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You're listening to KFI A six forty
on demand. Jeff, Welcome to the

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Jesus Christ Show. Hia, Jeff, how can I help you? Hey,

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Jesus, nice talking to you.
I've fallen in love with a non

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Christian. We've been together for about
six years, and I guess if I

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were going to ask the question point
blank to maintain my relationship with God,

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should I walk in to the my
house today and break up with her?

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Or is this a relationship that could
somehow work as a Christian? Yes,

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of course it can work. There's
I think a lot of people want to

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jump to the conclusion that it's impossible. It's not. It's it can be

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incredibly difficult in ways that you cannot
even imagine, and they usually creep up

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pretty quickly after marriage. Could be
even more difficult with children. Children Bringing

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children into the equation makes it exponentially
more difficult. So is that a goal?

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I mean, six years into a
relationship, obviously you're a little slow

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on the Yeah, why do you
think that is? I think I just

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I think both of us have probably
had a few a little bit of bad

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luck in the past, and that's
more of it than anything that we've just

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been slow. And you know what, time just flies. It seems like

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yesterday. So do you know what
bad luck in relationships actually is called?

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No, I'd love to know foolishness. Foolishness okay, okay, And so

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really, unless someone outright lies to
you and misrepresents who they are as a

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human being, then the foolishness was
on the two of you somewhere. So

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if she's had bad people in her
life, it's because she's chose to.

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And if you've had bad people in
your life, it's because you've chosen.

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This one's working out really nice,
and that's why, you know. But

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I've still got that little gunshy well, and that issue of faith is still

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kind of bothers me a little bit. But you stick around, you waste

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her time and yours six years of
it so far exactly. But I again,

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I just don't want to give this
up. It's just too good,

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okay, because I mean, it's
it's it's really a tiny verse. Do

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not be bound together with unbelievers?
For what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness?

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Or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has christ with bail?

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Or what has the believer in common
with an unbeliever. So really,

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the the verses that talk about this, and often it can be misconstrued,

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Really, the concept of being equally
yoked is being bound to an oxen of

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same strength and purpose and focus.
Because if you have two oxen and one

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is smaller, then you can't plow
straight. One's either going to be weaker

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and pull it down, or if
they are both strong and wanting to go

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in different directions, they're going to
be pulling the plow in different directions.

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That's the visual and the difficulty there
is. You imagine trying to build a

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house with another carpenter and you believe
in using a ruler, and they believe

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in organic measurement. Well, I
like to guess and just eyeball it.

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That seems like well, usually the
person with a ruler starts making the excuses.

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Well, I'll just double check their
work and I'll go over there.

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It ends up not working in many
many ways. It's not impossible. I

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don't like when people say it's impossible. It can be difficult, and in

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relationships that usually are selfish to begin
with, a lot of people go into

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relationships thinking I just want somebody to
be able to cheer for me or watch

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me do what I do, and
to eat the things I like to eat,

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and go to the places I like
to eat with me, And that's

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not really a relationship. So in
this case they can be quite difficult.

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You have to remove a lot of
selflessness, which is what you should be

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doing in any relationship. But now
you're yielding not only to your partner,

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you're yielding to a whole different mindset. So you may say, well,

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I would do anything for her,
but then when she wants to do something

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that it comes from whatever her faith
is or lack thereof, Now you're going,

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oh, well, I can't participate
in that because that's not my faith.

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Right it is a thought that over
a lifetime that somebody may come into

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my faith. Is that a pretty
poor Uh well you may go into hers.

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Okay, that not Jesus I promise
will never happen. Okay, well

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I'm just saying that. Well that
then then why risk it. Here's the

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thing I get love. It's a
beautiful thing. I get connection and and

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kinetic response and the sparks that happen, I get chemistry. All of that.

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I created it. It has a
wonderful place I just think people make

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excuses to do the wrong thing so
much because sometimes it's easier or convenient because

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it's right now. And that's not
to say that you guys don't have something

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wonderful, but if you really honestly
go into it, sitting down and talking

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it out, how are we going
to raise the kids your faith or mine?

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When we come to a life problem
deals with X, Y and Z.

