WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.600 --> 00:00:03.000 We talk about cheating a lot on the show. As a matter of fact, 2 00:00:03.080 --> 00:00:05.719 right now, as we're recording this, in the background on the radio 3 00:00:05.759 --> 00:00:09.640 station, there is a War of the Roses episode Plane. Earlier this morning, 4 00:00:09.640 --> 00:00:13.359 we talked about Andrew, and I know you've heard about Andrew a lot. 5 00:00:13.400 --> 00:00:17.679 Andrew was cheating with a woman at work and blah blah blah. So 6 00:00:19.760 --> 00:00:22.960 is there a double standard? And we've talked about this a little bit before. 7 00:00:23.519 --> 00:00:27.280 When a guy cheats, he's an awful, terrible, terrible pig and 8 00:00:27.359 --> 00:00:31.920 he should have his life ruined. But when a woman cheats, sometimes it's 9 00:00:32.000 --> 00:00:35.280 kind of celebrated. Not always, but let me tell you what I mean 10 00:00:35.399 --> 00:00:39.520 right now. So, I know somebody who knows somebody. So a friend 11 00:00:39.520 --> 00:00:43.679 of a friend. She's married, not particularly happy, but not unhappy enough 12 00:00:43.719 --> 00:00:46.560 to get a divorce. He just never pays any attention to her. He's 13 00:00:46.560 --> 00:00:50.200 always off doing something else. So she met somebody at work. She's been 14 00:00:50.240 --> 00:00:54.200 banging this guy four or five or six times and they continue to do it. 15 00:00:54.399 --> 00:00:58.280 And she has told him this is not do not he's married too, 16 00:00:58.719 --> 00:01:00.719 do not leave your wife. I am this is just for fun. And 17 00:01:00.759 --> 00:01:03.079 he's like, oh, I'm getting kind of serious. So guess what, 18 00:01:03.840 --> 00:01:07.760 she's kind of pushed him on the back burner. Now she's sleeping with another 19 00:01:07.879 --> 00:01:15.599 guy and her friend, who is a wonderful professional woman with kids. She's 20 00:01:15.719 --> 00:01:21.439 like kind of celebrating it, like, you know what, good for you? 21 00:01:21.719 --> 00:01:23.680 Yeah, go get your freak on. You're not getting sex from your 22 00:01:23.719 --> 00:01:27.319 husband, Go do your thing. Just be careful. Is there a double 23 00:01:27.400 --> 00:01:30.680 standard because as a guy, I don't think I know any guys who I 24 00:01:30.920 --> 00:01:36.120 know are cheating and are proud of it or expect me to go, yeah, 25 00:01:36.200 --> 00:01:38.120 dude, you go get that ass, because I never would. You 26 00:01:38.200 --> 00:01:45.000 know, what do you think, Jenny? I think that it's hard for 27 00:01:45.040 --> 00:01:48.799 me to say because my life experience has not evolved knowing many married people who 28 00:01:48.799 --> 00:01:52.560 are cheating. Okay, So it's very hard for me to pass judgment on 29 00:01:52.640 --> 00:01:56.439 either men or women in that situation right now because I do not honestly know 30 00:01:56.560 --> 00:02:00.920 people who have done that. Okay, But I would say that you find 31 00:02:01.000 --> 00:02:07.599 sympathy usually with your girlfriends. So girlfriends are going to like sympathize with their 32 00:02:07.599 --> 00:02:10.439 other girlfriends and feel bad for them if they hear about like this awful relationship 33 00:02:10.479 --> 00:02:15.560 that they're in. So you're just going to like automatically think your friend most 34 00:02:15.599 --> 00:02:19.520 likely is not a super horrible person because that's your friend, and you know 35 00:02:19.599 --> 00:02:22.199 everything about that. And that's right that you said it all because you know 36 00:02:22.280 --> 00:02:27.759 everything about them, you know that they're a wonderful person that's having an affair 37 00:02:28.360 --> 00:02:30.680 or that's slept with somebody else besides their husband. But I think this like 38 00:02:30.719 --> 00:02:36.560 with Andrew, that nobody liked Andrew because nobody knew anything about him, Yeah, 39 00:02:36.599 --> 00:02:38.639 except that he is cheating with a twenty five year old. Yeah. 40 00:02:38.680 --> 00:02:43.439 So I mean when we had that one girl on who she didn't know if 41 00:02:43.439 --> 00:02:46.599 she was going to be having a child with either her husband or her or 42 00:02:46.639 --> 00:02:51.400 the limo driver or the limo driver, and people brought her to judgment for 43 00:02:51.439 --> 00:02:54.159 that. I think people were like, that's so sketchy, like you should 44 00:02:54.159 --> 00:02:58.800 tell your husband, and she was just waiting to see how the baby came 45 00:02:58.800 --> 00:03:02.280 out in case because the limo driver was a different race. And so I 46 00:03:02.319 --> 00:03:07.199 think people do judge, But I also think that people base their judgment off 47 00:03:07.280 --> 00:03:12.360 of their life experience. So if they know people who have cheated, if 48 00:03:12.360 --> 00:03:15.759 they've cheated themselves, then they're more sympathetic. I think it's true, But 49 00:03:15.840 --> 00:03:19.719 I really like what you said. If I know more about you than that 50 00:03:19.759 --> 00:03:22.919 you're just a cheater. It's kind of like the reason we hate people in 51 00:03:22.960 --> 00:03:25.520 a road rate road rays incident is because the only thing we know about them 52 00:03:25.560 --> 00:03:30.319 is they cut us off. We don't know that they are a wonderful mother 53 00:03:30.800 --> 00:03:34.439 and a great sister, or that their mom has cancer all we know. 54 00:03:34.599 --> 00:03:38.400 So I think when people like categorize make a blanket statement about this person is 55 00:03:38.439 --> 00:03:42.360 a horrible person because they cheated, it is because you don't know anything about 56 00:03:42.360 --> 00:03:46.960 them except that. But you know your friends. So my friend that knows 57 00:03:47.000 --> 00:03:53.879 her friend that's cheating knows that she's wonderful, educated, professional, good mother, 58 00:03:53.919 --> 00:03:55.039 et cetera, et cetera. All right, let's move on. We 59 00:03:55.159 --> 00:03:59.360 got a lot of questions we got to catch up too, so let's go 60 00:03:59.479 --> 00:04:03.599 back a couple of days. This is kind of funny. I couldn't help 61 00:04:03.599 --> 00:04:08.240 myself. I listened to the two sisters about the fishnet stocking tattoos. The 62 00:04:08.319 --> 00:04:11.759 story was basically, there was two sisters on the phone. They're both six 63 00:04:11.800 --> 00:04:15.560 foot tall, they both had long, lovely legs, and they're both very 64 00:04:15.560 --> 00:04:19.240 proud of them and one sister wanted to get full leg fishnet stocking tattoos. 65 00:04:19.600 --> 00:04:24.000 The other one said, you're crazy. We both have beautiful legs. You're 66 00:04:24.000 --> 00:04:29.240 twenty four, don't mess this up. My tattoo story nineteen ninety seven. 67 00:04:29.279 --> 00:04:32.399 I was freshly eighteen and a group of girls from high school set out to 68 00:04:32.439 --> 00:04:34.759 get tattoos together. What an adventure, I told my mom. I'm going 69 00:04:34.839 --> 00:04:39.240 to get a bumblebee. Okay, cool. Fast forward to the day of 70 00:04:39.279 --> 00:04:42.879 the tattoo. This was before the internet. So we go to the tattoo 71 00:04:42.879 --> 00:04:45.959 parlor. You flipped through a large book and you pick the one you like 72 00:04:46.040 --> 00:04:48.199 best. To my dismay, there was no bumblebee. So I got the 73 00:04:48.240 --> 00:04:53.920 closest thing, a hornet. Happy with my selection, I went home showed 74 00:04:53.920 --> 00:04:58.199 it to my mom and she said, that's not a fucking bumblebee. That's 75 00:04:58.240 --> 00:05:00.800 a hornet, and when you're forty years old, it's going to be a 76 00:05:00.920 --> 00:05:08.079 goddamn condor. Oh. I was so sad she didn't like it. Anyway, 77 00:05:08.240 --> 00:05:11.560 time has gone on, and for my fortieth birthday, I decided to 78 00:05:11.600 --> 00:05:15.839 get my tattoos redone because of fading and changing trends. Needless to say, 79 00:05:15.879 --> 00:05:17.959 my hornet is now a bumble me and my mom likes it very much, 80 00:05:18.319 --> 00:05:21.480 even though it never turned into a condor. Thanks for having a great morning 81 00:05:21.519 --> 00:05:26.399 show, Lacy, Lacy, thanks for a great story. That's funny. 