00:03:32.680 that, and I feel like for the most part, I do interact with 54 00:03:32.800 --> 00:03:35.960 majority of you guys, Like there's even some of you that are like, 55 00:03:35.960 --> 00:03:38.680 wow, I can't even believe you answered me. So with that said, 56 00:03:38.719 --> 00:03:44.719 though, I am getting to a point now that I'm feeling a lot of 57 00:03:44.759 --> 00:03:47.599 like stress and anxiety with seeing my dms. And I'm somebody who is a 58 00:03:47.639 --> 00:03:51.800 people pleaser and I want to answer every single person and I hate leaving people 59 00:03:51.840 --> 00:03:54.319 on red and on top of that, I hate having a inbox that is 60 00:03:54.360 --> 00:03:58.479 filled to the rim, which I'm over that now, Like I'm just I've 61 00:03:58.520 --> 00:04:00.800 accepted the fact that I'm always going to have notifications and I've been like that 62 00:04:00.960 --> 00:04:03.719 even with TikTok YouTube, like there's always going to be that. I just 63 00:04:03.759 --> 00:04:06.479 had to get over that. But that's fine. I realize that I just 64 00:04:06.560 --> 00:04:11.000 I can't get to everyone at all points. And there were some people who 65 00:04:11.199 --> 00:04:14.719 you know, they sometimes you guys respond to my stories and then I won't 66 00:04:14.719 --> 00:04:16.319 see it for a few days because I'm just not checking my dams because like 67 00:04:16.319 --> 00:04:19.240 I'm outliving my life or I'm working or I'm doing things. And then I 68 00:04:19.279 --> 00:04:23.759 see like there's a bunch of responses and there's a few people being like, 69 00:04:23.800 --> 00:04:25.639 oh, like did I do something wrong? Did I say too much? 70 00:04:25.639 --> 00:04:28.800 I'm sorry, Like I really love you, da da do not ever say 71 00:04:28.800 --> 00:04:32.399 sorry for sending me a message or responding to something. But just no, 72 00:04:32.560 --> 00:04:35.720 I'm never, never, never ignoring you. Sometimes I will read them, 73 00:04:36.040 --> 00:04:41.319 but I just don't have This is a thing with me. I am such 74 00:04:41.319 --> 00:04:45.040 a deep thinker. I am somebody who wants to give advice. I want 75 00:04:45.079 --> 00:04:48.759 to get deep into something, and so when somebody is giving me a message, 76 00:04:48.759 --> 00:04:53.120 even if it's not asking for advice, I want to like connect with 77 00:04:53.160 --> 00:04:57.079 you and give you a deep response, not just a service level like hey, 78 00:04:57.120 --> 00:05:00.279 thanks by whatever. And on top of that, I do get a 79 00:05:00.319 --> 00:05:03.040 lot of advice. And I've already told you guys like I just cannot get 80 00:05:03.079 --> 00:05:06.879 to these long paragraphs like I get guys, I get voice notes, I 81 00:05:06.920 --> 00:05:13.240 get paragraphs, and I just can't do it. I do offer email coaching, 82 00:05:13.319 --> 00:05:15.519 but I don't really do much of that, like in terms of promoting 83 00:05:15.519 --> 00:05:18.319 it, because I have so many projects on on the go right now. 84 00:05:18.399 --> 00:05:23.360 I am going to be opening one on one coaching in the summer once I'm 85 00:05:23.399 --> 00:05:26.639 finished, like really sending in my book, which is very much so almost 86 00:05:26.680 --> 00:05:30.399 done. So I just wanted to say that if you've ever sent me a 87 00:05:30.399 --> 00:05:33.319 message and I didn't see it and or I didn't reply, I try to 88 00:05:33.319 --> 00:05:36.199 look at all of them. I take it all in. I really like, 89 00:05:36.240 --> 00:05:39.759 I really appreciate you guys, and definitely don't like you don't have to 90 00:05:39.759 --> 00:05:42.720 stop messaging me or anything. It's not about that. It's just just know 91 00:05:42.959 --> 00:05:46.920 that I'm never ignoring you intentionally. And I do also appreciate the fact that 92 00:05:47.000 --> 00:05:51.199 you spend your time sending me messages and I do my very best to respond 93 00:05:51.240 --> 00:05:55.959 to you guys. But I try to take my time off of social media 94 00:05:56.000 --> 00:05:59.519 as well, like you know, for my own mental health. So anyways, 95 00:05:59.600 --> 00:06:03.720 let's about how you can build real self confidence within yourself. So, 96 00:06:03.800 --> 00:06:08.120 like I mentioned that video that I had posted, I talked about a few 97 00:06:08.160 --> 00:06:15.000 things that were very crucial to being someone who is truly confident because I even 98 00:06:15.079 --> 00:06:17.279 said, like, I don't really love this idea of faking it till you 99 00:06:17.279 --> 00:06:19.000 make it. Now, if it works for you, then it works for 100 00:06:19.040 --> 00:06:23.839 you. But for me, I want to be confident, not fake being 101 00:06:23.839 --> 00:06:28.639 confident. And I understand the whole theory about like you fake it still until 102 00:06:28.720 --> 00:06:31.399 you actually are, but that's never really worked for me. Like how I 103 00:06:31.439 --> 00:06:35.800 became confident within myself were a few things that I'm going to list, and 104 00:06:35.839 --> 00:06:40.800 on top of that the series that we're going to continue, I really built 105 00:06:40.879 --> 00:06:45.079 up my life every aspect of myself in order to actually stand in front of 106 00:06:45.079 --> 00:06:47.759 you or sit in front of you, I should say, and feel confident 107 00:06:48.000 --> 00:06:51.399 or go out into the world and feel confident about myself. Now, one 108 00:06:51.399 --> 00:06:56.720 of the foundational things that is so important when it comes to actually feeling confident 109 00:06:56.720 --> 00:07:00.360 within yourself is embracing the parts of you that you reject, you deny, 110 00:07:00.439 --> 00:07:04.199 you disown, the parts of you that are basically in your shadow, the 111 00:07:04.279 --> 00:07:08.199 parts of you that you don't accept and people don't want to hear that. 112 00:07:08.439 --> 00:07:11.720 And this is not to say that you have to be fully self accepting and 113 00:07:11.759 --> 00:07:14.680 you have to love every part of you, but realistically, it's like, 114 00:07:14.959 --> 00:07:17.800 why do we not feel confident. It's because we have parts of us that 115 00:07:17.879 --> 00:07:20.959 we don't like right, and we want to hide and we want to shame 116 00:07:21.000 --> 00:07:25.160 ourselves for and whatever. But realistically, if we just didn't care so much 