1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:14,720 Made Destan John a pace sunny sun lord on. I hadasion my nice so 2 00:00:15,119 --> 00:00:19,519 Nat. Hello, everybody, welcome to f cool for crying out loud. 3 00:00:19,679 --> 00:00:27,679 I am here. It's Friday with Caylan, the Handsome Kaylan and Julie Kayse 4 00:00:28,199 --> 00:00:32,399 yay, Hi guys, I love I love this. This is so fun. 5 00:00:32,439 --> 00:00:35,799 I got so excited to do this. Obviously missing Lynette. Wish we 6 00:00:35,799 --> 00:00:39,240 could all power out together. I know, I'm very happy to be here. 7 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:42,840 Lynette is on a trip. Where's she Florida? Right? Larida? 8 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:47,520 Yeah, she went to Florida. Good for her. And I was originally 9 00:00:47,960 --> 00:00:51,200 asking you to come last week, but you couldn't because you were getting ready 10 00:00:51,200 --> 00:00:54,119 to go on a trip yep, which I would like to talk about in 11 00:00:54,159 --> 00:00:57,719 one in one minute. But then you said I could come next week would 12 00:00:57,719 --> 00:01:00,119 be easier, And then I was like, well that's a perfect because we 13 00:01:00,119 --> 00:01:03,680 were going to run a best of But now look now you guys are getting 14 00:01:03,719 --> 00:01:07,319 a regular show. You're getting the best of the best. Yeah, the 15 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:12,319 best of you are backed by popular demand, is what we're saying. But 16 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:18,200 you know who else is popular is our our friends? Alicia asked Alante and 17 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:21,439 Ashley, you're so Chic and scher Bear and do you want to Hershey Bar 18 00:01:21,560 --> 00:01:26,359 and Kelly laid and Amy r Kelly's, Katie's rolling on e and not Anna 19 00:01:26,439 --> 00:01:32,400 Faris and Aaron Lando and Nikki call your girl. And Leslie is out accosting 20 00:01:32,439 --> 00:01:34,879 people. I saw her in front of seven to eleven all the way in 21 00:01:34,959 --> 00:01:38,000 Encino. Good always an Encino. Yeah, he likes it there. Yeah. 22 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:42,799 And you know who else is running around Encino is Missy and Gabby, 23 00:01:42,879 --> 00:01:46,680 you know, on the streets, on the mean streets of Encino. Uh. 24 00:01:46,719 --> 00:01:49,640 And then the other Alicia, Uh not Alicia? What am I talking 25 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:53,799 about? The coffer Leslie with the coughing all the time because of the freaking 26 00:01:53,879 --> 00:02:00,680 COVID. Jacob is so growley, and Elizabeth Williamson had like I think she's 27 00:02:00,760 --> 00:02:04,599 up to like eight or nine kids now. I think she got a new 28 00:02:04,599 --> 00:02:07,800 one during the week. And Athena, we love your dancing Polly, We 29 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:13,360 love your pancakes, Rita, we love your your Bassett hound face. Yeah, 30 00:02:13,560 --> 00:02:16,599 compliment because baas that hounds are so cute, so cute, and uh 31 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:23,120 ishan pre i rep i open so cute. Kelly Brandt is not your aunt, 32 00:02:23,159 --> 00:02:27,240 but she will take you to hip hop class. Stephanie Stinker Rinker, 33 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:30,439 Christa gets strapped, Sandra, it's not easy being green, Jennifer, get 34 00:02:30,560 --> 00:02:32,879 up, Aaron, don't be a dirty Sanchez, Sarah Stefanos. She's our 35 00:02:32,960 --> 00:02:38,080 Paisano and that's it. Okay. Speaking of shout outs, can I do 36 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:40,240 a little shout out? Yeah, of course to some folks on the for 37 00:02:40,319 --> 00:02:44,759 crying out loud, reel it in page. Okay. So I'm gonna miss 38 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:46,280 some people because I can't find the old one. But if I find it, 39 00:02:46,479 --> 00:02:52,960 so Amy Justice Katz posted such a sweet thing about my dad and listening 40 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:59,319 to him on the radio and just the nostalgia brings. And then Valerie Fenwick 41 00:02:59,479 --> 00:03:04,280 chimes and yeah, say something hits it out of the park, Carrie Wentz, 42 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:12,719 Lindsay, Crystal Glass, Christopher let's see. Yeah, anyway, they 43 00:03:12,759 --> 00:03:19,360 had such nice things to say. Linda Gilligan not to be confused with Gilligan's 44 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:22,000 Island. I don't think she might be from that island, but I don't 45 00:03:22,039 --> 00:03:27,759 know gg Field, Samantha Carter. I haven't even read Samantha Carter's or Darlene 46 00:03:27,840 --> 00:03:31,800 Hirsh's yet, as I'm sitting here flipping through this but so just sweet that 47 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:35,879 people, you know, like still listen to my dad's show and talk about 48 00:03:35,919 --> 00:03:38,639 it and just like I freaking love it. And then yeah, I can't 49 00:03:38,639 --> 00:03:45,560 find There was another post earlier about oh someone had said that I sounded like 50 00:03:46,159 --> 00:03:51,439 someone on the rail. That's her name, Laura. I'm going to get 51 00:03:51,439 --> 00:03:53,960 it wrong anyway, but thank you guys all for shouting me out and shouting 52 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:58,599 my dad out. Favorite you're like people because I think just from early on 53 00:03:58,680 --> 00:04:00,280 when you came on, I don't know, this was back in the day 54 00:04:00,280 --> 00:04:03,919 where people really don't like guests, and now we have guests. We have 55 00:04:03,960 --> 00:04:08,520 them on our Thursday show. Yeah, but you've always been as you know, 56 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:11,599 they're always like, we don't like guests, Exceptulie. I know. 57 00:04:11,719 --> 00:04:15,599 It's so I'm like, dude, thank you, Like I don't know because 58 00:04:15,599 --> 00:04:18,160 you're what I've done, but because I'm normal, because you're normal and fun 59 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:23,439 and a good broadcaster and you tell fun stories and you're you're never here to 60 00:04:23,439 --> 00:04:27,240 shill anything true that that is true. I'm not here, Yeah, I'm 61 00:04:27,279 --> 00:04:30,759 here for nothing other than a good time. So exactly, so you just 62 00:04:30,839 --> 00:04:35,079 got back last night. So I was thinking about this because I'm like, 63 00:04:35,079 --> 00:04:39,720 okay, I'm going on the podcast tomorrow. Today's Monday. I got back 64 00:04:39,720 --> 00:04:45,279 from Carbos Sunday, and somehow Stephanie, Stephanie and Lynette will take a trip 65 00:04:45,360 --> 00:04:49,240 or do something and have the funniest stories, the craziest story. Some shit 66 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:53,759 is always happen to you guys at the airport, on the plane, at 67 00:04:53,759 --> 00:04:57,720 the hotel. Like you guys will take what seems like a very simple, 68 00:04:58,079 --> 00:05:04,040 mundane trip and it becomes this crazy funny You're so good at like storytelling, 69 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:08,879 you very good at that. Meanwhile, and I was like, how can 70 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:12,399 I make my trip to Cabo that? And I can't really, but I'll 71 00:05:12,439 --> 00:05:17,839 just tell you it was just really fun. So so Bella so hard when 72 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:23,600 everything's just like five stars. It's just like how do you complain? You 73 00:05:23,639 --> 00:05:26,920 know, and just they're waiting on your hand and foot and the food's so 74 00:05:27,319 --> 00:05:30,560 delicious. Yeah, I know, it's hard. It's hard to complain off. 75 00:05:30,800 --> 00:05:32,279 Yeah, I know exactly. Now go on. So they only had 76 00:05:32,279 --> 00:05:36,480 a couple of days overlap with their spring schedules. I think every parent can 77 00:05:36,519 --> 00:05:40,199 relate to that when you have different kids at different ages, at different schools. 78 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:44,519 So I was I had no plans for spring break a couple months ago. 79 00:05:44,600 --> 00:05:46,040 I wasn't going to do anything, and then the girls are like, 80 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:48,639 dude, we need to go somewhere for spring break. I was like, 81 00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:51,000 all right, let's drive down to San Diego and they're like, no, 82 00:05:51,279 --> 00:05:55,480 Like I want to go somewhere. I was like, like, I don't 83 00:05:55,480 --> 00:05:57,879 want to get on a plane. I just I just wanted to chill. 84 00:05:58,000 --> 00:06:01,639 But of course you do for your children. In so I had to sacrifice 85 00:06:01,800 --> 00:06:06,279 and go to Cabo for so hard. It's really hard hard. That's what 86 00:06:06,319 --> 00:06:11,240 we do as moms. We just we do what we can for kids put 87 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:13,680 a smile on their face. So I was like, all right, let's 88 00:06:13,680 --> 00:06:16,959 go to Cabo. Great. I actually researched a lot to find a hotel 89 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:24,399 where you could actually swim in the water, because in Cabo San Lucas there's 90 00:06:24,439 --> 00:06:27,800 a lot of riptides and so a lot of the hotels you can't actually swim 91 00:06:27,839 --> 00:06:30,680 in the water. Even if they're right on the water, you can't necessarily 92 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:32,199 just go down to the beach and jump in. So then when we're seeing 93 00:06:32,279 --> 00:06:36,040 pictures of people on their vacates to Cabo and they're in the water, what 94 00:06:36,079 --> 00:06:40,480 are we seeing there's certain places where you can go in the water, and 95 00:06:40,480 --> 00:06:45,240 there's certain resorts where you can go in the water. So I found that 96 00:06:45,319 --> 00:06:46,879 resort. So and why did you pick Cabo in the first place? Is 97 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:49,800 it close? Because it's close, it's a two hour flight. It was 98 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:53,720 an hour and fifty three minutes getting there, two hours and ten minutes back, 99 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:55,480 okay. And I was just like, I just don't want to go 100 00:06:55,519 --> 00:06:57,680 to Hawaii, Like I just didn't want to go far. I just wanted 101 00:06:57,720 --> 00:07:01,160 to like something simple and easy. And so I was looking at you know, 102 00:07:01,279 --> 00:07:06,120 Cabo is like can be one big party, like especially over spring break. 