Welcome to Buns and Banter, a podcast buy work Busties for work Busties.
Hey, I'm Lauren and I'm Ali. We're both morning show hosts for iHeartMedia.
We're both millennials, and we're both trying to figure out how to build
the lives we dream about, dating, marriage, career, career and being
a mom. How to get through a week without crying. Welcome to Buns
and Banter. We're glad you're here. Okay, big deep breath, Not
too big of a breath, because I just breathed in. You caught me
as soon as I was coming in for the episode. Today, I've walked
into and breathed in a spiderweb in our studio, which is just so gross.
And that's a studio that you use every single day, and there's nothing
worse than that to me, because you it's like glue or something. It's
like you can't get it all out of you. And now I just have
this really awful phobia that somehow the spider got in me and it's just like
laying it's like somewhere in my body, like those really terrifying cartoons you saw
as a kid. I thought that that was going to be way more of
a thing as an adult. Right. Spiders laying eggs in or around specifically
my ears, Yes, all the crevasses, but the ears flipped me out.
I still I will not sleep at night if all my holes aren't covered.
Oh, you don't seem naked ever. No, but like with a
comforter, oh, like I have to have and it has to be pulled
up right at my ears, I cannot. I just feel like there's always
things trying to crawl into you or get into you. Maybe that's a woman
thing, you know. It was that And when I was little, my
mom used to yell at us when we would like put hats on in the
store. She'd be like, lice. Oh and still to this day.
And I'm a hat girly. I love a hat. Yes, I am
trying on the hats at the store before I buy them. I'm not buying
this because what happened between now, between the store and the home. What
is magically going to clean this hat? I'm just gonna put it on my
head, right, I suppose I could lice all them. But yeah,
that was a big thing for my mom when we were kids. You don't
put hats on at the store because they could have lice. I love that.
I just walking into a spider web that devolved into our childhood phobius.
I felt the same thing about watermelons. If you accidentally ate a seed,
you'd grow on in your belly. This story is really messed up. This
is such a messed up story. But this is my childhood. My dad,
when I was little, told me that if I ate the stems of
broccoli, i'd grow boy parts work. Yeah, oh no, yeah,
So for like as a child, terrified, terrified, Oh my god,
terrified. But yeah, I don't I think like maybe he said it like
once as a joke and it was just one of those things that like,
he probably doesn't remember, but you're a sponge, but as a kid,
yep, yeah, yes, Or maybe he never told me that at all,
and I dreamed the whole thing up. Where in the world you had
to have heard that somewhere that your subconscious wouldn't have just made that up.
I don't know. Kids say wild stuff though. Were you a bus rider?
I heard the craziest stuff on the bus. I was a short,
short lived my bus rider experienced because I used to fall asleep on the bus
and that was fine at the end of the day because my sister also rode
the bus with me so she could wake me up. But when my sister
went to middle school and I was still in elementary school, then it became
a problem. There were more than one occasions where the bus driver was like,
on the way back to the bus garage, like, holy shit,
there's a kid in the back. So then I started I started getting ride
home. Oh my heard so speaking of sponges, I think I need to
start making this a bit in every episode because my children just hear things and
decide on the most inopportune times to bring them up. Oh yes, I
love it, and like I have a five year old and a two year
old. If you're not, I have five year old son, tow year
old daughter, and my son Will is just such a chatterbox and lives for
making new relationships. So the other day, the lovely gentleman from DTE we're
at our house, ah doing some gas meter upgrades, and I was like,
perfect, beautiful day. We'll go outside with the kids, so they're
like out of the way of you know, whatever worth they need to get
done. And Will has gotten very into climbing trees and so we have this
really great tree in our front yard, good climbing tree. For the first
time he was able to climb up at himself. So he like got the
tree that you posted the picture of that man is such a cute picture,
by the way, go look at it on Schmidy's social media. Schmidt in
the mit, thank you it was. That was a good one. So
he climbs on that tree, gets this little spot and he's five rights.
So he's like, this is the tallest I've ever been in my whole life.
