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It's the most Monday feeling Tuesday ever, isn't it? But it is a
Tuesday, and that means we have doctor Dan from swo Falls Hypnosis joining us
here just a bit. And the thing is cool. If you set New
Year's resolutions, maybe you've done it like I have the past at a New
Year's resolution and then by this time, you know, two whole days in,
you've already been you know, off that New year's resolution. At Suit
Falls Hypnosis, they might be able to help you stick to that resolution this
year, even if it's not a resolution, if it's just hey, I
really really want to do this. Maybe you didn't make that as a resolution,
but you really want to get something done, whether it's quitting smoking,
losing weight, you know, doing some specific thing that you're struggling with Sue
Falls Hypnosis, they might be able to help. So stick around and we're
gonna chat a little bit about that with doctor Dan from Sue Falls Hypnosis here
in a bit, and later this hour we're going to be doing another hashtag
comedy call with another very funny comic from Sue Falls, actually from the Snowjam
Comedy Festival of Sue Falls. If you'd like to learn more about that.
It's Snowjamcomedyfest dot com s n O Jam Snowjam Comedyfest dot com. It's only
a few weeks away now, I can't believe it. It's the eighteenth,
nineteenth, twentieth, and twenty first of January, so it's like a little
over two weeks away, and I think we're gonna have like at least one
comic per day between now and then to chat with. So we'll be chatting
in just a bit with one of the very funny comics from that fun event.
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Show. It's a new year and there's a lot of people who are making
resolutions right now. I have Doctor Dan from Suo Falls Hypnosis. How are
you, sir, I'm good? How are you? Very good? Happy
New Year to you and thank you YouTube. This is the time people make
New Year's resolutions. We talked a little bit about this last week but let's
talk a little more about it, because now we're in it and there's probably
already somebody who made a resolution yesterday and they've already given up on it today.
Well they're working on it anyway. Yes, So let's talk about that
because I called it, I don't remember what you called it, bargain.
I called it rationalizations. I remember you called it excuses. Excuses. Yeah,
we make these excuses. I like your word better. It sounds more
professional. Sure, it's one of them five dollars words, like a fifty
c net words. So let's use the five dollar word. That's going to
be happening a lot this week, is right, and one of the things.
So this is the way I explain it to you for now. Many
people out there have heard there's a model Elizabeth Kobler Ross and she talked about
the stages of grief, so denial, anger, bargaining, sadness, and
acceptance. Okay, Now, the reason that that thing is genius and the
reason that's still around is it is the stages of grief. But really,
another way to look at it is the stages of anything in your life that's
a have to Oh yeah, does that make sense? Yeah, We're now
in a situation we have to I have to do this. Life has put
me in this, I have put me in this situation. Someone else has
put me in this situation. And what it happens is you begin to move.
It starts out with denial. I don't have a problem, this isn't
difficult. I can do this. This is the point where I'm making a
resolution. It's all good. And then you go to the anger. Now
when we talk about anger, think about it just like stress. I am
now stressed over this. I'm experiencing negative emotions. I mean, I'm not
feeling good about this. And then what happens is we move to the next
stage, which is bargaining. And bargaining is when we give ourselves the excuses
we need, the rationalizations, we need, the reasons we need in order
to be able to back out of or lower the stress level to head back
down that sort of stress curve, that hillah. And that's what we're doing,
is we're essentially your nervous system's only job in the world is to help
you cope with stress. And so when the stress gets high enough, I'm
in this have to Now I've placed myself in this situation, and I will
begin to bargain with myself. I will tell myself whatever I need to hear
in order to change this deal or back out of it, or alter it
in some way, or leave part of it behind, or whatever I need
to do so that I can lower my stress level, rather than the flip
side of that is to move through bargaining and not engage in any of it,
and you kind of cap that stress that the stress curve at the top,
and then you move down the other side. Then there's some sort of
some sadness and or just you know, realization, and once you move through
that though, you get down here to the end or acceptance, where everything
gets to be okay. And the problem with resolutions is most people, as
the stress increases and they get up into that bargaining phase and then they bargain
their way out of or out of most of whatever they've done, and then
they never see the other side of the curve. They never go to sadness
and they never get to acceptance. And acceptance is where learning and growth and
change and transformation all of that stuff happens over there. But the only way
you get to that point is if you don't do the bargaining number at the
top. Now, people will kind of bounce around inside this this sort of
series of events denialand and it's not always linear, right, it's not always
linear. And what they're gonna do is they're going to find a way to
do that that lowers their stress level to whatever degree they need it lowered.
But the point to all of this, it's making it through this to acceptance,
and acceptance is where you actually get to become another person, a different
person, a better person, a bigger person, the person you want to
be, the person you wish to be. And the thing I would tell
you about this is one of the best definitions I've ever heard for maturity was
a guy by the name of Fritz Pearls. He's a little bit of a
wild man, but he was a therapist back in the sixties and seventies.
I think he passed away maybe in the eighties, and he said, the
maturity is the ability to tolerate frustrated desire alone. Maturity is the ability to
tolerate frustrated desire alone. And what he was saying is you need to be
able to be at the top of that stress curve and tolerate it. And
still get to be okay nice, And that is really if you can do
that, you automatically kind of begin to move down the other side to acceptance.