103 00:07:06,319 --> 00:07:10,839 I was gonna say, like, it's that's you hear about Cabo for 104 00:07:10,879 --> 00:07:15,360 spring break And that's exactly what it is. So funny you say that because 105 00:07:16,079 --> 00:07:21,079 at UCLA they the Greek Bella's in a sorority, so they have the Greek 106 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:25,720 system. So they were like, Okay, a bunch of sorority girls and 107 00:07:25,720 --> 00:07:30,160 a bunch of sorty guys. Someone plans this big trip and they rent out 108 00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:32,800 the hotel and they plan events for every day. You're gonna go on a 109 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:34,920 boat, this day, you're gonna do this, this day, this night 110 00:07:34,959 --> 00:07:40,879 you're doing this, it's a whole thing. But it's literally all the fraternity 111 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:45,240 guys and sorty guys at UCLA descend on this one place and it's just you 112 00:07:45,279 --> 00:07:50,000 know, drinking and whatever else, debauchery the whole thing. So Bella was 113 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:54,199 like, Mom, can I go? And literally my stomach dropped. I 114 00:07:54,240 --> 00:08:00,360 was like, that sounds terrifying to me that you're in Mexico, like where 115 00:08:00,399 --> 00:08:03,160 it's I don't like. To me, it felt very out of control, 116 00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:05,600 out of my control, like in terms of like I don't know, someone 117 00:08:05,639 --> 00:08:07,959 going to slip something in your drink, Like who are these people that are 118 00:08:07,959 --> 00:08:11,040 going on the strip? I didn't realize how kind of organized and planned out 119 00:08:11,079 --> 00:08:15,199 it was. Initially I was just like, what just a bunch of fraternio 120 00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:18,360 story people going to Commo and like you hear about these crazy stories about like 121 00:08:18,439 --> 00:08:24,240 hotels in random places and they get like drugged. You know who drugs them? 122 00:08:24,279 --> 00:08:26,399 We don't know. They end up in the pool, like I don't 123 00:08:26,399 --> 00:08:28,439 know. I went to the darkest of darkest place and I was like, 124 00:08:28,759 --> 00:08:33,399 Bella, honestly, the sad thing is when you said they end up in 125 00:08:33,440 --> 00:08:35,440 the pool, I was like, oh, I know exactly the story you're 126 00:08:35,480 --> 00:08:37,799 talking about. Yes, yes, I was like, I don't know that. 127 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:41,200 I think I heard a podcast. I know I heard a podcast that 128 00:08:41,679 --> 00:08:43,600 these people ended up dead in a pool, thank you. So of course 129 00:08:43,679 --> 00:08:48,519 nobody could explain it. They had no idea how it happened. I was 130 00:08:48,559 --> 00:08:50,360 like, it's just sad that. I immediately like, oh yeah, yea, 131 00:08:52,000 --> 00:08:54,320 you're like, sorry, I know that one. That's what's gonna happen. 132 00:08:54,440 --> 00:08:56,759 So of course I was like, that sounds terrifying and no, and 133 00:08:56,840 --> 00:09:00,960 Bella was like half in, half out anyway. She was also kind of 134 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:03,759 like, oh, like that could be a lot of fun, but could 135 00:09:03,759 --> 00:09:05,960 also be like kind of sketchy, you know. And she had never been 136 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:09,919 to Mexico and to go down there by yourself, and she's very adventurous and 137 00:09:09,960 --> 00:09:13,600 it's not so she was kind of half in, half out. If we 138 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:15,600 were like, go, you're gonna have a great time, she would have 139 00:09:15,639 --> 00:09:18,720 gone. But we were like, no, come you know right out, 140 00:09:18,799 --> 00:09:22,360 you know, a little family vaca. So she was like, okay, 141 00:09:22,600 --> 00:09:26,840 let's just do that. So the girls and I went down to Cabo and 142 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:30,320 in the airports everywhere, it's just college, like you said, college kids 143 00:09:30,320 --> 00:09:35,080 everywhere there, like you know, fraternity sweatshirts on this that they're hats, 144 00:09:35,080 --> 00:09:39,759 they're whatever they So then I was having fomo for her because I was like, 145 00:09:39,799 --> 00:09:41,440 oh my god, look at all these people they're doing it, Like, 146 00:09:41,639 --> 00:09:46,120 oh my god, I feel terrible. So we get to this hotel. 147 00:09:46,200 --> 00:09:48,240 So I didn't want a hotel where it was so much parting. So 148 00:09:48,519 --> 00:09:52,240 I texted my mom friend group and I was like, guys, where do 149 00:09:52,240 --> 00:09:54,000 you guys go in Mexico, like with your family. So they're sending me 150 00:09:54,039 --> 00:09:58,639 places and then one girl's like, me Cabo. This hotel me Cowbos, 151 00:09:58,679 --> 00:10:01,360 it's great, da da. So I started looking at me Cabo and every 152 00:10:01,399 --> 00:10:05,440 single review is like it's so fun. It's a big party. They're blasting 153 00:10:05,559 --> 00:10:09,879 music. It's like surf dislay at the pool. There's all these weird people 154 00:10:09,960 --> 00:10:13,759 dancing. I was like, oh no, hell to the no, that's 155 00:10:13,840 --> 00:10:18,679 exactly what I don't want to do. So I found the Hilton Los Cobos 156 00:10:18,720 --> 00:10:24,440 shout out Hilton Los Cabos. So Los Cobos is twenty minutes south of Cabo, 157 00:10:24,480 --> 00:10:26,519 San Lucas, Okay, So there's a lot of hotels there as well, 158 00:10:26,519 --> 00:10:31,360 but it's not busy. It's like the retirement community. Oh yeah, 159 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:35,440 of Cobo exactly, but just nice hotels, nice resorts, golf courses, 160 00:10:35,559 --> 00:10:39,320 kind of like a little bit of everything without the craziness of Cabo. So 161 00:10:39,519 --> 00:10:43,320 yes, I was having So when we got there, it was families. 162 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:46,120 I mean it really was families or couples or this and that. But it 163 00:10:46,159 --> 00:10:48,399 was this beautiful hotel. You can swim, you just go right down to 164 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:52,480 the ocean swim. We spent the days like just in the pool, in 165 00:10:52,559 --> 00:10:56,320 the ocean. It was amazing and Bella had a wonderful time. But for 166 00:10:56,360 --> 00:10:58,960 the first day and a half, I was like, oh my god, 167 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:01,879 this is somewhere. It's like I've got my nineteen year old, you know, 168 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:05,480 college kid here with like us as a family, and like, you 169 00:11:05,519 --> 00:11:07,399 know, there were not many college kids at this hotel. But then I 170 00:11:07,399 --> 00:11:11,320 would be like, oh see see see those guys they're in college. They're 171 00:11:11,360 --> 00:11:13,759 here with their parents. Do By the Endbella was like, this is the 172 00:11:13,799 --> 00:11:18,679 best trip ever. This is exactly what I wanted. Totally relaxing, so 173 00:11:18,919 --> 00:11:22,120 fun. We did go into Cabo one night and it was just not it 174 00:11:22,159 --> 00:11:26,360 was you know, if you're going to go into Cabo, you probably don't 175 00:11:26,360 --> 00:11:28,840 go into like nine thirty or ten o'clock at night and you just go straight 176 00:11:28,840 --> 00:11:31,320 to a bar, you know, and just drink and part right, and 177 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:33,440 that that's not what we were doing. So it was just me and the 178 00:11:33,440 --> 00:11:35,600 girls because Jamil couldn't go. He had he was on call. It was 179 00:11:35,639 --> 00:11:39,559 the best mother daughter girl trip like ever. We just had the best time. 180 00:11:41,679 --> 00:11:46,240 I don't really have any crazy stories or anything to complain about. We 181 00:11:46,360 --> 00:11:50,480 did do like a one day where you go on a sailboat and you they 182 00:11:50,600 --> 00:11:54,480 provide lunch. It's an open bar, and then they take you in this 183 00:11:54,519 --> 00:11:58,159 cove and you go snorkeling and all that stuff. So you know, is 184 00:11:58,200 --> 00:12:03,000 it booze cruisy or was it everybody was drinking. There were only fourteen of 185 00:12:03,080 --> 00:12:05,440 us on the boat, so it wasn't like so packed, but yes, 186 00:12:05,600 --> 00:12:09,879 everybody was taking advantage of the open bar except for me of course. And 187 00:12:09,960 --> 00:12:11,320 even Bella was like, I do not want to have a drink and be 188 00:12:11,399 --> 00:12:15,240 on this boat and like start vomiting, you know, like just most she 189 00:12:15,320 --> 00:12:16,879 didn't know if she's gonna get motion sick or whatever. Right, So we 190 00:12:16,879 --> 00:12:20,639 were the sober ones and it was the best because you know, you start 191 00:12:20,639 --> 00:12:22,000 out on the cruise, everybody's like, who having a good time, but 192 00:12:22,120 --> 00:12:24,320 kind of quiet, you know, and this and that. By the time 193 00:12:24,320 --> 00:12:31,279 we were heading back, everybody's like like dancing. And then this mom and 194 00:12:31,320 --> 00:12:35,120 this dad with their two sons. The mom and the dad was the best. 195 00:12:35,159 --> 00:12:39,080 They were just like you know, white folk from the East Coast, 196 00:12:39,399 --> 00:12:43,200 huh, and very nice like my age, you know. But you know, 197 00:12:43,879 --> 00:12:46,720 you just didn't expect. All of a sudden, the dad on the 198 00:12:46,720 --> 00:12:50,679 way back is just like, you know, cheersing everybody on the boat, 199 00:12:50,919 --> 00:12:54,799 and like the music would go on, he'd just start like bopping his head 200 00:12:54,919 --> 00:12:58,639 start dancing. I was like, this is amazing. So it was fun 201 00:12:58,679 --> 00:13:01,559 to watch being sober. And then the mom was like like we had like 202 00:13:01,600 --> 00:13:05,679 a there was a captain, and then there was like this guy who was 203 00:13:05,759 --> 00:13:07,159 like serving us and stuff, and he was cute and kind of young. 