117 00:07:25.199 --> 00:07:28.680 about these things, and I get not caring as way easier said than done, 118 00:07:28.680 --> 00:07:30.120 and that's not where we're going there, But you know, all of 119 00:07:30.160 --> 00:07:32.279 these parts, if we didn't have so many of these parts that push into 120 00:07:32.279 --> 00:07:36.360 our shadow where we hated and we deem as bad, we would be more 121 00:07:36.360 --> 00:07:41.680 confident within ourselves, Like we wouldn't feel like we're hiding things. I don't 122 00:07:41.720 --> 00:07:45.560 know when this switch happened truly in my life, but there was definitely a 123 00:07:45.639 --> 00:07:50.319 switch that turn on or off within me. I just realized, at some 124 00:07:50.439 --> 00:07:56.160 point in my life, I am so done hiding myself. Like there's so 125 00:07:56.160 --> 00:08:00.759 many times, even just thinking back in high school, I was so not 126 00:08:00.920 --> 00:08:05.120 comfortable within my body, and I would wear these jackets or these jeans or 127 00:08:05.120 --> 00:08:09.279 these shirts that just covered all parts of me. But it made me feel 128 00:08:09.319 --> 00:08:15.120 even more uncomfortable in my own skin because I was like it would be summer 129 00:08:15.279 --> 00:08:18.439 and I'd be wearing a jacket because like I'm covering my arms because I don't 130 00:08:18.480 --> 00:08:22.920 like my arms, or like my stomach or something. And I just remember 131 00:08:22.000 --> 00:08:24.560 so many times being like, I just wish so bad I could take this 132 00:08:24.720 --> 00:08:30.759 off, But who was stopping me? It was me, And of course 133 00:08:30.800 --> 00:08:33.879 there's reasons why I didn't want to take off that jacket, right because I 134 00:08:33.960 --> 00:08:37.320 was taught, Okay, maybe bigger arms don't look good, or my arms 135 00:08:37.320 --> 00:08:41.440 don't look good because I'm looking at tumbler girls and their arms are tiny. 136 00:08:41.120 --> 00:08:43.879 But it's really all the stories that we tell ourselves. It's really all the 137 00:08:43.879 --> 00:08:48.720 things that we picked up from our existence living on this earth, and we 138 00:08:48.799 --> 00:08:52.960 need to learn how to start being okay with some of these things. It's 139 00:08:52.960 --> 00:08:56.840 okay that you're not perfect. It's okay that you have big arms, it's 140 00:08:56.840 --> 00:09:01.080 okay that your body's not where you want to be yet. Honestly, once 141 00:09:01.080 --> 00:09:05.799 you start this self acceptance journey, you can then actually start to change yourself 142 00:09:05.799 --> 00:09:09.320 from a place of self love. And I want to use change yourself very 143 00:09:09.440 --> 00:09:13.240 like lightly. You don't have to change anything about yourself. There's gonna be 144 00:09:13.240 --> 00:09:16.200 many things when you go on a self acceptance journey that you realize I don't 145 00:09:16.200 --> 00:09:22.000 need to change. It's not even needed, like seriously, but when you 146 00:09:22.159 --> 00:09:26.440 are in such a state of self hate, you feel like you have to 147 00:09:26.519 --> 00:09:30.799 change everything and not only until you change all these things will you be happy. 148 00:09:31.159 --> 00:09:33.320 And it's crazy because there's so many things that I thought that I wanted 149 00:09:33.320 --> 00:09:37.519 to change about myself, and then when I finally just decided to not care 150 00:09:37.600 --> 00:09:39.840 so much about, Okay, how big my boobs looked or how big my 151 00:09:39.960 --> 00:09:43.000 arms are, I realized I didn't want a boob job, Like I literally 152 00:09:43.039 --> 00:09:46.679 wanted a boob job when I was younger, I wanted it. And now 153 00:09:46.720 --> 00:09:50.639 I'm like, not only did my mind change, and when it comes to 154 00:09:50.679 --> 00:09:56.039 surgery, especially boob jobs, because there is so much evidence out there showing 155 00:09:56.120 --> 00:09:58.240 just how unhealthy that can be for the body, and listen to each your 156 00:09:58.240 --> 00:10:01.799 own if you want to get it whatever. You see so many girls getting 157 00:10:01.799 --> 00:10:05.600 them out now it's insane. Like literally, I'm pretty sure every single influencer 158 00:10:05.679 --> 00:10:09.200 or person that I've followed on social media back in the day has gotten them 159 00:10:09.200 --> 00:10:11.360 out. Even Lauren Bossick, she got hers out the other day, which 160 00:10:11.399 --> 00:10:15.919 is insane because like she was also somebody that I looked up to when it 161 00:10:15.960 --> 00:10:18.519 came to like body goals, in a way. I don't know if she 162 00:10:18.639 --> 00:10:20.679 got like new ones in, but I'm pretty sure she just got them taken 163 00:10:20.679 --> 00:10:24.159 out. I don't know, it doesn't even matter, but I realized that, 164 00:10:24.279 --> 00:10:28.440 oh, okay, like my boobs are not they're actually nice. But 165 00:10:28.799 --> 00:10:31.960 I only started thinking that they were nice until I decided that they were nice. 166 00:10:31.279 --> 00:10:35.600 You know, Like my boobs didn't even change that much from when I 167 00:10:35.639 --> 00:10:37.919 was younger, But it was only me deciding, you know what, I 168 00:10:37.960 --> 00:10:41.240 don't care anymore, you know what, I'm going to accept myself and then, 169 00:10:41.279 --> 00:10:45.639 you know what, if I still feel uncomfortable with myself, then I'll 170 00:10:45.639 --> 00:10:48.879 decide to change. And half the time it didn't even change, And if 171 00:10:48.919 --> 00:10:52.399 I wanted to change, it really came from a very balanced place, a 172 00:10:52.519 --> 00:10:56.879 very self loving place, like working out. You know, some people don't 173 00:10:56.879 --> 00:11:00.000 want to self accept or be okay with where they're at because they're like, 174 00:11:00.200 --> 00:11:01.879 well, no, like I do want to have a nice body, and 175 00:11:01.919 --> 00:11:05.919 I do want to look good, like obviously, like obviously you want to 176 00:11:05.919 --> 00:11:09.159 look good, and that's okay. We don't need to shame ourselves for that. 177 00:11:09.440 --> 00:11:13.200 But the way in which we try to achieve that body and health will 178 00:11:13.240 --> 00:11:16.320 come from a very different place depending on the state of mind we're in. 179 00:11:16.519 --> 00:11:18.559 If we hate our bodies so much to the point where we're telling ourselves we 180 00:11:18.600 --> 00:11:22.080 have to change, and until then we can't live our lives and we are 181 00:11:22.120 --> 00:11:26.519 inherently wrong. Babe, your workouts and your diets, they will reflect that 182 00:11:26.559 --> 00:11:31.240 self hate. Trust me, I've been there versus Okay, I'm not a 183 00:11:31.240 --> 00:11:33.759 bad person because I look this way. Yeah, I want to take care 184 00:11:33.759 --> 00:11:35.360 of myself a little bit more, but I also don't need to have this 185 00:11:35.399 --> 00:11:39.000 picture perfect body to be loved, to be accepted, to be honored. 