82 00:05:26.759 --> 00:05:30.519 That's not a fucking bumblebee. That's a hornet. Okay, that's funny. 83 00:05:30.560 --> 00:05:33.680 All right, Moving back to another one that goes back a couple of days. 84 00:05:33.680 --> 00:05:40.319 We're doing a little catch up here, Morning show crew. Dave, 85 00:05:40.360 --> 00:05:43.399 you wrote a book, so it's mostly directed at you, but would love 86 00:05:43.480 --> 00:05:46.199 Jenny's thoughts as well. I lost my mom two years ago. She was 87 00:05:46.279 --> 00:05:49.720 my best friend, and her death, the entire process of grief has knocked 88 00:05:49.759 --> 00:05:53.920 me off my feet. The level of grief is something you can't comprehend until 89 00:05:53.959 --> 00:05:57.279 it happens to you. I'm so sorry to hear about that. Even two 90 00:05:57.319 --> 00:06:01.199 years later, it still will hurt. It'll hurt forever. You'll never quite 91 00:06:01.199 --> 00:06:03.920 get over that loss. You'll learn to deal with it. I'm an avid 92 00:06:03.959 --> 00:06:06.800 reader, and I searched for books to help me try and understand griefs shortly 93 00:06:06.800 --> 00:06:12.040 after my mom passed. Most I found were self help books, religious books, 94 00:06:12.079 --> 00:06:14.879 journal prompts. None that really worked for me. I didn't find any 95 00:06:14.920 --> 00:06:19.439 literature on an ugly side of grief that I found myself dealing with lack of 96 00:06:19.480 --> 00:06:24.639 support from friends. Besides liking a picture that I posted my mom on social 97 00:06:24.639 --> 00:06:28.319 media, there's really no follow through or checking up on how I'm doing from 98 00:06:28.319 --> 00:06:31.319 people who are really close to me. Minus those initial first week when people 99 00:06:31.319 --> 00:06:35.360 send food and flowers. It all just abruptly ends after those first few weeks 100 00:06:35.360 --> 00:06:39.839 and people move on with their lives. That's really sad. Yeah, I 101 00:06:39.879 --> 00:06:43.000 think a lot of the time we don't know what to say, or you 102 00:06:43.040 --> 00:06:46.959 haven't experienced what she's going through. Yes, with that being said, I 103 00:06:47.040 --> 00:06:51.000 was so lost those first few months after losing her. I started writing all 104 00:06:51.040 --> 00:06:55.959 that I was experiencing with grief and loss, and continued to write today two 105 00:06:56.040 --> 00:06:58.680 years later. If I really sat down and worked on this, I could 106 00:06:58.680 --> 00:07:00.839 see becoming a book, the type of book I would have loved to had 107 00:07:00.839 --> 00:07:05.959 had access to after I lost my mom. So here is the title and 108 00:07:06.040 --> 00:07:12.959 the name of the chapters. I have title my Mom Died Now What and 109 00:07:13.199 --> 00:07:17.000 elder Millennials first year navigating grief learning it really sucks? Plus insight on how 110 00:07:17.040 --> 00:07:21.600 we can do better supporting people we love. I love the title. I 111 00:07:21.680 --> 00:07:26.680 think your descriptive little sidebars too long. But I do like the idea of 112 00:07:26.680 --> 00:07:30.079 a descriptive sidebar, but I'm not an expert. Table of contents. The 113 00:07:30.120 --> 00:07:35.199 ship, they don't tell you. Two when the shock wears off, Three 114 00:07:35.439 --> 00:07:40.759 the little things. Four, Friends and family will disappoint you. Five, 115 00:07:40.879 --> 00:07:45.439 there's no such thing as closure. Six go to therapy, find a support 116 00:07:45.480 --> 00:07:48.160 group. What now here are my questions? Without being able to read the 117 00:07:48.160 --> 00:07:50.879 book? So I know it's hard to say. Does this concept sound like 118 00:07:50.920 --> 00:07:57.120 something people would be interested in? Please be honest, one hundred percent yes. 119 00:07:58.040 --> 00:08:01.000 If you