204 00:13:07,639 --> 00:13:13,039 So she's like going up against him dancing like listen, I'll do what I 205 00:13:13,080 --> 00:13:16,600 got to do to get my tip. Like if this is what it takes, 206 00:13:16,639 --> 00:13:18,919 I got to dance with the moms, the drunk moms, I will 207 00:13:18,919 --> 00:13:22,200 do it. Just give me the tip. Afterwards. The kids are like 208 00:13:22,320 --> 00:13:24,559 nine and eleven. Oh gosh, it was very funny. That's going to 209 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:30,679 be seared into their brains. Though, yes, yes, and yes. 210 00:13:30,919 --> 00:13:33,919 And I grew up around some drinking too, and I think that's why I 211 00:13:33,960 --> 00:13:37,279 don't do it, because I it was embarrassing as a kid. So I 212 00:13:37,360 --> 00:13:39,679 was like, I just I don't need to be I do not need to 213 00:13:39,720 --> 00:13:41,759 do this to my kids. Whatever. Everybody's having a right time. Look, 214 00:13:41,799 --> 00:13:45,919 the writing was on the wall for me before I quit drinking. I 215 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:48,679 was like, my kids were real young when I quit drinking. But I 216 00:13:48,759 --> 00:13:52,039 was like, you know, I will, by accident, end up being 217 00:13:52,039 --> 00:13:54,360 that drunk mom that you know, yes that my kids are at an age 218 00:13:54,360 --> 00:14:00,519 where it's not cute. It's not funny. See mom going like a exactly 219 00:14:01,360 --> 00:14:05,639 flashing my boobs. Yeah, like mom, please please, I know. 220 00:14:05,279 --> 00:14:09,240 So Cobo was amazing. I had the best I have to shout out to 221 00:14:09,000 --> 00:14:13,360 someone who probably doesn't listen to the show, but I'm gonna shout them out 222 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:16,799 anyway. So check this out. So we're at the hotel and there's a 223 00:14:18,919 --> 00:14:22,360 like an infinity pool, and next to the infinity pool. Lining the infinity 224 00:14:22,360 --> 00:14:26,360 pool are these cabanas, really nice cabanas that overlook the ocean, the pool. 225 00:14:26,399 --> 00:14:28,879 You're right there in the action. You know, when you go to 226 00:14:28,919 --> 00:14:31,679 these hotels, like the chairs are hard to come by. You got to 227 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:35,120 go down at seven am, put your book on some chairs. If you 228 00:14:35,120 --> 00:14:37,919 want to get some lounge chair, right, they're gone so fast. The 229 00:14:37,000 --> 00:14:41,240 cabanas you have to rent. I honestly didn't even know how much they were. 230 00:14:41,279 --> 00:14:43,960 I didn't ask. I was like, we're just gonna get up at 231 00:14:43,960 --> 00:14:46,840 seven am, throw our books on some chairs and do that. So the 232 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:50,360 second the kids like, okay, cool, yeah, get up at seven 233 00:14:50,399 --> 00:14:54,240 am on our vacation and oh no, I'm up early. Anyway, I 234 00:14:54,240 --> 00:14:56,480 got to the jam, I do my thing. Oh yeah, yeah. 235 00:14:56,559 --> 00:14:58,559 I was like, guys, I got you. Don't worry about Okay, 236 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:05,559 mom thinks so that was number not an issue. But so anyway, so 237 00:15:05,720 --> 00:15:11,519 I get into the Infinity pool and this is one morning. This was Friday. 238 00:15:11,519 --> 00:15:13,559 We got there Wednesday. This was Friday. So Thursday I went down, 239 00:15:13,639 --> 00:15:16,320 I got some chairs for us, and we just spent the day in 240 00:15:16,360 --> 00:15:18,639 the sun. The problem with the chairs is you're in the sun the entire 241 00:15:18,720 --> 00:15:22,240 day, so you can't spend as much time by the pool because you don't 242 00:15:22,279 --> 00:15:26,200 have that break of shade the cabanas though you've got shade, you've got sun. 243 00:15:26,240 --> 00:15:28,200 You can pull the curtains, you can do whatever you want to have 244 00:15:28,200 --> 00:15:30,559 as much or as little son as you want. And it's just like this 245 00:15:30,679 --> 00:15:35,039 big bed. It's so it's it's it's cush it's nice. So anyway, 246 00:15:35,080 --> 00:15:37,240 I get into the Infinity Pool and you can it's a standing pool, you 247 00:15:37,279 --> 00:15:41,080 know, so it's not so deep. And this boy was throwing a football 248 00:15:41,159 --> 00:15:43,679 with another boy. They were like ten years old. So I'm walking by 249 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:46,840 them, but I kind of got a little close to the boy so I 250 00:15:46,840 --> 00:15:50,759 could go around him to get to the edge of the pool. And this 251 00:15:50,919 --> 00:15:52,879 dad goes, hey, son, watch out, watch out. I'm like, 252 00:15:52,919 --> 00:15:54,639 no, no, no, it's good. I was about I was 253 00:15:54,679 --> 00:15:58,039 about to intercept anyway, because they were throwing a football and you're like oh. 254 00:15:58,080 --> 00:16:00,200 And then I walk and they throw it and cat and then the dad 255 00:16:00,240 --> 00:16:02,919 says to me, oh, you missed your chance. I was like, 256 00:16:02,960 --> 00:16:04,120 look, I'm just trying to be nice to these little boys. I don't 257 00:16:04,159 --> 00:16:07,720 want to, you know, like show them up. And he's like ha 258 00:16:07,720 --> 00:16:11,120 ha ha. That was the end of that. So then like ten minutes 259 00:16:11,200 --> 00:16:14,480 later, the girls are now in the infinity pool and I go to take 260 00:16:14,480 --> 00:16:18,080 a picture of them and I'm kind of bending down to take shots and the 261 00:16:18,120 --> 00:16:22,000 same dad comes up to me and he's like, hey, listen, literally 262 00:16:22,039 --> 00:16:23,960 it was eleven in the morning. He's like, so we rented this cabana 263 00:16:25,000 --> 00:16:26,440 for the whole day, but we're about to catch a flight. Do you 264 00:16:26,480 --> 00:16:30,000 want the cabana. I was like wait what. I was like really, 265 00:16:30,039 --> 00:16:33,200 and he's like, yeah, it's yours. You can have it if you 266 00:16:33,200 --> 00:16:36,799 want to. I'm like, are you Like yeah, dude, I'll be 267 00:16:36,919 --> 00:16:40,720 like like the best mom My teenagers are gonna love me. And he's like, 268 00:16:40,799 --> 00:16:42,919 yeah, I saw you had your girls totally take it. And I 269 00:16:44,000 --> 00:16:47,519 was like, oh, thank you so much. His name's Brian Baldwin. 270 00:16:47,600 --> 00:16:52,799 I don't know where he's from or what he does the coolest. All day 271 00:16:52,840 --> 00:16:56,279 we were like cheers to Brian, Cheers to Brian, like every time, 272 00:16:56,559 --> 00:17:00,000 and then like I took a nap in there, and we literally spent from 273 00:17:00,120 --> 00:17:04,119 like eleven am until five pm the entire day. We ordered food to the 274 00:17:04,160 --> 00:17:10,079 cabana to his account, though you know not why wouldn't you. It's like 275 00:17:10,240 --> 00:17:15,400 put it on Brian's step. So it was just like it was just like 276 00:17:15,440 --> 00:17:17,839 a magical day. It was just one of those things where it was like 277 00:17:18,160 --> 00:17:21,440 meant to happen. And the kids are like, Mom, it's because you 278 00:17:21,480 --> 00:17:23,240 were flirting with him. That's why I gave you. I'm like, are 279 00:17:23,279 --> 00:17:26,839 you looking to talk? And they were, they were messing with me. 280 00:17:26,880 --> 00:17:29,400 I was like, I'm not, I was not even I just I'm a 281 00:17:29,400 --> 00:17:32,440 friendly person. So I was just like messing around and they're like it. 282 00:17:32,559 --> 00:17:33,680 He didn't have a wedding ring on it. He was just with his son. 283 00:17:33,759 --> 00:17:37,839 I was like, well, listen, whatever you gotta do. Gotta 284 00:17:37,920 --> 00:17:41,400 do girls. This is a lesson in life. Okay, if you want 285 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:44,759 something, you just got to flaunt it. It's really easy. Tits up, 286 00:17:44,839 --> 00:17:49,920 girls up and out. Tits an ass up. My ass is down, 287 00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:55,759 but there's his ups. You just put them out there. You're like, 288 00:17:56,200 --> 00:17:59,279 would it kill you to wear a bikini? Like what? Why? 289 00:17:59,319 --> 00:18:02,799 The one? Can? We also talk about the bikinis. So I have 290 00:18:02,839 --> 00:18:07,319 a nineteen year old and a fifteen year old. There are very few bikinis 291 00:18:07,359 --> 00:18:10,599 that are actually full butt anymore. Like if you go to Hollister or wherever 292 00:18:10,599 --> 00:18:14,759 you're going to shop for bikinis. So they're in like the Brazilian Like, 293 00:18:14,799 --> 00:18:18,720 my fuck freaking fifteen year old is in a bathing suit. It's not g 294 00:18:18,920 --> 00:18:22,000 string, but it might as well be. Right. This is so cheeky, 295 00:18:22,599 --> 00:18:26,119 cheeky. That's called cheeky. That's exactly what it's called. And I'm 296 00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:30,680 like, Sophie, you're fifteen, and she's like, mom, this is 297 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:34,880 like what everybody would. It is so against like everything in my bones for 298 00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:37,319 them for me to be like, Okay, I guess you have to wear 299 00:18:37,359 --> 00:18:41,440 that. But I didn't have a choice, like there is. We were 300 00:18:41,480 --> 00:18:45,160 at Hollister and they did have like regular they did. I mean it wasn't 301 00:18:45,200 --> 00:18:47,519 that they didn't, but she was like, but there are very few you'd 302 00:18:47,519 --> 00:18:49,400 have to go to, like you'd have to go to like your jaz Penny, 303 00:18:49,680 --> 00:18:53,960 yeah, to find ye ny. So it was just and I just 304 00:18:55,000 --> 00:18:57,079 feel for the men, the dads that have to sit there and look at 305 00:18:57,119 --> 00:19:02,599 these like younger girls in like I'm sure they're feeling like a little I don't 306 00:19:02,640 --> 00:19:04,519 I'm not prude, but it's just weird, Like it's just weirdest. Maybe 307 00:19:04,519 --> 00:19:07,039 it's just because it's my kid. So I with Bella doing it. It 308 00:19:07,039 --> 00:19:11,079 doesn't bother me. She's an adult whatever. She's almost twenty this year, 309 00:19:11,160 --> 00:19:15,599 and like I kind of it felt more comfortable to be an adult and showing 310 00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:19,880 more of your body than to be fifteen and having like your butt hanging out. 311 00:19:21,000 --> 00:19:23,920 I don't know it is. I remember just when the kids started. 