186 00:11:39.039 --> 00:11:45.720 Whatever you will see your habits reflect that. Truly, I have such healthier 187 00:11:45.840 --> 00:11:50.879 fitness in nutrition, habits in general because I'm just supporting myself and I'm loving 188 00:11:50.879 --> 00:11:54.159 on myself. I'm not telling myself I need to do this from a place 189 00:11:54.159 --> 00:11:56.559 of self hate and discipline and oh my god, you are so inherently wrong. 190 00:11:56.679 --> 00:12:01.679 So getting good at learning how to accept certain parts of you and how 191 00:12:01.720 --> 00:12:05.639 you accept certain parts of you is not telling yourself that you need to, 192 00:12:05.879 --> 00:12:11.080 like I said, be obsessed with this part of you, let's say your 193 00:12:11.120 --> 00:12:15.240 stomach, you know, or that this needs to be the way that your 194 00:12:15.240 --> 00:12:18.240 stone's going to look forever. You're allowed to change, you're allowed to grow, 195 00:12:18.360 --> 00:12:22.799 you're allowed to evolve. But just simply just being okay with even not 196 00:12:22.159 --> 00:12:26.600 being where you want to be yet is very, very helpful when it comes 197 00:12:26.600 --> 00:12:28.600 to building confidence to trust me, it will make it so much easier. 198 00:12:30.000 --> 00:12:33.559 Like I said, it's easier said than done. And this is where most 199 00:12:33.600 --> 00:12:39.200 people stop on their self acceptance journey, their self confidence journey, because accepting 200 00:12:39.200 --> 00:12:41.720 your shadow self is literally sometimes feels like death right because it's like, Okay, 201 00:12:41.759 --> 00:12:45.440 you're telling me to accept something that I literally been told all my life 202 00:12:45.440 --> 00:12:48.600 that I should, you know, feel like crap about because social media, 203 00:12:48.679 --> 00:12:52.679 pressure people around me, whatever. But I'm saying yes, yes, And 204 00:12:52.720 --> 00:12:54.799 this is not gonna be perfect and you're not gonna accept every part of you 205 00:12:54.879 --> 00:12:56.320 and that's totally fine, and it's a journey. You don't have to be 206 00:12:56.360 --> 00:13:01.240 perfect, but like it will help. And this whole not being perfect thing, 207 00:13:01.360 --> 00:13:05.600 it's fine that you don't have a picture perfect body, and by the 208 00:13:05.639 --> 00:13:09.559 way, most people don't. And I know you want to tell yourself that 209 00:13:09.000 --> 00:13:13.320 no, I know people who have the most perfect body, okay, And 210 00:13:13.440 --> 00:13:16.799 that first of all, most of the time that's very rare, and even 211 00:13:16.879 --> 00:13:22.639 if it is, and so what, And in my opinion, we are 212 00:13:22.639 --> 00:13:26.080 the ones that are deciding whether somebody's picture perfect or not. Right, So 213 00:13:26.159 --> 00:13:28.799 you might see somebody who's like, no, they are perfect head to toe 214 00:13:28.799 --> 00:13:31.559 in real life everything da da da da. Okay, Well, not every 215 00:13:31.559 --> 00:13:35.480 single person perceives this person to be absolutely perfect. So you can't also say 216 00:13:35.480 --> 00:13:39.919 that that's like the objective truth, that like there is such thing as like 217 00:13:41.000 --> 00:13:43.879 a perfect human being. I mean you can, but then you're you're really 218 00:13:43.879 --> 00:13:50.799 stressing yourself out and you're making things way too complicated. And I just think 219 00:13:50.879 --> 00:13:54.799 that it is so much more freeing in life to just not be perfect and 220 00:13:56.159 --> 00:13:58.639 not hold yourself to this insane standard, and on top of that, you 221 00:13:58.679 --> 00:14:03.440 become I'm a very real person to other people as well. I find the 222 00:14:03.440 --> 00:14:07.600 people who I feel the most comfortable with are the people who accept themselves and 223 00:14:07.000 --> 00:14:11.120 they allow themselves to be imperfect. But you know, I can feel imperfect 224 00:14:11.159 --> 00:14:13.679 around them. I can make a mistake and know that they're not going to 225 00:14:13.799 --> 00:14:18.159 judge me or like hate me or yeah, okay, maybe I'm not having 226 00:14:18.159 --> 00:14:22.200 like the best like body image, or maybe my body's not where I want 227 00:14:22.200 --> 00:14:24.960 it to be this summer, but I'm around my friends who don't even care 228 00:14:24.960 --> 00:14:28.200 about that anyways, Like I want to actually be in the present moment when 229 00:14:28.200 --> 00:14:31.759 I'm going to the cottage. I don't want to worry about how my body 230 00:14:31.799 --> 00:14:33.200 is looking. I want to worry about if I'm going to get a nice 231 00:14:33.240 --> 00:14:37.360 tan for one, okay, but for two, talking to all my friends 232 00:14:37.480 --> 00:14:41.120 and join their company, going out to watch a sunset, going on the 233 00:14:41.159 --> 00:14:45.919 boat, trying to fish for the first time, like real life things. 234 00:14:46.039 --> 00:14:48.120 And the truth is, there are going to be times where you're just not 235 00:14:48.120 --> 00:14:50.679 going to be perfect. Why would you want to be around people and why 236 00:14:50.720 --> 00:14:54.559 would you want to be that person where there's just no room for error, 237 00:14:54.600 --> 00:14:56.919 there's no room for bad days. Like that's insane to me. And even 238 00:14:56.960 --> 00:15:01.200 when thinking about like dating someone, I would I never want to date somebody 239 00:15:01.200 --> 00:15:05.559 who wanted me to be perfect, because that is there's so much pressure there. 