couldn't find the book that worked for you, there's probably a 120 00:08:01.000 --> 00:08:03.279 lot of other people that can't find the book that works for them, and 121 00:08:03.399 --> 00:08:07.839 the work is a weird thing to define, Like, is there a book 122 00:08:07.959 --> 00:08:13.040 that will make you go I'm okay, no, absolutely not. I've done 123 00:08:13.079 --> 00:08:15.759 basic Google searches on how to publish a book, how to search for an 124 00:08:15.800 --> 00:08:18.600 Asian and editors. But I wanted to know if you Dave had had any 125 00:08:18.600 --> 00:08:22.319 insight that you share on how to get your book out there and certain steps 126 00:08:22.360 --> 00:08:26.120 that work for you. Longtime fan and listener, Hope this wasn't too long. 127 00:08:26.160 --> 00:08:28.800 I will end with the obligatory dart lick, so you know it's real. 128 00:08:30.000 --> 00:08:33.799 I finding a publisher that will pay for everything is extremely difficult, especially 129 00:08:33.840 --> 00:08:37.279 for a first time writer. It does happen, but I would what I 130 00:08:37.320 --> 00:08:41.559 did. I paid to publish my book. I paid out of my own 131 00:08:41.600 --> 00:08:43.480 pocket to publish my book, and I will my next two books as well. 132 00:08:45.320 --> 00:08:48.840 I went to a company called wise Ink I n K look them up 133 00:08:48.879 --> 00:08:54.399 online. They will walk you through everything. It's not free and it's not 134 00:08:54.600 --> 00:08:58.559 cheap, but they will come up with a remarkable finished product. I'm going 135 00:08:58.600 --> 00:09:03.200 to tell you that this also, don't think you're going to quit your job 136 00:09:03.240 --> 00:09:07.320 and become a traveling touring author, because you're not likely to have that happen. 137 00:09:07.840 --> 00:09:13.759 Get a couple of hundred book copies published, and don't plan on making 138 00:09:13.759 --> 00:09:16.080 any money off of it. So don't let anybody talk you into having five 139 00:09:16.120 --> 00:09:20.480 thousand copies published. You will sell a couple hundred. It will sit in 140 00:09:20.519 --> 00:09:22.960 your basement. But they can help you market, get your book into bookstores, 141 00:09:24.320 --> 00:09:26.000 help you with social media. Why and it's not a plug. They're 142 00:09:26.000 --> 00:09:31.919 not giving me anything free. Whys inc I n K talk to Dara and 143 00:09:31.039 --> 00:09:37.320 her team at wise inc. They're wonderful and so good. Yeah, okay, 144 00:09:37.320 --> 00:09:41.240 next one, how are we doing for time? Jenny? Were doing 145 00:09:41.279 --> 00:09:43.399 okay, yeah, we got some time? Okay, good. I will 146 00:09:43.399 --> 00:09:48.559 pose a question to you all. I'm the friend of my group. While 147 00:09:48.559 --> 00:09:50.240 everybody has started to settled down to get married, my love life is a 148 00:09:50.320 --> 00:09:56.480 disaster. So basically, they want to do a social media presence starting on 149 00:09:56.480 --> 00:10:03.240 TikTok insta Facebook YouTube about my funny dating stories. But I want to be 150 00:10:03.279 --> 00:10:07.080 respectful of the women that I meet. I'll never use names, obviously, 151 00:10:07.120 --> 00:10:09.120 but I still worry I'll let something slip would identify who they are, so 152 00:10:09.240 --> 00:10:13.919 to be safe, I just avoid those stories altogether. But I want to 153 00:10:13.919 --> 00:10:18.279 know would this make a good another book question? Would it make a good 154 00:10:18.279 --> 00:10:22.360 book? I'm not as high on this idea because I'll be honest with you, 155 00:10:22.960 --> 00:10:26.840 everybody has got funny dating stories, and we all think, Jared, 156 00:10:26.919 --> 00:10:30.320 I love you, they are funny, I'm sure, but we all think 157 00:10:30.360 --> 00:10:33.840 our dating stories are hysterical and a lot of the time they're funny, but 158 00:10:33.919 --> 00:10:37.759 they're not something that I would read in a book. But I don't know 159 00:10:37.960 --> 00:10:41.600 any