312 00:19:23,960 --> 00:19:27,920 I remember that phase started when our kids were twelve, okay. I remember 313 00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:33,960 we had a friend that yes, yeah, who, yes, who started 314 00:19:33,000 --> 00:19:37,200 on the skimpy bathing suits early where are there either of us did? And 315 00:19:37,240 --> 00:19:41,799 we were all scandalized by that. Yes, yes, oh my god, 316 00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:45,440 so and so went to the beach and the mom didn't even say anything. 317 00:19:45,440 --> 00:19:48,839 She thought it was cute. Yeah, and we were like horrified. Yeah. 318 00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:52,000 And then yes, a few years later, oh my god. And 319 00:19:52,119 --> 00:19:56,279 now here's Elbe going to her rave. Okay. Bella showed me the picture 320 00:19:56,279 --> 00:19:59,400 because I was like, okay, Stephanie talked about Elbe going to a rave 321 00:19:59,599 --> 00:20:02,000 and Bella like, oh, yeah, she has it on her and I 322 00:20:02,039 --> 00:20:04,039 was like, okay, show me this picture. It was so cute though, 323 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:07,839 that's what they all wear at raves, right, but she was wearing 324 00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:11,480 tiny, like basically bikini bottoms. I saw the white outfit. Okay, 325 00:20:11,599 --> 00:20:14,799 not the one you're talking about. There's another outfit. It was like a 326 00:20:14,799 --> 00:20:19,079 little white tennis skirt with a white bikini top and then her hair and the 327 00:20:19,160 --> 00:20:22,720 cute whatever she was doing with it. Right, it was a total rave 328 00:20:22,799 --> 00:20:27,240 with the high boots. Yes, but apparently you know it's it's very trendy 329 00:20:27,799 --> 00:20:33,240 as the showing your whole ass to basically show the whole underneath of Yes, 330 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:36,559 the under boob. Under boob is like in for me, I would be 331 00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:40,319 like, pull that down? Do you want to pull that down? You? 332 00:20:40,359 --> 00:20:42,960 How could you? But it's uncomfortable. Look, it just looks like 333 00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:45,920 it doesn't fit. But they're like, no, that's how it's supposed to 334 00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:51,079 be. So basically, just your nipples are covered and everything's fall It looks 335 00:20:51,119 --> 00:20:53,240 like you're just falling out of it. It's like a Kendle Jenner thing. 336 00:20:53,480 --> 00:20:57,480 It was like a g hedied bellahadide Kendall Jenner. They all did that. 337 00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:03,720 Okay, you know what, let us talk about quints. Let's do it 338 00:21:03,319 --> 00:21:07,319 one of our favorite things. You know, a lot of times we have 339 00:21:07,920 --> 00:21:12,720 ads that we things we discuss and like we're into it, but sometimes we're 340 00:21:12,759 --> 00:21:17,119 like we're into something. We're like, please go buy this right now. 341 00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:19,960 And Quince is one of those things. 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I might go buy another one of those for myself again 351 00:21:59,799 --> 00:22:03,559 soon too. Yeah, because you know why, Because it's affordable. So 352 00:22:03,799 --> 00:22:07,759 you can indulge in affordable luxury. Go to quints dot com slash f col 353 00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:11,680 for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty five day returns. 354 00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:18,720 That's qui Ncee dot com slash f cool to get free shipping and three hundred 355 00:22:18,759 --> 00:22:23,279 and sixty five day returns quints dot com, slash f c L sweet, 356 00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:29,960 yeah, the the it's it's difficult because our kids are at an age, 357 00:22:30,599 --> 00:22:33,720 like you said, fifteen, it still feels young. Yeah, it is 358 00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:37,359 young. I think it's I was very uncomfortable with it. But for me, 359 00:22:37,559 --> 00:22:41,960 when I was young, I had and it how do how do I 360 00:22:42,079 --> 00:22:45,119 put this? I don't want to body shame myself, but I had the 361 00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:49,319 I had cellu light from a very young age because I don't know, it's 362 00:22:49,359 --> 00:22:53,279 just like you know, it's hereditary. So even though I was a gymnast 363 00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:57,480 when I was really young, and so around the age of like twelve thirteen, 364 00:22:57,599 --> 00:23:02,799 I still everything was still very tight and from gymnastics. But then when 365 00:23:02,839 --> 00:23:07,519 I stopped doing gymnastics, I went through puberty and had just like a lot 366 00:23:07,079 --> 00:23:12,039 of cellulate and I don't I remember feeling like something's wrong with me, like 367 00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:17,799 yeah, and I just didn't. I always had that feeling of not wanting 368 00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:23,200 to like show off. And so even later when stuff was in style of 369 00:23:23,319 --> 00:23:26,200 like more of a g stream look like a never in a million years, 370 00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:32,359 and I was always like who who who does that? I say, we 371 00:23:32,480 --> 00:23:33,519 grew up. I think in an air, especially in the eighties, where 372 00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:37,920 it was just like the really blonde tan girls that would do that and you 373 00:23:38,079 --> 00:23:41,960 get away with it. Nobody else is doing that, And also it seemed 374 00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:44,440 also seemed very foreign. It was like, well, if you're on a 375 00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:48,440 beach in Brazil, yes, but am I on a beach in Brazil. 376 00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:51,720 You're in like a bikini contest. That's the only place you're going to see 377 00:23:51,759 --> 00:23:53,920 that, right, right, it's so odd And now it's like every now 378 00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:57,160 it's like the norm almost right, it's like weird if you're Meanwhile, I 379 00:23:57,240 --> 00:24:03,880 had my like, you know, bikini full butt like and then Sophie says 380 00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:06,400 to me, we're at the pool. She goes, there's so many one 381 00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:08,920 pieces here? Why is everybody doing a one piece? I go, because 382 00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:15,200 as you age, things don't look as good as they used to. Like, 383 00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:18,039 oh, yeah, girl, you gotta like cover up. It's yeah. 384 00:24:18,319 --> 00:24:22,400 Oh. I find myself drawn to the Facebook ads for like full skirts, 385 00:24:22,759 --> 00:24:26,000 like on the bathing suit. I'm like, oh, that's pretty good, 386 00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:33,119 Like hi, make it a kneeling right, Like oh, I've seen 387 00:24:33,200 --> 00:24:37,000 something where it's basically like a dress for the water though, and like it's 388 00:24:37,039 --> 00:24:41,400 like a maxi dress, but you swim in it? Sign me up? 389 00:24:41,759 --> 00:24:45,599 How do I get one of those? Like, I'm just like, you 390 00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:48,680 know, I could wear seriously, if there was like a swimsuit burka. 391 00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:52,359 I know it's like for reserve for people's religious reasons, but I want one. 392 00:24:52,759 --> 00:24:57,319 I'll wear it, I know. And then I just got to the 393 00:24:57,359 --> 00:25:00,160 point, to be honest, when I was out by the pool. I 394 00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:02,799 mean, I had a bikini on and stuff, but you know when you 395 00:25:02,839 --> 00:25:04,559 walk to the bathroom and you put you know, you want to like cover 396 00:25:04,759 --> 00:25:08,640 up. I finally was like, I just don't care. I'm never going 397 00:25:08,680 --> 00:25:11,519 to see these people again. I'm just gonna walk to the bathroom in a 398 00:25:11,559 --> 00:25:15,200 bikini and like I don't care what's jiggling, what's mood? Like it is 399 00:25:15,279 --> 00:25:18,440 what it is, you know, I don't care. So I'm sure I'm 400 00:25:18,559 --> 00:25:22,640 like that mom that I used to look at and be like, why doesn't 401 00:25:22,720 --> 00:25:26,960 she put on somebody clothes like when I was young, Yeah, oh god, 402 00:25:26,079 --> 00:25:30,880 she should not be in the bikini. But I'm like, well where 403 00:25:30,079 --> 00:25:33,519 I where I am with you on That is the fact that when I was 404 00:25:33,599 --> 00:25:37,440 growing up, my mom was a hippie, did not like wearing brash, 405 00:25:37,559 --> 00:25:42,480 and I was horrified that my mom would walk around with these low hanging tits, 406 00:25:44,039 --> 00:25:47,119 you know, with no support in just like a T shirt, walking 407 00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:48,599 around and I'd be like, god, I wish my mom would wear a 408 00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:52,000 bra, you know, And now I'm her I don't do it. I'm 409 00:25:52,079 --> 00:25:56,759 not going to like, well I have gone to Target with that, but 410 00:25:56,960 --> 00:25:59,880 I'm like walking the dog, I'm just like, hey, the sweatshirt's loose. 