And I was like, oh cool, dude, Like what can you
see up there? He's like, I can probably see downtown, like,
you know, just so excited. Then he waits for the DTE guys,
complete strangers. It's not like we're in there making conversation with them to leave
our house. The guys like, you guys are all set, thank you
so much, and Will goes, hey, you see me up of this
tree, and they're very friendly and they're like, oh yeah, buddy,
you're so high up there. He goes, I'm really tall. It's cool.
You know, I've got My mom would would probably sit up here and
drink wine because we couldn't find her. Wow, would I climbing a tree
lead to mom's drinking situations? Has there been a situation drink wine in a
tree but at a treehouse? Has there been a situation where you've been drinking
wine and hiding from them, because that's what it sounds like. I yes,
maybe on the regular, but I do again. I looked at him
and I'm like, buddy, that's that's an inside the house conversation. And
the DTE guys like, that's okay. I think we're gonna see a lot
of families stay that like to drink wine and trees because they're just like up
and down the neighborhood doing their work. And I'm just every I could have
one every single week for things that my kids say, Oh will Love's point
when I could be having water in a water bottle, like back from a
run, Not that I would ever, but could be, And I'll go,
Mom, looks like wine. Yeah, that's not only due. That's
I am a contributing member of society. It's just when you see me,
I'm off the clock and I'm just having a sip. And what you do
off the clock is your own business. And I'm still a great parent.
You are but I love that his view of me is hiding in a tree
with like my bottle of barefoot. Yeah, we're making this a bit.
It's gonna be shit the little schmidy say, Oh my god, shit from
the little Schmidt Yep, yes, yeah, he's full of it. So
that was a really lovely shout out to Mark and Jordan from DTE. Got
to meet them after the weird wine comment, because then I felt like that
was something I shouldn't let just lie there. I was like, I'm not
you don't need to call anyone. I'm not gonna sit this tree and drink
wine, have a great day. Do you tell people that come to your
house, like contractors or DTE men, like, do you tell them what
you do? No? I don't either, because it does it like ever
come up. It's come up for me a few times because they will specifically
ask like, oh, so what do you do for a living, And
I can't. I can't tell at that point if they're asking that, if
they're like leading, trying to lead because they already know, or if they're
really just like curious, like do they ask everybody? Right? Probably like
to make small talk? I think, yeah, I've not been asked very
often. I think they're weird and more weird about that, like you're home
during the day, because that's probably not normal for the like appointments they have.
Yeah, but what do you say? I always say work in marketing.
I say I work in media. Yeah I can't, or oh I
worked downtown. That kind of like just get really, I don't know,
I don't know, and it's we're probably really overthinking this, although we're not
because we were talking about stalker stories just a couple yeah days ago. Yeah,
and there have been some some pretty serious incidents that have happened with different
media personnel in gren Rapids. But I try to be as broad as possible
and also on the dating apps too. It always freaks me out when people
are like, what do you do for a living? If you pointedly ask
me what I do for a living, I'll say like, oh, I
work in media, and then if you keep pushing, I will tell you.
And then the ones who get like really excited about it, it's a
red flag. Oh, I'm so glad you brought this up, because you
didn't even I came in here like blaze and hot about this because I saw
this article today and it thought it'd be really interesting to talk about a dating
expert has run down the top ten red flags in a relationship. Oh yes,
oh yes, I'm sure you're not going to be any of these.
Not You're not, I not us. I am one giant walking red flag
any one of my ex boyfriends. Okay, so this, oh, this
is going to get controversial. So this is relationship expert Jake Maddock, to
be fair, grain assault because it also says he's a self described dating expert.
Okay, that was my next question. Why what makes him an expert?
He's just been on a lot of dates. Oh yeah, perfect,
he's a backtrack bumble if you didn't see last week's episode, Oh, I
have an update on that. Okay, So we're gonna go through the flags
and then see this is beautiful. So he's revealed one of the biggest red
flags. And I think this is something a lot of couples talk about.
Not wanting to have sex with your partner is an immediate flag to leave the
relationship. Well yeah, but that that takes time to get to that point.