thoughts on this, Jenny. So they have a bunch of funny dating 160 00:10:41.639 --> 00:10:43.080 stories. They want to make a book out of it. I think going 161 00:10:43.159 --> 00:10:48.919 to social media route is your best bet because people your best Oh yeah, 162 00:10:48.919 --> 00:10:52.240 people live for the TikTok stories about bad dates. I sit and watch some, 163 00:10:52.360 --> 00:10:56.559 and I'm very much taken in a happy relationship and I'm not in that 164 00:10:56.600 --> 00:11:00.200 world at all anymore. So I think that the social media route it is 165 00:11:00.240 --> 00:11:01.559 definitely the way that you should go. I think a lot of people are 166 00:11:01.679 --> 00:11:05.320 entertaining. The one thing, though, is you got to keep your stories 167 00:11:05.759 --> 00:11:11.440 to the point. Because when I saw TikTok and I see that, like 168 00:11:11.519 --> 00:11:13.559 there's a little bar on the bottom and you can see how long it's going 169 00:11:13.600 --> 00:11:16.840 to be. Yes, if I see that that story is three and a 170 00:11:16.840 --> 00:11:20.120 half minutes long, that's too long. And I know that you might need 171 00:11:20.120 --> 00:11:22.799 that long to tell your story because that's how wild the date was, but 172 00:11:22.919 --> 00:11:26.559 it's just too long. You have to concise it. You got to cut 173 00:11:26.559 --> 00:11:28.120 out some of the meat of it, even though you think that it's important 174 00:11:28.159 --> 00:11:33.519 for the story. It's so funny because we love when people call the show 175 00:11:35.519 --> 00:11:39.279 and we love when people tell stories on the show. But once in a 176 00:11:39.320 --> 00:11:43.840 while we'll get somebody who will tell a story something like this. So I 177 00:11:43.879 --> 00:11:46.240 had a date with this guy. His name was Carl. Well, his 178 00:11:46.799 --> 00:11:52.159 nickname was Carl because he loved Carl Eller from the Vikings and so anyway, 179 00:11:52.240 --> 00:11:56.120 so he loved the Vikings. And we met at Caribou and he was like 180 00:11:56.200 --> 00:12:00.759 five minutes late. So he comes in and he's like, you know, 181 00:12:00.799 --> 00:12:03.120 first of all, he's acting. Jenny and I are looking at each other 182 00:12:03.159 --> 00:12:05.679 like, holy fuck, get to the fucking point. We want to know 183 00:12:05.679 --> 00:12:09.440 what happened. We don't care about his nickname, right, but people, 184 00:12:09.960 --> 00:12:13.600 it's Jenny and I tell stories for a living, so we kind of know 185 00:12:15.480 --> 00:12:18.759 what to cut out. And you would be amazed at the ship you can 186 00:12:18.759 --> 00:12:22.000 cut out of a story and still make it a powerful story. So I'm 187 00:12:22.000 --> 00:12:24.639 going to give you an example of a very short story, but I could 188 00:12:24.639 --> 00:12:28.240 make it a really long story if I wanted to. I was driving in 189 00:12:28.240 --> 00:12:30.559 Phoenix. I owned a Porsche. At the time, I spent way too 190 00:12:30.639 --> 00:12:33.720 much money on my car. I owned a Porsche. I was driving behind 191 00:12:33.720 --> 00:12:37.320 a big semi truck and I got pulled over. The cop drew his gun 192 00:12:37.399 --> 00:12:41.399 on me and told me get out of the car. I'm like, what 193 00:12:41.480 --> 00:12:45.279 the fuck whatever he thinks I did, I didn't do. He made me 194 00:12:45.320 --> 00:12:46.720 put my hands up on the hood of the car, searched me. Other 195 00:12:46.759 --> 00:12:50.519 cops came screeching in the parking lot, putting their guns away. They thought 196 00:12:50.600 --> 00:12:54.679 that I was part of a stolen Porsche ring because the truck I was following 197 00:12:54.759 --> 00:12:58.200 was full of stolen Porsches. So they thought. Now I told that story 198 00:12:58.279 --> 00:13:01.799 and maybe thirty is seconds I could, and it was still good. I 199 00:13:01.840 --> 00:13:05.600 could have told it with a few more details and maybe made it a little 200 00:13:05.639 --> 00:13:09.200 bit better. But what I didn't need to do was talk about the road 201 00:13:09.240 --> 00:13:11.919 that I was driving on, whether it was sunny that day or cloudy. 