240 00:15:05.759 --> 00:15:07.559 And on top of that, I just I'm not perfect. And I 241 00:15:07.600 --> 00:15:13.600 feel like you really connect and you could fall in love with somebody who you 242 00:15:13.639 --> 00:15:16.840 feel like you can be yourself and they can really accept all parts of you. 243 00:15:18.039 --> 00:15:22.519 But realistically, you have to start doing it for yourself first, honestly, 244 00:15:22.840 --> 00:15:26.320 because if you don't, then you're going to look at everyone else being 245 00:15:26.320 --> 00:15:28.639 like, no, people don't accept me for me, or people expect me 246 00:15:28.679 --> 00:15:31.600 to be perfect. No, you expect yourself to be perfect. So let's 247 00:15:31.639 --> 00:15:37.720 stop expecting ourselves to be so perfect. Literally, being perfect is an actual 248 00:15:37.799 --> 00:15:41.320 illusion. And I will say it over and over and over again, and 249 00:15:41.399 --> 00:15:43.279 you do not need to be perfect. Something to help you when it comes 250 00:15:43.279 --> 00:15:46.879 to accepting your shadow or trying to integrate more parts of you, you can 251 00:15:46.879 --> 00:15:50.000 just write out a list of all the things that you don't love about yourself, 252 00:15:50.120 --> 00:15:54.440 or you tell yourself that if this was different then I would be happy. 253 00:15:54.600 --> 00:15:56.919 Then you know, these are all the parts of you that are just 254 00:15:56.960 --> 00:16:00.679 like pushed into your shadow and you don't like. But then to go further 255 00:16:00.879 --> 00:16:03.360 and start to question, Okay, where did I first pick up this belief 256 00:16:03.440 --> 00:16:08.679 about my body and why it's bad that it looks like this or something that 257 00:16:08.759 --> 00:16:11.360 I say, and why it's bad? And there's always going to be a 258 00:16:11.360 --> 00:16:14.759 story, right, And it's going to be up to you to decide, 259 00:16:14.759 --> 00:16:17.960 Okay, well, is this going to continue to be my truth? Is 260 00:16:18.000 --> 00:16:22.799 this really the truth of the matter that because my arms are this big, 261 00:16:23.120 --> 00:16:27.440 or my body's looking like this, that I'm inherently not worthy of love. 262 00:16:27.720 --> 00:16:30.919 I'm not accepted. People aren't going to love me. If you keep telling 263 00:16:30.919 --> 00:16:34.919 yourself that story, then that will be your reality and not because there won't 264 00:16:34.919 --> 00:16:37.559 actually be people out there that will love you. There will be people who 265 00:16:37.600 --> 00:16:41.159 will love you, but you won't be able to accept it. You won't 266 00:16:41.200 --> 00:16:45.840 even see it because you're so obsessed about telling yourself that you are not worthy 267 00:16:45.919 --> 00:16:48.919 because you look like this. So finding that route, finding that story and 268 00:16:49.000 --> 00:16:52.799 trying to tell yourself a new story about whatever it is that you're not liking 269 00:16:52.919 --> 00:16:56.200 or not rejecting, by also showing yourself, Okay, well there's other people 270 00:16:56.200 --> 00:17:00.919 out here who clearly are getting loved, or clearly have friends, or clearly 271 00:17:00.960 --> 00:17:03.359 have success whatever that look like this, that act like this, who have 272 00:17:03.480 --> 00:17:08.240 this interest, Like, show yourself, find people who resemble you, find 273 00:17:08.279 --> 00:17:12.000 expanders, things of that nature. Another thing that is helpful is to start 274 00:17:12.000 --> 00:17:15.079 to embrace these parts of you by letting them out more. Right. So, 275 00:17:15.359 --> 00:17:18.319 let's say you're not confident in a bikini, but you really just want 276 00:17:18.319 --> 00:17:22.200 to be whether your body is going to be super fit or not like you're 277 00:17:22.240 --> 00:17:26.000 just sick and tired and you just want to feel somewhat confident. Well, 278 00:17:26.119 --> 00:17:29.839 you can start walking around in your place, looking in the mirror and seeing 279 00:17:29.839 --> 00:17:33.319 your body in instead of pointing out every single thing you hate, pointing out 280 00:17:33.319 --> 00:17:37.000 the three things or the one thing that you actually you don't not hate about 281 00:17:37.039 --> 00:17:40.480 yourself, or maybe you do love about yourself. Just getting used to seeing 282 00:17:40.519 --> 00:17:44.599 yourself in the mirror and telling yourself better stories about yourself can help. And 283 00:17:44.680 --> 00:17:49.000 again being comfortable letting yourself be more of your shadow self. Even when it 284 00:17:49.039 --> 00:17:52.880 comes to let's say singing or dancing, you are told in your life that, 285 00:17:53.000 --> 00:17:56.680 okay, don't do that, it's weird, it's awkward as cringey, 286 00:17:56.720 --> 00:17:57.759 So you don't want to do that when you're out, but you really love 287 00:17:57.799 --> 00:18:00.680 doing that. Okay, we'll start doing more of that in your own home. 288 00:18:00.960 --> 00:18:06.240 Get comfortable with yourself doing that and be okay with being cringe be okay 289 00:18:06.279 --> 00:18:08.920 with not being perfect, and continue to make that a practice for yourself. 290 00:18:10.000 --> 00:18:14.119 Another thing that's so important is to seriously stop caring about what other people think 291 00:18:14.160 --> 00:18:17.319 about you. And I know this can be difficult, I get it. 292 00:18:17.680 --> 00:18:22.079 But one thing that I do when I find my thoughts going to, oh, 293 00:18:22.119 --> 00:18:23.240 okay, well, what if this person thinks that I'm were because I 294 00:18:23.279 --> 00:18:26.759 just did that, I tell myself that is an old story, that's a 295 00:18:27.000 --> 00:18:30.799 manifestation of my low self worth. And we're not going to go there. 296 00:18:30.839 --> 00:18:33.079 We're not going to continue to think about what that person is thinking of me. 297 00:18:33.319 --> 00:18:37.079 I'm going to care more about what I think right now. And what 298 00:18:37.160 --> 00:18:40.880 I actually know to be true about myself is that I am inherently worthy. 299 00:18:40.960 --> 00:18:42.519 I'm not a bad person because I look like this, that I acted like 300 00:18:42.559 --> 00:18:45.119 this, that I said this thing, that I'm doing this thing, whatever. 301 00:18:45.400 --> 00:18:48.279 But it's going to be up to you to be able to tell yourself 302 00:18:48.279 --> 00:18:51.880 that story. No I'm not actually wrong. No I'm not actually cringey. 