I see, right, I don't think and I and by that point
I might not even know I would notice what I notice I don't know this
is gonna be so fantastic. Next up, bad communication, Yes, total
and complete red flag I and not even in terms of like you undercommunicate or
you overcommunicate, but sometimes your style of communication, yes, is not jelling
with your partner. I've been in relationships where I'm a very communicative person and
my partner is as well. But the ways in which we communicate with each
other. I've had a therapist actually tell me and a partner like, you
guys are living in two different worlds, Like you're communicating, but you might
you might as well be. You are speaking different languages when you communicate with
each other. And that was so frustrating, and the relationship obviously did not
survive. Was it eye opening slightly in a good way where You're like,
I would never I would never have thought of it like that. It was
a huge relief because I do consider myself a good communicator. I would consider
that as a friend of yours. I think you're a good communicator, thank
you very much. So that's a very nice compliment to me. It shouldn't
be. Yeah, And to have someone that I'm in a relationship with like
the person you care the most about in the world tell you that you are
a shitty communicator and like you're not doing it right and you suck at it
was a huge mind like absolutely, it was just it was a moment where
I was like, oh my god, have I sucked it this the whole
time? And I just didn't know, like, am I delusional? And
then for a therapist to be like, no, you're actually a really good
communicator and you have like very good insight. You just start speaking two different
languages. Both of you are, but like slightly in your mind were like
I knew that you were the problem. Maybe a little again, We're just
really good at all the things. Oh number three A lack of chemistry totally,
I have to be I think that gets lost a lot of time in
the conversation because you don't want to sound like a ship person. But it's
okay that you want to feel attracted and turned on by a person like personality.
Is not all of it? Is that terrible to say? No,
that is not terrible to say. However, you could be a beauty queen.
I mean terrible And if there ain't nothing going on behind those eyes,
yeah, I am not attracted to you. I'm not No I know we've
met. I call them the glass dolls. Just a little lights are on
nobody home not sure. Yeah, guys and girls alike. Because I'll be
the first to admit one of the biggest things that attracted me to my now
husband his hair. Oh he has great hair. I dated that frow hard
real good. Yeah, this is a really interesting one. Different life goals,
immediate red flag and the relationship. Yes, I don't know. I
just kids, career stuff, and it's I don't think that these are red
flags that you should necessarily take personally, you know, like a red flag
that maybe you should take personally, like you're a bad person. Like maybe
if they tell you, like you have to be a certain weight in order
to date me, oh like that that would indicate that you're just like a
shitty person. Yes, But having different life goals in someone like I just
think that's a difference of um, Like, that's not anything to take personal.
Like I wouldn't take that personally if someone was like, no, my
five year plan is literally to own a castle, and I'd be interested in
that relationship. That's not that's not my life goal. That's not I don't
think this is gonna work do you see Are you someone that sees life goals
being able to change, Like, let's specifically talk the example of kids.
I have seen so many relationships go on for so long and then it gets
to the point and it's like, well, I thought you're gonna change your
mind and the other person's like, I told you from the start, it
was never going to change my mind about that. I don't want children,
or I do want children. This is an ender for me, Like,
if you don't, we need to be done. Like I had really good
friends that broke up after eight years over that, and she was just super
She was like, I'm sorry, I told you from the start. Didn't
feel like I was designed to be a mom, didn't want to be a
mom. You were down with that, And he just thought she would change
her mind or her friends would start having children and she would feel like that's
what she wanted to do. And she's like, no, I'm super sorry.
It sucks. We've been together almost a decade, but I'm not going
to selfishly keep dating you when you want to be a dad and I don't
want to be a mom. Wow, I think there's some life goals that
I don't think change, right, I think Carre right, it's interesting in
our business when I saw that one, I think it can be very challenging
to meet, to date and stay with someone in media because a lot of
this job. We're both very lucky to have gotten jobs in a city we
love and have stayed this long because a lot of our colleagues it's you bounce
around. You're constantly looking for either a bigger market or better pay or a
new opportunity. And when you're taking like a family along with that too,
I've seen marriages break for that. Yes that's hard. Yes, yeah,
that is extremely hard, and there are just some jobs that are tougher to
make a relationship work. I often think of jobs where people are on the
road all the time. Yeah, like traveling sales. I don't know what
else that would be, or like touring musicians or artists. Like I live
next to a truck driver. He's on the road like two hundred days a
year. Yeah, that's a lot of You've got to really find the person
who is comfortable being alone, and then your schedules match up so that when
you are home you can spend that quality time together. Because that's a huge
thing for me, is quality time, So that would be you're taking care
of a lot of your own needs. H'm saying general lack of effort about
old Schmidty would have gotten dirtier there, new Schmitty. She's a mom now,
guys, but she can still get it. And I'm going to make
her tell me the dirtier things she was thinking of. After this, he
says, another big red flag, general lack of effort and not being able
to meet your needs where they're at. Absolutely, I have a brilliant friend.