202 00:13:11.000 --> 00:13:13.840 Were you speeding, were you not speeding? Was that what was going through 203 00:13:13.879 --> 00:13:16.879 your head? Like, Oh, he could have pulled me over for speeding. 204 00:13:16.919 --> 00:13:18.639 Maybe I ran this spread light. That's exactly true. Yeah, so 205 00:13:20.080 --> 00:13:22.320 again, I mean, and I think that's the thing is like, when 206 00:13:22.399 --> 00:13:26.360 you are telling a story, there's so much you can cut out of the 207 00:13:26.399 --> 00:13:28.840 story, and what you can do later is go back and give some of 208 00:13:28.879 --> 00:13:31.960 the details. So anyway, let's move on. Jenny and I are the 209 00:13:33.000 --> 00:13:35.799 same age. Facebook was just emerging when I was in senior in high school. 210 00:13:35.799 --> 00:13:39.080 I remember thinking I don't get it, I'm not interested. So I 211 00:13:39.240 --> 00:13:46.320 just joined Facebook this year. Okay, says this person. I joined a 212 00:13:46.320 --> 00:13:50.559 group for parents of children with autism. The group allows you to ask questions 213 00:13:50.960 --> 00:13:56.120 and have autistic adults respond. The whole point is to enable learning firsthand. 214 00:13:56.120 --> 00:14:01.080 While I posted a question and it was misrepresented or misinterpreted by one person who 215 00:14:01.159 --> 00:14:07.600 said the famous internet words educate yourself among the things, which made me feel 216 00:14:07.639 --> 00:14:11.039 sick to my stomach and upset me so much because they accused me of not 217 00:14:11.159 --> 00:14:16.639 accepting my own child. The whole point of me asking my question was to 218 00:14:16.759 --> 00:14:22.000 educate myself. I'm trying to understand from autistic individuals. I responded to the 219 00:14:22.039 --> 00:14:24.480 individual that, in fairness, I don't have experience with autism, and I'm 220 00:14:24.559 --> 00:14:28.159 likely to get things wronger ask things in the wrong way. But that's why 221 00:14:28.200 --> 00:14:31.919 I'm asking, is to learn. That is my first and last experience with 222 00:14:31.960 --> 00:14:35.919 posting to social media as an adult. I know, shake it off, 223 00:14:37.399 --> 00:14:41.120 it's a stranger, but look how much they're common affected me. Yeah, 224 00:14:41.559 --> 00:14:46.080 it does, and you are not unique in that. I now can understand 225 00:14:46.120 --> 00:14:50.799 better how much negative impact of social media is on the mental health of children 226 00:14:50.840 --> 00:14:54.600 and teens. While there are trolls out there, even well intended questions and 227 00:14:54.639 --> 00:14:58.799 messages can be interpreted, leading to unproductive and defensive back and forth. It's 228 00:14:58.799 --> 00:15:01.159 not healthy. I'm glad I didn't grow up in the area of air of 229 00:15:01.200 --> 00:15:05.120 social media. I hear you guys talk about the negative crap you receive on 230 00:15:05.159 --> 00:15:07.000 social media. I don't know how you do it being public figures of the 231 00:15:07.000 --> 00:15:11.360 amount of trolls. Keep up the good work you do and focus on the 232 00:15:11.399 --> 00:15:16.039 positive. Thanks from Joe. I'm sorry you went through that. Some of 233 00:15:16.039 --> 00:15:22.840 the most famous words on the internet are educate yourself, which means come around 234 00:15:22.840 --> 00:15:26.519 to my opinion, and I also, yeah, that's exactly what it means. 