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I've had somebody call the program not
too long ago stating that married to

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his wife and they have different views, and that they've always gotten long and

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it's always worked out well. They've
got four kids or three kids, and

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we're having a fourth and she was
done. She didn't want kids anymore,

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and she wanted to get an abortion, which is a total, totally against

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He never saw it coming. Wasn't
something that had come up. It wasn't

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against her worldview, but it was
against his. And quite frankly, he

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called from California. It's not in
his favor, it's his business, but

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not really so legally it was on
in her situation. Was she had the

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ability to make the decision, and
that's not something somebody might think about down

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the line. And these are the
types of things you need to ask,

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Jeff and really make sure that it's
that it's what you want, because these

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things will arise and you may find
yourself in a situation and you have to

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go into that going okay, as
long as you know, okay, this

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may happen and that's that may be
the way it goes down, and you

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may have to go with the flow, not her going with the flow.

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John, Welcome to Jesus Christ.
Show how you doing good? John?

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How can I help you? Yes, it's always wondering about in Jeremiah how

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it says before I formed THEE in
the belly, I knew THEE. And

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I'm wondering if that is speaking of
the pre existence, and also what it

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means in other sheep I have which
are not of this fold them I must

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visit one fold and one shepherd.
If you had visited the Americas, well,

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obviously someone's knocking at your door these
days, aren't they sound? That's

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that's definite missionary talk there, Okay. First and foremost, No, Jeremiah

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one to five is speaking to God's
foreknowledge, not that the soul existed.

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And you can find this out because
there's other scriptures that would shed more light

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on this, and the best thing
to do when you come across a scripture

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that might, you know, be
a little confusing, is to let the

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rest of scripture define what it means
in context. For instance, John eight

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twenty three says, and this is
me speaking here, said unto them,

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ye are from beneath the earth.
I am from above heaven. Ye are

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of this world. I am not
of this world. So if if everyone

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was, if there was pre existent
souls, then that wouldn't be true that

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I was from above and you are
from this world. That would be referring

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back to you know that I was
from heaven and that they were not from

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heaven. In that context speaking to
man, so that there's many verses one

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Corinthians fifteen forty five through forty seven. I would also recommend, and then

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Zechariah twelve one I would recommend as
well. Ecclesiastes twelve seven says, then

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shall the dust return to the earth
as it was, and the spirit shall

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return unto God who gave it a
lot of groups will point to that and

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say, look see now it returns
to God. Therefore it came from above,

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and that this soul has been pre
existent. It's not true. Ecclesiastes

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is very clear to point out that
from the dust is where you came on

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the earth. But the spirit will
return to God who gave the spirit,

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not who lived with the spirit forever
and ever and ever or anything like that.

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Your your second concern was what Jeremiah
and that Jeremiah and then the other

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one was dealing with about the other
fold, right, the shape of a

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different fold that's speaking to and in
context, if you read it in context,

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it's actually speaking about Jews and Gentiles. So the one fold is Jews,

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speaking of the Jews, and the
second fold is the Gentiles. It's

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not about visiting the Americas or anything
like that. Sam, Welcome to Jesus

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Christio. Hello, how are you
doing. I'm well Sam, what's going

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on? Well, my mother passed
away about four years ago and she's from

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Illinois and she's like Methodist, and
I think it is with Jesus baptized.

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But okay, he had five kids
and wasn't real active in the church because

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my father passed away at seven,
I would say him, and she lived

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her life totally, you know,
unconditional for all her kids. Okay.

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I was just you know, wanting
to make sure that that you know,

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I don't know how that balance goes
to going in there and say I got

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a mother in law who's a Roman
Catholic and she goes into church. I

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he's hunting the time clock. But
it shall come home and and not not

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really act upon anything, whereas like
my mom would give everything. You know,

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well, it's not it's not a
race, and it's not that type

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of game. And I know that
a lot of the different denominations go back

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and forth with one another, as
if you know, there's some sort of

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contest. And wow, look how
good I am, or look at least

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I can pretend I'm good, or
look how much time I spend in church

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or anything. Put all that stuff
aside for a moment, Sam, and

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I want you to think about,
you know, who who your mother was,

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and the claims that she made with
her life, and trust God to

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fill in any gaps that can be
filled in. There are people that are

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baptized and they live their life for
God, and yet they struggle with the

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church or these types of things.
Yet they're still very devout in their own

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way. And you're not going to
find a perfect Christian. But you have

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to trust God. In these situations
you can't know. But there's no reason.

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There's nothing that stands out in the
story that you shared with us that

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stands out and says that your mom
is anywhere but in heaven. You know

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that your mom is. To think
that your mom is not somehow with God,

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it doesn't make sense to me.
So be at peace with that.

