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That's Better credit Cards dot com. Thank you for listening to 11 00:00:42.799 --> 00:00:45.799 the John n Heidi Show on a Tuesday. Yeah you heard me right. 12 00:00:45.840 --> 00:00:49.039 It's the most Monday feeling Tuesday ever, isn't it? But it is a 13 00:00:49.079 --> 00:00:54.359 Tuesday, and that means we have doctor Dan from swo Falls Hypnosis joining us 14 00:00:54.359 --> 00:00:57.200 here just a bit. And the thing is cool. If you set New 15 00:00:57.280 --> 00:01:00.840 Year's resolutions, maybe you've done it like I have the past at a New 16 00:01:00.880 --> 00:01:03.120 Year's resolution and then by this time, you know, two whole days in, 17 00:01:03.159 --> 00:01:07.480 you've already been you know, off that New year's resolution. At Suit 18 00:01:07.519 --> 00:01:11.400 Falls Hypnosis, they might be able to help you stick to that resolution this 19 00:01:11.480 --> 00:01:14.079 year, even if it's not a resolution, if it's just hey, I 20 00:01:14.159 --> 00:01:18.200 really really want to do this. Maybe you didn't make that as a resolution, 21 00:01:18.280 --> 00:01:19.760 but you really want to get something done, whether it's quitting smoking, 22 00:01:19.840 --> 00:01:25.560 losing weight, you know, doing some specific thing that you're struggling with Sue 23 00:01:25.599 --> 00:01:27.319 Falls Hypnosis, they might be able to help. So stick around and we're 24 00:01:27.359 --> 00:01:32.239 gonna chat a little bit about that with doctor Dan from Sue Falls Hypnosis here 25 00:01:32.239 --> 00:01:36.040 in a bit, and later this hour we're going to be doing another hashtag 26 00:01:36.159 --> 00:01:41.640 comedy call with another very funny comic from Sue Falls, actually from the Snowjam 27 00:01:41.640 --> 00:01:45.640 Comedy Festival of Sue Falls. If you'd like to learn more about that. 28 00:01:45.719 --> 00:01:53.120 It's Snowjamcomedyfest dot com s n O Jam Snowjam Comedyfest dot com. It's only 29 00:01:53.159 --> 00:01:56.480 a few weeks away now, I can't believe it. It's the eighteenth, 30 00:01:56.560 --> 00:02:00.519 nineteenth, twentieth, and twenty first of January, so it's like a little 31 00:02:00.519 --> 00:02:02.680 over two weeks away, and I think we're gonna have like at least one 32 00:02:02.719 --> 00:02:07.920 comic per day between now and then to chat with. So we'll be chatting 33 00:02:07.159 --> 00:02:10.080 in just a bit with one of the very funny comics from that fun event. 34 00:02:10.599 --> 00:02:15.080 You can also learn more on our Facebook page Facebook dot com Slash Sunny 35 00:02:15.159 --> 00:02:19.520 Radio. Thanks for listening on a Tuesday. Invite your friends and family over 36 00:02:19.560 --> 00:02:23.360 to make memories with a fun game night. Very Special games dot com has 37 00:02:23.439 --> 00:02:27.719 five fun games that will help everyone have a blast. Games like Ransom Notes, 38 00:02:27.840 --> 00:02:32.039 the Ridiculous word magnet game Abduction, a weirdly strategic game of Doug kidnapping 39 00:02:32.280 --> 00:02:37.719 Ben's with Benefits, the hilarious even Diagram game, Puns of Anarchy, the 40 00:02:37.840 --> 00:02:42.439 Outrageous pun Making Game, and Charity Party, the game of Absurdly Funny Charts. 41 00:02:42.560 --> 00:02:46.080 Find these fun games and more at very Special games dot com. That's 42 00:02:46.240 --> 00:02:49.840 very Special games dot com. Thank you for listening to the John End Heidi 43 00:02:49.919 --> 00:02:53.199 Show. It's a new year and there's a lot of people who are making 44 00:02:53.240 --> 00:02:55.360 resolutions right now. I have Doctor Dan from Suo Falls Hypnosis. How are 45 00:02:55.360 --> 00:02:58.240 you, sir, I'm good? How are you? Very good? Happy 46 00:02:58.280 --> 00:03:00.280 New Year to you and thank you YouTube. This is the time people make 47 00:03:00.319 --> 00:03:04.159 New Year's resolutions. We talked a little bit about this last week but let's 48 00:03:04.159 --> 00:03:06.960 talk a little more about it, because now we're in it and there's probably 49 00:03:07.000 --> 00:03:10.039 already somebody who made a resolution yesterday and they've already given up on it today. 