411 00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:03,400 You're wearing a big, baggy sweatshirt. That works, but if you're 412 00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:07,160 in a T shirt, please Stephanie. Oh god, I know, and 413 00:26:07,279 --> 00:26:11,839 I have big boob, so I can't. I'm not I'm not doing that, 414 00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:15,400 but I'm saying it is funny because I do think, like sometimes when 415 00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:17,559 I'm walking the dog, I'm like, well, I hope I don't really 416 00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:19,680 run into anybody. But then I'm like, well, can I running into 417 00:26:19,759 --> 00:26:23,000 the neighbors? Like okay, okay, the neighbors are going to see me, 418 00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:27,279 like in a loose sweatshirt without a bra, Like that's fine. Like 419 00:26:27,319 --> 00:26:30,440 I've got I've gotten much looser with my you know. Yeah, you get 420 00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:33,359 to the point where you don't have any fucks to give. Yeah, I 421 00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:37,480 don't have a lot, but I still do have that. There is a 422 00:26:37,559 --> 00:26:41,759 cringe factor with that. I think of my children, think of the children, 423 00:26:41,839 --> 00:26:45,640 and of the child always. Oh my gosh, do we know we 424 00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:48,640 don't? We just did an ad. I'm like, I'm all discombobulated. 425 00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:52,720 I wanted to know. I brought it up last time. So I want 426 00:26:52,799 --> 00:26:57,359 you to tell the story of So you you you have been with Jamil for 427 00:26:57,519 --> 00:27:02,519 a long time, really long time. So we celebrated twenty years last year 428 00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:07,079 married. Yeah, but we've basically been on and off together since nineteen ninety 429 00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:11,640 six. Yeah. So I'm not that old. I was twenty you met 430 00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:15,680 Yeah, but yeah, you met him really young. I've always found this 431 00:27:15,799 --> 00:27:18,160 story to be fascinating. Okay, So you met him in college. Okay, 432 00:27:18,279 --> 00:27:22,599 so this is what happened. So I was at Pepperdine and he was 433 00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:27,440 at UC Riverside in a program called the BioMed program, where it's very very 434 00:27:27,519 --> 00:27:32,759 competitive, where you do three years of undergrad and your fourth year is at 435 00:27:32,839 --> 00:27:40,640 UCLA Medical School. Okay, So he when he was in college and then 436 00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:42,359 you still have to go to med school after that. Yes, you do 437 00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:45,960 three years at UC Riverside. Your fourth year is not. You're done with 438 00:27:47,039 --> 00:27:49,640 college in three years and your fourth year is your first year of medical school. 439 00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:52,480 Oh UCLA. But then you have to apply to other medical schools or 440 00:27:52,519 --> 00:27:56,680 you can get in. So when you originally apply to the program, it's 441 00:27:56,079 --> 00:28:00,000 very competitive because once you're in, it's a straight shot to medical school. 442 00:28:00,079 --> 00:28:03,400 Wow. And then people it's really impressive. People drop out along the way 443 00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:07,039 though, so you end up with like intent it's to wait. It's really 444 00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:10,000 intense. So you end up with like thirty I think a cohort of thirty 445 00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:14,160 oh by the end, I don't know how many start. But so the 446 00:28:14,319 --> 00:28:17,160 thing is Dremill and I met at a very good time. He was twenty 447 00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:21,119 one. I was twenty so I was in my third year of college or 448 00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:23,880 something, and he was now in his first year of medical school. Okay, 449 00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:29,119 if I would have met him before, he was a total frat boy, 450 00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:33,039 like, total partier, total womanizer, total frat boy. He would 451 00:28:33,039 --> 00:28:37,799 admit it, and he he those were his glory days. He still talks 452 00:28:37,799 --> 00:28:42,880 about that. So where did you meet? So the funny thing was is 453 00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:47,720 so so anyway? So I was just never a big partier, like, 454 00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:49,640 yes, I've gotten drunk in my twenties and this and that. But I 455 00:28:49,759 --> 00:28:52,640 just I never searched for the party. It wasn't the big party or he 456 00:28:52,839 --> 00:28:56,559 was, so it never would have happened if we had met a year prior. 457 00:28:56,640 --> 00:29:00,559 But anyway, my dad was getting in a war in the Lebanese community 458 00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:06,640 and it was spring break for both of us. So Jamie's uncle was going, 459 00:29:06,839 --> 00:29:08,799 and Jamill's uncle was like, Hey, why don't you come with me 460 00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:14,839 to this gala event where, you know, Casey Caasem's getting an award. 461 00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:17,759 My dad was kind of big in the Lebanese community because I weren't at the 462 00:29:17,799 --> 00:29:21,440 time, there weren't that many, you know, a famous Lebanese people. 463 00:29:22,039 --> 00:29:23,920 So Jimial's like, all right, I'll come with you and my dad obviously 464 00:29:25,039 --> 00:29:27,000 we went because he was getting the award, and so I met him there 465 00:29:27,119 --> 00:29:32,079 that night and I just met him. He was with his sister and we 466 00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:34,079 chit chatted. I was with my brother and sister and that was the end 467 00:29:34,119 --> 00:29:38,000 of that. Like I didn't didn't even think twice. And then the next 468 00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:42,640 day you didn't think he was cute. I it just no, Like I 469 00:29:42,799 --> 00:29:45,680 just was like, oh, Hi, nice to meet you. I didn't 470 00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:48,640 go like, oh, he's got like, nothing sparked anything. Okay. 471 00:29:48,799 --> 00:29:52,480 But the next day, my dad's like, I'm going to a protest. 472 00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:53,720 Do you want to come with me? And I was like, yeah, 473 00:29:53,759 --> 00:29:56,920 I do. So I went to the protest and my dad and I walk 474 00:29:57,000 --> 00:30:02,799 in and there's Jamille holding a sign like walking, and then I saw him 475 00:30:02,799 --> 00:30:04,559 and he was like, oh, hey, Jackie, right, and I 476 00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:08,240 was like, no, my name's Julie. But that's weird that you say 477 00:30:08,279 --> 00:30:11,400 that, because I've always, since I was a kid, wanted to change 478 00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:15,759 my name to Jackie. All well, I won't even say, but at 479 00:30:15,799 --> 00:30:18,319 the time I used those my passwords were that everything, like everything was Jackie. 480 00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:21,960 So it was really that was kind of weird. So then I was 481 00:30:22,039 --> 00:30:23,039 like, all right, I'll walk with you. So I just walked with 482 00:30:23,119 --> 00:30:26,400 him and talked with him. By the end of the protest, I was 483 00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:30,720 like, oh my god, I am so into this guy. So at 484 00:30:30,759 --> 00:30:32,759 that time, he was in his first year of medical school, but he 485 00:30:32,839 --> 00:30:36,200 was still living in Riverside because you do your first year there and then you 486 00:30:36,319 --> 00:30:40,200 come down to Westwood. Anyway, this is that doesn't really matter, but 487 00:30:40,279 --> 00:30:41,720 he was still in Riverside, so that part matters, and I was at 488 00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:47,440 Pepperdine, so we were on opposite ends of I mean, he wasn't even 489 00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:49,400 in Los Angeles County, so we were we were an hour a good hour 490 00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:53,440 and a half away from each other. Yeah. Anyway, so then he 491 00:30:53,480 --> 00:30:56,319 said, at the end of the protest, he goes, my friends and 492 00:30:56,319 --> 00:30:59,240 I are going to the Brentwood like art show. Do you want to come? 493 00:30:59,319 --> 00:31:00,079 And I couldn't. I really couldn't. So I go, I'm so 494 00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:03,920 sorry, I can't. Blah blah blah's happening. He goes, Okay, 495 00:31:03,079 --> 00:31:06,200 great, and that was the end of that. He didn't get my phone 496 00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:08,799 number. What no? And I was like, like we hit it off, 497 00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:11,640 Like we just talked and laughed the whole time and it was really great. 498 00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:15,440 He didn't get my number, but I was like, so we leave 499 00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:17,359 and I call my friend. I was like, I met this guy. 500 00:31:17,559 --> 00:31:19,960 I'm like, I'm sure through the Lebanese community, he will somehow find my 501 00:31:21,039 --> 00:31:23,960 phone number. And these were like who would have anyway? This was there 502 00:31:25,000 --> 00:31:26,680 were no cell phones, so he would have had to call some home number. 503 00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:30,839 I don't even know how, but whatever. Anyway, So like a 504 00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:33,519 week goes by and I'm calling my friend Julian Melanie telling him, I'm like, 505 00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:37,200 wait, it's weird that he hasn't called because we like for sure connected. 506 00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:41,160 And he even asked me to go out afterwards and I couldn't. So 507 00:31:41,319 --> 00:31:42,920 then I was like it was two weeks later. I'm like, fuck it, 508 00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:47,759 I'm calling for one one as you did back in nineteen ninety six, 509 00:31:48,039 --> 00:31:49,960 huh. And I was like, I don't remember this part of the story. 