She's a flight attendant, Amanda, shout out to you. She does
listen. I love that. Yes, And her dad gave her amazing advice,
and he said, when you are dating someone, that is the best
the relationship. In theory should be you should be on your best behavior when
you're dating someone, because chances are the relationship probably isn't going to get easier
as time goes on. Yeah, They're only going to be added layers of
complication. Right, So if that initial effort and that foundation is not laid
strong in the beginning, bye, Wow. She told me that, and
I'd like a gut punch advice. I had a full epiphany. I had
a full epiphany. So those those guys that you match with on the apps
that like you just like it never makes it out of the chat, Like
you talk about meeting up, and you talk about meeting up, and then
you exchange numbers and you text about meeting up, but you just like are
both busy and can't find the time to know it's never in real life.
Done with those done. That was a hype moment, Like if you can't
even prioritize a first date, so that's well, that's a good one.
Yeah, I like that a lot. This is an interesting one. They
don't care about protecting your relationship and you're not improving together. Two and three
on the list What does protecting a relationship mean to you? So I was
I was thinking about that one, and I thought, I think I'm very
guilty of this, and it's a really, really tough thing to admit to
myself. I don't think I protect my relationship as well as I should,
because I think I prioritize a lot more over my relationship. Like what that's
work outside. You're gonna say, well that's different. See look, but
see that you we're programmed that way. There's there's so many times where like
I'll miss picking up my son from school, and it's his most favorite part
of the day. He told me that repeatedly. I love when you pick
me up from school. And it's only like a four minute drive from his
school to our house, but he likes to talk to me about what he
did that day, and it's just him and me, one on one time.
That is so sweet. It is so sweet. But I can't tell
you how many times, like I'm calling my husband, who is like also
in the middle of something and going, oh, something came up, can
you pick up? Or you know, we had something planned, you know,
that afternoon for Chris and I to do, and I'm sitting on my
phone putting up like a social post for something I need to do, or
working ahead for possible conversations to have on my morning shows the next day.
I don't think that's protecting your relationship because I would see that as the other
person just going I guess I'll just make your dinner and pull down the bed
sheets for whenever you decide to come to bed, And like, I think
I'm really really bad about that. I mean, I relate. It's hard.
It's hard because we're career driven women and this is when like this is
when people will say that in a negative way. Yeah, right, Like,
well you're not prioritizing your family. Where are you? Where are your
kids? Why are you never with them? Yeah that moment. I went
on a couple dates with a guy and we were talking about past relationships,
which I don't think is super taboo to do. I know a lot of
people are like, oh, talk about your ex is on a date.
I want to know everything. I want to know everything, and then I
want to know what you heard, because it's always good. But he was
talking about his last relationship was hard because he considered his ex to be a
workaholic. Yeah, And I was like, oh shit, hi, because
and that's one thing that I wish I was better at. I just have
not figured out or mastered how to work a set schedule with this job and
then like shut it down and have the other part of your day. Yeah,
we obviously have our shows in the morning that are this time to this
time, but then there are other things that come up throughout the day,
like a social post that we might need to do or which we could schedule
that stuff out, Like there are solutions to some of these problems, but
it's just not a perfect world. That's my daying life Mond, you know,
And maybe it's lazy to think that way, but it's like, yeah,
I could schedule out, but where am I doing that work? During
a show, during the recording of commercials, during meetings, you know,
while we're sitting on the couch watching whatever, Bluey, But I have to
read the subtitles. I can't be on my phone. True, you see
so many exams that I'm not a relationship. Okay, it's okay, I've
I've had my own like epiphany moments in the last few months too. I
think we talked about this on maybe two or three episodes ago. I'm trying
to put everything I do in my life through a filter of will this matter
in five minutes, five months, five years, And like, in a
very morbid way, a lot of what I do is will I care about
this on my deathbed? But here's my hang up with that is that in
the moment I'm like, yep, I'm going to remember this forever, this
one is in there, and bolt lie. Literally five minutes later, I'm
like, huh, I do not care about that, you know. Yeah,
That's what I'm trying is like my my at night anxiety. That's where
I've really been doing it. I'm like looking ahead to all the things the
next day, and I'm freaking out, and I'm like, are you going
to think about this on your deathbed? Probably? Probably? So I'm just
having a hard time, like even running things through that filter. I'm like,
how can I be sure? How can I be sure? Thank God,
we are the same. We're going to live together and our old age
after all the people around us have died, and we're just gonna we're gonna
thrive in our anxiety were and we're gonna be like remember that time. I
think we'd remember it, And look we're still thinking about it. Yeah,
let's have more wine. Yeah. Last one I want to do on this
list because I thought this was very strange and there's no real, no real
explanation on this one reason to leave your relationship red flag. If they can
live without you? Oh, I had that same reaction. Oh I can,
I mean I can live without anybody. It feels codependent, doesn't it.