50 00:03:10.159 --> 00:03:13.680 Well they're working on it anyway. Yes, So let's talk about that 51 00:03:13.719 --> 00:03:15.719 because I called it, I don't remember what you called it, bargain. 52 00:03:15.800 --> 00:03:20.520 I called it rationalizations. I remember you called it excuses. Excuses. Yeah, 53 00:03:20.520 --> 00:03:23.520 we make these excuses. I like your word better. It sounds more 54 00:03:23.520 --> 00:03:25.759 professional. Sure, it's one of them five dollars words, like a fifty 55 00:03:25.800 --> 00:03:29.840 c net words. So let's use the five dollar word. That's going to 56 00:03:29.879 --> 00:03:30.879 be happening a lot this week, is right, and one of the things. 57 00:03:31.199 --> 00:03:34.240 So this is the way I explain it to you for now. Many 58 00:03:34.240 --> 00:03:38.159 people out there have heard there's a model Elizabeth Kobler Ross and she talked about 59 00:03:38.159 --> 00:03:42.319 the stages of grief, so denial, anger, bargaining, sadness, and 60 00:03:42.360 --> 00:03:46.719 acceptance. Okay, Now, the reason that that thing is genius and the 61 00:03:46.719 --> 00:03:49.800 reason that's still around is it is the stages of grief. But really, 62 00:03:49.800 --> 00:03:53.080 another way to look at it is the stages of anything in your life that's 63 00:03:53.080 --> 00:03:55.759 a have to Oh yeah, does that make sense? Yeah, We're now 64 00:03:55.759 --> 00:04:00.280 in a situation we have to I have to do this. Life has put 65 00:04:00.319 --> 00:04:02.000 me in this, I have put me in this situation. Someone else has 66 00:04:02.039 --> 00:04:04.879 put me in this situation. And what it happens is you begin to move. 67 00:04:05.159 --> 00:04:08.319 It starts out with denial. I don't have a problem, this isn't 68 00:04:08.360 --> 00:04:10.280 difficult. I can do this. This is the point where I'm making a 69 00:04:10.319 --> 00:04:13.879 resolution. It's all good. And then you go to the anger. Now 70 00:04:13.879 --> 00:04:15.480 when we talk about anger, think about it just like stress. I am 71 00:04:15.480 --> 00:04:20.680 now stressed over this. I'm experiencing negative emotions. I mean, I'm not 72 00:04:20.680 --> 00:04:25.120 feeling good about this. And then what happens is we move to the next 73 00:04:25.120 --> 00:04:30.560 stage, which is bargaining. And bargaining is when we give ourselves the excuses 74 00:04:30.600 --> 00:04:32.959 we need, the rationalizations, we need, the reasons we need in order 75 00:04:33.000 --> 00:04:36.879 to be able to back out of or lower the stress level to head back 76 00:04:36.920 --> 00:04:41.879 down that sort of stress curve, that hillah. And that's what we're doing, 77 00:04:41.959 --> 00:04:45.079 is we're essentially your nervous system's only job in the world is to help 78 00:04:45.079 --> 00:04:48.040 you cope with stress. And so when the stress gets high enough, I'm 79 00:04:48.079 --> 00:04:51.199 in this have to Now I've placed myself in this situation, and I will 80 00:04:51.240 --> 00:04:55.240 begin to bargain with myself. I will tell myself whatever I need to hear 81 00:04:55.720 --> 00:04:59.879 in order to change this deal or back out of it, or alter it 82 00:05:00.040 --> 00:05:01.079 in some way, or leave part of it behind, or whatever I need 83 00:05:01.120 --> 00:05:05.000 to do so that I can lower my stress level, rather than the flip 84 00:05:05.000 --> 00:05:09.279 side of that is to move through bargaining and not engage in any of it, 85 00:05:09.240 --> 00:05:12.759 and you kind of cap that stress that the stress curve at the top, 86 00:05:12.959 --> 00:05:15.600 and then you move down the other side. Then there's some sort of 87 00:05:15.600 --> 00:05:20.920 some sadness and or just you know, realization, and once you move through 88 00:05:20.920 --> 00:05:25.000 that though, you get down here to the end or acceptance, where everything 89 00:05:25.000 --> 00:05:28.160 gets to be okay. And the problem with resolutions is most people, as 90 00:05:28.199 --> 00:05:31.399 the stress increases and they get up into that bargaining phase and then they bargain 91 00:05:31.439 --> 00:05:34.399 their way out of or out of most of whatever they've done, and then 92 00:05:34.439 --> 00:05:38.240 they never see the other side of the curve. They never go to sadness 93 00:05:38.279 --> 00:05:42.279 and they