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I know that this is a question
that comes up every now and again,

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Sam, someone will call in and
say, oh, family member never really

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talked about God, or I don't
know if they really meant it, or

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maybe they were in church all the
time, whatever it might be. You

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can't always know. I can assume
based on things that they said. And

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if you know that they gave their
life to Christ, and they followed me,

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and they followed my word and all
those things, then you can pretty

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safely say, well, that seemed
to be the balance of their life.

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That seems to be what they followed
and the focus of their life. But

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to sit there and worry about it
at this point it will do you no

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good. Just trust that God gave
every opportunity, as he does for everyone,

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the best opportunity possible to make a
decision for God to live for God

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and that in that decision, it
was honored with a ticket to heaven.

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As they say, really it's about
it's not about ignorance, and people get

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caught up in that. And I
know it's really easy to make Christianity,

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Christianity out to be the bad guy, like it's trying to exclude everybody,

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but it's not. As a matter
of fact, it's really allowing people to

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do they're bidding. If they don't
want to be with God for seventy years

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on this planet, they don't have
to be with God for eternity. But

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if someone seeks so, one genuinely
seeks, then they'll find. And I

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say that when I knock on your
heart and that door of your heart,

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all I ask is that you open
it. Yvett, Welcome to the Jesus

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Christ Show. Hi you Vet you
there? Oh Hi, yeah, I'm

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sorry, there's an ambulance coming by. I'm like, well, anyway,

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my question is regarding cremation. My
mom has like six burial plots for us,

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and I think she's gonna just think
that at the end of our you

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know, life here, we're going
to be all wrapped up and all neatly

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stacked together and I'm kind of not
feeling that, and I was wondering,

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is there is there a biblical there's
something biblical that's against cremation. Like now,

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our Jewish brothers and sisters have concerns
about cremation, but Christians do not.

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There is nothing in the Christian theology
that would have a problem. The

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truth of the matter, and I
don't mean to get gross on this,

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but the physiological reality is that all
bodies with long enough time are going to

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look like they were cremated anyways,
So there's no I think there's a comfort

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level for some people and they feel
better when a body is buried. I

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think it's part of the grieving process
and people feel like, well, they're

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still right there, they're just not
moving anymore or doing anything. But the

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honest to goodness reality is they're decomposing. They're breaking down to their simplest form,

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and that'll continue to go on for
a long period of time. So

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if you feel like getting cremated,
so be it. There's there's nothing.

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So there's nothing biblically nothing, because
for a while it didn't. The Catholics

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also have a well, there are
different there's a different doctrine that people will

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you know, adhere to And that's
really religionists. That's nothing biblical that's going

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to say, hey, this will
cause a problem because ashes to ashes,

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dust to dust from the earth.
You came to the earth, you will

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return. There's nothing. There's no
problem with the concept of cremation. There's

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people say, well what about you
know, there's different people that have different

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beliefs about the rapture and what about
being raised from the God created you.

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God's not going to go oh no, now the pieces are scattered. How

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am I ever going to put that
back together? Does anybody have the original

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instructions? That's just not how it
works. So you're fine. If it's

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a personal choice, and it's becoming
a more popular choice actually these days,

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then so be it. That's your
choice. Cool, nothing too soon,

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I hope, Oh no, hopefully
not. Okay, then you might want

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to write it down somewhere then for
say keeping the family. And of course

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my mother has a fit, but
I'm like, well, respect that and

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ask her what her concerns are.
And maybe there's something there, but I

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think there We talked about this recently
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and all of this and I will
tell you more than anything else I talk

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about on the air. When I
talk about ghosts and that that ghosts don't

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fit into the theological structure of Christianity, people light up. They just light

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up. And I think that there
is a there's an intense desire to not

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make things be over. Now,
the skeptic could look and say, well,

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that's all of religion is looking for
a do over or an everlasting or

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any of these things as well,
and that's that's a very legitimate point.

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But likewise, or similarly, humans
are always looking for one more minute,

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kind of that, you know,
cuddling in the morning when you've got to

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go to work and it's five more
minutes, five more minutes, let's just

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cuttle five more minutes. Everybody's looking
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life. And when someone passes,
I think there's comfort both in the concept

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of ghosts and all of that,
but there's also comfort in the fact that

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the body's right there. It's right
there, and you can go visit it,

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but it's not it's no more important
there than the headstone is, or

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the grass or the tree next to
it, or they're all the same thing.