Like I think I get really sad when I think about like Chris dying
like an in a shocking way, or at a younger age than I'd like,
or whatever, right, but you would survive. I think I could
survive. I don't know that you'd thrive. How would you eat? I
wouldn't And that's probably what makes me more sad than like the loss of his
companionship. No, I'll starve, but I don't. I don't know.
It doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to be with someone. And you're like,
I don't know what I would do if you ever left me. It's
a sweet thing to say, I don't know what I would do without you.
I've never thought that was romantic. I'm like, I think at wedding
crash or scene where it's like, don't run because mind you, I'm like,
it does seems stage five clingery to me. Yeah, and then like
freaks me out a little bit, like why do you need me so much?
I don't like, don't write, don't It's nice to feel needed and
appreciated, Yeah, but I don't want to feel like you can't function and
be a whole person. And if I die, like I'm going to haunt
you a little bit, and I want you to take some time and like
grieve me. I was amazing, but then probably move on a little bit,
a little bit what's a little bit like if you I'm like Rip Schmidty,
the world lost an icon, sorrowful and prayer. Yeah, so sad.
Let's say five years later? Yeah, yeah, I think that's I
think that's fine. Can you start dating? Can he can he remarry?
Oh? Man, See that's crazy. I don't think I could wrap my
head around that. I don't think he would, not, not for anything
other than we talk all the time about how lazy we would be if we
lost the other one. I would I don't think I'd ever get back into
the tating world, don't. I think you listen to enough of this podcast
if you're in a relationship, stick it out, which is so not something
I would say normally part of the top ten red blacks, But it's brutal
out here, like the reason there is a reason why so many millennials are
never going to get married and they are going to end up single, and
it's because it is such a vast wasteland of decay and just a general lack
of optimism, which checks out right for the millennials. Yea, it really
does. Could be another once in a generation event, please, Yeah,
and like we can do everything alone? Now, what is so, but
the other side of that, I don't disagree, and that's what I hear
from from you and a couple of my other friends in the dating world.
So what happened to the other people out there in the millennial generation? Like
why are there's so many f boys and people that are just like poo poo
poo, Like why don't they want to get married? Or why are like
you when you've been ghosted and stuff by guys that seem really really great?
Yeah, why is like there's so much of that when it feels like the
other half of the generations like, guys, we're just trying to be kind
and have a nice time. My genuine opinion on this is that dating apps
have made it so that anyone is attainable. There's always going to be a
next one. Oh so if it doesn't work out with this one, I'll
just go on the app and find another one, so less effort being put
in. Yeah, And I think that it gives you the illusion that there
is there's always something else out there, so you're always like you're constantly seeking
because there is so much, there's so much abundance, like there are so
many I'd never thought of it that way, but it does sound correct.