never get to acceptance. And acceptance is where learning and growth and 94 00:05:42.360 --> 00:05:46.199 change and transformation all of that stuff happens over there. But the only way 95 00:05:46.240 --> 00:05:49.560 you get to that point is if you don't do the bargaining number at the 96 00:05:49.560 --> 00:05:54.040 top. Now, people will kind of bounce around inside this this sort of 97 00:05:54.079 --> 00:05:57.199 series of events denialand and it's not always linear, right, it's not always 98 00:05:57.199 --> 00:05:59.759 linear. And what they're gonna do is they're going to find a way to 99 00:05:59.800 --> 00:06:02.319 do that that lowers their stress level to whatever degree they need it lowered. 100 00:06:03.040 --> 00:06:08.040 But the point to all of this, it's making it through this to acceptance, 101 00:06:08.079 --> 00:06:10.959 and acceptance is where you actually get to become another person, a different 102 00:06:10.959 --> 00:06:13.319 person, a better person, a bigger person, the person you want to 103 00:06:13.360 --> 00:06:15.519 be, the person you wish to be. And the thing I would tell 104 00:06:15.519 --> 00:06:19.120 you about this is one of the best definitions I've ever heard for maturity was 105 00:06:19.120 --> 00:06:20.920 a guy by the name of Fritz Pearls. He's a little bit of a 106 00:06:20.959 --> 00:06:25.759 wild man, but he was a therapist back in the sixties and seventies. 107 00:06:25.800 --> 00:06:28.759 I think he passed away maybe in the eighties, and he said, the 108 00:06:28.759 --> 00:06:33.279 maturity is the ability to tolerate frustrated desire alone. Maturity is the ability to 109 00:06:33.279 --> 00:06:36.920 tolerate frustrated desire alone. And what he was saying is you need to be 110 00:06:36.959 --> 00:06:41.759 able to be at the top of that stress curve and tolerate it. And 111 00:06:41.839 --> 00:06:46.199 still get to be okay nice, And that is really if you can do 112 00:06:46.240 --> 00:06:48.319 that, you automatically kind of begin to move down the other side to acceptance. 113 00:06:49.079 --> 00:06:55.560 So it's this bargaining thing. And so a resolution when your listeners out 114 00:06:55.600 --> 00:06:59.120 there, when they make a resolution, know that this is coming, Realize 115 00:06:59.120 --> 00:07:01.639 that it's out there waiting for you for and yes, stipulate it. And 116 00:07:01.680 --> 00:07:06.480 then the test for yourself is to be able to tolerate that that experience, 117 00:07:06.600 --> 00:07:11.560 realize you're going to be okay, stay in it and kind of move through 118 00:07:11.600 --> 00:07:15.720 the experience to the end and realize that that everything you're looking for is down 119 00:07:15.759 --> 00:07:17.759 the other side a bit and again, and if you need somebody to kind 120 00:07:17.759 --> 00:07:21.120 of walk you through this this sometimes there's a piece of learning in here that 121 00:07:21.160 --> 00:07:26.160 people just never never got during the course of their life. They never they 122 00:07:26.240 --> 00:07:30.720 were never able to kind of tolerate an experience where they didn't begin to bargain 123 00:07:30.720 --> 00:07:36.120 with themselves. And sometimes we need someone to help us be able to do 124 00:07:36.160 --> 00:07:41.199 that differently, to actually make a decision and stick on it. If somebody 125 00:07:41.199 --> 00:07:43.800 would like to get your help, how do they get a hold They can 126 00:07:43.839 --> 00:07:46.240 reach me. You can look me up on the internet. Soo Fall Hypnosis 127 00:07:46.279 --> 00:07:48.120 dot com. You can certainly call me at six oh five seven zero two 128 00:07:48.240 --> 00:07:51.319 sixty six nine one. Very nice and this time of year, a lot 129 00:07:51.319 --> 00:07:56.079 of resolutions being made to lose weight, to quit smoking, less stress in 130 00:07:56.120 --> 00:07:59.160 your life. Those are things that he can definitely help you at least get 131 00:07:59.160 --> 00:08:01.600 in the right direction. Figure out how can I do this for me? 132 00:08:01.120 --> 00:08:03.920 And if you're ready to do that again, reach out to doctor Dan. 133 00:08:03.959 --> 00:08:07.040 I'm going to throw a link to his page at Facebook dot com slash Sunny 134 00:08:07.120 --> 00:08:11.560 Radio and Facebook dot com slash Sioux Falls News. If you're planning for the 135 00:08:11.600 --> 00:08:16.600 new year involves getting your financial life in order, I suggest you start with 136 00:08:16.639 --> 00:08:18.639 your mobile phone bill. How much do you pay every month? If that 137 00:08:18.720 --> 00:08:24.639 number is more than fifteen bucks, it's time for mentervention. Mintmobile makes it 138 00:08:24.680 --> 00:08:28.000 affordable and easy to switch, get a new phone or bring your current phone. 