So it's this bargaining thing. And so a resolution when your listeners out
there, when they make a resolution, know that this is coming, Realize
that it's out there waiting for you for and yes, stipulate it. And
then the test for yourself is to be able to tolerate that that experience,
realize you're going to be okay, stay in it and kind of move through
the experience to the end and realize that that everything you're looking for is down
the other side a bit and again, and if you need somebody to kind
of walk you through this this sometimes there's a piece of learning in here that
people just never never got during the course of their life. They never they
were never able to kind of tolerate an experience where they didn't begin to bargain
with themselves. And sometimes we need someone to help us be able to do
that differently, to actually make a decision and stick on it. If somebody
would like to get your help, how do they get a hold They can
reach me. You can look me up on the internet. Soo Fall Hypnosis
dot com. You can certainly call me at six oh five seven zero two
sixty six nine one. Very nice and this time of year, a lot
of resolutions being made to lose weight, to quit smoking, less stress in
your life. Those are things that he can definitely help you at least get
in the right direction. Figure out how can I do this for me?
And if you're ready to do that again, reach out to doctor Dan.
I'm going to throw a link to his page at Facebook dot com slash Sunny
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listening to the John ed Heidi Show. Excited a visit right now with an
actor and a comedian, Dale Dimkowski, and he is going to be at
Snowjamcomedy Festival coming up in a few weeks. Dale, how are you?
I'm great, John, Thank you? How you doing? I am fantastic.
I was watching some of your stand up comedy before we made the call
here, and you're a funny guy, and you were in the in the
video you were pointing out that you have hearing aids and I think that it's
amazing to me the technology we have today. But have you had those your
whole life? How long have you had that? Yeah? Yeah, that's
quite funny. The technology is quite amazing. I've had I've been wearing hearing
agents that's three years old, so kinda if you can remember back to when
we had, you know, rotary phones and landlines. Yeah, and how
far technology has gone from from just our phones and digital technology. That's the
same thing happened with hearing age. That was wearing these analoged hearing aids that
wrapped around my ears that were visible for everybody to see to today where you
know, you would never know that I will hearing age if I didn't tell
you, well, I've got a friend that has an implant and he can
connect his phone to this thing that's inside of his head. So he had
his phone in his pocket and he's talking and I'm looking around, like who
are you talking to? And he goes, no, No, I have
an implant. Am I goes no, I was on my phone. I'm
like, I thought I was going crazy for a second. There that's a
co clear implant. He has it. That's a very death person. Yeah,
I don't know, it's he speaks very clearly. Everything works fine,
but it's you know again, the technology is amazing today. No, it's
incredible the fact that we can go to our phones and just make the adjustments.
So I was talking about I can actually probably hear better than you can
now because the hearing aids know that when I'm in a loud restaurant that I
don't want to hear the background there is. I just want to hear the
noise in front of me. Yeah. Absolutely fascinating. So how long have
you been doing stand up comedy and what was it that got you interested in
doing this? So I've been doing I started ten years ago with a three
year break where I thought I wouldn't do stand up comedy anymore. So I
say, I've been doing comedy for seven years, but I started ten years
ago. And what happened was I turned forty and I wanted to do the
thing that scared me the most, and as an act out in LA I
thought, stand up comedy doesn't get any scarier than that. And I see
a friend do it that I was in acting classes with, and I was
like, she's great up there. I really liked her on stage. I
didn't like her in real life, but I liked her when you're on stage.
I could do that. And I've always been a writer. I always
like to write, and it just sort of seemed like a natural. And
then once I started doing I just sort of fell in love with it.
And it's just I sort of I can't not do it now. And we're
excited to have you at the Snowjam Comedy Festival January eighteen, nineteen twenty and
twenty one. It's sneaking right up. Have you been to Sue Falls before?
I have never been to Sue Rog's South Dakota or North Dakota for that
matter. That's one of the things that I love about doing stand up comedy
is where it takes me, take me to places that probably wouldn't otherwise get
to you, and I'm very excited about coming next month. Well, we're
excited to have you come and join us. And again, this is a
fundraiser for Dappa Dakota Academy of Performing Arts. So I think it's really cool
you as an actor and all of these stand up comics, performing artists that
are going to be helping raise money for the next generation performing arts. I
think that's just a really neat thing. Wonderful love it. So let's talk
about your style of comedy For people who maybe haven't had a chance to see
you, what are they going to see while you're joining us here at Snowjam
Comedy Festival. I like to say that I'm influenced by George Carlin and Bill
Maher, So I have a little bit of a political and social commentary with
my comedy, but also eclectic relationships, family, everyday stuff puckered in with
some lighthearted and good natured sort of discussion about social issues that most people in
casual settings kind of shy away from. Well, I'm excited to see you
here and I'm excited to meet you in person. Thanks for taking the time
to chat today. It's been my pleasure, John. I can't wait to
see you and again. Dale is one of the several comics. It's all
over thirty comedians. It'll be embarking on a little journey to come to Soup
Fall South Dakota January eighteenth, nineteenth, twentieth and twenty first, and it's
all for charity. It's to raise money for DAPPA Dakota Academy Performing Arts.
It's all part of Snowjamcomedy Festival and sadly the final year of Snowjam, but
we're going out on top. It's going to be a great event. If
you'd like to get tickets, you can get them now at Snowjamcomedyfest dot com.
That's s n O Jam against Snowjamcomedyfest dot com. Invite your friends and
family over to make memories with a fun game night. Very Special Games dot
Com has five fun games that will help everyone have a blast. Games like
Ransom Notes, the Ridiculous word Magnet game Abduction, a weirdly strategic game of
Doug kidnapping VENs with benefits, the hilarious event diagram game, Puns of Anarchy,
the outrageous pun making game and Charity Party, the game of absurdly funny
charts. Find these fun games and more at very special games dot com.
That's very special games dot com.