It's like, what do they say, shooting fish in apparel? Yes,
yes, stop doing that, stop being that way. But it's it's it's
totally. It's kind of crazy too, because it's like these people, these
are people who and this has happened to me recently, So this is what
I'm basing this on. When I was ghosted, like that guy was taught
he was he wanted to get married, he wanted to have kids. He
wasn't saying like he wanted to marry me, but we were just talking about
life goals, like what does your life look like? He wanted to get
married, he wanted to have kids, he wanted to settle down, but
like actively not doing any of those things, which just feels, i mean
right, just feels like talk like, oh, this is what I'm supposed
to say, because oh but I like that, and I don't necessarily know
that he's out there like ghosting a bunch of women like he did ghost me,
but we like that could just be because he wasn't into me, like
maybe I wasn't event well, a different topic for a different day, but
maybe you feel so good about myself I have. It's what we're here to
do. And also it's all true. Maybe this is the problem you're giving
me such an inflated ego. Never but I'm out of here with these wild,
unrealistic expectations. Bring me on your next day and I will just hype
from like I am a catch. She can't understand why you haven't wiped me
yet because I'm sweet. So I've been waiting to hear about the bumble backtrack
the update. Oh my god, was it a thrilling time? Oh this
guy ilbeit a couple of hours like only so I'm time though. Spoiler alert,
so in case you need to be caught up on this situation. I
recently matched with someone on a dating app who I had matched with before and
it didn't end well and I couldn't really remember why. I remember they had
said something to me that I didn't like, and then we just like never
talked again, and then rematched on this dating app, which I didn't even
know it was possible, which I was like, I can't figure out if
he knows that and he's trying to get back in which is what we talked
about on the last episode, or if he just doesn't remember I thought he
was trying to get back in. I think he didn't remember, but we'll
never know because it ended very abruptly. He messaged me. I messaged him
back, and I just I'd like, hey, I've had a browse of
your profile, and it just seems that there are some conflicting sentiments on the
profile, like what, Well, it says you are looking for a girl
who wants more than attention, But when it says what type of relationship you're
looking for, it says something short term and something casual, so completely opposite
things, wouldn't That's how I interpret it it? Yes? And he said,
well, how do you interpret a girl looking for more than just attention?
And I said, well, to me, that says you're looking for
some sort of vulnerability to be shared in, like a connection, Like you're
not just looking for a pen pal or someone to like check in with,
you know, like not someone to just send a picture too, and then
be like, oh my god, hot, pick right just like that.
Yes, And he was like, and you can't do that in a short
term casual relationship. What does a short term casual relationship mean to you?
And I was very forward. I said, in my opinion, you don't
really dig super deep in a short term casual relationship, and to me that
means like hookups, Like you're looking for hookups. Yeah. I think it's
a very respectful way saying I'm just here to I'm just DTF and there's nothing
wrong with her. That's what you're looking for, and you're being honest about
it. That's okay, that's not what I'm looking for at the moment,
but it's up to you. So after I sent him my little synopsis and
interpretations of the questions that he asked me, immediately unmatched me. Immediately I
laughed out loud, Oh, out loud. He was, I mean,
like he was cute too. Yeah. So it was like he couldn't interesting
and this is meant as a compliment. He couldn't handle you. Like now,
now I feel like whatever he said, a girl not looking for attention,
short term whatever he was looking for. One of the doll had the
doll faces, Like I said, pretty maybe not a lot going on upstairs.
The fact that you said all that back and he's like, oh,
I can't even read something. I'm taking liberties here. I can't even read
some of those big words. Is what I take that as. Yeah,
And it was, and now that I think about it, like I was
really psychoanalyzing and like using a lot of those well, because this wasn't your
first time a relationship that prioritizes physical intimacy, Like I actually typed that out
and sent it, So that's kind of doche now that I'm no never,
I'm just you're a woman that knows what she wants, and it really second
time he's wanted to do. Well, oh the bumble backtrack. I just
wonder, like what they think when they see pictures, because you can pictures
are worth a thousand words. Yeah, And I I'm sure I'm not alone
in this. When I see someone's profile, I absolutely create a narrative of
who I think this person is in my head, just based on their photos.
And then sometimes you talk to these people and you're like flop dud,
Yeah, and that's okay, that's okay what it's for. But it's my
own insanity. It's my own version of them that I create. And then
when they don't live up to that, I'm like, oh, I'm disappointed,
Like, oh, I wonder why I just can't the fact that he
immediately was just like wow, I literally meant for you to text back like
an I know right or something like that. Can't handle it by good bye?