139 00:08:28.199 --> 00:08:33.559 At mintervention dot com you can see the current special offers from Mintmobile, 140 00:08:33.759 --> 00:08:37.200 offering premium wireless for just fifteen dollars a month. That's far less than most 141 00:08:37.240 --> 00:08:41.080 people are paying. Learn more now at mintervention dot com. Thank you for 142 00:08:41.120 --> 00:08:43.919 listening to the John ed Heidi Show. Excited a visit right now with an 143 00:08:43.960 --> 00:08:48.559 actor and a comedian, Dale Dimkowski, and he is going to be at 144 00:08:48.600 --> 00:08:50.639 Snowjamcomedy Festival coming up in a few weeks. Dale, how are you? 145 00:08:50.840 --> 00:08:54.799 I'm great, John, Thank you? How you doing? I am fantastic. 146 00:08:54.840 --> 00:08:56.519 I was watching some of your stand up comedy before we made the call 147 00:08:56.559 --> 00:09:00.720 here, and you're a funny guy, and you were in the in the 148 00:09:00.840 --> 00:09:05.759 video you were pointing out that you have hearing aids and I think that it's 149 00:09:05.840 --> 00:09:09.519 amazing to me the technology we have today. But have you had those your 150 00:09:09.559 --> 00:09:11.960 whole life? How long have you had that? Yeah? Yeah, that's 151 00:09:11.080 --> 00:09:16.600 quite funny. The technology is quite amazing. I've had I've been wearing hearing 152 00:09:16.600 --> 00:09:20.279 agents that's three years old, so kinda if you can remember back to when 153 00:09:20.279 --> 00:09:22.639 we had, you know, rotary phones and landlines. Yeah, and how 154 00:09:22.759 --> 00:09:28.519 far technology has gone from from just our phones and digital technology. That's the 155 00:09:28.559 --> 00:09:33.360 same thing happened with hearing age. That was wearing these analoged hearing aids that 156 00:09:33.399 --> 00:09:37.840 wrapped around my ears that were visible for everybody to see to today where you 157 00:09:37.879 --> 00:09:41.279 know, you would never know that I will hearing age if I didn't tell 158 00:09:41.320 --> 00:09:45.639 you, well, I've got a friend that has an implant and he can 159 00:09:45.679 --> 00:09:48.440 connect his phone to this thing that's inside of his head. So he had 160 00:09:48.440 --> 00:09:52.000 his phone in his pocket and he's talking and I'm looking around, like who 161 00:09:52.000 --> 00:09:54.039 are you talking to? And he goes, no, No, I have 162 00:09:54.039 --> 00:09:56.840 an implant. Am I goes no, I was on my phone. I'm 163 00:09:56.879 --> 00:10:01.879 like, I thought I was going crazy for a second. There that's a 164 00:10:01.879 --> 00:10:07.279 co clear implant. He has it. That's a very death person. Yeah, 165 00:10:07.480 --> 00:10:11.279 I don't know, it's he speaks very clearly. Everything works fine, 166 00:10:11.360 --> 00:10:15.000 but it's you know again, the technology is amazing today. No, it's 167 00:10:15.039 --> 00:10:18.200 incredible the fact that we can go to our phones and just make the adjustments. 168 00:10:18.240 --> 00:10:20.440 So I was talking about I can actually probably hear better than you can 169 00:10:20.559 --> 00:10:24.360 now because the hearing aids know that when I'm in a loud restaurant that I 170 00:10:24.360 --> 00:10:26.559 don't want to hear the background there is. I just want to hear the 171 00:10:26.559 --> 00:10:30.600 noise in front of me. Yeah. Absolutely fascinating. So how long have 172 00:10:30.639 --> 00:10:33.480 you been doing stand up comedy and what was it that got you interested in 173 00:10:33.519 --> 00:10:37.879 doing this? So I've been doing I started ten years ago with a three 174 00:10:37.960 --> 00:10:41.000 year break where I thought I wouldn't do stand up comedy anymore. So I 175 00:10:41.000 --> 00:10:45.120 say, I've been doing comedy for seven years, but I started ten years 176 00:10:45.120 --> 00:10:48.679 ago. And what happened was I turned forty and I wanted to do the 177 00:10:50.200 --> 00:10:54.879 thing that scared me the most, and as an act out in LA I 178 00:10:54.960 --> 00:10:58.039 thought, stand up comedy doesn't get any scarier than that. And I see 179 00:10:58.080 --> 00:11:01.840 a friend do it that I was in acting classes with, and I was 180 00:11:01.919 --> 00:11:05.440 like, she's great up there. I really liked her on stage. I 181 00:11:05.480 --> 00:11:09.279 didn't like her in real life, but I liked her when you're on stage. 