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At this point, and I think
sometimes there's a different comfort and going,

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well, the body's there, we're
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you're not, and you're all going
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So a rotting state it's not going
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a rapid a rapid process of decomposition. So it's the same same. It's

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an emotional thing. So if your
mom has emotional issues with it, then

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try and be sensitive to that and
ask her, you know, what her

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concerns are and why. But really, biblically, there's there's nothing to it.

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There's really there's no offense to God. If the body's burned or if

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the body's buried, ultimately they returned
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have been that I mentioned maybe putting
me in Tuesday's trash might be agger option

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was, well, now you know
why you upset your mother, because because

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you are a dung disturber and you
were poking at her, why would you

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try and upset her? No,
I didn't do that intentionally. It was

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just kind of like because I just
feel I mean, they're just ashes.

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I don't it's just not truly me. Yeah, but I think she just

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told your mother that you wanted to
be buried in a garbage can, and

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you didn't expect her to have any
sort of response. I think her,

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but it was the whole. I
think it was the whole. Being cremated

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things was what sets her off.
And she doesn't want any of us to

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be cremated, and I think,
I don't know. I guess I should

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ask her why that is and where
that comes from. And because for her

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to just, you know, automatically
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was your mom a pretty controlling person. Probably yeah, I'd say probably too.

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That may just be her thing,
and she whenever somebody And the reason

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why I ask is because your mom's
not here to defend herself for to me

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her own argument. But whenever somebody
tries to control a situation, that means

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they have built expectations and that expectation
is now the standard in which they're trying

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to have everything fall into that expectation, and when something goes awry or something

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goes in a different you know,
a lot of times parents are upset that

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their children are homosexual, not because
they're homosexual, but because in their head

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they were thinking it was going to
be a certain way, and this is

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what the child was going to be
and they were going to grow up and

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this is what and that there was
this pattern and it's because of their expectations.

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They're let down, not because of
the individual or the person, I

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would hope and likewise, you're letting
her down. Not because you're letting her

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down, but because she had an
expectation or expectation is you know, because

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what parent is buying plots for their
kids? Yeah, because you're not going

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to be part of that family in
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every family moves away, every family
starts a new branch. That's kind

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of the way things work. So
you borrow, you bury the whole tree

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in one place. It's not going
to work. So I'm thinking, what

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about our children and our spouses and
our like ar exactly exactly what with them?

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But that's the that's the mentality,
is controlling her family and the structure

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of her family. People do this
all the time. Well we have to

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go visit our family for Christmas,
and well what does that mean, Well,

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go visit the parents. Well,
if that's the way things always work,

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then your parents would be visiting their
parents and you wouldn't have anybody to

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visit with. There's people don't understand
the cycle. They only understand that that

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little branch that they've created, and
they try and hold onto that branch.

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But the cycle is not built that
way. It's built to go off and

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to explore and to do your own
traditions and to do those things. And

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there are times where mother or father
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well, no, this is the
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it was always going to be,
not ever factoring in that the children that

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you have are going to be independent
human beings with their own ideas, their

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own wants, their own desires,
and own thoughts of how things should be

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themselves. So I think maybe your
mom's plan is being thwarted a little bit,

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and she's upset about that. I
don't think she thinks you're going to

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hell, or that God's not going
to be able to find you going oh

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my gosh, or it's going to
get mixed with dirt and he's going to

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recreate you and you're going to be
half dirt monster and half human, or

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there's nothing like that. I don't
think she's worrying about that. I think

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she's she's going. That's not the
way I set this up. Honey,

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does she have a nickname for you? Well, she's going to make one

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up after this, I'm sure.
But just try I think, since you

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already know what you want to do, helping your mom understand it and being

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kind to her and allowing her to
digest it properly, it's probably a good

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thing. Try not to, in
my humble advice, try not to use

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the terms like trash can or things
like that. Maybe we'll we'll keep her

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out of that mindset. But theologically
you're Aokayvett. If you want to get

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cremated, Yeah, they see,
And then I will bloom forever, reaching

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towards the sky, pointing to my
final destination, which is heaven. And

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maybe that would that would rock her
boat a lot less, Okay, and

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now go live long and prosper a. Thank you, you're welcome, Thanks

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for calling you, Vet. That
is a thing that there's a couple other

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things going on there. Obviously,
the theology question is the simple one.