510 00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:53,119 I did. I'm loving it literally because I didn't. I wasn't that 511 00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:56,480 in with the Lebanese community, so I wouldn't have known anybody that would have 512 00:31:56,559 --> 00:32:00,920 known him, Like I didn't know a lot of Lebanese people per se at 513 00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:04,599 the time, and so it's like, I guess i'll call four one one. 514 00:32:05,279 --> 00:32:10,039 So I called four one one for Riverside and I asked for Jimmille and 515 00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:14,759 there was a number, which is interesting because he had two other roommates, 516 00:32:14,839 --> 00:32:17,000 so it could have been any one of those roommates that set up the phone 517 00:32:17,119 --> 00:32:20,799 under their name, but it just so happened that he set up the phone 518 00:32:20,839 --> 00:32:22,680 under his name, okay, and so they had it registered. So I 519 00:32:22,839 --> 00:32:27,480 called him. So the way he tells the story is we were at the 520 00:32:27,599 --> 00:32:30,079 protest. I asked you to go to this art show. You said no, 521 00:32:30,359 --> 00:32:32,759 So I thought you weren't interested in me, so I didn't ask you 522 00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:36,480 for your number because he has a lot of pride too, and he's like, 523 00:32:36,519 --> 00:32:37,599 oh, yeah he does. He does. So he's like, okay, 524 00:32:37,599 --> 00:32:43,000 I guess I guess that's a no. So then I called him and 525 00:32:43,160 --> 00:32:45,559 he was like, what, Like I left a message with his roommate and 526 00:32:45,599 --> 00:32:49,359 he says when he got home and his roommate's like, yes, someone named 527 00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:52,440 Julie Casam called. He was like what. He just thought it was so 528 00:32:52,599 --> 00:32:54,680 weird, you know, He's like, oh, that's weird. So then 529 00:32:54,759 --> 00:32:59,680 we talked and then he thought it was weird that you'd call him. He 530 00:32:59,839 --> 00:33:02,200 just he's like, maybe she wants me to tutor her. Because I was 531 00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:07,000 even talking because I was at the time doing I was a science major, 532 00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:10,119 so like we talked about classes and I was taking organic chemistry at the time, 533 00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:14,119 and it was just like he was like maybe he didn't think I liked 534 00:33:14,160 --> 00:33:17,160 him, and so anyway, so then we went So then we started talked 535 00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:20,880 more, talked more, and then he's like, let's go out. So 536 00:33:21,000 --> 00:33:24,920 then we went out and he drove all the way from Riverside to Pepperdine. 537 00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:29,200 He got a speeding ticket on the way. Yeah. He's like, I 538 00:33:29,279 --> 00:33:30,759 had like no money at the time, my car was falling apart. He 539 00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:34,799 was like, this is the last thing I needed. So he then he 540 00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:37,839 tells the story how he showed how he shows up to the gates at Pepperdine 541 00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:40,720 and he was like, they thought I was a delivery boy when I asked 542 00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:44,640 to see Julie Kayesum, they were like, are you making a delivery? 543 00:33:45,079 --> 00:33:47,119 It's like funny how he says it. Anyway, so he picks me up. 544 00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:52,000 We go think your sway from you. Thanks guys, Sorry about that. 545 00:33:52,079 --> 00:33:58,000 Okay, So we go out to dinner in Third Street Promenade. We 546 00:33:58,079 --> 00:34:00,759 go eat Italian food and I was just like, oh my god, this 547 00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:05,359 guy's incredible. And then like that was it. Then we like took me 548 00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:07,960 down to the beach, we kissed on the beach, and then he dropped 549 00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:10,519 me back off and like I don't know, we were just like inseparable from 550 00:34:10,599 --> 00:34:14,480 that point on, like it's just like, oh, this is my guy. 551 00:34:14,679 --> 00:34:20,039 So then then so that's ninety six to ninety seven, and he would 552 00:34:20,079 --> 00:34:22,079 travel with my family on vacations, and it was just like, oh he 553 00:34:22,119 --> 00:34:25,719 would married, he's got all that I love you that was happening, everything, 554 00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:29,800 everything, like it was just like okay, like we're together now. 555 00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:34,400 But I was twenty turning twenty one. He was twenty one turning twenty two. 556 00:34:34,599 --> 00:34:37,679 But I didn't even think of age at the time, Like I wasn't 557 00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:39,639 thinking marriage. But I was like this is going to be like we're good. 558 00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:44,320 We found each other right right right, And then like a year and 559 00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:49,679 a half later he broke up with me. Like it was pretty much out 560 00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:52,679 of nowhere. It was like the most heart wrenching thing. But in his 561 00:34:52,920 --> 00:34:55,760 mind he was like, you know, I'm going to go to medical school 562 00:34:55,960 --> 00:35:00,519 and then I may want to go move back, because he like left Lebanon 563 00:35:00,599 --> 00:35:04,400 when he was ten, then he lived in Kenya for six years and then 564 00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:07,639 he came to the States. Wow, So in his mind he was like 565 00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:10,079 he left Lebanon when there was a war, and now the war was over, 566 00:35:10,159 --> 00:35:12,760 and he was like, I think I want to be a doctor. 567 00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:15,199 I want to go back to Lebanon. I want to open a clinic and 568 00:35:15,280 --> 00:35:17,880 like give back, you know, to the Lebanese community. And I was 569 00:35:17,960 --> 00:35:21,840 like, yeah, I'm not moving to Lebanon, like I that was just 570 00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:23,440 not so you had already talked about that before he broke up with you, 571 00:35:25,559 --> 00:35:29,480 like I want to be doing that terms. It was like he know, 572 00:35:29,679 --> 00:35:30,880 he didn't say like I'm definitely doing this, but he was like, I 573 00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:35,159 think I kind of want to like explore going back to Lebanon, and I 574 00:35:35,159 --> 00:35:37,559 would I'd be like, oh god, I'm not. I'm no, I'm 575 00:35:37,599 --> 00:35:38,519 not gonna like I'm not going to live there. But it was never like 576 00:35:38,599 --> 00:35:42,800 a sit down, serious conversation. It was like in passing, like thinking 577 00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:45,559 about our futures, right, And so I think in his mind he was 578 00:35:45,599 --> 00:35:47,000 like, well, wait a minute, like if that's not in her future, 579 00:35:47,079 --> 00:35:51,320 I don't want to I don't want this to continue because that might very 580 00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:54,519 well be in my future. And so he spent a summer in Lebanon and 581 00:35:54,639 --> 00:35:59,679 he came back and he's like, I don't know where my future is, 582 00:35:59,800 --> 00:36:02,760 and I don't want this to continue if that's what I want to do, 583 00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:07,719 and da da da da. And I think there was a girl in Lebanon 584 00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:10,840 and he denies it to this day, but I know there was definitely if 585 00:36:10,880 --> 00:36:13,880 they I don't know if they get hooked up or not, but there's definitely 586 00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:15,719 a flirtation going on there. So I think that was also a catalyst for 587 00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:22,000 like, hey, she's in Lebanon, maybe I really want to like go 588 00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:27,360 there and that's my future. And Julie is a California American girl, even 589 00:36:27,400 --> 00:36:31,159 though I'm half Lebanese, who's not gonna vibe with being in that country? 590 00:36:31,239 --> 00:36:36,880 Which you know, it's my home country in terms of my grandfather was born 591 00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:40,199 and my grandmother was born there like that, for all intents and purposes, 592 00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:45,599 is my heritage and I'm very proud of it. But I'm very much American 593 00:36:45,679 --> 00:36:49,920 in terms of my like sensibilities and way of life. So he broke up 594 00:36:49,960 --> 00:36:54,039 with me. I was so devastated. You know when you're like your first 595 00:36:54,119 --> 00:36:59,320 love and you're like the world's over, Like it's just over. Like I 596 00:36:59,519 --> 00:37:02,440 just gained weight. I was just like I could not get out of the 597 00:37:02,559 --> 00:37:06,760 funk. Took me a very long time. Didn't you wish you were the 598 00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:09,400 kind of person who lost weight when things were like, well, who are 599 00:37:09,519 --> 00:37:14,400 those people? Who are those people that I don't understand? I'm just not 600 00:37:14,519 --> 00:37:17,880 hungry. Where's the ice cream? Where are the cookies. I need something 601 00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:21,880 to feel good and this is making me feel good. Yeah, yes, 602 00:37:22,119 --> 00:37:24,039 totally. So did you when he broke up with you? Were you just 603 00:37:24,119 --> 00:37:27,960 like, don't do it? Like what, No, don't do this? 604 00:37:28,719 --> 00:37:31,039 Or were you like kind of was like I get it, Like I didn't 605 00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:35,920 fight it