303 00:18:52.160 --> 00:18:56.160 No I can wear this outfit, I can look like this in a bikini, 304 00:18:56.200 --> 00:18:59.279 I can whatever. It's gonna be up to you, though, And 305 00:18:59.319 --> 00:19:02.839 this idea of not caring about other people think just kind of remind yourself that 306 00:19:02.920 --> 00:19:04.720 every time you are thinking about what other people think, it's like you have 307 00:19:04.799 --> 00:19:10.640 this spotlight and it's completely shined on everyone else, external everything, and a 308 00:19:10.759 --> 00:19:15.440 very confident person has that spotlight shining on them. So when you find, 309 00:19:15.519 --> 00:19:18.759 oh, my attention is going through the outside sources. No, let's bring 310 00:19:18.759 --> 00:19:22.519 it back to ourselves. Let's remind us how amazing we are and continue to 311 00:19:22.559 --> 00:19:26.880 move on. Now. I know this can be definitely difficult, and you're 312 00:19:26.920 --> 00:19:30.880 not going to be perfect with doing this, but trying to detach from the 313 00:19:32.079 --> 00:19:37.640 need, the incessive need to have people like you will really help you not 314 00:19:37.759 --> 00:19:41.759 only just allow yourself to integrate shadow parts of you, because you literally won't 315 00:19:41.759 --> 00:19:44.680 care what people think. And honestly, the reason why we care so much 316 00:19:44.720 --> 00:19:48.200 about what other people think is because we have this belief or this like thought 317 00:19:48.240 --> 00:19:52.519 of Okay, well I need them to like me. I need them to 318 00:19:52.519 --> 00:19:56.160 tell me that I'm okay, I need them, I need them, I 319 00:19:56.279 --> 00:20:00.720 need them. And if you need somebody so badly, then whatever you think 320 00:20:00.799 --> 00:20:03.000 that they are going to accept or reject, you are going to act from 321 00:20:03.000 --> 00:20:06.079 that place. Right, So you're going to be like, Okay, well 322 00:20:06.319 --> 00:20:10.799 I need this guy to really like me, and I know that guys like 323 00:20:11.079 --> 00:20:12.720 very pretty perfect girls. Or if that's the belief that you have in your 324 00:20:12.720 --> 00:20:15.119 head. By the way, that's not every man, But I'm just saying, 325 00:20:15.119 --> 00:20:18.799 if you had that belief, then you are going to be very critical 326 00:20:18.799 --> 00:20:21.920 on yourself. You're going to try your best to make sure to conform into 327 00:20:21.960 --> 00:20:25.680 this little box that you've told yourself that you need to be because you need 328 00:20:25.720 --> 00:20:29.039 this guy to like you. But if you stop needing people to like you 329 00:20:29.079 --> 00:20:32.039 and to tell you your worth all the time, then you won't really care 330 00:20:32.119 --> 00:20:33.759 to fit into this box. If this guy doesn't end up liking you. 331 00:20:33.839 --> 00:20:37.160 Okay, I'm not going to change myself just because you don't like me. 332 00:20:37.240 --> 00:20:40.880 And the way you stop needing people to like you and to tell you that 333 00:20:40.920 --> 00:20:45.039 you are worthy is for you to start telling yourself that you are likable and 334 00:20:45.079 --> 00:20:48.680 that you are worthy just the way you are. Now. This is going 335 00:20:48.720 --> 00:20:52.279 to definitely lead into the series because I know it's easier said than done to 336 00:20:52.359 --> 00:20:56.200 just reaffirm to yourself how amazing you are when you have low self esteem, 337 00:20:56.359 --> 00:21:02.200 because it's not just about self accepting yourself and affirming to yourself that you're amazing. 338 00:21:02.279 --> 00:21:03.640 That's not the only thing that's going to make you feel confident. I 339 00:21:03.680 --> 00:21:06.759 know that to be facts, so don't worry. I'm not going to set 340 00:21:06.799 --> 00:21:10.160 you up for failure. But that is definitely the first piece is just telling 341 00:21:10.200 --> 00:21:14.400 yourself like, okay, I don't actually I'm gonna be okay. If this 342 00:21:14.440 --> 00:21:17.000 person doesn't like me, you actually are going to be okay, I promise 343 00:21:17.079 --> 00:21:19.960 you. And one very important reminder when it comes to other people, if 344 00:21:21.000 --> 00:21:25.160 they are judging you, if they are saying something negative, if they are 345 00:21:25.279 --> 00:21:30.200 talking crap, if they X, Y, and z, it is seriously 346 00:21:30.359 --> 00:21:36.480 all just a projection. Okay. So anytime somebody ever says anything rude to 347 00:21:36.519 --> 00:21:38.000 me, which is very rare, but you know, I get the comments 348 00:21:38.640 --> 00:21:42.839 on YouTube or wherever I get it, it's seriously just a projection. When 349 00:21:42.880 --> 00:21:47.720 somebody doesn't like something about somebody else is because they don't. They haven't integrated 350 00:21:47.759 --> 00:21:51.039 that part of them within their shadow. They've been taught by other people or 351 00:21:51.079 --> 00:21:53.119 society that it's bad, so they look at it as bad. Or simply 352 00:21:53.319 --> 00:21:57.480 they just have certain likes and wants and needs, and they value certain things, 353 00:21:57.519 --> 00:22:02.759 so naturally they're just not going to favor something. Let's say that you 354 00:22:02.839 --> 00:22:04.599 have about yourself, the way that you look like, whatever it is, 355 00:22:04.799 --> 00:22:08.240 so just leave it. Who cares If somebody who is judging you or being 356 00:22:08.319 --> 00:22:11.480 rude, it's a projection. Whatever. But even in general, if somebody's 357 00:22:11.519 --> 00:22:15.880 just like being nice, but they just I don't know, maybe they reject 358 00:22:15.920 --> 00:22:18.559 you in a way. It's fine. People have their wants and needs. 359 00:22:18.640 --> 00:22:22.160 You can't tell me that you like every single guy that walks into your existence. 