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Heidi Show. Excited to have doctor
Dan from Sioux Falls Hypnosis in the studio.

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How you doing, sir? Howdyd
Excited to chat with you. We

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talked last week a little bit about
stress. We've talked also about weight loss,

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and we've talked about, you know, stopping smoke smoking. So a

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lot of different things that people are
utilizing hypnosis to help them achieve their goals.

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But one of the things we're going
to talk about right now is one

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that I guess I hadn't even instantly
thought about this, but to just kind

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of boost your confidence. People help
help people with anxiety, and that's a

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pretty big deal too. To call
it confidence call it is a strategy to

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succeed that's something. You know.
Confidence is sort of the the that's the

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word most people will use for it. But let's say you're doing something and

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you want to be better at it, you want to be more effective,

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you want to be more you know
able to to you know, do more

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of it, or do it in
a different way, or do it at

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higher caliber, or whatever it is
you're looking for. And confidence is kind

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of the word we use to cover
all of that. And the idea is

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and we talked a little bit about
this when we were talking about stress is

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you know, Janis Joplin, me
and Bobby McGee. Freedom is just another

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word for nothing left to lose,
you know. That is that's the secret

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to confidence is again to know you're
going to be okay no matter what.

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To realize it's okay to fail,
it's okay to to to try and fail

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or not get it right or not
get it the way you want it,

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and then to be able to try
again. And the problem with confidence or

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succeeding or becoming good at something is
that we try and we're a little bit

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nervous, we're worried, maybe even
fearful when we try, and then it

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doesn't work out. The way we
hoped it would, thought it would worked

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so hard for and then we have
an emotional reaction to that. We don't

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get to be okay. We failed, and we don't get to be okay.

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So what that means is that we
don't really get to learn from what

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just took place. We're supposed to
Life is a trial and error endeavor.

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You try and you fail, and
the idea is is we're supposed to be

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free and okay, so that we
can learn from that experience, so we

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can look at it and say,
Okay, I'm gonna do this little differently.

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I'm gonna try this a little differently. I'm gonna do this, you

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know, I'm gonna try to kind
of learn what I need to learn here,

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and then I'm gonna try again.
And that really is when people are

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struggling to feel confident, when they're
struggling to succeed. It's generally because the

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emotional reactions that they're having when they
fail are making it hard to actually learn

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what they need to learn and then
to be okay enough to just go out

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and try again. You you've done
a lot of radio sales. I would

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assume you know you're going to hear
the word no, you're going to hear

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no, I don't think so,
or we don't. People may get angry

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or frustrated with your point is you
have to be able to take that in,

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learn from it, make some adjustments, and go ahead and do it

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again, and feel okay about you
and what you're doing and who you are,

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and don't internalize it. Some people
think it, oh, they hate.

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And that is the message that we
carry inside us is it has to

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be okay to fail, and a
lot of us, when we grow up,

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we kind of get stuck in this
place where it's not okay to fail.

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It's not okay to have to learn
anything, which is really what failure.

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If I'm afraid of failing, what
I am is I'm in a place

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where I can no longer learn.
I can no longer learn and use that

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learning to change and become better,
which is the very thing that all of

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us want in the first place.
Absolutely, And so you have to be

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able to be okay even when you
make a mistake. It has to be

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all right to not know the answer. It has to be okay to fall

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down and pick yourself back up again. But the problem is is that many

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of us struggle with that, and
that's a's two false sagnosis. One of

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the things we do is we focus
on that learning and being able to to

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learn that in a little different way. You get to be okay, you

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get to make mistakes. It is
all right to do that. You are

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a good person even if you make
a mistake. And as a matter of

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fact, trial and error isn't the
problem. It's the preferred way of living

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your life. Oh yeah, you
have to be able to do it.

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If you can't do it, you're
gonna have all kinds of anxiety, all

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kinds of struggles, all kinds of
difficulties succeeding at the things you want to

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succeed at. And so that's that's
kind of a it's a very offhand a

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brief way to summarize it. Got
to be okay even when you fall down

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and you do that, you have
all the confidence in the world. And

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there are probably some careers and some
you know, chosen paths in life where

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confidence maybe is more front and center. I think it's important for everybody to

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be confident, but there are some
things where you need to be Like if

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you're an attorney and you're getting up
in front of a you know, I

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remember watching a TV show where they
had this attorney that was bumbling everything and

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he was unsure of himself, and
it was it was a comedy, it

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was funny, you know, but
I kept thinking, who would want to

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have that journey? You know?
So, and it was he was lacking

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confidence. But there are people who
and I think generationally, there are some

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things that we in our generation maybe
think of as confidence that maybe a generation

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or two down the line don't even
think of, like eye contact right and

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a strong handshake and things that we
kind of associate with confidence. And that's

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really being comfortable enough in the moment. It's like when you first learned to

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be when you're first becoming a doing
radio, becoming a DJ, you're nervous

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about it. Now you know you
him, and you haul a little bit

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and you second guess yourself and you're
thinking in your head while you're trying to

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do your job at the same time, and it gets awkward and weird.

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But the moment you realize that you
get to be okay. The moment you

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have confidence, you're not doing many
of those things. You're not second guessing

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yourself, you're not thinking about what
you're doing in your head right, And

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so what happens is then all of
a sudden everything gets easier, and it

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really is than the the just the
bone marrow deep recognition that you know,

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even if this, even if I
make a mistake, I still get to

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be okay. That allows us to
function at a whole different level. All

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of a sudden, everything's better,
it's smooth, it's easy, and that's

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what it's about. And to really
be able to to really know that just

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part of being human as occasionally we
get these things in us, these beliefs,

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and we need someone to help us
change them. And I know someone

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that can help, doctor Dan.
How about you call Suit Falls Hypnosis.

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There is six O five seven zero
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Thank you very much for stopping in. Thanks, he said so confidently.

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