235 00:15:26.679 --> 00:15:28.919 I was saying. Also, I think a lot of people who say 236 00:15:28.080 --> 00:15:33.080 those words are people who they themselves need to educate themselves. No, it's 237 00:15:33.120 --> 00:15:37.320 true, and we get once in a while somebody will send a really shitty 238 00:15:37.360 --> 00:15:41.519 comment to the show and I'll write back and say something like, now say 239 00:15:41.600 --> 00:15:45.840 something nice, and a lot of the time you go, oh, I'm 240 00:15:45.879 --> 00:15:48.639 sorry, you know what I should have said, you know what, I 241 00:15:48.679 --> 00:15:50.840 love you guys, whatever, But sometimes people just want to be shitty, 242 00:15:52.200 --> 00:15:56.279 and they just there's there are trolls, but it is totally normal to be 243 00:15:56.399 --> 00:16:06.200 really affected and hurt by one troll. Lord, okay this it says, 244 00:16:06.240 --> 00:16:10.399 Hello, BFFs, Can I vent for a minute. I'm a nurse and 245 00:16:10.440 --> 00:16:14.600 sometimes patients frustrate the hell out of me. When we're asking you, the 246 00:16:14.639 --> 00:16:18.360 patient, if there's a history of something in your family. We don't care 247 00:16:18.559 --> 00:16:22.240 how severe it is or if you take meds for it. We just want 248 00:16:22.279 --> 00:16:26.879 to know if there's a fucking history. Wow, Okay, I like this. 249 00:16:26.200 --> 00:16:30.159 And when we tell you we're only looking at history from your parents, 250 00:16:30.200 --> 00:16:33.799 your grandparents, or siblings or children. We don't want to know about your 251 00:16:33.840 --> 00:16:37.639 aunts and uncles, So and so's sister. Answer my questions and let me 252 00:16:37.679 --> 00:16:41.080 get the fuck out of the room so the doctor can come in and talk 253 00:16:41.080 --> 00:16:42.960 to you. I love this so much that this person is ranting and getting 254 00:16:42.960 --> 00:16:47.120 this off their chest. I don't get paid enough to listen all your other 255 00:16:47.200 --> 00:16:49.919 bullshit people. When you go to the doctor, most questions are yes or 256 00:16:51.000 --> 00:16:56.200 no. Please don't adding any extra information on that. Thank you, Love 257 00:16:56.240 --> 00:16:57.480 you guys. Really enjoying the new setup. Way to go, Dave, 258 00:16:57.559 --> 00:17:00.240 Jenny Drake. You guys have a great thing and going your friend, Patty 259 00:17:00.559 --> 00:17:04.240 dart lick, dart lick, dart lick, Oh three dark wow, aggressive 260 00:17:04.240 --> 00:17:08.160 Patty. I have to say that I love my dad to death, love 261 00:17:08.240 --> 00:17:12.480 him, but what my sister had her stroke this summer. He was bringing 262 00:17:12.519 --> 00:17:17.920 in so much random family history stuff that I know had nothing to do with 263 00:17:18.000 --> 00:17:22.920 the situation at hand, and the poor nurse. My older sister and I 264 00:17:22.960 --> 00:17:26.839 sat and tried to like veer the conversation in the direction and it needed to 265 00:17:26.880 --> 00:17:30.720 go. And my dad just does not shut up sometimes, Well what do 266 00:17:30.720 --> 00:17:33.079 you do? For example, Well, he was talking about my uncle, 267 00:17:33.079 --> 00:17:34.799 and maybe that does have something to do with something, but he brought up 268 00:17:34.799 --> 00:17:37.880 my uncle having a heart attack, and I just don't know that there is 269 00:17:37.920 --> 00:17:41.400 a correlation between what my sister was going through and my uncle having a heart 270 00:17:41.400 --> 00:17:45.279 attack at a young age. My uncle also was a raging alcoholic most of 271 00:17:45.319 --> 00:17:48.519 his life. I think a lot of his health problems had to do without 272 00:17:48.599 --> 00:17:52.200 He did become sober the last five ten years of his life, but I 273 00:17:52.240 --> 00:17:55.720 think a lot of it had to do with that. And then my mom 274 00:17:55.759 --> 00:17:59.240 also was there, and my parents don't exactly get along, So then she 275 00:17:59.279 --> 00:18:03.319 was getting frustrated too, and I felt bad for the poor nurse talking to 276 00:18:03.400 --> 00:18:06.559 us the whole time, just sitting there being like trying to do her best. 277 00:18:06.640 --> 00:18:08.359 And so I was like, let's just stick to the point here of 278 00:18:08.400 --> 00:18:11.039 what we need to know with my sister. Let's not go into the other 279 00:18:11.119 --> 00:18:14.559 family history. Let's see. You know what, the way you describe your 