360 00:22:22.160 --> 00:22:26.519 Okay, you probably have a type, You probably have a preference, 361 00:22:26.640 --> 00:22:30.240 and that's okay. And like I said, I don't believe you can fully 362 00:22:30.440 --> 00:22:36.799 one just accept every single part of you and just like that's how you're going 363 00:22:36.880 --> 00:22:41.240 to feel like the most confident about yourself. Because on the other side of 364 00:22:41.279 --> 00:22:47.559 this whole advice I'm giving you is how you build confidence within yourself is doing 365 00:22:47.599 --> 00:22:52.200 things in your life. Okay, so building up your character, achieving things 366 00:22:52.279 --> 00:22:56.440 in your life, feeling good within your own body, having a life that 367 00:22:56.519 --> 00:22:59.880 you are excited to be living, Like, those are things that are going 368 00:22:59.920 --> 00:23:02.960 to make you feel very confident. So, like I said, in the 369 00:23:03.000 --> 00:23:06.759 next six to seven weeks, I want to do a series where we break 370 00:23:06.759 --> 00:23:10.680 down different pillars that I believe will help you glow up into the best version 371 00:23:10.680 --> 00:23:14.839 of yourself and how you can feel more confident in these areas. So I 372 00:23:14.920 --> 00:23:18.559 have them written out. I definitely want to get your guys's feedback. If 373 00:23:18.599 --> 00:23:21.440 you feel like there should be like another pillar that we need to talk about, 374 00:23:21.599 --> 00:23:23.519 but there's also going to be like topics within each pillar. But this 375 00:23:23.559 --> 00:23:26.599 is how I have them listed out. So we have physical, mental, 376 00:23:26.680 --> 00:23:30.720 emotional, financial, social, and spiritual. So I want to give you 377 00:23:30.759 --> 00:23:34.160 guys tips and also will definitely be doing Q and a's for each one when 378 00:23:34.200 --> 00:23:38.839 it comes to building confidence or building routines or tips on how you can glow 379 00:23:38.960 --> 00:23:44.359 up in each area. Because this is a thing. When I think about 380 00:23:44.400 --> 00:23:48.440 myself, I think about these areas in my life, and for the most 381 00:23:48.440 --> 00:23:51.960 part, I feel confident in all of these areas. Now each area I'm 382 00:23:52.000 --> 00:23:56.200 always working to level up. But when I think about myself and why I 383 00:23:56.240 --> 00:24:00.319 can have confidence with myself and why I can have confidence when relationships and knowing 384 00:24:00.400 --> 00:24:03.880 like yes, I would be somebody with who somebody would commit to, or 385 00:24:04.200 --> 00:24:07.480 yes, of course I can speak with conviction because I know what I'm talking 386 00:24:07.559 --> 00:24:11.160 about, or yes, I can back myself and I can trust myself and 387 00:24:11.240 --> 00:24:15.920 have confidence within myself to be able to take myself in the right direction because 388 00:24:15.960 --> 00:24:19.079 of the work that I have done on myself in each area of my life. 389 00:24:19.160 --> 00:24:22.519 Obviously, I feel confident in my body because I take care of my 390 00:24:22.599 --> 00:24:26.279 body. I go to the gym, I eat very healthy. I've learned 391 00:24:26.279 --> 00:24:30.559 what works on my body, what doesn't. I accept myself for who I 392 00:24:30.599 --> 00:24:34.359 am as well. I have spent so much money in time in educating myself 393 00:24:34.480 --> 00:24:38.400 and healing and speaking and doing all these things that, of course I've now 394 00:24:38.480 --> 00:24:42.599 created a career where I absolutely love and I'm being very successful in and that's 395 00:24:42.640 --> 00:24:45.920 because I've down the work. Even when it comes to finances, I am 396 00:24:47.079 --> 00:24:51.720 in such a better financial situation that I was my entire life. And when 397 00:24:51.759 --> 00:24:56.039 you are confident within your finances, when you understand finances, when you are 398 00:24:56.480 --> 00:24:59.680 making money and you're just like your life is finally coming together and you're in 399 00:24:59.720 --> 00:25:03.680 this bundance mindset, you feel more secure. You feel like you can relax, 400 00:25:03.759 --> 00:25:07.000 You feel like, Okay, I can do this. But that's taken 401 00:25:07.039 --> 00:25:11.160 time. That's taken me literally understanding how finances were, getting myself out of 402 00:25:11.200 --> 00:25:14.920 debt, literally like switching everything to do with finances. When it comes to 403 00:25:14.960 --> 00:25:18.400 my mental state, which really finances and like being financially ambundant, it is 404 00:25:18.720 --> 00:25:21.759 I don't even know the percentage. I'm not going to say it right now, 405 00:25:21.759 --> 00:25:23.359 because I haven't really thought about it too much, but it is so 406 00:25:23.519 --> 00:25:26.960 heavily mindset based. But then, of course, like certain habits that you 407 00:25:27.000 --> 00:25:30.720 need to do, things you need to learn like but those are all the 408 00:25:30.720 --> 00:25:32.920 things that I had to do and I had to do at a very young 409 00:25:32.960 --> 00:25:36.200 age. Honestly, all of these things that I did, I did start 410 00:25:36.279 --> 00:25:38.720 doing them at a very young age because I had to. I didn't come 411 00:25:38.720 --> 00:25:41.240 from a lot of money. I didn't come from a lot of resources. 412 00:25:41.440 --> 00:25:45.799 I didn't come from a very healed family. My dad passed away when I 413 00:25:45.839 --> 00:25:48.799 was sixteen, and even when he was alive, we didn't have a healthy 414 00:25:48.799 --> 00:25:53.359 relationship because he was emotionally distant. Lots of daddy issues, I should say 415 00:25:53.440 --> 00:25:56.440 that I had to work through. My mother went through addictions. I had 416 00:25:56.480 --> 00:26:00.240 to go through that at a very young age. Right when my dad hass 417 00:26:00.279 --> 00:26:02.960 away. I had to grow up very quickly. I had to learn everything 418 00:26:02.960 --> 00:26:04.839 on my own. I had to do everything. And so you know, 419 00:26:06.279 --> 00:26:10.279 those are the things like going through trials and tribulations. I'm not even saying 420 00:26:10.279 --> 00:26:15.240 that you need to go through this level of life circumstance that I went through, 421 00:26:15.240 --> 00:26:18.599 Like I went through a very lot that is a tiny little snibbet of 422 00:26:18.680 --> 00:26:22.119 my life, but you know, going through life things. But on top 423 00:26:22.160 --> 00:26:25.799 of that, just being educated and doing the work and putting that in. 424 00:26:25.960 --> 00:26:27.759 Of course it's going to make me feel confident. Of course I can sit 425 00:26:27.839 --> 00:26:33.440 here and guide people and help them become a better version of them because I 426 00:26:33.440 --> 00:26:36.119 have done it. I've put in the work, I have practiced, and 427 00:26:36.240 --> 00:26:37.960 yes, so it's going to be a level of me just accepting myself. 