because it was just he had He's also a guy that when he 606 00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:38,039 makes up his mind, he sticks with it. You know, he's not 607 00:37:38,360 --> 00:37:42,280 wish now that being said, and the time we were broken up, we 608 00:37:42,320 --> 00:37:44,360 did hook up a few times, right, I was going to get to 609 00:37:44,480 --> 00:37:45,880 that. Yeah. So wait, so he breaks up with you, so 610 00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:50,360 you're how long were you like really broken up before he reached out and was 611 00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:52,800 like, wow, okay, hold on, you know what, we should 612 00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:54,679 take a quick break. Let's take a quick break and then and then hear 613 00:37:54,719 --> 00:38:00,760 the rest. Okay, we're back. Yeah. So we were broken up 614 00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:04,000 a total of three years before he came back and said, I love you, 615 00:38:04,039 --> 00:38:06,800 I want to marry you. You're the person for me. So in 616 00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:13,559 those three years, he had another girlfriend, I had another boyfriend, but 617 00:38:13,920 --> 00:38:17,559 we would like see like he always said, I'm we're not getting back together, 618 00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:22,079 but then like we would randomly like run into each other or call each 619 00:38:22,079 --> 00:38:23,440 other and have like a little hookup, and then he'd be like, but 620 00:38:23,599 --> 00:38:28,440 please know, like I'm telling you that I this is like we're having fun. 621 00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:30,960 I'm not getting back together with you. But in my mind I'm like, 622 00:38:30,239 --> 00:38:32,400 oh, yes you are, like we're just gonna hook up and then 623 00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:36,679 you're gonna fall back in love with me. And then he wouldn't write, 624 00:38:36,679 --> 00:38:39,039 and then I'd be kind of heartbroken again. And then one time he called 625 00:38:39,079 --> 00:38:42,320 me, He's like, hey, can you like take me shopping? Like 626 00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:44,960 I need new clothes and stuff, and like can you help me pick stuff 627 00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:49,480 out? So now we went shopping and in the dressing room, oh yeah, 628 00:38:50,039 --> 00:38:52,079 it's like you know those kinds of things and in your mind where you 629 00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:57,639 like, I'm gonna prove to him that I'm finn and sexy and like exactly, 630 00:38:57,840 --> 00:39:00,599 Okay, as we women do, you were the piney, the piner 631 00:39:00,840 --> 00:39:05,360 always yes, and then as the guys do, they're in it having fun 632 00:39:05,440 --> 00:39:08,199 and then they're like sorry, and you're like, but but but I will 633 00:39:08,280 --> 00:39:12,000 say he never said he never called me and was like I love you, 634 00:39:12,159 --> 00:39:14,920 let's get together, and then hooked up with me and ghosted me. He 635 00:39:15,159 --> 00:39:19,320 always said, this is not right, but we were very attracted to each 636 00:39:19,360 --> 00:39:21,159 other, you know, and I was like, in my mind, I'm 637 00:39:21,199 --> 00:39:23,400 like, we'll get back together. Things will happen. So then finally I 638 00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:28,159 applied to graduate school. I was like twenty four twenty five at the time, 639 00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:30,519 and I got into USC and I got into graduate school in Boston. 640 00:39:31,159 --> 00:39:34,840 And then that's when I finally said, you know what, I need to 641 00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:37,559 move out of this state for a little while to get over him, fully 642 00:39:37,599 --> 00:39:39,920 get over him. I mean I had boyfriends and stuff, but he was 643 00:39:40,119 --> 00:39:43,960 just We lived around the corner from each other in Brentwood, so I'd always 644 00:39:44,039 --> 00:39:45,800 drive by and I would always like see if there was a girl who was 645 00:39:45,880 --> 00:39:50,000 car parked in his driveway because his he had like a car park thing. 646 00:39:51,119 --> 00:39:53,360 Anyway, one time there was, so then me and my roommate at the 647 00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:57,239 time like snuck up and look through the window to see if we could see 648 00:39:57,239 --> 00:39:59,800 who the girl was. Oh my god, did you Oh we did. 649 00:40:00,119 --> 00:40:01,880 I didn't see her, but like, just like things like that, I 650 00:40:02,079 --> 00:40:05,079 was like, I don't know. I couldn't get him out of my mind. 651 00:40:05,199 --> 00:40:07,559 So I was like, finally like I'm out. I'm out. So 652 00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:13,039 I moved to Boston and we're talking still, like we were friendly always, 653 00:40:13,199 --> 00:40:15,719 but like and I was like, dude, you should come visit me and 654 00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:16,800 he's like no, He's like, you know, if I come visit you, 655 00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:20,239 that means something else. And he's like, and I'm not there, 656 00:40:20,400 --> 00:40:22,519 Like I'm just not there yet. He's like, you really just move on. 657 00:40:22,679 --> 00:40:25,360 Like so he didn't say I'm not there yet, he said I'm not 658 00:40:25,599 --> 00:40:30,480 I'm not there. He's like, I love our friendship and I value you 659 00:40:30,599 --> 00:40:32,239 and I love you and you're such a great person, but like we're on 660 00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:35,960 two different paths, you know. He's like, and if I fly out 661 00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:40,480 to Boston, then that means something and I'm not there. So I moved 662 00:40:40,519 --> 00:40:45,800 to Boston in August. I come back for Christmas break in December and he's 663 00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:50,000 like, can I see you? And of course I was like yes, 664 00:40:50,599 --> 00:40:52,000 and he's like, I love you. I want to spend the rest of 665 00:40:52,039 --> 00:40:55,920 my life with you. I'm like, really, we were for three years. 666 00:40:57,079 --> 00:41:00,119 We were literally across the street from each other in what across the alley 667 00:41:00,159 --> 00:41:05,159 from each other. But it took me moving across the country for you to 668 00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:07,519 realize like, oh wait a minute, this really is who I want. 669 00:41:07,599 --> 00:41:12,360 I think because I moved on with my life and I was making friends in 670 00:41:12,440 --> 00:41:15,320 Boston and I was like just doing my own thing. I think he was 671 00:41:15,400 --> 00:41:19,360 like whoa, wait what And of course distance makes the heart grow fonder. 672 00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:23,320 So then we were together. And then were you at all worried that he 673 00:41:23,519 --> 00:41:27,679 was into it because you were far away? And it wasn't no, because 674 00:41:28,199 --> 00:41:30,559 he's the guy that when he makes up his mind, he's like no, 675 00:41:30,599 --> 00:41:34,320 no, no, no no. So he never once in those three years 676 00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:36,719 said I want to get back together with you. I mean, we had 677 00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:38,840 hooked up. He always said, you're such a great person, but our 678 00:41:39,559 --> 00:41:44,360 futures are different. But he never said I don't I'm falling out of love 679 00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:46,039 with you. It's more like this isn't going to work because we are just 680 00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:51,719 we have two different lives, you know, right anyway, So yeah, 681 00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:53,639 so that's kind of her. Stayed in Boston though, So I stayed in 682 00:41:53,679 --> 00:41:57,960 Boston and he would fly out, I would fly home. And then a 683 00:41:58,039 --> 00:42:01,239 year later he proposed to me on Valentine Day in Boston. Still from still 684 00:42:01,400 --> 00:42:05,199 doing long distance. We did long distance for a year and a half after 685 00:42:05,239 --> 00:42:07,519 that, because I was there a total of two years. Yeah. Oh 686 00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:10,079 wait, so you only did graduate school for two years. Yeah, it's 687 00:42:10,119 --> 00:42:15,519 two years year round. The USC program is three years with summers off. 688 00:42:15,119 --> 00:42:20,440 The Northeastern program is two years, but you're there all the time, like 689 00:42:20,599 --> 00:42:23,400 you're there summers and everything, so it's like like three years because you don't 690 00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:25,519 have breaks. I mean, you just get your normal breaks. Okay. 691 00:42:25,559 --> 00:42:28,960 Yeah, it was like an accelerated I guess program. Wow. Okay. 692 00:42:29,039 --> 00:42:31,559 So then he proposed, they proposed, and then I moved back in two 693 00:42:31,559 --> 00:42:35,599 thousand and three. We were married, So we together from ninety six to 694 00:42:35,719 --> 00:42:38,119 ninety seven, We broke up from ninety seven to two thousand, got back 695 00:42:38,159 --> 00:42:44,440 together basically like January of two thousand and one, and then married two years 696 00:42:44,480 --> 00:42:47,679 after that. It's so funny because we it's a little bit similar. I 697 00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:51,239 mean, John and I didn't break up, but I'm because I met him 698 00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:53,679 later because I'm older than you. Yeah, but we met in ninety nine, 699 00:42:54,119 --> 00:42:59,559 end of ninety nine, and then we moved in like a couple years 700 00:42:59,639 --> 00:43:02,000 later, and then we were married in oh four. Yeah. Yeah, 701 00:43:04,159 --> 00:43:08,280 so that's that's our love story. I just love the I mean, just 702 00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:13,559 the pining is so relatable and not being able to like get over it, 703 00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:17,559 and you