182 00:11:07.080 --> 00:11:11.679 I could do that. And I've always been a writer. I always 183 00:11:11.679 --> 00:11:15.600 like to write, and it just sort of seemed like a natural. And 184 00:11:15.639 --> 00:11:16.919 then once I started doing I just sort of fell in love with it. 185 00:11:16.960 --> 00:11:20.039 And it's just I sort of I can't not do it now. And we're 186 00:11:20.080 --> 00:11:24.759 excited to have you at the Snowjam Comedy Festival January eighteen, nineteen twenty and 187 00:11:24.840 --> 00:11:28.399 twenty one. It's sneaking right up. Have you been to Sue Falls before? 188 00:11:28.639 --> 00:11:33.759 I have never been to Sue Rog's South Dakota or North Dakota for that 189 00:11:33.799 --> 00:11:37.679 matter. That's one of the things that I love about doing stand up comedy 190 00:11:37.720 --> 00:11:41.879 is where it takes me, take me to places that probably wouldn't otherwise get 191 00:11:41.919 --> 00:11:45.559 to you, and I'm very excited about coming next month. Well, we're 192 00:11:45.600 --> 00:11:48.519 excited to have you come and join us. And again, this is a 193 00:11:48.519 --> 00:11:54.039 fundraiser for Dappa Dakota Academy of Performing Arts. So I think it's really cool 194 00:11:54.279 --> 00:11:56.759 you as an actor and all of these stand up comics, performing artists that 195 00:11:56.799 --> 00:12:01.639 are going to be helping raise money for the next generation performing arts. I 196 00:12:01.639 --> 00:12:05.840 think that's just a really neat thing. Wonderful love it. So let's talk 197 00:12:05.840 --> 00:12:09.320 about your style of comedy For people who maybe haven't had a chance to see 198 00:12:09.360 --> 00:12:11.159 you, what are they going to see while you're joining us here at Snowjam 199 00:12:11.159 --> 00:12:18.039 Comedy Festival. I like to say that I'm influenced by George Carlin and Bill 200 00:12:18.120 --> 00:12:20.679 Maher, So I have a little bit of a political and social commentary with 201 00:12:20.720 --> 00:12:30.679 my comedy, but also eclectic relationships, family, everyday stuff puckered in with 202 00:12:30.720 --> 00:12:37.360 some lighthearted and good natured sort of discussion about social issues that most people in 203 00:12:37.919 --> 00:12:41.320 casual settings kind of shy away from. Well, I'm excited to see you 204 00:12:41.399 --> 00:12:43.120 here and I'm excited to meet you in person. Thanks for taking the time 205 00:12:43.120 --> 00:12:46.639 to chat today. It's been my pleasure, John. I can't wait to 206 00:12:46.639 --> 00:12:50.240 see you and again. Dale is one of the several comics. It's all 207 00:12:50.279 --> 00:12:52.679 over thirty comedians. It'll be embarking on a little journey to come to Soup 208 00:12:52.679 --> 00:12:58.279 Fall South Dakota January eighteenth, nineteenth, twentieth and twenty first, and it's 209 00:12:58.320 --> 00:13:03.279 all for charity. It's to raise money for DAPPA Dakota Academy Performing Arts. 210 00:13:03.279 --> 00:13:07.399 It's all part of Snowjamcomedy Festival and sadly the final year of Snowjam, but 211 00:13:07.440 --> 00:13:09.759 we're going out on top. It's going to be a great event. If 212 00:13:09.759 --> 00:13:13.799 you'd like to get tickets, you can get them now at Snowjamcomedyfest dot com. 213 00:13:13.000 --> 00:13:20.559 That's s n O Jam against Snowjamcomedyfest dot com. Invite your friends and 214 00:13:20.600 --> 00:13:24.480 family over to make memories with a fun game night. Very Special Games dot 215 00:13:24.519 --> 00:13:28.559 Com has five fun games that will help everyone have a blast. 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