428 00:26:37.960 --> 00:26:41.640 But the things that I've done and put in the work towards are the things 429 00:26:41.640 --> 00:26:45.400 that have really made me actually feel very confident with in my life. And 430 00:26:45.400 --> 00:26:48.400 I want you guys to feel the same way because I get questions all the 431 00:26:48.440 --> 00:26:52.759 time. I get so no matter what it is that I get when it 432 00:26:52.799 --> 00:26:57.359 comes to like certain questions, whether that be like physical health or like mental 433 00:26:57.400 --> 00:27:03.400 health issues that people are working through, or relationship issues, everything everything comes 434 00:27:03.480 --> 00:27:06.759 from this low in my opinion, not everything, but like in my opinion, 435 00:27:06.759 --> 00:27:08.279 when I read a lot of things, it's coming from this very low 436 00:27:08.359 --> 00:27:11.480 self worth state. It's not coming from a lot of confidence. And that's 437 00:27:11.480 --> 00:27:15.240 okay, though we can fix that. I have done that. I'm not 438 00:27:15.240 --> 00:27:18.880 saying I'm the most absolute confident in the whole world because perfect just doesn't exist. 439 00:27:18.920 --> 00:27:23.039 But I have completely transformed my entire year life and self concept and I'm 440 00:27:23.079 --> 00:27:26.680 able to continue doing so because I'm doing the work. So, like I 441 00:27:26.720 --> 00:27:30.359 said, there will be six or seven pillars, I don't know. I 442 00:27:30.599 --> 00:27:33.880 want to get your guys's feedback. Like I said, physical, which will 443 00:27:33.880 --> 00:27:36.279 be next week, that we're going to talk about how to build more confidence 444 00:27:36.279 --> 00:27:38.359 around you, like your physical looks like. We'll definitely talk about health and 445 00:27:38.359 --> 00:27:42.039 wellness. I'll definitely pose a question to you guys on the podcast Instagram. 446 00:27:42.240 --> 00:27:45.680 By the way, you guys need to follow that because that is where I'm 447 00:27:45.720 --> 00:27:48.799 asking all the questions in terms of advice and things that you guys want me 448 00:27:48.839 --> 00:27:51.599 to focus on, because there are a lot of ways that we can go 449 00:27:52.319 --> 00:27:56.640 about that. But obviously, feeling confident within yourself on a physical level around 450 00:27:56.680 --> 00:27:59.200 others and so that you're just free to live right, So you're just like 451 00:27:59.279 --> 00:28:02.440 free to not feel like you need to wear that jacket anymore like I did 452 00:28:02.480 --> 00:28:04.440 in high school. Oh my god, girl, the way that I was 453 00:28:04.559 --> 00:28:08.759 sweating take it off, to take it off. And mental for me, 454 00:28:08.799 --> 00:28:14.119 when I think about mental, actually think about more so like intelligence and skills 455 00:28:14.319 --> 00:28:18.680 and finding your value that you bring to the world. And this is different 456 00:28:18.680 --> 00:28:21.480 than your innate value as a human being, Like, yes, you don't 457 00:28:21.519 --> 00:28:26.160 need to prove yourself to people in order to be valuable. But obviously, 458 00:28:26.279 --> 00:28:29.279 like we there's certain things that we're going to I want you, guys, 459 00:28:29.400 --> 00:28:32.599 I should say, to be able to find something that you know is so 460 00:28:32.680 --> 00:28:34.240 valuable that you can bring to the world or you can bring to your workplace, 461 00:28:34.240 --> 00:28:37.400 where you can bring to whatever you know obviously doesn't need to be something 462 00:28:37.400 --> 00:28:40.799 like I'm doing. But for me, like I know my value and I'm 463 00:28:40.839 --> 00:28:45.400 bringing that to the world. So obviously me knowing that and me believing that 464 00:28:45.400 --> 00:28:48.759 that is my value, me doing the work that I do, I'm very 465 00:28:48.759 --> 00:28:52.599 confident. We'll definitely talk about the emotional side. And for me, when 466 00:28:52.599 --> 00:28:56.480 I think about this, I think about being confident in yourself to be able 467 00:28:56.519 --> 00:29:00.960 to make a decision, to be able to guide yourself in the right direction. 468 00:29:00.359 --> 00:29:04.440 For you to seriously know that you have yourself On the worst days ever 469 00:29:04.480 --> 00:29:08.960 since maybe my first ever rock bottom in my life, whenever that was I 470 00:29:10.000 --> 00:29:12.880 started to realize I have myself no matter how bad the day, it gets 471 00:29:12.880 --> 00:29:17.599 no matter what is happening. I have myself, and I know that there's 472 00:29:17.640 --> 00:29:19.880 some people out there who literally just like don't believe that things are ever going 473 00:29:19.920 --> 00:29:23.000 to get better. They can't trust themselves, they feel lost, and I 474 00:29:23.039 --> 00:29:26.599 don't like that's not a good state to feel in. So we definitely need 475 00:29:26.640 --> 00:29:30.759 to talk about that finance. Like I said, honestly, I really want 476 00:29:30.799 --> 00:29:33.519 to talk about getting out of the scarcity mindset because that's been coming up a 477 00:29:33.519 --> 00:29:37.039 lot around me with my friends that I've been witnessing, and you know, 478 00:29:37.119 --> 00:29:41.960 like I've worked through the scarcity mindset. So it's so crazy because I don't 479 00:29:41.960 --> 00:29:48.519 even talk about it that much on the podcast, but the scarcity mindset and 480 00:29:48.519 --> 00:29:52.000 manifesting, I don't really like to talk about messing too much because you know, 481 00:29:52.119 --> 00:29:55.039 I'm not going to get into it, but I really do think that 482 00:29:55.160 --> 00:29:57.359 honestly, when you get to a certain point, and I'm not trying to 483 00:29:57.480 --> 00:30:02.680 put myself on this pedestal, but once you really understand the game of life 484 00:30:02.720 --> 00:30:06.160 and you are very confident and you've worked through a lot of things in your 485 00:30:06.200 --> 00:30:08.079 life, you realize you don't even really need to manifest things because you believe 486 00:30:08.160 --> 00:30:11.160 so heavily in the things that you're going to get. There's obviously still things 487 00:30:11.160 --> 00:30:15.960 