Backtrack. Yeah, I gotta be able to have a conversation with you,
because think about it, that's the other when I was looking through those
red flags, I'm like, somebody you can live without, Like we were
just talking about, Oh my gosh, is it not so painful when like
a couple becomes empty nesters and realize they have nothing in common. It's my
biggest fear. I know. That's why I like you. Still you still
have to do stuff like when you have kids or whatever it is, or
you're busy schedules, because I mean these like divorced seventy year olds that are
like, while our last kid moved out like five years ago, and it
turns out we hate each other, like we just we have nothing to talk
about, we have nothing to do because our entire relationship has been devoted to
like children or work. Yep, you've got to have You've got to be
able to have the conversations, the fun times, the battles. Yeah,
I like. I like that. I think it's you know, it's refreshing,
It gets things out. You can't just backtrack bumble would have been an
absolute disaster, man. Yeah, but I mean it was. It was
kind of a crazy two hours because I really wasn't expecting a lot out of
it. Like I really wanted to just figure out if he had known that
we had matched before or like he really didn't a little bit guilty and that
like it was kind of a content swipe, if you will, which should
never make you feel guilty. It's for our audience, it's for you.
Yeah, that was a great swipe. So but and then like there was
also an element of like, oh, rejected again. I'm not super like
busted up about it, right, but I'm just I'm offering my services the
next time you have like a dinner date. I will just sit in the
booth across the way and every so often be like, ah, but like,
since amazing, it's not me, right, it's not because that at
a certain point, I'm gonna have to take a good, long, hard
look in the mirror and be like, we're not that denominator strongly dis agree,
as does everyone zero chance it's you die on that hill. Well that
makes me feel a little bit better for now. For now, that's all
we can do. We'll see, we'll see how it goes to do.
So, speaking of like recurring bits, yes, we're going to add I
liked what was it the Schmidt talking shit? Yeah, yeah, we're going
to add that in. I like it because my two year old can't talk
yet. But when she really really can wait for it, because her eyes
and her body language already hurts my feelings. So when she matches words with
that. But my five year old is just so kind and wonderful. Then
when he says things that aren't it really is funny because he doesn't realize he's
doing it. The best character analysis of your children that I have ever seen
in video form on your social media is the video of Sophia stealing Will's food.
Oh my god, did you see she has no shame? Not only
did I see it, but I was like, this is this is these
are this is them, this is their essence yep. And Will's just sitting
there like and so reach writer get and she makes it a whole thing.
She's like on her knees, She's like, hold on, I can't,
I can't quite, and then just all the food, Yeah, I love,
I love, and then the eyes like I did absolutely nothing wrong.
There. It was in my vicinity. Yeah, yeah, that's gonna be
it's gonna be real eye opening. Yeah, it's gonna make you want to
have kids. When't you find that person in life? If ever, if
I ever do find anyone. Um changing the subject back to reoccurring bits,
because I got so much feedback last week about our sweaty feet hmm, a
lot of our listeners. I'm so sorry, really quick. I hope you
can't hear that. My stomach is growing and I just am so embarrassed that
that's being picked up by the microphone. Oh I didn't hear it. Jesus,
Sorry, guys. Continue, Well, it's because we're hungry. My
god. You probably haven't eaten today. No I haven't. No, we've
got to keep the feet looking skinny. I'd really tell you what thanking on
this. I'll tell you what. So many of our listeners are also in
the sweaty feet club. I will not say any of your names and put
you on blast, but I did receive more than one DM from you guys
about also having sweaty, stinky beat that makes me feel good. Suggestion switch
your synthetic socks to one cotton apparently that helps. I'll be honest with you,
I had no idea socks remain out of anything other than cotton. I
guess we got to start reading the label. But I think we should start
doing a recurring bit called Uncomfortably Close. It'll be details like that, because
so many episodes of Buns and Banter where and we always are like you guys
learned so much about us on these podcasts, and then we're sharing like these
insider which we shouldn't be sharing on the internet, but here we are for
those girls. We do it for the views. But yeah, I think
that that is something that we should start uncomfortably close. Uncomfortably I'm sitting here
right now, so uncomfortable about the ocean sweats, sitting in my brown slats.
Right now. We are this. We are same but different