280 00:18:14.640 --> 00:18:18.640 dad that kind of sounds like I've heard you and Fallon describe your dad's enough 281 00:18:18.720 --> 00:18:22.319 that it kind of doesn't surprise me, like when I describe something that Donna 282 00:18:22.400 --> 00:18:26.440 did and it doesn't really surprise you. Good information, Patty. So when 283 00:18:26.480 --> 00:18:30.079 you go to the doctor and they say, is there a history of high 284 00:18:30.079 --> 00:18:32.279 blood pressure in your family? You don't have to talk about Yeah, my 285 00:18:32.279 --> 00:18:36.640 great uncle on my dad's side. Yeah, you talk about your parents whatever, 286 00:18:36.799 --> 00:18:41.559 answer yes or no questions. Sorry. I thought my cough was getting 287 00:18:41.559 --> 00:18:44.079 better. I know it has been. This is like the first time I've 288 00:18:44.119 --> 00:18:45.640 really heard it in the last two days. You know what's funny is when 289 00:18:45.680 --> 00:18:51.720 I think about it, it's worse. Yeah. It's like my friend Curtis, 290 00:18:51.720 --> 00:18:52.920 He's like he texted me the other days like, how's your cough? 291 00:18:53.279 --> 00:18:57.519 And I immediately started coughing when he asked me that question. Last email, 292 00:18:57.920 --> 00:19:00.359 and I love this one. We'll wrap it with this one. Although we 293 00:19:00.400 --> 00:19:03.160 did not get to a fue we'll try to get to tomorrow. I was 294 00:19:03.200 --> 00:19:07.960 listening to the Minnesota Goodbye driving my twelve year old daughter to horseback because I 295 00:19:07.000 --> 00:19:12.160 am Father of the Year. Well, she asked me what dart lick meant 296 00:19:12.680 --> 00:19:15.119 and I realized, oh, yeah, she's in the vehicle. I had 297 00:19:15.119 --> 00:19:18.960 to tell her that you play darts every week and you have a superstition that 298 00:19:18.960 --> 00:19:22.160 when you licked the tip of the dart before you throw it, you get 299 00:19:22.200 --> 00:19:26.400 better accuracy. I think we're gonna have to listen to the Minnesota Goodbye podcast 300 00:19:26.440 --> 00:19:27.920 when my kids are not in the vehicle. L L, let me tell 301 00:19:27.920 --> 00:19:30.680 you something. Pat on the back to you, dad for coming up with 302 00:19:30.759 --> 00:19:37.480 such a believable lie to cover your tracks while your daughter's in the car. 303 00:19:37.960 --> 00:19:41.079 You know what you are, Dad of the Year, So good for you. 304 00:19:42.079 --> 00:19:45.720 That is it for now. Thank you for listening to the Minnesota Goodbye. 305 00:19:45.759 --> 00:19:47.880 I think we went a little along today. We had some extra stuff, 306 00:19:47.920 --> 00:19:49.920 but we are a little bit short on email, so I'd love to 307 00:19:49.960 --> 00:19:53.160 hear what you think. Talk about cheating, talk about whether women are more 308 00:19:53.200 --> 00:20:00.240 forgiving of other women, whether you're more forgiving of someone for doing anything if 309 00:20:00.240 --> 00:20:03.359 you know that. For example, if you see somebody who carjack somebody, 310 00:20:03.640 --> 00:20:07.559 you're like, throw the book at him, lock them up. But if 311 00:20:07.559 --> 00:20:11.680 you know that they're a wonderful person and that they that's a bad example. 312 00:20:11.720 --> 00:20:15.519 I can't think of a carjack or as ever being a wonderful person, but 313 00:20:15.599 --> 00:20:18.119 you get what I'm saying. Maybe somebody who shoplifted, somebody who went into 314 00:20:18.400 --> 00:20:22.039 Target and shoplifted a bunch of tide pods, you're like, oh, they're 315 00:20:22.039 --> 00:20:26.359 an asshole. But if you know them and you know that they were just 316 00:20:26.599 --> 00:20:32.519 so tired of being broke they couldn't even afford laundry soap, then you start 317 00:20:32.559 --> 00:20:34.599 to you know what I mean. So any thoughts on that sindals to me 318 00:20:34.720 --> 00:20:40.359 to Ryan Show at k DWB dot com, and thank you for listening to 319 00:20:40.359 --> 00:20:41.279 the Minnesota Goodbye,