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There's nothing specific that would pertain to
Christians about cremation. But there's obviously the

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little spin there with the mom buying
the plots and wanting everything to be a

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certain way, and uh, you
know, often parents can be controlling that

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way. They even want to when
somebody's getting to the point where they're planning

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where you're gonna be when you're dead, that's a little bit that's a little

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bit controlling. On one side,
it could be sweet that they're thinking ahead

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and wanting to make sure their family
is together. But families branch it's the

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way they do. Again, if
really the families were going to be together,

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then your parents would be buried with
their parents, you know. And

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then that if you have siblings now
and they have kids now, then they're

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gonna be buried togat. It just
doesn't make sense. It's not the way

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things work. Families do split,
they branch out. It's the way it

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works, and understanding that can be
a very powerful thing. There's say in

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big families, I'm telling you,
there's always a point where everyone's getting together

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all the time for all the holidays, and all of a sudden people have

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kids and husbands and wives and they
grow and then it's like, well they're

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not showing up, they're not coming
anymore because they're creating their own traditions and

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branch the same way your family did
originally. If you don't allow that,

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then it gets perverted or muted or
massive. You have to have everybody over

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and it just becomes huge. And
I know that's strange because it means for

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difference, but that's how people grow
and commit to their own self and the

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vision of who they are. Poppy, Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show.

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Hi, how are you Poppy?
Good? Hey, I have a theology

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question. Sure, shoot, I'm
a little confused on the genealogy of Jesus.

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I'm totally I love to talk to
people about this and I'm trying to

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embrace the knowledge more and more.
Eleven is to want to know more.

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And it says that in scripture he's
defendant up David. It thinks Joseph was

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the line of David and not Mary. But the biological father of Jesus is

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God. Yeah, that's one way
of putting it. Yeah. The this

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this caused a lot of confusion because
people see that the reference of the genealogy

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in Matthew Matthew one and then Luke
three. People assume this causes a couple

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of different problems. One people assume
they're both of Joseph and they're not.

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Also, people assume when they assume
that they're both of Joseph, they they

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go, well, there's similarities,
yet there's differences, and it causes confusion.

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So let's break this down first.
In Luke three, that is an

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actual genealogy of the maternal side of
Mary, not the paternal side of my

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foster father Joseph. So if you
look through it, you'll see that there

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are differences, but there are similarities. Now, both of those trace back

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to David. They do it through
two different sons, but they both trace

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back to David. The people tend
to get confused because in Luke three there's

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the term, as was supposed the
son of Joseph, but it's not saying

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that it is the lineage of Joseph. Also, Luke is referred to as

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the Gospel for women, and there's
certain things about this particular lineage that points

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to the fact that it's Mary's lineage
and not Joseph's lineage. So in Luke,

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if you look at the maternal lineage, it takes it takes my line

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back to David. No problem,
great, thank you, you're very very

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welcome. Yeah, so go take
a look at those. They often get

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confused and one of the reasons is
that these two geneologies have similar names in

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them. And this is what's kind
of interesting, based on the distance of

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time. If you saw, for
instance, if you were reading two modern

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day lineages and you went through and
had the name Mary, had the name

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Jason, or you're going through all
these names that are fairly common names,

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you wouldn't think twice about it.
But since you're looking at Zerubable, you're

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going, oh, well, that
can that has to be the same guy.

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But no, back then that was
a more common name, and therefore

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you would see it like having an
uncle Bob. You know, it seems

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everyone has an uncle Bob, right, So if you had two lineages and

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they both had an uncle Bob in
them, you wouldn't naturally, you wouldn't

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normally assume that they're both the same
guy, because both the maternal and the

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paternal side can have a Robert in
there, and so you see it.

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So people get confused because those names
seems so rare upon looking at them now,

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but really there were fairly common names
at the time, and so they

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get kind of tossed into it,
and the assumption is they're the exact same

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lineage. And they're not. Matthew
is tracing the lineage back through the foster

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father Joseph, and Luke is tracing
the lineage back to through my mother's family

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line to show that both both point
to the line of David. And some

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will go further to say, well
one is like the official line. That

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shows the official line, and then
this shows, you know, the the

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fleshly line, to show that this
is like the official line as by God,

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that shows that it goes to David. And this is even my flesh

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line has a lineage to David as
well, so the Messiah had to have.

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So that's why people see those a
little differently at times and get a

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little get a little confused. KFI
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