that I do in my life that kind of help reinforce a certain path that 488 00:30:15.000 --> 00:30:18.920 I'm trying to go on, but I find I don't need to do a 489 00:30:18.960 --> 00:30:22.359 bunch of manifesting in the way that most people might think of it. I 490 00:30:22.440 --> 00:30:25.359 also did make a heal to manifest guide, by the way, if you're 491 00:30:25.400 --> 00:30:29.359 interested in it, it will be linked in the show notes description wherever you 492 00:30:29.400 --> 00:30:33.359 see this my link in my bio, because I actually just really think that 493 00:30:33.920 --> 00:30:37.720 to manifest things in your life is really just to heal and to work through 494 00:30:37.720 --> 00:30:41.720 all that. So anyways, we're gonna talk about that in relation to finances, 495 00:30:41.720 --> 00:30:45.079 and of course I'll tell you not just like mindset abundant stuff, but 496 00:30:45.359 --> 00:30:48.000 just actual practical tips, because yes, we can think about the abundance mindset 497 00:30:48.039 --> 00:30:52.200 and like mindset stuff, but also understanding certain practical things to help set you 498 00:30:52.319 --> 00:30:56.000 up in the three D physical realm is very important too. I'm not just 499 00:30:56.039 --> 00:31:00.519 a spiritual manifest or like, oh my god, I just leave it and 500 00:31:00.559 --> 00:31:03.960 you'll get it. And then I want to touch on spiritual and I think 501 00:31:04.200 --> 00:31:08.680 reprogramming your beliefs will be a really big part of that. But I think 502 00:31:08.720 --> 00:31:15.119 that just having some sort of foundation or faith in something or some sort of 503 00:31:15.160 --> 00:31:19.319 concept of how you see the world and how it works can definitely really help 504 00:31:19.400 --> 00:31:25.519 you continue to become the best version of yourself and take certain action, because 505 00:31:25.559 --> 00:31:27.960 if you just start like believing a million things and you're all over the place, 506 00:31:29.079 --> 00:31:33.759 then it's hard for you to continue to take aligned action because you're all 507 00:31:33.759 --> 00:31:36.200 over the place and you don't know what to believe. Now, it's not 508 00:31:36.240 --> 00:31:38.480 that I'm going to tell you what you should believe or not, but I 509 00:31:38.519 --> 00:31:42.319 do find like for me being someone who is spiritual, being someone who believes 510 00:31:42.359 --> 00:31:45.759 she's a creator of her own reality, someone who believes in the universe, 511 00:31:45.960 --> 00:31:52.440 the law of attraction manifesting, even though it's not like this Bible that I'm 512 00:31:52.480 --> 00:31:56.519 going by, but from everything that I've been through in my life and how 513 00:31:56.559 --> 00:32:00.799 I've seen it correlate in by analyzing certain things, that's just what works for 514 00:32:00.839 --> 00:32:04.480 me, and that's what I believe, and it just really helps me solidify 515 00:32:05.200 --> 00:32:07.880 the trust that I have within not only myself, for the universe. When 516 00:32:08.319 --> 00:32:12.839 things come up in my life or maybe I don't know the answer or I'm 517 00:32:12.880 --> 00:32:15.000 getting a little confused or I'm stressed, I can kind of go back to 518 00:32:15.079 --> 00:32:19.599 this foundational belief system and be like, I got this, this is how 519 00:32:19.599 --> 00:32:22.559 it's going to work out. Again. This is not me like being psychic, 520 00:32:22.720 --> 00:32:27.400 but you know, trusting and the unseen and the unknown. It's really 521 00:32:27.440 --> 00:32:30.480 really helped me in times when yeah, I've been stressed or things aren't working 522 00:32:30.480 --> 00:32:35.359 out the way that I thought that they would. So I want to start 523 00:32:35.400 --> 00:32:38.240 touching on all of those throughout the summer. And why I'm saying like six 524 00:32:38.279 --> 00:32:43.680 to seven weeks because every episode we will talk about that. So let me 525 00:32:43.720 --> 00:32:45.920 know your thoughts. If you're excited for this, I just think that will 526 00:32:45.960 --> 00:32:51.079 help a little bit with the structure of the podcast as the months go by 527 00:32:51.480 --> 00:32:54.759 during summer. We have a lot of things to do this summer. Girlies. 528 00:32:54.880 --> 00:32:58.240 I don't care what it is, but you're doing things. You're not 529 00:32:58.279 --> 00:33:00.920 going to be sitting in your bedroom not being the best glowed up version of 530 00:33:00.960 --> 00:33:05.960 yourself. I will help you with that, but you also need to take 531 00:33:06.000 --> 00:33:08.519 that action and go out there and do the damn thing. But don't worry, 532 00:33:08.599 --> 00:33:12.720 I will be here with you as we level up, as we continue 533 00:33:12.720 --> 00:33:16.400 to grow. Just a quick mention once again for anyone who is watching on 534 00:33:16.559 --> 00:33:22.039 YouTube. I have more episodes of the podcast, but they're only available Spotify, 535 00:33:22.200 --> 00:33:27.559 Apple or wherever you listen to your podcast. I only started posting my 536 00:33:27.680 --> 00:33:30.400 visuals on YouTube at the beginning of this year in January. So if you 537 00:33:30.480 --> 00:33:35.640 want more content and you've already binged my videos and you can definitely go to 538 00:33:35.680 --> 00:33:39.759 Spotify or Apple. And yeah, thank you guys so much. Please let 539 00:33:39.759 --> 00:33:44.319 me know in the comments what your thoughts are about anything I talked about. 540 00:33:44.319 --> 00:33:45.599 But on top of that, like the series that we're going to create, 541 00:33:46.039 --> 00:33:50.880 if you think I should add something or not. Again, within each topic 542 00:33:50.920 --> 00:33:52.759 that we'll be talking about, we will expand on a lot of things. 543 00:33:52.880 --> 00:33:57.160 So make sure you're following the Instagram so that we can keep up to date 544 00:33:57.160 --> 00:34:00.440 and you can get motivated because I've been posting. I mean, I only 545 00:34:00.440 --> 00:34:02.960 have three posts, but I will be posting more, even outside of just 546 00:34:04.160 --> 00:34:06.599 updating you on the podcast episodes. Like I said, it's going to be 547 00:34:06.599 --> 00:34:09.159 like a Pinterest but Instagram. Okay, love you and I'll see you the 548 00:34:09.199 --> 00:34:10.360 next one. Bye.