know, every I feel like every girl goes through that or every 704 00:43:17,599 --> 00:43:20,920 person I should say, could be guy or a girl where you just and 705 00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:23,760 I don't know, I feel like maybe I feel like guys have an easier 706 00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:28,559 shut off valve. Maybe I'm wrong, whereas women are just like but but 707 00:43:28,880 --> 00:43:30,440 but it could work and like, and then you have these fantasies of how 708 00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:32,679 it could work, and you're like, but if he just sees me once, 709 00:43:32,800 --> 00:43:36,159 like if we just go out one more time, then he'll remember how 710 00:43:36,239 --> 00:43:37,639 great I am and how much he likes me. Right, and then you 711 00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:40,519 go out and it doesn't happen. Well, but then but it will like 712 00:43:40,639 --> 00:43:45,280 okay, But like you just you constantly have these fantasies of like how it's 713 00:43:45,280 --> 00:43:49,000 gonna eventually work out, and most of the time it doesn't, Like you 714 00:43:49,079 --> 00:43:52,119 know, I think, I I don't know why it worked out with us. 715 00:43:52,199 --> 00:43:55,239 I just I always felt like we just he's my guy, like it 716 00:43:55,360 --> 00:44:00,800 was weird, like again I dated other and let me say this, I'm 717 00:44:00,840 --> 00:44:04,119 glad we broke up for three years. We were both too young to like 718 00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:07,920 fully commit, me being twenty him being twenty one. I hooked up with 719 00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:12,280 people he hooked up with people. I think it was better to get all 720 00:44:12,360 --> 00:44:15,760 that out of your system before you do come back and get together. I 721 00:44:15,119 --> 00:44:17,800 really believe that because you know, like if you get together so young, 722 00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:22,119 like I don't know, do you at some point start wondering what else is 723 00:44:22,159 --> 00:44:24,960 out there? At some point I don't know. I feel like you probably 724 00:44:25,039 --> 00:44:30,760 do twistertain extent. Yeah. So, and like I tell my girls the 725 00:44:30,800 --> 00:44:34,840 same thing. I'm like dates, like go out, like meet people, 726 00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:37,920 so you know who you like and who you don't like. You know, 727 00:44:37,079 --> 00:44:39,400 like the type of person you want and the type of person you don't want. 728 00:44:39,639 --> 00:44:42,559 Right, you need to have a lot of experiences. You need to 729 00:44:42,599 --> 00:44:46,239 have breakups, you need to have all of it so you really understand like 730 00:44:46,400 --> 00:44:50,400 the type of person and the type of lifestyle you want to live. Yeah. 731 00:44:51,079 --> 00:44:53,920 As I said one time on this podcast that that that I suddenly got 732 00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:58,800 in trouble for that. I want for LB to have a ha phase, 733 00:44:59,159 --> 00:45:05,039 like a to experience people, but for that reason to like, but you 734 00:45:05,119 --> 00:45:08,000 know, I I wish, I mean, I had such a hoe phase 735 00:45:08,679 --> 00:45:14,760 that it's very difficult to ever think like I don't ever have to think like, 736 00:45:14,880 --> 00:45:16,679 oh, I wonder if there's somebody else out there that's more compatible, 737 00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:22,840 like sample right, right, I've done the one night stands and the just 738 00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:24,639 like go you know, guy to guide to guide to like you know, 739 00:45:24,679 --> 00:45:29,760 I've had those periods, and it does teach you, like what you like 740 00:45:29,840 --> 00:45:32,199 and what you don't like, and how different people are and how different you 741 00:45:32,280 --> 00:45:37,760 know. And I think if you have if you're like stuck with one person 742 00:45:37,920 --> 00:45:40,760 from the very beginning, how do you know? How do you it's weird? 743 00:45:40,920 --> 00:45:45,440 I know, if you're being treated well or not right, you have 744 00:45:45,559 --> 00:45:49,239 nothing to compare to, no perspective, right, yeah, and so like 745 00:45:49,320 --> 00:45:52,679 and even just like learning how to argue, learning conflict resolution, like learning 746 00:45:52,800 --> 00:45:55,880 all the things and learning how different people argue and how you're like, oh 747 00:45:55,960 --> 00:45:59,840 god, I don't want to be with a guy that yells and screams and 748 00:46:00,199 --> 00:46:02,079 walks out of the room. I want a guy that's gonna sit and talk 749 00:46:02,199 --> 00:46:05,719 things out, like just stupid things like that. And by the way, 750 00:46:05,760 --> 00:46:08,400 when I say ho phase, it's not only like just sleeping with random people 751 00:46:08,480 --> 00:46:15,880 dating dating, and like not being in a serial monogamist and especially like even 752 00:46:15,880 --> 00:46:19,559 if you have one other relationship, I just don't think that's enough to go 753 00:46:19,760 --> 00:46:22,239 like, well, I had one other boyfriend, but I still like this 754 00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:24,360 one better. It's like you're when you're young. You I don't know. 755 00:46:24,840 --> 00:46:29,559 Listen, I'm sure some people met in high school and it were still together. 756 00:46:29,800 --> 00:46:34,239 Yeah, and that's fine. There's different ways to do everybody exactly. 757 00:46:34,320 --> 00:46:39,079 Some people are different. Some people really love the security of knowing that they've 758 00:46:39,159 --> 00:46:43,320 known that person since high school. They know who you are and their ride 759 00:46:43,400 --> 00:46:45,079 or die forever. Like actually, a woman I work with has been with 760 00:46:45,119 --> 00:46:49,119 her husbands in high school and they're just the cutest, like, and yeah, 761 00:46:49,280 --> 00:46:51,360 works well for that, I guess for me, I just feel like, 762 00:46:51,800 --> 00:46:53,760 especially having met John a little bit older, I feel like, well, 763 00:46:53,880 --> 00:46:59,960 I don't need to get back out there right even when things are really 764 00:47:00,000 --> 00:47:04,800 when they're just so staid and it's the same old, same old, Like 765 00:47:05,000 --> 00:47:07,320 yes, you know, okay, but I still know that I prefer that 766 00:47:08,199 --> 00:47:14,320 over just like some new person that I don't know anything about them. I'm 767 00:47:14,360 --> 00:47:17,079 not comfortable, like I like being I like being comfortable, and I know, 768 00:47:17,480 --> 00:47:21,679 I know I've dated a lot of people. That's the thing. Now, 769 00:47:21,840 --> 00:47:23,599 you again, having perspective, you know, the grass isn't greener, 770 00:47:23,719 --> 00:47:28,199 like you know that you never have to think like, oh my god, 771 00:47:28,239 --> 00:47:30,480 what if? Like what if? Yeah? Exactly, because you're la girl. 772 00:47:30,599 --> 00:47:37,000 I've been out there and it's ugly. Would you find someone it's nice? 773 00:47:37,239 --> 00:47:39,800 Yeah? Yeah, Well I hope we all got to know Julie a 774 00:47:39,840 --> 00:47:44,199 little better. I heard some stuff that I hadn't even heard before. And 775 00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:47,960 before we go, let us just give We have a couple more shout outs. 776 00:47:49,079 --> 00:47:53,519 We have Christine b And she's our She's our storybook World travel dot com. 777 00:47:53,719 --> 00:47:58,280 So go for all of your travel needs. Why don't you hit up 778 00:47:58,320 --> 00:48:02,039 storybook World Travel. Why don't you? Also every week we do Adam Lerner. 779 00:48:02,119 --> 00:48:07,280 Adam's got a car, that's his website. He can help you figure 780 00:48:07,280 --> 00:48:08,920 out get the best price if you want a lease, if you want to 781 00:48:09,760 --> 00:48:14,679 buy a used car, buy a new car. It's free if you live 782 00:48:14,719 --> 00:48:17,320 in anywhere in California. And there is a fee, but he gives a 783 00:48:17,400 --> 00:48:22,360 discount to fcol listeners for his fee anyway, and you're not paying anything for 784 00:48:22,519 --> 00:48:25,159 him to shop. That's just if he gets you a car, and then 785 00:48:25,239 --> 00:48:29,599 he's going to get you such a low rate that it will be worth your 786 00:48:29,679 --> 00:48:35,280 while. Also, our friend Marin has a gift shop on the island of 787 00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:39,719 Kawhai called Sugar Skull. Okay, they do wedding, they do cakes, 788 00:48:39,840 --> 00:48:45,159 wedding cakes, they do all sorts of gifty stuff. Check them out or 789 00:48:45,280 --> 00:48:52,000 go to their Instagram page at Sugar Skull eight oh eight. And also hold 790 00:48:52,119 --> 00:48:59,280 on here, I got Mike Gerstein. So his shout out is he's he's 791 00:48:59,400 --> 00:49:02,880 number one with number two's That does make me laugh. If you're in Phoenix. 792 00:49:02,960 --> 00:49:06,360 He's a plumber. He's been doing it twenty years. He can fix 793 00:49:06,519 --> 00:49:10,559 anything. He can even fix things over the phone. If or for all 794 00:49:10,599 --> 00:49:15,559 you di wires, if you have any plumbing issues at all, call Mike. 795 00:49:15,679 --> 00:49:20,239 He's he's honest, he's clean. Yeah, he's polite. Listen, 796 00:49:20,360 --> 00:49:23,760 you know Lynette's one Nut's friends. So what do you what do you want 797 00:49:23,760 --> 00:49:28,880 to run a background check on One Nut's frint His phone numbers four eight zero, 798 00:49:29,440 --> 00:49:35,079 six nine six one seven seven seven. And if you're a realtor, 799 00:49:35,480 --> 00:49:37,199 he can do the thing where he runs the camera and the main sewer line 800 00:49:37,280 --> 00:49:42,760 to catch any issues there. So yeah, check him out. All right, 801 00:49:42,920 --> 00:49:45,880 I think that's it. Thank you so much, Julius, you so 802 00:49:45,079 --> 00:49:49,880 much. Fast I love you. I'm so happy we've got to come in. 803 00:49:50,599 --> 00:49:53,000 I would have you on regularly, but you have a job which really 804 00:49:53,280 --> 00:49:58,719 interferes with my life. So thanks for that, all right, Thank you, 805 00:49:58,880 --> 00:50:00,519 Caitlin, Thank you so much. Sheila, you're a parent, now, 806 00:50:00,719 --> 00:50:07,760 don't hit it up. It's let ain't go.